A man has been putting off getting married to his baby mama because he wants her to age, making sure she’s out of the market after wasting her time.
Wanting to “test” the relationship a little longer before taking the plunge is a situation many Kenyan couples find themselves in today.
One of the main reasons your man may be uninterested in marrying you is because he wants to marry you when you are older and can’t move on.
They want you to commit to him for so long that you will have no other choice when you hit past 40 years.
The man called in to Classic 105 confirming this truth
What is the purpose of a wedding, as long as my heart wants you what else do you want?What’s the need of showing the public that I love you in a wedding yet after a few years we will divorce, si as long as my heart knows!
Look at the rate of divorce in Kenya. Look at today’s weddings, how many people are holding Sh2million weddings, then divorce soon after? What is the value of a wedding?
So what is his solution or alternative to marriage?
It’s very simple he argues. Come we stay together, have kids and in ten to twenty years we will see how things are. At that point I also know she has nowhere to go, coz who wants a woman with all these children? Which man will marry her?
t this point ladies I fail to see the logic behind staying with someone who doesn’t want to marry you if you want to marry. Perhaps some men want to wait for the right person, not you.
If you’re not planning on paying for your wedding entirely, but rely on friends, count Maina Kageni out.
First of all why are wedding so expensive these days?
Some couples, or their families, decide they simply must pull out all the stops for a wedding. They want nothing but the best, even if they can’t afford to pay for it. To facilitate their dreams, they call on friends to fork out the money.
Maina is having none of these. He spoke about it in a discussion with Mwalimu Kingangi about failed relationships and more specifically people referred to as serial divorcees.
never invite me to a pre-wedding. I will never contribute, why should I con tribute for another man to go and enjoy someone? I left the group
Back in April this year, a bride cancelled her wedding after friends refused to contribute to her dream wedding.
Her budget was 60,000 pounds, and explains why it’s expensive
“A local psychic told us to go with the more expensive option, and we thought why the hell not?”
She made sure to RSVP the wedding with a cash demand.
The bride also explained she “made it CLEAR. If you couldn’t contribute, you weren’t invited to our exclusive wedding. It’s a once and a lifetime [sic] party.”
Much to the bride’s dismay, she and her fiancé quickly discovered that people were not willing to pay $1,500 to attend their special day.
In a now deleted Facebook post, she shared the reasons for the cancellation, saying, “I specifically…asked for cash gifts. How could we have our wedding that we dreamed of without proper funding? We talked to a few people who even promised us more to make our dream come true.”
Do you get shocked to hear some of our favorite celebrities have been married 3 to 4 times? No? Me either. Some of them have even expressed their feelings that they don’t like being lonely and so need to be with someone all the time.
Yet there are those who have wed 8 to 9 times, and British American actress Elizabeth Taylor comes to mind here.
That’s way too many times if you ask me. Perhaps they should just chill out for a while.
Check out this list of such famous people who have made headlines with multiple marriages:
Kim Kardashian: Kim Kardashian is currently married to Kanye West. Together, they have 4 children. But Kanye is actually Kim’s third husband. She had a short 72-day marriage to NBA star Kris Humphries. However, Kris was her second husband – before she was famous, she was married at a young age to music producer, Damon Thomas from 2000 – 2004.
Jeniffer Lopez: Jenny from the block has walked down the aisle three times. Her first husband was Cuban waiter, Ojani Noa, they were married for just under a year. Second husband was back-up dancer Cris Judd. They were married September 2001, to June 2002 – even shorter this time. Then she married singer, Marc Anthony in 2004. Together they had twins, but the couple did not live happily ever after. Their divorce was finalized in 2014. She is now planning her wedding to Alex Rodriguez, who’s divorced.
Angelina Jolie: Angelina Jolie has been married three times. Her first husband was British actor, Jonny Lee Miller. The wedding ceremony saw Angelina wearing rubber pants and a white T-shirt with her husband’s name written on the back in her own blood. Her second marriage was in Vegas to actor Billy Bob Thornton after dating for only 2 months. Her third marriage was to Brad Pitt – they have recently filed for divorce.
Kenny Rogers:The country legend has been married 5 times. His first wife was Janice Gordon; from 1958 till 1960. Then came Jean Rogers; from 1960 till 1963. Third wife was Margo Anderson from 1964 till 1976. His fourth marriage was to Marianne Gordon; they married in 1977 and divorced in 1993. It cost him $60 million. Finally, his fifth marriage is to Wanda Miller. They married in 1997 and are still married. Looks like he finally learned when to hold ’em.
Larry King: Former CNN talk show host has been married eight times to seven different women. In 1997, he married his last wife, Shawn Southwick. On King and Southwick’s 10th anniversary in September 2007, Southwick joked she was “the only wife to have lasted into the two digits”. Larry and Shawn King filed for divorce in 2010 but reconciled, and filed for divorce again in 2019.
Nicholas Cage: Cage has been married four times. His first wife was actress Patricia Arquette, his second marriage was to singer and songwriter Lisa Marie Presley, daughter of Elvis Presley. Very fitting, seeing as Cage is an Elvis fan. His third wife is Alice Kim together they have a son, Kal-El. In March 2019, Cage married Erika Koike in Las Vegas, only to file for annulment four days later.
“There was a recent breakup,” Cage, 55, said in an interview with The New York Times Magazine. “I don’t really want to talk about it. I was pretty upset about that and the way things happened.”
Jacque Maribe’s addressing her relationship status with ex boo Jowie.
Jowie proposed to Maribe on July 30, 2018, in a surprise moment witnessed by her best friends. They served us couple goals until last September when the devil visited their relationship.
Both Maribe and Jowie were arrested in connection with the murder of businesswoman Monica Kimani and put behind bars. But after several court hearings, Maribe was granted bail while Jowie, the main suspect in Monica’s murder, was taken to Kamiti.
Before she was even released on bail, Jacque removed her engagement ring, a clear sign that the gloves of love had fallen off. She even went ahead to delete photos from her engagement party from her Instagram page.
Well, the former Citizen TV political affairs journalist, who publicly revealed that Eric Omondi is the father of her son, is a happy soul.
While many physically challenged people may give up any hope of finding love, a disabled woman on Twitter has won hearts following her real love story.
People were left in a flood of tears (insert emoji) as she shared details of her wedding to the online community in a twitter thread.
She shared the tear jerking moment with her able bodied new husband writing
I got married to the Love Of My Life. I’d like to write an epistle but words aren’t enough. Alhamdulillah ❤️
Bilad is a disability advocate who refers to herself as the wheelchair queen.
She added about being besotted with her man and hoping to inspire others to believe in real love I love my wedding pictures. My husband was smiling from ear to ear through it all. May Allah keep us this happy. ❤️
Read reactions below that prove real love exists and everyone wants their own happy ending.
Congratulations… Am really happy for you….
Your Man is a rare kind…
What I know is he’s done her no favor. Love found them and they are both happy.
I’m happy for u babe,happy married life sis,may urs b among d best,Allah ya kawo kazantar daki😜😜
Hml I always say this “love is love no 2 ways about it….honestly I feel dis couple
You are so pretty. He wasn’t passing you up! And a beautiful heart looks like. Congrats!
Thanks for giving her a life to live 🙏
wish you all the best happy marriage life with your love 💕
Actor The Rock aka Dwayne Johnson has such a simple wedding you will question why Kenyans continue to send millions on a one day event.
Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson and longtime girlfriend Lauren Hashian tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in Hawaii on Aug. 18.
The happy couple is still beaming with happiness a they continue to share photos of the happy day on Instagram.
Our Hawaiian wedding was beautiful and I want to thank our incredible staff for their outstanding work. To carry out my #1 goal of complete privacy, no wedding planners or outside resources were hired. Everything you see was created by hand, by staff and family only. The end results were spectacular I will forever be grateful for helping our hearts sing on this day.
It turns out it was very easy for the to plan an inexpensive wedding. From serving tiny burgers, to writing the menu on a whiteboard, see pictures of their incredible but cheap wedding.
Here’s how they did it:
They did not have a bloated guest list. It was only family and friends PERIODT, not a plus ten people
They asked for wedding help not wedding gifts. Their family helped plan everything. They did not have wedding planners like Kenyans are known to do.
They held the ceremony in a house, with a really tiny outdoor setup, not tents, no crazy expensive flowers, and other decor.
The catering was done by friends, drastically cutting down the cost
Kenya is the fourth most expensive country in the world to do a wedding according to 2018 statistics.
The average price of a wedding in Kenya is $34,854 (Ksh 3,500,000).According to a 2018 survey by Samantha Bridals, the current average cost of a wedding in Kenya is about $34,854. However, the report also reveals that many couples try to stick to a budget of $14,900 (Ksh 149,6209) or under.
On Friday, industrialist Manu Chandaria formalized his relationship at the AG’s office.
But popular travel expert Sarah Kabu of Bonfire Adventures does not agree with his choice at having a cheap wedding. She wrote down her opinion on Instagram, but was quickly criticized by Kenyans.
DR. Chandaria I know you are not a Christian but even Jesus turned water into wine in a wedding to allow the couple make merry at their wedding evening parry… billionaires are you so mean to throw a big wedding party for your friend’s and relatives to enjoy the fruits of ur labour …
.this is not a good example to the young couples being mocked for asking help to do a big community wedding… we all look forward to walk our kids down the aisle after graduation… this is the next right of passage actually traditionally and biblically ur parents should help pay dowry….youths msiogope kufanya big weddings na kama wewe hutaki kuchanga for a friends or relatives wedding please dont attend the wedding.. u dance and eat like nobody’s business. even Jesus changad for a wedding
Dear KOT, does the sound of a ‘budget’ wedding make you cringe?
Her fans reacted differently
He has done no mistake.. We are all at liberty to live our lives how we deem fit. He wanted his marriage officiated that way…he did not ask anyone to emulate him…who died and crowned us judges??kila mtu aishi atakavyo.simple.
I agree with you and him. In short, live and let live. Wale wanataka kuchangia wenzao wachange. Wale hawataki wasichange. Wale wanataka ndoa kubwa wafanye. Wale wa “come-we-figure-this-out-together” pia wajibambe. Let’s accommodate everyone’s decisions. That way, we live peaceably with all.
Kila mtu apambane na hali yake, kwanza wale wa kuweka watu kwa committee za harusi na kuwekewa targets without consent.
The late Tom Mboya was a charismatic man who eloquence grabbed the attention of everyone.
His wedding to Pamela Arwa Odede at Nairobi’s Saint Peter’s Clavers Church on January 20, 1962, was named the wedding of the decade.
His groomsmen was also the ultimate boys club. The late Prof. David Wasawo was the best man in the wedding, with Charles Mugane Njonjo among the groomsmen. The wedding was presided over by Nairobi Archbishop, JJ McCarthy.
In April 1962, Ebony Magazine published a lead feature on the January 1962 wedding of Tom Mboya and Pamela Odede
The lucky couple received an apostolic blessing from Pope John XXIII and a message from the Aga Khan.
He was the most sought after bachelor at the time.
DJ Soxxy and wife Ciiku wa soxxy have celebrated their 8th year in marriage with a trip to Dubai.
They are one of the celebrity couples who have given other young couples something to admire in marriage.
Ciiku wa Soxxy took to her social media to pen a long beautiful message to hubby which read;
#tbt❤️ To 8years ago when I chose to stick by this guy @djsoxxy..
Before I got married, I read somewhere ‘marriage is not for the faint of heart’ and I thought kwani how hard is marriage..
It’s the only institution you get a certificate before you even start the course….
Some of you have inboxed me and requested I do my 8 lessons in 8years and I will take up the challenge..
May it be interactive and let’s all learn from each other…
Look out for my next post #1of8 #8in8 #family #marriagelessons#marriageisworkbutworthit#marriageshouldthrivenotsurvive
The long lesson post read,
I started my marriage journey by standing in front of God and man. So God should always be an important person in your marriage. Looking back and seeing the toughest bumps we have crossed or overcome.. I doubt we would still be standing were it not for God.
It’s important for you as the wife to have your own spiritual nourishment, for the husband his own, for the 2 of you together, for the children individually and for the whole family together.
Prayer has calmed me when all I wanted to do was yell, prayer has sorted out stuff even before I knew what was coming my way and prayer has healed us when we didn’t know whether healing would occur. So I can’t emphasize this enough… Pray, seek God all the time.
Some lady contacted me asking me how can I make my husband do date nights with me and I told her you can’t make or change him, pray about it.
I could tell that’s not the answer she wanted to hear, she contacted me around 3/4 months later she prayed about it everyday and God started moving and they were doing their 3rd date night.
Guess we love to complicate things, overthink, over analyze.. Relax and just Put God in it… #1of8#marriageshouldthrivenotsurvive#marriageworks#marriageisworkbutworthit