Why a man will date but not marry you – Burale

If you are doing this, stop it immediately according to the outspoken relationship expert who is digging in on dating and marriage mistakes.

Pastor Robert Burale is a very passionate man when it comes to relationships.

On his social media, he is very vocal as he advices youth on matters marriage and dating.

‘There were red flags he was cheating on me’ Burale’s ex wife opens up

In an exclusive interview with Classic 105, Burale sought to advice young girls

about s3x before marriage.

He said

no s3x before before marriage let me tell the ladies, the moment you allow yourself to sleep with a man before marriage your values goes from 100 to zero in one night.

so young girls don’t allow the man to use you let him enjoy the benefits on the wedding night 

Pastor Robert Burale

don’t get it twisted never go to the mans house on the first date never go to the mans house on the second date and never go to the mans house on the third date.

‘I look forward to marriage’confesses Pastor Robert Burale as he reminisces on his broken marriage 6 years ago

So when should one go to the mans house?

One should know the boundaries that you can respect that you can trust. first date you will lose respect. yes.. most ladies do that most men do that.. but that is the reason you date people, but you never end up marrying them.


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Dj Mo brushes off claims he had an affair

Popular decks master DJ Mo has for the first time responded to cheating allegations. Last year, rumours went viral that DJ Mo was cheating on his wife – gospel singer-cum-pastor Size 8 – and that they had parted ways.

‘My husband never cheated on me’ Size 8 finally addresses infidelity rumor

Well, in an exclusive interview with this Classic, DJ Mo rubbished the claims saying:


He also talked about losing their unborn child in December last year and said it was their lowest moments in life.


Advised young people who want to settle down to:

He also talked about losing their unborn child in December last year and said it was their lowest moments in life.



DJ Mo who was part of the invited guests at Daddy Owen’s Malaika Awards foundation, praised the Kapungala singer for impacting the society positively.


Malaika Awards was launched in 2012 by gospel bigwig Daddy own to celebrate people living with disabilities who have gone on to achieve feats that even the able-bodied haven’t.

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How to pamper your husband in 12 easy ways


If you were to be honest with yourself, how would you rate your relationship on a scale of one to ten?

We were having a conversation between men and women about this topic in the office and someone shared this tweet that the fellas said was the realest sh*t for men.

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Here are simple things all girls can do to keep the fire burning, as published on pairedlife.com.

1. You can never be too busy to whisper sweet nothings to him. A text a day or better yet a call to check up on him will prove how crazy you are abut him.

2. We all have reasons why we fell in love with and eventually married bae. Put this down in writing and share the list with him. Let him fall in love with you all over again by reading this list to him.

3.  When you were dating, you considered yourselves bestfriends. Be THAT BEST FRIEND you were. Remember how you would drop at a heartbeat whatever you were doing to be with him? Yup, that’s what I’m talking about.

He needs you to be there to listen, Ladies also have a problem with men needing space. Don’t catch a feeling if he wants to be left alone. Be compassionate.

4. Remember back when you made an effort to dress up for him? Be pretty for him. Flaunt your femininity. Dress in clothes he wants you to wear at home. Who knows where this will lead?

5. Pay attention to his needs. Most of us women are guilty of putting our children’s needs first, completely forgetting our husbands. So when this happens what is he supposed to do? Make a conscious effort to take care of your husband and the little things he needs.

6. On weekends when we all have time, wake up earlier and make him that special breakfast. On weekends we are not in a rush to beat traffic. It’s true the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

7.  Tell his parents about how good a man your husband is. Praise them for raising him the way they did. This will not only please your husband, it will create a bond between you and his family.

8. Make time for date nights. It is important to keep the romance alive. If this is not possible, find time at home to be alone. Listen to a romantic song together, or just be with each other and be lovers again, when the kids are asleep.

9. ABSOLUTELY STOP whining. Find ways to talk to your husband about your needs without making it sound like you are complaining. Do not make your husband feel inadequate with your grievances, criticism and fault finding.

10. When he makes a mistake or gets insecure about losing his hair, say kind words of encouragement and reassurance. Declare your devotion all over again. Remind him you married him (your wedding vows will come in handy here).

11.  Pray with your husband especially when he is worried about something. He needs to know you are there for him.

12. Find reasons to be together. Run errands with him. Take him to the carwash, or to see the latest gadgets. He doesn’t really need you, but will appreciate the company.


10 signals women send when they find a man attractive


Learn these subconscious body language cues and you might come closer to finding out whether the woman of your dreams is in love with you, too…

Relationship expert Tracy Cox spoke to Dailymail.

1. She flashes her eyebrows at you 

When we first see someone we’re attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall in a small, rapid movement. If they fancy us back, they raise their eyebrows in return.

We’re not consciously aware of doing this rather bizarre Groucho Marx type gesture, but it’s supposedly the most instantly recognised non-verbal sign of friendly greeting in the world.

It helps us to attract friends and lovers because it makes us look more attractive by pulling the eyes open and allowing more light to reflect on the surface of eyes.

2. She is fidgeting with her clothes

If she’s adjusting her clothing or smoothing it (particularly over your hips), she’s preening – making sure she looks your best.

Another dead giveaway: looking down to see how many buttons she’s got undone (and emerging from the loo with a couple more open).

3. She’s flashing her wrists

It means she’s s3xually interested if she holds her wrist so it’s turned to face you.

Wrists are definite erogenous zones probably because back in the days when women wore neck to knee clothing, the wrist and ankles were the only flesh ever exposed in public.

4. Her hands keep moving into your space

We use our hands to signal interest by moving them closer to the object of our desire.

If she moves her hands across the invisible line that divides the table in two or into your personal space, she’s hinting she’s looking for more than just a friend.

5. She’s sitting with one leg tucked underneath her, so the inside of her thigh is exposed

If her head and body also point towards you, you should consider himself wanted.

She’s revealing quite an intimate part of her body: one you’d normally only see during sex.

6. She’s crossed her legs

The leg-cross (twining one leg around so her foot crosses behind her calf and also the ankle) is a potent, yet polite, sexual signal.Why?

Well for a start, it makes her legs look good because it presses the flesh to give the appearance of high muscle tone.

Which sends another subliminal message: our bodies show increased muscle tone when ready for sex as nerves and excitement make us tense and primed for performance.

7. She keeps on crossing and uncrossing them ever-so-s-l-o-w-l-y

The more a woman crosses and uncrosses her legs in front of a guy, the more interested she is in him.

She’s either subconsciously or deliberately trying to draw your attention to her legs and genital area.

8. She’s kicking one leg up and down, while crossed, or dangling a shoe from her toes

Either are strong, deliberate and obvious signs of sexual attraction.

Women will often cross their legs towards their object of desire and begin to slowly and seductively kick their foot up and down in a thrusting motion.

(If you need me to tell you why imitating thrusting is sexy, you seriously do need to get out more).

If she’s really, really keen, she’ll follow this up by slipping her foot in and out of her shoe (the old in-out-in-out thing again) or dangle the shoe from the tip of her toes (I’m undressing myself already/Wouldn’t you like these shoes off and under your bed?)

9. She’s touching her neck, mouth and lips a lot

It’s called autoerotic touching: touching yourself where you’d like someone to touch you.

As well as sending a powerful subliminal message (get your fingers over here!), it feels good! When we’re sexually aroused the blood pumps ferociously through the body, making nerve endings tingle and our skin much more sensitive to touch.

An even sexier version: she’s touching her mouth while looking at yours!

10. Whatever you do, she does

Nothing bonds people more instantly or effectively than mirroring someone’s behaviour.

We do it subconsciously when we like someone because we like people who are like us.

If someone’s doing what we’re doing, we feel they’re not only on the same level as us but also in the same mood we are.


The 12 things YOU’RE doing that’s scaring men away

Ever started dating a man only for him to seemingly completely disappear from the face of the earth?

According to relationship experts, Laura Yates and Genevieve Zawada, it could well be down to 12 simple – but rectifiable – mistakes you’re making.

From texting too much to not having other interests, the dating gurus share the things you could be doing to scare men off.

Not having friends .Men are attracted to women who have an active social life. Having friends indicates that you have people in your life who want to spend time with you. That is alluring to a prospective partner. It also shows that friends are important to you and that the man isn’t the centre of your world. So therefore, he has to put more effort in to get to spend time with you. It also gives you so much more to talk about when you do spend time together as a couple. If women ditch their friends to spend all their time with a man, that can be a real turn off.

Being irrationally jealous… This shows buried insecurities and diminishes attraction rapidly. Men are attracted to women who have a sense of inner confidence and are generally, secure in themselves. If you show signs of jealousy (such as freaking out if he wants a boys’ night out), men pick up on this incredibly quickly so it’s wise to look at why that is and deal with any jealousy issues before you get into something too serious.

Texting too much .Men typically have a different perspective on texts. They use them for logistics and aren’t as big on texting as women. If you’re constantly texting a man, it conveys a sense of neediness and that you have a lot of time on your hands. To start with especially, keep texts relatively short, fun and flirty and avoid sending too many.

Not having any outside interestsMen are attracted to interesting women with passions, hobbies and things to talk about. You can only have these things if you engage in activities and interests outside of the relationship. As tempting as it is to want to spend all your time with a new man in your life, it’s so important that you keep doing all the things that you love because it makes you a far more interesting and enticing person to be with. It will also make you happier because you’ll feel like your life is more well-rounded.

If you’re constantly texting a man, it conveys a sense of neediness and that you have a lot of time on your hands

Baby talk… It’s not cute or endearing. It comes across as needy and immature so refrain from it!

Being possessive …Allow a man to also be free to keep doing all the things he loves. As soon as a man feels like he’s being restricted from other things in his life that he enjoys, it will put pressure on the relationship and it probably won’t be long before he starts to lose interest and want out. A couple thrive most when they allow one another to have a life outside of the relationship.

Talk badly of other women ...This also conveys insecurity. If you’re bringing down something about other women, it can give men the impression that you’re hard work and lack confidence in yourself. It’s fine to have opinions, but when it’s outrightly criticising or bitching about another woman for no constructive reason, that’s not an attractive quality to have.

Being a drama queen .…Creating drama for no real reason can suggest that you’re high maintenance. There’s a balance between reacting accordingly to something and blowing it way out of proportion. Being around someone creates or attracts drama can be really hard work and this is particularly off-putting for men!

Pushing for too much commitment too soon Whilst it’s good to know where a relationship is going, it’s also wise to let it evolve naturally and not put pressure on a man to commit. If you show signs of that, he will likely run a mile. If he likes you and values you that much, he will want to commit as opposed to being forced. You always have the option to walk away if it isn’t going where you want it to.

OversharingPart of building connection is being about to trust your partner with the more private things about you and that’s important, but you should avoid getting into all of this too soon. The relationship should begin on a level that is two people getting to know each other on a more fun and light hearted level, not baring one another’s souls, which can become very intense too quickly.

Calling the shots …Little Miss Bossy is not a good look when it comes to dating either, remember they have survived this long without you micro-managing them so continue to let them carry on the way they are happy with. If you feel you need to change them from day one then you are probably with the wrong man!

Expecting the man to pay for everything.. If this has not been agreed beforehand and even expecting him to get you home can scare a man off and think he’s wanted for money only. Always offer to pay even if he says no, at least you have offered.


How to spot a lie in a text message


To help identify some of the most common red flags of an untruthful text, Australian dating expert Louanne Ward has listed the nine top clues to look out for.

‘Spotting a liar is a lot easier when you are face to face because you can pick up their body language cues,’ she said.

‘One of the best tools you have is your gut feeling and intuition but whenever you are looking for a lie in a text message add these all together and see how many times they appear.’


‘These are answers like “I am not quite sure”, “it was probably”, “it might have been”, “maybe” and “some time around”,’ Louanne said.

‘If you asked someone “How is your day, do you want to catch up?” someone who is lying might say something like “I have a busy day ahead, not sure what time I will finish up I will probably just have an early night”.’ 


‘People do this because it’s very hard to tell one lie on top of another lie,’ Louanne said.

‘By creating a diversion they are moving away from the lie they have just told.’


‘You can see when somebody is replying, you can see the bubbles, so if you see if somebody is taking a long time it might be that they are distracted half way through but it could be that they are telling you a lie,’ Louanne said.


‘These are things like I “my”, “we” and “our”. They remove them because they don’t want to personalise the message too much,’ Louanne said.


‘If they do that and don’t answer the question, when they message next time that question will usually be avoided,’ Louanne said.


‘A liar might say something like “I’m not sure what time I am finishing up. My last client is a real talker but much rather be spending my day with you as you always make me happy”,’ Louanne said.

‘Don’t jump to conclusions but if it seems vague be wary.’


‘They do this to throw you off track,’ Louanne said.

‘A lie will sound something like this: “Tony and I decided to go for dinner and we were quite hungry so we found this place that had a $15 parmigiana. The parmigiana was good but they were really busy and it took a long time”.’


‘It is quite similar to the previous point but this time the answer is more relevant to the question asked,’ Louanne said.

‘When somebody over exaggerates and it’s a very short question that you ask and they are telling a really long story sometimes it is to cover up a lie.’


‘Qualifying statements include “if you must know”, “to be honest with you”, “it was actually” and “all I am saying is”,’ Louanne said.

‘When somebody has to qualify their words that’s something to look out for.’


Kevo Wa DVD: HALF of women have a man to fall back on


Do you have a fall-back partner in case your relationship turns sour?

Half of all women have a fall-back partner on call should their current relationship turn sour, it has emerged.

A substantial percentage have kept another man in mind in case they end up single.

And married women are more likely have a Plan B in the background than those who are just in a relationship.

The back-up is likely to be an old friend who has always had feelings for the woman in question.

But other candidates are an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband, a colleague – or someone who they have met at the gym.

The survey of 1,000 women also found Plan B is also likely to be someone whom she has known for around seven years, who will be ‘ready and waiting’ because of ‘unfinished business’.

Furthermore, around one in ten women said their Plan B had already confessed his undying love, while one in five said they were confident he would ‘drop everything’ for her, if she asked him to.

Slightly more than four in ten said they had got to know the man whilst they were with their partner, while a similar percentage said he was ‘on the scene’ long before.

One in five said they were confident he would ‘drop everything’ for her, if she asked him to.

Around one in four women who have a back-up plan have feelings as strong for him as they do for their other half.

Incredibly, 12 per cent went as far as to admit their feelings were ‘stronger’ for Plan B, and close to seven in ten admitted they are currently in contact with him.

But despite the secrecy involved in having a close friend or ex to turn to, around half of the women who took part in the poll said their other half was aware of the ‘third party’.

Of those, one in five said they were able to joke about it, but one in three said their man was ‘uncomfortable’ discussing him.

One in four admitted their current partner had met their Plan B, while one in five admitted he was a friend of the man in her life.

The good news for the nation’s men is that one in three women said they ‘doubted’ anything would ever happen with the man in the background.

Around half had a ‘never say never’ approach, while trouble may lie ahead for one in six who said they were ‘seriously considering’ rekindling their romance with the man in the shadows.


Here is Kamotho Waiganjo, the lawyer who has won Anne Waiguru’s heart

Kirinyaga Governor Anne Waiguru has found love in City lawyer Kamotho Waiganjo to the excitement of many Kenyans especially those she leads.

On February 16, Waiguru and her love – city lawyer Kamotho Waiganjo – held their ruracio ceremony in Kirinyaga.

Only family members and close friends were invited and none of the guests were allowed to take photos.
Ruracio is a dowry payment ceremony among the Kikuyu people.

Anne Waiguru has three lovely sons namely: Ian, Don, and Wabu from her previous marriage, while Waiganjo has three children.

Anne Waiguru

Despite being a public figure Waiguru has managed to keep her love life a private affair.

Here are things you did’t know about Waiguru’s new love.

  1.  Kamotho Waiganjo is a senior partner at Kamotho Maiyo & Mbatia Firm.

According to the KM & M website, he’s a constitutional lawyer and is most known for his tenure as a commissioner at the Commission on the Implementation of the Constitution (CIOC), where he was the Chair of the Public Finance Committee and also Co–Convened Devolution Committee.

2. Columnist

Waiguru’s man is a newspaper columnist with the Standard. He writes articles on various topical issues, mostly politics.

3. A father of three

He has two daughters and a son from his previous marriage. His daughters are called Nyambura and Nailantei Kamotho, while his son is called Waiganjo Kamotho. One of his daughters is the marketing executive at the Kenya Diaspora Alliance – KDA.

4. Law schools he attended

Kamotho studied at Kenya School of Law LLM (Master of Laws)

He studied International Finance Law and LLB at the University of Nairobi

What you can learn from a short failed marriage


Everyone is talking about Betty Kyallo following the surprise wedding by her ex Dennis Okari.

The two were in a  short marriage that ended in divorce and claims of infidelity among other issues.

She has however revealed she is ok, and happy he has moved on to someone else.

Counsellor and s3x therapist Julia Cole says that it’s more likely for victims of short, failed marriages to be able to make a clean break and move on.

Short marriages can teach these important lessons:

1. Acceptance of your own limitations, and the ability to question how you make judgements

‘Often, the decision to enter into these marriages is made in the ‘hot’ stage when the relationship is based on excitement and lust. This is a bad time to decide on a long-term commitment, yet many people who’ve been in a short-lived marriage do exactly that,’ says Julia. The lesson learned from rushing too hastily into a relationship is rarely forgotten.

2. Improved communication skills

In the early stages of a relationship, we’re wearing our rose-tinted specs. We put off talking about important issues, believing instead that love will find a way. ‘But those who’ve been through a starter marriage have learned the value of being able to talk in an honest way right from the beginning,’ says Julia. ‘They know it’s not enough to expect to live on love.’

3. Higher self-esteem

‘The whole business of going through a break-up and surviving it intact makes you feel great about yourself,’ says Julia. ‘You may never have thought you could handle being alone again, or finding somewhere new to live all on your own. Having done it, you have discovered something very important: that you can live in the world in a way you haven’t before.’

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Women being put off cervical cancer tests by ‘shame’ over HPV virus


Women are being put off cervical screening over fears the results could suggest they or their partners have been cheating, a survey has found.

Experts from charity Jo’s Cervical Cancer Trust have warned that a sense of ‘shame’ from being diagnosed with human papilloma virus (HPV) – the virus responsible for most cervical cancer cases – is adding to the anxiety of smear tests.

They said the infection, which affects eight out of ten women at some point in their lives, must be ‘normalised’ to encourage more women to attend life-saving screening.

The survey of more than 2,000 women found nearly 40 per cent said they would be worried about what people thought of them if told they had HPV and slightly more said they would worry their partner had been unfaithful.

Seven in ten said they would be scared to hear they had HPV and two-thirds would worry it meant they had cancer.

But the charity’s findings also showed many respondents did not understand the link between HPV and cancer.

A third said they did not know the virus, which can be dormant, could cause cervical cancer and almost all were unaware of its links to throat or mouth cancer.

Campaigners said the findings were particularly worrying given the new HPV screening will replace the existing cervical cancer test later this year. It means samples will first be checked for high-risk strands of the virus before being sent for further examination if necessary.

Robert Music, chief executive of Jo’s Trust, said: ‘With the screening programme moving to testing for HPV first, which is to be celebrated, we must normalise the virus to ensure people fully understand what it means to have it.’


My ex burnt all my title deeds and I can’t forgive her even though she died

Maina Kageni was left in shock after a friend of his confessed that his ex wife carried everything they owned including title deeds leaving the house empty.

They say that hell has no furry like a woman scorned. The woman in question did this horrendous act 11 years ago but the man has vowed never to forgive nor forget.


Maina posed the question on what are the worst things women have done to their men and the confessions are shocking.

Here is what one listeners had to say.

“My ex wife took all my transcripts and title deed and burnt them to ashes while I was at work.

I only realized they were missing after coming home from work and after visiting my former University they told me that they could only get me some but for others there is nothing they could do.

‘I never want my parents to beg my exes for my burial place’ – Akothee

I had to contact CID to help me track her and luckily we arrested her mind you she was pregnant with our first child when she left.

Fast forward she gave birth and later died and the family tried to reach out to me but I told them off as I do not want anything to do with them.”

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How I unknowingly married my childhood rapist and got pregnant for him

He further adds

” I did not bother to go to my burial as for the child I do send help but I do not want to see that child EVER.

Maina I struggled really hard to pay for my school fees but I have nothing to show for it I can never forgive her despite the fact that she is the mother to my kid.

To top it  all we were legally married.”

Another adds

“He promised to wait for me till I finished my studies so that we could get married but he ended up marrying another lady whom he kept referring to as just a friend.

I will never forget that and I will never forgive him.”

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How I unknowingly married my childhood rapist and got pregnant for him

A Nairobi woman has found herself between a rock and a hard place after finding out that the man she is engaged to is the same man who raped her years ago.

As if that is not painful enough the woman in question is pregnant for hi,

She writes her thoughts in this note;

“I am in a dilemma right now…..when I was 15 years old I was raped…and I gave birth to a beautiful daughter even tho I wanted to abort her back then when it happened.

But cause of my health issue I could not….getting to my story when I grew up and wanted to start dating it was not easy because I was still insecure about what happened.

Exclusive: ‘I am not looking to get married any time soon’ – Mercy Kyallo


The guys I tried dating I pushed them away because if what happened to me…..later I met one loving, caring, nice and sweet guy, he was what I wanted in a guy.

I started dating him and to my surprise I became very comfortable with him and he loved my daughter unconditionally…. about six month into the relationship he told he had something he wanted to tell me.”

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‘I never want my parents to beg my exes for my burial place’ – Akothee

Holding her breath and expecting the worst, the woman says that the man confessed to being a rapist adding that he regrets his actions.

“He told me that when he was younger he has done some bad things in the past that he still regrets now and forever….he told me he has raped a girl before.

I was very angry and disappointed with him. I had to call off the relationship. He begged and begged for forgiveness for about 3 months, I later forgave him.

When we got back together 2 months later he engaged me….fast forward later I got to find out that he was the one that raped me😩😭…..through is childhood pictures.

I really don’t know what to do cause he is the first guy I was ever comfortable to make LOVE to me…..and I am pregnant!!!!!😭😭😭

I really don’t know what to do cause I have given him back his ring…..please help me I really do love him but…..he has been begging me, please help me .”

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Women reveal their worst kept secrets

Whether it’s for the sake of harmony or saving someone from feeling hurt, there are times when couples need to tell a small white lie.

And while both man and woman can be guilty of this, women recently confessed to some of the secrets they’ve been hiding from their partners.

One woman, Lola, 35, revealed how for the first eight years of her relationship she’d made every effort to pretend to like her partner’s family and friends.

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She said that pretense had now gone by the wayside and now she’s content to be considered ‘just a mad b*tch’.

Another says

“I discovered my husband of eight years had cheated on me. I was devastated, humiliated, and disgusted.

As we worked through our issues, I decided to sign up for Ashley Madison, the cheating website, and went on a six-month s3x bender. It was the best secret revenge ever! He still doesn’t know I’m active on the website.”

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Just when you think you have heard enough another confesses

“[With my first husband] I faked it every time to get him to feel like he had done his job. If I didn’t he would probably still be on top of me!

With my second husband, I just faked it from the start. I didn’t want him to keep working at it because I knew it wasn’t going to do any good.”

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Another woman confesses that she had to open up about being bis3xual

“I was afraid of how he would respond and that he wouldn’t want me anymore. About four years into the relationship, I finally came out to him because I felt like I wasn’t living authentically.

I couldn’t be me, and I realized I needed to be honest with him and myself. He took it a lot better than I expected and we stayed together for a few years before ultimately breaking up.”

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Mombasa man commits suicide after stabbing wife severally

A Mombasa man hang himself, after stabbing his wife multiple times all over her body.

Police in Changamwe area in Mombasa are investigating the incident that took place last night.

Confirming the incident, Changamwe Police boss Peter Omanwa said it was due to a domestic dispute but are investigating further on the incident.

The woman is nursing injuries at the Coast General Hospital as the body of the man was taken to the mortuary.

Wife cuts off cheating husbands cassava, beats him with frying pan



Body of missing Nation employee found at city mortuary

Omanwa said that

“We were called by residents and on reaching the scene we found a woman who had stab wounds all over her body due to a domestic quarrel.

The man who committed the crime was only  identified as Dan.

She was taken to Coast General hospital later we received reports about a man who had committed suicide.


On reaching the scene we found out that the same man who had assaulted the wife was the one who had died.

We took the body to the mortuary but we are still trying to investigate why Dan  stabbed his wife and why he took his own life in such a cruel manner.

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The humiliating things women married to mega rich men have to do


Society envies these women, who on the face of it seem to live a pampered life.

According to their stories, they live lives of poverty because their super rich husbands make them do ridiculous things to get money.

They live in the lap of luxury yet are given so little financial independence they can’t even buy themselves a cup of coffee.

Diana Parker, a partner at legal firm Withers says that economic cruelty is regularly coupled with ‘very controlling frightening behaviour which strips a woman of self-esteem’.

Diana recalls one particularly harrowing case of a woman who was regularly presented with a ‘menu’ listing sexual acts, each of which had a price tag, as her only means of accessing money.

‘There will be a significant number of your readers being abused economically who may be paraded on nights out in expensive diamond brooches, but have to justify every penny spent, on a sandwich or a coffee, while they are interrogated about who they were with when they bought it, ‘was it a girlfriend, or really a boyfriend?’.

‘And the men in these relationships will often have bought themselves a new Ferrari or returned from a weekend’s shooting.’

Vanessa Lloyd-Platt, whose firm represents women divorcing wealthy entrepreneurs, celebrities, MPs and even judges, is also all too familiar with financial abuse within marriages and often hears of wives being told they must perform sexual favours in return for cash or access to bank cards.

‘I’ve acted on behalf of wives who have been told by their wealthy husbands: “I’ll give you some money but you have to have sex with me tonight”, or who insisted their partners do something se3ually they wouldn’t normally want to do, to earn it,’ says Vanessa.

‘Clients tell me this makes them feel like prostitutes, it’s something they don’t even admit to their best friends.

‘We’ve also had cases where women have had to phone their husband’s secretary and say, “I’m going out and have no money, can you put some on my debit card?” and the secretary will interrogate them about what they need the money for. Later they know they will be asked to provide receipts to prove it.

‘Husbands will often spend huge amounts on these “trophy wives”, but that is only if they wear what they want them to wear, drive the exact car they want them to drive and go where they want them to go. They have no financial freedom.’

Vanessa recalls one penniless client, whose husband ran a huge multi-national, who was forced to borrow money from friends to buy regular underwear because he would only purchase se3y lingerie for her, but then locked it away in a safe when he wasn’t around, leaving her literally knickerless.

Another husband took his wife’s toothbrush and toothpaste when he went away on business and left no money for replacements.

Then there was the woman whose husband insisted she work for free in his business, but would refuse to pay the nanny, and the gardener who tended their perfectly manicured lawns, leaving her thoroughly humiliated when they asked her for their wages and she had no way of remunerating them.

 71 per cent of survivors of domestic abuse reported having been deprived of essentials, and the money to purchase them, while a survey in 2015

‘This husband would say ‘If you’re nice to me I’ll pay the nanny this week’,’ says Vanessa.

‘She hated the fact that when mums from her children’s expensive school invited her on nights out she would have to tell them she couldn’t go because she couldn’t afford it, and they would look at her incredulously, assuming she was just too stuck up to socialise with them. People’s perception of the wealthy is that they have wonderful lives, but money can often complicate relationships and they can be some of the unhappiest people on the planet.’


Man sends SMS to wife to collect daughters body after domestic quarrel


Conflict of passion that ended in the death of the two-year-old daughter of a couple in Nairobi’s Ruai suburb.

The man, 23, only named as Mwangi, and the woman, 22, had domestic disagreement from Wednesday last week. The quarrel was all about the woman’s use of social media.

Their landlady, Leah Wanjiru, said she heard the woman scream on Thursday night. She woke her husband and they rushed to the couple’s house to help.

“We got there and I held the man’s hand, pulled him out so I could ask him what was happening,” she said.

“He told me the woman has been on phone the whole of Wednesday night and Thursday, even in the night.”

When Mwangi confronted her, she got agitated and started fighting him. He fought back, prompting her to scream, Wanjiru told the Star.

Wanjiru said as she spoke to Mwangi, the woman suddenly hit him with a stone on the forehead, rupturing the tissue and causing heavy bleeding.

“After first aid, I advised him to record a statement with the police,” she said, adding that she also advised the couple to separate as they solved their conflict.

On Friday morning, Mwangi told her that the woman had taken off.

“The lady told her husband her brother-in-law wanted to rent her a better house somewhere else. She did not disclose where,” the landlady said.

The landlady Leah Wanjiru at her home in Ruai Enos Teche
The landlady Leah Wanjiru at her home in Ruai/Enos Teche

Later in the day, the man sent a text message to the woman, asking her to go get her dead child in the house.

The woman returned in the evening and found the lifeless body of her daughter in their one room mabati house.

The child was strangled using a leso and her private part was swollen. The woman reported the incident to Ruai police station.

Wanjiru said the couple had been together for barely three months. They had moved into one of her rental houses on Wednesday last week and had been there for two days before the incident.

“I had not even known them. They moved in and paid me Sh800, pending Sh200 they owe me for the rent,” she said.

A police source at the station said they are investigating the matter – a crime of passion.

The man alleged to have killed the child is on the run.


Nandi man hacks wife to death at chief’s home and then commits suicide after domestic quarrel

A 38-year-old man from Nandi County hacked his wife to death using a panga before hanging himself, following a domestic quarrrel.

The man from Kapkatet village had seperated with the woman who had gone to  live at her uncle’s home near Ndalat three kilometers away.

The man lured the woman to a home near Ndalat and hacked her several times after which he fled and was found hanging on a tree at his parent’s home.

The woman was identified as Ednah Kurgat, a mother of three children and she had gone to live with the uncle Philip Songok, who is an Assistant Chief.

Residents said the two lovers had separated last year after a domestic quarrel and efforts to reconcile them had failed.

Emily Sawe, who is an aunt to the woman, witnessed the incident and narrated how she pleaded with the  man to spare the woman, but the assailant turned hostile.

“She slashed her several times on the head and other parts of the body as I pleaded but he went on and killed her”, said the aunt.

The man later jumped over the fence and disappeared into the bush after the attack.

Villagers later found the man’s body hanging on a tree at his father’s compound.

Sawe said the assailant who was hiding on the fence, jumped in the compound after the deceased came out of the house and started to cut her with a panga.

He said the attack was sudden and shocking.

“She was loudly pleading but he cut her on the hands and neck and head with a panga causing her to blead extensively after she fell down”, said Sawe.

The assailant did not utter any words during the attack.

Police were called to the scene where they found a jacket, a mobile phone and  bottle of Vodka alcohol left behind by the man.

Area MP Vincent Tuwei and Deputy County Commissioner Sammy Makhanu visited the scene and condemned the attack.

“We have very high incidents of domestic violence in this area and that is because of high consumption of alcohol and drugs among the couples” said Makhanu.

Tuwei and the administrator asked residents especially couples to involve elders  and church leaders in sorting out domestic quarrels.

Makhanu said they would enhance the fight against alcohol and drug abuse in the area which has also witnessed high levels of crime.

“Killing or violence is not a solution. We should use alternative ways of solving domestic issues like involving elders or church leaders”, said Tuwei.

Tuwei said youth were most affected by use of drugs and alcohol and many of them also engaged in crime and such violence to resolve issues.

The two bodies  were taken by police to a private mortuary at Kapkaren in Uasin Gishu County.

Courtesy Mathews Ndanyi

Woman stabs husband 35 times after he complained about her ‘mashakura’

A woman murdered her husband – stabbing him at least 35 times – because he criticised her cooking, say Russian law enforcement.

Slava Davydkin, 43, was killed after complaining there was not enough salt in a dish she served when guests came to their house in Penza region.

His wife Evgenia, 31, waited until he was asleep and stabbed him to death in front of the couple’s four-year-old child, say reports.

She later confessed to the killing using his angling knife – and is under house arrest.

The couple had quarrelled after the keen fisherman complained the dish she cooked was ‘bland’.

He claimed this meant she ‘did not love him’, it was reported.

The row continued after their guests – a couple – went to bed and the host hit his wife, she claimed.

She was provoked after the meal accompanied by alcohol, she told police.

After repeatedly knifing her sleeping husband, she woke the male guest and asked him to call an ambulance.

Paramedics pronounced the man dead at the scene.

The Russian Investigative Committee said in a statement: ‘During her interrogation, the accused explained that the reason for the row between the spouses was supposedly a bland dish served at the table.’

Davydkin told her it showed his wife does not love him.

‘If she loved him, there would be more salt in the food. After the guests went to sleep, the row continued.

‘The owner of the house offended his wife and tried to hit her.

‘The woman got angry, took a knife and inflicted at least 35 stab wounds to her husband.’

It later emerged she stabbed him after he had asleep.