A list of things spouses would change about their partner

Wives want to change four things about their husbands… but husbands would change SIX things about their wives!

A survey of married couples found that mood swings were the thing wives would most like to change in a partner.

A survey of married couples gave a revealing insight into the daily gripes couples share with each other, including men being less grumpy and wives being more affectionate

A survey of married couples gave a revealing insight into the daily gripes couples share with each other, including men being less grumpy and wives being more affectionate

However, it seems men have a longer list of demands. Given the chance, husbands would change an average of six things about their partners, while women would only change four, the poll reveals.

For women, 35 per cent would make their partner less grumpy, while 30 per cent want them to be better listeners. Putting an end to bad habits is on the wish list for a quarter of wives – and the same number would like their husbands to become more appreciative.

For men, the top request for almost one in four was for their spouse to be more affectionate, while 22 per cent wished their other half was happier. One in five wanted their wives to be more adventurous in the bedroom. Overall, while the majority were happy in their marriage 13 per cent said they were unsure if they had ended up with the right person.

‘It appears that men would be less grumpy if they were given more affection and more adventurous sex, while women would be happier if men listened more and stopped their bad habits.

‘Regardless of the difference in complaints from both genders, the old relationship rules still apply – to try to listen to each other, to meet in the middle, and to show each other kindness, patience and respect.’

The survey of 1,500 couples by polling firm Ginger Research found that men wanted their wives to ‘dress sexier’, stop watching ‘bad TV programmes’, be more into sport and forget obsessing about their weight.

Women, however, wished their spouses would drink less, help more with chores, get rid of their beer belly and put the loo seat down. They also wanted to change their husband’s height, facial hair – and table manners.

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A list of the crazy things spouses do to punish one another when they are beefing (AUDIO)

When you walk down the aisle to say ‘I Do’ to the love of your life, many family members and friends are excited to see a couple begin a new lease of life.

Sadly, this isn’t always the case as many are living in pretense. Kumbe bedroom kuna mambo hivi?

It turns out that there is all sorts of drama facing husbands and wives, and all this behind closed doors. Not even their children are aware mummy and daddy are fighting.

When you have a disagreement with your spouse, how do you punish them? Fights in marriages will always happen according to the accounts of several Classic 105 callers who narrated their corporal punishments from spouses when they kosea one another.

A man revealed that,’ For me in public or in front of the kids we are this wonderful couple who show love and affection, but trust me when we get to the bedroom I take my mattress and sleep on the floor. I did this for nine months and then in the morning I am the first one to wake up so that my kids don’t run to our bedroom and fine me sleeping on the floor.  Everyday and my kids would think daddy is always an early riser, but it’s because I don’t want them to know our situation.

Another female caller disclosed how her husband locks her in the toilet.When she was pregnant, he would tell her to sleep in the bathroom, he would lock her in the toilet, and he would pick a fight with me at 3am, I owuld sit on the toilet mat, until he is ready to let me out. I would miss going to work because of this issue, I had to make up excuses so my boss wouldn’t fire me.

Another female caller said; ‘I don’t know whether I should pity spouses because in my case I knew that my husband was having an affair for a long time and when I went to the  place he used to live because we lived apart and anytime when he came home we would chat nicely to me, but when we go to the bedroom he would sleep in his suit and he sleeps on the foot of the bed while I sleep on the other side. He doesn’t want me to talk to him when we are in the bedroom, or touch me. When I ask him about it he says for what?I am not interested! at some point I locked him out of my life I forgot about him and now he is trying to get back to me, asking what happened?

Think this is bad, just read through another wife’s tale…My husband tells my children to sleep with me while he sleeps in their bed as punishment to me. He is the one cheating on me but he punishes me instead.

The question is: is punishment ht best way to resolve marital drama? What’s your take n the topic?

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MP’s seek to cut former spouses down to size in new amendments

The Protection Against Domestic Violence Bill 2013 was amended by MP’s to remove a clause that allow divorcees and ex’s to seek court protection against their ex-lovers.

Spouses who fight and insult each other in front of their children could be jailed.

The MPs excluded any relationship outside what the law recognises as a “ marriage” from being classified as “domestic”.

The bill now awaits President Uhuru Kenyatta’s assent.

In the original bill, ex-spouses were listed as family members and would be entitled to protection and court settlements under laws dealing with domestic violence.

This was changed after some MPs were quick to point out the “inconvenience” of a person being arraigned in court on charges of domestic violence against a person with whom they no longer shared a house.

If the clause had stood, it would have presented an awkward situation for estranged spouses, especially as the law gives a strict definition of harassment within a domestic relationship, including “loitering” near places where a former partner could be having a cup of tea.

The bill was introduced through the Justice and Legal Affairs Committee chaired by Ainabkoi MP Samuel Chepkonga (URP).

The law seeks to protect family members, including children exposed to violence by people close to them, clauses touching on former spouses alarmed MPs who ganged up to ensure they were deleted.

The bill seeks to recognise that domestic violence in all its forms is unacceptable behaviour, to provide for the intervention of the courts to reduce and prevent violence in domestic relationships and to ensure that where domestic violence occurs, there is effective legal protection and relief for its victims,” the bill reads.

The MPs were determined to cut former spouses down to size, and passed another amendment that narrows the meaning of domestic relationship by deleting references to ex-spouse, engaged partner, or a person one has a child with.

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