We all grow up around people and form relationships aside from those of our close relatives and families.
We make friends in school, work, through social gatherings, by mutual association, through hobbies etc. It has always been said that you need to stick with your friends which is a good thing because you create a support system.
However not all people who are your friends need to stay in your life, this is because some of them don’t add much value to you and their behaviour isn’t that of a friend.
The contender – He worked hard to get better grades than you in school, tried to win all the girls’ attention, compared notes on who took the better holiday, and is now comparing your kid with his. Why are you still friends? Healthy competition between friends keeps both parties motivated. But if the camaraderie is about outdoing each other, your friend is your biggest competitor. So, tell him, ciao.
The MIA friend – She missed wishing you on your birthday, failed to turn up when you lost your grand mum. She is almost always busy when you call, and replies to text messages after a week, When you do make plans, she cancels last minute. Let this friend go. Face it; she does not respect your place in her life.
The commitment phobe – You’ve become his ‘run to’ person, yet he won’t pop the question. Like it or not, this person is just not that into you. Pursuing a relationship with someone who is taking it nowhere can result in damaged self-esteem. Better save your time and energy for someone who wants to be with you.
The smarty pants – Nothing is good enough for her. No matter how hard you try, she nitpicks — about your clothes, hair, car, dog’s breed. True friends don’t do that. Remember, when you allow someone to make you feel like rubbish about yourself, you lend more power to their burgeoning ego. Ask yourself, what does this do to yours? It leaves you insecure.
The sulk pot – It is all about their misery. And if you don’t give them a patient ear, they take off on a guilt trip. Take a break from this blundering person. Human beings feed of each other’s energies. If you’re constantly in their company, chances are, you too will turn into one.
The social-networkers – Social networking is great for networking. Keep it at that. If you’re spending more time with your virtual buddies than real friends, you’ve got a problem on hand. You need to get off Facebook and start meeting friends face-to-face. Your handful of true friends will be there for you. The 1000-odd Facebook buddies may unfollow you any time.
The office spouse – Either you or he is hitched. Yet, that doesn’t stop you from indulging in some harmless flirtatious banter. But you need to set boundaries if you wish to preserve your sanity. It’s best to nip it in the bud, before things go out of hand. Steer clear from this temptation if you don’t want to end up losing your job and friend.
The gossip girl – No point pretending to be someone who doesn’t care about what’s happening at the workplace. It’s okay to take a break and indulge in some tittle-tattle with the gossip monger. But is this little birdie tweeting at your desk way too often? You don’t want your boss overhearing a back-biting session, do you? It might generate unnecessary suspicion and ill will. Why go there?