SO SAD: 25-year-old Bar Stabbed To Death By Lover In West Pokot

A 25 year-old bar attendant was stabbed to death in Makutano town, West Pokot by her lover after the two quarreled on Friday night.

Area OCPD Anthony Wanjuu said Becky Ekidor was stabbed on the left side of her abdomen before being dumped by the roadside.

“This was after she was chased away from her place of work by the man who was identified as Cock Barasa,” he said.

“The suspect was drinking at the bar when he all over a sudden turned against the woman. The patrons fled after the suspect removed a knife from his jacket pocket.”

He said Becky managed to escape but was pursued by the suspect who reportedly stabbed her outside the bar.

The body was taken to Kapenguria county hospital mortuary awaiting postmortem.

The OCPD urged all bar owners to be screening their customers before they gain entry into the premises.

“It seems like the suspect had planned to murder the lady because he was armed with a knife while in the bar,” Wanjuu said.

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Thika man kills lover and hangs self over breakup

A Thika man on strangled his lover and hanged himself after she demanded they break up.The bodies of Timothy Ndirangu, 23, and Grace Wanjiru, 27, a teacher at a nearby primary school, were found at their home yesterday morning.

“A pungent smell was coming from their house and when I peeped through the window I saw Ndirangu hanging and Wanjiru was lying in the bed. I notified the village elder who called the authorities,” resident David Ndito said.

Ndirangu, a welder, separated from his wife and mother of two children when he took Wanjiru as his lover.

Wanjiru’s cousin Grace Kimani said the two had been fighting for two weeks after Wanjiru said she wanted to end their relationship.

Maguguni residents mill around the police landcruiser carrying the bodies of Timothy Ndirangu and Grace Wanjiru on Monday./JOHN KAMAU

Maguguni residents mill around the police landcruiser carrying the bodies of Timothy Ndirangu and Grace Wanjiru on Monday./JOHN KAMAU

 

“Last week on Thursday he threatened to kill her and she reported the matter at Ngoliba police station, where they were both summoned. They were made to sign affidavits declaring not to fight again,” she said.

Her cousin settled in the village last October.

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“On Friday evening I called my cousin and she told me she was headed home, where they had just settled with her boyfriend. But when I called her again on Saturday she didn’t respond,” Kimani said. “I didn’t bother because I thought that she was at work. I came to learn of the what befell her today.”

Kimani said she warned her cousin to leave Ndirangu and move away from the village after he threatened to kill her.

“She failed to heed to my advice…Ndirangu was bitter and accused her of messing his life and causing problems between him and his family members,” she said.

Ndirangu’s father Musyoka Musembi said his son was hardworking. He accused Wanjiru of meddling in his son’s life and breaking up his family.

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Is it true that women lose their freedom after marriage asks Maina Kageni in eyeopening discussion (AUDIO)

Is it true that women have to give up their freedom once married to make the marriage work?

If you are married, have you found that you have had to compromise some things to please your partner?

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your married life a lot easier and a lot happier. We hold on to so many things that cause a great deal of stress and frustration in our relationships – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing our relationships to flourish and blossom – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today you will give up on all those things that no longer serve you, and you will embrace change. Starting today you will make your marriage work, according to relationship expert Luminita D. Saviuc . Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your unrealistic expectations

2. Give up control

3. Give up possessiveness

4. Give up criticism

5. Give up the need to fix your partner

6. Give up your jealous behavior

7. Give up on your fears

8. Give up the chase for perfection

9. Give up on blame

10. Give up the need to always be right

11. Give up living your life according to the other person’s expectations

12. Give up your clingy behavior

13. Give up asking for more than you give

14. Give up your emotional baggage

15. Give up attachment

Listen to the audio to see if people have had to give up any of the above

 

 

Why women say ‘all men are trash’ (AUDIO)

 

For the longest time ever, we have heard women classify all men as ‘dogs’, while men have vehemently denied they are, saying that the faults of one should not result in a generalization of all men.

This is the one thing that Mwalimu Kingang’i wanted to ask female callers, but was a little scared to say it loud.

Perhaps he feared the women battalion and their response. So Maina Kageni did it on his behalf asking girls why they generalize all men as dogs.

One woman said, ‘When we get hurt by a man we bounce right back, while when they are hurt by one woman it becomes a problem.

Another said, marriage is just over-ratted. It doesn’t bother me when a man wants to dog us. Its not the end of the world. Women get emotionally frustrated, just because of a man? Kwani what is so special about these men? A man will not torment me, I need to focus on my career and children, if he has a problem he can go back to his mother., an emotional woman shouted.

Anther one said, ‘Men are just men, they are human beings like us, we can also make our decisions. Tell them not to think they are brighter than us’.

Purity Ng’ethe….
@ItsMainaKageni its a fact you see how dogs go around sniffing around every corner thats how these men are.. same characters with this animal have you even seen a hen with such habits and men will always be men want to sniff everywhere #MainaAndKingangi
Zippy Mwikali‏…
Replying to @Charity04544721 @ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya
It’s like all men come from one family all together, the characters may be different but the result is all the same #MainaAndKingangi
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#MainaAndKingangi Wen we get hurt by a man, we bounce right back up and still treat the next relnship with respect and compassion. Men, on the other hand get hurt by one woman & use it as an excuse to treat all future partners like complete garbage, so y cmplans? @ItsMainaKageni
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@Classic105Kenya @ItsMainaKageni #MainaAndKingangi @lusava_alfred @Charity04544721 ….true the caller is right…don’t run into a Marriage because you want a Man…men are all the Same..its okay to be SINGLE. Habari Ndio hiyo Mwalimu.

Habari ndio hio.

Listen to the audio below of a rather interesting debate between men and women regarding this accusation.

 

Achana Na Slay Queens: High School Principal Warns Students Against Romance Or Else

A leading public school headteacher has warned pupils he will give them a ‘worse reference’ for university – if they have a sweetheart in school.

Toby Belfield, principal at £34,500-a-year Ruthin School in Wales, wrote in an email to staff that he ‘strongly disapproves’ of pupils being in romances with each other.

He warned a list of sanctions against would-be school sweethearts – including expulsion and marked-down uni references.

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Mr Belfield said anyone in year 11 or the lower sixth form usually aged 15 to 17 would be expelled if found to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in school.

In his email to staff, Mr Belfield said: ‘School is not the place for romantic relationships – ever.

‘I STRONGLY disapprove of any boyfriend/girlfriend relationships – and it will ALWAYS affect any university reference I write (meaning – any student in a relationship will definitely get a worse reference from me).

‘Relationships can start at university – not at Ruthin School.

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‘I will be talking to staff and, as in previous years, I will put together a list of any student with a boyfriend or girlfriend. These students – if in L6 (lower sixth form) or F5 (year 11) can expect to find new school in September.

‘There are plenty of students that wish to attend Ruthin School without the diversion of romance – and these students can replace those students whose focus is on bf/gf relationships.’

Mr Belfield is headteacher of the ancient fee-paying school in Ruthin, North Wales, which is ranked number 12 in the Times 2017 A Level League Tables.

In February last year leaked emails to staff showed him ranting about female pupils wearing skirts that ‘look like they are going to a nightclub’ and ‘pathetic students pretending to be ill’, after looking for ways to dismiss students whose parents had already paid their fees.

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“Everyone has the right to be interested in anyone,” says openly bi-sexual upcoming Kenyan model

Gone are the days when people were scared of being labeled gay or lesbian. This is according to upcoming Kenyan nude art photography model Purple Bloom.

The beauty says that “the days people are open minded about the issue so there’s really no one on my side who’s treated me differently or criticized me.”

She told me during my casual, on record conversation with her. Bloom says that she encounters people who try to persuade her to be a certain way, but she feels that gender should not be a barrier to dating.

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“People say that I’m too pretty to date the same sex and that I should try them first. However, I’m not gender biased; I think sexuality is fluid so whoever I find myself connected to, I go with the flow,” she reveals.

Speaking of the experience that led her to try dating the opposite sex, Bloom says that she once “tried maybe one or two guys but didn’t work out.” However, she is not completely done with the males.

“I have really ‘ditched’ guys. Like I said sexuality is fluid. Everyone has the right to be interested in anyone. Right now with a girl because we connect on a lot of levels. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t date a guy.”

Some notable gender fluid celebrities around the world include Miley Cyrus, Ruby Rose and Steven Tyler.

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Meet the TV presenter who discovered she was a side chick on Christmas day (Photos)

Ouch! Hurts right?

Well, a Nigerian TV presenter-cum-actress in Nigeria sadly over the festive period discovered some rather hurtful facts.

All along as she was dating, she assumed she was the main chick, only on Christmas day to find out she was the side chick.

The TV presenter Layole Oyatogun penned down a letter to herself, after discovering the shocking news. Girls, what would you do at a time when humanity is celebrating love, togetherness and family?

It turns out she went to pay him a visit on Christmas day and she couldn’t get into the house. According to her accounts of the incident, he was inside with another chick.

He heartfelt note in part read;

‘Year 2017 was a nasty era In October I lost my dearest mum, my one true rock!!On Christmas day I found out I was the side chick. I couldn’t get in because my boyfriend had another girl in his house. I have closed the chapter called 2017 in my life.’ She surmarized her experience.

Welcome 2018! For a while I’ve been waiting for you, waiting to turn this chapter, waiting for this chance to begin anew! pray tell me, will you be good to me? PLEASE WILL YOU?
Year 2017 was a nasty era, I remember in January of that year I made the proverbial proclamation..”this year is my year”, I disown it now, too many trials on top tribulation. In October i lost my dearest mum, my one true rock!
On Christmas day i found out I was the side chick! I couldn’t get in because my boyfriend had another girl in his house, the list goes on. I have closed the chapter called 2017 in my life, I won’t curse it, won’t nurse it, even rehearse it in the least bit, But surely, however slowly, i will disperse it so God can reverse it.
Don’t get me wrong, still I’m grateful for a lot! life, health and a whole lot more cos just like gold, i went through the fire but came back super lit! I give God all the glory.
2018!!! I have found strength within.. So lets take it from here, let’s take this amazing journey together. With God & guts, UNSTOPPABLE is the word.

Happy New Year People!

In another post, she penned a note to herself as advice for the new year.

Check out the beautiful TV presenter.

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City Girl Confesses Of Her Thirst For Her Sister’s Husband

Staying with relatives is not easy. Some will always stir trouble and others do anything that will break up your marriage.

A city girl who stays with her elder sister who is married has confessed that whenever she sees her brother-in-law (her sister’s husband), she becomes horny and always has that urge to having sexual intercourse with him.

“I stay with my elder sister and I am very horny, the only person on my mind is her husband. I just can’t stop thinking of him, and he is reading in his study room and I just feel like doing something crazy like an adventure. I am fighting it but it is fighting back. Please, what should I do now? I have had my bath 4 times, I have prayed, I am even listening to music as I type but my wetness is dripping and he is the one I am missing,” she wrote.

Check out some reactions;

Favour.nkem: Wicked sister. Mercy🙌

Mamiibeji: Thunder fire you, daughter of Jezebel

Omattutee: Your wetness is dripping… No that’s not normal

Ediaries: What happened to your fingers madam

Oreke: Holy ghost Fire!!!

Neyomi: Hoe…go and look for ur own man… Don’t spoil a good home haba mana the things our own blood do to us these days is crazy.. Apologies to Sodom and Gomorrah

Ms_opemipo: Sigh! This life is just hard!

Alynn: It wouldn’t be good lusting and sleeping with ur sister’s husband. Do the right thing.

Adeesuwaa: This is why I will neva accommodate any sister or friends in my house😡if you spend more dan 1hr I will so pursue the person before you start hearing it’s the work of the devil ❌

Lerrybrixton:  Are you crazy, your sister’s husband, then you’ve ruined ya life

Solomon: Your sister’s husband. Go and masturbate, or call one of your exes to come eat his left over. But please please, leave that man alone. It’s because of people like you that women are scared to invite family to stay.

Taymetorpeh: You are a complete home wrecker!

Makakene: Carry your load and leave that house in Jesus name, amen  .

Shona_dtease: Imagine him fucking you and your sister walking in and seeing you too, then she goes back without you two noticing and she goes to the kitchen to boil hot water, then she comes back and pour the boiled water on you and your skin starts to peel and you’re in excruciating pain……………keep imagining how deformed and butter you’ll be for the rest of your life just because your pussy swallowed your sense……..I’m sure the imagination would help

Lady_hollar: This is actually a mental disorder, u need to see a doctor.

Ivy: Why do you have eyes on your sister’s husband?

 

Six Reasons Why Mr Good Enough Is Better Husband Material Than Mr Right Whom You May Never Meet

Still in desperate pursuit of ‘The One’? It might be time to take a look around you – because you’ve probably already met him.

According to MailOnline sex expert, Tracey Cox, Mr Good Enough is better husband material than the elusive Mr Right – and chances are he’s already your best friend.

As Tracey explains, we may put the men we get along with well, who don’t cause us problems, call when they’re supposed to and love us to pieces in the friend basket, but these men are actually the ones we should be spending the rest of our lives with.

Here, she shares six reasons why giving up the search for Mr Right and going for Mr Good Enough will lead you to a happy, long-lasting and loving relationship.

 

1. Rollercoaster relationships are bad news

Is there anyone out there post 35 who doesn’t think SATC’s Carrie Bradshaw made a huge mistake in marrying Big rather than the sweet, kind, dependable Aidan?

Big made lots of grand gestures but didn’t even turn up to his own wedding!

Yes he was handsome and rich but where does that get you if the guy’s flakier than a pastry?

Rollercoaster relationships are hugely exciting when you’re younger: you thrive on the drama of them, convinced that the massive highs and lows are a sign of true passion.

But when we’re older and wiser, sensible people realise they’re a sign of incompatibility not true love.

2. Update your ‘must have’ partner list

‘Steady does it’ might not be the sexiest saying you’ve heard but reliability is a massive plus in a husband and a father.

Dependable, supportive, thoughtful, kind, generous – you wouldn’t dream of putting these attributes on your ‘Must have partner list’ when you were young.

Back then, it’s all about ‘Must be tall, ‘Must be great in bed’, ‘Must be rich’, ‘Must have blonde hair’.

When you’re older, the list changes – and it should do!

The qualities that appeal for short-term flings are very different to what works long-term.

A partner for life is just that: someone you have to spent pretty much every single day with until you die (or split).

Think about it logically: is it hot sex and good looks that are going to keep you interested for the next 30 years? Or a good sense of humour? Who is going to keep you sane when the kids are flinging food all over the kitchen for the 65th time that week?

Happy Ever After is about having a teammate, someone who is on your side, watching your back.

Handsome and sexy are nice but they’re not crucial ingredients.

3. A slow burn is better that a hot fire

Instant, passionate love – the sort we’ve been taught to believe is ‘real’ love – is like a wild fire.

There’s a spark and suddenly it’s raging, engulfing everything in its path.

Love that’s based on friendship and compatibility starts quietly.

 

It can take a while before there’s even a tiny flicker but if you nurture it, it builds slowly but consistently.

Passionate love has a high likelihood of burning out because it puts people on high pedestals and tends to involve idealisation.

The sort of people who think passionate love is the only relationship worth considering are often idealists; romantic fantasists who are easily disappointed when their lovers turn out to be human and imperfect.

4. Too much too soon blinds us to the real person

Strong feeling and emotion very early into a relationship isn’t necessarily a good thing for another reason: new sex and falling in love can blind us to what’s really in front of us.

We fall in love with the idea of being in love before we really get to know the person.

Love that starts as friendship or I-really-like-them-but-not-sure-if-I-fancy-them is built on a foundation of things that matter.

You keep seeing those people not for their looks or sexual appeal but because you like their personality and sense of humour; they’re kind to you and great company.

These qualities aren’t transient: unlike looks or sex appeal they last the test of time.

5. But what about sex?

True, chemistry is helpful when it comes to sex and you obviously need to find the person attractive in some way for the relationships to work romantically.

But familiarity breeds lust: research shows the more we like someone, the more attractive they get.

Just because they didn’t blow your socks off attraction wise on date one, two or three doesn’t mean they won’t a few weeks or months in.

The more we get to know someone, the more attractive qualities you’ll see.

We’ve all watched a couple where one or both change over the years.

Put someone you couldn’t possibly fancy in different clothes, give them a new hair cut and a confidence boost and you might be very surprised by how you feel.

Besides, they just might have something else under their belt – great technique.

Nothing is more important for satisfying, long-term sex than good technique.

They might not be a 10 in the looks department but that doesn’t mean they won’t be a 10 in bed!

Less attractive people are more likely to have their sexual skills than Mr or Mrs Sex On Legs because they know they can’t just coast on their looks.

(Also, remember, technique can be taught. You can turn anyone into a fantastic lover if you tell them what you want and crave.)

6. Liking someone is more important than loving someone

Recent US research – 50 years worth – studied couples to find out the secrets to making a relationship last.

Not surprisingly, they found ‘being able to talk and laugh’ as one of the top four qualities.

If you can laugh during times of greatest stress, there is enormous potential for survival and growth, say the researchers.

Go for the guy who listens and makes you laugh and you can’t go wrong.

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Things Not To Ask Your Hubby To Do. Because They Will Mess Them Up (Hilarious Photos)

Women are often convinced that they’re better at doing things around the house – and these pictures might just prove it.

Ladies have taken to social media to share snapshots of the times they asked their partners to tend to household chores and childcare duties – with laugh out loud results.

Clearly put out by being asked to carry out mundane chores, some men used the opportunity to play a prank on their wives, while others were feeling so lazy that their attempts at helping backfired in epic fashion.

Women have shared snapshots of the times they asked their partners to tend to household chores and childcare duties – and the results, including this attempt at fixing the toilet, may make them wish they’d just done it themselves

Some of the tasks included put some pasta on the stove,  buy six potatoes for dinner, hang their mirror among other chores…
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Heartbroken city girls reveal the warning signs they missed…

They say you should always trust your gut, and in a relationship that couldn’t be more important.

New couples can sometimes be so wrapped up in the romance and excitement that they overlook vital warning signs that love is going awry.

Taking to the anonymous confessions app, Whisper, men and women shared the red flags that popped up in their old relationships.

One woman said that her ex told her that she couldn’t play interactive video games because it meant she would be chatting with other people.

Another said that her ex wanted to keep their relationship a secret because he ‘didn’t believe in labels’.

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Love Is Blind! Kenyan Woman Narrates How She Fell In Love With A Chinese Man..Very Beautiful!

Tribalism, racism are just some of the major challenges people face especially when it comes to relationships.

Many are forbidden by their families from marrying from different tribes and even races but as the days go by, it seems things are changing and our families are becoming more open to intermarrying from different cultures.

Well, a Kenyan lady recently left many shocked after she revealed how she fell in love with a Chinese man.

According to the woman, just like any other woman, the idea of marrying a Chinese man never crossed her mind but one day, things happened.

Here is here full story;

“The idea of dating or marrying a Chinese man never really crossed my mind before until when they came to our area. That’s probably the last thing you expected to hear from a Kenyan woman, but it’s true.

I draw a blank on Chinese men, apart from one simple thing. I assumed they weren’t dating material for me, and I wasn’t alone.

It made sense to me. I had only ever forged friendships with foreign Asian men at the university, feeling romance was never a possibility and had yet to move past “Hello” with any of the Chinese men at work, who almost never noticed when I smiled or waved at them while passing by. I never saw black women dating Asian men on television or in the movies. It was as if the universe decreed that there was a racial and cultural line that I was never meant to cross if I wanted to find love.

But a little over a month after this Chinese company settled in my area, Yao came into my life, I remember that day he was dressed in a black leather jacket. When my heart raced after our first dinner together, I thought it was just another youthful crush, a mistaken flirtation. Yet as Yao and I spent more time together, I realized that I loved him deeply – and that he reciprocated my feelings.

My relationship with Yao didn’t last, but he ultimately opened my heart up to the possibility of marrying someone from China. It took me a couple of date nights to realize that my assumptions about dating a Chinese – about dating Asian men overall — were a lie.

My relationship with Yao taught me that love can happen anywhere, as long as you let your heart entertain every possibility of happiness, even the happiness least expected.

Of course, dating and loving a Chinese is a different experience from Kenya. I’ve discovered that, when it comes to loving a Chinese man, actions matter much more than the typical ways that Kenyans show their love. Unlike in Kenya, where it’s common for couples to bond over swapping “war stories” of past relationships, my husband prefers not to discuss my past or his. I’ve found that meeting the parents, something that sometimes never happens in Kenya is a big deal in China and means you’re serious, which is why my husband waited over a half a year to take me home with him. These differences remind me that there’s not necessarily one right way to love someone, and they’ve opened me up to new perspectives on what it means to be in a relationship and a marriage.

By the time I met Jun in 2016, I had already imagined a Chinese husband in my future. After all, I had never felt more alive with anyone than a Chinese man or anywhere than in China, a country that ignited my passion for foreign languages and writing. I realized that a new reality made sense to me – calling someone from China my family. With the encouragement of a mutual friend, I found myself falling in love with Jun’s gentle personality, his handsome looks reminiscent of the famous Chinese diver Tian Liang, his interest in existential philosophy, his dreams of a future in service to humanity, and the way he made me laugh again and again. He was perfect for me and still is.

Sometimes, the best things in life come about when you’re willing to transcend your past and embrace a completely different future…or husband.”

This article originally appeared HERE

 

8-year-old boy killed with a hammer by mom’s ex boyfriend while protecting sister from molestation

A Californian eight-year-old boy was beaten to death by his mother’s ex-boyfriend while he was trying to protect his younger sister from molestation.

Dante Daniels was attacked by Deandre Chaney Jr., 23, with a hammer on September 1st in South Sacremento, California. He never made it to his second day of third grade.

According to a criminal report, Chaney Jr. was engaged in the crime of committing a lewd act on Danae, Dante’s seven-year-old sister.

‘Trying to save his sister from this child molester, and that’s why he was beat the worst,’ said Dante’s grandmother, Monique Brown, to KFVS 12.

The suspect also used a hammer and knife on Danae, as well as their mother, 28-year-old Elizabeth Salone.

He is also said to have used lighter fluid.

Dante was declared brain dead following the attack and died six days later.

Both his sister and mother survived, but Brown has said that Monique won’t be able to see out her left eye and Danae will need a lot of help.

And the grandmother believes her little one is a hero, even after death.

‘Dante gave his heart to a 4-year-old In Southern California, so a 4-year-old lives because of [him],’ Brown added.

Along with murder and attempted murder charges, Chaney Jr. also faces a charge for lewd acts with a child under 14.

A Gofundme has been set up to raise money for the family.

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Pepo Mbaya! Kenyan University Student Commits Suicide After Suspecting Her Boyfriend Was Cheating On Her (Photos)

On 10th September, the world marked the annual Suicide Prevention Day and since then, we have lost more lives.

Many including motivational speaker Catherine Njeri, fitness trainer Jame Mukami came out to share their horrifying stories hoping to reach out with a positive message to those with suicidal thoughts, but it seems a lot needs to be done. As a country, we need to create awareness on this special day.

“MENTAL AND SPIRITUAL HEALTH DRIVES EVERYTHING IN OUR LIVES, INCLUDING PHYSICAL HEALTH AND FITNESS. UNFORTUNATELY, MY BROTHER WAS NOT IN A MENTALLY GOOD SPACE AND CHOSE TO TAKE HIS LIFE 7 MONTHS AGO.

 

IF THERE IS 1 THING THAT’S GUARANTEED, IT’S THAT LIFE WILL HAPPEN. LIFE WILL CHALLENGE US AND THE TRUTH IS SANITY IS RELATIVE, ALL IT TAKES IS 1 BAD INCIDENT TO BREAK OUR SPIRIT SENDING US ON A DOWNWARD SPIRAL. 22 VETERANS/EX-MILITARY COMMIT SUICIDE EVERY SINGLE DAY (IN THE US) AND THAT NUMBER INCREASES WITH NON EX-MILITARY SUICIDES. SUICIDE ATTEMPTS HAPPEN EVERY SINGLE DAY. LET’S ACKNOWLEDGE THAT MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES ARE VERY REAL AND NEED TO BE CATERED TO THE SAME AS ANY OTHER DISEASE.

 

LET’S PAY ATTENTION TO OUR LOVED ONES, THOSE WHO SURVIVE IN SILENCE AND ISOLATION. LET’S LET THEM KNOW WE LOVE THEM, AND TRY TO GET THEM TO OPEN UP. IF THAT DOESN’T WORK, DON’T GIVE UP ON THEM AND DON’T BE EMBARRASSED TO SOLICIT HELP FROM FRIENDS, DOCTORS, PSYCHIATRISTS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, ANYONE THAT CAN CONNECT WITH THEM, GET THEM TO OPEN UP + PULL THEM OUT OF THEIR DARK HOLE OF DESPAIR.

 

I MISS MY BROTHER TERRIBLY AND MY HOPE IS THAT YOU DO NOT LOSE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF SOMETHING YOU COULD HAVE PREVENTED. LET’S GO THE EXTRA MILE IN LOVE, GRACE AND COMPASSION FOR EACH OTHER #BROTHERSKEEPER,” Jane Mukami wrote reminiscing hEr late brother.

Well, a  22-year-old Kabianga University student Hellen Nyambura Kinyanjui has committed suicide in a suspected love triangle. The fourth-year student was on Wednesday found hanging from a rope tied to the roof of her rented house at Chepnyogaa trading centre, Kericho county.

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Ms Nyambura, who was pursuing a degree in Communication and Public Relations, suspected that her boyfriend was cheating on her hence she decided to commit suicide.

“She was emotional and easily moved by happenings”, said Nyambura’s close friend who didn’t want to be named.

Ms Mary Masitsa, an alumni of Kabianga university who lives in the area where the late used to stay, told the Nation that Ms Nyambura left an unfinished meal thought to have been prepared before she committed suicide.

“She was a first born in a family of four and a mother of one girl”, said Ms Masitsa.

Adding that Ms Nyambura has been suicidal and she first attempted to take her life while still in second year.

“She is said to have attempted suicide while in second year.”

 

The Officer Commanding Police Division (OCPD) of the area Ferald Mbae said Nyambura’s body was discovered after her neighbours reported a foul smell emanating from her house.

“Nyambura’s neighbours reported that a smell of a decomposing body was emanating from her house, and that flies were many in her house, which had been locked from the inside. Police broke her door to gain entry into the house, where they found her hanging from a manila rope tied to the roof,” said Mbae.

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“She had no other injuries other than those caused by the nylon rope around her neck. Initial reports point to romantic relationship ‘problems but we are still investigating the circumstances under which she took her life.”

This comes barely a week after a man killed his lover in Molo and later committed suicide.

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Right : Past photo of Hellen Nyambura Kinyanjui and Left; her body transferred to the mortuary (Left)

Don’t Say Sorry When Rejecting Somebody, Please Don’t! Scientists Explain Why

Getting out of lunch with a work colleague, or skipping Friday-night drinks with your flatmate, is usually as easy as saying ‘I’m sorry’.

But a recent study found that apologising can make rejection feel worse, even thought it may make you feel better.

Researchers at Dartmouth College discovered that saying sorry can make the rejected person feel like they should offer forgiveness, even if their feelings don’t match up.
And the wounded party is more likely to take revenge.

The study’s authors examined more than 1000 participants, to understand how different individuals reacted to being snubbed.

Firstly, the participants, including 600 members of the public and more than 480 psychology students, were asked to respond to various situations in which they would reject a social invitation
For all the situations, participants had to come up with a good way of rejecting Taylor.

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The researchers then had volunteers read the rejections and evaluate how hurtful each response was.

They found that 39 percent of participants were found to have issued an apology in their rejections, which were found to increase hurt feelings.

Apologies for the lunch and roommate scenarios, in particular, made volunteers feel worse.

Their feelings were only marginally hurt in the party scenario, and not at all in the date rejection.

In another experiment, researchers tested whether people would seek revenge after a rejection.

The team had 135 participants meet face-to-face after they had been rejected by a planted volunteer, who they were set up to work with on a series of group tasks.

The volunteer would politely reject the participants’ request to work on the group task, with some participants receiving an apology and some not.

One of the group tasks involved a hot sauce taste test, and rejected participants were asked to decide how much hot sauce the group had to taste.

In some instances, the planted volunteer would say that they hated spicy food before leaving the room.

Those who received an apology were more likely to take revenge and give the group more hot sauce, even if they knew that their peer hated the condiment.

‘We know that people often don’t want to admit that they have hurt feelings, so in some of the studies, we looked at how much people wanted to seek revenge,’ explained lead researcher Dr. Gili Freedman

‘As predicted, rejections that contained the words ‘I’m sorry’ led to worse outcomes than rejections without apologies; participants allocated more hot sauce,’ the authors wrote.

‘The participants believed the confederate did not like spicy food and, therefore, the greater allocation likely reflected a hostile act designed to hurt the confederate.’

Finally, researchers tested whether rejections with apologies affect forgiveness.

Participants were shown videos of real-life rejections, some with apologies and some not.

The study found that people were more likely to feel as if the rejected party should express forgiveness if an apology was given.

While an apology may have good intentions, the researchers believe it can also be a selfish act.

Dr Freedman said: ‘It is possible that rejectors may feel better about themselves if they apologize.

‘We intend to examine when rejectors are motivated to feel better about themselves and when they would rather put the rejectee’s needs ahead of their own.’

The study’s findings were published last month in the journal Frontiers in Psychology.

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Father of four drinks poison as kids watch after quarrel

Residents of a village in Gigil are in shock after a father of four committed suicide following a domestic quarrel with the wife.

The man said to be a carpenter, drunk a farm chemical in Nagum village as his children watched and was pronounced dead on arrival at a nearby health center.

The man had earlier in the day travelled from Gilgil town to the village where the family resides before he decided to take his life in unclear circumstances.

A neighbor Johnston Kirathe told how they were attracted to the home by screams ,only to find the man in pain and writhing on the ground.

He said that efforts to rush him to hospital were thwarted by lack of a vehicle adding that it took over an hour for the man to get medical services.

“He passed on while undergoing treatment in the local health center and the body has been taken to Gilgil hospital mortuary,” he said.

Meanwhile, scores of workers involved in the construction of the SGR in Mai Mahiu Naivasha were injured after they clashed with local youths over employment opportunities.

At one point, the group blocked the busy Mai Mahiu-Narok highway before riot police officers moved in and contained the situation.

During the incident, the irate youths attacked the workers saying they were the reason for their unemployment in the area.

One of the youths Patrick Kamau said the Chinese contractor involved in the construction had decided to hire youths from other areas without considering them.

Kamau said all the workers who were working on the Nairobi-Mombasa SGR line had been brought to work for the second phase, a move he termed as wrong.

“We are perturbed by this latest move by the contractor because we agreed earlier on that youths from this area would be considered for employment once the works begin,” he said.

Mai Mahiu OCS Ezra Sambu said all the youths who were attacked were safe adding that security had been intensified at the SGR sites.

“We were alerted that there was commotion and our officers acted fast and saved the situation and we have also enhanced patrols to ensure safety for all those working at the sites,” he said.

‘My Husband To Be Wants Me To Change My Last Name To His But I Don’t Want To’, Cries Woman

There has always been this debate on whether a woman should change her name after marriage. Some have done it while others feel that changing your second name to your husband’s doesn’t necessarily change things.

Well, a city woman who is about to get married, is not willing to take her husband’s last name. According to her, she wants to keep her maiden name and she doesn’t want to take it as her middle name. In short, she doesn’t want to use her husband’s name at all.

Here is what she thinks about taking her lover’s name;

“My wedding is in three months and I have serious doubts about changing my name. Coming from a somewhat traditional family, I always assumed when I got my married I’d take my husband’s name, just like my mom and sister, but the closer the wedding gets, the less I want to drop my last name. It’s part of my identity, it signifies my heritage and connects me to my family. I’m not far enough along in my career where I NEED to keep my maiden name, so that’s not an issue. More than anything, it’s an emotional urge – I just don’t want to drop my maiden name. I don’t even want to take my maiden as a middle name, because really, who asks about your middle name? How many people even know what your middle name is? I would like to take his last name in some capacity, but that doesn’t mean I want to lose my last name at the same time.

I’ve told all this to my fiancé several times and mentioned that maybe I’ll hyphenate or have two last names. At first, he kept saying it was a bad idea, because our names together sound scarily close to “Frankenstein.” But after we talked about it more, it became obvious that he was upset that I don’t want to change my last name to his. He doesn’t mind if I keep my last name as a middle name, but he really wants me to be Mrs. Smith, NOT Mrs. Fitzwilliam-Smith or Mrs. Fitzwilliam Smith. He said if I don’t change my name, it seems like less of a commitment – like it’ll be easier to back out of our marriage, which is not how I think about it at all! He even went as far as to say that it seems disrespectful if I don’t change my name because I’m not considering his feelings.

Changing my name is not a nice little favor I can do to make him feel better, like making him cookies or giving him a back rub. And whether or not I change my name, I’m the one who has to live it. Other than a few occasions here or there, it won’t really affect him much. On top of that, it makes me kind of angry that if I add his last name, it’s still is not enough for him – he actually wants me to drop my last name.

Since both of our opinions come from very emotional places, I don’t know how to find a compromise. Has anyone else gone through something like this? And if there are any guys reading this, I’d really appreciate your opinion, since it’s much harder for me to see this from a man’s perspective.” 

Comedian confesses he was blinded into marrying his wife for her curves and their marriage is over

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder or so the saying goes.

One popular comedian has found himself in a rather awkward situation, after admitting something about his wife.

The Ghanaian comedian named Benson Nana Yawoduro aka Funny face admitted in an interview with the country’s UTV’s Wofa Kwesi, that he married his wife because of her big hips and backside.

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Yes the man is secretary general of team mafisi, and his marriage has failed  because he is thirsty.

He was consumed with his wifes well endowed buttocks and blames her for ending their marriage.

He is quoted as saying: ‘I didn’t do my homework well before marrying her, adding that her big buttocks pushed me into marrying her’.

People also whispered to him that she could be seeing other men prompting his to spring into action.

He installed a car tracker in her vehicle over the suspicion she was cheating on him. What he discovered almost made him commit suicide but he restrained himself.

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He said: ‘What I’ve been through is worse then killing. I’ve moved on…but I’m hurt, because of the lies people are peddling about me’.