Here Are The Tests All Serious Couples Go Through

Trials are normal in everyday life for people, whether single or as a couple. However it is different for single people because the decisions will only affect you.

For couples it is a bit intense as the trials couples go through will either strengthen the relationship or break it. Some of these tests include living apart due to work , infidelity, coping with in-laws, or when a partner loses their job etc.

Before you commit to a marriage or a longterm commitment there are tests that you should subject yourself through:

1. Finances test: This is one of the top reasons why many couple fight and even end up in divorce. You have to be able to agree on expenses, budgets ,savings etc. If you are to be together then you need to build trust in this are. If you cannot trust your partner with your money then why would you trust anyone else? And why would you spend your life with them?

2. Shopping test: Are you able to walk into Gikomba or Nakumatt together and just shop without getting frustrated or without arguing about what product is better than the other? Going shopping is great but if you can’t seem to get over the walking around in a filled up mall or overcrowded areas without getting agitated and screaming at each other then you might want to consider how serious you are. Its something basic and if you can’t agree on small things then you won’t agree on bigger things.

3. Living together : This is the best way to test each others patience. It doesn’t mean you should live together, you could go on a week long trip or vacation to a place that will require you to do your own laundry, cook etc. Do so regularly and see how things will work. It will also enable you to see what habits you can put up with and those that you can’t. 

Are you dating a man or a boy?

There is huge difference between the man you marry and the guys you date.

There are basic signs of the difference between the kind that will be serious and the time wasters.

Here is a breakdown:

The boy you date asks you to ‘hang out,’ which involves less commitment than a date. He wants to have fun with no strings attached.

The man you marry asks you out on dates and is clear about his intentions with you. He wants to be with you and wants you to know where you’re headed.

The boy you date talks with you about people you know from your past, or only shares funny stories because he can’t connect on a deeper level.

The man you marry can hold a conversation with you about books, movies, music, and other common interests. This makes for a more substantial relationship in the long run.

The boy you date will say he never wants to get married or have kids, and nothing will change his mind. Don’t try – this is a red flag that he’s not Mr. Right!

The man you marry might change his mind about wanting to marry and have kids after he’s met you.

The boy you date hears your attitude, takes it personally, and starts firing it right back at you until it spirals into a major fight.

The man you marry can handle your attitude and talk you down from a ledge. This is especially important when you have major life crises or a bad day at work.

The boy you date calls you mean and immature names to make himself feel like a winner.

The man you marry fights fairly. He doesn’t call you names or use physical force, no matter how angry he gets.

The boy you date cares too much about looks, and will tease you for looking sloppy until you fix yourself back up to his standards.

The man you marry understands that everyone has good and bad days as far as looks go, and won’t hurt your feelings or love you less if your weight fluctuates or you have a bad hair day or forget to shave for a while.

The boy you date will say “I’m sorry” because he just wants you to cheer up or stop nagging him. He says “I love you” because he doesn’t want to lose you, even though he doesn’t really feel the meaning of the words.

The man you marry will say “I’m sorry” because he honestly is, and he never meant to hurt you with his words or actions. He says “I love you” because he truly means it, and wants you to feel that love every minute of your life.

The boy you date will expect to have things done for him because that’s what his mom did, and that’s what other girls have done for him, and he doesn’t have to take care of himself.

The man you marry will know how to take care of himself: how to cook, clean, do laundry, pay bills, and more – because he’s already a man. It’s important for people to have this figured out before they’re ready to marry, which is a great way to tell what type your guy is.

The boy you date well, you’re too embarrassed to take him to meet your parents, not that he’d ever bring it up himself.

The man you marry wants to meet your parents, and impresses them when he does.

The boy you date runs at the first sign of trouble because it’s too much drama for him, and he doesn’t want anything tying him down.

The man you marry sticks with you through tough times because he’s committed to you and the relationship, and wants to see it through to the end.