Mother of Sonko’s secret teen daughter sues for child support

A woman has taken Former Nairobi Governor Mike Sonko to court over accusations of neglecting their 15-year-old daughter.

In the court papers, the woman claims Sonko has refused to take his parental responsibility and now wants the court to intervene.

“The applicant and the respondent are the biological parents of the minor. The defendant has refused and or neglected to provide for the minor with adequate and or basic necessities such as education, good health food, clothing, shelter, entertainment and medication,” read in part court papers dated May 12..

The case has been filed at the magistrate court in Ngong, Kajiado county.

The woman through Lawyer Dan Okemwa wants Sonko compelled to pay monthly upkeep of Sh448,450.

She wants Sonko compelled to contribute Sh50,000 for food and shopping, 45,000 for rent, 30,000 for security, 20,000 for clothing, 20,000 for househelp, Sh20,000 medical cover, Sh4000 minor’s salon expenses, Sh5000 for DStv, Sh50,000 for minors school debit card, Sh5000 for gas among others.

The woman, whose identity has been withheld to protect the minor, says her form two daughter has not been able to reopen school since April 26 because of a lack of fees.

He wants the former governor instructed to pay Sh86,000 fees, Sh30,450 school-related expenses and another Sh37,000 outstanding school fees balance pending the determination of the case.

The woman says the refusal by Sonko to attend to the child’s needs, yet he is a person of means, has caused minor emotional stress and ridicule among her peers.

“The unequal treatment has affected the minor psychologically as she does not understand why her father is abrasive towards her. Besides, the minor has been bullied and ridiculed in school because of her surname thus causing her emotional trauma and has indicated she wants to be transferred from the school,” she said in the court papers.

She said they entered into a relationship in 1999 which culminated in a romantic affair.

Court papers show the relationship was an on and off affair. The two got their child on April 17, 2007.

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Love after heartbreak: Alfred Mutua flaunts new life

Machakos Governor Alfred Mutua is not one to hide behind a heartbreak or let the blues dictate his life.

The Mheshimwa has taken to social media to share how good his life is.

He is currently in some beautiful photos which his young son took of him.

Mutua is currently in Australia visiting his family.

Early this week he shared on his Instagram page, “The other day on the Streets of Downtown Sydney, Australia. Order and efficiency on display.”

Mutua gushed about interacting with his three children whom he shares with his ex-wife Josephine Thitu.

Sharing that moment with his follower, Mutua wrote, “Life is good.”

He went ahead to explain why, “The other day, my young son (one of the twins), a brilliant photographer, used a phone to capture these amazing images.

Truly, as the author of the Desiderata reminds us, we should celebrate life because: ‘You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should’.”

Kenyans online took the chance to encourage him. Here are some of their reactions.

boboishnjoroge: May I share these memories with you boss. With this life would make sense to me.😍

retriz_njeri: Wow the resolution of that phone camera must be of very high megapixel 🔥🔥🔥🔥 life is indeed good 👍🏼 enjoy every moment Daktari.

tasha.vee.56: Life is good indeed

sylviaatoko: Family comes first. Now you are my 6th President.

pastorchris390: Huh! A facile adornment, Sir? Hope not. You are at all times suave and differential! Great Governor! God bless!

clinton_ogega: Some day you will be my president sir.

felistius: You mean hio ni camera ya simu? Kuna watu wako dunia ingne👏

juleskims: Beautiful soul ❤️.

Mwaka Urbanus wrote: “I’m so happy that you are making efforts to reunite with your family stay put in Australia until they accept you back.”

Wycliffe Nyandieka said: “Back to the roots. Take care of your first family enjoy the catchup in Australia.”

Ones Mus said: “Salute the twins boss. We are proud of you and your accomplishments keep working towards your dreams.”

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Nairobi men tell Maina Kageni why they cannot tell a woman, ‘No’

Maina Kageni today was alarmed by how men don’t care for the word “no” when they get advances from women.

Yesterday, the Classic 105 duo of Maina and Mwalimu King’ang’i talked about how Kenyan men are sexually harassed by their female colleagues.

“When women throw themselves at you, you don’t know where she is from or who she has been with, why can’t you say no? After all, women can.”

One caller said they test the HIV status of a woman using their eyes. Another said if you say no you will invite drama.

A woman called in and narrated how her husband’s workmate called her swearing that she would have an affair with her husband, whether she liked it or not.

The men were quick to respond to Maina’s question saying, “No” is not a word available in their vocabulary.

@Paulbanks007: honestly, it’s hard for men to say no and when it comes to women that say no to men is when they know you don’t have money but have the money she can never turn you down

@gitz_man: It depends on how she behaves, how she smells and how she looks 😊, otherwise, some of us say no to those conditions!

@sauti_ya_subaru: All Kenyan men we have the same weakness


@lisakanyambu: It seems they enjoy and that is why they can’t say No

@MShariff: It’s that attention then one realizes….. yikes! Should have said no in the first place.

@ndusa6: Men are specially created to accept any advances. Being a man is not about saying no but yes, the no is for the women, take that to the bank.

@RealOlah: How now…Kama our great ancestor, Adam, alishindwa💯. Kamjukuuuu kake Samson kakashindwa..sasa Ndambuki wa Kinoo ataweza😂😂

@IganariC: Good morning, Maina let me tell you these women know how they will approach you to avoid you saying no.. kama sasa kuna mwingine aliniapproach last year December twende ruracio ya sister yake and apparently she is pregnant for me, same office opposite desks🤔
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@wanjohi_muchiri: Actually men do say no to the ladies they are not interested with. Bt to the ones they are interested, watakubali mbio sana. Kwani fisi anawezakataa mbuzi amejichinja???

@nabongo_mumias: Call the act from women as corruption, You’re approached to do something and offered a kickback, ukatae they find someone else and pay for the same. Come to women now, she will hit on you, you refuse she goes to the next person who will hit. Fly with what you’ve swallowed bana.

@africanbambi: Men have no standards.

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Not everyone is meant for you – Mike Mondo says of heartbreak in 2022

A woman set herself and her two children on fire following a disagreement with her husband on New Year’s day in Lugari sub-county, Kakamega.

This formed Mike Mondo’s New year conversation, with the presenter weighing in that ‘kama hataki hataki move on you could be saving yourself alot in future’

The horrific story saddened Mike who told on the Monday morning conversation that we must learn to accept rejection, no matter how hard it may be.


He sympathized with those being dumped or going through heartbreak but advised that ‘not everyone is meant for you.’

‘this is very wrong I want to condemn this act, why can’t people move on after their hearts are broken? why kill children? why cant you handle that you have been left, you have never heard of the statement ukiachwa akichika, you start doing something nasty because you were left, why should you react, why can’t people jut move on after that ka heartbreak? imagine you will move on and find somebody else’

A woman told Mike that many people are having mental issues over relationships gone wrong ‘diff people have diff capacity of dealing with rejection, and I can relate you see you have labored with him, given him children and then you think yani he can do this to me?’

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Reasons why you should avoid online dating

How dangerous is online dating? Countless people have shared horrific experiences about what they thought was meeting a compatible date online, and the risks involved.

 

But it’s not always gloom. There are those who hit it off very well with potential online dates, and we are happy for them.
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Here are other reasons why it is dangerous to do online dating. Read through and decide if it’s for you:

Identity

It is easier for people to hing their real identity online because you never know them. One can pretend to be what they are not in terms of their gender and their physical appearance. They can send you photos which are not theirs. This can be a great disappointment when you know the truth especially if you had fallen for them.

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Hidden characters and behaviors

People tend to bring out their best behaviour online. At times they can send you googled messages that drive you crazy yet they are playing with your mind. One can be of best behavior to win your heart, then later reveal their dark past when you are hooked.

Intentions

You have to learn that not everyone has good intentions with you. They may be psychopaths looking for victims to kill. You should avoid exchanging your photos and details with strangers because they may use them against you.

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Mutual connection

When you are in a relationship, the connection should be mutual. This helps in strengthening your bond and building your relationship. This happens when you spend most of your time together and get to know each other more.

Rejection

When you are in a relationship with a person you have never met, the expectations of the person are ever high. You always expect them to be better or just as you see them online. When you meet and find the comparison differs then rejection comes in. You either reject them or you get rejected.

Tokeo la picha la rejection

‘Love deeply’ – Terryanne Chebet reveals biggest lessons she has learnt this year

Heartbreaks

You are likely going to be heartbroken when the person changes their character and behavior. People get tired of pretending and pleasing you as they were doing online and reveal their shocking true colors,

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Kiherere mtaacha! Habits women should drop after moving into their men’s house ASAP

Women have on several occasions confessed to tricking men so that they can move in with them and men are not impressed, with many saying wanakandamizwa.

There are also things that they unconsciously do and it does not sit well with men.

Here are some of the things that women should drop ASAP

1. Kukatalia kwa nyumba yake

Ladies, whether you help  pay the rent or not you have no right kukatalia in a man’s house. Don’t forget that man is not your father so he owes you NOTHING.

2. Appointing yourself as the wife

As long as he has not introduced you to his closest friends and family, acha kiherehere ya kuambi awatu kw plot ‘by the way am nani’s wife’ – who appointed you?

3. Don’t visit his house uninvited

Women we are tired of all the drama once you find out your man showcasing his bedroom skills to someone else.

So instead of kumeza panadol juu ya heachache ya mtu mwingine, just visit only when invited if you can’t kaa kwenyu maisha ni ngumu kwa kila mtu.

4. Stop creating trouble with his neighbors

I know you might think that just because you are dating you might think you have the right to create trouble with mama wa kufua nguo, caretaker or even mama mboga.

But believe you me as long as it’s his house and he has not put a ring on it, you have no say.

5. Disorganizing his household items

With the determination to prove you are a wife material you might be tempted to rearrange or reorganize furniture or even sort out his clothes, but before you do kemea hio pepo.

Until he tells you to just seat and enjoy his company or watch the newest series.

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How to spend a romantic weekend with your spouse

After a long week of working, you need to spend time with your family and rest.

This is how you can spend a romantic weekend with your spouse;

1. Massage

This will help your muscles to relax and improve your body blood flow.

You can go to a spa with your partner or do the massage at the comfort of your home. You can also massage your partner and alternate the procedure.

It prepares your body for the other week of working.

 

Tokeo la picha la massage

2. Date

Take your partner on a date and have some alone time, just the two of you.

This will help to strengthen your relationship and show your partner how much you love and care for them.

3. Sharing house chores

This may seem menial and almost commonplace but in reality, it is very romantic.

Watching your spouse doing house chores and helping out helps a lot.

This involves teaching your partner to do some of the chores that they know nothing about.

It helps in strengthening your bond.

4. Watching movie

This will make you relax and relieve all the stress you had throughout the week.

Watch a movie that both of you like and make a great memory out of it.

Tokeo la picha la watching amovies

5. Picnic

Weekends are always known to be resting time.

Take your partner out for a picnic, observe the features and environment and the pastures.

Take pictures of each other, laugh and make great memories.

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6. Fun games

Playing with your partner plays a great role in your marriage.

It will help in creating a greater bond.

Play games that you love and also train your spouse new games that they knew nothing about.

Playing also helps in refreshing your body and mind.

7. Cooking

Take this time and make your spouse the best dishes that they love.

Teach them how to cook for the meals they do not know how to cook.

You can also make it more fun by competing on knowing who is the best cook between the two of you.

8. Sharing past memories

You can take this moment to remember your past moments even before you got married.

You can look at your old pictures together and compare with your current to see if there is a difference and make some comments on each other.

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9. Workouts

Take this time to observe your health too.

You can go to the gym and workout or even do some home workouts together.

Do some morning or even runs to maintain your weight.

Tokeo la picha la morning run

10. Walks

Take a walk in the evening with your partner and whisper sweet romantic words to them.

Tell your partner how much you care and love them.

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Sio Uchawi! 6 easy ways of winning your mother in laws heart…thank me later

We all know motherhood is a sacred position, so it’s natural for any woman to inwardly and sometimes outwardly express some fear about losing her son to another woman. But rather than let this dynamic get the better of us, it’s best to acknowledge the shift that comes with marriage and be open about how you want your relationship with your mother-in-law to unfold.

Remember that she is still your husband’s mother.

Although her relationship with her son has changed, remember that she will always and is still his mother. Even though you are the woman in his life now, be considerate and don’t be so obsessed and behave as if he did not come from a family. It’s good to remember that you became part of that family when you married him.The fact is that his mother will always remain that woman in his life unless she is dead so while she is still there let her have her place and don’t try to separate your husband from his mother. If anything without her there would be no husband for you to marry and so don’t always demand for your way. So do her the favor of loving her son unconditionally because you have taken her spot and you are her son’s biggest fan.

Accept her for who she is.

I know this is hard but you are going to be a mother in law too someday and you will need your daughter in law to accept you as you are. She might not be like your biological mother but she is your extended mother and despite all her weaknesses, you need to learn to live with her and accept her. I know the hardest time is when she has to come and visit and she wants you to run your house like hers .You can talk to your husband about it and as well find a wise way of making both of you meet halfway. At times learn from her and in some other occasions ask her if she would like to learn from you. Don’t always be the boss, it will create a bad picture because you’ll fight a lot and hardly ever have peace, at times let her be in control and humble yourself. Please respect her age and experience.

Talk to her about hard things.

If she has offended you, find a respectful way to let her know instead of constantly reporting her to your husband. She may not listen at first because she might go like what is this small girl trying to tell me,but give it a try. Some of us want to keep grudges and assume that she knows she has offended you,you will be hurting yourself as she will never know her mistakes and she will keep doing them to an extent you will hate her and never want her around.YET THE PROBLEM IS YOU, because you have never told her, her mistakes. So remember she is not perfect. And as much as you are learning how to be a daughter in law, so is she learning how to be a mother in law to you. So let both of you assume that the other is doing the best she can. If you are feeling hurt by something she did or said, find a way to gently bring it up. You may even want to ask her if you could have done something differently. Then Try to understand. When there are problems in family relationships, each person needs to overlook with grace when possible, and when not, address the issues kindly. Reject bitterness and don’t judge. There are always two sides to any story.

Remember, you are family.

So find time to talk and watch movies or programs or even go out to the market and buy gifts as well as tell her about some of the family’s funny stories. This way you make her feel like part and parcel of your family. Please include her in some of the family activities and traditions. Trust me your husband will love you more because he will appreciate the bond you share with his mother and he will love you because you appreciate the woman who carried him for nine months and has raised him to be the man he is for you.

Take time to express gratitude.

Be the one who initiates the visit to her home and when you get there, shop for her the same way you would shop for your own biological mother. Once you’re there don’t just sit and do nothing, when you and her son visit, it means a lot to her, yes but when you offer to help with the meals and with clean up, it makes her feel happier that you came and you are now taking care of her. Well that is one way to get blessings. Instead of ganging up against her with the other daughter in laws. Appreciate her and keep telling her how you are grateful. Trust me even if she is a wicked mother in law, she will find herself having a soft spot for you. Just never give up on having a good relationship with her and avoid gossiping her to everyone as it never really changes the fact that she is and will always be your mother in law unless you divorce her son. You can as well call to say her and send her some money even if it’s 500 bob or some airtime every week.

And Finally…….Never take her son away from her 

As much as you are married to him don’t separate him from his family please. I know you would love to keep him to yourself but that’s not going to happen especially if he is a family man. Keep him close to his family will always earn you a direct ticket to some family things even when he is not around. If he cant attend a family meeting, how up there and take his place and speak his words, don’t say thank God if he can’t make it, I also don’t have to show up. You are one and as much as your husbands’ family may not be the best, learn from them and make your family the best.

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Reasons why you can’t leave an abusive relationship

We need to understand why we are energetically connected or stuck in relationships that are not good for us, yet we know it.

Trauma bonding is the main reason why women cannot leave abusive relationships.

Women tend to bond with men that they have emotionally gotten attached either through intimacy, children, or conversation. As a woman, if you choose people who are not healthy in your space, you may tend to be very difficult because you do not know how healthy relationships feel or look like.

Your body doesn’t know that you are linking with an abusive person. A trauma bond is bonding with someone who is toxic, abusive. Trauma is what happens over time, it’s not like physical abuse or s33ual abuse. Does not happen once, but over a long time like being passive-aggressive.

Couple cry

Unless you are mindful of how your blueprint looks like, then you’ll be able to identify how an abusive relationship looks like.

When your friends and family see that you ain’t the same person, not the person you once were. Personality has changed, and they have seen things in your partner and ask things like, ‘why are you still with the person?’

You project your feelings to that person that you want to believe that the person you fell in love with is a good person but it’s normally a form of love bombing.  It’s normally a hard pill to swallow when you realize that the person you came to love is not the right man for you because the guy was love bombing you and playing with your emotions.

If she’s not your first choice, don’t waste her time

It is never easy to accept that you are in an abusive relationship, especially when you have children with a toxic man. This is because you do not want your child or children to live without a fatherly figure because you still have hope on the person and you can still see that the man has room to change so you keep blinding yourself.

In order to stop this trauma bond, you have to accept that it’s an addiction. You need to accept that this person is no longer the person you fell in love with. Accept that the relationship is over and you’ve been addicted. Your happiness comes first, and you have to decide on it and stop making decisions that are not geared towards your happiness. Just do things that make you happy and want to try to do different things that will help you from digressing from the toxic relationship.

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List Of 5 Concrete Reasons Why You Should Avoid Dating A Staunch Football Fan!

So many times, I find myself entangled in football related arguments with ladies, and the more I argue with them on the benefits of football, the more I realize why I might probably wed when am 45.

Why? This is because it always gives me reasons why I should either avoid dating, or avoid ladies who think time spent watching football as a waste of precious time.

Honestly, I can’t live without football and yes I know I won’t marry that small leather ball.

So in regards to that I decided to highlight five concrete reasons why you should avoid a die hard football fan.

  1. COLD NIGHTS

Dear ladies, it is as simple as 1,2,3. Just the way you can stay up all night keeping up with the Kardashians, that’s pretty close to how much sleep we can sacrifice to make sure we don’t miss a piece of football action.

So when am out there with the boys enjoying some Real Madrid vs Juventus match, you better look for my football socks and two pillows because the night will be extra cold.

2. FIXTURES

Basically this would pop up in every point but thing is; If we are dating and we had planned to go sky diving, zip lining or even visit my in laws on a certain Saturday, which I thought there would be no football action, then all over sudden a. football fixture pops up on that same date, there is no way I am missing the game. Sorry.

3. ATTENTION

Ladies love attention. In fact, it’s more of a basic need especially in relationships and this is where football always wins.

Apart from sneaking out of the bed at night to watch a game, we at times would love to invite you or probably say yes to your proposal of accompanying us to the game. Question is; Would you still get mad when my eyes will be fixed on the Television screen instead of your beautiful brown eyes?

A loyal football fan would be like “I mean c’mon it’s 90 minutes only, after that I’m all yours babe.”

4. VIOLENCE

Another major reason why you should avoid a staunch football fan like a plague is the probability of the guy being involved in arguments which later result to violence.

This mostly happens during football derbies, for example; Arsenal vs Chelsea, Manchester City vs Manchester United where both sections of opposing fans normally engage in banters which become heated at times.

We all know what these could lead to and you would not want to turn into his nurse or his shield when beer bottles start flying in the club.

5. EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE

This acts as a cover that joins the other four points.

Your bae will never be happy around you for a couple of hours if not a week when his favorite team gets a huge beating on a Sunday night, after the two of you spent the afternoon all cuddled up.

One defeat won’t hurt as much, till it becomes a habit where Arsenal go for six games without registering a win and that would mean six weeks of a moody boyfriend, which will definitely hurt your relationship.

Secret Revealed! 6 Things Gospel Singer Mercy Masika Does To Avoid Relationship Drama

Gospel singer Mercy Masika is ruling the airwaves, and her star is not about to be dimmed anytime soon.

Away from her music, the celebrated singer is a wife to husband David Muguro and a mom to two beautiful kids.

Her humble personality has seen her win the hearts of many, including her husband.

And while some of her colleagues are breaking their marriages, Mercy remains steadfast solid in her relationship.

Her recent admission about her husband received the praise of many, who indicated they would emulate her. Here is what she said about her hubby David;

Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you have the right person by your side, and you both truly love each other then you’ll always figure a way to get through it. Marriage is beautiful and I love my husband.

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Recently she spoke to the standard newspaper where she further revealed her secret to a happy marriage.

This are six things she does to keep her relationship strong.

  1. Seek wise counsel. Don’t talk to all and sundry about your relation problems
  2. Submit. This doesn’t mean being a doormat.
  3. Chose your battles wisely. Sometimes I say sorry even when i’m not wrong she says. This humbles him and he learns to say sorry.
  4. Pray. This has kept me standing
  5. Sex. She says you should figure out what your spouse needs
  6. Be faithful,

 

 

Dating single moms: how to choose a present for her children

A number of gentlemen have been there and for sure, dating a single mom is not a straight-forward task. Well, partly because our society still believes in unnecessary myths and prejudices. In addition, a woman with children is usually quite busy and doesn’t have much time for dates.

Her children are a priority and after her children, she will be able to spend time with you. It also becomes trickier during holidays and celebrations because you’re likely to have to buy gifts for her children as well.

Here are gift ideas for your girlfriend that she may use together with her children

1. Bouquet

Many times men buy beautiful bouquets for their girlfriends. These go well with a box of sweets or chocolates. If you found her from a dating site, you probably got her flowers on date one. A friend of mine got his current girl from Russian brides (because he heard the one guarantee that with Russian girls, boredom is a thing of he past …story for another day) but hey, most girls love flowers. Given that single moms are usually very caring of their children, you could go further by doing a hand-made bouquet of fruits. Do your homework though! Make sure that her children have no allergies to the flowers.

2. Domestic appliances

Who said that domestic appliances are not romantic? Women with children are always happy to receive some appliances to help around the house and save time. Not only will these make her happy but it’s a creative way to you show your care about helping her find time for a date with you.

3. Couple clothes

This is if you’re getting serious with her. They tend to be very interesting gifts for women with children and give a purpose of intent to spend the future with her. In this case, you buy matching clothes for her children as well. This could be as simple as his and hers t-shirts with similar styles and a clever message together with those that go with her children. It could be your name, her name and their names.

Again, this is only for those who are getting serious.

On another note however, it is not always appropriate to buy presents for all her family. You might want to consider jewelry.

It is clear that if you know her children, you can’t ignore their birthdays and other holidays. What to present to them?

1. From 1 to 3 years old

Children from 1 to 3 years old will enjoy fascinating books, rocking chairs and wheelchairs, musical, interactive, and educational toys. Don’t buy anything too complicated or very expensive. Children at this age, pretty often, tend to break toys and tear apart books.

2. From 3 to 6 years old

The best things that you can buy for children from 3 to 6 years old are educational sets, children’s pianos, guitars and other things. For example, children who like to pain will appreciate paintings and drawing boards. Here, still, it is better not to buy too expensive things, because pretty soon those will become boring for children.

3. From 6 to 11 years old

This is when everything gets way more interesting. Now, you can present them board games, game consoles, radio-controlled models, and other potentially interesting things for you. Furthermore, you can share your hobby with her children to improve your relationship. You may also consider buying rollers, skates, bicycles, and so on.

4. Teenagers

It is pretty hard to find a good present for teens because too many things depend on your relationship with them and their mother. Usually, teens are way more demanding, and before buying a gift for them, you definitely should consult with their mother. Generally, boys from 11 to 17 years old will like gyro scooters, smartphones, fitness bracelets, gaming keyboards, mouses, gamepads, or headphones. Girls of the same age will enjoy fashion jewelry, an MP3 player, cosmetics, beautiful teddy bears, stylish headphones, smartphone cases, cool backpacks, external batteries (power banks), or flash drives.

Here’s where most women go wrong in a relationship

Today, I want to throw some insights into where women mess up when it comes to romantic relationships.

1. Overstepping their position

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There’s a reason why you are a girlfriend and not a wife. Don’t try to take up wifely duties for a guy who hasn’t ask you to be his other half. Acting like one only makes the guy angry. From here, things can nose diver real quick and trying to get them back in position can be a daunting assignment. If you are a girlfriend play along that line of duty.

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2. Camping

It all starts with subtle signs. Leaving your panty, your toothbrush, your earing, lip balm etc. As the visits intensify, more things get “forgotten” in a man’s house. How a woman ends up being part of the occupants of the house, only God knows. However, this move has caused many men to chase women out of their houses. Don’t make yourself part of the deal you signed alone. Utafukuzwa usiku wa manane!

3. Nagging

This comes as a default setting for women but some are too much. We love the drama as men. It keeps us in check. But sometimes things can go too far. We hate a woman who complains for the bigger part of the day.

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It becomes stressful. There’s already too much stress out here and we seek peace back home. You can’t be part of our headache. The issue has never been what you say but rather how you say it.

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4. Marriage pressure

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Past 27 years, most women desperately want to settle down with a man. It’s no wonder some of them will start asking when you plan to propose to them and your future plans with them. As men, we don’t like this type of pressure. Maybe you ain’t even who we want to settle with. Be calm and wait for that proposal. If you feel that it’s a long time to come through, you can as well hit the exit door.

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It’s post Valentines, and we are all evaluating our situationships.

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The men’s conference went down, and here’s leakage of what was  said about the types of women we men date.

1. Psychopaths

If you haven’t dated this type, guess what, you might ended up marrying one. You’re familiar with those chicks that show up at your house 11pm banging the door like they are being chased. The type that brings up petty drama and end up telling you how she missed being in an argument with you. The type that attacks any female they feel is a threat to them. They even turn physical.

2. Mother-hen

They fuss over you incessantly. Ever had a chick that’d call you at night if you are wearing a sweater coz it’s cold, or that chick who sends you dieting ideas, calling you all day checking on your progress cause your health is of importance for the greater good?

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The type that show up when you having a good time with the boys squad only to tell you they were afraid you’d come home late and they fear you could get killed. The type that write you a shopping list with the exact price for each item. They’re more like a mother to you than a lover.

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3. Ride or Die

FYI: If you fall on one of this please keep her. It’s hard to come by such babes.

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She puts up with anything and people around you think  she’s crazy. They say a woman gives you seven chances to mend your wrong ways before she hits the door. Ride or die hang on for the 100th+ time. She holds on cause of that one nice thing you hold in you. They love you the hard way.

4. Cry babies

Women are generally emotional beings, that’s undisputed. Far from that, some are just petty cry babies. They cry over almost anything.

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5. Twa Twa maniacs

They are the bedroom bullies. The type that have been advocating for women to go for what they want. If you ever asked for time out while on twa twa, that’s the type of women I’m talking about. They leave you confused as much as their ratchetness is a positive trait.

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These are some of the ways to know your man loves you

There is nothing sweet as having someone who truly loves and cares for you by your side. These are some of the things that your man will pull to show that they care;

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Making you his priority

You will know someone loves you by the way they treat you. If you are a number one priority in his life or in everything he does then he does love you.

Always there for you

Someone who loves you will always be by your side in times of happiness and sadness. They will never have an excuse of being with you because they treasure you a lot.

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Interested in everything you do

You will see from his interest in you and whatever you do. This involves cooking, cleaning or even singing and dancing. The will always want to be committed to your activities and always offer to help.

 

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Asks for your opinion

Someone who adores you will always ask for your opinion and advice before doing anything in them. They will always consult you before taking any step rather than doing anything they want to.

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Respects your decisions

When you tell someone what you think about something and reasons for your decisions, that person has some love for you. It not only shows that the person respects your decisions, but also you in person.

Its all in his touch

You can also know if someone cares from their touch. The kisses, the hugs and even when you cuddle you will always have that feeling of love. You will always feel safe when around them.

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Confides in you

They will be honest with you on everything and always tell you the truth no matter how painful it may be.

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Things Not To Ask Your Hubby To Do. Because They Will Mess Them Up (Hilarious Photos)

Women are often convinced that they’re better at doing things around the house – and these pictures might just prove it.

Ladies have taken to social media to share snapshots of the times they asked their partners to tend to household chores and childcare duties – with laugh out loud results.

Clearly put out by being asked to carry out mundane chores, some men used the opportunity to play a prank on their wives, while others were feeling so lazy that their attempts at helping backfired in epic fashion.

Women have shared snapshots of the times they asked their partners to tend to household chores and childcare duties – and the results, including this attempt at fixing the toilet, may make them wish they’d just done it themselves

Some of the tasks included put some pasta on the stove,  buy six potatoes for dinner, hang their mirror among other chores…
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‘I knew you were gonna be my headache,’ Otile Brown to his ex Nabayet

Weeks after being dumped by his Ethiopian bae Nabayet, Otile Brown has shared a brief narration on how he met the love of his life.

Otile and Nabayet recently broke up under unclear circumstances prompting him to ask the public to intervene and ask for forgiveness.

‘I remember when we first met in Australia after months of talking on phone for hours everyday without getting bored

You pulled up on me in a black biker short, a big ass 2pac black Tshirt (which is mine nowadays😉) and yeezys sneakers.

With no make up on, no nothing 🤣 you wasn’t trying hard to impress and that is when I knew you was gonna be my headache, coz that’s my type of cool.’

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Otile went on to praise Nabayet for being a giver and not a taker like most women are.

‘You never ask for anything from me -you’re the type that like to give and never takes and sometimes it’s annoying. LISTEN 👂 

Relationships aren’t easy and the more serious it gets sometimes, the more terrifying it becomes coz we’re young and stupidly cursed but I’m ready to risk it all for your fine ass…

Happiest birthday 🎂 @nabbi__ ila ndo ivo ,I’ll make sure i have something special for your fine ass when we link InshaAllah!.’

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First date conversations to avoid

Securing a first date pretty much means that someone has given you a chance to spend time with them, and so you must be well prepared.

Have you ever watched the local dating shows on TV and cringed at the conversations people are holding? Yikes!

Some awkward things like wanting to know what tribe someone is should not arise folks! Here are topics to completely avoid:

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Religious and political beliefs

This is normally a very sensitive topic when it comes to your personal beliefs. Most people during dates try to avoid talking about such beliefs because you may never know whether they are religious or follow any political affiliates. It’s tricky to say something like your religion, which is premised on things like whether you’ll go to heaven or hell, can be affected by the dirty, secular world of politics. To avoid being in an awkward situation just avoid talking about religion and politics. You’ll be in the clear.

Past relationships and hurts

Ain’t you not trying to get over your ex? And that is why you are having a date,  to get over your past relationship. It is a clear indication when you talk about your previous relationship, means you are still not over your ex. This is a sign that you are just having a casual date and nothing serious will come from the first date. Ladies try avoiding talking about your previous hurt relationships.

Ethnicity and cultural differences

Tribalism is a very sensitive topic and people try to shun away from the topic. Such topics cause uproar between individuals of different backgrounds. To avoid being tribal, it’s safe to avoid such topics to be on the safe side. We are all from different cultural backgrounds and we should be willing to accommodate each other.

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Finances and how much each earns

During a first date, it is advisable to avoid the money topic. You would not want to be labelled a ‘golddigger’ during the first date. Note, when you find your date asking about your financial status during your first date run. This will be a relationship based on financial benefits.

Where the relationship is going after the date

If you will give or get a second date after the first, then that is a clear indication that the date was a success and chances of a second date is evident. You really cannot know where a relationship is going after the first date, asking this question leads to a dwindle and lack of interest in the person.

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