From tusome katiba to Mombasa raha, here are words used to ask for [email protected]


Intimacy is one of the basic needs for every couple that needs to be fulfilled to keep a relationship going.

Here are words that the youth are using to engage in such.

Asked on how they would ask for [email protected] without sounding needy or asking directly.

Most of them said, currently the best way to say it is by doing so indirectly.

“The best play is to just make a move, not say, ‘Can we have sex?’ Ask if ‘inaweza’.

Sheng is the in thing.

I decided to get the Sheng’ words the youths are using.

Check out the list. Some will use an indirect means to ask.

  • Uko home nikam?’
  • ‘Nataka therapy.’
  • ‘Zinadai mbaya.’
  • ‘Twende Pekejeng.’
  • ‘Kunyanduana.’
  • ‘Kulambana lolo.’

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Another friend came and joined the conversation and said for him, if the person they are asking for [email protected] from is their spouse, they will go direct.

Kama ni Mpango, ama Team Tangatanga, lazima ukue mjanjez, I mean you have to request like this,

  • ‘Kam tupike supper.’

Other Sheng words for [email protected] include,

  • ‘Mkunaji,
  • kusoma katiba,
  • piga miti,
  • Mombasa raha.’

Just so you know, the best [email protected] is the enthusiastic fun kind that happens naturally.

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Reasons why you should avoid online dating

How dangerous is online dating? Countless people have shared horrific experiences about what they thought was meeting a compatible date online, and the risks involved.


But it’s not always gloom. There are those who hit it off very well with potential online dates, and we are happy for them.
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It is easier for people to hing their real identity online because you never know them. One can pretend to be what they are not in terms of their gender and their physical appearance. They can send you photos which are not theirs. This can be a great disappointment when you know the truth especially if you had fallen for them.

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Hidden characters and behaviors

People tend to bring out their best behaviour online. At times they can send you googled messages that drive you crazy yet they are playing with your mind. One can be of best behavior to win your heart, then later reveal their dark past when you are hooked.


You have to learn that not everyone has good intentions with you. They may be psychopaths looking for victims to kill. You should avoid exchanging your photos and details with strangers because they may use them against you.

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Mutual connection

When you are in a relationship, the connection should be mutual. This helps in strengthening your bond and building your relationship. This happens when you spend most of your time together and get to know each other more.


When you are in a relationship with a person you have never met, the expectations of the person are ever high. You always expect them to be better or just as you see them online. When you meet and find the comparison differs then rejection comes in. You either reject them or you get rejected.

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You are likely going to be heartbroken when the person changes their character and behavior. People get tired of pretending and pleasing you as they were doing online and reveal their shocking true colors,

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The kindest ways to breakup with someone

Being dumped can be the most hurting thing to happen to someone especially if you never expected it.

Letting go of the person you love most is  also the hardest decision for one to make.

However this can be done in more easier and honest ways without hurting anyone’s feelings.

They include;

Ask for it

This is the best and easiest way to ask for a breakup. Tell your partner the reasons as to why you want to stay away from them. When you ghost someone without their knowledge, it will be hard for them to let go especially if they were never ready for it.

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Talk about it

Texting a person or making a phone call is not the coolest way of doing it. Talk with the person face to face and give her the reasons that led to your decisions. This will make them understand you and have a positive thought about the situation.

Give your partner time 

Once you have told your partner, give them time to think about it. Let them tell you what they think about your decision. Let it be a decision made between the two of you so as to avoid hurting feelings of other people.

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Be honest

Once you have decided to part ways with someone, be honest to them. Give them honest reasons why you think the relationship will not work anymore. Let them understand that you are the reason for it all and not them to prevent them from blaming themselves. Never lie to make them better because if they know the truth later on, they will never forgive you.

Mind your words

The way you bring out the words should be in the kindest and most humble way. Avoid using harsh words to them and make them take it in a more positive way.

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The expectations every son anticipates from their mother

Studies show that sons are more connected to their mothers than fathers. This creates a great bond between them that they can confide in them. However there are expectations that they normally want their mothers to meet.

Tokeo la picha la mother son relationships

They include;


Support is the number one expectation that every child expects from their parents. As boys grow they expect their mother to be with them in every step in life. He expects to be supported in whatever he needs to do and not what the mother wants him to do.

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When you restrict your son from doing what you think is not right for them, at times they end up being naughty. Give them the freedom they want but with precautions. This will actually create a strong bond of trust between the mother and son.

Role model

At one point in life, the son will grow into a man who will marry and start his family. They will hence look up to you in everything that you do and wish to have someone like you in the future. Most of the time, sons want women who are similar in character to their mother. They also look at what you do in life and tend to copy.

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A son needs to be guided at any point in life, in every step. They normally go through some emotional challenges hence need to be taught on how to overcome them. They also need guidance on how to handle a woman or girlfriends when the right time comes.

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This is the number one expectation from every child. They need to be loved and given all the care they deserve. This helps to create a good relationship between them.

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‘Actually I am happy,’ Vanessa responds to Jux’s relationship

Vanessa Mdee has been quiet for some time after her breakup.

This made most of her fans to think that she was hurt because her ex-boyfriend had moved on.

Vanessa broke the silence revealing that she had had nothing against Jux’s new relationship.

She said, ‘I’m not the first and the last to break up’

Tokeo la picha la vanessa mdee

Adding, ‘We had broken up like many months ago but we did not make it public. This is because we noticed it could affect most of our fans. I am not the first person to break up neither will I be the last its something normal.

Let people stop attacking me and seeing as if I am the bad one. People get married for years and they divorce after all.

When things do not work out well it is good to part ways. I am actually happy for Juma and I do respect him a lot. So this is the last time I am going to talk about this so whoever has a question should ask now.’

This is what told for her fans who had many unanswered questions in their minds.

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The artiste also thanked all those that supported her music and also urged them to maintain the spirit.

‘For those supporting my music thanks a lot and keep doing so. I am growing in the industry as well as Juma and everyone is happy. I am actually happy and wish them well.’ 

Below is a picture of Jux and his new girlfriend.

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Her fans were of the opinion that she had become more beautiful and happy since the breakup and were happy for her.

Is it because of the breakup?

Is she seeing someone else that makes her such happy?

These are some of the questions that most people were left asking because she seemed to be more glowed up and beautiful.

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The things that ladies should avoid while dating

Dating is very different from marriage. When dating there are mistakes that ladies make that mainly leads to heartbreak.

Here is what to avoid.


1. Sharing secrets

This might become a problem in case you two breakup.

No matter how much you love or trust a person, there is some personal information you don’t share.

This period also you might not have learnt the characters of that particular person.

The person may be acting well just to win your heart. Always be careful with the things you share

2. Living together

If you are not married to that person, living together should never cross your mind.

This is because you can either be kicked out anytime because you are not legally together.

There might be an incident of pregnancies and he may deny because you are not a couple.

Moving in should happen if you become legally married.

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3. Sharing your personal information

This includes things like passwords and bank details.

This should be for your own knowledge and not anyone else.

This can be dangerous because one can take that advantage of taking over your life, for example, hacking your phone and all that.

4. Being too comfortable

Do not be too comfortable in a dating relationship.

If there is no marriage ring in your finger then it means there can be someone else that is not you.

When you get too comfortable then you, later on, get dumped, it can really hurt you and get you emotional.

When you are legally married you can get a bit comfortable thereafter.

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5. Being a house wife

Do not give the man you are dating all reasons to think that you are his wife.

This includes doing laundry for him and doing his chores.

All this should be done when he marries you and become the wife.

This is because you may be actually doing all the good stuff for you yet he has another woman which may break you once you find out.

6. Telling your friends about your relationship

Always keep your friends out of your relationships.

Not everyone is your friend and happy for your progress in life.

Involving your friends in your relationships can actually lead to your breakups especially if they decide to turn against you.

What you have between you and your partner should remain a secret between the two of you.

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The best ways to spice your relationship with in-laws

Marriage can be the best thing especially when you in good terms with your in-laws. These are some of the things you can do to spice your relationship;

Compliment them

In-laws love to be complimented all the time. Anytime they do anything for you like giving you food or gifting you, compliment them and literally praise them. This will make them see how much you appreciate them and they will have no problems with you.

Be polite

Rudeness should not be part of your behavior if you want to keep a good relation. Always be polite to them and give them the respect that they deserve even if the favor is not returned back to you.

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 Ask them for advice

This will make your in-laws know how much you value them and their knowledge. In case you have any issue you can ask them for opinions. Let them know how their views are important to you and how their decisions are of great importance to you.

Gift them

When you go to the market or on a trip get them something small. This will make them know how much you care for them. Get them something that they like most that will capture their emotions.

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 Appreciate their son

If you want to have a good relationship with your in-laws, have a good relationship with their son first. When you love and respect your husband then you will not be having problems with them at all. Appreciate him and avoid ill talking your husband at all costs.

Lend a hand all the time

They normally like hardworking people that can do all sorts of work especially farm work. When you find for instance your mother in-law doing something lend some hand. They will love you because you are trying to get involved and helping them.

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Like them

Make an effort to always like your in-laws even though they are unlikable. They may be annoying at times but force yourself to show how much you love them. This will create a good relationship between you and them and you will not have any quarrels with them

Study them

This is your first assignment when you step in that family. Study your in-laws and learn how to interact and associate with them. This will help in maintaining peace in your marriage. Understand their weaknesses and strengths so as not to cross paths with them

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Habits you should avoid on the first date

The first impression is always very important because it gives a preview of the kind of person you are. These are some of the habits that you should avoid when on the first date;

Rudeness to service people

You have to try as much as possible to be kind. It is really a bad move when you start shouting at the waiter or talking rudely to them. If you don’t like the services there is always a polite way to address a mistake.

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This may make your date thinking that it is your way of addressing people and it may create a bad picture of your character.

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Talking about your past

You should have a flowing conversations that makes both of you comfortable. Try as much as possible to avoid talking too much especially about yourself. Always give the other person time to talk and express themselves. Do not talk about your ex in your conversation unless you have been asked. This may make the person think that you have not moved on. Try as much as possible to avoid that topic.


Bragging about anything should be out of topic. Talking about what you do, properties you own and the positive sides about you is not necessary. This may make the person to feel uncomfortable especially if your lifestyle is not compatible with theirs. Try to be one level so that you may get along and be free with each other.

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Being on your phone most of the time  

If it is possible you can switch off the phone or put it on silent. It is disrespectful to be on your phone when you are having a conversation with someone. This shows that you are either bored or not interested with whatever the person is telling you at all. The person may be having a great interest in you but once you show that behavior you will actually kill the vibe.


Bad manners

You should be of the best behavior when meeting someone. Avoid laughing unnecessarily especially if you are eating or talking very important issues. Make sure you observe all the table manners.

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In order to overcome all those ups and downs you have to accept the following facts;

Your decisions affect both parties

When you are single or dating, anything you do does not affect anyone else but you. You make decisions on your own and handle them in the best way you know how. This changes when you get married. The decision you make should fit both you and your partner. You literary have to consult your partner before doing something and decide on how to handle the situation at hand.

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 Your partner’s phone should not be a bother

This has really been a challenge to many marriages. If you want to have a happy relationship, your partners phone should not bother you at all. When you start interrogating about the contacts and messages you may raise doubts that can be either true or false. You may either misinterpret or misunderstand some texts and this can kill your marriage especially if you suspect you are being cheated on which may not be the case.


Attraction to other people

This is one fact that you must live with. When you are married it does not mean that you will not be attracted to other people. It maybe to a celebrity or even your colleague at work but it does not mean you are no longer attracted to your partner. It is your responsibility therefore as an individual to control your hormones and eyes so as not to be lured into cheating. This also applies to you as an individual. Marriage does not mean you will not attract other people.

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 You will be married to the family too

The sooner you accept this the better for you. This mainly affects the ladies and their in-laws. When you get married, it is not only to your husband but also his family as you become part of them too. In-laws can be a headache especially the mother in-laws. The best thing is to study your in-laws and know the best way to handle them as you will spend the rest of your lifetime with them and you have to keep a good relationship with them.

No financial paybacks

This changes in marriage because you become one and so you should not expect a payback on any cash you spend on your partner. You will be expected to do all these things wholeheartedly because of love and not because it’s your turn to return the favor. This will make you to keep your marriage happy and longer with peace.


‘I sleep with a banana stem to avoid HIV/Aids,’ brags city man

A Kenyan man has left may in shock after admitting that he sleeps with a banana plant (mgomba) to avoid the risk of getting infected with HIV/Aids.

*John* says he reached that decision after his uncle passed away after contracting the same disease.

I come from a very poor background, so my uncle – from my dads side – took the initiative of taking care of us. Buying us cloths and other things before death struck.

After my uncle’s death my mum assured me that he had been bewitched only for me to learn that he died from Aids.

It is then that I deiced not to risk dying of Aids, I decided to be sleeping with a banana plant (mgomba).”

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What I do is, I drill a hole and pour hot water into it before proceeding to fulfill my sexual urges. I cannot marry because I get my urges satisfied so why would I want a woman?

I have a girlfriend and that is the mgomba.

My parents have been pushing me to marry given that I am an only child and I am not interested despite the fact that I am 27 years old.

What would you advice John to do?

And what is the weirdest myth you have ever heard about HIV/Aids?

Put your answer in the comment section, they may help John change his mind and get a real human bae.

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‘I’ll get married when I want, marriage is no joke’ – Matilda of TRHK

Real House helps of Kawangware actress Matilda has revealed that she is not in a rush to get married. According to her, marriage is not an institution to be rushed into.

The sassy TV damsel addressed this topic during a live video interaction on social media after a majority of her fans raised the question whether she is married or not.

‘Why do people feel like marriage is easy? I have never been married before but thing I am sure of is that marriage is not an easy thing.

Marriage is a serious commitment it is not something you just wake and make a decision about.

I will get married when I want.

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Real House helps of Kawangware actress Matilda
Real House helps of Kawangware actress Matilda

She continued, “I cannot get married or have kids just because people want me to do so.

If I rush getting married and get into problems will the people asking me to get married now, help me out?”

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Kenya actress Matilda
Kenya actress Matilda

Matilda’s fans also wondered if she was a mother

No I am not a mother, yet. Most people confuse me with my fellow actress Njambi because she is the one who is a mother of one.

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‘Karma has caught up with me for sleeping with married men’ Cries woman

An article published in a local newspaper has left many in shock.

According to the article, a lodging owner earns Sh84,000 per day by providing bedding services to couples, when business is slow.

Well Maina Kageni was left wondering why men always say they do not have money yet according to the article on Standard, men pay sh1500 per hour entertaining women in lodgings.

That is minus drinks and other expenses.


A black couple on a date
A black couple on a date

According to Mwalimu King’ang’i, it depends on how a woman asks for money from her man, adding that if you nag and shout you will definitely get nothing.

A female caller confessed that years ago she used to date married men who spoilt her with loads of cash, but now her husband spends cash on other women instead.

‘5 years ago I was the side chick and I would get everything I wanted. Karma has caught up with me.

My husband does not come home, he does not give me money yet I lost my job two months ago.

He does not come home from Monday to Thursday. I only see him on Friday and only when he decides to come.

I never used to care whether the men I dated were married or not.

I know my man is cheating on me but I can only tell young women that Karma is a b#tch.


Another caller adds

Women should know that these guys are very cunning they make sure they are with their wife’s on weekends and spend time with mipango wa kando on weekends.

Every time I ask my husband for school fees he usually starts bringing issues of kwani where do I take my salary.

Once he steps out I usually know he is not mine but once he comes back he is mine.

If I ever catch him cheating that will be the end of the road.

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‘Mpango wa kando beat me up after dumping him,’ Narrates city woman

We all know many married men and women seek mpango wa kando services just for a short term thrill or rather use them as a distraction.

But according to one lady named Emily, her mpango wa kando got pretty attached to her thrills and could not stomach being dumped.

Emily said she noticed the mpango being too clingy and needy compared to her husband and told him she was thinking of ending the affair.

The man never took it lightly and when Emily started ignoring his calls, he made his way to her work place and pounced on her beating her up mercilessly.

Irked by his actions she planned to get one over him and this she did after the mpango wa kando invited her over for a chill out.

She tried to talk herself out of the relationship but he would not take no for an answer and the two ended up exchanging blows before breaking up.

Read her narration below.

Mimi nilikuwa na mpango wa kando na nikaona anakuja sana hata kuliko mzee wangu, na nikataka kumtoka. Nikajaribu mbinu zote kumtoka ikakataa.

Sasa siku ingine sikushika simu zake zote, wacha anikute job si aliniona war. Ushawahi ona mtu anapigwa na mpango aki ya mungu? Nilionwa war aki ya mungu.

Alinipiga kwa sababu nilitaka kumwacha sasa nami nikaamua dawa ya moto ni moto, akaniita mahali na nikaenda.

Nikamwambia mimi vile nilikwambia ni ivo, nikaona anataka kuleta fujo tulionana war sasa ni mtu na mwingine. Sasa ni kupigana, moto juu ya mwingine mpaka ikaisha ivo.

Unajua huwezi ambia bwana shida ni gani unamdanganya kuwa unaskia mwili ni mchovu, halafu anajua mimi ni mchokozi.


Male students more knowledgeable on contraceptives compared to ladies

The media is the main source of information about sex with internet (films/videos) being top of the list according to a recent research.

The research carried out by TIFA shows that the other main sources were school teachers.

Parents and religious leaders are not majorly considered as a preferred source of information on sex.



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The study also found out that half the students have had a discussion on sexual related matters at least once in the past 12months.

Female students are seen to have discussed more than males. The students mostly have discussions with their parents(either father,mother or both).

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 More than half the students have watched pornographic content with 62% being male students and 37% female.


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33% of the students interviewed have no idea that having unprotected sex once can resulting in  pregnancy.

However, 60% of the students are knowledgeable about the possibility of 1st time sex pregnancy.

25% of the students have engaged in sexual intercourse with the majority of them being male.Students start engaging in sex at the tender age of 13years.

43% of the students know someone who engaged in sex during the holidays, with the male students (48%) having more knowledge than the female students (30%).


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‘I have slept with nearly 100 men,’ Confesses Kenyan woman

A Kenyan lady by the name Rosy left many speechless after confessing that she has slept with close to a 100 men.

Interestingly, the lady who hails from Kiambu is convinced that she is not a prostitute but just a lady who loves having fun.

According to Rosy, a self confessed hard headed lady, she can’t tolerate a man who doesn’t treat her right and if she senses an ounce of disrespect which includes a weird eye contact, she will run and cheat!

Asked whether she uses protection in her sexual escapades, Rosy claimed that it is hard to do it on a regular, adding that she is blessed to have a talent which helps her detect whether a man is infected with STI’s or not.

Read her narration below.

Wacha nikwambie mimi nimeshacheza hiyo michezo hata ni mungu tu amenilinda, michezo nimecheza hata mwanaume atanioa najua ananiskiza. Hawezi nikosea nikose kwenda nje.

Hata akinitusi au anifanyie madharau akienda nami pia natoka, mimi hata akiniangalia na macho mbaya akienda kazini nami natoka.

Mimi nikama mayai anishike mkono, hata najua mwenye atanioa ananiskia akinikosea nami natoka.

How many men have you slept with?

Hata siwezi hesabu kwani wako karibu tisaini na kitu, lakini kila mwezi mimi huenda check up nikipimwa naskia niko sawa naskia sina magonjwa mengi nasema thank you Jesus.

Do you use protection?

Sio rahisi, wacha ni kwambie nikikuona na macho najua kama wewe ni mgonjwa au wewe ni mzima, hiyo ni kipawa nilipewa na mungu.

Do you consider yourself a prostitute?

Aii apana!

Cohabiting couples are more fearful of splitting up than married people

Almost four in ten families with unmarried parents are in danger of breaking apart, research suggests. Statistics show unmarried couples are more fearful.

While 39 per cent of cohabiting mothers and fathers had ‘serious doubts’ their family would stay together, only 27 per cent of married ones had similar concerns.


The findings were based on a survey of nearly 16,500 parents in 11 countries, including 2,344 from the UK. Scientists at the University of Virginia worked on the project for the US-based Institute for Family Studies.

When asked if their relationship was more important than other things in their life only 54 per cent of cohabitee parents put their partnership first.

By contrast, 71 per cent of married parents said their relationship was their top priority.


Post Valentines: Ways to still spice up your relationship

Valentines is long gone, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep things heated up.

You need to still spice up your relationship and make your relationship fun.

These are some of the things you should do to keep the fire burning;

1. Cook for your spouse 

Everyone loves home made food and preparing dinner for your partner will definitely get you in the mood. This will make them feel appreciated, loved and thought of. Make his/her favorite meal he/she will love it more.

valentines dinner

2. Random Gifts

If you got her something on valentines then it doesn’t end there. She will feel special when you send her some random flowers to the office and some chocolate or when you get her something that she needs.

valentines gift

This also applies to ladies, gift him when he doesn’t expect it and surprise him. Show him that you also think of him.

3. Date night

Set a side a day and go for dinner. Both of you should dress up like it’s your first date. Ladies, make your hair buy a nice dinner dress, make your nails and impress him. Men, get a clean nice fitting suit and get a fresh haircut. Make the date worth the while. Don’t wait for valentines day.

valentines datenight

4. Road trip

Save up and plan for a road trip to a far destination and spend some quality time together. Enjoy each others time, take sometime out of your busy lives. Learn each other more, talk and even play.

valentines dateish

5. Movie night together

This can be a movie date to the cinemas and also a movie night in the comfort of your home. But the experience of watching a movie together is a definite plus one in spicing up your relationship. This will definitely feel like valentines day.

valentines movie


Top 9 signs he is just a waste of your time

When you start hanging out with someone, it can take a while to figure out where you actually stand. Maybe you’ve had fun hanging out, and hooking up, but how do you decide whether or not this should be something more? Is this just going to be a fling is he wasting your time or is this something real?

It can be hard to tell, especially when you really like someone. Sometimes your romantic feelings can get in the way of seeing who they really are, and you might waste time trying to turn a hook-up into a relationship when you should have just walked away.

Well you still have to be honest with yourself. Below are red flags to know he is just a waste of your time & you have to cut the cord;

  • Been together for long but no title to the relationship.

Girl, either ask him to define where both of you stand or walk out. He’s wasting your time boo!

  • If he moves too fast.

Not talking of physical, but already calling you boo/babe, talking of moving in together whereas you have known each other for less than a month. Get to be friends first. No relationship flourishes without a good friendship base. When the love runs out you can’t stick together.

  • If you start dating two months or less after his break up with a 1 year or more relationship.

I mean that sounds more of a rebound & more likely, he might still be in love with the ex. Honestly you wouldn’t expect him to be over her that fast. An exemption would be, if you had a thing going on before his break up which is not any better.

  • There’s no emotional connection.

Hooking up is fun, but there is so much more to a relationship. But a true connection goes beyond getting dinner and going to a movie. Maybe you just need to get to know each other better, or maybe he has no interest in getting to know you on that level. If that’s the case, you deserve so much better, and you need to find someone who wants that deep connection.

  • When together but always on phone

Picking up calls or texting clearly, he would rather be somewhere else or doing something else than spend time with you or have a solid one on one conversation.

  • If he doesn’t show interest in your hobbies.

Sometimes, we end up dating people who are extremely different from us. It’s okay to have totally different hobbies and interests as long as the two of you share some of the same core values. But what if he doesn’t take any interest in your hobbies at all? That’s a huge red flag.

  • If he brings down your self esteem.

He should make you feel beautiful and confident, not insecure. However, some men just don’t respect women and will not treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. If he ever makes rude comments about your body, suggests that you should wear more makeup, or change something about your appearance, you should think very seriously about whether or not this is truly the person you want to be with.

  • He blows off plans.

You make plans to spend time together but by the middle of the week, he has forgotten like it’s least of his concerns. There’s no point in trying to make plans with someone who is just going to blow them off in the end. You deserve to be with someone who really cares about spending plenty of time with you.

  • If he breaks promises.

One of the most important aspects of any relationship is trust. If you can’t really trust someone but doubt, how can you be friends with them, let alone date them?