5 reasons why you should marry in your 50’s

 

On the morning conversation with Mike Mondo and Mwalimu Kinga’ng’i, the topic was about why some famous Kenyans men like Charles Njonjo chose to get married later in life.

Sir Charles Njonjo married when he was 52, after lots of pressure from the late Mzee Jomo Kenyatta.

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At the time he revealed he couldn’t find a women he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.

Mike and Mwalimu debated the merits and disadvantages of marrying later in life, and also invited their listeners to submit views.

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Charles Njonjo

Here are five benefits of marrying in your 50’s:

You will only marry for love

Once you are in your late 40s or 50s, marriage union will only happen because of extreme love for each other. While most of us marry in pressure or for financial stability, kids or freedom early in our lives, people who marry late, do not have to succumb under any such pressure. All they need is pure companionship risen out of love. And that is the true essence of marriage which is why mostly second marriages are more successful.

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No insecurities

When you are younger, insecurities play out alot in your marriage. But as you age, these insecurities fade away. And once you enter in a relationship without any insecurities, it is way smoother.

No pressures in the relationship

There is no pressure to be anything other than yourself. The views and opinions of others matters little for instance the question of how soon you will get children will not arise.

No pretending
Since you are marrying later in life, there is no time for pretending about anything in life. A man or woman at this age only wants love, happiness and joy.

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You have enjoyed your single life completely

Being single is important early in life, and doing all that can be accomplished. So when you hit your 50’s you are ready to settle down no matter what and focus on the relationship.

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8 sweet ANSWERS when bae asks ‘why do you like me’

 

No one and nothing can quite prepare you for this question.

Your mind races, your heart pounds really fast and the silence is threateningly loud.

Guys, when a woman asks you’ why do you like me’, what is your answer?

Is there a correct answer that a woman wants to hear?

Here are some really sweet answers to say when your girlfriends asks why you like her:

You are beautiful: You are like sunshine itself, and I feel better when I’m with you.

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You are funny: You make me feel more alive than anyone ever has.

You are smart: You teach me how to be a better partner. You encourage me, support me and let me know how I can best support you.

You know how to get things done. 

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You are passionate: I love you for your passion for life. It’s contagious.

You inspire me: You make me want to be a better person.

I can see a future with you by my side: You accept me for me. I don’t have to hide. You let me be myself, and I thank you for that. It’s amazing to be loved by you.

You complete me: Before I met you, I never felt whole. With you in my life, I am.

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How to pamper your man in 20 easy ways

 

Girls how would you rate your relationship with your husband currently?

If things are thick, go through these 20 points and start making a change immediately.

1. Write a list of all the reasons you fell in love and married him. Read it to him, or leave it where he can find it.

2. Be affectionate at all time, with a hug, a wink, a spank on his backside, think out of the box girls. They will love it.

3. Whisper sweet nothings to him. Call, text, whatsapp or send him a naughty DM him at work.

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4. Be his ride or die. Drop whatever you are doing if he needs to talk to you about things he is having difficulty with. Sometimes he needs you to just listen, there are times he will ask for your opinion and there may be situations when he wants space. Do not be threatened when he needs time to be alone. Respond with compassion and understanding.

5. Do simple things for him often. Cook and serve his tea, make mandazi, polish his shoes or any small gesture that will make him feel loved and cared for.

6. Dress up for him, put some cute lipstick, or lipbalm if you’re not into beauty products. Dress up the part and flaunt your curves, he will notice and appreciate your effort.

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7. Pay attention to his needs. Sometimes we ladies tend to put our kids first, forgetting our husbands need our attention too. Make a conscious effort to take care of your husband and the little things he needs. You might need to mend his shirt, shop for new socks or buy his favourite coffee.

8. Run him a warm bath after a long day at work and hours in traffic. This Nairobi dust can also be something else. Prepare his slippers at the door, rub his back, give him a gentle massage or better yet, share the tub with him.

9. Get up early to prepare his favourite breakfast. Learn to cook if you don’t know how to. It’s true the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

10. Tell his parents about how good a man your husband is. Praise them for raising him the way they did. This will not only please your husband, it will create a bond between you and his family.

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11. Make time for date nights, to keep the romance alive. He will always look forward to such moments.

12. Have impromptu parties, get togethers for him, and especially with his friends, can you picture him being the envy of his friends?

13. Assign and celebrate a day each month to be hubby’s day. Tell him it’s his special day, and you and your kids will do everything for him. Show him he is worth celebrating.

14. Drop your kiherehere. Find ways to talk to your husband about your needs without making it sound like you are complaining. Do not make your husband feel inadequate with your grievances, criticism and fault finding.

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15. Be the wife any husband will be proud of. Commit to learn new things, improve yourself and develop your own interests.

16. Is he balding, and the pot belly getting bigger? When he  gets insecure about his body and age, say kind words of encouragement and reassurance. Declare your devotion all over again. Remind him you married him warts and all, and will continue to love him for the rest of your life.

17. Pray with your husband especially when he is worried about something. He needs to know you are there for him.

18. Stay in bed with him when he is sick.

19. Find reasons to be together. Run errands with him, watch football with him (yes girls do it even if you don’t know what’s going on). He doesn’t really need you, but will appreciate the company.

 20. Brag about your husband to your friends, his and your family. Let everyone know how grateful you are about being married to a terrific guy. Let your husband know he is the world to you. Love him, adore him, and let him follow you to the ends of the earth!

Heartwarming video of newly weds feeding each other mandazi and soda

 

There was no ten tier cake or champagne to mark their wedding, but all the same they made do with what they could afford.

A video of a couple during their simple wedding has elicited mixed reaction, with men praising the couple and ladies saying they expect nothing but champagne and cake.

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@blaqNaami..
Many women would have been wives if they stop demanding white wedding

@yabitchchanel..
They look so content. A lot of women will willingly do this but most guys now are not trustworthy you struggle with them and little in life when they have small money they throw you away.

@St_Jhonne..
You seem to think this is funny. These are two people whi despite the circumstances of their lives, they choose to be happy and contented. Mind you, it doesn’t mean their lives would always remain this way. Their story is inspiring. Laugh all you want.

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@Da_BrandBrain..
They’ll live happily forever

@IamCeo_SAJ..
They may live together without any matters of infidelity while those so called expensive wedding couples keep suspecting each other and keep browsing each others phones.
The goal is to get married and stop jumping frm one person to the other.

@merce_des28..
God doesn’t bless a marriage base on riches or poverty,he blesses it because they had a Godly relationship before marriage.

@brakk0.._
Y’all focusing on glamour wedding when you truly know u don’t have enough to spend on such. Love this video mhen. Guys let’s cut our cost according our sizes

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@mungav..
We normalize laughing at lifestyles we deem lower than oursRelieved faceRelieved faceRelieved faceRelieved faceRelieved face some might never attain the happiness that these two will have with all your money and luxuries.

@Bebelino..
This marriage might be happier than most expensive ones lol

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Man told he’s adopted after discovering he is not his sons biological father

Decades old family secret was revealed in the most cruel way as one Twitter user shared a story of a mans mental struggles.

The man is suffering double tragedy after learning the son he always thought was his isn’t and worse his own parents announced to him that he is also not theirs biologically.

The heartbreaking story has attracted thousands of comments and began by disclosing that

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‘My friend just found out that his 7-year old isn’t his biological son. He has been threatening to leave the marriage and his parents have been begging him to stay. They told him that “this may be God’s plan” as he is also not their biological child. 2 revelations in 1 week.’

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Abiodun Oluwaseun…
The stories surrounding DNA is getting scarier and I’m beginning to think it’s beyond infidelity. What if the baby was switched (changed) at the hospital at birth??? What if ?? Why can’t people go further to investigate the hospitals where the babies were born?

@Emmyebimoh..
Why did the parents choose to tell him this at the same time he found out his son wasn’t truly his? We should stop making everything ‘fit’ into God’s plan for our own selfish interest.

@phantomXsl..
I think his parent got it wrong. It’s a 2 different thing. Adopting a child is different from infidelity. They adopted him which was mutual agreement within the parents but his case is different from this.

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@nwaegbe_nkem..
Waow Hushed faceHushed faceHushed face I feel sad for him. Two earth shattering life events revealed in one fell swoop??? He might need to talk to a counselor. That’s a lot to take in for one person.

Dear Umu nwanyi ibe m,
Stop foisting children on men. It is not right.

@teemama2810..
I don’t get why he has to put up with a child that is not his just because he is not his ‘parents’ biological child.
This man should be allowed to make his decisions in this case.
Some women get mind sha.
Me I will pack and leave on my own sef.

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@ARAMIDE_analyze..
Why did his parents tell him that now it sounds more like a black mail to me than an explanation like we took u despite u not being our kid so u better take that kid
Who does that

@kabirdili..
This is a case of infidelity not adoption, his parents should understand that first. So they shouldn’t pressure him to stick with a wife he will continue to hate for what she did. As for the 7 yr old child, well it’s not going to be easy for him to stop being his dad.

@Sosobani..
Too many secrets ruins a family.

@Ifeade_Lu..
Nothing good ever comes out from cheating . Maybe the son was switched in the hospital? Maybe he wanted a son and she was pregnant with a girl and she paid the doctors and nurses to do the switch because this is too much in Nigeria.

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@freshprincegiwa..
Check on him to ensure he doesn’t commit suicide.

@que_hayes..
Talk about shattered trust. Poor man. My the lord be with him, thats not g— that’s a humans inability to be honest. That’s selfish af

@Ody_johnson..
Paternity fraud in this country is getting way way out of hand.

This is crazy

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10 things to stop doing if you’re unlucky in love

 

You have kissed 1000 frogs and not met the one yet.

If you feel unlucky in love, avoid doing any of these ten things:

1. Stop pitying yourself

It prevents you from finding someone else because of feelings of unworthiness. Many of us have and continue feeling this way. You are not meant to be alone.

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2. Don’t try so hard

We immediately jump back into the game with promises to do better next time. When you push yourself too hard you dont allow a genuine person to come into your life. People for your information smell a desperate person a mile off.

 

3. Hold no expectations

Having too many expectations of someone leads to disappointment.

Expect nothing and you’ll always be pleasantly surprised.

4. Don’t call him up

Listen sis, if a guy is done with you, let him go. Men should do the chasing, they love it..

5. Stop crying over them

Don’t waste your time crying over spilt milk. Crying over someone isn’t going to get you anywhere. Say thank you, next!!.

6. Keep some mystery

This is called TMI (too much information) A little mystery goes a long way. Keep yourself a little mysterious, that’s what keeps people’s attention.

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7. Stop blaming it on men

It’s not them. It’s you. This is all on you, because you keep going for the wrong person.

8. Stop going after the wrong guy

You may have a set mind what type of guy you like, however it is possible, you are focused on what shouldn’t be. Give another type of guy a chance.

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9. Be yourself

Simple.

10. Take a chance

You may surprise yourself with how well it goes.

11. Let go babe

Weka shida chini, mikono juu. It’s not worth holding on to for all the negative energy.

 

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Married man confesses obsession with mother in law

A married man has shocked many after he revealed that he is having an affair with his mother-in-law. He wrote to a relationship expert, confessing that he has been sleeping with his mother-in-law behind his wife’s back and he’s addicted to her.

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‘I had se3 with my mother-in-law in April and after that I tried to forget about it but I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I keep on having e**ctions and it’s painful. I mast**bate but I can’t stop thinking about her. Last week she called me to her house and we had se3 again. I blok her number but I end up blocking her and call,’ he wrote.

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Check out reactions;

secret_toolz So ur mother in law is your side chick
Only Jesus can save

dami Where was your wife when all this was happening???. Ahn God don’t use my husband to punish me for my sins and mistakes. This one is cursed.

olorianikeola You have a crown in hell fire already,

twinkles_ng Oh wow, this is more than s** it’s more than love. You need thorough prayers and deliverance

_edithakinyi You are cursed

oyin_damola It’s very wrong bro

 

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‘Skinny kanyama guys are broke’ Men riled by silly reasons for dating obese men

 

A Ugandan man who was seen in a video (watch it below) declaring that he has never seen a billionaire with a six pack, went viral and tickled the ribs of many.

He was of the opinion that those skinny guys (he refers to as kanyama) are broke and travel with matatus, and all they think about it twa twa.

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His opinion formed the basis of the morning conversation with Maina and Kingangi.

 

Kenyan men responded disagreeing with the man that skinny/six pack men are broke and have nothing to offer womankind.

Here are comments:

One woman riled men by saying’ Skinhy guys are broke so we go for pot bellied men who have money. I prefer pot bellied men than a broke ni**a. They cannot give you anything’.

Another said ‘Hehe, we cannot romance with empty stomachs, neither can we board a mat while going to have the best moment ever, ‘
@JamesMwadeghu..
The guy has been unearthed trying to earn six packs of his own see belowRolling on the floor laughing

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@denizlegacy..
that porky guy hating what he is to lazy to have I would rather be of healthy weight and appear broke than have “things fall apart” when I undress n FYI ladies are down with slim guys believe that #MainaAndKingangi
@karisulewafao..
The problem with ladies nikudanganya hawa watu utadanganya aje wakanae anaka vizuri na pia yeye anajiona
@McSymon..
I like the energy of that guy, when he tries to show what we think at gym.Woman lifting weightsRolling on the floor laughingRolling on the floor laughingRolling on the floor laughingRolling on the floor laughingRolling on the floor laughingWoman lifting weightsWoman lifting weightsWoman lifting weights.
We shall overcome and get rich one day.

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@iandunkan26..
This guy must have tried to slim up ilishindikana sasa he’s just hating on sisi watu wa six pack na cuves
@GeorgeGitile..
Slim guys have cash and they are so good in bed……
@omondiowiti..
I am kanyama n very broke hehe

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6 reasons why mature women keep away from light-skinned men

Each and every woman has her own taste in men. While some like them dark, others prefer the light skinned ones.

That’s fine, there is no fuss over that, but who came up with this parameter and stereotype, convincing three quarters of us that beauty is measured by the skin color?

Preferably light skin?

Here are the six concrete reasons why mature women do not like dating light-skinned guys:

  1. MOST OF THEM ARE SPOILED MAMA’S BOYS

The discussion among Kenyan girls is that a majority of light-skinned guys are spoiled and they are mom’s pretty boys. They are too soft for a typical African man, thanks to their mothers. Ladies, don’t be too shocked when you find out your mother-in-law knows about your bedroom affairs.  He doesn’t know how to keep his life private without involving his mother. He also seeks his mother’s approval in everything. Mature women want a decisive man this type of dude.

  1. TOO MUCH PAMPERING

My goodness, these light-skinned men feel so delicate and therefore should be handled like eggs. They also expect you to treat them like their mothers, like connecting with them emotionally, being at their beck and call, give them a shoulder to lean on when need be, surprise them and the list goes on. Dear brown skin man, this Nairobi is not your home. Pack and leave.  No mature woman will go that direction.

  1. THEY ATTRACT UNNECESSARY ATTENTION

“Awwwwh he’s so cute.” REALLY? These kinds of guys attract attention especially from the opposite s3x. This is because everyone thinks light people define the word beauty, unlike their darker counterparts. No woman likes to feel like they are competing for their man and with this whole attention from the women, the relationship becomes shaky.

  1. MULTIPLE PARTNERS

Due to their noticeable skin color, these guys get noticed by women regardless of age, looks and wealth. The women fall hard for them and will do anything just to have them close. Due to this, the guys play along in exchange for favors. This explains why they keep different girlfriends in almost every estate in Nairobi

  1. LIGHT –SKIN MEN ARE TOO WEAK AND EMOTIONAL

Mature women want a strong typical African man, who can kill a lion.  A man, who is in control of his emotions, takes charge and provides a sense of security. Most of the “yellow” guys are the exact opposite, too soft and “woiyee” and they tend to show their emotions through their skin color.

  1. LAZY

These type of man attract all sorts of female, dark, light, tall, short, sassy and rich and due to this, they fall prey to women who provide or cater for their needs. They tend to relax and wait for their daily bread on a silver platter. A mature woman wants a guy who fends for himself and provides for his family not the other way round.

 

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A list of Presidents who have cheated on their spouses

Have you watched the movie The Good Wife? If not, make some time this weekend and you will understand where I’m coming from with this article.

The movie portrays a woman who faces public humiliation after her state attorney husband is outed for political corruption and other personal scandals.

 

Here is a list of Presidents who cheated on their spouses.

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 Bill Clinton – Though she usually stays hush-hush about their marriage, she’s opened up on a few rare occasions, including on one episode of The Tyra Banks Show. Claiming she’s never doubted that her husband loves her, and crediting her resilience to her faith, she told Tyra, “I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family.” Hillary’s advice to other spouses in her situation? “You have to do what is right for you — and that may not be what anybody else believes.”

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 Nelson Mandela

Their marriage endured his and hers incaceration.

Two years after walking out of Victor Verster Prison in 1990, Mandela announced that he was seeking a divorce from Madikizela-Mandela. She was having an affair with a younger colleague, Dali Mpofu, he said.

But the couple’s problems ran deeper, Mandela said. His wife only entered his bedroom when he was asleep. They had barely spoken in months. And since his release from prison, he had been “the loneliest man.”

 Silvio Berlusconi

Berlusconi, 72, was at the centre of a media storm pressuring him to explain his relationship with 18-year-old Noemi Letizia.

The flamboyant billionaire met the pretty blonde when she was 17 and attended her coming-of-age party, offering her a gold and diamond necklace priced at 6 000 euros. The estranged wife responded saying “I have always loved Berlusconi and I built my life around my marriage and my family,” said Lario

 Nicholas Sarkozy

Their marital drama took centre stage in 2010. The rumour that they were both cheating started on Twitter, then to blogs and websites everywhere.

 John  F Kennedy
John F. Kennedy remains one of America’s most respected and admired presidents more than forty years after his assassination.
In his book the Dark Side of Camelot, writer Seymour Hersh alleged the late loved too many women. The book described in detail Kennedy’s womanizing. Hersh relayed how Kennedy frequently used the Secret Service to help him smuggle women — it was often more than one — into the White House for daily trysts.

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My husband stole 5k from my handbag for his mpango wa kando

 

Way too often couples avoid having transparent and open discussions about money because we assume that we’re on the same page as the other person. But we’re not. And by the time we figure that out, it’s too late.

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Her story is something that to this day she considers resentful.

Pesa yangu ilitolewa kwa handbag 5k na mtu akaenda umalaya, he didnt even ask, na mahali nilificha I can’t imagine how he found it.

I was out on my daily hustle and coming back I couldn’t find the money and he never came back over night, the following day I asked him why he took my money and he said ohh I will give it back,

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That was three months ago, alienda kwa mpango wake na akasepend uko, aliniibia, who else could it be? I have asked him now ni matusi naitwa mpaka mbwa, so I just look at him, he doesn’t know what the kids eat, I don’t think he will ever pay me back, naachia mungu and I know the mpango knows he stole my 5k, she does an d she uses my cash, they will pay back all those who are hurting us.

Another woman also has an equally annoying tale of her husband

I married a broke man but I had made some money and so I told him we invest it, and he would run it.

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He misused all the money I had earned for eight years, even when I was going to give birth I had no money even to buy diapers, he had misused the money. I left him after he mistreated me, amekuwa mtu ovyo he has even gone back to his mothers house.

How much money is she talking about losing?

He misused 100k that’s what men do to us in the name of love because I gave him this responsibility, and I loved him, that’s why I gave him the money, amejua hajui,

 

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Reasons why you shouldn’t disclose your financial status to your spouse

Marriage is hard already. It’s full of hustles and bustles that can be tiring at times. One of the most sensitive issues in marriage has to be finances. One of the leading causes of divorce is finances. Therefore, it’s of great advantage for you not to share your financial status to your spouse and here’s why:

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1. Kukaliwa chapati

Every man is afraid of this. A woman taking control of you because she got to know your pay cheque. It’ll be harder on you if she realizes she makes more money than you. The country has seen a rise in feminists and much of what they hold is trying to demean the role of the man. You may try to counter these thoughts at your own peril. Disclose your financial status and you’ll send yourself to the grave early.

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2. You’ll die poor

You’ll die poor my brother. She’ll siphon you to the last coin. Keep her second guessing on the amount of cash you work with. You know the slogan: His money our money, her money our money. Bro, only God, the bank and yourself should know what gets into your account.

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3. Keeps the woman humbled

A woman in the dark is a woman humbled up. The moment she knows how much you are worth, the moment hell will broke loose. Don’t you want a woman who’ll eat at the palm of your hand? That’s basically what every man craves for. They’ll lie to you they want a working woman but deep down they want you to be the traditional house wife.

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4. Personal life security

How many times have we had news of women taking lives of their better halves? When she knew you had taken a life insurance. That’s where she dug your grave and was waiting for the opportune moment to send you there. Be quiet about your finances bro. It’ll be of great help.

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Things men are dreading during this coronavirus pandemic

Thanks to the government directive to both public and private companies, people are working from home. School going children are at home too. What a hard time for most families! The responsibility to take care of the family is becoming hard as each day passes. Majority of Kenyans are in the informal sectors earning a daily wage which fluctuates by day. However, men are feeling the heat. And here’s why:

1. Staying indoors

Wanaume apa tulipigwa 10-0. We have an issue sitting around the house. Here’s a lame man’s argument: I have been busy looking for money to fend for my family. Basically, that’s your role as the man of the house. You feel like a refugee in your own house. Your kids don’t connect with you and the only thing you finding solace in is owning the remote. But have you realized the media is all about coronavirus updates and kids have no interest about it.

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2. Kids drama

Other than paid TV cable drama, kids give you free drama all day. They are either shouting at each other or turning physical. You have not been used to this and it’s hard calming them down. They have no respect for you and as a matter of fact they have been used to your empty threats.

3. Unending bills

You paid for the kids school fees, electricity bill and rent and left the rest to the wife. Food has to be bought daily. Kids are turning gluttonous because supply is less compared to demand. It’s becoming evident to most men that footing money to buy food and other household necessities is a daunting task. Men are struggling to get money and the pressure is becoming real.

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4. The wife

Oh yes! You don’t have the privilege of working until “2AM” as you used to nor leaving the house early to go sleep in your car at the office’ parking lot. She’s all over like a fly. Deal with that! She gave up on you when she realized you give her more pain than smile and it’s crushing your fragile ego because no one is there to baby you around. It’s a high time you actually realized she’s your wife not a room mate!

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Things not to do as a married man in this era

Marriage is slowly losing its relevance thanks to woke sisters and randy men being on the rise every day. Moreover, the shocking stories of married people butchering each other has made most unmarried people skeptical about getting their better half. However, there are the happily married couples and the unhappily married ones hanging on by a thread.

This article is for the married men, what not to do specifically:

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1. Doing laundry

I might pick a fight with the self-proclaimed feminists group. But dear married men, never do laundry at all. Aii, uoshe nguo yeye afanye nini? Don’t fall for the 50/50 split of house chores. As a man what’s expected of you is to create an enabling environment for the women to do her wifely duties with ease. Just slide on that recliner and play with the remote. Watch something educative like “How to know she’s cheating on you” It might come in handy later on.

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2. Being predictable

She asks for a heel, buy her a wig. She asks for a clutch bag, buy her heels. When she expects nothing, buy her a Luis Vuitton handbag. Basically be unpredictable. Predictability breeds contempt. Only a fool allows a woman to learn his moves. Utakuzoea vibaya! For as long as she can’t tell your next move, she’ll always sober up every day.

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3. Come home early

Not unless you one of the poultry in the home, you have no business coming home earlier than 10 pm. Actually rich men adverts start running from 10pm onwards. Ama unataka kuingia masaa ya diapers and washing detergents? Catch up with your fellow men. Have a few drinks for the road. Go home, eat and sleep in peace.

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4. Allow your woman to own the land where your house sits on

I give you this advice for free, the land on which your matrimonial house sits on should be solely yours as the man of the house. The name written on that title deed should be yours. In case ashikwe na makasiriko, you are secure. These people are not to be trusted at all.

That’s all my fellow men.

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Are you guilty of this? Confessions about texting the ex during quarantine

If coronavirus has you texting exes you never thought you’d want to talk to again, you’re not alone.

Blame self isolation.

Lotsa of people are confessing they are doing so. It boils down to a craving for affection and attention as we self isolate.

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Do you really want to rekindle a flame that burned out for a reason? I don’t have the answer, I can’t relate.

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Here are confessions about rekindling things with an ex:

@___aiisha_…
Feel like texting my ex Woozy face

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@ZellGotNoHoe…
Just texted my ex “Ayo be safe out there, even tho we aren’t together i still care about you and your fams wellbeing”

@starrymathew..
why is my ex still simping over me when he literally broke up with me b*tch get over yourself i was too good for you anyways

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@ug_chelsea…
Remember when you thought you would die when your ex left you? Look at you now, ready for your next heartbreak.

@luwedde_maria…
Who else has a long list of ex lover’s with a blank space wanna write some one on t….

@kenyaaakonme…
Also, if you are one of my ex’s… This is a chance for redemption! We know it’s your fault. And that’s okay. We all make mistakes. I will take you back if you can pay me for time wasted …. Thx.

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@PersiEthan….
Quarantine got me in my feelings so I sang a song dedicated to my ex. (There’s another one but it’s too long for Twitter)

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@betteroften…
my ex has been texting me all night

@idalissabrina…
why are all of my ex’s hitting me up

@vannahhanater..
i really just swiped right on my ex tonight

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Here are the places where you can find a potential lover

Love is blind and you can never tell when it’ll sweep you off your feet.

People find their future baes in the most unexpected places and love blossoms all the way into marriage. Here are some of the places you can find a potential mate:

1. Church

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Where else would you kill two birds with one stone – knowing the way to eternal life and having someone to be with you for the rest of your life. There are various church groups you can join and mingle with people as you search for the best suitor. With the numerous church activities, it’s always a good bonding space to make use of. Create as many friends of the opposite se3 as possible to have a wider range of choices.

2. Workplace

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This is one of the best places to find a mate. You relate with colleagues, and you can always pick a potential mate from the pack. However, these are murky waters to tread on. Office relationships can work and blossom into something greater if handled with great care.

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3. Your hood

Some times getting a mate from close proximity can be a good thing to consider. Much of the time its people you’ve always hang out with from your childhood. You know much of their social behaviors. For those who can’t work long-distance relationship, this could be the ideal place to try out. It saves you money as much as it allows you to meet up as much as you can.

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4. Corporate gigs

These are places for the deep pockets in the society. You can always pick up intimate relationships behind those boardroom doors.

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Being on the same financial ladder, it gets easier to try out working on a relationship.

Dear single child of God, why don’t you try getting someone from the above places, won’t you?

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How lack of a father figure affects a man’s future relationship

Having someone to call dad is great but having a father who is always there at every step of the way is priceless. With a world full of deadbeat dads, having one who’s there for you through thick and thin is something you can’t take for granted. Fathers shape boys into men and leave a flame they can always keep alive. But what happens when a man lacks a father figure in his life:

1. Behavioral Problems

Men who lack father figures generally have an intimidating persona. This behavior is as a result of an attempt to hide their fears and unhappiness. Most of time it manifests itself as bullying. Fathers play a pivotal role in shaping the masculinity abilities of a man and when this can’t happens most men have low self esteem and have a way to cover it up. This could involve with them turning violent at the slightest provocation.

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2. Drug abuse

This is something men without fathers easily pick up. Using drugs helps numb the pain of having to deal with no father in their lives.

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It’s an easy escape route but leads to fatal problems like suicide. Women can’t take up the role of a father and for men in families where the father is absent, find it hard taking up masculine duties. In return, these men drown into alcoholism and drug abuse as they have try to vent their frustrations.

3. Future romantic relationship

How a man was raised has a lot to do with the way they handle their future romantic relationships. A man who hasn’t witnessed a wife-husband relationship finds it hard to navigate through the mucky waters of a marriage setup.

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They tend to overstep their grounds by bulldozing things they feel are rightfully theirs, for example se3, been cooked for and having their laundry done. It gets hard to reason out things with them as they feel they are the ones who should provide the rules of the house. This relationship ends up turning toxic and emotionally draining.

4. Violence

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A child who has a father who disapproved crime acted as a crucial social control which helped counter negative influences for example peer crime. In a space where men felt being loved and approved, it proved enough to deter them from crime. Men with no fathers to look up to easily fell into crime as they had no one to guide them on being a responsible law abiding man.

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5. Poor academic performance

Male children from families with no father figure, shown a decline in their overall school performance. This was a result of higher rates of depression and negative feelings.

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Truancy was also witnessed among these children with some been expelled from school. Having low academic performance affected the how their adult life would turn out to be. It dictated their self esteem, dependence on government aid, job prospects, income and poverty levels.

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My husband forbids me from talking to my in laws after fighting

 

When your husband or wife has an argument with their sibling, should you also have been with them too?

It’s normal for siblings to fight, and move on after an argument.

But one woman presented to Maina Kageni her very special and frustrating family situation.

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The woman spoke of the troubles she faces because her situation ‘is very silly’.

Her husband has a habit of fighting with his brother, and after, warns her not to talk to her sister in law and children.

Frustrating right? It’s worse because they live in the same compound, and life is unbearable.

When they argue he tells me that if I talk to my sister in law I will see. He tells me to even tell my nieces and nephews not to come to our house.

Yet we live in the same compound in ushago, so even my brother in laws wife has been warned not to talk to me also.

She gets so upset with me when the brothers fight and the worst thing is that our husbands usually quietly makeup and don’t tell us.

We only get to see them talking with each other. Can you imagine after they have told us not to talk to each other?

They fight in the bar and tell us not to talk to each other, I even have to tell my kids not to talk to their cousins because daddy said so, then when the men make up they don’t tell us we just see them with each other, it is so hard

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