Do Most Kenyan Women Need Anger Management Classes? Asks Maina Kageni (AUDIO)

An article in one of the local dailies written by Mike Mswati talks about Kenyan women, and how they have become an angry lot. It suggests that women are no longer the nice, polite, gentle and lovely caregivers that our mothers used to be. Apparently modern women have become grumpy, moody and an angry lot that whines about their men according to the article.

It goes further to say that you only need to check out their social media posts to see how angry Kenyan women have become.

Mwalimu agreed with the author of the article saying that compared to Ugandan women, Kenyan women have no respect for their men.

Maina then asked; “Girls, do yo agree that you need anger management classes? Guys, does this article make sense?”

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Living With An Infidel, Physically And Emotionally Battered – Do Women Have 9 Lives?

A huge percentage of women, if not all, have probably been with men who have either cheated on them, battered them, financially disabled them or ended up humiliating them beyond measure. So why will these women rise to see another day, put a smile on their faces, go about making their careers beautiful with all the heartache? Is it the pain that drives them or

So why will these women rise to see another day, put a smile on their faces, go about making their careers beautiful with all the heartache? Is it the pain that drives them or do they have 9 lives?

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From time immemorial, women have been treated like disposable objects to men and mistreated. Their abilities not seen or appreciated.

Ladies, Here Are The Telling Signs He’s NOT Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

Their hearts are broken over and over again yet they go through the pain of bearing children, raising them on their own and still expected to have a career. Regardless, they end up letting their guard down when a man is involved. The question begs, why should they?

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Men were meant to be the heads of the home, priests who guide the family and lead them to what is Godly. In this day in age, however, women have taken up this role while their men are busy entertaining younger women. Many are wallowing in filth as they disown the very people that loved them when all they had to offer was love.

And for what reason? “The sex is boring, she gained weight, she earns more than I do, it gets boring being with one woman, the other woman made me feel like a king,” are just some of the nonsensical reasons for their behaviour.

My response? If your wife for 10 years hadn’t nurtured your kingdom for that long, these shisha smoking, Guarana drinking, yolo confused youngsters would surely spit on your face!

But at the end of it all, I feel that women indeed have 9 lives. This is  quite enough space to take a man’s crap and turn it into something beautiful.

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Ladies, Here Are The Telling Signs He’s NOT Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

Really wanna give someone the ultimate insult? Call them irrelevant. It’s pretty much the worst thing you could be.

Irrelevant is the worst thing you could be because you’re so insignificant, no one even bothered to think of a more precise insult. Simply put, you don’t matter.

Needless to say, nobody wants to be called irrelevant. Especially not by the guy you like. That being said, whether we admit it to ourselves or not, there are times when you are, in fact, irrelevant to the guy you’re so obsessed with.

In fact, I would go so far as to say the reason you’re so obsessed with him is because you’re irrelevant to him. The problem is that instead of just accepting the fact that we don’t matter to him, we try to make up excuses as to why this guy’s not giving us the time of day.

“He’s not talking to me because he’s mad at me!” No, you’re not relevant enough for him to bother with being mad at you.

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“He’s not talking to me because he’s busy!” No, you’re not relevant enough for him to prioritize you over literally anything else.

“He’s not talking to me because he’s dead!” No, he just doesn’t want to waste another breath in his waking life conversing with you.

I get that it can be a little confusing. Maybe he is mad at you. Maybe he is busy! Maybe he is dead!

So, check out this list of surefire signs he’s not mad or busy or dead (or any other lame excuse you managed to come up with)… you’re just irrelevant to him

  • Your friends are sick of hearing about him, but his friends don’t even know who you are
  • None of his family members know who you are (that is if he even has a family because he’s never mentioned them).
  • He straight-up doesn’t respond to some of your texts.
  • You’ve never hooked up sober.
  • If you have hooked up sober, it was in the morning after a drunk hookup

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  • You guys have never shared a meal together.
  • If you have shared a meal together, it was either late-night pizza or hungover morning meals.
  • He Snapchats you more than he texts you.
  • You’ve never been on a real date with him.
  • If you have been on a date, it was one time. And it never happened again.
  • You’ve never spoken on the phone unless it was 4 am, and you needed him to buzz you up to his place.
  • He never wants to cuddle with you.
  • He chooses even the dumbest plans over you.
  • His friends (the same ones who don’t know who you are) always come before you.
  • You’ve told him a million personal things about you, and he can barely remember any of it.
  • He’s told you he’s “not looking for anything serious.”
  • He told you he was too busy to hang out, then posted a Snapchat story of himself alone on the couch.
  • Part of you is afraid that if you stopped putting in the effort, your relationship would completely fizzle out.

STOP WASTING YOUR TIME. You are cool, and fun and smart, and even though this guy can’t seem to appreciate that, I guarantee there’s someone out there who will.

Ladies Please Note; EVERY Single One Of These 10 Things Is Emotional Abuse

If you’ve never been involved with a cunning, pathological lying, narcissistic, abusive partner, you may not know what you’re dealing with.

When you date an abusive personality, you may buy into his charm, braggadocio and phony façade while downplaying his inconsiderate and questionable behavior. Or you mistrust your instincts that your boyfriend or husband is lying to you, demeaning and controlling you. Worse yet, you may think you are overreacting and crazy — as he claims you are.

If you are experiencing any of the following things, you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship;

Accusing and blaming: He shifts the responsibility and the emphasis onto you for the problems in your relationship. He says things, like: “It’s your fault.” What’s wrong with you?” “You didn’t remind me.” “Nothing I do is ever enough.”

Punishment by withholding: He refuses to listen, he ignores your questions, he withholds eye contact and he gives you the “silent treatment.” He’s punishing you! He withholds approval, appreciation, affection, information, thoughts and feelings to diminish and control you.

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Blocking and diverting: He steers the conversation by refusing to discuss an issue or he inappropriately interrupts the conversation. He twists your words, he watches TV, or he walks out of the room while you’re talking.

Contradicting: He disapproves and opposes your thoughts, perceptions or your experience of life itself. No matter what you say, he uses contradicting arguments to frustrate you and wear you down.

Discounting: He denies your experience of his abuse. He tells you that you’re hypersensitive or that you’re imagining things or that you can never be happy.

Disparaging humor: Verbal abuse is often disguised as jokes. The abuser teases, ridicules and humiliates you with sarcastic remarks about your appearance, personality, abilities and values. He makes fun of you in front of your friends and family because he knows you will avoid a public confrontation.

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General crazy-making: He uses a combination of distortion, blaming, forgetting, stonewalling and denial to confuse, frustrate and drive you to the brink of insanity. He denies the truth and twists your words, putting you on the defense.

Judging and criticizing: He harshly and unfairly criticizes you and then he passes it off as “constructive” criticism. If you object, he tells you he is only trying to help in an effort to make you feel unreasonable and guilty.

Undermining: He breaks his promises and he fails to follow through on agreements. He minimizes your efforts, interests, hobbies, achievements and concerns. He trivializes your thoughts and suggestions.

Forgetting: He “accidently”  forgets the things that are important to you. By doing this, he’s saying, “I’m in control of your time and reality.”

Now that you know the conniving, covert signs of emotional abuse, what are you going to about it?

In Case You Didn’t Know, Here Are 5 phases Of Awkwardness In New Relationships

Have you just entered into a relationship, or you are on the brink of entering into one?

You should expect early days of awkwardness, and uncertainty in the five areas listed below…

Learning of each other’s pasts

Learning about each other’s past can be a little awkward, especially when one of you has been a little wild and adventurous and has quite a lot to reveal.

When you get to that phase, try to be as open-minded as understanding as possible.

Getting comfortable with one other

You’ll also be at the point where you are not too sure of what is cool with your partner and what is not.

Time will take care of this, and soon enough, you both will be laughing at that awkwardness.

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When to have sex

Everyone has their own beliefs and ideas for when the time is right to get intimate with someone you’re dating.

At that point where you are really unsure of where your partner stands on the matter, it makes sense to sit down and have a good chat about it.

Meeting each other’s friends

There is also the awkwardness of meeting and getting along with your partner’s friends.

This will be so especially if you date someone from different social circles from yours.

To avoid this, partners need to advise their friends to be cool and be as friendly as possible before introducing bae /boo to them.

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Meeting the family

So this might necessarily not be something that happens very much at the beginning of relationships, but it poses some awkwardness too.

Being introduced to your partner’s family is usually a serious thing and it often shows that you are both headed towards something more serious than just a relationship.

This is why ladies and guys alike are often fretful and nervous about the date with their partner’s families.

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Mother Describes The Moment She Pulled Her OWN Baby Boy From Her Womb During Delivery

Lying in an operating theatre, dressed in a hospital gown, Australian mum of four Sarah Toyer describes how she reached down to place her hands on her baby son, Spencer, and welcome him into the world for the very first time.

‘I wanted to share to let other mums know there’s always another way to birth even if you have to have a C-section,’ Mrs Toyer told Daily Mail Australia.

Mrs Toyer, who also has three other children, Jay, Ruby, Wyatt, posted details of her experience to the Facebook page Birth Without Fear, alongside the incredible images which were taken by her husband Joseph,

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‘When I discovered I was pregnant I was determined to have a maternal assisted c-section!’ she wrote.

Mother's determination: When she discovered she was pregnant with her fourth baby, Mrs Toyer said she wanted a maternal assisted caesarean

‘I talked to every midwife, doctor, and surgeon about what I wanted to do, but they all said it would depend on the surgeon on call that day.

‘So, when the day came along we waited eight hours at the hospital, then I was standing there next to the surgeon scrubbing up just as she was,’ she said.

‘Maybe half an hour later I was lying on the operating table watching my son’s head being pulled from my womb.

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‘I reached down and put my hands under his arms and lifted the rest of him out of my own body. It was the most incredible thing I have ever done.’

The experience moved Mrs Toyer so much, she urged other women to be firm about the kind of birth they wanted.

‘I highly recommend you stick to your guns about what birth you want!’ she concluded her post. ‘Welcome earth-side baby Spencer.’

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OH DEAR! “I Found Out My Fiancé Is Actually My Brother” Woman Cries Out

A female Reddit user named “oopscest” took to the online site to tell the harrowing story of one heck of a family affair. In a post titled “I found out yesterday that my fiancé and I are related. He’s known for a year,” oopscest (who conceals her identity for obvious reasons), opens up about how she stumbled upon a secret her half-brother/fiancé had been sitting on for 12 months.

Oopscest first describes how she met her partner roughly two years ago at a role-play group, and they’ve been dating since. And here’s where we get the first tip-off of what’s to come: while her father was perpetually absent from her life, she notes how her partner’s family had always been very close, and she “always thought they were perfect.” She didn’t realize the man who seemed to be her fiancé’s father was actually his stepfather until she began working on wedding invitations. (And you thought planning your wedding was stressful.)

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“While working on wedding invitations – my future MIL [mother-in-law] mentioned that my fiancé’s dad is actually his stepdad. I asked to see a picture of his real dad and I nearly passed out when my MIL showed me a pic of my dad,” oopscest wrote.

At that point, the poor bride-to-be realized she was betrothed to her own half-brother, panicked, vomited, and later confronted him. Surprisingly calm upon receiving the news, he “admitted that he’s known for a year but didn’t want to lose me. Since we always planned to be child-free, he didn’t see the problem with just keeping it from me,” she wrote.

She has been very surprised by the responses of Redditors, with many encouraging her to stay in the relationship. Those taking issue with the relationship did not criticize the incest factor, but the violation of trust in that her fiancé could keep such a tremendous secret from her. Her post received more than 3,400 comments in just nine hours.

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However, she remains unsure of how to proceed with her wedding. “I gotta say. The majority of you seem to be totally cool with the idea of brother-sister incest. I know the internet is kind of a depraved place; but I wasn’t expecting that AT ALL,” she wrote. “Unfortunately, I don’t think that same attitude would be mirrored in the offline world. And, even if it was, I’m not sure I can go through life as the girl who married her brother.”

Despite thanking fellow Redditors for their support, oopscest wrote that she is considering deleting her post, and is also considering reaching out to her father and talking to him for the first time in 10 years about this, which I imagine will make for a very interesting conversation.

 

The Color Of Love: NBA Star Dirk Nowitzki Opens Up About Wedding A Kenyan Woman And The Culture Shock During The Dowry Ceremony

The five Kenyan women were covered from head to toe as they stood in front of an African garb-wearing Dirk Nowitzki.

One was the love of the Dallas Mavericks forward’s life. The others were decoys who if incorrectly chosen, would cost the 13-time NBA All-Star a goat as punishment. The 7-foot German nailed tough shots in the NBA Finals and the Olympics, and on this occasion he did the same, correctly picking his bride Jessica Olsson.

“It was awesome,” Nowitzki told The Undefeated. “They took my wife away. They brought five or six girls out and they were all covered. So the first thing I had to do was find my wife. So I’m walking around and looking at how tall they are.

“I guess it’s one of the traditions. If you get it wrong, you got to pay the parents a goat or something. So I was lucky. I smelled her to find the right one. So, I got lucky there. But that was just an experience that I’ll never forget.”

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Dirk Nowitzki and his wife Jessica Nowitzki attend the premiere of the film 'Nowitzki. Der Perfekte Wurf' at Cinedom on September 16, 2014 in Cologne, Germany.

Nowitzki is a worldwide known basketball name. He is the Mavs’ all-time leading scorer, the 2011 NBA Finals MVP, the 2007 NBA MVP and a two-time FIBA Europe Player of the Year. Basketball also introduced him to his wife.

The two met at a charity event for the Sports for Education and Economic Development (SEED) Project on a snowy night in February 2010. It was an NBA All-Star weekend in Dallas. The Senegal-based nonprofit uses basketball as a platform to engage youths in academic, athletic and leadership programs.

Nowitzki was tricked into raising his hand during an auction that resulted in him making a major donation in exchange for a Rolando Diaz painting. He also agreed to go on two dates for charity. But he was also hoping to get a real date with a beautiful woman he met that night named Jessica Olsson, who was working at a Dallas art gallery.

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Dirk Nowitzki arrives at the 2011 ESPY Awards at Nokia Theatre L.A. Live on July 13, 2011 in Los Angeles, California.

Jessica Nowitzki is the daughter of a Kenyan mother and Swedish father. Jessica was raised in Sweden with her younger twin brothers, Marcus and Martin, who are both professional soccer players in England and have also played for the Swedish National Team.

“What made her so special? What made me fall in love with her? First of all, she’s got to be attractive. That’s obviously part of it,” Nowitzki said with a big smile. “And I think we just clicked intellectually. She likes art, she likes sports. Her brothers both played soccer, they were professional.

“She grew up around sports. We both love tennis and we love to travel. We both love kids and family.”

Although race wasn’t a big deal to Nowitzki and Olsson, it became a topic when their relationship became public.

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Nowitzki and Olsson made their first big public appearance on July 13, 2011, when they were on the red carpet at The ESPYS awards together. They received a lot of comments on Twitter when he kissed her after winning an award during the televised show. The Twitter chatter was not necessarily negative, but it was race-related.

Dirk Nowitzki and his wife, Jessica, on their wedding day on July 20, 2012 in Dallas, Texas.

Olsson asked that Nowitzki keep an open mind to the Kenyan wedding. To no surprise, the free-spirited, comical and fun-loving German relaxed, danced to African music and even had an encounter with a helpless goat.

“Her mom threw a wedding party and that’s where some of those photos came from where I had the outfit on with a hat on,” Nowitzki, who loves Kenyan stews and barbecue, said. “It was a special experience. I’ve never, obviously, been a part of anything like that, the dances, the whole experience, the tradition of a wedding down there.

“It’s different. You have to cut a goat. Lots of symbols, all the different things. They really threw us a really traditional Kenyan wedding.”

So what did Nowitzki — a multimillionaire certainly financially capable of providing for his wife — pay in dowry?

“We kind of faked things,” Nowitzki said. “They gave me a little Kenyan shillings and I paid them that. It was literally like a whole-day event. There were hundreds and hundreds of people there.”

The Nowitzki family has quickly grown, as they now have three children, a girl and two younger boys. The plan is for the Nowitzki children to spend time in Kenya and Germany yearly to learn their heritage. Olsson’s mother has died since the wedding, but there are still a lot of family members in Kenya whom the Nowitzkis want their kids to know.

 

 

 

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Revealed! What Your Sleep Position Says About Your Best Quality As A Couple

Every couple has a “go-to” falling asleep position, whether it’s tucking your S.O.’s (Special Other) arm underneath so you can properly spoon, or turning away from each other so you can have the most bed for your buck. But what does it really say about you?

Spooning = You’re Secret Sex Tigers

What on the surface appears to be a tender, tight hug from behind is actually bringing you into perfect bump-and-grind mode, which is likely to lead to other things. Everyone says “awww” when they see you, when in actuality, you just did the deed in a random bathroom. The best of both worlds, really.

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Turned In = You’re Disgustingly Sweet To Each Other

If your move is to nuzzle into one’s chest and revel feeling close to their heart,  you either just started dating yesterday, or you’re just so kind and loving to each other that it still feels like the honeymoon period. You know attraction isn’t just about sex; it’s about still giving your S.O. a peck even when they accidentally ordered you a side salad instead of fries.

On The Edge = You’re 100 Percent Committed To Each Other

As one of you drifts away, the other has to reach out and hold them — even if it means both of you teetering toward the edge of the bed. You’ll similarly be there for each other in bigger life events — when you have to do a long-distance relationship, when he gets a tattoo you secretly hate, etc.

Completely Entangled = You Are Nonstop, Passionately Into Each Other

You’re so goddamn in love that you literally sleep with all your limbs entwined and your faces super close to each other. You’re fueled by a passion that makes everyone at a party immediately go “oh woah, yeah, they’re together” (also, you are usually making out in a corner somewhere.) Yours is the kind of relationship that would be turned into a lovey dovey movie.

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Booty Bumpin’ = You’re So Comfortable Around Each Other

If your go-to sleep position is turning away so, you are obviously two goobers who have fortunately found each other in this world. While other couples worry about accidentally farting near the other person, you’re at the comfort level of discussing your gnarly coffee poops on a daily basis. You take “being yourself around the other person” to an entirely new level, and it’s beautiful.

On Opposite Sides Of The Bed = You’re Securely Independent

While all the other suckers are enduring extra body heat on 95 degree nights and sacrificing arm comfort for a feeling of intimacy, you two feel completely fine on your own. You proudly take your side of the bed, turn in whatever direction you please (usually away from each other’s snoring mouths), and have yourself a legitimately flawless night of sleep. And then you cuddle.

Married Man Dies After Taking Sex Drug Called ‘Manpower’ To Impress New Girlfriend

Man in his 30s was found dead in hotel room in Delta state, Nigeria. He is understood to have taken a sex drug called Manpower to impress a new girlfriend.

He is alleged to have died from “consistent hardness” after taking a sex performance enhancement drug for his mistress and maintaining an erection for too long. The married man, identified only as Samson, died in a hotel room in Delta State, Nigeria.

He is believed to have taken a stimulant, which can be bought over the counter. Its effects are similar to that of Viagra. His death followed a long period of love-making.

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A news website learned that the deceased was married with three kids and was found dead with his manhood standing erect.

Samson was reportedly boasting about his new-found love affair to people in a bar in the led up to the incident. Sources said he had planned to take the drug to impress his mistress, whom he had been seeing for around three months. One source said he could not ejaculate and died from stress.

After having intercourse for a long time, he could not ejaculate and must have died from the stress of the consistent hardness. He was overpowered by the drug and it was the first time he took such a drug.

Samson, believed to be in his thirties, had planned to go to the grand opening of a new bar when he visited the woman at a nearby hotel. The incident has not been reported to the police, added the news website.

Asked about the whereabouts of the lover, the source said she ran away on discovering that the man was dead

The police officer, who claimed to be close to one of the deceased relatives, said the corpse was still lying in the mortuary pending the family’s decision to bury him.

 

Her Husband Became A Woman But Wife Reveals How She Coped

A wife has revealed the moment her husband of 12 years revealed he wanted to be a woman.

Kristin Collier, 44, from Oregon, US, had only recently given birth to their second child when her husband, Fred, told her they needed to talk.

‘He admitted to me what he hadn’t wanted to fully admit to himself. He was transgender and wanted to live the rest of his life as a woman,’ the mother of two said.

Now Kristin has spoken to Daily Mail about how she came to terms with her husband’s shock revelation and transition to become a woman called Seda, and why they continue to live as a family – along with Kristin’s new romantic partner, Richard.

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Kristin said she had not previously suspected her husband wanted to be a woman

Speaking to Daily Mail, Kristin revealed Fred’s confession came shortly after the family had experienced a house fire – and had also recently welcomed a son, who was then seven weeks old.

‘I had been with my mum, regrouping after the fire and he said “we need to talk when you get home”.’

Kristin’s husband was reluctant to elaborate until they met, but Kristin persuaded him to give her one word as a clue as to what was wrong – to which he replied ‘clothes’.

'I struggled to accept and then embrace this part of my spouse which wasn't easy at all,' Kristin said

‘As soon as he said that I freeze-framed on what happened on something that had happened early on in our relationship,’ Kristin told Daily Mail.

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‘I discovered a dress that was ripped out at the waist. I had said “what’s this?”  and the last thing I expected was for him to say “sorry, that will never happen again”.’

Fred had tried on her clothes – something Kristin filed to the back of her mind, until the day he told her he needed to talk.

'Despite the fact that we'd never sworn to stay together after her transition here we are still making it work under one roof,' Kristin said

Fred proceeded to confess to his wife that he wanted to be a woman – something Kristin admits was ‘confusing and scary’.

But, whilst the revelation was a shock, the pair did not decide to break up.

‘We were so close as friends and partners,’ Kristin said. ‘We had been together since we were 18. We did not make a decision to stay together no matter what, but we made a decision to stay present and current with each other.’

In time, Fred transitioned to become a woman, Seda, something his wife candidly admits she had conflicting feelings about.

She said the kids’ relationship with Seda is better than the one they had with their father.

‘Interestingly, when Seda was my husband he was pretty emotionally withdrawn and less available to the children. When he transitioned – and told them he of course still loved them – they were not concerned really.’

Kristin hopes that by sharing her story, she may help other families going through the same thing (pictured is her new family, with her partner Richard (left in black)

Kristin hopes that by sharing her story, she may help other families going through the same thing.

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‘My wife isn’t cut out to be a mother’: Parents reveal the brutally honest reasons they secretly think their spouses are BAD parents

Raising a child is one of the most difficult tasks you can undertake in life, according to almost every parent out there.

And this can be especially tricky when you feel your partner is not doing enough to help look after the kids. 

Taking to secret-sharing app Whisper, anonymous posters have shockingly revealed why they secretly think their spouse is a bad parent.

Raising a child is one of the most difficult phases of life for anyone who is a parent

Raising a child is one of the most difficult phases of life for anyone who is a parent

And this can be especially tricky when you feel your partner is not doing enough to look after the kids

And this can be especially tricky when you feel your partner is not doing enough to look after the kids

Taking to secret-sharing app Whisper, anonymous posters have shockingly revealed why they secretly think their spouse is a bad parent
Taking to secret-sharing app Whisper, anonymous posters have shockingly revealed why they secretly think their spouse is a bad parent

Gripes range from mothers and fathers refusing to take an interest in their offspring to overly-aggressive parenting styles.

Some even revealed the outrageous demands made by their partners including one mother who admitted: ‘My husband just said he would watch our kids if I paid him $40. What kind of father is he?’

One mother complained that her partner wanted to stay at home to look after the children but could not even handle watching them while she was at work.

Another mother resented the way her husband treated her and regretted the impact it was having on her child.

But an upset dad admitted his wife is a ‘horrible’ daughter, adding: ‘She only yells at the kids that they are doing chores wrong instead of taking the time to show them how to do it right.’

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Why you should date people who aren’t your ‘type’

If there’s a “type” you look for in a prospective date–if you use some checklist of desired traits you want in a romantic relationship–University of Texas at Austin researcher Paul Eastwick has two words of advice for you: “Stop it.”

Eastwick studies attraction and romantic relationships: Who we are interested in and what affects romantic outcomes.

“There’s no evidence that if I introduce you to someone who is your type that you will like him more, versus someone who is not your type,” says Eastwick. Instead, attraction is “based on gut instinct.” The face-to-face meeting drives the response. We either like them, or we don’t.

Eastwick and his colleagues have studied speed dating and online dating. They’ve interviewed newlyweds and those in long-term commitments. In lab settings, they asked college students to describe their ideal partner. Then, later, the students came to the lab for an activity. And—lo and behold—their lab partner had all the traits they said they desired, down to a T. (The partner was actually a confederate of the experimenters, instructed to act however the students had said they wanted them to.) After the task, the experimenters asked if the students were interested in dating their partner.

It turns out, whether or not a man is actually the guy of your dreams is irrelevant once you’re confronted with the reality of him.

What happens is that, once we meet someone, we either forget our list of desired traits or we reinterpret our list to be consistent with the traits of the person we’ve just met. For example, in the abstract, I might think I want someone exciting and daring who’ll seduce me with wine and inappropriate innuendo. But if I find him and I don’t like him? I might say, “I do want someone sexy and exciting, but this guy’s just reckless and sleazy.”

It works the same for deal-breakers. Sure, I may have said I’m not interested in anyone too daring or exciting—too much drama—but if I like someone who’s daring, I won’t label him that way. Instead, I’ll say he’s “courageous.”

(In case you’re wondering, all this applies for a man searching for his ideal woman, too.)

Furthermore, there’s little research to support the idea that you’ll be happier if you’re involved with someone who’s exactly your type. If anything, the science suggests that–once in a committed relationship–people change their view of an ideal mate to an image that more closely matches the object of their love.

Thus, Eastwick’s best advice for those seeking a relationship is to stop looking for a type and to just get out there and meet people. In person. Expand your social network. The more people you meet, the more likely it is that you’ll meet someone who you’re attracted to. That’s why Eastwick describes online dating as “great. It gets you the opportunity to meet people you wouldn’t have met otherwise.”

The key, though, is that these introductions turn into face-to-face meetings. You have to give yourself the chance to have that gut reaction.

Ultimately, all that counts is that you met in the first place.

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Girl, 13, married off to disabled man so that her dad can have two wives

A Pakistani girl of 13 has been married off to a 36-year-old disabled groom so her father can take the man’s sister as a second wife, it has emerged.

Wazir Ahmed, of Jampur, Pakistan, arranged his daughter Saima’s marriage to Mohammad Ramzan, in the hope Ramzan’s sister would provide him with a son.

Ramzan, who cannot hear or speak, and Ahmed were jailed for ‘a few days’ after police investigated the deal.

But Saima testified in court that she was 16 and they were released. She says she told the authorities she was 16 to protect her father and husband.

A Pakistani girl of 13 (left) has been married off to a 36-year-old disabled groom (right) so her father can take the man's sister as a second wife, it has emerged
A Pakistani girl of 13 (left) has been married off to a 36-year-old disabled groom (right) so her father can take the man’s sister as a second wife, it has emerged
Wazir Ahmed, of Jampur, Pakistan, arranged his daughter Saima's (pictured) marriage to Mohammad Ramzan, in the hope Ramzan's sister would then provide him with a son 

Wazir Ahmed, of Jampur, Pakistan, arranged his daughter Saima’s (pictured) marriage to Mohammad Ramzan, in the hope Ramzan’s sister would then provide him with a son

In an interview with the Associated Press, Ramzan had to use his fingers to count out her age when they married.

Ahmed, said she was 14, not 13, but her age was beside the point. It mattered only that she had reached puberty when he arranged her marriage as an exchange: his daughter for Ramzan’s sister, whom he wanted to take as a second wife.

His first wife, Saima’s mother, had given him only daughters, and he hoped his second wife would give him a son.

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Woman who said ‘no’ to sex with online date killed and body dissolved in acid

A man has allegedly dissolved his Tinder date’s body in acid after she refused to have sex with him.

Emmanuel Delani Valdez Bocangegra, 26, was arrested after human bones were discovered in rubbish bags on his apartment balcony in Mexico City, New York Daily News reported.

Next to the remains was a stash of caustic soda and hydrochloric acid.

The bones were confirmed to belong to 26-year-old student Francia Ruth Ibarra, by Attorney General Carlos Zamarripa Aguirre.

Ibarra was reported missing by family in Leon, Central Mexico, earlier this month after missing a meet up with friends.

The pair are thought to have met on the dating app Tinder.

Bocangegra was reported to have met up with her several times in the months leading up to her disappearance on December 3.

New York Daily News reported that authorities believe Bocangegra murdered his victim after she refused to have sex with him, according to local media.

Local media also reported that her bag and clothes were found in his apartment.

Ibarra’s involvement with Bocangegra – an ex-medical student – is alleged to have been uncovered by her college friends who ‘dug around’ in her social media.

He is also said to be the last person she was seen with before she disappeared.

VIDEO: Watch as two Canadian sisters apologize to a Nigerian billionaire for sex scandal and extortion attempts

Two Canadian sisters, said to be high profile prostitutes, accused f attempting to extort and cyber bully a Nigerian billionaire have apologized.

Jyoti and Kiran Matharoo appear in the video posted by Linda Ikeji TV, dressed in black. One sister, who appears to be Jyoti, holds a cellphone, appearing to read the apology from it while the other stands silently beside her.

“We created a platform called NaijaGistLive dot com and dot co where people can send in stories,” she read. “Most stories were sent by close friends or associates of people being written about. The intention was not to hurt anyone or be malicious.”

The Matharoo sisters were accused, according to the news site Politics Nigeria, of trying to blackmail Femi Otedola, a Nigerian man named in Forbes magazine’s list of 2016 billionaires. Otedola made his money in the energy sector, according to Forbes, which estimated his net worth at $1.2 billion.

“We apologize to Femi Otedola and his family, especially his wife and children and all the other petitioners,” read the sister in the video.

“The intention was not to extort anyone. We haven’t received any money from this website. We are again very sorry and we assure all the petitioners that we will not have any affiliation whatsoever with this website or any other website that has to do with this.”

Here is their youtube video apologizing;

 

Chinese man passionately kisses his son’s new wife at their wedding ceremony over a Sh143,000 bet (Video)

A Chinese father-in-law has been spotted passionately kissing his son’s bride to win a bet with a wedding guest.

The middle-aged man was attending his son’s nuptials at the time; and a guest dared him to kiss his son’s fiancée for 10,000 yuan (£1,180), according to reports.

It is suggested that the wedding was held at a village in Henan Province, central China.

Grab her by the shoulder: Father-in-law forcefully kissed his daughter-in-law
I must win the bet: A Chinese man has been spotted snogging his son’s bride at her wedding
The uncomfortable snog lasted 17 seconds while the guests were cheering and laughing
I must win the bet: A Chinese man has been spotted snogging his son’s bride at her wedding

The video, showing the bizarre wedding game, was posted by Qi Di Shi Bao, on Chinese video-sharing platform MiaoPai on December 25.

According to the post, one guest at the wedding banquet insisted that the father-in-law should kiss the bride.

The same guest offered 10,000 yuan (£1,180) in cash if the man dared to do so.

The post also claimed that the middle-aged man went on to snog his daughter-in-law.

The bride can be seen hesitating in the video, but some guests pushed her towards her father-in-law, who grabbed her shoulders before kissing her for as long as 17 seconds.

The wedding guests gathered around and cheered.

The father-in-law appeared to be joyful after the kiss whereas the young bride was blushing for the wrong reason on her wedding day.

People who watched the video condemned that the father-in-law saying his behaviour was inappropriate.

Some couldn’t believe the father-in-law would do such deed to win the bet.

See below a video uploaded by Bandar,

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Husband is fed up with people asking if ‘smoking hot’ wife is only with him for money

A man who admits his wife is much more attractive than him has opened up about how it affects him – and asked for advice about what to do.

The man from the US, who did not give his name, wrote a letter to Heather Gray, a clinically trained coach and therapist, which was published by The Good Men Project.

He revealed that he is tired of people questioning his relationship and being made to feel like he doesn’t deserve his wife.

God, I am so pissed to be writing this. I seriously want to tell everyone to just F off. Honestly, that might end up being my option but I thought I’d get your take.

My wife is gorgeous. By nearly anyone’s standards of beauty, she’s simply beautiful. Me…not so much.

We’ll see people look from her to me when we enter a restaurant. I’m always watching other men check her out. It’s been more than 15 years and guys have always asked me “How I landed her”. Women have asked her “what she sees in me” and have insulted her implying that she’s with me for financial gain.

The holiday party at work is coming up and 3 different coworkers have asked if I’m bringing my “smoking hot wife.”

What the hell do I say here? I’ve told people that kind of talk offends me. I have asked them to be respectful but it feels like we’re up against something bigger than small town office talk: it’s this cultural obsession with looks and beauty that we can’t escape.

I’m so angry. I am tired of being made to feel like I am somehow less than. I’m tired of being made to feel like I don’t deserve her or that I should be grateful she chose me.

I’m just tired. Help?

Courtesy dailymail