Don’t Say Sorry When Rejecting Somebody, Please Don’t! Scientists Explain Why

Getting out of lunch with a work colleague, or skipping Friday-night drinks with your flatmate, is usually as easy as saying ‘I’m sorry’.

But a recent study found that apologising can make rejection feel worse, even thought it may make you feel better.

Researchers at Dartmouth College discovered that saying sorry can make the rejected person feel like they should offer forgiveness, even if their feelings don’t match up.
And the wounded party is more likely to take revenge.

The study’s authors examined more than 1000 participants, to understand how different individuals reacted to being snubbed.

Firstly, the participants, including 600 members of the public and more than 480 psychology students, were asked to respond to various situations in which they would reject a social invitation
For all the situations, participants had to come up with a good way of rejecting Taylor.

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The researchers then had volunteers read the rejections and evaluate how hurtful each response was.

They found that 39 percent of participants were found to have issued an apology in their rejections, which were found to increase hurt feelings.

Apologies for the lunch and roommate scenarios, in particular, made volunteers feel worse.

Their feelings were only marginally hurt in the party scenario, and not at all in the date rejection.

In another experiment, researchers tested whether people would seek revenge after a rejection.

The team had 135 participants meet face-to-face after they had been rejected by a planted volunteer, who they were set up to work with on a series of group tasks.

The volunteer would politely reject the participants’ request to work on the group task, with some participants receiving an apology and some not.

One of the group tasks involved a hot sauce taste test, and rejected participants were asked to decide how much hot sauce the group had to taste.

In some instances, the planted volunteer would say that they hated spicy food before leaving the room.

Those who received an apology were more likely to take revenge and give the group more hot sauce, even if they knew that their peer hated the condiment.

‘We know that people often don’t want to admit that they have hurt feelings, so in some of the studies, we looked at how much people wanted to seek revenge,’ explained lead researcher Dr. Gili Freedman

‘As predicted, rejections that contained the words ‘I’m sorry’ led to worse outcomes than rejections without apologies; participants allocated more hot sauce,’ the authors wrote.

‘The participants believed the confederate did not like spicy food and, therefore, the greater allocation likely reflected a hostile act designed to hurt the confederate.’

Finally, researchers tested whether rejections with apologies affect forgiveness.

Participants were shown videos of real-life rejections, some with apologies and some not.

The study found that people were more likely to feel as if the rejected party should express forgiveness if an apology was given.

While an apology may have good intentions, the researchers believe it can also be a selfish act.

Dr Freedman said: ‘It is possible that rejectors may feel better about themselves if they apologize.

‘We intend to examine when rejectors are motivated to feel better about themselves and when they would rather put the rejectee’s needs ahead of their own.’

The study’s findings were published last month in the journal Frontiers in Psychology.

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Father of four drinks poison as kids watch after quarrel

Residents of a village in Gigil are in shock after a father of four committed suicide following a domestic quarrel with the wife.

The man said to be a carpenter, drunk a farm chemical in Nagum village as his children watched and was pronounced dead on arrival at a nearby health center.

The man had earlier in the day travelled from Gilgil town to the village where the family resides before he decided to take his life in unclear circumstances.

A neighbor Johnston Kirathe told how they were attracted to the home by screams ,only to find the man in pain and writhing on the ground.

He said that efforts to rush him to hospital were thwarted by lack of a vehicle adding that it took over an hour for the man to get medical services.

“He passed on while undergoing treatment in the local health center and the body has been taken to Gilgil hospital mortuary,” he said.

Meanwhile, scores of workers involved in the construction of the SGR in Mai Mahiu Naivasha were injured after they clashed with local youths over employment opportunities.

At one point, the group blocked the busy Mai Mahiu-Narok highway before riot police officers moved in and contained the situation.

During the incident, the irate youths attacked the workers saying they were the reason for their unemployment in the area.

One of the youths Patrick Kamau said the Chinese contractor involved in the construction had decided to hire youths from other areas without considering them.

Kamau said all the workers who were working on the Nairobi-Mombasa SGR line had been brought to work for the second phase, a move he termed as wrong.

“We are perturbed by this latest move by the contractor because we agreed earlier on that youths from this area would be considered for employment once the works begin,” he said.

Mai Mahiu OCS Ezra Sambu said all the youths who were attacked were safe adding that security had been intensified at the SGR sites.

“We were alerted that there was commotion and our officers acted fast and saved the situation and we have also enhanced patrols to ensure safety for all those working at the sites,” he said.

‘My Husband To Be Wants Me To Change My Last Name To His But I Don’t Want To’, Cries Woman

There has always been this debate on whether a woman should change her name after marriage. Some have done it while others feel that changing your second name to your husband’s doesn’t necessarily change things.

Well, a city woman who is about to get married, is not willing to take her husband’s last name. According to her, she wants to keep her maiden name and she doesn’t want to take it as her middle name. In short, she doesn’t want to use her husband’s name at all.

Here is what she thinks about taking her lover’s name;

“My wedding is in three months and I have serious doubts about changing my name. Coming from a somewhat traditional family, I always assumed when I got my married I’d take my husband’s name, just like my mom and sister, but the closer the wedding gets, the less I want to drop my last name. It’s part of my identity, it signifies my heritage and connects me to my family. I’m not far enough along in my career where I NEED to keep my maiden name, so that’s not an issue. More than anything, it’s an emotional urge – I just don’t want to drop my maiden name. I don’t even want to take my maiden as a middle name, because really, who asks about your middle name? How many people even know what your middle name is? I would like to take his last name in some capacity, but that doesn’t mean I want to lose my last name at the same time.

I’ve told all this to my fiancé several times and mentioned that maybe I’ll hyphenate or have two last names. At first, he kept saying it was a bad idea, because our names together sound scarily close to “Frankenstein.” But after we talked about it more, it became obvious that he was upset that I don’t want to change my last name to his. He doesn’t mind if I keep my last name as a middle name, but he really wants me to be Mrs. Smith, NOT Mrs. Fitzwilliam-Smith or Mrs. Fitzwilliam Smith. He said if I don’t change my name, it seems like less of a commitment – like it’ll be easier to back out of our marriage, which is not how I think about it at all! He even went as far as to say that it seems disrespectful if I don’t change my name because I’m not considering his feelings.

Changing my name is not a nice little favor I can do to make him feel better, like making him cookies or giving him a back rub. And whether or not I change my name, I’m the one who has to live it. Other than a few occasions here or there, it won’t really affect him much. On top of that, it makes me kind of angry that if I add his last name, it’s still is not enough for him – he actually wants me to drop my last name.

Since both of our opinions come from very emotional places, I don’t know how to find a compromise. Has anyone else gone through something like this? And if there are any guys reading this, I’d really appreciate your opinion, since it’s much harder for me to see this from a man’s perspective.” 

Comedian confesses he was blinded into marrying his wife for her curves and their marriage is over

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder or so the saying goes.

One popular comedian has found himself in a rather awkward situation, after admitting something about his wife.

The Ghanaian comedian named Benson Nana Yawoduro aka Funny face admitted in an interview with the country’s UTV’s Wofa Kwesi, that he married his wife because of her big hips and backside.

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Yes the man is secretary general of team mafisi, and his marriage has failed  because he is thirsty.

He was consumed with his wifes well endowed buttocks and blames her for ending their marriage.

He is quoted as saying: ‘I didn’t do my homework well before marrying her, adding that her big buttocks pushed me into marrying her’.

People also whispered to him that she could be seeing other men prompting his to spring into action.

He installed a car tracker in her vehicle over the suspicion she was cheating on him. What he discovered almost made him commit suicide but he restrained himself.

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He said: ‘What I’ve been through is worse then killing. I’ve moved on…but I’m hurt, because of the lies people are peddling about me’.

 

Meet Mutula Kilonzo Junior’s Gorgeous Wifey! (PHOTO)

When it comes to his private life, little is known about Makueni County Senator, Mutula Kilonzo Jnr, the son of the late Mutula Kilonzo and brother to lawyer Kethi Kilonzo.

Kilonzo jnr won the senatorial seat after a by election following the demise of his father in 2013. He went on to retain the position in the 2017 general elections.

But what many do not know is that he is a family man. He is married and is a proud father of two kids, a part of his life he has managed to keep under wraps.

However, on Thursday Kenyans got to finally see Mutula’s wife and my! she is gorgeous.

This happened when Mrs. Mutula, who goes by the name Anita Mutula jnr on Twitter, shared a cute selfie photo of her and her hubby in the senate chambers, congratulating her husband during the swearing in of elected members of both houses (Senate and parliament).

My hearty Congratulations on your 2nd swearing in! Proud of you love. May wisdom guide you throughout the term. God bless 🙏

Read Anita’s tweet alongside a photo of the two.

Check out the photo below.

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The post attracted a number of reactions from his followers who like many of us had never seen his wife.

Ralph Ngugi: Senator we can see your stronghold😍😍😍😍

Tona Antonet: Wooow..such a nice couple😘😘Congrats to him Mr senator

Gilbert Kaunda: Heeeee kumbe you’ve a very beautiful wife

Nolle Prose: Am happy for him,he s a mentor n inspire….congrats junior

Jp Owade: A very sober legislator. Keep up the great work sir. Congratulations

John Muia: My Senator!! Apart from politics and your landslide win in Makueni!! Hata wewe umejishindia. “Mundu ekawa undu wikaa!!” Shinda Ushinde.

Mother throws daughter off four-storey apartment building TWICE to make sure she is dead

A seven-year-old girl died after her mother allegedly threw her from a fourth floor terrace.

Authorities believe it was the second time Aishika Sarkar had been thrown from the building by her mother, Swathi Sarkar.

Angry locals grabbed Sarkar and tied her to a lamp post with electricity cable in Jaraganahalli, in Bangalore

A mob chased Sarkar and tied her to a lamp post with electrical cable until police arrived 

Witnesses claimed Sarkar threw her daughter from the balcony a second time 

She was later arrested by police on suspicion of her daughter’s murder.

According to police, Aishika suffered from speech development issues and was not enrolled in a school.

Her parents lived in separate houses after breaking up and her father travelled to the home once a month to give money to Mrs Sarkar.

Police suspect the mother was suffering from mental health issues.

Her estranged husband, Kanchan Sarkar, also claimed that she would regularly fly into a rage.

The girl reportedly died instantly after being allegedly thrown from the terrace.

Neighbours claimed they saw Sarkar carrying her bleeding child upstairs before throwing her down again.

One witness said the child was bleeding and clearly in pain when Swathi ran back upstairs and allegedly tossed her over the side for a second time which killed her 

She tried to flee the scene and was caught by neighbours who tied her to the lamppost while they waited for police.

One witness said: ‘I was sleeping when I heard a huge noise around 3.30pm, and I ran out to see what had happened.

‘I noticed Swathi, clad in a nightie, holding her daughter who was bleeding profusely.

‘The child was crying and writhing in pain. I asked Swathi what had happened.

‘She shouted at me and ran towards the terrace and threw the girl to the ground.’

Mrs Sarkar was interrogated at a police station where she was arrested.

She reportedly told police that her child was mentally unstable and that after killing her she planned to take her own life.

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‘My Elder Sister And Her Two Kids Are Driving Me Crazy In My House,’ Confesses Disgruntled Woman

Staying with relatives in your house can be stressful at times. Some of them do not contribute a single cent towards the family’s monthly expenses.

Others are so annoying and do not respect your personal space hence depriving you of your privacy.

Well, a disgruntled city woman has been living with her sister and her two children for quite a while now, but she isn’t happy at all. She is fed up of taking care of them and is planning to send them away from her home.

 

“My elder sister has been living with me for a year now. She’s currently a single mom of two kids, her ex-husband abandoned her with the kids for more than a year now. The problem fending for them is not easy at all, all their bills are on me and I’m tired.

I managed to register her to learn a trade which she is done with. The thing now is that I am tired of taking responsibility for everything that has to do with them. I want to send them out of the house because I don’t even take care of myself anymore. I really want to know if it will be a nice thing to do if I send them out to go stay elsewhere. My total earning in a month is 40k which is not enough for me not to take of my sister and her kids. I know she’s my sister and her kids are my nephews but I don’t know what to do anymore.. Please advise me.”

Here’s advice from social media users

Tessy: She can stay but tell her to start hustling seriously too., she is your sister your blood! U must be her keeper! Just talk to her about the stress n burden her bills is putting on your shoulders n u. Tell her Want to help but can bite more than u can chew but that she needs to really hustle to make things work.

Ivy: You want to send your blood out of the house to where? Simply speak to your sis. Tell her what you’re going through and how she needs to step up and start doing something

Omar: Please don’t send them out, I know how difficult it is to fend for one’s self talkless of 3 more people. I think u should have a talk with ur sister, tell her how difficult it is for u to shoulder her responsibilities & find a way forward.

Princess: If you as her sister sends her out, who then will she run to? Please don’t get tired of helping your blood. She is a second version of you from same womb. Even tho you not earning much, pls be patient a little more.

Daisy: A year is a lot of time..talk to her before taking any action

Paula: Let her stay but make her fend for herself and the kids

70-year-old granny reveals why she has a ‘Ben 10’

A 70-year-old widow who was banished from her village for having a 30-year-old boyfriend has opened up why she chose to date a ‘ben 10’.

The woman and her boyfriend were busted in bed by her grand daughter, and this act outraged the community who went ahead to ban her from the village.

According to the accounts of the granny, the young girl had noticed the man making moves on her granny and spied on them severally as they carried on with their shenanigans. This whole time the granddaughter was planning how to bust them and reveal their romance to the world, in the hopes of shaming her granny.

Whatever happened to that little thing we call..mind your own business huh?

So the young girl continued with her spying games until one night presented her with the opportunity to catch them in the act. She screamt so hard, villagers responded to the alarm she raised.

The villagers frog marched the two love=birds to the streets and mocked them for their ‘romance’.

After being banished, the granny has come forward and opened up about why she has a ‘Ben 10’. She explained that the young man was a family friend who was helping her out financially including doing house chores.

“I wouldn’t say whether I committed that crime or not. It is my bad granddaughter who caused this public embarrassment to me because if she did not report to the community, I wouldn’t have suffered this type of public disgrace.

“If she was a good granddaughter, the youths wouldn’t have rung the community bell which caused my disgrace; my granddaughter would have shielded me if she was a good child”, she said.

“My cell phone light was on and if I was having intercourse with the man, I would have switched off the phone but the light was on. So, my granddaughter shouted and reported to her uncle that she saw a man having intercourse with me. From there, the matter was reported to the youths and to the entire community and I was sanctioned.

“I have no problem with my granddaughter as to warrant her to report me
to the community that I was having sex with a man. This is a year and three months I took her to my house to stay with me. She gave birth and I took her to my house to stay with me so as to take care of her and I didn’t know that doing so will cause me problem by monitoring me and every step I took.

“Ever since I adopted my granddaughter, her husband doesn’t care how we are faring. It is even the man they said had sex with me that is taking care of her; at times, the man will buy uncooked foods including rice and some noodles and gave her to cook for him.

“The man will just eat a little from the food and leave the rest for her. When my granddaughter’s baby was sick, it was the man who went into the bush and got herbs used in curing the baby”, she explained.

“Yes, the man actually visits our house regularly. He stays till 12 midnight at times. That fateful Sunday they said he had sex with me, he came with his friend from Ozziza community and left at about 10:30pm after drinking some bottles of beer.

“The man later came back to buy local gin which I was selling him when my granddaughter barged into my room with her own cell phone light  and shouted that I was having intercourse with the man and started asking the man what he was doing with me”, she added.

 

Things You May Be Addicted To Without Your Knowledge

People carry different activities for pleasure and entertainment to refresh their minds and for relaxation. But sometimes you may not realize you are practically addicted to the activities and hence it becomes hard to stop.

Here are some things you may not know you are addicted to:

1. SPORTS

Sports and games are a form of entertainment which help people feel relaxed when either playing or watching. Playing or watching has no harm at all but it becomes an addiction when you spend more or even all the resources you have just to enjoy sports.

Believe me some people stay up late or even miss their work just because they never had enough sleep because of watching a match. They gamble expensive materials and gifts for the winning matches of which is good if they are able but when a person gambles the only little thing he/she owns, then it becomes an a problem. Some even fight just because their favorite team has been defeated and do other crazy things.

2. BETTING

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Its a form of entertainment and the same time a way of finding some cash by trying your luck. This has affected many where a person can afford to use all the cash they have just to bet and later loose everything. Betting is a serious addiction where students are even betting their school fees.

3. POLITICS

Every person is affected directly or indirect by the phenomenon of politics. But when it becomes an addiction then it’s serious and dangerous. When it comes to electing leaders everybody does so and its over but to some people, politics will never end; they talk politics, they eat politics and they wear politics. When it comes to political parties; between party A and B, a person will never have a clear explanation why s/he is so much into party B.

4. RELIGION

When I talk of religion I mean any cultural system of designated behaviors and practices, world, texts, sanctified places, ethics or organizations that relate humanity to the supernatural or transcendental. Remember there is a difference between being religious and believing in supernatural beings.

Its ok to belong to a certain religion, but when one focuses on it than believing on the supernatural then that is a religion addiction. The more religious one is, the more s/he believes in what the other members of the religion believe and not about focusing on the supernatural.

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5. RELATIONSHIP

You may wonder how is this related to addiction but let me explain it to you. Remember romance relationship is the one involved here. According to Bentham philosophy; We start to make some kind of distinction between our emotions and our rationality when relationship is concerned between the involved parties. This means when one decides to leave a relationship then the other one should agree and move on. Though it isn’t easy you should take time before starting another relationship. Some run into building another relationship in the name of ‘healing wounds’ thinking it’s the best option of which starting a new one is easy but breaking up is another story.

 

Wanaume Mko Wapi: Meet The Woman Who Has Created A Poster Searching For Husband

People create posters to search for different things. Some advertise the products they sell and other services they offer. But when it reaches at a point of a woman creating a poster searching fro a husband; you have to take it serious.

Meet Nyambura, who is a 28 years and a mother of one aged 7 years. She was courageous enough create a poster and dressed in a wedding gown.

Nyambura is in search of a husband as Nairobi nights are getting colder by the day. She wrote her details on a poster stating that she’s in dire need of a husband, also giving her contacts in case anyone is interested.

We all know we live in a crazy world, but this one right here, is a winner.

Check out photos of the lady in a gown below;

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Can you spot the father of this child? (Photo)

A photo of a man, his wife, a pastor and a little boy is generating very interesting remarks. Have you seen it? Check it out below, including hilarious meme’s.

In a separate video, the pastor is commenting how his prayers have helped the man and his wife conceive after years of being childless.

The husband has a wide grin on his face, perhaps it’s about the sheer joy at finally having a male child to mentor. But everyone on social media has noted one minor detail about the babys looks.

Everyone, like literally everyone is saying the healthy baby boy resembles the pastor.

The other question on people’s minds is if the poor husband has noticed the close resemblance of his son to the pastor. Perhaps he doesn’t care, as he finally has a child to call his own?

Anyway have a look at one funny meme about this photo. It’s hilarious and will crack your ribs if your having a bad day;

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What do you think?

 

Dear Kenyan Men, Here Are 8 Characteristics Of A Wife Or Girlfriend Who Doesn’t Care About Your Future

Every man dreams of dating or marrying that educated, well-mannered career woman. There are some who are lucky to get the woman of their dreams but others fall for the bad ones.

Well, here are the characteristics of a girlfriend or wife who doesn’t care about your future!

1. You send her 250 airtime bado anatuma please call me

My brother if she is this type then you’re not her number one priority. Why send her airtime than she calls other men who don’t even give her a single cent? She is just using you.

2. She asks for Sh1500 for her hair, you give her 2k bado anaitisha fare

Are you insane? Some will even go to that local salon get their hair done for as low as 500/- use matatus and spend the balance to buy guarana.

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3. You send her 2k via Mpesa bado anaitisha ya kutoa.

She doesn’t appreciate the little things you do for her. Dump her bro. She is not wife material.

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4. You have 1k in your wallet and the fare for two people is 100 and she has 200 bob in her purse and she can’t save the matatu conductor the hustle of looking for change by paying.

Clearly, your wife’s money is not yours yet yours is for both of you.

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5. You take her out for lunch, you spent 2k for lunch bado anaitisha taxi

Some women want to live large yet they are very poor. Why ask for a taxi yet you commute from place to place using matatus? She asks for a taxi so that she can document the whole journey on Instagram and Snapchat. Dear men, if your wife or girlfriend demands alot please allow her to leave. Why die of stress?

6. You take her for shopping, you walk along 4 aisles and you are done with your shopping, she traverses the whole super market for her shopping.

If she does this she is nothing but an attention seeker. They will always take photos in every corner of the store/supermarket just to show the whole world that she went shopping. Do you want to settle down with a socialite? Clearly NOT!

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7. You promise her 2k for her hair and she creates an album of all the promises you’ve made complete with a hit single reminding you of her hair money. Some become alarms.

8. She wants pizza every weekend which costs Sh1500 yet a bag of cement costs 750. Hizo ni bags mbili za foundation ya nyumba anararua per week. At the end of the month ameangusha foundation ya nyumba by 8 bags of cement.

 

City Man Wows Many after Disclosing His Wife Doesn’t Let Him Take Care Of The Family’s Monthly Bills

Gone are the days when women used to stay at home and wait for their husbands to cater for the needs of their family. Women nowadays are taking up the role of the head of the family. They hustle hard for their children and even for their husbands.

Well, a city husband has taken many by surprise after he revealed that his wife is the one who foots the bills. This is so unlike many women who always confess that they cannot share a dime with their husbands, insisting men are the head of the family and should take care of all the bills.

According to this husband, his wife is from a wealthy family and she never allows him to use his salary. She foots all the bills. So she has requested him to quit his job and stay at home to take care of their children. But he is confused on whether to follow his wife’s advice or not.

“My wife is from a very rich family. I knew what I went through before I could marry her, because they felt I was a gold digger. I just earn 150k and I have been managing it with my family.

My father-in-law just gave my wife a good paying job with 820k every month, that is her monthly income apart from allowances. He said he is more comfortable with his daughter’s financial security in case anything happens to him tomorrow.

Life has been good to us, my wife does not even allow me to touch my salary, she even adds to it. Now we have been changing baby sitters because of one funny behaviour or the other. My love for kids is out of this world. So my wife suggested I quit my job and stay home with our kids since my salary is practically doing nothing.

She also said she will be dividing her salary into 2, every month she gives me 400k to do my manly things, or if I am not comfortable we run a joint account. It sounds nice but I need to be sure I am not making a terrible mistake I will regret in the long run. I need your opinion. What do you all think about this idea.”

Check out the reactions

Biola: Don’t leave your job

Lazarus: Don’t even try it, where is your pride as a man? Even if its a 2 naira job pls stick to it, else you will start washing pant, you sound like a lazy man to even consider it

Juli: No matter how small ur income is…… Is better den depending on your wife cos she won’t respect you… don’t leave your job

Dan: Bros that job is your power, don’t even compromise by quitting your job just because your wife earns way more, and makes you feel its a reasonable thing to do under the circumstance, you are the man, you call the shots. Her dad didn’t give you that job, she didn’t give you the job, that’s your only power, don’t lose it.

Aime: Don’t… It’s a trap… She’ll treat you like shut later on when she’s tired… Just manage while you look for a better job somewhere else

Okila: U’ll be less of a man, no matter how small your income is,u are doing something. ….don’t do it, u’ll actually turn to that gold digger

Loly: Dear husband, you had better not quit your job cause of woman&love for money,stay focus&glued with your job like never before

Duni: Bros, do not quit your job for whatever excuse, be the man of the house and please, be in charge too.

Neil: I must commend your wife for her kind suggestion but I will advise to keep joy job or else you will lose your self-esteem. It means you will be at the mercy of your wife when she refuses to provide.

Renee: Please don’t quit your job. Your the man of the house no matter how little you earn.

Phoenix: Quitting your job will be the biggest mistake you will ever make in your life…. Women can never handle a man’s responsibility and still respect the man in a long run…. my brother be wise keep your job, work hard God will bless you with what you are doing.

Sylvia: You need to be a man uncle, have your financial freedom and stop depending your wife

Proud man shows off his heavily pregnant WIVES And The Internet Isn’t Happy (Photo)

Dunia ina mambo kweli.

A photo of a man and his two heavily pregnant wives has surfaced, making many social media users question what is going on in the minds of the two women.

The unnamed man seems to be at a photoshoot with his wives, and they do look pretty stunning..the baby bumps I mean..

While many husbands chose to hide their mpango wa kando’s, this man has decided to embrace them, and his look in the photoshoot tell us so.

Check out the photo below, and how the internet reacted harshly.

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doseofsoulthey …look like they not feeling it 💀
sweetee43…Crazy!!!!!😐
mylifeilivein..My friend had that. They gave birth in between a week to the babys and now the guy is married to someonw else
[email protected]…… i though that was hum when i first look! Ressemblance is crazy
[email protected] wtf 😂😂😂
tatyanakeri…Nope.
[email protected]… a problèm
[email protected]_cue 😂😂😂guettons life
my_girls_mama…Un believable!
memzahbee…And they not pulling each others hair .
[email protected]… do the woman in histoire left lookshappy
krishashanie.pow….Classic case of women who haven’t discovered their worth or have lost their worth.
[email protected] 😂😂😂😂😂
mialuvzstax…Tacky
[email protected] 💯💯💯
[email protected]…. huh?
gogofullofjoy…You know who I’m thinking of right now? @andefikir
[email protected]…. the girl un left do she looks happy for U?! Its not her Idea for sûre!
dmbanzilaWtf!! ….This is the sh*t I can’t entertain in my life @giovannaalles

Newlyweds Share The Worst Things That Happened Just A Day After Their Wedding

A day after walking down the aisle, you should still be basking in a contented glow and looking forward to making the honeymoon period last as long as possible.

But newly married bliss was cut very short for these newlyweds who opened up on Whisper about how their marriage had gone very wrong within just 24 hours of saying ‘I do’. 

People unearthed secrets which would probably have stopped the wedding if they’d known beforehand, including a bride who discovered she’d been cheated on.

One new husband came out as gay to his wife the day after marrying her, while a groom had to endure his bride getting arrested for robbery the very next day. 

Other couples realised they weren’t right for each others just hours into their new marriage in a case of seriously bad timing.  

This wife found out that her new husband was gay just a day after their wedding day
This wife found out that her new husband was gay just a day after their wedding day
This newlywed couple's time together was cut short after the wife got arrested just hours later
This newlywed couple’s time together was cut short after the wife got arrested just hours later
This new wife didn't let her wedding stop her from returning to an ex and ending the marriage
This new wife didn’t let her wedding stop her from returning to an ex and ending the marriage

This man was reunited with the love of his life just a day after marrying another woman

By the time this bride found out her partner was cheating she had already married him

One bride was only interested in getting married to have a big day and left her husband quickly

This man was reunited with the love of his life just a day after marrying another woman

By the time this bride found out her partner was cheating she had already married him

The wedded bliss didn't last long for this couple, who got into a fight just a day after marrying

One new wife regretted getting married just a day after her wedding, calling it a 'mistake'

This newlywed's happiness was cut short after their little brother died a day after the wedding

This heartless husband told his new life he had never loved her a day after they got married

This bride found out that her boyfriend was only marrying her for a 'bet' and later got revenge
This bride found out that her boyfriend was only marrying her for a ‘bet’ and later got revenge

One bride realised that her marriage was a mistake just hours after it had begun

 

One tragic groom passed away hours after he got married after battling cancer

This bride chose to have a baby to fix her marriage, which collapsed the day after the wedding

In an unwanted blast from the past, this bide heard from an ex a day after getting married

 

Source: Daily Mail

Does your partner mock you or give backhanded compliments? It could be abuse: Expert reveals 14 signs of emotional abuse even smart people miss

Does your partner mock you, ignore you or control what you wear?  

Emotional abuse can be creep into your relationship and gradually undermine your self-belief and confidence.

These abusers can be skilled at convincing you that everything is your fault, so you start to question yourself and no longer trust your gut instinct. 

Some of the signs are more obvious than others.

But here, Sally Brown, a psychologist British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists, reveals 14 signs to look out for.

Emotional abuse happens in many relations. Some signs include your partner having no empathy, saying you're always wrong and using backhanded compliments (file photo)

1. You are mocked

Your other half loves to tell ‘funny’ stories at your expense – whether it’s how hopeless you are at managing money/driving/being organized, or how you always overdo it/make a fool of yourself at social events.

If you object, you are accused of having no sense of humor or being oversensitive.

You start to wonder if the digs and jibes really are just teasing and you’re missing the joke.

When your partner makes one of these ‘jokes’ in public, does anyone laugh or is there an uncomfortable silence?

If a joke makes others uncomfortable, your partner is telling it to undermine you.

2. You feel guilty all the time

 They are keeping you on a leash that will just get shorter.

You feel guilty or slightly ashamed all the time without knowing what about.

You become hyper-vigilant by monitoring your behavior to avoid giving your partner a reason to criticize you; a feeling of ‘walking on eggshells’.

But the posts seem to move all the time so you never know how you will irritate or disappoint them next.

The irony is, an abuser can even make you feel guilty for their own bad behavior – they got drunk because you ‘upset them’ or ‘stressed them out’, or you’re just ‘being jealous’ over their flirting.

3. Suddenly you need ‘protecting’ 

If you go out without your partner you’re either given a curfew or they insist on picking you up.

They ask you to Snapchat a picture of who you are with when you get there.

They tell you they are just taking care of you, but really, they are checking up on you, and keeping you on a leash that will just get shorter and shorter.

4. They make grand gestures 

When an abusive partner knows they have overstepped the line and you are questioning the relationship, get ready for a grand gesture – an expensive meal out, a surprise weekend away, an unexpected gift or bunch of flowers.

The original problem remains unresolved, or not even acknowledged – a grand gesture buys your silence, and your part of the deal is not to insist on talking things through.

5. You’re being gaslighted  

Gradually, you get the feeling that things just don’t quite add up – your partner contradicts something they have told you previously, or you suspect you’re not getting the whole picture (about their last relationship or why they left their last job).

They may also deny doing or saying something that you clearly remember, but they deny it with such conviction and confidence that you start to doubt yourself.

This insidious form of manipulation is called ‘gaslighting’, and it’s designed to make you doubt your mental health.

6.  They burst your bubble

You partner immediately throws cold water on your plans

You come home full of excitement because a great business opportunity has come your way or you’ve been asked to get involved with a project you feel passionate about.

But your partner immediately throws cold water on your plans, telling you all the ways that things would go wrong, or that it’s a bad idea – or they start a completely unrelated argument just to burst your bubble.

In future, you gradually find yourself not sharing your ideas and successes with them, because you know you won’t get a positive reaction.

7. Backhanded compliments are their stock in trade  

When you first met, you felt flattered by the attention your partner paid to how you look.

But as time goes by, the compliments have become few and far between, replaced by comments about how ‘wrong’ your look is – that top doesn’t suit you, you’re putting on weight, what’s going on with your hair?

If you object, you’re once again being ‘oversensitive’.

8. They have no empathy 

If you talk about a problem at work, you’re ‘overreacting’.

You are allowed a short time to vent about major upsets, then you are expected to ‘get over it’ (so you can focus your energy and attention once again on your partner and their needs).

Some emotional abusers disappear when you need them most, or become extra critical.

9. You’re always in the wrong 

Whether it was something you said six months ago, not telling your partner something that they believe they have a right to know, or letting them down in some way (putting your needs before theirs), an abusive partner will keep a mental tally and regularly remind you of your crimes.

They may even add things that happened before you met, encouraging you to be ‘honest’ about your past sexual history, for instance, only to later use that information as evidence of your badness.

10. The purse-strings tighten

 Your partner steps up the pressure to be careful with money.

Controlling you financially is a classic tactic of an abusive partner; something known as financial abuse.

They may have started by giving you advice that really helps, helping you sort out debts, or being more financially responsible.

Soon, your partner steps up the pressure to ‘be careful’ with money. But somehow, it seems like it’s always you who has to cut back, earn more and stop spending.

Your partner doesn’t consult you before they spend money. But if there’s something you want, particularly if it involves a threat to your partner’s control over you, like training for your career, or a weekend away with friends, there will be a reason why you can’t afford it.

Read more: dailymail

Oops! Pastors wife reveals her affair with married church member

 The prank happened on the Star FM show ‘Call Box’ hosted by Davis Mugadza aka Diva Dollar.

Diva Dollar called her to congratulate her about winning an all expenses paid trip to Dubai sponsored by an oil marketer.

when asked who she would like to take on the trip, the woman said she would be taking a man named Steve and when asked her relationship to this man she said’ he is the love of my life’.

However she quickly retracted her statement after it was revealed she was on radio and it was all a prank.

Here below is the audio of the call courtesy. harare

Groom’s VERY tearful reaction at seeing his bride walk down the aisle is captured in emotional images

Everyone dreams of their wedding day, but for one groom seeing his bride walk down the aisle was more than he could take.

Groom Micah Baker, 22, from Tennessee, had long-awaited the day he could marry his fiancée Bailey, and when she finally walked down the aisle, he broke down in tears. Photos from their big day see him closing his eyes and bringing his hand up to his face to cover his sobs as he watches Bailey walk towards the altar.

He even had to turn around to gather his composure and take a breather. But by the time she reached him, he broke down all over again, wiping his tears with both hands before taking her hands before the priest. Dailymail

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