‘5 years ago I was depressed, stressed and overwhelmed’ Ciru Muriuki

Ciru Muriuki celebrates her birthday today and among the things she is thankful for is the fact that she is no longer depressed and over whelmed.

She took to social media to celebrate her self with the message below.

“I’m so grateful to the Almighty for granting me another year. When I look back at who i was 5 years ago…

Stressed, depressed, overwhelmed, and look at where I am with my life and my career, I’m overwhelmed with gratitude. I’m so blessed and I don’t take this for granted.

Happy birthday to me! 🤗🤗.

‘It had been years of pain’ Janet Mbugua speaks on battling endometriosis

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Ciru who now works for BBC recently shared her long battle with Endometriosis .

Sharing a past photo of her Ciru says that its been years of pain.

This was me, after my first laparoscopic surgery for endometriosis cysts. It was two days before Christmas in 2017. Basically,what was happening was I was bleeding into my ovaries every time I had my period.

Words cannot describe the pain. It sometimes takes years for endometriosis to be definitively diagnosed because women are told that pain is part of being a woman.

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But here’s the thing. Terrible pain during your period is not normal. A prolonged, heavy period is not normal. A period that interferes with your daily routine is not normal.

Endometriosis has no cure. We need to push for more research into this terrible disease. #periodmatters #endowarrior #endometriosisawareness #yellowforendo #donotsufferinsilence #KnowEndo

She adds

The thing about endometriosis is that it stays with you every day. Even if you’re not in pain, there’s the fatigue. I wish I could describe how tired I get.

Then you dread your period. The horrible pain. The nausea.

The sweating. The vomiting. The constipation or diarrhea. Being scared of soiling yourself because of your heavy flow. None of this is normal. We need a cure.

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Millennials are now the age group most at risk of developing high blood pressure

Millennials face the highest risk of developing high blood pressure because of how stressed they are, a doctor has warned.

Dr Pixie McKenna made the claim on the back of a shock new survey, which found they are the most stressed age group.

The poll of 2,000 Britons revealed a staggering 96 per cent of adults aged between 18 and 34 – often dubbed millennials – are stressed.

In comparison, just 66 per cent of over 55s, widely thought to be at the highest risk of high blood pressure, admitted to being stressed.

Stress is one of the major causes of hypertension, the medical name of high blood pressure. Other causes include poor diet and too much boozing.

And Dr McKenna, who has regularly featured on channel 4’s hit series ‘Embarrassing Bodies’, said this all stacks up to mean millennials most at risk.

Comment on the findings, the Irish doctor who often appears on TV, said: ‘Blood pressure is no longer an older person’s ailment.

‘Lack of exercise, stress, excess alcohol consumption, excess weight and excess salt in the diet are some of the lifestyle issues which can cause blood pressure to climb.

‘Millennials are now more at risk of these factors than any other age group and can therefore be most at risk of developing high blood pressure.’

The survey, by home blood pressure technology firm Kinetik Wellbeing, whose tests are sold in Superdrug, delved into levels of stress across five age groups.

It revealed levels of stress get lower with age – despite the responsibilities faced by many middle-aged adults, such as mortgages and caring for elderly parents.

Just 3.8 per cent of 18-24 year olds and 4.3 per cent of 25-34 year olds denied ever getting stressed about life factors such as Brexit.

This figure jumped to 10.3 per cent for 35-44 year olds, 14.5 per cent for 45-54 year olds and 33.1 per cent for over 55s.

Nearly half of 18-24 year olds admitted feeling stressed over their weight, drinking and lifestyle habits – more than any other age group.

And they were also the worst offenders for being stressed about not exercising as much as they should.

The survey also revealed millennials are the least aware of what the ideal blood pressure should be – between 90/60mmHg and 120/80mmHg.

Any higher than this classes as hypertension, a condition that strikes around 17 million people in the UK, according to charities.

-Dailymail

One In Four Youngsters Face Risk Of Deadly Toxic Stress – Study

Soaring numbers of children could be at risk of deadly toxic stress damage, experts warn.

Traumatic experiences in childhood, such as witnessing a divorce, being bullied or growing up in poverty, could lead to life-long health issues.

Without psychological support, these common issues could lead to a spiral of stress in youngsters, leaving them constantly in ‘fight or flight’ mode.

But this persistent stress is widely linked to some of the major causes of death and disease in adulthood, including heart attacks and diabetes.

‘The damage that happens to kids from the infectious disease of toxic stress is as severe as the damage from meningitis or polio or pertussis,’ says Dr Tina Hahn, a pediatrician in rural Caro, Michigan.

Figures suggest one in four children experience some kind of traumatic event that affects them mentally by the time they turn 16.

Traumatic experiences in childhood, such as witnessing a divorce, being bullied or growing up in poverty, could lead to life-long health issues
Traumatic experiences in childhood, such as witnessing a divorce, being bullied or growing up in poverty, could lead to life-long health issues

While it’s estimated that nearly half of all children live in families close, or below, the poverty level in the US. Similar rates can be seen in the UK.

The true danger lies in the brains of children, who are more vulnerable to the damage of childhood adversity, scientists claim.

Due to the organ not having formed properly in early years, such experiences can have a lasting effect on their mental health.

And the first three years are thought to be the most critical, with those who lack close bonds with their family most at risk.

The damage that happens to kids from the infectious disease of toxic stress is as severe as the damage from meningitis or polio or pertussis 
Dr Tina Hahn, a pediatrician.

In stressful situations – for a toddler that could be getting an injection or hearing a loud thunderstorm – heart rate and levels of stress hormones are briefly raised.

DANGERS OF STRESS IN CHILDHOOD

Stress in childhood may put you at a greater risk of depression in later life by permanently changing DNA, research suggested last month.

Mice exposed to stressful situations as newborns are more likely to show signs of depression when faced with another challenging scenario when fully grown, a study found.

Researchers believe stress in early life may increase our lifelong risk of suffering from the mental health disorder by altering the DNA that is related to mood and depression.

Lead author Dr Catherine Peña from Mount Sinai hospital in New York, said: ‘Our work identifies a molecular basis for stress during a sensitive developmental window that programs a mouse’s response to stress in adulthood.’

Study co-author Dr Eric Nestler added: ‘This mouse paradigm will be useful for understanding the molecular correlates of increased risk of depression resulting from early life stress and could pave the way to look for such sensitive windows in human studies’

Mounting research on potential dangers of toxic stress is prompting a new public health approach to identify and treat the effects of poverty, neglect, and abuse.

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If Your Marriage Is Stressful This Might Be Why…

Marriages are not the easiest relations to have and just like friendships and dating they require effort from both parties in order to work. Once the vows are exchanged whether in a church, mosque, temple or even a traditional ceremony, the relationship becomes an official partnership with implications and a set of “rules”. It will not always be rosy, there will be highs and lows so here’s why it can get stressful;

1. FinancesMany spouses tend to fight about matters regarding money as they don’t seem to be on the same page about finances. If one is a spender while the other is a saver, conflict will always arise. The best way is to agree on how to handle finances prior to marriage as being on the same page will prevent the arguments arising.

2. Children – When children come into the picture, things tend to go downhill if you let them. When the mother concentrates on the children  the man will feel neglected. Sometimes it will take a toll on both of them and they will take the stress out on each because they feel frustrated.

3. In laws – A marriage is between two people, there is a reason why you cannot marry your family. Relatives should not be allowed to meddle in your affairs, sort it out yourselves. Besides if you allow them to meddle it will be crazy.

4. Miscommunication – Say what you feel respectfully, the same way you would want to be addressed. Also, do not assume that your partner is a mind reader, this habit is especially common with ladies. Speak up and let your partner know what’s going on, then discuss it.

5. Sexual Frustration – Just like air is important so is sex, denying your partner sex could kill your marriage because they may just go look for satisfaction elsewhere.

6. Work/ Fatigue – Having to go to work, school, take care of children and run errands will eventually take a toll on your body. The stress and fatigue will eventually make you moody and in turn you might take it out on your partner.

Here’s What To Do When Your Man Pulls Away

sometimes when a man just wants space, he will be quiet and withdraw from everyone and want to be alone. A woman’s reaction would be to nag, nag, and nag him more wanting to know what the problem is that may eventually lead to a fight. This happens because a woman will most probably think that it’s her fault the man is silent, yet without realizing it he could be distracted by other things such as work, business or personal projects among other reasons.

 

Instead of spoiling for a fight , just let the man be and understand that:

 

It’s normal for men to pull away from time to time, women can do it too. The best you can do is give him space to feel free and be his own person. Don’t take it personally until there is good reason to take it personally.

 

Give him space graciously – don’t huff and puff and play games, give him space from the heart, he should at no stage sense that you are annoyed or pissed with him. Do not dish out “negative” energy – replace it with love and understanding energy.

 

If you deal with time apart from him with finesse, it will make him realize how wonderful you are and how much he values you. Be cool, not insecure.

 

Embrace the space and use the time well,  just let him know you are there when he needs you.

 

When he does contact you try to make sure you don’t make him wrong, don’t say – “where have you been, you should have called me”, instead say something more along the lines of, “hey, so nice to speak with you” or “hi, so nice to hear your voice, what’s been happening?”

 

If he often “pulls away” or rarely seems present and emotionally available, go and then you may decide if this man is for you. Sometimes he is not actually pulling away, he may never have been there to begin with.

 

Sometimes people meet and come together when they are both emotionally unhealthy (needy, depressed, hurt), and over the course of the relationship one person may become emotionally stronger and more independent. If you remain overly dependent on him it may feel as though he’s trying to distance himself, which he might be, he may also be simply be in a better place and ready for a more balanced connection, versus a dependent relationship. So you may need to get some professional support to assist you.

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Maintain Your Cool When Stressed For A Longer Life :Study

According to a new study instead of reacting with frustration and anger to stressful situation, reacting cheerfully may be the key to a long life.

While it may be easier said that done, scientists say a positive attitude in the face of a crisis could significantly reduce inflammation in the body.

The advice is based on a new study measuring how every day challenges can weaken the immune system – and it says women are particularly at risk.

The study found that it wasn’t the amount of stress a person was dealt with each day that made the biggest impact, but how they dealt with the stress.

‘Positive emotions, and how they can help people in the event of stress, have really been overlooked,’ Nancy Sin, postdoctoral fellow at Pennsylvania State University.

As part of the study, a cross-sectional sample of 872 adults reported daily stressors and emotional reactions for eight consecutive days.

Blood samples of participants were taken during a separate clinic visit and tested for inflammatory markers.

The volunteers were then interviewed by phone every day for eight consecutive days.

They were asked to rate their positive and negative emotions, as well as whether or not they encountered stressors.

This allowed researchers to determine a person’s emotional response on days when they experience stressors, and compare it to days when they do not.

They inflammation occured more often in people who were unable to brush stressful events. ‘

To our knowledge, this paper is the first to link biomarkers of inflammation with positive mood responses to stressors in everyday life,’ said Jennifer Graham-Engeland, associate professor of bio-behavioral health, Penn State.

The research follows similar advice given by Mayo Clinic scientist, Dr Amit Sood, who claims that one of the four steps to becoming happy and healthy is becoming emotionally tough.

‘There are simply techniques that you need to repeat,’ he said. ‘For instance, just think, will this matter five years from now? If not then it’s not worth your time.’

-Dailymail.

Does money make you happy?

A research group, led by psychologist Kostadin Kushlev, looked into whether there is a relationship between money and  happiness.  They looked at  data for 12,291 people, paying attention to income and reported levels of happiness in the article ‘Higher Income Is Associated With Less Daily Sadness but not More Daily Happiness’.

They found that a higher income doesn’t affect how happy you are day to day. But wealthier people reported feeling sad less often. The group concluded that happiness and sadness are two separate states and money can help you manage unhappiness.

Money’s great for handling bad situations as they happen. Your car breaks down? You lose your job? Money means you can get by.

More than that though – if you have money you know that you don’t have to worry so much about bad things happening in the future. You have a safety net.

So surrounding yourself with bling and the trappings of wealth doesn’t make you happy – but having a cash safety net means you’re less stressed out about what might happen.

Worry too much? Don’t fret as it’s a sign of high intelligence, study finds

They are mocked for their frequent fretting but worriers may have the last laugh. Research suggests that being a worrier is a sign of high intelligence.

Those who live in constant fear they won’t get everything done and who can’t switch off worrisome thoughts are more articulate. In tests, worriers scored higher in something called verbal intelligence – the ability to understand and work with the written and spoken word.

The Canadian researchers said there are clear advantages to being a worrier. The team from Lakehead University in Ontario put 125 students through a battery of tests.

This included measures of depression and shyness and a test of verbal intelligence.The verbal intelligence test looked at vocabulary, as well as the ability to categorise words and to understand proverbs.

The men and women also filled in a ‘worry questionnaire’ which asked them how much they agreed with statements such as ‘I am always worrying about something’ and ‘I have been a worrier all my life’.

Those who admitted to worrying a lot also tended to do better on the test of verbal intelligence – at least when their worries about the experiment itself was taken into account.

 

10 Ways to Cope With Stress

You’ve got so much to do that you don’t know where to begin. That sickly feeling of anxiety is rising. Yet you’re frozen. Just when life demands that you be charging ahead, firing on all cylinders, actioning to-do lists and kicking goals, your old frenemy Overwhelm decides to pay you a visit. Don’t feel alone. It happens to the best of us. And there is hope. Here are 10 effective ways to cope with stress and overwhelm from having too much to do.

1. Meditate or take a moment to be still
2. Action a few quick and easy items first
3. Cull or postpone anything that doesn’t really need doing
4. Set realistic goals
5. Lean on people and delegate
6. Be kind to yourself
7. Prioritize your competing values and interests
8. Don’t multi-task
9. Change your energy
10. Remember the bigger picture

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