A List Of Single Celebrity Dads You Didn’t Know

They are not only famous but responsible single dads.

1. Cristiano Ronaldo

The famous football player is known to be single from the very start since his son Christano Junior was born in 2011. His wife has never been known. The child stays with Cristaino’s mother.

 

Cristiano Ronaldo is listed (or ranked) 6 on the list 26 Famous Single Dads

2. James Wasden

Jack Holden and daughter Mary James with his ex-wife Mary Elizabeth Linde, and son William Luca Costa-Marsden with ex-girlfriend Rose Costa.

James Marsden is listed (or ranked) 18 on the list 26 Famous Single Dads

3. Seal

He became single in 2012 after divorcing his wife, Heidi Klum. He is a famous musician, songwriter and composer. He has among the most iconic celebrity first names.

Seal is listed (or ranked) 17 on the list 26 Famous Single Dads

4. Kevin Hart

The famous comedian became a single dad after divorcing his wife, Torrei Hart, in 2010. The couple have joint custody of the children.

Kevin Hart is listed (or ranked) 19 on the list 26 Famous Single Dads

5. Jamie Foxx

The musician is a single father and has been known to show off his beautiful daughters at red carpet events and has openly discussed his appreciation of fatherhood. He is ranked among the best actors working today.

 

Jamie Foxx is listed (or ranked) 7 on the list 26 Famous Single Dads

6. Ricky Martin

The handsome actor adopted his sons, Valentino and Matteo, as a single parent. He is ranked among the best actors who started their career on soap operas.

Ricky Martin is listed (or ranked) 12 on the list 26 Famous Single Dads

 

Are You Lonely? Here Is Why You Are Miserably Single And How You Can Fix It

Are you single? Are you confused as to how this state of affairs has come about? Femail called on the best relationship experts in the business to reveal the real reasons why you’re still unattached.

From having a ‘type’ and being too picky to even posting cryptic statuses, our experts reveal all the ways you could be sabotaging your chances of finding love.

1. Your social media
Try to refrain from posting your political stance on controversial topics such as Brexit and immigration online.

Broadcasting your political views on your social media channels can successfully eliminate any potential suitors with opposing views from making an approach before you have even met, meaning that you may never meet the man/woman of your dreams, all due to one off the cuff remark.

Experts also warn against posting cryptic statuses, such as: ‘my life is like a black hole, everything good gets swallowed up’.

Also, posting too many selfies can put off potential suitors. They may think that you are self-absorbed or very narcissistic and refrain from approaching you. ‘Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who cares more about the selfie lighting situation on a date, than the date itself, I doubt it?’.

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2. Your attitude
Many single people seem to carry a typical ‘woe is me attitude’ when it comes to explaining to friends and family members the reason behind why they haven’t yet found ‘the one’ to settle down with, especially once they have reached a certain age.

Sadly, this method of feeling sorry for oneself can very much exacerbate a situation and gives potential suitors a reason to stay away. ‘Basically, it’s hard to find a partner when you reek of desperation.

3. You’re too picky
Before the explosion of internet dating and social media, you had just a handful of potential partners. You either ended up dating a friend of a friend, a coworker, or someone you bumped into at the coffee shop. How many potential partners do we have now? Hundreds of thousands!

How do you get over this? By being less picky? Well sort of. You might have access to tens of thousands of single potential partners, but it’s going to take an entire lifetime to judge them all.’

Change your mindset and stopping concentrating on future lost chances, instead focusing on what will make you content today.

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4. ‘I have a type’
Dating is like a buffet – the best way to build your preferences is to sample everything on offer.

The issue is when we judge someone on whether they are our type or not, we do so on surface level appearances and personality traits. But when we date someone, it’s the characteristics under the surface level which dictate whether or not they’re a fit for us.

So, branch out and dating guys who you usually wouldn’t date. ‘Get to know a personality you’ve never experienced before. Maybe you won’t find your dream guy, maybe you will. What you’re bound to gain, however, is a better understanding of what you want in a partner.

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5. You haven’t let go of an ex
Your future relationships are affected by a wide range of things, your connection to your ex is one of the most impactful.

You might notice the conscious changes your ex has caused (e.g. staying away from guys that remind you of your ex, not going to locations that hold some kind of significance), but there are so many unconscious changes that you’re probably unaware of.

Don’t worry, we are a product of our experiences so this is perfectly normal. However, where it becomes dangerous is when these unconscious changes stop us from starting new relationships and forming new connections.

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Here’s What Single Men Look For In Women

If at all you were to randomly ask single men the three things that they look for in a woman, you would probably get answers like beauty, a good body, intelligence etc. However apparently according to research, that’s not it.

According to an article published on Tosin, when the same question was posed to men, a whopping 98% of them said respect was at the top of the list.

97% said they would want someone they can trust and confide in.

95% wanted someone who is easy to communicate their wants and needs to while 91% would want someone with a good sense of humor.

There you go ladies, according to men their priority is respect, trust and sense of humor.

Top Make-Up Artist Muthoni Njoba Shares Her Journey As A Single Mom

She is a leading professional make-up artist, who guides us with her tips and tricks on how to rock makeup 24/7 and has even worked with some of Kenya’s biggest celebs such as Caroline Mutoko. However what’s most notable is her journey to motherhood. One cannot help but relate to her story.

Makeup artist Muthoni Njoba, went from being a young person enjoying her life to being pregnant and ending up a single and jobless mom at the tender age of 22.

She opens up about her inspiring story on the January issue of Parents Magazine, where she candidly shares her journey.

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She shared this post about the interview on her Facebook, ‘ Lemayan and I are excited to be on the cover of the January 2016 Parents Magazine, feeling very blessed it’s my first cover story and I got to shoot it with the love of my life my son. I first started reading Parents Magazine when I was pregnant, I was 22yrs old single, jobless and clueless to what the future held. The stories I read in Parents Magazine were so inspiring and filled me with hope for a better future at the lowest time of my life. It’s such a humbling and exciting experience to now be on the cover sharing my life, my struggles, my achievements, my motivation and my faith in God with you all. I pray that the same hope I found in the stories I read while I was pregnant will have the same positive impact on someone who needs its most. Wishing you all a Beautiful & Successful 2016 filled with Love & Laughter.’

Her story has managed to capture the attention of many other Kenyan women, who appreciated her through her social media accounts.

She updated the above post and captioned, To all the single parents who have reached out to me after reading my story in this months Parents Magazine, I just want to say thank you for your beautiful words. I had no idea the impact of sharing my journey would have, it was a prayer that it would be helpful to someone who needed a reason to hold on to faith and now I know that many times we may feel alone in times of trials but if we speak out we will find many of us share the same struggles, hopes and dreams when it comes to giving our children a bright and wonderful future. May God bless each of you, lots and lots of love from my son & I.’

Muthoni is also a blogger and Lead Brand Ambassador, Official Make-up Artist of Maybelline New York,Kenya.Any Kenyan mom that is in need of motivation and inspiration should read about her journey in the January issue.

Here are pictures of Muthoni and her cute son Lemayan that she often shares with her social media followers (Courtesy Facebook/Muthoni Njoba):

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6 Creative Ways To Meet ‘The One’ In 2016

Everyone is excited about the New Year. And one thing on the mind of most singles is meeting and connecting with their potential mate.

Many singles are tired of going out because they run into the same people which makes the pickings very slim.  However, it’s a new year and its time for a fresh start. The best way to find a fresh pool of potential candidates is by fishing in a different pond.

Judi Mason is an Empowerment Strategist who uses multiple platforms to help individuals be empowered. Here are her 6 ways to meet a new group of singles:

Get out:

Get out from behind your computer. Get out of your house. Get out of your car. Put down your phone and connect with real people.  Meeting people online is great but while you are Facetiming someone in Singapore, there are a lot of real live potential candidates in your city.

Change your mindset:

View people you meet as a connection and not necessarily “the one”. The person you meet today might be a connection to someone you would like to meet. When you meet people relax and enjoy yourself.

While you are being your wonderful charming self, the people you are interacting with might say, “You would be perfect for my friend”.  If by chance you and the friend don’t hit it off, you have one more ally. Take the pressure off. Relax. Enjoy yourself and allow the beautiful person you are to shine through.

Change your mindset from “I’ve got to meet the one” to “I am going to have a good time.” You will see a difference in who you attract and your emotional well-being.

Switch up your go to spot:

Don’t go to the normal single hangouts, instead visit unlikely places. For instance, go to the museum, visit tourist spots, etc. You never know what local resident might be taking his or her friends on the tour of the city.

Start a singles club:

Connect with old friends, co-workers, colleagues ask if they know of singles who are interested in connecting with other singles. Have your friends do the same. Host a mix and mingle for everyone to meet. You might meet a potential mate and possibly make a new friend.

Date more:

Mr. Right does not exist. Stop instantly saying no when someone with “potential” ask you out on a date. You never know you might have a good time. And if you don’t connect he or she might have a friend to introduce you to. Trust me, it happens.

Get active:

Volunteer for a political campaign or non-profit. Join a professional organizations for your industry. This is a great way to meet other like-minded individuals.

The following are just suggestions, but I think that you get the idea. If you want something different you have to do something different.

This year take the pressure off of meeting “the one” and choose to enjoy the journey. Start 2016 on a mission to live your life to the fullest and to have fun along the way. With an open mind and a clean slate, you might be surprised who you meet.

 

Reasons Why You Might Never Get Married

Many people want to get married in the long run, but it’s not as easy as it sounds. Ask those who have walked down that path. Those dating and even those who are single need to know that marriage takes more than just love, because its a lifetime commitment.

Others who have plunged into the dating pool seem to wonder why it’s taken so long for them to get the ring. Well, in case you are one of them, here are some of the things that you might be doing that may be preventing you from getting married:

1. Fear of reality – People who’re afraid of reality will never get married if they do nothing to overcome this fear. It’s been proven that every human being is afraid of reality and it’s absolutely normal, because fear is a natural response to danger. But when these fears and deep-seated phobias take over, people become unable to take risks and responsibilities. A bit later these two sensitive and emotional personalities become the victims of their active imagination. I think that this weakness should be eliminated at the earliest convenience. Every person yearns to get married to an emotionally strong and self-confident person.

Diffident personalities should once and for all realize that life is a constant struggle. If you want to reach success in either marriage or career, you should be ready to take up the running and face harsh realities of life with your head held high.

2. Passive lazybones – In most cases lonely people are passive lazybones. The pursuit of happiness and self-cultivation aren’t their pair of shoes. They don’t try to take the initiative, but want to take the best things from life. If they believe that they’ll eventually get married, then their chances are limited. Nothing in this life happens eventually.

Life is a dynamic thing that requires people to be extremely active and productive. If you want other successful people to notice your talents, beauty and the depth of your rich inner world, you should open up and do your best to express yourself.

3. Too judgmental – Nowadays many people have incredibly high standards, especially when it comes to personal life and marriage. Sometimes human principles don’t let people think rationally, but provoke them to judge others for their failures and weaknesses. People who don’t take any effort to find a compromise will never get married, because a healthy marriage is always based on mutual understanding and respect. Wise people say that sometimes it’s necessary to keep silent if you’re at odds with your partner. It will help you keep your love relationship healthy and strong.

4. They dedicate their life to career – Workaholism has become one of the most difficult and actual problems of a modern world. This problem has a lot of advantages and disadvantages. Do you believe that workaholism can make you a happy person? If a successful career is the top priority in your life, then sooner or later, you’ll achieve a desirable result. All you have to do is throw yourself into this work and live for it.

Unfortunately, between two stools you fall to the ground. If you choose career, then you should be ready to sacrifice your health and love. Almost all workaholics find it difficult to build and maintain happy relationships, because they work and think only about their projects 24 hours a day. They have no time for love and romance.

5. They cry for the moon – Today both men and women have blurred vision of reality. Ladies still believe that one day a wonderful knight in shining armor will appear and win their hearts. Men waste valuable time looking for a bachelor’s wife. It’s high time to get rid of this pointless habit and finally realize that perfect people do exist only in your imagination. The only way to find a suitable partner is to set realistic goals. You need to be sure that your dreams and desires coincide with reality.

– D. White – Womanitely

Here Are Some Of The Reasons Why You Are Single

After the drama with your ex, you swore never to love or date again….that’s understandable, but it gets boring with time and you may soon want to start dating again. However for a reason or two you can’t seem to find someone. That happens to a lot of people, but then again you just might be single because of your own doing. Here’s how:

It’s important that we stay positive and true to ourselves in order to find a happy relationship. Here are five common mindsets that could be keeping you from finding the happiness you deserve.

1. You expect to find the “perfect relationship.” – While the perfect relationship simply doesn’t actually exist, many people are becoming less likely and willing to put the required work and effort into building something alongside a teammate. They walk away at the first sign of difficulty, and it’s preventing deep, meaningful relationships from actually developing. There will always be challenges you must face. But that’s what makes you and your partner stronger together.

2. You don’t know your self-worth – Relationships are not only about finding the right person to be with, they are also about being the right person to be with. For many of us, we don’t just wake up one day and instantly become that person. We need to put in the time and effort to develop ourselves accordingly.

The bottom line is that “we accept the love we think we deserve” and you get to decide what you deserve. Someone’s inability to see your value does not make you any less valuable. That’s why it’s called self-worth. It’s up to you, not them. If you do not feel like you truly deserve to be happy, you will always find yourself sabotaging the situations which can bring it to you. Stop being the victim and start being the victor.

3. You are actually scared of finding happiness – How could you be scared of success? How could you be scared of happiness? Both success and happiness require risk. They require much more risk than mediocrity or just settling. Taking the safe path through the woods. Living a ‘beige’ life. It can be scary to think of falling for someone who does not fall for you in return. It can be scary to imagine giving too much to someone without them giving in return. But without risk, there is no reward. Fortune favors the bold, not just in life, but also in love.

4. You never think the timing is right – Life gets crazy. We get busy and it becomes difficult to imagine shifting around our schedule to accommodate that of a whole other person to build a relationship with them. The timing isn’t right, but you will be able to focus more after you reach your next goal. Or, after you make this deadline. Whatever it may be, there is always an excuse that seems to keep us from doing what it is that we really want to do. “Someday” is not a day of the week and it never actually shows up on the calendar.

There is no perfect moment, but what there is, is the ability to take the moment and make it perfect. There will be no wrong timing when you find the right person, but you need to be open to them coming into your life.

5. You are jaded – This may be the most common reason why people do not want to date anymore. They have been burned in the past and have felt unappreciated. They don’t think there are any good people left in the world. No good men and no good women; All men are jerks, and all women are crazy. Keeping your hope alive is the only missing piece in finding the person you are meant to be with.There is no predicting when or where you will meet the person you fall in love with. You may be reading this article on your phone and bump into them on the street. You might be in line behind them in the coffee shop. You might meet them at a party. But, if you are too jaded to give them a chance when they do come along, you risk letting them get away forever. While it’s a risk to put yourself out there and chase after happiness, it’s far less of a risk than spending the rest of your life wishing you had.

-Tosin

Here’s How To Answer “Why Are You Single?”

When a good percentage of your friends are either married, engaged or in serious relationships and you are the one always refilling the wine glass, the question “why are you single” will most likely crop up at one point during discussions or interactions.

It’s either you are at a wedding, family gathering or even at work where you may get caught off-guard with such a question. Many people don’t know how to respond to such intrusive questions making you feel judged.

Here are a few ways to respond to your single status questions:

Be sarcastic:  Well pray that you are dealing with a smart person otherwise your statement may be taken as an arrogant statement. Respond with, “I look like a fish, all scaly beneath my fancy attire. I guess that’s why.”

Turn the tables: Just pretend you are so concerned and even ask them for tips on how to bag a woman/man. Listen to wise counsel, it just might help ! You never know!

Use TMI to your advantage: If you’re brave enough, how about you get all personal with a nasty breakup story you’ve heard or even your own. I’m pretty sure they will not want to hear the end of it.

Play the sympathy card: Play it like it’s been disturbing you for the longest time and tell them how much of a concern it is for you. Infact tell them it makes you sad. They will probably hug you and move to another story! Brilliant

If all else fails, be honest: Sometimes it just the best option… say the truth. you’re focusing on your career, you like being single and going out with friends, you haven’t found the right person whatever the case may be. Its what you feel no apologies.

Types of men you should avoid

Dating is not easy, you will end up meeting the crazies, psycho, players and even the nicest person but it’s not always easy. Everyone will come with their baggage, it just depends on why you choose to handle. However if you are a single lady, beware: If you catch one of these guys on your line, it would be wise to just throw him back in the sea and keep trying for your prize winner.

1. The Damaged Goods – There are so many people popping up on the dating scene who were burned by their first marriages or serious relationships. They are angry, untrusting and bitter. Every question you ask them is only half-answered because the walls they have built up inside are so high and impenetrable. Conversations feel very one-sided, and you will forever feel like you are pushing them to open up. These singles need therapists to deal with their issues, not new mates.

2. The Man-Child – This guy refuses to grow up. Every night is like a college frat party. Every date involves a beer. Every weekend revolves around his friends.He is lazy. He probably works a job you had in college and has no real ambition to do much else. If you are looking for a mature, meaningful relationship that is going to go somewhere, he isn’t for you.

3. The Guy Afraid Of Commitment – This can be an extension of number two, but not always. These guys can have great jobs, their own places and generally a lot going for them. But, they would rather date for 15 years than ever really commit to you. If you are looking to build a future, this one is going to take some work. He hasn’t made a life commitment to someone before you, and he likely won’t with you or after you. This guy is the stereotypical bachelor for life.

4. The Narcissist – Watch out for this one, as these daters will love themselves more than they will ever be capable of loving you. They generally attract mates who are codependent because they are often so eager to please. Codependents are generally passive by nature and don’t like to make waves in their lives. They are often submissive and easily manipulated, while the narcissist is controlling and calculated.You may not know you are in the midst of narcissists because they come off as charming, romantic, intelligent and flawless in the beginning. Eventually, narcissists convince their codependents they are unworthy of the love of others and break down their self-esteem to give themselves the power they need to thrive.

5. The Booty Caller – These people are dating for one — and only one — reason. They will start off by saying, “I am not that type of man or woman,” but that’s generally a red flag they are exactly that. They will try sweet-talking their way right into your bedroom, get what they want and then hit the highway.The booty caller will likely be checking out other people while on the date with you, not paying attention to a thing you are saying. Instead of complimenting your mind or personality, his compliments will strictly be about your looks and will generally be suggestive in nature.

6. The Mooch – So you finally have a great career and can consider yourself financially stable. The mooch will prey on women in this situation. Since women are generally caring by nature, they will try to help their mates.The mooch will start by needing 1k for a soda here or you to pay for a dinner there, but eventually, he’ll say he is too broke to afford anything. He will promise to pay you back, but he never will. Sometimes, you find yourself feeling bad, and you try to help so much that it starts affecting your own finances. You’ll need to take a step back and realize you gave him thousands of dollars, and he has given you nothing but stress and excuses.

7. The Big Talker – This is the guy who makes the big plans. He will talk about romantic trips you are going to take, a wedding, children and home ownership. He is all about the talk and never about the action.Something will always come up, or he’ll pretend the conversation never happened to begin with. He will get your hopes up and let you down so often that you learn to put little to no faith in anything he ever says. Why do we stay? Because the plans sound great, and there is always a glimmer of hope they will actually come into fruition. 

-Tosin

Want To Find A Man To Date? Here Are Some Tips

As women age, they tend to feel as though they are becoming less valuable and desirable especially if they are single. This should not be the case, as it is important to maintain a high sense of self-esteem. Regardless of age, there is someone out there for everyone.  If you want to date, there are things you might want to do:

Work on self-confidence. If you don’t have a high sense of self-confidence, you’re likely to enter into a relationship that is disappointing or exploitative. 

Know what you’re looking for in a relationship. Last time you may have settled or made mistakes in the relationship. Take those past experiences and use them to narrow down what you’re looking for in a partner (e.g. same values and good character).

Prioritize qualities over attractiveness. You may want to find someone who is attractive to you and you have good chemistry, but it only works on the short-term. You need qualities that help maintain a relationship, such as similar expectations of a relationship.

Don’t carry old baggage from past relationships. If you’re still whining or pining over the past relationship, don’t start a new relationship. It’s not fair to yourself or your new partner.

Identify negative feelings and work those through. Whether in a group, with a counselor, or coach, you want to learn from you past mistakes so you don’t keep making them. You can’t get different results doing the same thing.

So the big question for a single woman who wants to find a man is where to find him. It’s not just a man who will spend time with you, but one who will want to date you and vice versa. This is especially true when you’re middle-aged, as many worry about dying alone. Here are places you should try finding him:

Go where you feel comfortable and excited. Test new venues and find new places to go. Break your typical pattern.

They don’t need to be places for singles, but something like an adult course for things that interest you. When you meet someone there, you know you have similar interests and even if you meet other women, they know other men.

Specialty clubs (e.g. hiking club, bowling club, etc.) also have people who have similar interests and can be a good place to meet men.

Religious programs, if that’s an area that’s important to you. You can meet kindred spirits who you feel comfortable with.

Bookstores are divided by topics, so if you find someone in a topic that is of interest to you, they may share that interest. You can start asking innocent questions such as if they’ve read a certain book or if they know a certain author.

Cultural events are another place, located in different cities and towns at different times. You can go with girlfriends, but be open to welcoming other people.

Fundraisers can be a wonderful opportunity to do some good and bump into people doing the same thing.

Get-to-know-you parties by contacting your single friends and asking them to invite a single friend that they know, so they bring people you don’t know. These are good connections because these are men who have been approved by the women accompanying them.

Credits: Rosalind Sedacca, a divorce and parenting coach.

Try This 30-Day Single Girl Challenge

So you’re single and bored and you feel like giving up on love because all your friends are either dating or married. It happens to many single people, but you don’t have to be hard on yourself, love comes to us when we least expect.

However you can still manage to have fun while solo in this 30 day single girl challenge:

Day 1: Follow a hot friend of a friend on Instagram.

Day 2: Write down everything you want in a future partner.

Day 3: Write down everything you don’t want in a future partner.

Day 4: Get glammed up for a bangin’ shameless selfie.

Day 5: Go out for drinks at a place you’ve never been to before; don’t leave without meeting a potential prospect.

Day 6: Unabashedly make eye contact with somebody (or everybody) you find attractive.

Day 7: Download a new online dating app and give it a shot for at least the day.

Day 8: Let a friend hook you up on a blind date.

Day 9: Give your number to somebody you’ve been eyeing.

Day 10: Spend a wild night out with other single friends only.

Day 11: Plan a night out and encourage your friends to invite people you don’t know.

Day 12: Reach out to someone you passed up on before when the timing wasn’t right.

Day 13: Invite someone you only really know via social media to hang out in person.

Day 14: Finally block or unfriend an ex who you aren’t on particularly healthy terms with.

Day 15: Start a conversation with a stranger.

Day 16: Go out with friends to a karaoke bar and sing a girl-power anthem.

Day 17: Spend an entire day not looking at social media.

Day 18: Go as long as you can without texting back your confusing friend with benefits.

Day 19: Throw out old mementos from past relationships.

Day 20: Do something daring with today’s look and spend the whole day thinking positively about yourself.

Day 21: Spend the evening dating yourself with a favorite film and a good dinner.

Day 22: Join or start some sort of new social group, like a book club or chama.

Day 23: Buy a fierce new outfit and save it for a date you’re really, actually excited about.

Day 24: Go out for lunch with a friend; make a pact to not talk about your love lives even ONCE.

Day 25: Head out to do something by yourself, like hanging out at the beach with your dog or reading at the park.

Day 26: Post a subtly flirty comment on a crush’s social media post.

Day 27: Create a new memory at a place with nostalgic ties to an ex.

Day 28: Light candles, turn on relaxing music, and take a bubble bath.

Day 29: Ask your parents or someone you look up to for love advice.

Day 30: Spend today trying to have as much fun as possible, and don’t worry about your relationship status!

-Popsugar

Here’s What A 30 Year Old Single Woman Doesn’t Want To Hear

People need to understand that not every woman believes in having or being in  a relationship and not all women want to get married. The fact that people see 30 years as the ultimate age of where a woman should be married, doesn’t mean that it happens to all women.

There are some who are still single at 30 years and people commenting on the issue might need to take a chill pill. These women love their lives like that and get irritated when certain comments or questions are asked:
Here are 11 comments every single girl in her 30’s is tired of hearing.
1. But you’re gorgeous! Why are you single?
2. Have you tried online dating?
3. Stop looking for love and you’ll find it
4. Stop being so fussy
5. Tick-Tock
6. Have you thought about freezing your eggs?
7. Tell us one of your hilarious dating stories.
8. You don’t need a plus one, do you?
9. I envy you
10. It was all couples so I didn’t think you’d want to come.
11. Maybe you should cut back on your drinking.
-Metro

Here’s Why Being Single Rocks

Being single can get lonely at times, however it is not the end of the world as it also has it’s own share of advantages.

When you are single you can do what you want, when you want and with whom you want. Being single is all about you. It is a special time to be true to yourself and be a little selfish. “You” is at the crux of embracing your single life. I am going to run down a list of reminders on why being single is not so bad after all.

1. No compromising.

When you are single, you can do whatever it is that you love, without having to compromise for someone else’s needs or desires. Maybe you like fried chicken or you like to eat cookies under the stars in a tent in your backyard. There is nothing you have to give up. You can indulge in your guilty pleasures or just simply be yourself without having to give up any part of your pleasure in order to codify someone else.

2. No explaining or justifying.

Not only do you not have to give up your pleasures, but neither do you have to explain or justify to anyone why it is you like doing them. This is liberating. Be yourself, no ifs ands or buts about it.

3. No guilt.

Guilt is something that we can definitely do without. But, so much of our relationships revolve around guilt. The aformentioned compromising and explaining are often things we do to protect our relationship from it’s demise. We fear the loss. Instead of embracing impermanence and remembering what joys singlehood can bring, we often feel bad and guilty about our “selfish” ways. This leads to self- compromising behaviors.

4. No jealousy or insecurity.

Remember this? Jealousy can come from you or your partner. When you celebrate your singlehood, jealousy and insecurity about other people fall down by the wayside. Who cares anymore? The most important person has become you. The ability to live and let live suddenly becomes within your reach. Goodbye jealousy.

5. Friends.

Partners not only want explanations and compromise, but they also may be jealous of your friends? Perhaps, partners may limit the time you have to spend with friends. In many ways friends are more important than our partners. They are there for us when our relationships hit turbulence. Being single is a great time to nurture your friendships. So, hang out with your most debaucherous friends and feel not guilt about it.

6. Develop your identity.

So often people lose themselves in other people, in their partner or in their relationship. Who are you? What is special about you? Singlehood is when you can really let yourself shine and be who you are meant to be.

-Tosin

If You’re Single, Get These Tips To Hook Yourself Up

As a single woman there are things that you need to have by yourself before you plunge into the dating pool. Its not just about what you want but it’s also about how you portray yourself. Many a time people will just assume that beauty will get them anything, granted people will be attracted to you but there more to a person than just beauty.

Here is a list of things you need:

1. Romance pro/con list: This handy notepad transforms your mental pro/con list into a tangible reality. The 6×9 inch, 60-page pad is divided into pro/con sections, which gives you ample space to wax poetic and weigh, whether he gets a phone call back or not.Beware what you might find out about yourself, though. Somehow seeing “bad shoes” or  “bald spot” next to “great sense of humor” and “intelligent” may help you figure out what really should be most important.

2. Friends: Friends are just like significant others except there’s less dependence (usually), less drama (ideally). Women aren’t islands; we need people in our lives, but rather than giving a less-than-perfect guy the job, let your friends and family work their magic.

3. A great bra: Small or large, there’s no denying the over-the-top feminine feel of a proper bra that accentuates your natural gifts.

4. Your choice of no-holds-barred relationship book written by a man: Sometimes you need to hear from a masculine voice that men are 1) simple, and 2) haven’t called because they don’t want to talk to you. Nothing less, nothing more.

5.Cab money: No matter where you are, what you’re doing or who you’re with, always have a doable exit plan. This includes known access to a cab, bus or train, and the funds to get you home. Preferably in cash and credit, just in case.

6. Something you love: This could be an outfit that makes you feel as pretty as Maria in West Side Story, a hobby that you adore, a religious group, an album that transports you, or a friend-with-benefits you happily visit every few months. Whatever it is, this person, place, or thing fulfills you, regardless of what’s going on in your love life.

-Tosin

Is It True That Married Women In Nairobi Act Single?

Yesterday’s conversation was about men who live like bachelors and yet they are married, today it was about women who are married yet live like they are single.

Maina met a guy yesterday who said that his wife lives like she’s still single, she goes drinking with her workmates any day of the week and is often dropped home by her male workmates.

They have a child who is two years of age but she only breastfed him for four months. The man says his wife does not act married as she even goes home at 1 am in the morning yet she expects to find the house in order.

Mwalimu said that this is a common habit for Nairobi women because those from the village do not have the time to go out dancing.

This question was posed to the listeners “Do Nairobi women act single yet they are married?”
Here is what people had to say:

Two Reasons Why You Are Stuck Being Single

Being single can be a matter of choice or a matter of circumstance. Sometimes it can also be a matter of our fears stopping us from falling inlove. It may be a subconscious thing and at other times it may be a conscious thing.

There are a lot of other reasons why we may be single, but here are the two main reasons why we may be stuck single:

1. Fear of Being Abandoned – At one point in our lives we suffer from a heartbreak of some sort and for some it makes them afraid to want to start afresh so it seems like a better option to be alone. Being in a committed, loving relationship involves taking risks. Fully knowing another and creating intimacy, requires vulnerability. The minute you commit to someone and sharing love with them, you also open yourself to the risk of being left. It’s a very scary premise—that you can let someone into your heart only to have the relationship not work out.

2. Fear of Being Smothered – As much as you may genuinely want a lasting, loving relationship, part of you might be afraid that having such a relationship is going to take away your freedom. Being single allows you to do what you want and not have to explain who is chatting you up etc. The common “other half” mentality actually leads to fears about getting into a relationship—by suggesting that we are each somehow incomplete until we find a partner, we might feel that we have to compromise a great deal. Being single comes with a lot of freedom you get to decide what to do with your time and what your priorities are. The prospective of a close relationship presents another kind of threat: the potential loss of individuality, autonomy, and personal space.

How To Know If You Have Either Of These Fears

Fear of being abandoned and being smothered show up in a lot of ways. Sometimes people are very picky about a mate, or they check out of the whole dating process altogether. Others create unnecessary expectations for relationships, or inadvertently stir up tension in a relationship when they do get into one.

-Informationng

Here’s The Single Girls Dating Manifesto

Everyone gets a little lost sometimes; trying to figure out the rules of a game that you may or may not even want to be playing in the first place. Being single can get boring and hard, but so does being in a relationship.

When you are single you need a manifesto; a public declaration of intent, aims, and views of the user, that you abide by.

The Rules

  1. Say yes if you mean yes. Say no if you mean no. Say what you mean. Do what you say.
  2. Go with your gut instinct. It’s always right. Don’t give the guy the benefit of doubt; give it to your gut.
  3. Do not continue dating a person when you have no chemistry or physical attraction. If you do continue seeing a person under these circumstances, you must articulate clearly that you are only interested in a friendship, and nothing more.
  4. Don’t feel bad for saying no, ever. At any time, No is always OK.
  5. Don’t settle for mediocre sex or mediocre kissing or mediocre passion of any kind. Passion only comes in one size, and that size is “intense.”
  6. “I am a woman, I have the upper hand. I am a woman, I have the upper hand. I am a woman, I have the upper hand.” Repeat this and don’t forget it.
  7. Biology says: Men want to have sex, but women do the choosing. This is the power dynamic that gives you the upper hand. Don’t forget this.
  8. He can pay for dinner if he wants, but this doesn’t mean you owe him anything in return.
  9. You can pay for dinner if you want, but this doesn’t mean he owes you anything in return.
  10. Beware of guys who use too many exclamation points in texts.
  11. Have all the sex in the world that you want — however you want, wherever you want, with whomever you want.
  12. Spend the occasional night drinking wine and eating chocolate alone in your house, and enjoy it. Don’t do it too often, though. Drag yourself out every once in a while. It’s good for the brain.
  13. Remember this: Nobody else really knows what they’re doing, either.
  14. Don’t compare yourself to your high school friends. Don’t compare yourself to your college friends. Don’t compare yourself to coworkers. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. You’re doing just fine.
  15. Ask that guy out. Do it. Don’t wait around for him to do it. The worst that can happen is he says no and then completely forgets about it. Just put it out there. Otherwise, you may never know.
  16. Don’t social-media-stalk. It will only drive you insane.
  17. You don’t need to justify your actions to anyone; NO ONE AT ALL.
  18. “Slut” is not a real word. Own your desires shamelessly.
  19. Most guys are terrible communicators; the absolute worst. Whatever you think they’re thinking, they’re not. Whatever they are thinking is much, much simpler than what you think they’re thinking. When in doubt, ask, but don’t complain about the answer. Embrace honesty.
  20. Brutal honesty: Dole it out and take it. No bullshit. Who wants bullshit? Nobody.
  21. It’s OK to break the rules. It’s OK to make up the rules as you go along. It happens.

-Huffingtonpost

Single People Hate Being Among These Kinds Of Couples

We all have people or rather couples that we know who are annoying to be around because of the way they behave. It doesn’t mean that we are jealous of them, but we get it that you are in love but some habits are not pleasing to anyone but rather irritating.

If you notice that your friends no longer want to hang around you, then maybe you belong to a certain class of couples that many people avoid. Here is a list:

1. The PDA Couple – Making out is not bad, in fact it’s allowed but you have to consider the environment you are in. Being in love doesn’t give you permission to shove your tongues inside each other’s mouths and be all over each other at the restaurant, coffee shop or the movies etc where other people are. There’s a time and place for everything you can do all that in your house.

2. The show off couple – Whatever happens between the two of you should stay between you. The rest of the world does not need to know where you are going, what you are doing, the food you eat all the time. And yes we are happy for you but we don’t need info that is irrelevant to us. Let’s talk about things we have in common like sports, cars, music or even news. Talking about your relationship all the time bores us to death especially on days that we have issues to deal with, rubbing your happiness on our faces makes us sick.

3. The Putting on a show Couple – You have friends that you talk to when you feel like your man has irritated you or has done something wrong. So technically we know when you are having issues. No one is happy when others are sad or in pain unless you don’t wish them well. But seeing as we know your issues there’s no point pretending to be happy for the cameras when you are clearly not and on that note why are you still together if you keep complaining about them?

4. The On-Again, Off-Again Couple – We are tired and very confused about your relationship status. One minute you are dating the next you are exes. As friends we will take you out for drinks to help you de-stress and cry out the break up. But the moment it turns into a second and third time, we will be done and out. Learn to sort out your mess.

5. The Cupids – Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I want to be hooked up. As a couple you get to enjoy things in twos and as a single I get to enjoy them alone or with a friend. But that doesn’t mean that I am lonely so stop trying to hook me up with your friends, cousins, colleagues etc.

6. The “We” Couple – This is when a couple have grown together into one single human being. You happen to be buddies with the girl but when an invite comes along it’s “we want you to come with us to the park, movies , swimming etc” They come as a pair in everything they do and you will be the third wheel up until you get a partner. While it’s fine to be in love, I want my girls’ time with my girl and that doesn’t include your man.

7. The Drama team – This happens to be the worst of the bunch and you would totally hate to be caught up between them because you will always be the referee. One minute they are in love all happy, chatting and smiling. The next moment their voices are raised while trading insults or worse, exchanging blows and kicks amidst tears. Sort out your mess in private please. It’s not a good look.