The great, worldwide, international jury is still deadlocked over whether having children makes people happier or not.
On the one side, there are chubby fingers and first steps and unbridled joy and on the other side, there’s sleep, money and time. But an intriguing new study from the Netherlands suggests that not having children only makes infertile women unhappy if they are unable to let go of the idea of having kids.
It sounds obvious, but here’s the twist: women who already had children but desperately wanted more had worse mental health than women who didn’t have kids and wanted them, but had managed to get over that particular life goal.
So it’s not just whether they had kids that made people depressed or content, it’s how badly they wanted them.