A list of what I expect as a husband and what I expect my wife to do

Nothing is as frustrating to a spouse when expectations are unclear, unhealthy, unspoken or unmet.
What’s worse is when these expectations are not communicated to the spouse because of the belief that ‘we are in sync’, and he/she knows what I like.
Experts have often drawn the line at what is acceptable and what isn’t but not so according to one man who wrote his list of demands.
This isn’t the case as a man on social media laid down the law to his wife:
1. I expect my tea ready on the table when I get in from work and no excuses if it is not.
2. My wife has to do everything for our children and I am not to be disturbed if I want to watch tv or whatever I want to do.
3. I expect the dishes to be washed and the house to be tidy and clean at all times
4. I expect my clothes washed, ironed and ready for me to wear.
5. I expect to be waited on and looked after like a king and all my needs fulfilled. If they are not then their will be consquences.
Dear Classic 105 fam, is this a partner making another live in fear of them and does the other think in nay way they are trapped in a controlling relationship? Drop us your thoughts.

Why it’s expected that wives must cook for husbands everyday

Is it still important for your wife to cook for you Maina Kageni asked listeners on Monday morning.

If a woman can’t cook is she even considered wife material?

That was the discussion on Classic 105 on Monday morning as Maina Kageni and Mwalimu debated the merits and demerits.

Mwalimu was of the opinion that men shouldn’t marry a woman who can’t cook because ‘it is the only time a man feels important’.

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‘She needs to find way to figure out how she will cook, leave work alone, what comes first is the marriage, and those who say its because of the nails, you need to stop, and cook for your man mwalimu continued’

He added

‘That is not something to argue with, they have to create time and cook, not asking for pizza all the time’

Maina sought to know from Kenyans if it’s important for a woman in 2019 to know how to cook.

‘What were you marrying, a wife or a chef? Prompted Maina adding’ how can it be one of the qualifications for being a wife?

Here are views from fans:

Whether she is a CEO,Minister or even a President and she can’t cook for me, then what is her role as a wife?? a route to a man’s heart is through his stomach! #mainaandkingangi

@athman_melly.. Things a girl should know how to do before she is approved
1. How to milk a cow
2. How to cook (chapoo ikue)
3. How behave like a wife in front of visitors
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@walterodhis1..
asks any Luo and they’ll tell you that the Luo term of getting married is “dhi katedo” which simply going to cook. #MainaAndKingangi
@Isaack_Muthusi..
@ItsMainaKageni
There is only ONE special meal a wife should cook and present in a SPECIAL way to Husband, Other meals can be discussed and understood depending on situations. ..
@Classic105Kenya
Is this a bit too harsh? Drop us your comments below

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Woman laughs off giving up child to be raised by in-laws

 

Kenyan men often land the wrath of society for being dead beat dad’s who want nothing to do with their offspring.

But the tables seemed to have turned on Classic 105 after a mother called in confessing she gave up her daughter to her in laws and is happy with that decision.

Maina spoke about it saying

I need to talk of these mothers, because when this lady called in, it threw my head into a spin.

The woman talked about why she gave up her daughter to her in-laws and also how she has not seen the child since.

She told Maina

he was told by the parents… go take the kid we will take care of her… I said ok, come and take her. I have not seen her. I don’t need to be responsible for anything now, sitaki mastress

So how often does she see her daughter?

I don’t. It’s been a year since nilimwona

And why isn’t she bothered at all by this

because I don’t want anything to do with them

As a mother who has had a child taken from her, doesn’t she miss her daughter? Maina proded her

siwezi endea huko you know what? itakuwa balaa and she is four years and a half. Now I am ok. I just told God to give me that piece of mind.

This formed the basis of the morning conversation where Mwalimu Kingangi slammed women.

Maina said’ I can understand men not having an instinct but ladies…

Mwalimu dag in criticizing society’s perception of men

‘You know men love their children even those outside, more than women kufa kupona ni kukatazwa. how do you leave your daughter?

Is there something we don’t understand about this lady? What do you make of what you’ve heard from her? What do you make of her behaviour.

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Financial confession: My wife’s Sh1million loan is ruining our lives

It is no secret that money and the lack of it ruins marriages.

Money issues arise in relationships, that people who say they’re experiencing stress in their relationship cite finances as the number one reason — easily beating out the second place contender: annoying habits, according to a study by SunTrust. Money issues are also responsible for 22% of all divorces, making it the third leading cause, according to the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysis.

A man on Classic 105 got emotional speaking about his baby mama

Now I have a story to share today. Now I have this lady we have three baby together, I work in the disciplined forces so we are basically earning almost the same amount Now I’ve worked my way all through, I have a masters degree She has nothing. Now I assessed her payslip recently she took a loan of one million I never saw that money I do not know where it went.

Accessing her gmail you know these apps have they usually send reminders and notifications I found the statement there I don’t know what to do coz she is so much into debt she wants all my salary. I’ve built a home for her. I don’t know where she takes her money.

‘We face pressure from friends wearing Sh80,000 wigs’, confesses woman

Don’t they ever have this conversation as a couple?

 

‘she does things behind my back. I have given up, when I ask her, she says it’s her business and I have seen nothing that she has bought. I don’t know where the money goes,

The question for spouses is

Is your relationship suffering because your partner is a heavy borrower? 

Ho do you deal with a financially irresponsible partner?

When your spouse is deep in debt, what do you do?

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The one thing that makes Kenyan women shout at their men in public

Ladies why do you feel the need to shout at your man in public?

An article in a local daily dubbed ‘The angry woman syndrome’ formed the basis of the morning conversation on Classic 105.

On the morning conversation on Tubonge Tuesday, Maina Kageni sought to know why Kenyan wives are always angry and why they don’t care about shouting at their husbands in public.

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A female caller narrated to Maina why she vents on the streets.

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Another said ‘inatokana na lack of conjugal rights. Nitakwambia kwanini. Mimi nilikuwa fresh form four nikapata kazi ya nymba ambayo nimefanya kwa seven years. Huyu husband na wife wanakosana juu ya bedroom. Mwanamke anaambia mume ni bure, shida si pesa, ni hawa watu wawili kutoka kwa bedroom. Fuatilia Maina shida si pesa. shida ya hawa wanawake si pesa, mimi natimiza zangu na sioni hiyo shida.

Maina responded saying ‘I didn’t even imagine that would even be an issue. Wow. ladies you are not saying that are you? So it’s all there. is that it?

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Sharon also called in and weighed in on the matter.

‘ukikuta umeshoutiwa know that you have failed as a man, know that you are not man enough for her. you are just a disgrace unajua it is the work of a man to shape the character of his wife, so if he can’t control his woman calm her down, she will get frustrated and shout every corner.’
@Maryiana96..
We ain’t bitter, they just can’t hear us.. How do yu make a man who goes on Friday and shows up on Sunday hear you! How…. They are big babies they only listen that way! @Itsmainakageni @classic105kenya #MainaAndKingangi

Another lambasted men saying
@carolkungu3548..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya This is not a ladies wish to ve such a bad temper its the way tormentation has invested in us especially when ur the first born and ur seen like a nobody and being mistreated too…..#MainaAndKingangi

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Felix differs warning
@FelixxOtienoo…
#MainaAndKingangi
@ItsMainaKageni
@Classic105Kenya
Maina most of this drama queens are usually ladies who struggle in academics or were academic dwarfs. I did that research. I had a girl friend like that it pained me more to be shout at by an empty debee.

what is your opinion about angry wives shouting on the streets?

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