Ever wondered why some men live their lives desperately despite having all the money in this world? Sometimes it’s because of how they were brought up, maybe they had no one to teach them.
However, somethings are just common sense and our men out there should not give any excuse whatsoever.
Here are some main reasons our men don’t stay in marriage;
This is definitely an area that seeps into our ability to communicate but is a very specific part of the puzzle that is often missed. Not only do we ignore an opportunity to communicate our expectations, but we also begin to act on those expectations not being met “We come from different backgrounds and expect different things and never communicate that to our partners. Some men never let their women know what they have in mind. Men should know to provide, protect, etc., but it’s rarely discussed in detail. Men who are being brought up in single parent households have no examples of what it means to be that security a woman needs.
To some men, fear tells them that since nobody in their family succeeded in relationships so they will also never succeed in marriage. Fear tells them that they can never be sure they marry the right person.
After a previous heartbreak, some men walk around with a wall around their hearts. They date woman after woman, but they never settle down with one. They’ll say that they are not ready to get ‘tied down’, but deep inside they’re just fearful of heartbreak.
Because of this fear, these men will be non-committal in relationships. When things get serious, they will run for the hills.
Why are many mothers in our generation single? Because a man somewhere impregnated her and when the consequences arose, they loved their “freedom” more than they loved their babies and responsibilities.
It’s selfish and it’s sinful. I believe that men in our generation will be answerable to God for irresponsible sexuality they are practicing. A friend once told me that being a man is one thing and being a responsible man is another thing. So,where are you ?
The problem with selfishness does not affect runaway dads only; it manifests in men who will only want to relate with a woman on their terms. If you do not dress, cook and clean the way they want, you are out the door.
Some men consider women who is exactly like their mothers back home, then if so they should go ahead and marry their mothers..hahahah!
The Bible which is a doctrine of religion says that, If you are lazy, then you should not eat. A successful marriage requires working smart and lots of attention. One has to deliberately strive to build a healthy relationship with their spouse, even when they don’t feel like it. At times you may get bored by your girls, but if you are smart enough, a man enough, then you will strive to make sure that your relationship works. Who told you that you are a FAILURE?
Hard work will never live in the same neighborhood as mediocrity. Mediocrity will always looks for the shortcut with clever sounding reasons such as “times have changed.”
A brave man sticks to the right thing despite its difficulty. His persistence will only reap a happy working relationship with the woman he relates to until death do them part.
A man who borrows his ideals from a sinful world will not see the beauty of holy matrimony. The world is telling men many lies concerning marriage using whatever medium that can influence.
In mainstream entertainment men who are portrayed to be the heroes are shown hanging up with several women and living a life without consequences.
Worldliness asks, “Why should I then commit to this girl in a marriage when I can have all I need from her and still have my freedom?” Why should I get married and commit myself to one woman when i can have several when I need them?
The man indulging in this will then witch-hunt for any fault in marriage to justify that it will “tie him down.”
The worldly man thinks that in having the liberty to misuse his sexuality, he is free, while in truth he is a slave – a slave to his sin and desires.
You may assume that you are very okay but in real sense at long last you will feel lonely, this is when you will settle for any woman.