‘I can’t stay without sponsors in my life, it is adventurous’ City women brag about why sponsors are bae

Dating older men has become the cool thing among many young career women and college girls. Two of them shared their experience with the Star, about their six years with male ‘sponsors’.

The phenomenon itself has long existed before this generation, but the term ‘sponsor’ was introduced recently to refer to older men who date young women and give them money.

One does not necessarily have to have an intimate relationship with a girl for him to be considered a sponsor, but one automatically becomes a sponsor once he gives money to a girl for whatever reason, be it for rent, upkeep, hair, nails, rent, tuition or even partying.

In most cases, a sponsor is often someone’s husband, who is bound to leave the beneficiary for his family when all is said and done.

Those who have embraced the habit of having a sponsor get money and in return his dry bones get to creak under her caressing care, and he gets rejuvenated by her youthful warmth.

He can pay her rent in a decent apartment, buy her jewellery, take her places she only reads about in magazines or use his position to get her a job.

Fauzia, 23, and Wambui, 24, have openly decided to share their life in the city of Nairobi, which is well taken care of by having sponsors in their lives.

How did it all begin for Fauzia?

“My parents died and I had two siblings who were still in school, whom I had to take care of as well as educate them as the big sister,” she said.

“I am a Muslim and because of my religion, I was forced into marriage before even completing my school. The marriage was not successful because we did not know each other and we were just brought together by our parents. The guy became abusive and I decided to leave his place together with my children. Remember I also had my siblings and my aunts don’t even recognise us.

“The only option I had due to the challenges I was facing then was to look for a man in a dating site. That was my first sponsor I would say in my life.

“I have three sponsors, one whom I got from the dating site and the other two, I got from a bar. We exchanged phone numbers and the rest is history.”

Wambui, on the other hand, said she has come from far.

“I came from a very humble background, and I was raised by a single mother,” she said. “Unlike long ago, when sponsors were said to be above 50 years, I have two sponsors; one who pays rent, and the other one pays school fees for my kid. One is 32 years and the other one 38 years.

“I have a deadbeat baby daddy who does not even know where his child lives or what he feeds on. The reason I can’t date young men is because he (baby daddy) was a young man and ran away after three months; he abandoned us.

“My life with a sponsor started with my neighbour’s husband, who noticed I was having a problem and he started taking care of me and my baby by even buying medicine for my child. who was diagnosed with leukemia. He told me to let him know when I have a problem. That was how we started.”

 Dating a sponsor is a full-time job, complete with deliberate ground rules, like not calling at certain hours. He is the man a woman would save as ‘Mzee wa Stima’ on her phone.

“I don’t fear anything because when you are dating a married man, there are limitations he will put,” Fauzia explains.

First, you are not supposed to call him at night but just send him a message. You are also not supposed to expose yourself to his wife. 

 “I am not supposed to call him when he says he is home. If his wife learns about you, don’t look for the wife to quarrel her because he (sponsor) will go away,” she says. 

As for selfie lovers, you are not supposed to take photos with his phone. Wambui says, “If am videoing in his car, he should not be seen with me. I can be seen in those big hotels but not him, his number plates should also not be seen.” 

Fauzia added:

“I have been having sponsors for six years now and I can’t stay without them in my life, it is adventurous. I can’t date a young man because they will limit money for me. Right now I just call and I get what I want.

“It is fine for me because I am happy and living without fear. I use PrEP (a pill taken by negative people to protect them from contracting HIV), although I also use protection just in case of condom burst.” 

DIVISION OF ROLES

Regarding the potential of clashes, Fauzia said:

“I make sure I schedule all my sponsors such that they cannot met. I meet one and lie to the other that I have gone for a business trip.

“The life that I am living you cannot live without. It is fun and adventure. I have three sponsors. One pays my Sh12,000 rent and does my shopping monthly. The second one pays school feels for my sister and the third is for traveling, and he is the most frequent one I meet. As a lady, I don’t allow them come to the house. They shop for me and drop the shopping then we go and hang out outside Nairobi because they are all married and their wives are within.”

The two women said they are content living with sponsors, and they don’t regret, so long as they abide by the wishes of the sponsors.

“We admire to have our own husbands, but when the guy comes and tells me his wife is complaining that she is not getting enough money, then I think sticking with sponsors is the best,” Wambui said.

“For those who have parents, make sure you work hard, and for those who don’t have parents and have sponsors, be safe, follow their limits.”

FATAL ATTRACTION

Girls who have lost their lives while allegedly dating so-called sponsors include:

Sharon Otieno

The 26-year-old university student was killed on September 3 in Homa Bay county. Migori Governor Okoth Obado has been charged with her murder. He denies the charges.

Carol Ngumbi

She was found murdered alongside the then IEBC ICT official Chris Msando in July last year. They had been reported missing on July 28.

Mercy Keino

The 25-year-old university student died in June 2011. Her body was found dumped on Waiyaki Way, Nairobi.

She had attended a party at Wasini Luxury Homes on Church Road, Westlands, about 100m from where her body was found. A governor has denied involvement in the case.

‘Her sponsor used to send her 500k every month she is now rotting in Langata Women’s’ City man narrates (Audio)

Do you ever sit and wonder about the source of the money sponsors or married men are spending on you? I think I already know the answer to that.

During the Morning show on Classic 105, a woman confessed how she has been with a married west african man for the last 8 years.  She hasn’t worked for 4 years.

Here is partly what she had to say

I met this man 8 years ago. He is married and the wife lives in a different country.

We met in a different country (not where he is living with the wife) and things are super. My child is going to a good school. I am living in my own house men help build our empires so lets not lie about it.

He is not a sponsor since we have been together for 8 years, we are not gonna get married and we are not planning to have kids but yes he is providing.

He sends me 300$ (Ksh 30,000) every month and he even told me I don’t have to work. Initially I used to work in a very reputable organization but since the man had money I just became comfortable and he told me that I don’t have to work.

Its been four years without me working and I am comfortable.”

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A male caller spoke about being a sponsor

“These things happen, there is a woman I send 10 k every month just for her own stuff. She is not my girlfriend just a good friend. There are things you share with people just a relationship with s#x just things you cannot share with someone else.

My wife suspects but she is not sure. I have been sending her the cash for the last one and a half years.”

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The confession had another caller alleging how a friend of his ended up in prison after being tracked for receiving money from a ‘sponsor’

He says

“Sometimes people get lucky but does she know the source of the money? I have a friend who is rotting in Langata women’s prison for the same mistake of receiving money she has no clue where it from.

She was sentenced for aiding and abetting because the guy used her account to clean his money. He would send 5000$ (Ksh 500,000) every month and then suggest that she goes buy land, a car and all that stuff.

When it went down she was the one who was arrested because all the money passed through her account. It’s good to use the little you have atleast you know where it is coming from.”

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‘My four sponsors send me 100k every month but I have nothing to show for it,kwani ni pesa ya black magic ?’ Cries city woman (Audio)

Sponsors are here to stay but the saddening thing is that most women have turned it into a business venture milking them left right and center.

During the morning show on Classic 105 a woman confessed to Maina Kageni that she has not one but four sponsors despite the fact that she is working.

‘Her sponsor used to send her 500k every month she is now rotting in Langata Women’s’ City man narrates (Audio)

Here is what she had to say

“I have had 4 sponsors and the beauty about it is that I do not sleep with them,I get money ,goodies but I do not go to bed with them.

All they want is to speak about things they cannot speak with their wife,monthly I receive roughly 25,000 from each ,that’s 100k.

The oldest of them I have been with him for the last 5 years and I am 29 yars old,the current one I met him this year the others I have dated them in between.

I am an administrator.”

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On being asked what she does with the money, she says

“The money might sound so tempting but believe me there is nothing you can do with it Inapotea tu,I have never slept with any of them they are not my type and they have never requested me to sleep with them

I have nothing tangible I have done with the money sina shamba,nyumba nothing.”

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Classic 105’s biggest fan advises slay queens dating married men

Captain Kale who is Classic 105’s most vocal contributor and fan has a few lessons for slay queens who date married men.

The father of two is totally against young women dating married men and he said;

“Dating a man married man is like driving a government car: it shouldn’t give you any hope that it will be yours someday. Similarly, he will never be yours, you can’t take it to the bank, they are fake dollars,”

It doesn’t end there. In an interview seen by Classic 105, he explained further why young women are going to continue being miserable as long as they have affairs with married men.

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“You should know that we love our wives so so much, we’re just lying to you. We’ll even tell you how our wives are awful, tell you the marriage is falling apart, that it’s beyond saving, we’ll try to make you believe that you’re the best, but deep down, we can’t leave our wives for you.”

He added that for the slay queens who are unable to keep off older men, they should look for the rich ones so that they invest before things get bad.

” Keep off and if you can’t keep off, then at least make it an investment, since he will never be yours and he doesn’t love you, milk him, mummy, make it a business, come out of it a rich woman. Don’t date a broke married man, go for the rich ones. And don’t stay for too long in that relationship, use your brains, milk him as fast as you can then run, and never ever get pregnant for a married man, even if he promises to marry you, even if he promises you heaven, play safe mummy, because utalilia kwa choo.”

Ladies, there you have it. From a married man to young slay queens who want sponsors.

‘He was divorced and loaded’ Vera fondly talks of her first sponsor

Vera Sidika oozes confidence and class with many silently envying her. What most do not know is that she has had her fair share of struggles.

In a past interview, Vera had narrated how she had to drop out of school due to financial challenges but that did not stop her from dreaming.

My life was average given that my parents gave me the best I never lacked they supported me alot because I loved drawing and painting.

I even won trophies for the same, My parents ensured that I went to schools that offered art classes.

I studied up to University but I was not able to clear School because of lack of School fees.

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For the fist time she has opened up about dating an older man ‘sponsor’

He was divorced, he was also older than me. He treated me so well and did a lot of thing for me. he did not like that i was in the modeling industry.

And that I was hustling here and there working. I was also living very far from him, on Thika road, which was near my university. So it got to a point where he said, ‘As my girlfriend, I want to help you.

She adds that she gave him her loyalty and affection and he reciprocated by showering her with money and gifts .After all don’t they say tumia pesa mpaka ikuzoee?

He gave me money. A lot of money. You cannot have a rich and successful man and you are looking jaded and broke. He would give me money for shopping.

To say the truth, that is money, I had never seen in my entire life! He would give me money and it would shock me.

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She furthers adds she made a routine of saving some cash and now she is laughing all the way to the bank.

I dated him for one and a half years. Every Friday, for all those years, I would go to the bank and deposit money he had given me.

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The qualities sponsors are REALLY looking for in young girls

 

A founder of a dating website has revealed the qualities sponsors are looking for in their chicks.

The list also includes what they avoid at all costs.

Adventurous, free-spirited and a ‘tiger in bed’ are just some of the traits wealthy ‘sugar daddies’ are looking for in a much younger woman.

And founder of dating website Sugarbook Darren Chan has shared the top qualities rich older men really want when they meet their ‘sugar babies’.

Speaking to Daily Mail Australia, the 31-year-old entrepreneur – who was born in Malaysia before moving to Melbourneto study – revealed the do’s and don’ts – and the etiquette for ‘sugar dating’.

‘To be concise, men want beauty, intellectual, supportive, wild and adventurous and a tiger on the bed,’ Mr Chan said.

‘They don’t want women who are a smart a***, dishonest, cheater, unhygienic and obsessive.

‘The definition of the word “daddy” is described as a protector, a man who is reliable, kind and generous who is also financially capable and very willing to impart knowledge.

‘These men are not only looking for intimate companionship, but also looking for someone to pamper, spoil and love.’

The five things sugar daddies want

1. Beauty

2. Intellectual

3. Supportive

4. Wild and adventurous

5. Tiger on the bed

‘They don’t want women who are a smart a***, dishonest, cheater, unhygienic and obsessive.

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This Relationship Councilor Is More Brutal Than Wakanai. He Has Lectured Young Women And Called Them ‘Greedy’

“Kare kee,” Big Poppa Poppin a.k.a Wakanai Waka Waka always uses his favourite phrase after blasting female folks to high heavens.

Wakanai, who regularly calls in to the breakfast show to respond to the morning conversation, literally sets things on fire when he gives his opinion about city women. With him it is no-holds-barred.

One of his Facebook posts he provides some stinging words of wisdom for wives.

Wakanai wrote, “As a Wife, Your BEAUTY attracts your husband, but your WISDOM will continue to keep him! Your ELEGANCE catches his ATTENTION, but your INTELLIGENCE convinces him! NAGGING irritates your husband, but your “Constructive Silence” weakens him! Remember that the “boyish” character in your husband comes out occasionally, But your ability to always handle it, is a sign that you are a MATURED WIFE! Every man has “Secret Struggles and Pains, including your husband, if you should ever find them out from him, Please exhibit the greatest maturity by asking the Originator of your marriage, (God) to help you with USEFUL IDEAS, that you will suggest to him (your husband)!

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He continued, “In the long-run, your WORDS matters to your husband than your “LOOKS”! So always invest the RIGHT WORDS! Earn your husband’s respect and he will consider you as the yard-stick for all his actions! Learn to mould your husband’s moods, and he will naturally give you his “FUTURE” as he recalls your maturity in the past issues! Note that, WOMEN are everywhere, but REAL WIVES are scarce, let the QUEEN in you come alive, and your husband will always hold you in a very HIGH ESTEEM! Please don’t be selfish, share this with every woman you know, so that we will together make the “BEST MARRIAGES” In our society at large.”

Now, forget him, there is a new man in town and he is dishing out lessons to our young women who have subscribed to the sponsor mentality.

Young women are being advised to set realistic targets when looking for husbands.

Relationship Councilor Patrick Masiga says as a person you can never get 100% of what you’re looking for in a man or woman.

He wants young women to accept young men who’re beginning life so that they grow together economically and emotionally as a family.

Go out on a date with that hustler who is inboxing you and DMing you.

Masiga said, “You don’t go to somebody who is already built that person will never respect you. You go for someone you will help to build because the Bible says that women are helpers so because of the greed we have in this generation whereby women want everything today they don’t want to work they are not responsible.”

‘Young Ladies Just Waste Their Time With SPONSORS For Money And Expect To Get Married When They’re Older’ Kenyan Man Cries Out (AUDIO)

Nowadays, there are a lot of ladies who are 35 years and above and have not settled down.

For some, it’s because they just don’t need a man in their lives, but for others, they claim that they haven’t found a man who meets their standards.

Larry Asego recently revealed that he has a 35-year-old lady friend, who informed him that she hasn’t settled down because she hasn’t found a man who meets her standards.

Other than that, she went on to say that her family has been pressuring her to find a man to settle down with and start a family, something that’s totally bothering her because she doesn’t understand why they are pushing her so much.

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“Is it such a big deal if a woman is 35 years and is not married?” asked Larry Asego, who didn’t get what the big deal is if a woman is not yet married at that age.

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Now, a regular listener called in and revealed that the reason women get to 35 and are not married, is because they waste their younger years with sponsors and when they get older, they realize it’s too late and no man wants to be with them.

He went on to add that; “What are they waiting for, as for me, I think hakuna right man for these ladies, as long as you have money.”

Listen to the full audio below as this irritated Kenyan man attacks women who are wasting their years with sponsors.

 

FOR LOVE OR MONEY? Kenyan ‘Clande’ Reveals She’s In Love With a Married Man, People React (Audio)

When Maina Kageni talked about cougars on the prowl, it emerged that most of the young men who hook up with older women do it for money and not for love or commitment.

This prompted the breakfast show host to talk about the other woman, better known as ‘clandes’ and if for them it’s also about the money or there is love involved despite them dating married men.

As we all know, there’s been a growing trend of older men dating young women, popularly called ‘clandes’ or simply as mistresses.

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According to Maina Kageni, this relationships or affairs never last for long, and most times, if not all times, the man ends up leaving the clande for another one, or just go back to his wife.

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Maina Kageni’s concern and big question this time was, how do these mistresses ensure their financial security when the man leaves, because they will eventually leave at some point.

According to him, mistresses should invest and milk their ‘sponsors’ enough so that when he walks out the door, she’s financially secure, since it’s just about the money.

Man’s Plea For His Mistress And Wife To Get Along Goes Viral

The celebrated radio host also advised women, not to give their hearts to married men because it will never work as these men will end up going back to their wives at the end of it all.

During the discussion, a very interesting thing happened.

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A mistress called in, revealing that it’s not always about the money when a woman dates a married man, confessing that she’s a clande and is very much in love with her ‘benefactor’, and trust me, she wasn’t ashamed.

Of course, this got reactions from other people – including Maina himself – who are against mistresses and women who date married men, and the worst part, falling in love with them, calling them delusional.

Listen to the shocking revelation below as the woman also receives criticism from married people.