Do you dread heading to work every morning because you simply can’t stand your boss or that negative co-worker? Granted they may be good at their job but their attitude and negativity just kills the mood in the office. Continue reading “Tips On How To Deal With A Negative Colleague At Work”
Everyone needs a job as much as landing one proves to be a hard task. It’s obvious that you’ll find other colleagues to work with.
With this in mind, here are the characters you’ll have to deal with daily.
They are the favorites to the company human resource. They work tirelessly and take up other duties that doesn’t necessarily go in line with what they signed for in the work contract. They have unwavering levels of energy.
They show up early and leave late. They don’t derive motivation from their paycheck but rather from the sheer need to get recognized. Most times they make someone look like they are just a liability to the company.
They are the puppets to the boss. They sing and dance to their tune. They are always picking unnecessary fights with the rest of their colleagues. They try to take over the lead role and the medium between the boss and the rest of the team. It’s also common for them to keep showing up at the boss’ office for petty reasons. Much of their time is taken up by unnecessary movements from office A to B.
3. Lazy ones
These are the one who literally perform according to what’s stipulated in their work contract. They never show up before work time and leave before close of business. These are the type you can never depend on cause they never go that extra mile. Their only motivation for working is pay. They are always throwing responsibilities to the rest of the workforce. Most of the time they face the wrath of the boss with constant warning being fired at them.
4. The moody ones
The tend to be rude over petty issues. They are easily agitated. You can never consult them on anything. They have a gloomy face. They keep throwing jeers to almost anyone. These are the type that makes employment a hard assignment for new recruits.
Many desk-bound Kenyans working nine or more hours a day may be suffering ‘weight creep’ as a result of too little exercise and eating the wrong food.
While demanding schedules can often mean it’s hard to prioritise health, a sedentary lifestyle can lead to problems down the line, according to Australian dietitian, Susie Burrell.
We take a look at Ms Burrell’s five habits for staying healthy in the office that can help manage weight and leave you with more energy to tackle a busy day.
1. Make sure you move
A hectic work schedule could be leaving you with little extra time to exercise but neglecting this can come at a cost.
‘The significant reduction in movement on a daily basis as a result of long commutes, serious time limitations and extended working hours means that we are moving less than ever before and gaining lots of weight as a result,’ She says.
2. Spend less time sitting
Ms Burrell cites research that shows spending long hours sitting can be detrimental to metabolic rate (the number of calories we burn each day).
And while hitting the gym can help, it doesn’t completely eradicate the effects, she said.
Her solution, apart from looking for opportunities to move as often as possible, is to consider investing in a standing desk.
3. Take time away from your desk
‘Eating your meals and snacks in front of the computer is a recipe for disaster when it comes to weight control,’ explained Ms Burrell.
While it can be difficult to eek out time for a much-needed break, making this a priority means you are less likely to make unhealthy on-the-run choices and it can also help with overeating because you’re not being distracted by something else.
4. Make lunch the most important meal of the day
While conventional thinking says breakfast is the most important meal of the day, Ms Burrell believes office workers need to make lunch as important.
‘When we do not consume a well-balanced meal 4 – 5 hours at most after breakfast we leave ourselves vulnerable to low blood glucose levels and overeating later in the day,’ she said.
The dietitian said lunch should be a mix of carbs, protein and some vegetables – and all by 2pm at the very latest.
5. Be careful of tempting office treats
While vending machines can be a lifesaver, they can also be packed with foods that are high in fat or sugar and if you’re feeling distracted can lead to poor choices.
‘Office environments are notorious for seeing us consume foods we never usually would simply as they are within easy reach and we are tired, bored and/or hungry,’ said Ms Burrell.
Today’s conversation was based on an event that occurred recently. A certain club held their elections and a lady was chosen to be the chair of the club’s board. This would mean she would have to travel for work and her career is set to blossom. This got Maina wondering; how would Kenyans, namely the men react to their wives climbing the corporate ladder?
Why are Kenyan men so backward that they cannot support their wives’ success all in the name of who is the head of the home? Some men felt that pride kicks in when a woman is at a higher position in the corporate world and it can only mean trouble.
This conversation caused quite the stir on social media as Kenyans candidly gave their opinions. Below are some of the comments;
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The list of employees who have been sent home by Nation Media Group (NMG) has surfaced online.
In a memo dated December 20, 2016, the company announced that it would re-organize its operations across the group – a move which would result in the reduction of its workforce.
The media house stated that it would undertake the exercise while adhering to the law and with due respect to their employees.
After many weeks of endless speculation, NMG has finally made public the list of employees who have been sent packing.
Unconfirmed reports indicate that 16 people have been sacked as the company which was formed by Aga Khan IV aims to transform into a twenty-first-century digital content company.
Among those who were affected include Ken Walibora who until his sacking held the title of Quality Manager as well as Kiswahili and renowned journalist Liz Gitonga.
Here’s the full list:
- Ken Walibora Waliaula – Quality Manager, Kiswahili
- Eric Shimoli – News Editor
- Sammy Wambua – Editor, Counties
- Mary Wasike – Editor, Oped
- Pamela Wanambisi – Subeditor Sports,
- Felista Wangari – Sub-editor Saturday Magazine,
- Esther Karuru – Sub-editor Sunday Nation,
- Victor Siele – (Sub-editor, Taifa Leo)
- Zadock Angira – Crime Reporter
- Waga Odongo – Writer
- Farayi Nyandoro – Sub-editor
- Domitila Katila – Editorial
- Connie Mwangemi – Advertising
- Pamela Abwoga – Advertising
- Liz Gitonga – Editorial
- Eric Obino – Managing Editor, Sunday Nation
There are difficult colleagues in every workplace but could you be working for a corporate psychopath?
According to one expert, there’s eight tell-tale signs to determine whether your boss is plain mean or actually psychopathic, including arrogance and a lack of responsibility.
‘We know that only 1 percent of the general population are psychopathic but among managers, this increases to 7 percent. The concern for all of us is that we may have psychopaths sitting at the next desk.’ said Dr Kellie Vincent of Westminster Business School.
Here, she shares the common areas you may observe in people who are likely to be high on the psychopathic spectrum.
1. Superficial charm: You may think of them as slippery, glib entertainers who are highly charismatic.
2. They lie a lot: But, typically, they manage to talk themselves out of trouble when found out.
3. Manipulative: They are usually very good at conning people, highly networked and able to seduce people into their webs of deceit often to do their dirty work for them.
4. Bragging: Psychopaths are highly arrogant with a massive sense of their own worth and as such tend to behave above the rules.
5. Lack of remorse: Psychopaths rarely feel bad about their actions and revel in the misery they cause. They are ruthless in the way they treat colleagues to pursue their own careers.
6. Shallow and cold: They rarely show any type of emotion.
7. Zero empathy: Selfishness, belittling, and verbal abuse are common traits, without any capacity to experience the feelings of others.
8. Lacking responsibility: They blame others for mistakes and take credit for others’ success.
So how can you deal with one? ‘A key point to remember about corporate psychopaths is that they are the intelligent individuals. They haven’t yet been caught and are agile enough to avoid detection.
They create smokescreens, finding others to take the rap, and you often only discover their true impact when your own career or well-being has had a serious dent.
‘The best advice is really to avoid them as long as you are able to and don’t expose yourself to their manipulative behaviour. Admittedly, this sounds like running away so if you can’t distance yourself, find ways to detract attention and get some allies on side.
‘The best advice when dealing with frankly toxic but probably not truly psychopathic colleagues is to keep your nerve. Use whatever mechanisms you can to expose them as bullies.’
‘Keep evidence, make sure you have HR support and keep an eye out for your peers; probably if you feel this way others do too. Speaking about it, in itself, can help.’
Success breeds success and, unfortunately, jealousy.
During your ascension of the corporate ladder you have likely won a lot of friends and a few enemies. These enemies, whom you will always encounter, will often try to bring you down or belittle your accomplishments.
The most obvious jealous coworker can be easily identified, as he will single you out for competition in any and every endeavor you undertake. The more subtle enemy often waits for the opportune time to badmouth you for every failure or mistake you may make; he is the most dangerous of the two.
There are two basic ways to deal with jealous coworkers: 1) defuse their jealousy and 2) counter their efforts.
1.Defuse Their Jealousy
Is your behavior to blame? Have you done anything to stoke their jealous feelings? Have you belittled others or flaunted your successes?
These are questions you must ask yourself because you don’t want to give others a reason to hate you. If you recognize that you have negative traits you must change them.
In fact, go out of your way to be cordial and humble and to build others up. Build the confidence and self-esteem of your colleagues by sharing your success.
For the sake of your career, reputation and sanity, it is imperative to avoid a fight or ill feelings in the workplace. If you do this because you fear what a colleague can do to your career, they will see right through it. Rather, try and make a sincere change because it is the professional thing to do.
2. Counter Their Efforts
If you are unable to defuse a coworker’s jealousy, you may be forced to react to save your reputation in the workplace. This is about damage control as no one will come out ahead in an ugly squabble.
If a slander campaign against you by the jealous party has begun, it is your job to prove the opposite. Do not begin a slander campaign of your own, as this will only reinforce his offense.
Continue to give praise to others, always smile and be cheery (but not excessively), work hard, and disengage from any gossipy talk that occurs around you.
Employees can often sabotage their career without even knowing it. Others around you may know it and perhaps not want to tell you, for whatever reason.
Strategy and Communication Analysts contributing on British Independent online have several theories, and break it down in the 12 steps below:
1. Criticising your boss
Whispering behind his back, carping to her face, or making your supervisor out to be wrong, pathetic, or inept puts you in the danger zone, Hepler says. “If you’re doing this, don’t expect to land a promotion or last there.”
2. Acting as if you can’t learn anything new
Putting yourself out there as a know-it-all earns you the label of arrogant and thwarts your ability to seize opportunities for growth and development, she says.
3. Blaming others
“Pointing fingers at somebody else because you lack necessary skills, experience, appropriate behaviors, or sound judgment causes others in your world to view you as disagreeable,” says Hepler. “Unlikeable people rarely advance.”
4. Wearing your emotions on your sleeve
Going overboard with disruptive displays of anger, whines of frustration, and dramatic tears usually sends messages of warning to bosses, staff, and peers, she says. “People may conclude that you can’t manage your feelings, and that’s never a good thing.”
5. Telling yourself you can’t do something
This is a mindset that positions you to shoot yourself in the foot. Convincing yourself that you can’t accomplish a certain task or project guarantees that you will fail, warns Hepler.
6. Waiting for the ‘perfect moment’
Quitting a job may sound easy and may be a good thing, but many people don’t do it correctly and end up burning bridges which is not a good thing. You just never know where or when your paths might cross again with your former employer or boss so it’s best to exit gracefully.
Here are a few tips to guide you:
Inform personally – When you decide to resign here are a few things you need to do: Write a letter to inform your immediate boss and your colleagues personally. While serving the notice period, do your job as required. Do not develop an attitude just because you’re leaving.
Handover – Once the resignation has been made formal, liaise with your boss and find out who will be handling your duties once you leave. If you are required to train them, do it well. It will make their work easier.
Clear – You will be required to clear with the HR, finance department, IT etc. Do as required, provide the information required and hand in whatever belongs to the company. Don’t be tempted to go with the office laptop that you were given to use while working away.
Don’t slack – Resigning doesn’t mean that you lower your performance and productivity. Remember that the company might be called for referral and recommendations, so leave while still working well.
Work and school are more or less the same with the only difference being the salary paid to workers, the pressure and no holidays every three months.
Many working people continue doing the cheeky things they used to do in school at their places of work. Sample the list below.
- Fiddling with your phone – Not because there is an emergency call or message but probably checking Whatsapp group messages, Instagram, texting bae or the chama people, friends etc.
- Stealing food – Happens mostly when you get to share the fridge. One hungry human will enjoy your home-cooked meal and place the dish back in the fridge for you to pick. Bad behavior!
- Stealing stuff– You hate taking tea from the vending machine and since you “forget” to carry your own teabags, you just sneak up and pick one from your workmate’s desk. Pens, paper, bottles etc a lot goes “missing” at the office yet no one admits to it.
- Snitching – This happens mostly to people we don’t like. If they come late “we conveniently hint” to the team leader as a by the way …you know just saying.
- Sucking up – Your boss just showed up at your desk during lunch, you casually mention how you like their new hairdo, how her child is pretty etc. all this is in order to earn those “bonga points” from her.
- Shopping online – From Rupu, Jumia, Kaymu to Instagram etc there are many avenues to shop from. Checking out clothes shoes, bag, utensils etc as you kill time comparing the prices.
- Day dreaming – The dream man, house, car, holiday etc there’s plenty more to think about besides sitting there working on that project deadline.
- Aimless breaks – We both know you don’t smoke so why are you taking a smoking break? Your water bottle is three quarters full do you really need to refill it.
- Constantly blaming IT – My internet connection is off or I can’t access my emails etc maybe you just switched off the Wifi or unplugged the cable but no. The I.T department is at fault.
- Googling – You need a top or a new pair of jeans … google it. Looking for décor tips google it, looking for a man …google him. Basically from food, life to even how to spread the bed google is there for you.
Friends at work who are trusted confidantes may sometimes gossip about you. Co-workers who encourage you may also disparage you in front of others. How can you navigate these relationships with “frenemies”?
1. Focus on the positive: Having a frenemy is better than having an enemy. No matter how exasperating this relationship is, keep in mind that it still provides emotional benefits that are often hard to come by at work. So focus on these positives. Start by sharing some personal information and building a small degree of trust; even if these relationships do not ever make it into a “friend” zone, they have some unexpected benefits.
2. Try to work together on an important project: Frenemies are a source of motivation, and working alongside them will make you work harder to prove yourself. Plus the time you spend together will help you understand each other better and perhaps even develop some empathy.
3. Turn your enemies into frenemies: Negative relationships are toxic. Aim to transform your worst relationships not into friendships but into ambivalent ones, which have more benefits in terms of your motivation and personal success. You can do this by getting to know your enemy better and focusing on his or her more positive characteristics.
4. Appreciate your varied social ledger: Remember that it is not just you who feels ambivalent toward others at work. Stop feeling guilty about these uncomfortable feelings and appreciate that you have a wide range of relationship types at work, as does everybody else.
Despite the benefits, we do not want all our relationships to be ambivalent. There is much more to be gained by having as many positive relationships as possible — and that is where your priorities should lie. But navigating relationships at work is complicated, and not only are love-hate relationships unavoidable, but having a few is good for us.
The middle of December usually marks the peak of the office Christmas party season. For most, the office bash is a fantastic opportunity to let loose on the company tab. It is often the one holiday season event where there is no pressure to prepare food or worry about anything except what to wear and whether the alcohol will flow freely. A good Christmas party is often the mark of a good company to work for. Consider these handy tips in order to make it through your office party without being the talk of next year, or needing to change careers afterwards: –
Know and accept your limits:
Naturally, you will want to have a good time, relax and join in with your colleagues but you must play it safe. No matter the setting of the celebrations, the party is still an extension of your workplace. Keep your guard up and a hawk-eye on how many times your alcohol glass needs a refill.
Don’t talk shop:
Observe party rules and settle in for a good time. It’s a great opportunity to blend in and get to know people from the other departments, not the time to discuss complex business ideas. The office party isn’t the time to ask your boss for a raise, or ask the head of marketing why they are not solving your sales problems. If you must raise a work-related issue, try flagging it in as a casual request and schedule a meeting for a later date to talk in depth.
Dress not to kill your career:
Is there a jaw-dropping outfit or a hilarious costume you have been trying to test drive? Save it for a night on the town with friends, a laid-back Saturday house party, or a themed social soirée, not for your colleagues at a work function.
Stay in your lane:
Do not mistake this as the opportunity to get overly and disastrously familiar with your CEO. If you have always referred to them as “Mr. Otieno”, the office bash day is not the day to start calling them “Otis”, using your jolliest tone. Do not be fooled into taking unsolicited liberties. For instance, do not assume that the same things you say and do when you are in the company of your friends at the local will fly at the office party.
Make a good effort
Use the Christmas party to get to know people that you would not have had the opportunity to, so make the most of it. Don’t automatically hang out with your usual office crowd and partners in crime. Instead make an effort to do a bit of departmental networking and even self-promotion
Avoid the temptation to complain:
Don’t be that person who uses alcohol and the hint of darkness to complain about other workmates and the company at large. Whether you hate the food, location or activities at the party, the bottom line is your employee has spent some money to provide you some entertainment, and someone at work had to organise everything in addition to their regular work load so the least you can do is be well-mannered and gracious.
No funny business!
In the event that alcohol gets the best of you no matter how hard you try, you may find yourself in the possession of false ideas. If the guy from procurement or the lady in HR suddenly develops exceptional good looks when your beer goggles are on, try hard to approach with the same caution as a person walking on thin ice. Instead of throwing yourself at them, aim to be subtle and elegant. Even if your boss is standing on top of a table belting out the latest hit, keep your feet and voice firmly on lower ground if you do not want to be blushing furiously in the morning.
When Kenyan women are asked to give their take on love, life and work, their opinions are a clear mix of funny, sad, intriguing and interesting.
The stories are fascinating as they weigh their day to day lives and add new perspectives.
It shows how their day to day lifestyles are affected and how they deal with it.
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Who doesn’t live a busy life nowadays? The ultimate goal of finding balance between your work-life and personal life can be just down right tough at times. It seems like sometimes we can lose sight of having fun and living life to the fullest with the ones we love the most.
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You can pick your friends, you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues any more than you can the next assignment to come down from upper management. It’s no surprise, then, that not every colleague is a good one. “There’s a difference between working with friends and making friends with the people you work with,” says TODAY’s senior editor Julia Sommerfeld on workplace friendships. “Most people don’t get the choice, so you just have to make the best of it.”
The best way to avoid a toxic workplace friendship that could potentially derail your career? Learn to identify the tell-tale signs of the nine most poisonous personality types—and be sure to keep your (at least emotional) distance.
1) THE BIGMOUTH
Twenty-seven percent of us have had a friend who blabbed our secrets, and at work one slip can be the difference between respect and embarrassment—especially when it comes to the goings-on after the latest company happy hour. A too-talkative cubicle mate can be worse than a public Facebook Wall. Keep your personal details and at-work secrets close when you work with an overly social butterfly.
2) THE BAD INFLUENCE
The bad influencer is probably your most fun work friend, which could make her the most insidious. The happy hour organizing, long lunch taking, “one-more-cocktail” having good time pal. Problem is, those bad habits have rubbed off in 23% of survey respondents. So enjoy her company, but be wary of her leaving-early-coming-late attitude. And never stay till last call.
3) THE BETRAYER
The betrayer will sell you out to the first questioning supervisor who comes your way. Thirty-five percent of survey respondents said that they’ve been thrown under the bus by a friend, and at workplace this toxic pal is most easily spotted as the type who never takes the blame for her own mistakes. You don’t want to be her next scapegoat, do you? Be warned.
4) THE CHRONIC DOWNER
“A work buddy who is a chronic downer may actually be the most hazardous to your career—and your mental health,” says Sommerfeld of the 59% of survey respondents who say they know the type. Attitude can be contagious. Having a downer of a friend can take you down a path of negativity and the next thing you know, “you and your friend are having gripe-fests that drain your time and energy.” Worse, management could get wind of your bitch sessions and your reputation could suffer. Make a conscious effort to abstain from complaining with colleagues and workplace friends. If your friendship with this Negative Nancy fizzles once you stop feeding the flames, better a lost friendship that a lost job.
5) THE CRITIC
Fifty-five percent of us have a high-horsed pal who is wont to judge our actions. But surprisingly, Sommerfeld says, very few survey respondents placed these critical pals in the workplace. “The judgemental friend phenomenon doesn’t seem to be what really raises hackles at work as much as personality,” she says.
6) THE FLAKE
You know the flake—your colleague who always needs to be rescued or calls in sick on the day of a big meeting without so much as sending you an email heads-up. “The flake can be a real time suck and leave you feeling bitter and taken advantage of,” says Sommerfeld. Avoid partnering with this hazardous homie at all costs. Or at the very least, enforce strict daily deadlines so you’re never left in the lurch. Better to be the productivity police than to be left unprepared on the morning of the biggest meeting of your career.
7) THE NARCISSIST
The most commonly cited toxic friend, narcissists are all about themselves. Sixty-five percent of survey respondents have endured an ego-maniacal pal, but for the wary worker, they’re easily spotted—and managed. “If you have a narcissistic friend,” says Sommerfeld, “enjoy her elaborate stories and know she’s probably not going to ask how you’re doing in return. Just don’t give her the chance to steal the credit for something [you’ve accomplished] at the office.”
8) THE RIVAL
The rival is a friend who’s way too competitive, which seems like the biggest workplace threat, but Sommerfeld stresses that there’s a simple “straightforwardness” to a super-competitive pal. “When you’re vying for the same promotion, you know where you stand. You probably aren’t going to leave yourself open with such a friend, especially at work.”
9) THE UNDERMINER
Forty-five percent of survey respondents have friends that serve up compliments with a side-dish of digging, and at work, this can be especially pervasive. “This is the friend who acts like he or she is on your side,” Sommerfeld warns, “but subverts you with backhanded compliments, especially in front of a boss or colleague.” As in: “You did a great job with that RFP, Kaitlyn, it was almost good enough that I’d want to take credit for it myself!”