These Are Five Emotional Stages To A Breakup

Breaking up is not easy and no one wants to go through that pain. However when it happens before it finally sinks in, there is a process that one goes through.

At first it will seem unreal before you finally accept your new status, here are the five steps:

1. DenialThat did not just happen. cannot believe we broke up. I thought he was on the verge of proposing!Maybe he was just joking about not wanting to see each other anymore? Maybe this was all a dream. In fact, he’s probably going to come through my door any minute, ready to apologize, dozens of roses firmly in hand. Possibly even propose! What a story to tell our future grandchildren! “Yes!” I’ll tell him. “I do! Yes! Yes!! YES!!!”

2. Anger– No. I don’t. He didn’t. No. No! NO! He did not come to the door, dozens of roses firmly in hand. He didn’t even come to the door empty-handedHow could he do this to me? How dare he?! Doesn’t he know how lucky he was to be dating someone like me?

3. Bargaining – was pretty lucky to date him, too. I’m going to get him back. I just have to send a sweet little email to tell him that it’s okay, I forgive him, and that he can come back now. I won’t even yell at him. (That much.) That carefully-worded email didn’t get a response. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. That’s weird. I just have to send him a sweet little text to let him know that it’s okay, I forgive him, and that he can come back now. I will probably yell at him, but I don’t have to tell him that in the text.

4. Depression – I’m not going to get him back. He’s not coming back. I’m going to be alone forever; I’m going to die alone. Everyone is going to get married except for me.  I don’t even have a plus one to bring to parties anymore. I guess it’s time to take up knitting like my old Aunt Zelda who was the family’s old maid. Now I will take over that throne. Oh wait, she’s still alive, so I can’t even take over the throne. Great, I don’t have a boyfriend and I’m not even special enough to be the only spinster in my family! Why, cruel world? WHY?!

5. Acceptance – I’m not going to get him back, and that’s okay. I’m going to enjoy single life for now — I can sleep diagonally on the bed, I can watch whatever movie I want to on weekends, and I control the TV remote. I choose what to have for dinner every night. I can go wherever I want, whenever I want, because I’m totally, blissfully unencumbered. The time will come when I’m married with kids and I have responsibilities, but for now, I’m not, so I’m going to enjoy it. I’m going to do all those things I always said I wanted to do, but never had time for because of him: getting into a good yoga practice, taking jewelry making classes, and joining my neighbor’s book club.