10 Reasons Why People ignore you

Its probably very confusing when  someone ignores you or starts becoming uncertain about you. Have you ever been to a date and thought it was successful only for the  other person not to reply back with either a call or a message?

We have all been ignored one time or another, and we all know that terrible feeling that follows. You keep asking yourself questions, trying to put the pieces together of what you may have done wrong or what may have happened to them.

Sometimes it may not be your fault, but it may be an act of just not being liked or you did something provoking to receive the silent treatment from either your peers or loved ones.

10 Reasons Why People ignore you;

  •  Your presence doesn’t grab attention

When people talk about first impressions, simply means what people think about you or perceive about you when they first meet you. People pay more attention to those who are more self-confident. Maybe the reason why people ignore you is that you don’t give people enough to capture the eye’s attention. This may be the chance to work on your body language, self-confidence and how you approach other people. These things are key to grabbing attention.

  • You are too needy

People tend to ignore or avoid people who can not stand on their own. Your over reliance will make them feel suffocated. Step back, give them some space, don’t always be the one who goes after them, let them also come to you.

  • You have negative energy

People don’t want to be around someone who will drag them down and pour water onto their ideas. As much as in life we may go through rough patches, that doesn’t give you the chance to be negative all your life. Learn to work on your problems, as people tend to be more attracted to positive people.

  • You worry too much about being liked

If you try too hard to be liked, then officially you’ll push people away. People pleasers are everywhere, always trying to hard to please people an act that drives people away.

  • You are too intense.

Having opinions and being passionate about the things you like is good. In fact, it is very important to have a belief system that you believe in, but if you are too passionate, rigid and too intense ready to argue then you will only chase people away. Tone down on your intensity and reserve your arguments for the right time.

  • You are not serious in anything you do

If you have come to be known for not keeping promises or always arriving late or cancelling, you shouldn’t wonder why people are ignoring you. They may claim you are not serious and wouldn’t want anything to do with you. If you don’t take people seriously, neither will they take you serious as well.

  • You don’t contribute much

Have you ever been in a relationship that ended up you just giving? A one sided relationship is not enjoyable, thus driving the other party away.

  • You are selfish

Qualities that generate a well satisfying relationship is selflessness. Thus selfish people normally have a hard time keeping friends and hence most people tend to ignore selfish people.

  • You are dishonest

Sometimes we tell lies to guard our private lives to those we do not trust. But if you are the person who constantly tells lies, then trust is hard to be built.

  • Boasting to much

Occasionally people like bragging over the accomplishments they have made. Doing this once in awhile is not harmful but doing it over and over makes you repulsive and seem arrogant. Let your achievements talk about themselves for if you’ve made it, those achievements will be seen.

All in all, feeling ignored by people may be a very unpleasant thing to feel but if you find this problem in one or two relationships in your life then the problem ain’t you but them.


‘He can’t rise to the occasion’ Women share humiliating viagra incidents

The weekend is here and most men are tempted to take the blue pill to boost their bedroom performance.Here are experiences from Kenyans who have used it.

*Nancy (Name has been changed to protect her identity) says

Back in college I used to date a man who would use Viagra.

His performance was prolonged to an extent I would give up because his erection would go on for hours.

Given a chance now I would still date a man who uses performance enhancing pills.

Asked on what made his ex-boyfriend use pills to boost his performance Nancy says

He would only get an erection by using pills,without them he could never rise to the occasions.

I loved the guy And I didn’t want him to despise himself ,so I hang around.

I wish you could hear how I used to fake moaning sounds to massage his ego.

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Angry/depressed woman

*Racheal narrates how her sponsor ‘used’ her all night after using the blue bill

I met this prominent Kenyan politician who is in his 50’s, we got talking and decided to spend the night together.

What I did not know is that he had popped some pills to give me the performance of my life,I was not prepared for what I went through that night.

We had sex uncountable times and I felt like I could not hold it anymore,My man on the other hand was still as erect as he was when we started getting intimate.

My date was majorly spent in the washroom as I had to constantly go cool my ‘cookie jar’.

I feel like he was trying to get value for his money.

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*Tedd narrates how a friend of his took his side chick to Machakos for a getaway only for it to turn into a disaster.

Mike took his girlfriend to Machakos ,having had promised her a night to remember he popped a blue pill only for things to turn around for the worst.

He remained erect for hours and even his efforts to get into a cold bathtub to try and cool things down did not work.

It was only in the wee hours that his manhood retained normalcy but by then his woman was nursing bruises.

While the blue pill has worked for some men for some it has never been a solution.

*Ken narrates

I have known Peter (not his real name) for many years,at some point he got ill and his [email protected] drive got so bad that he could not rise to the occasion in the bedroom.

Sad and depressed Peter decided to try and use [email protected] enhancement pills to try and salvage his ego but not even that could help.

Despite using the pills Peter is till unable to get an erection, he has resulted to making his women enjoy [email protected] in other ways.


Mary Wambui Mary, a registered cardiovascular thoracic nurse says that the worst-case she has witnessed from the use of a blue pill gone bad is a man having a 6-hour erection.

I witnessed a patient having an erection lasting 6 hours and the couple had to come to the doctor because it was very painful and very uncomfortable.

On a different occasion I have interacted with a patient whose blood level went to 60/30 which is very low.

We had to give him drugs to normalize his blood pressure.

Wambui further adds that the blue pill should only be prescribed to a patient when they are suffering from erectile dysfunction.

‘Sex enhancement pills should only be recommended when one is suffering from erectile dysfunction. If as a man you can get an erection I don’t understand why you would want to take viagra.

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‘No one ever died over lack of [email protected]’ Pastor Burale advises men to zip up

Pastor Robert Burale has advised women to be very careful when it comes to relationships given that they are on the losing end when things fail to work.

Giving his reasons for this Burale says,

As a lady you are at a disadvantage when you get pregnant it is your life that will stop while his still continues.

So don’t get excited when a guy calls you at midnight talking in his deep voice.

The man will move on once you get pregnant and you will waste 2-3 years.

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He advises men to zip up or go home.

Men control your zip as for the women keep the file closed, No visa to Bangkok.

You might chose to ignore my advise and end up a prisoner or might listen and end up a governor, it’s all up to you.

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In conclusion Burale advises men to focus on bettering themselves given that no job market looks for a man with abs

Men stop taking photos holding your crotch. A good job and a better bank account is better.

And please stop sleeping around. Have you ever heard someone has/is dying for lack of [email protected]?

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‘The woman I loved was in love with someone else’ Cries Mungala Mbuvi

Classic 105 radio presenter Mungala Mbuvi has opened up on how he loved a woman who could never love him back.

According to Mbuvi his crush loved another.

In the 1990’s I was in love with a woman named Samantha. I really loved her but she was in a love with a guy called Eric. I guess I was just unlucky in love.

She was lightskin, beautiful but sadly she never loved me.

I do not know why I have bad luck with chicks. Samantha had a friend named Maureen and she was beautiful .

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Well Mbuvi has since moved on from the heartbreak.

Mike Mondo has also in the past talked about how he was dumped for earning too little.

According to Mike the woman felt the Ksh 50,000 he was making was peanuts.

I have been left because of how much I make. It was kidogo. When I started doing radio I used to make 50 g’s a month. This lady I was seeing told me that that was too little telling me that she couldn’t be with a man that was making that little.

And she refused me for that. She left. Now every once in a while she sends messages telling me that we should catch up.

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Terry Muikamba had also confessed that she was once dumped for being too nice.

I was once dumped because I was too nice.

According to the guy our relationship had no drama and he wanted that in the relationship.


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Here are six things that attract women to a man

Different women have different tastes when it comes to men, while some sleep with a man for his money others are attracted by something else.

Here are things that attract a woman to a man


There is nothing as sexy as a man who is oozing confidence, a man who knows what they he is capable of and is not scared to go for it.

2. Stamina

Yes you read that right, who would want to go out with a man who cannot keep his erection for more than a minute? So stamina is a plus.

If you have no stamina as a man, kula mrenda, chapa tizi and lets meet behind the tent.


Experience is important maybe it be while looking for a job or not it is paramount. For most women a man who know where to touch and when is a complete turn on.

It would be really uncomfortable and tiring for a woman to keep pointing where her G spot is to a 30 something year old.

As a man just do your homework and then come implement it .

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4. Explore

Milan Kundera once said that

“Making love with a woman and sleeping with her are two separate passions not merely different but opposite.”

Every woman loves a man who loves to explore, a man who is ready to find out what parts of my body will make her orgasm.

It would be really annoying for a woman to start counting all the weekends on a calendar just because she is having boring [email protected]

5.Financial stability

Truth be told, no woman wants a broke man for a husband/wife. We all know pesa hutafutwa but how about you make some mullah and then look for a wife.

[email protected] alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, as most women would say

‘Heri nilie kwenye range Rover kuliko ncheke kwenye boda boda’

6. A clean man

People say mwanaume ni jasho but as a lady I will tell you thats a lie.

Women love a man who has his business together, a good cologne, well fitting clothes, shaven beard and well maintained nails.

We wouldn’t want to lose our precious honey pots to filthy nails, eew.

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From tusome katiba to Mombasa raha, here are words used to ask for [email protected]


Intimacy is one of the basic needs for every couple that needs to be fulfilled to keep a relationship going.

Here are words that the youth are using to engage in such.

Asked on how they would ask for [email protected] without sounding needy or asking directly.

Most of them said, currently the best way to say it is by doing so indirectly.

“The best play is to just make a move, not say, ‘Can we have sex?’ Ask if ‘inaweza’.

Sheng is the in thing.

I decided to get the Sheng’ words the youths are using.

Check out the list. Some will use an indirect means to ask.

  • Uko home nikam?’
  • ‘Nataka therapy.’
  • ‘Zinadai mbaya.’
  • ‘Twende Pekejeng.’
  • ‘Kunyanduana.’
  • ‘Kulambana lolo.’

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Another friend came and joined the conversation and said for him, if the person they are asking for [email protected] from is their spouse, they will go direct.

Kama ni Mpango, ama Team Tangatanga, lazima ukue mjanjez, I mean you have to request like this,

  • ‘Kam tupike supper.’

Other Sheng words for [email protected] include,

  • ‘Mkunaji,
  • kusoma katiba,
  • piga miti,
  • Mombasa raha.’

Just so you know, the best [email protected] is the enthusiastic fun kind that happens naturally.

Now you know how you get your lady to want to sleep with you without ruining the fun that sex demands.

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Reasons why you should avoid online dating

How dangerous is online dating? Countless people have shared horrific experiences about what they thought was meeting a compatible date online, and the risks involved.


But it’s not always gloom. There are those who hit it off very well with potential online dates, and we are happy for them.
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It is easier for people to hing their real identity online because you never know them. One can pretend to be what they are not in terms of their gender and their physical appearance. They can send you photos which are not theirs. This can be a great disappointment when you know the truth especially if you had fallen for them.

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Hidden characters and behaviors

People tend to bring out their best behaviour online. At times they can send you googled messages that drive you crazy yet they are playing with your mind. One can be of best behavior to win your heart, then later reveal their dark past when you are hooked.


You have to learn that not everyone has good intentions with you. They may be psychopaths looking for victims to kill. You should avoid exchanging your photos and details with strangers because they may use them against you.

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Mutual connection

When you are in a relationship, the connection should be mutual. This helps in strengthening your bond and building your relationship. This happens when you spend most of your time together and get to know each other more.


When you are in a relationship with a person you have never met, the expectations of the person are ever high. You always expect them to be better or just as you see them online. When you meet and find the comparison differs then rejection comes in. You either reject them or you get rejected.

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You are likely going to be heartbroken when the person changes their character and behavior. People get tired of pretending and pleasing you as they were doing online and reveal their shocking true colors,

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The kindest ways to breakup with someone

Being dumped can be the most hurting thing to happen to someone especially if you never expected it.

Letting go of the person you love most is  also the hardest decision for one to make.

However this can be done in more easier and honest ways without hurting anyone’s feelings.

They include;

Ask for it

This is the best and easiest way to ask for a breakup. Tell your partner the reasons as to why you want to stay away from them. When you ghost someone without their knowledge, it will be hard for them to let go especially if they were never ready for it.

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Talk about it

Texting a person or making a phone call is not the coolest way of doing it. Talk with the person face to face and give her the reasons that led to your decisions. This will make them understand you and have a positive thought about the situation.

Give your partner time 

Once you have told your partner, give them time to think about it. Let them tell you what they think about your decision. Let it be a decision made between the two of you so as to avoid hurting feelings of other people.

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Be honest

Once you have decided to part ways with someone, be honest to them. Give them honest reasons why you think the relationship will not work anymore. Let them understand that you are the reason for it all and not them to prevent them from blaming themselves. Never lie to make them better because if they know the truth later on, they will never forgive you.

Mind your words

The way you bring out the words should be in the kindest and most humble way. Avoid using harsh words to them and make them take it in a more positive way.

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The expectations every son anticipates from their mother

Studies show that sons are more connected to their mothers than fathers. This creates a great bond between them that they can confide in them. However there are expectations that they normally want their mothers to meet.

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They include;


Support is the number one expectation that every child expects from their parents. As boys grow they expect their mother to be with them in every step in life. He expects to be supported in whatever he needs to do and not what the mother wants him to do.

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When you restrict your son from doing what you think is not right for them, at times they end up being naughty. Give them the freedom they want but with precautions. This will actually create a strong bond of trust between the mother and son.

Role model

At one point in life, the son will grow into a man who will marry and start his family. They will hence look up to you in everything that you do and wish to have someone like you in the future. Most of the time, sons want women who are similar in character to their mother. They also look at what you do in life and tend to copy.

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A son needs to be guided at any point in life, in every step. They normally go through some emotional challenges hence need to be taught on how to overcome them. They also need guidance on how to handle a woman or girlfriends when the right time comes.

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This is the number one expectation from every child. They need to be loved and given all the care they deserve. This helps to create a good relationship between them.

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‘Actually I am happy,’ Vanessa responds to Jux’s relationship

Vanessa Mdee has been quiet for some time after her breakup.

This made most of her fans to think that she was hurt because her ex-boyfriend had moved on.

Vanessa broke the silence revealing that she had had nothing against Jux’s new relationship.

She said, ‘I’m not the first and the last to break up’

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Adding, ‘We had broken up like many months ago but we did not make it public. This is because we noticed it could affect most of our fans. I am not the first person to break up neither will I be the last its something normal.

Let people stop attacking me and seeing as if I am the bad one. People get married for years and they divorce after all.

When things do not work out well it is good to part ways. I am actually happy for Juma and I do respect him a lot. So this is the last time I am going to talk about this so whoever has a question should ask now.’

This is what told for her fans who had many unanswered questions in their minds.

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The artiste also thanked all those that supported her music and also urged them to maintain the spirit.

‘For those supporting my music thanks a lot and keep doing so. I am growing in the industry as well as Juma and everyone is happy. I am actually happy and wish them well.’ 

Below is a picture of Jux and his new girlfriend.

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‘I was earning 50k,’ Mike Mondo reveals woman rejected him over ‘little’ salary

Her fans were of the opinion that she had become more beautiful and happy since the breakup and were happy for her.

Is it because of the breakup?

Is she seeing someone else that makes her such happy?

These are some of the questions that most people were left asking because she seemed to be more glowed up and beautiful.

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These are some of the ways to know your man loves you

There is nothing sweet as having someone who truly loves and cares for you by your side. These are some of the things that your man will pull to show that they care;

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Making you his priority

You will know someone loves you by the way they treat you. If you are a number one priority in his life or in everything he does then he does love you.

Always there for you

Someone who loves you will always be by your side in times of happiness and sadness. They will never have an excuse of being with you because they treasure you a lot.

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Interested in everything you do

You will see from his interest in you and whatever you do. This involves cooking, cleaning or even singing and dancing. The will always want to be committed to your activities and always offer to help.


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Asks for your opinion

Someone who adores you will always ask for your opinion and advice before doing anything in them. They will always consult you before taking any step rather than doing anything they want to.

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Respects your decisions

When you tell someone what you think about something and reasons for your decisions, that person has some love for you. It not only shows that the person respects your decisions, but also you in person.

Its all in his touch

You can also know if someone cares from their touch. The kisses, the hugs and even when you cuddle you will always have that feeling of love. You will always feel safe when around them.

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Confides in you

They will be honest with you on everything and always tell you the truth no matter how painful it may be.

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The things that ladies should avoid while dating

Dating is very different from marriage. When dating there are mistakes that ladies make that mainly leads to heartbreak.

Here is what to avoid.


1. Sharing secrets

This might become a problem in case you two breakup.

No matter how much you love or trust a person, there is some personal information you don’t share.

This period also you might not have learnt the characters of that particular person.

The person may be acting well just to win your heart. Always be careful with the things you share

2. Living together

If you are not married to that person, living together should never cross your mind.

This is because you can either be kicked out anytime because you are not legally together.

There might be an incident of pregnancies and he may deny because you are not a couple.

Moving in should happen if you become legally married.

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3. Sharing your personal information

This includes things like passwords and bank details.

This should be for your own knowledge and not anyone else.

This can be dangerous because one can take that advantage of taking over your life, for example, hacking your phone and all that.

4. Being too comfortable

Do not be too comfortable in a dating relationship.

If there is no marriage ring in your finger then it means there can be someone else that is not you.

When you get too comfortable then you, later on, get dumped, it can really hurt you and get you emotional.

When you are legally married you can get a bit comfortable thereafter.

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5. Being a house wife

Do not give the man you are dating all reasons to think that you are his wife.

This includes doing laundry for him and doing his chores.

All this should be done when he marries you and become the wife.

This is because you may be actually doing all the good stuff for you yet he has another woman which may break you once you find out.

6. Telling your friends about your relationship

Always keep your friends out of your relationships.

Not everyone is your friend and happy for your progress in life.

Involving your friends in your relationships can actually lead to your breakups especially if they decide to turn against you.

What you have between you and your partner should remain a secret between the two of you.

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How to spend a romantic weekend with your spouse

After a long week of working, you need to spend time with your family and rest.

This is how you can spend a romantic weekend with your spouse;

1. Massage

This will help your muscles to relax and improve your body blood flow.

You can go to a spa with your partner or do the massage at the comfort of your home. You can also massage your partner and alternate the procedure.

It prepares your body for the other week of working.


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2. Date

Take your partner on a date and have some alone time, just the two of you.

This will help to strengthen your relationship and show your partner how much you love and care for them.

3. Sharing house chores

This may seem menial and almost commonplace but in reality, it is very romantic.

Watching your spouse doing house chores and helping out helps a lot.

This involves teaching your partner to do some of the chores that they know nothing about.

It helps in strengthening your bond.

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4. Watching movie

This will make you relax and relieve all the stress you had throughout the week.

Watch a movie that both of you like and make a great memory out of it.

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5. Picnic

Weekends are always known to be resting time.

Take your partner out for a picnic, observe the features and environment and the pastures.

Take pictures of each other, laugh and make great memories.

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6. Fun games

Playing with your partner plays a great role in your marriage.

It will help in creating a greater bond.

Play games that you love and also train your spouse new games that they knew nothing about.

Playing also helps in refreshing your body and mind.

7. Cooking

Take this time and make your spouse the best dishes that they love.

Teach them how to cook for the meals they do not know how to cook.

You can also make it more fun by competing on knowing who is the best cook between the two of you.

8. Sharing past memories

You can take this moment to remember your past moments even before you got married.

You can look at your old pictures together and compare with your current to see if there is a difference and make some comments on each other.

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9. Workouts

Take this time to observe your health too.

You can go to the gym and workout or even do some home workouts together.

Do some morning or even runs to maintain your weight.

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10. Walks

Take a walk in the evening with your partner and whisper sweet romantic words to them.

Tell your partner how much you care and love them.

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The best ways to spice your relationship with in-laws

Marriage can be the best thing especially when you in good terms with your in-laws. These are some of the things you can do to spice your relationship;

Compliment them

In-laws love to be complimented all the time. Anytime they do anything for you like giving you food or gifting you, compliment them and literally praise them. This will make them see how much you appreciate them and they will have no problems with you.

Be polite

Rudeness should not be part of your behavior if you want to keep a good relation. Always be polite to them and give them the respect that they deserve even if the favor is not returned back to you.

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 Ask them for advice

This will make your in-laws know how much you value them and their knowledge. In case you have any issue you can ask them for opinions. Let them know how their views are important to you and how their decisions are of great importance to you.

Gift them

When you go to the market or on a trip get them something small. This will make them know how much you care for them. Get them something that they like most that will capture their emotions.

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 Appreciate their son

If you want to have a good relationship with your in-laws, have a good relationship with their son first. When you love and respect your husband then you will not be having problems with them at all. Appreciate him and avoid ill talking your husband at all costs.

Lend a hand all the time

They normally like hardworking people that can do all sorts of work especially farm work. When you find for instance your mother in-law doing something lend some hand. They will love you because you are trying to get involved and helping them.

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Like them

Make an effort to always like your in-laws even though they are unlikable. They may be annoying at times but force yourself to show how much you love them. This will create a good relationship between you and them and you will not have any quarrels with them

Study them

This is your first assignment when you step in that family. Study your in-laws and learn how to interact and associate with them. This will help in maintaining peace in your marriage. Understand their weaknesses and strengths so as not to cross paths with them

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Habits you should avoid on the first date

The first impression is always very important because it gives a preview of the kind of person you are. These are some of the habits that you should avoid when on the first date;

Rudeness to service people

You have to try as much as possible to be kind. It is really a bad move when you start shouting at the waiter or talking rudely to them. If you don’t like the services there is always a polite way to address a mistake.

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This may make your date thinking that it is your way of addressing people and it may create a bad picture of your character.

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Talking about your past

You should have a flowing conversations that makes both of you comfortable. Try as much as possible to avoid talking too much especially about yourself. Always give the other person time to talk and express themselves. Do not talk about your ex in your conversation unless you have been asked. This may make the person think that you have not moved on. Try as much as possible to avoid that topic.


Bragging about anything should be out of topic. Talking about what you do, properties you own and the positive sides about you is not necessary. This may make the person to feel uncomfortable especially if your lifestyle is not compatible with theirs. Try to be one level so that you may get along and be free with each other.

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Being on your phone most of the time  

If it is possible you can switch off the phone or put it on silent. It is disrespectful to be on your phone when you are having a conversation with someone. This shows that you are either bored or not interested with whatever the person is telling you at all. The person may be having a great interest in you but once you show that behavior you will actually kill the vibe.


Bad manners

You should be of the best behavior when meeting someone. Avoid laughing unnecessarily especially if you are eating or talking very important issues. Make sure you observe all the table manners.

Facts about marriage that people tend to avoid

In order to overcome all those ups and downs you have to accept the following facts;

Your decisions affect both parties

When you are single or dating, anything you do does not affect anyone else but you. You make decisions on your own and handle them in the best way you know how. This changes when you get married. The decision you make should fit both you and your partner. You literary have to consult your partner before doing something and decide on how to handle the situation at hand.

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 Your partner’s phone should not be a bother

This has really been a challenge to many marriages. If you want to have a happy relationship, your partners phone should not bother you at all. When you start interrogating about the contacts and messages you may raise doubts that can be either true or false. You may either misinterpret or misunderstand some texts and this can kill your marriage especially if you suspect you are being cheated on which may not be the case.


Attraction to other people

This is one fact that you must live with. When you are married it does not mean that you will not be attracted to other people. It maybe to a celebrity or even your colleague at work but it does not mean you are no longer attracted to your partner. It is your responsibility therefore as an individual to control your hormones and eyes so as not to be lured into cheating. This also applies to you as an individual. Marriage does not mean you will not attract other people.

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 You will be married to the family too

The sooner you accept this the better for you. This mainly affects the ladies and their in-laws. When you get married, it is not only to your husband but also his family as you become part of them too. In-laws can be a headache especially the mother in-laws. The best thing is to study your in-laws and know the best way to handle them as you will spend the rest of your lifetime with them and you have to keep a good relationship with them.

No financial paybacks

This changes in marriage because you become one and so you should not expect a payback on any cash you spend on your partner. You will be expected to do all these things wholeheartedly because of love and not because it’s your turn to return the favor. This will make you to keep your marriage happy and longer with peace.


‘I sleep with a banana stem to avoid HIV/Aids,’ brags city man

A Kenyan man has left may in shock after admitting that he sleeps with a banana plant (mgomba) to avoid the risk of getting infected with HIV/Aids.

*John* says he reached that decision after his uncle passed away after contracting the same disease.

I come from a very poor background, so my uncle – from my dads side – took the initiative of taking care of us. Buying us cloths and other things before death struck.

After my uncle’s death my mum assured me that he had been bewitched only for me to learn that he died from Aids.

It is then that I deiced not to risk dying of Aids, I decided to be sleeping with a banana plant (mgomba).”

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What I do is, I drill a hole and pour hot water into it before proceeding to fulfill my sexual urges. I cannot marry because I get my urges satisfied so why would I want a woman?

I have a girlfriend and that is the mgomba.

My parents have been pushing me to marry given that I am an only child and I am not interested despite the fact that I am 27 years old.

What would you advice John to do?

And what is the weirdest myth you have ever heard about HIV/Aids?

Put your answer in the comment section, they may help John change his mind and get a real human bae.

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‘I’ll get married when I want, marriage is no joke’ – Matilda of TRHK

Real House helps of Kawangware actress Matilda has revealed that she is not in a rush to get married. According to her, marriage is not an institution to be rushed into.

The sassy TV damsel addressed this topic during a live video interaction on social media after a majority of her fans raised the question whether she is married or not.

‘Why do people feel like marriage is easy? I have never been married before but thing I am sure of is that marriage is not an easy thing.

Marriage is a serious commitment it is not something you just wake and make a decision about.

I will get married when I want.

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Real House helps of Kawangware actress Matilda
Real House helps of Kawangware actress Matilda

She continued, “I cannot get married or have kids just because people want me to do so.

If I rush getting married and get into problems will the people asking me to get married now, help me out?”

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Kenya actress Matilda
Kenya actress Matilda

Matilda’s fans also wondered if she was a mother

No I am not a mother, yet. Most people confuse me with my fellow actress Njambi because she is the one who is a mother of one.

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