When people are about to walk to down the aisle they attend several pre-marital counselling sessions conducted by marriage experts, parents and even church leaders.
Many priests also offer marital advice to couples given their position in the church and also as part of their vocational training, hence they are able to know what an ideal wife/husband should be like character wise.
Here are some of the characters a good husband should have, as said by a priest.
He should make you feel good about yourself – If you are going to date even before you discuss marriage you will want someone who makes you feel good about yourself. Someone who is constantly putting you down, making passive/aggressive comments about you, taking jabs at your wardrobe choices or putting you down in front of friends and family simply to get a laugh is slowly chipping away at your self-confidence. This will do you no good. Run as fast as you can. A man you should marry is one who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, respected, beautiful, amazing, smart and accomplished as well as loved.
He should accept responsibility for his actions and know how to apologize – As human beings fighting is inevitable and as such it will happen with the two of you. However does he always want to have the last word? Is he always right? Arguments force a couple to address the things they’re unhappy about within their relationship, and move toward making things right. But if one person always has to win, or consistently insists on believing that he did no wrong, there’s no room for improvement, and the other half of the couple will eventually grow resentful. Not the healthiest foundation to build a relationship upon.
He should get along with your friends and family – If a man consistently clashes with those who are most important to you, pledging your life to him will only lead to more agitation down the road. Conversely, if a man seems to easily get along with everyone you introduce him to, you’ve probably got a keeper. Such social ease can be a sign that he is relaxed and undemanding, warm and friendly, and open to making the people in your life a part of his.
He should respect you – People are different and hence their opinions will differ at some point as you cannot always agree on everything. If he doesn’t value your opinion, is unwilling to compromise because his way is the only way, and nitpicks over everything you do, you just have to ask: what does he see in me? A marriage should be built upon mutual respect. Look for someone who actually appreciates you, and everything you bring to the table.
He should be patient – Maya Angelou once pointed out that “you can tell a lot about a person by the way he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas lights.” So true. If he repeatedly loses his cool over the small things, how’s he going to handle the important stuff? And what will happen when he loses patience with you? On another note, both of you should have the patience to really get to know each other before tying the knot. Because most issues tend to emerge after the honeymoon period