Wahu Kagwi is an amazing female artiste who has managed to make a name for herself in the music industry. She started singing at a young age and is still at it big time.
Apart from being a musician, she is a wife to fellow artist, Nameless, and a mother to two beautiful girls, Tumiso and Nyakio.
Being a parent, of course, has its challenges especially with a demanding career at hand. Work and taking care of the kids are two things that shouldn’t mix and Wahu tries as much as she can to juggle both.
As a mother, she has the upper hand when it comes to disciplining her kids as she sees fit and she has narrated how she does it. It’s pretty impressive if you ask me…
The mother of two wrote about her discipline tactics for her kids on her blog. In one part of the posts, she wrote, “Last night I heard my daughter, Nyakio, threatening my little dog, that if she didn’t stop barking, she would go to the naughty corner! Lol! It’s her new thing these days! Anyone or anything that upsets her is in danger of the naughty corner! Just proof that my new disciplinary tactics are working ( Hehehe!).
Nyakio is her 2nd born daughter and her discipline tactics might not work so well with her older daughter Tumiso. She realised this when Tumiso was 5 years old after she was told to go to the naughty corner and instead of being sorrowful about being in the naughty corner, she caught her humming a happy tune.
“It wasn’t easy to figure out immediately how to go about disciplining an older child, but with time and research, the tiered or layered punishment approach has proven to be quite effective, especially with Tumiso. This approach simply means different degrees of wrong-doing deserve different degrees of punishment,” she narrated.
She has however mastered a plan for punishments according to the wrong one has done, “I’ve gone ahead and split punishable acts into two; “capital crimes” and “lesser crimes.” For the Mathenges, capital crimes constitute disobedience, lying and disrespect. Tumiso is at an age where she knows that any of the above are wrong. So these we punish without a warning.”
But of course, as a mother, she gives her daughter the opportunity to give her side of the story before instilling some discipline.
“I however give her an opportunity ya kujitetea; its only fair. But if it is established that she committed a capital crime, then she definitely has 2-3 spankings on the butt, and possible withholding of privileges. Now, before and after I spank, I ensure that I’ve explained the reason for the punishment. I also make her state the capital crime aloud, followed by an apology. Lesser crimes in our house include forgetting to do her chores and/or not doing them well. Also not doing homework well, not respecting other peoples time and such like things. For these the discipline measure is to hold back her privileges, such as TV, going outside to play, gadget time (gadgets such as computer, play station or any other electronic games) etc. The magnitude of the lesser crime will dictate how many privileges are to be held back, and for how long.”