EPUKA MSOLOKOMBO: Sex And War Don’t Mix, No Touching On Elections Eve – Raila

Raila Odinga, to whom the August 8 election is crucial, has asked married supporters not to have sex a day before.

The NASA flag bearer told Homa Bay residents on Monday that they should only have intercourse after results are announced.

“Chieng cha en odichieng’ mapek. Chieng’no onge nindo. Jowuoyi nindo mana oko. Wang’ni adwa ka chieng’ go ombulo chiegni to onge ngama nind gi ng’ama dhako,” he said in Dholuo.

(August 8 will be a historic day and no vote will be left without being cast. Men will sleep outside. When the day comes, no man should sleep with a woman.)

Raila further asked his supporters to wake up early and desist from activities that can prevent them from going to vote.

…Ka osudo iri to kiki ing’iye, kone ni wuon ng’ane kiny wanindo gi lueny…kiny ne watim gino ka waseyudo telo.”

This translates to: “If he moves closer to you, don’t look at him, tell him we have a war to fight…let us have sex after we get the presidency.”

The Opposition chief also asked youths to turn up in large numbers to vote so their future is not “rigged” by Jubilee.

“I challenge youths to rise up and be counted as the elections are historic. Jubilee have rigged the economy and health facilities. Youths suffer a lot,” he noted.

Raila said members of this age group must help change the direction of the country, especially where living conditions are concerned.

“Rise up and vote for change we can begin the journey to a new direction,” he said.

On June 23, Raila asked National Super Alliance supporters to abstain from sex on the eve of elections.

“When you are going for war, sex is a bad omen,” he said.

-The Star| Nancy Agutu

Did You Know That Getting INTIMATE Is The Key To Staying Sharp In OLD Age? Here’s The Reason Why

Older people can boost their brain power by having more sex, research reveals.

Regularly getting intimate improves the over-50s’ vocabulary and visual awareness, a study found.

Yet, being active between the sheets does not influence their attention or memory, the research adds.

Researchers did not speculate on why regular sex boosts older people’s brain function, however, previous research suggests getting intimate stimulates areas of the brain associated with learning.

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Study author Dr Hayley Wright from Coventry University said: ‘People don’t like to think that older people have sex, but we need to challenge this conception at a societal level and look at what impact sexual activity can have on those aged 50 and over, beyond the known effects on sexual health and general wellbeing.’

  • How the study was carried out 

Researchers from the Universities of Coventry and Oxford analyzed 28 men and 45 women between the ages of 50 and 83.

The participants completed a questionnaire about their sexual activity over the past year.

They then took part in a test that measures brain function in older adults.

This included a ‘verbal fluency test’, which required the participants to name as many animals as they could in one minute.

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They then had to say as many words beginning with ‘F’ as they could.

Their visual awareness was also assessed as they were required to copy a complex design and draw a clock face from memory.

  • Key findings

Results revealed that those who have more sex did better in the verbal fluency test.

They were also more able to perceive objects and the spaces between them. Yet, regular sex had no impact on attention or memory.

The researchers did not speculate on how regular sex boosts the brain function of older people.

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Yet, previous research from scientists at McGill University in Canada revealed fornicating stimulates the development of neurones in the area of the brain associated with learning. Neurones send messages to other cells in the nervous system.

  • What the researchers say  

Dr Wright said: ‘We can only speculate whether this is driven by social or physical elements, but an area we would like to research further is the biological mechanisms that may influence this.

‘Every time we do another piece of research we are getting a little bit closer to understanding why this association exists at all, what the underlying mechanisms are, and whether there is a “cause and effect” relationship between sexual activity and cognitive function in older people.

‘People don’t like to think that older people have sex, but we need to challenge this conception at a societal level and look at what impact sexual activity can have on those aged 50 and over, beyond the known effects on sexual health and general wellbeing.’

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Why NICE GUYS Are BETTER In Bed Than BAD Boys: Nice Men Will Keep You ENTERTAINED Between The Sheets

Do you have a penchant for a bad boy?

The frisson of excitement that comes with dating an unpredictable charmer isn’t worth the inevitable heartache that comes along with it, according to sex and relationships expert Tracey Cox.

She points out that so-called ‘nice guys’ are actually better in bed than their roguish counterparts – and research backs up her claim that the man who is kind to his mum and volunteers in his spare time will out-perform the hot barista who never calls before 11pm.

Here, Tracey tells Femail why women would be wise to opt for ‘nice’ over ‘bad’, and why your libido – as well as your friends, family and bank balance – will thank you for it. 

Finally – research reveals what most sane women already know: nice guys get laid more often than bad boys.

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Exploding the ‘treat them mean, keep them keen’ myth, researchers found selfish people scored poorly when it came to love and sex.

‘Bad’ people are fabulous if you’re looking for a holiday romance or quick sex fling, or want to try out a totally ‘out there’ sex fantasy without being judged for it.

But who in their right mind would actively seek out a ‘bad boy’ for a serious relationship unless you have desperately low self-esteem, a ‘victim’ mentality, or some serious issues going on?

Here’s just a few reasons why nice men are both nicer and sexier – and always have been.

  • Nice men like sex just as much as bad boys

Just because he’s nice, doesn’t mean he’s a saint.

A US study of 500 college students found people who were rated as ‘nice’ had more marital sex, long-term relationship sex AND casual sex.

Asked to answer if they’d give all or part of a lottery win to charity, those who said yes had much more sex than those who said they’d keep it themselves.

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  • Nice doesn’t mean weak

The stereotype that nice equals weak is false.

Studies show nice people are not necessarily less assertive or competitive than ‘difficult’ people.

Psychologists define nice people as those who score high on a personality trait called agreeableness – your over-riding concern is having happy, positive relationships with other people.

Case closed for any female who has even a hint of intelligence and self-esteem.

  • Nice guys aren’t boring 

Don’t mistake drama for love. Rollercoaster highs and lows aren’t passion, they’re a sign of incompatibility.

Calm is good. Look at how it ended for poor old Cathy with Heathcliff.

  • Nice men are confident – not cocky

There’s a huge difference.

Arrogant men consider themselves better than you and treat you accordingly.

Nice men are liked because they’re nice, so their confidence gets built for all the right reasons.  Nice men aren’t just funny, they find you funny as well.

This reeks of self-doubt to me – and likely any other woman who’s cracked a joke and had their partner laugh appreciatively.

The nicer the guy, the more comfortable he is with women being ‘better’ than him – and the more fun you’ll have together.

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  • Nice men are available

The very definition of a nice guy is that he’s not duplicitous and is emotionally available: if he says he’s single, he is single.

When bad guys say, ‘There’s no-one special’, they’re not lying.

Their wife/girlfriend/girls they see whenever they fancy a bit aren’t treated like they’re special in the slightest.

Why would you want to add your name to the list?

  • Nice men stick around when the going gets tough 

Bad men don’t like commitment and that doesn’t just mean shying away from ‘serious’ relationships (you dare to ask if they want to do something tomorrow) or marriage and kids, it means not being able to commit to anything at all.

Like pick you up from work when you’re too sick to catch the tube or actually turn up when you’ve organized for him to meet your girlfriends, or be your plus one at that all-important wedding of an ex.

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  • Nice guys don’t ask for endless favors

Like loaning them cash, letting them crash ‘for a night’ without paying rent, borrowing your car, your credit card, your suitcase – anything at all that’s of value.

Nice men aren’t usually in a horrible financial mess and ‘between’ jobs. Bad guys are rarely in any other situation.

They also frequently have drug or alcohol problems, draining both your bank account, patience and sanity.

  • Nice men make you feel great

They’re where they’re supposed to be, ring when they say they will, don’t let you down when you need them and are gloriously reliable and predictable.

Bad men are the opposite.

They’re never where they say they’d be, they’re never on time and they never deliver no matter how many times they say they’ll change.

This leaves you feeling jumpy, irritable and sleep deprived.

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Could Getting INTIMATE With a STRANGER Save Your Marriage? Find Out Here

Fidelity is upheld as the gold standard for a happy marriage.

But according to Harley Street relationship counsellor Louise Van Der Velde involving other people in your intimate life could be the key to a healthy relationship.

The 42-year-old widowed mother tells FEMAIL she believes ‘everyone should swing’ to save their long-term relationships.

Louise, who is known as the ‘Pleasure Professor’, hosts two-day seminars for ‘rich, good-looking couples’ – often culminating in group sex on plush cushions – in a London hotel for around 70 selected people at a time.

‘If I had my way the whole of society would be swinging together,’ Louise says.

‘We have an image of sex with strangers as sleazy and dirty, but this is about getting back to soul truth, that no one owns anybody else, we don’t own our partners.’

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The relationship counsellor, adds: ‘It’s about stopping jealousy and replacing fears with love.’

Louise, originally from Harrogate, Yorkshire, has been in open relationships on-and-off since her doctor husband died 13 years ago.

The mother-of-two, who has a son, 20, and daughter, 15, splits her time between Camberley, Surrey, and Marbella, where she initially hosted smaller, ‘celebrity attended’ sex parties.

She argues sex with strangers will create a marriage no one would want to leave.

‘Doing this stops infidelity,’ she says. ‘If you explore your desires together, any fear about your other person cheating goes.

‘After our work together couples often go and play and experience things together. Why on earth would you think of having an affair when you ave a relationship like this?’

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The sex guru invites single women as well as couples to the events, which involve a 70 per cent to 30 per cent ratio of women to men, ‘to ensure it does not become a sausage fest’.

The invites are also based on couples’ desires. ‘Most couples want a threesome with another woman,’ Louise explains.

‘The people who come are affluent, good-looking, professional couples. They are young – I don’t accept anyone over 45, and are mostly around 30 to 45.’

Participants, who are also vetted for attractiveness and reasons for attending before being accepted, then embark on 48 hours of tantric touching, phallic meals, emotional workshops and unleashing the ‘kundalini serpent’ of sexual desire.

Louise, who believes monogamy is a ‘lie’ sold to society as a whole, insists her sex parties are not purely about lust.

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She argues they ‘deepen the connection’ between couples – and successful pairs even leave with a certificate.

‘In the seminar we start off very gently, we look at where people got their beliefs from about why they are monogamous. Mostly it’s a limiting belief. An “I got married so I expected to have sex with one person”, or “it’s what society and marriage say you should do”.

‘I loosen up this belief by going back to very first time they were sold the lie about being monogamous – which can be as early as when they were seven or eight years old.’

Louise says her own children know about and are comfortable with her work.

She explains: ‘They have very much been brought up to be mindful with sex. They are both selective about who they engage with and are well balanced.

‘I have taught them the opposite of what society does, that sex is not taboo.’

The sex guru, says her seminars culminate in, optional, sexual experiences in a ‘comfy, cushion-lined, candlelit separate space’.

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Daily Mail

Kenyans, Including 13 Year Olds, Are Extremely Sexually Active According To a New Reasearch

Remember Project X?

The controversial event was outed when a concerned parent found the poster in her child’s phone and proceeded to share it online, asking what it was about.

It created a lot of outcry and condemnation from the public. But the truth was, that was just one of the many events that had taken place where kids met, had a good time, messed around and went back home.

The parents were none the wiser. The teenagers still have these kinds of private house parties but the info is shared with a small and intimate circle.

Meet the ‘120-year-old virgin’ who credits lack of sex for his long life

They communicate via apps like Telegram where the administrator of the channel can detect if someone has taken a screenshot of the conversations, thus keeping it secure.

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With the help of technology – and other factors, the age that teenagers are engaging in sexual activity is getting younger, fuelled by each phone upgrade or the emergence of new, exciting apps.

The innocence once attributed to a 13-year-old is long gone with the proverbial romp in the hay.

According to the consumer insight WAKENYA report, Kenyans are extremely sexually active. Many may idealise sex as an act of adult maturity, but 7 out of 10 Kenyan women confess to having sex under the age of 16, with 1 out of every 2 Kenyan men also admitting to the same.

The research highlights that 28% of females interviewed had their first sexual encounter before they were 13 years old. This is higher than the men who lost their virginity at that age, who came in at 18%.

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At the age of 13-15 years old, only 36% of the males got intimate for the first time while 39% of the females interviewed had their first encounter at that age.

The research doesn’t, however, state whether the sexual encounter was with peers or partners older than them.

That begs the question… Isn’t it about time we all put down the pitchforks and take a seat? It is clearly time to let the sex educators into schools to give advise to our youth before it’s too late.

It’s a fact, whether we like it or not, teenagers are indulging themselves while still very young, regardless of what the law says.

 

Ugandans use lunch breaks more to have sex than a meal, Ethics minister says

Ugandans use lunch breaks more to have sex than a meal, Ethics minister Simon Lokodo has said, warning that “irresponsible sex” is fueling spread of particularly HIV/Aids.

“In Kampala, sex is done without any respect; anywhere, anyhow, anytime with anybody, especially at lunch breaks where people go to lodges for sex instead of food,” Rev Fr Lokodo said.

HIV prevalence has lately been on a rise after years of steady decline, according to official statistics, raising concern that the increased infections are a result of complacence.

Minister Lokodo made the comments on Monday during celebrations to honour legendary Ugandan musician and Aids activist, Philly Bongoley Lutaaya, who died of HIV-related infection in December 1989.

His campaigns, including HIV/Aids awareness performances at schools, helped put a human face to the disease and fight the associated stigma.

It is in this context that the government on Monday organised an event in his honour at Alebtong Primary School in Alebtong District on the theme, “An Aids-free Uganda, my responsibility”.

The Member of Parliament for Ajuri County, Mr Denis Hamson Obua, urged the constituents to protect themselves against HIV/Aids.

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Woman travels from Mombasa to Meru to stop husband from marrying a second wife

There was fracas at the Kenya Methodist University (KeMU) after a 32-year-old woman sought to stop a wedding between her husband and a second wife.

Miriam Mueni, who was prevented from assessing the KeMU chapel in protest of the wedding, said she got notified that her husband Cornelius Muike was to wed Purity Nkirote, a police officer on Saturday.

Mueni adds that they live in Mombasa as a family and when she heard the plans of the wedding she decided to travel to Meru to stop the wedding.

“Our marriage was solemnized at the Jesus Celebration Centre in Mombasa in 2003. We have three children. My husband has been away from home for about five days and kept lying to me that he was coming home every time. I never knew if he had planned such a thing because he was even talking to his children”, said Mueni.

Cornelius Muuke and Miriam Mueni in a photograph they had been taken after their wedding in 22, March 2003. Mueni accuses his husband of marrying a second wife yet they are not divorced

She adds that Muike started having an affair with the police officer in 2014 when he joined Nairobi University for further studies.

“She has been threatening me and I have even a message in my phone which she sent me. At some point she even lied to me they have stopped moving together. I’m wondering how they will be issued with another marriage certificate yet we have never divorced”, she said.

According to Terry Kiogora a friend who had accompanied Mueni to Meru, they never expected that he could have thought of getting married to another wife.

“They have been having some issues in their marriage but we never knew he could do something like this. I was informed by a friend that he was going to have a wedding in Meru and after investigating we went to consult a lawyer to ascertain the validity of the marriage certificate and when we came we thought that the husband will feel pity for the children but things have turned out the opposite”, she said.

Kiogora added that as friends they were aware that Muike had a relationship with the cop but every time they asked him about it he always disputed the relationship.

“I feel bad as a mother and because I feel as if it was my child so I decided to intervene and assist this wedding not to go on. If you are married in a church the law prohibits you from marrying a second wife in church, it can only be made under a customary marriage and after consent of the first wife”, she said.

Efforts to get comment from the bride and groom were unsuccessful after a heavy security conduit barred the media and non family members from accessing the University Chapel.

HOW NOW? Couple having sex for first time injured after using plastic bag instead of condom

Two people were admitted to hospital in Vietnam after attempting to have sex using a plastic bag instead of a condom.

Nguyen The Luong, deputy director of Hanoi Nephrology Hospital, said the two students had used the plastic bag because they felt too shy about buying proper contraception, according to the Tuoi Tre newspaper.

Because the bag’s material lacked elasticity and lubrication, they ended up scratching their genitals to the point of bleeding.

The pair were given antibiotics and disinfectants for their injuries.

Sex education is a sensitive issue in Vietnam. The country’s high abortion rate is attributed both to a societal preference for sons but also to couples not using contraception.

In an interview with The Guardian, the director of Medical Committee Netherlands Vietnam said that social stigma can make it difficult for young people to buy contraceptives, and discussing contraceptives is difficult between couples.

Another report in Vietnamnet.vn suggested that students struggle to find adequate information about sex from their schools, instead receiving it from leaflets, online sites and information sharing with friends.

Nyando Man Attacks Wife For Refusing Sex

A Nyando man broke his wife’s arm and legs because she would not have sex with him. Would you believe that?.

Well according to The Star, the woman said her husband came home from Nairobi on Sunday night. She prepared his food and afterwards he went to their bedroom and demanded sex.

The man had traveled with his second wife from Nairobi. “I told him that based on our medical background we need to know (his other wife’s medical status) before anything else,” she said.

Mum Arrested ‘For Having Sex With Her Married 25-year-old Son’ Who She Described On Facebook As ‘Handsome’

The mother of seven said her husband was silent for a while then he got up and went outside. “I also went out, where I saw the kitchen door open.

After closing it, I heard something hit me on the head and I fell down,” she said.

“He beat me like a snake until I passed out.” Gender-based violence Gerogina Malanga said the man handed himself in to the police.

-The Star

Man who married as a virgin in his thirties, tells his story

It’s not everyday that a married man confesses that he married as a virgin.

Alot of guys are pressured to test the waters at an early age, and those who don’t are mocked for being a sissy. And this is what makes it so refreshing to see a married man, who pens down a letter about walking down the aisle as a virgin.

Myunfilteredng, shares real life stories about Nigerians in their country and the diaspora. Lots of people share their unfiltered, raw and brutally honest stories about relationships.

It is my hope that this married mans story inspires your journey. Read  his letter below as published on nigerianweddinblog:

“My parents gave birth to me in 1983 out of wedlock. They were never married and still haven’t. I was conceived as a result of a one-night stand. M

My father had a reputation as a womaniser. He was sleek and good-looking, but lacked self-control which led him into a lot of trouble. Growing up I saw alot of these traits in myself. I remember one day I went to see him, I was fourteen and he asked me who my bae was. I told him I had none and he asked me, ” At your age I had already started doing things”.

“At the time he was experiencing alot of trouble because he had spent alot of his money on women. I made up my mind to marry as a virgin, to have sex only with my wife. I wanted to keep myself for what God was going to do through me. I wanted a deep relationship with him. I didn’t want anything that was going to distract me and I knew for me, women were a distraction. When I was about 20, my dad called me and sat me down. He told me this si the best advice he would give me, ” You have to be careful with women, I was always with women and still am, but I don’t want you to walk in my footsteps’.

“My dad was sixty when he said this to me. Truth is I was always a ladies man. There were so many temptations with women. It wasnt easy, but god kept and led me.

“Today I am married and walked down the aisle as a virgin in my thirties. Obeying God was very important for my wife and I. We decided to keep our marriage bed undefiled. It was tough, I wont lie, but I made it. This is to encourage those out there who thinks its not cool to get married as a virgin, especially as a man”.

 

Woman pulls, and squeezes boyfriends private parts in Narok

A woman from Kisiriri area of Narok North Sub County has been arrested by the police for allegedly pulling and squeezing her boyfriend’s private parts, leaving him with serious injuries following an argument.

Area Deputy OCPD Charles Ouma said that screams were heard from the man’s house and upon arriving at the scene, members of the public found the man writhing in pain in his privates.

“When the locals dashed to the scene and they found the woman named as Doris Nyamita trying to escape but they got hold of her and bring her to Narok Police station. They also found the man was lying down in great pain and that’s when they realized that he had been assaulted,” said Ouma.

He said that it was reported that the two, though not married, were living as a boyfriend and girlfriend and on the particular day, they were in bed when they argued over their past relationship, prompting the man to push the woman.

“After the man pushed her off the bed, the woman grabbed the man by his manhood and squeezed it hard occasioning him serious injuries as a result,” he said.

Ouma added that the couple had been seen together for the last few weeks and that the unfortunate incident irked the villagers who wanted to lynch the woman.

“The victim suffered serious injuries in his privates and could no longer hold urine after the deadly incident,” said the deputy police boss.

He said the man was rushed to Narok County Referral Hospital where he is receiving treatment while the police are interrogating the woman before pressing charges against her.

“Once we complete investigations, she will face assault charges of causing grievous harm on someone’s private parts. She will soon appear in court,” said Ouma.

 

Dear Men, Here Are 4 Signs That You Have Erectile Dysfunction

No, having erectile dysfunction (ED) doesn’t mean you’re less manly – it’s linked to specific physical and psychological causes. Every man has erection problems at some point in his life, but if the problem persists over a longer period of time then it may be a sign that you have more serious problems.

Watch out for these signs:

1. The inability to maintain an erection
So, you can get an erection during foreplay with your partner, and your performance is great for the first half of the game, but as you go along, your erection begins to deflate. When you’re unable to keep an erect penis until you orgasm, then something is going wrong during the process of your penis filling up with blood and hardening.

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2. You can’t get a hard-on
It’s not unusual for a man’s penis to not function from time to time, but a frequent inability to get an erection could be a sign of ED or other more serious medical problems. If you get an erection in some situations but not in others, then the problem is probably psychological. If you are unable to get an erection under any circumstances, then it’s likely the result of a physical issue.

3. Painful hard-on for over four hours
These erections, called a “priapism,” are usually painful and can happen even when you don’t want to have sex. Priapisms happen when too much blood flows into the penis, or the blood in the penis is not able to effectively drain out. Such unwanted erections could result in you not having erections in the future because of permanent tissue damage.

4. Curved or painful erection that makes sex difficult
Of course, penises come in different shapes and sizes and it’s not uncommon to have a curved erection. But some men get erections so bent that it causes them pain or makes sex impossible. Such a curved erection may be a sign of Peyronie’s disease, which is caused by scar tissue forming along the length of the penis and results in warped, painful erections, although the condition usually goes away on its own.

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Love Matters

7 Cunning Ways To Show Him What You Really Want In Bed (It Will Turn Him On Too)

The only thing worse than not having sex is having bad sex, but how do you let him know he’s not getting you there? Should you even tell him?

The answer is yes. Sometimes you gotta let him know what’s up! You don’t have to argue about the sex, you can simply show him what you really want. Here are some sneaky ways to show him what you really want during intimate moments.

1. Guide him.
Literally guide him through your body. Move his hands where you want them to be. Point to where you want to be kissed. Push his head down toward your honey pot. Take control of the situation and show him where you need him to be.

2. When he’s in the right spot, make sure he knows it.
Simply put, overdo it a little bit. If he’s handling his business just right make him feel good about it. Verbal praise can go a long way here. He will more than likely be turned on by how vocal you’re being and is likely to work even harder to get you there.

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3. Show him by doing it yourself.
This won’t work with everything, but for some stuff you can show him how to take care of business by taking care of that business for yourself. He’ll be pretty turned on by it and that should make a good student out of him. When you’re finished let him know to give it a try on you as well.

4. Find a video.
I’m sure most of us, if not all, are familiar with PornHub. If he can’t seem to get the picture, show him a video. This way, he will get a hint of what to do, the way you like it!

5. Role play.
You could literally role play ‘teacher and student’ and instruct him on how to handle business. If you two are the creative types, role play options are endless. You two won’t be acting as yourselves which tends to open doors to try new things while ‘in character’. Don’t be shy, give it a shot!

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6. Show him by doing it to him.
Take charge. If you want to try something new be the person to initiate it. Don’t go all dominatrix on him – unless y’all are into that kind of thing – but don’t wait on him to get things started. By showing him how good it feels to him, hopefully he’ll know that he should return the favor as well!

7. Tell him.
If all else fails, just tell him. You deserve to have great sex. You can find a creative way to tell him just to spice things up or you could simply have the conversation with him, but it definitely needs to be communicated, in a nice way!

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College Candy

Forget Cheating! Here Are 5 Other Things That Are As Bad As Having An Affair

No relationship or marriage is easy to build and maintain. There are many other things that can destroy a relationship other than having an affair.

When couples have different values and moral standards, it is bound to bring problems in their relationship. There are certain kinds of behaviours that could mean a total betrayal to the promise of commitment made to your partner.

The truth is, because there isn’t cheating in the mix, most couples experiencing these problems feel they can live with them, but it slowly chips away the foundation of love and trust built over the years.

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Well, here are 5 other things that are as bad as cheating on your partner.

1. Creating an emotional barrier between you and your partner
Nothing hurts more than that. It’s a huge sign that your relationship may crumble soon, because there’ll be less and less physical contact. The lack of connection could be a gate pass for an affair.

2. Telling lies to your partner
Lying to your partner is never fine and shouldn’t be treated as such. Lies are like a hammer to a wall; they break all you have built in an instant. Trust and commitment are swept under the rug when your partner realizes the relationship is built on deception.

3. Emotional affair
The fact is, emotional affairs are more damaging than physical ones. Firstly, they are very difficult to end because that will mean the end of an emotional support system. Emotional cheating can cause irreparable damage to relationships.

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4. Not putting your partner first
When you really love your partner, you put them first. When couples begin to forget each other’s needs, there’ll be a gradual breakdown of the relationship. Your needs are important, but showing them knowing you’ll always be there for them no matter what is assuring enough. Love is a verb not a noun.

5. Refusing to stand up for your partner
Your partner should be your closest friend. Relationships have crumbled because one partner refused to stand up for the other, especially when there’s some sort of interference from in-laws and relatives.

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Pulse Ng

 

Prostitute Remains Attached To An Elderly Man After He Dies During Sex

We’ve had strange stories about sex including bizarre toys, people being found in compromising situations and others getting stuck together; but this particular story is one for the books.

A video doing the rounds online shows a dead man’s body being wheeled away, but apparently a prostitute is still attached to it. The elderly man is said to have died during sex.

The bizarre footage which looks to have been shot in China, appeared of Liveleak after being lifted from a Chinese video sharing site. It shows paramedics moving the corpse with the woman still on top on a stretcher. They are both covered but the woman is seen moving though her face is covered.

They were taken to the hospital to be surgically separated before the man could be transferred to the morgue. This is a case of ‘penis captivus’, where the vagina muscles clamp down on the penis much more firmly than usual and people end up being stuck together.

You Know It’s Time To Break Up When…

Relationships are not the easiest things to deal with and sometimes they end up dying slow natural deaths yet we either choose to hold on.
How do you really know when it’s time to break up? Are there valid reasons to run in the opposite direction? If your relationship has one or several of these problems, you may need to end it sooner rather than later.

1. No support for your goals – A major part of a relationship, especially a marriage or one that is heading towards marriage, is supporting each other. If you have a goal that your significant other is not supportive of, you may need to look closely at the rest of the relationship. Long-term romantic relationships generally lead to getting married, but if they don’t want to help you achieve your goals, you’ll be missing the person who should be your number one cheerleader. And they will more likely be a roadblock to your future.

2. No Trust – This is a huge red flag. Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship. If you suspect he’s lying to you about where he’s been or how he spends his time, he probably is. If you can’t trust your girlfriend or boyfriend, you’re always going to be suspicious, and that will hinder your relationship.

3. Cheating – If you think cheating is a “one-time thing,” you’re more than likely wrong. Cheating is habitual. If you can’t be loyal when you’re dating, you won’t be loyal after you’re married either. The reason for cheating has very little to do with you, and everything to do with the cheater. Nothing you do is going to make him or her stop — that decision has to be made by him or herself.

4. Abuse – If you are being abused in any form in your relationship, you need to LEAVE — NOW. You don’t deserve to be hit, yelled at, defiled or belittled. Relationships demand mutual respect and love, even if you have occasional arguments. Do not think for a minute that you deserve to be abused or that it’s your fault. Find a friend or family member who can help you escape this terrible situation. Do not be fooled into thinking an apology is the end of abuse. It WILL happen again.

5. You don’t share goals – If you want a family and she doesn’t; if he doesn’t want marriage and you do; or if any of your most important life choices don’t line up, the two of you may not be a good match. One of you will always end up disappointed and unfulfilled. You can’t change someone to bend to your will and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice those things that are most important to you.

6. Gut feeling – Listen to your own inner voice. If it’s telling you something is off, or doesn’t feel right, that’s probably the case. Maybe it’s not really love or perhaps you feel like you’re settling out of fear that you will be alone for the rest of your life. Maybe there is some other unknown factor that your intuition is trying to warn you about. We have our intuition to protect us from potentially dangerous situations. It’s best to listen to it even if you can’t see a valid reason right now.

-Tosin

Study: Infidelity Runs In The Blood

According to an article published on Men’s health, Sleeping around runs in the family. Researchers from Texas Tech University surveyed people about their parents’ and their own history of infidelity.

Nearly half of the subjects who were raised by philandering parents admitted to having cheated on a partner—making them twice as likely to stray as those brought up in a faithful family.

The tendency to sleep around is partly genetic, Weiser says. Other scientists have found that you can inherit biological traits, like a certain kind of dopamine receptor, that make you crave multiple partners. 

But she also suspects that your parents shape your expectations for your own relationships.

For example, if your father failed to be faithful, you may conclude that monogamy is unreasonable or impossible. And that belief could turn out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If your parents (or his) didn’t forsake all others, don’t worry. You’re not doomed to repeat their mistakes, says Weiser. 

Just be aware of how they affected you. Consider this an opportunity to talk with your partner about your views and expectations surrounding monogamy. Pouring your energy into communicating, having fun, and trying new things together is one of the best safeguards against infidelity, says Weiser.

Inside the ‘city of sex’ where men ‘have three girlfriends’ because there are too many women

Monogamy is the cornerstone of our society, but one global city is bucking the trend with so many women living there that most men have two or three girlfriends.

Dongguan, in south China’s Guangdong Province, is known for producing popular electronics such as iPhones and iPads – and also acting as the Chinese ‘capital of sex’.

Thanks to the one-child policy which operated in China for many years, the country has a massive gender imbalance with millions more men than women in the country.

Local factories running assembly plants prefer not to use men as they find them unreliable and instead offer work mainly to women.

This means the city has many more women than men, with the men taking odd jobs and casual work, leaving them with plenty of time on their hands. And that means time for more than one girlfriend. Some admit they have two or three permanent girlfriends at the same time.

One man told local TV: “It is a lot easier here to find a girlfriend than a job.” The few men who do have jobs at the factories are in an even better position when it comes to finding a girlfriend, because most of the women end up spending long hours at work on the production lines. That means if they look for love, the main place for them to find consolation is from within the company.

The disproportionate number of women has recently led to Dongguan being branded the ‘capital of sex’ with many women still willingly and knowingly involving themselves in relationships with men who already have other partners.

Li Bin, a migrant factory worker from south-western Sichuan Province, said: “I have three girlfriends, and all of them know about each other. Many of my friends also have many girlfriends.”

He added: “There are so many young and naive female workers in the city. Why not have more than one if we can? Look, everyone is here to have fun; if you don’t do it, others will.”