5 reasons why you should marry in your 50’s

 

On the morning conversation with Mike Mondo and Mwalimu Kinga’ng’i, the topic was about why some famous Kenyans men like Charles Njonjo chose to get married later in life.

Sir Charles Njonjo married when he was 52, after lots of pressure from the late Mzee Jomo Kenyatta.

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At the time he revealed he couldn’t find a women he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.

Mike and Mwalimu debated the merits and disadvantages of marrying later in life, and also invited their listeners to submit views.

charles njonjo at tom mboya memeorial
Charles Njonjo

Here are five benefits of marrying in your 50’s:

You will only marry for love

Once you are in your late 40s or 50s, marriage union will only happen because of extreme love for each other. While most of us marry in pressure or for financial stability, kids or freedom early in our lives, people who marry late, do not have to succumb under any such pressure. All they need is pure companionship risen out of love. And that is the true essence of marriage which is why mostly second marriages are more successful.

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No insecurities

When you are younger, insecurities play out alot in your marriage. But as you age, these insecurities fade away. And once you enter in a relationship without any insecurities, it is way smoother.

No pressures in the relationship

There is no pressure to be anything other than yourself. The views and opinions of others matters little for instance the question of how soon you will get children will not arise.

No pretending
Since you are marrying later in life, there is no time for pretending about anything in life. A man or woman at this age only wants love, happiness and joy.

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You have enjoyed your single life completely

Being single is important early in life, and doing all that can be accomplished. So when you hit your 50’s you are ready to settle down no matter what and focus on the relationship.

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9 things women do when flirting with a workmate

 

If you’re currently in this situation and unsure whether you’re imagining things or not, check out these sure-fire signs she’s flirting with you at work.

From eye contact, smiling, to laughing at your lame jokes watch out for these  signs she’s flirting with you at work:

 

1. She greets you every morning without fail

2. She always asks about your weekend or what you did that evening

3. She tells you about her weekend and evening

4. She always tries to get the seat next to you

5. She always offers to help and collaborate

6. She asks you to do things together outside of work

7. She asks you to go to lunch

8. She brushes into you when walking by

9. She sings your praises to other coworkers

If a woman is flirting with you at work, then she is going to treat you differently. Some signs are subtle yet others super obvious. So be on the lookout for these signs.

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‘She wanted we wait until marriage’ Bride turns out to be man

 

A groom has shockingly discovered the person he married is in fact a man, and worse a notorious thief whose secret was uncovered at a police station

Sheikh Mohammed Mutumba, the Imam of Kyampisi Masjid Noor mosque in Uganda is regretting believing his brides excuse not to ‘twa twa’ before marriage.

The Sheikh discovered he married a man, after ‘she’ was arrested for stealing from the neighbors in their plot.

Police searched the body of the ‘women’ only to discover it is a man.

The bride has told the Sheikh that she was on her period and needed two weeks, noted The Daily Monitor.

The understanding groom believed her. But her luck run out when she was accused by neighbours of stealing a TV.

The women was frog marched to the police station, where the Imam witnessed after a body search that his wife was a man.

The Imam regretted being cheated into paying dowry which included two goats, two bags of sugar, three busuutis (a colorful floor-length dress), a carton of salt and a Koran.

The reactions to the story were swift, with many saying you must test drive a car before marriage.

Mii Attmore …Road test muhimu

Muslims call us hoes and kaffirs because they marry virgins
Kimeeleweka😂😂

Chaurembo Mercy New Mii Attmore huyu mzee lazima ameonja zaidi ya 20. Ni vyenye leo pwangu kapata pwanguzi

Mii Attmore Chaurembo Mercy New 😂😂😂😂lakini Bibi harusi looks so much of a nigger I wonder alishindwa kujua aji

Daniella Dave Danvid ..Ohh what a waste of time and love.
Jeanette Ambicha Rickdaville Owino 😂😂😂😂😂 importance of being sure before you there.. doesn’t seem like they have split 🤔🤔🤔

Kanini Kaseo ..Unamaanisha hajawahi kugurumisha hio gari?

Kizza Chrispine Charles Mugo… it’s true it happened here in Uganda, Mukono last week, the case is already in court.

Vincent Vinnie Vinny.. Road test muhinu

Walter Uzoma.. My question is, did the father of the alleged imposter also took part in the marrital scam, by collecting Cows from his fellow man to give out his own SON out to another MAN for marriage purpose?

Becky Adams.. I see this as drama. How do u convince me that, even the people who dressed up the bride didn’t know she was a man? I’ve stared properly at this bride, naye I have failed to see which part exactly attracted Imam. Maybe they were meeting only at night and in darkness😁😁🤭

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Woman seeks advice after finding out about husbands secret family

 

You’ve known him even longer than that. And then one day, boom, without warning, you suddenly find out that there is another family.

A woman calling herself Blu Heart @toni_mat wrote a hear breaking confession of discovering her husband had children out of wedlock.

My boyfriend added his side chick to our Whatsapp group

She was stunned, confused and angry as a thousand questions ran through her mind. How could he have two kids when they had been together, in a monogamous union she believed — for the past 7 years?

She couldn’t imagine he was capable of infidelity.

Coming to terms with his secret has been hard.

She wrote

Discovered that my husband has 2 kids, a year older than our oldest child, born on the same year, with different women.

But now came a sickening feeling that made her head spin. She added

After 7 years of marriage.

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People reacted with kind words on her heartbreak:

@RonaldMathe4..
2/3 of my married friends have kids out of the wedlock and their wives are not aware.

@ellenmolefe..
If ur married u sud be scared, never trust a married guy the things they say to us singles but hey…

@khoze_khoza..
The kids are the one’s going to suffer the most. First hand experience.

@Gogoseyintweni..
Now this is just wrong … Sorry

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How I discovered my boyfriend was living a double life 

 

One never really knows when their partner is leading a double life, and only learns of it in the most unexpected ways.

A female twitter user King Gigi, wrote of her despair on discovering how her man had been cheating on her.

She shares her story – and shocking discovery.
@Gigibolts wrote

My ex boyfriend once told me that he is uninstalling his whatsapp because he needed a break from social media, this ni*ga went on and blocked me. I took my cousin s phone and saved his number, his dp was him, the baby mama and the kid..

She feels betrayed believing the whole relationship was a lie

Joh was super shocked

Her social media followers have reacted to what he was getting up to behind her back.

@Tshepo41904923..
🤦‍♂️💔😂How do people manage to live a double live?

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@MashabelaTshepo..
🤣🤣🤣That’s a men’s secret, you should’ve apologized for finding out.

@Thembag7..
He needed a brake from u

@alist3rr..
How well can you know a person 🤔

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She’s Glowing: Nun falls in love and marries in lavish ceremony

 

Celibacy is not an easy thing, and even Pastor Burale has told us this severally. Read more by clicking on the link.

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The interwebs has such stories. One twitter user by the name @VictorIsreal_ shared photos of a nun who has renounced her religion to marry the love of her life.

nun 1

The nun has tickled many who say she is better off leaving the convent and living a normal life.

Literally everyone commenting about it say only one thing is responsible for her decision. Can you guess?

nun 4
@ChiomaPhi.._
Reverend Sisters can decide to get married if they later find out they are not called, as far as they have not taken the Perpetual Vow or Final Profession of Vow. Once d final vow is taken, there’s no going back.
@DavidMadufor..
I pity people that do such things they don’t enjoy at all even the rev that sex with sisters they later get caught and disgraced publicly and for the rev father who have taken final vow and go back won’t understand his life again because God will so punish but the fact reman 👇
@Enigma__Mag..
So they are no longer married to Jesus🤔👀👀👀

nun 2
@winfieldlloyd.._
She taste the bola one time and her life never remained the same 🍆🍆🍆😂😂
@drapper9.._
Just look at the way she’s glowing in that last frame..
@justsayingfactz..
It’s better to leave and marry than to stay and be sleeping around. Kudos to her

nun 3
@lucy23717851..
She tasted d goodness of____ and decided to forward ever.fill d gap pls
@johntubor.._
Look at the glow

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Kenyan women are using child support to punish us, man cries out

 

Do you believe women use child support as a weapon to punish exes?

The cruelty of women who use child support as a weapon during divorce formed the morning discussion on Classic 105 with Mike Mondo.

An article on Page 12 of the Star noted the struggles men go through, when they find themselves alienated from their children when the women file for support after she leaves him.

Kevo from Mombasa highlighted his plight saying

I have been through alot. I was seeing this chick. She got pregnant and gave birth. At the time I was earning Sh15,000, working for a certain company in western. She went to court to file for a divorce so I responded and told her if you want a divorce sign the divorce papers. and after that the court decided that I should pay support of Sh16,000 out of the Sh30,000 I earn. 

Mike Mondo paused this question to female listeners to answer

‘Why do women use this child support as a weapon to punish the ex, what has he done that is so bad you feel he should be punished this way?

child support agreement

A woman confessed that it’s all about getting even with the ex and earn some money to live your best life.

‘It’s the closest thing to getting even with a man, you know the way men like their cars and money, yes, so it’s getting even, he will feel the pain and understand what you are going through

Another female caller confirmed the same thing saying

why do you think most people stay in marriages that are broken? Because they know the pain of child support It’s a way of punishing the men, just revenge basically.

What should child support cover? Some of the expenses child support should cover include:

1. Medical care

2. Basic necessities

3. Childcare

4. Educational fees

5. College expenses

 

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Gospel singer Martha Mwaipaja confirms split with hubby

Tanzanian gospel artiste Martha Mwaipaja has confirmed that she and her husband separated over what she termed betrayal. She said this in an interview with fellow singer Christina Shusho.

“I separated with my husband like two years ago. I am not there to try, I have already decided and people cannot be together if they don’t understand each other,” she said.

“Many married people nowadays are just living and not understanding each other. You will later find yourself giving birth to kids who don’t have grace.”

Asked whether it’s separation or complete divorce, she said, “I don’t have the time to just separate. We have lived together for so many years, and if you see that you are going to fall into a pit, there is no time to give each other time. That’s where you decide. I have done my decision. “

The two were blessed with a child, whom Mwaipaja says she has been taking care of since they parted ways

“I was the one who got myself in and also got myself out. Anyone who knows that person will clap for me, but whoever doesn’t know him will point fingers at me,” she said.

“I could have died. I thank God for protecting me from death and betrayal. He was a man of God and the churches he had have all been closed. If it’s not God, people might have buried me by now.”

The “Naiona Kesho” and “Nifundishe Kunyamaza” hitmaker says the making of these two songs was when she was at her lowest.

“A time reaches when you wish you could die or get lost, but when those words came to me, I was filled with Grace. If you see me crying, know that God has fought for me,” she said.

 “A message to women, if you see your knowledge has come to an end, don’t force it, you are calling death and don’t get out and go away from God. I encourage people through my songs and I know what pain is.

“Marriage should be respected by all, but the husband or wife should not make you wrong God.”

My husband moved out because our baby didn’t look like him

 

Can a man tell just by observation, that a child isn’t biologically his? That’s the terrible experience one Kenyan women is living through.

From the color of her eyes to the shape of her nose, what (and who) the child looks like has everyone speculating while a woman is pregnant.

She narrated to Mike Mondo during the morning conversation that her husband dumped her after saying their first born child doesn’t resemble him.

Infact he was angry that the child looked like his wife, he walked out on their marriage.

‘I was legally married and I got pregnant. Actually I am a very social person so I don’t discriminate who I talk to. I talk to both women and men and somehow some women went ahead and and talked to my man and told him and told him how I am sleeping around and they are doubting if the pregnancy is his.’

She continues to narrate about his suspicion on the paternity of their child.

‘And I gave up and the child looks like me in the beginning so he moved out. He moved out because he felt the child looked like me and that it’s not his. So later on at around three years of age I’ve raised my child and uhh and she now looks like him an exact copy’

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happy family

A local forensic company dubbed CSI Nairobi is among private experts who have taken on such issues brought forward by disputing spouses.

Also the Kenyan government chemist indicated that up to fifty (50%) percent of Kenyan men who eek paternity tests, are not the real fathers.

Kenya has more than 20 well-known DNA testing centres, mostly private clinics in Nairobi and large private hospitals, according to Mpasho

The government chemist charges Sh5,500 per person, Sh10,000 for one parent and one child. The cheapest private provider charges Sh20,000, with results in two days. It may take five to 10 working days for complex cases.

 

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Woman finds boyfriends secret wedding invitation cards under mattress

On what was supposed to be her happiest moment in life, one woman was crying feeling regrets for the man in her life.

Beth was expecting to celebrate her anniversary with bae, but on the same day, the man was marrying someone else.

She wrote of her horrific feelings of pity on finding out his deep dark secret.

@Beth_Dlomo

My boyfriend(ex now) got married on the same day we were celebrating our 2 years anniversary and he had the nerve to come to me after the wedding took me out with his friends and they would call me “umama wekhaya” kodwa (The main/ the one who has his heart or in his heart)they just came back from his wedding

One of the reasons I have trust issues

But wait, how did she survive it at that moment?

Crying myself to sleep every night until it got better. I would be lying if I say I’m totally over. I still find myself crying every now and then

How did she find out about the wedding?

My cousin was dating his best friend found the invite under the mattress

Woman celebrates splitting from husband with divorce lunch photo

Horrified followers left her comforting words:

@GeanMapfumo..
Some of these men will never see heaven😢

@Hope4u15..
Bewitch him Sis 💔 Sure God will understand

@nkosi_angela..
Most man now marry for convenience and security, I can be true that he loves umakhwapheni

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@vacioperolleno..
Talk about multitasking 😳

@whodisqamar..
Damn so calm and cold. What a. Professional

@LeoRaya_esq..
Jesus take the wheel

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My boyfriend added his side chick to our Whatsapp group

The person who came up with the phrase ‘love is blind’ knew exactly what they were talking about, Because WOW!!!

A woman, who is an events planner, had a rather rude shock from her man. She describes in a somewhat hilarious manner how he formed a group for them

 

He cheated when I found out he decided to introduced me to the girl and surprisingly I didn’t have a problem with it, then he went on and created a whatsapp group added me and the new Bae, we used to talk on that group we were even planning a vacation.

Every morning he would Greet us in the group like “Good morning my two beautiful wives” and we would each reply “morning love

She is so chilled out about the relationship and reveals why she isn’t stressed

Right there and then I realized that I have no problem with polygamy marriage at all.
Guys I’m not making this up, this is the girl we still talk.
 man clapping hands
Her confession has triggered a flood of question with many asking how they were able to cooperate, whether they did 3Sums, and to date how things are going. Really guys?
Read how people are praising the man and calling him a legend:
@lwandz08..
Legendary stuff, can he be invited as a guest speaker to the men’s conference next year!!! 😂 😂 😂 😂, I still can’t believe what I have just read 😭😭😭@mandla20..
This guy should be given the podium for an hour in next year’s mens conference.

@TheBeatmasterer..
He’s our Secretary General for next year’s men’s conference

@dumanimbatha..
In respect…i salute ur ex…he was living on another planet…a true legend…tell him …i said i owe him money ye six pack..4 doing the most 😂😂

@EduWaltzChuka..
This guy is a legend. Whatever he did tou you girls should be studied in school.

@preetyani..
This is actually very possible when you’re in love. I have been in a very similar situation and I wonder why I didn’t mind.

@kgotthi..
This is what happens when you’re in a relationship for your partner and not for yourself

@Oture..
Reminds me of this girl who created a WhatsApp group and added all the guys in the squad she had smashed

‘Stop giving our wives marital advice’ man blasts single women

 

No person loves giving unsolicited marriage advice like single women, an angry man told Classic 105’s Mike Mondo.

The bitter man reflected upon this when he called Classic 105 to complain about how single women are giving their married pals advice on how to handle marital disputes.

The angry man insisted this habit is ruining Kenyan marriages.

Do you agree with him? He said

These women join a chama, or some group, and she goes there discussing about you and in that group there is one person who will tell her what to do, married women are poisoned against their husbands

Is it wrong for a married woman to seek advice about her relationship from a single woman?

black-couple-unhappy

Others responded to Mike Mondo’s query said single women have bad intentions.

They blasted them urging single women to keep off.

‘Kenyan women ask for advice from each other about relationships instead of coming up with solutions, and there is always that one woman who will tell you to leave that ka man

Another echoed this same thought

She is poisoned against her man by her single friends who do the bad mouthing.

Ladies is this true?

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Woman celebrates splitting from husband with divorce lunch photo

 
Hannah Renee Bell knows exactly how to act in her celebratory divorce photo op.

A photo she shared on her Facebook page to mark the end of her marriage shows her and her ex hubby showing they have removed their wedding bands, and are ok about it.

The picture has proved so popular online that people are now thanking Hannah is setting 2020 goals for couples who are not getting along.

Many who have read her post say Hannah is inspiring them to leave their own rubbish relationships.

Hannah said she wanted to represent ‘the strength to carry on’ after her relationship broke down.

Read her long post and see why she became an internet sensation for her joy filled caption.

It’s official. Yesterday our divorce was finalized. After our court hearing we had lunch together, ringing in our next season of life as friends and co-parents.

As we reflected on our 13 years of marriage, together we came up with 5 marital lessons we learned along the way:

1) Take the time to REALLY get to know yourself, your purpose, your vision, your priorities, and your core values before committing yourself to someone else for life. Get clear on your non-negotiables and on your deal breakers before saying “I Do”. Otherwise, your newfound vision can create division if it’s not in alignment.

2) Even if you believe you heard from God, there’s no need to rush to the altar. Take your time and enjoy the process of courtship, or you’ll find yourself getting to know each other after you’re already married.

3) Before getting married, make sure your priorities are compatible and don’t ignore core value differences. While marriage takes compromise, there are some things that can’t be compromised. Eventually, either you’ll try to be someone you’re not, or you’ll try to change the other person into someone they’re not and it won’t work.

4) Marriage takes work. Don’t underestimate the amount of work that it takes to build a strong marriage. Go to marriage seminars together before getting married, learn what it really takes, and make sure you’re both willing to put in the work together. If you don’t grow together you’re gonna grow apart.

5) Hindsight is 20/20. We may not be able to change the past, but what we can do is make the best of our current situation and of the future, out of love and respect for ourselves and for our son. Life doesn’t always work out exactly how we planned, but God can still get the glory from our story.

We truly believe all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. God can still make something Good out of our situation. We are both proud of the life we built together over the past 13 years. And through this marriage the most wonderful miracle was born, Jacob Victorious Bell. And for that we will always be grateful.

So here’s to new seasons, fresh starts, and new normals. 👐🏽

(Btw, no need to choose sides. You can love us both equally!! 😂)

*Edited: This post is NOT meant to advocate divorce, nor is it to celebrate our failures in our marriage. We choose to celebrate what good came of it and we hope others can also learn from our mistakes BEFORE marriage or divorce…

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A list of Presidents who have cheated on their spouses

Have you watched the movie The Good Wife? If not, make some time this weekend and you will understand where I’m coming from with this article.

The movie portrays a woman who faces public humiliation after her state attorney husband is outed for political corruption and other personal scandals.

 

Here is a list of Presidents who cheated on their spouses.

Meru priest stabbed to death after drinking spree as female companion flees 

 Bill Clinton – Though she usually stays hush-hush about their marriage, she’s opened up on a few rare occasions, including on one episode of The Tyra Banks Show. Claiming she’s never doubted that her husband loves her, and crediting her resilience to her faith, she told Tyra, “I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family.” Hillary’s advice to other spouses in her situation? “You have to do what is right for you — and that may not be what anybody else believes.”

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 Nelson Mandela

Their marriage endured his and hers incaceration.

Two years after walking out of Victor Verster Prison in 1990, Mandela announced that he was seeking a divorce from Madikizela-Mandela. She was having an affair with a younger colleague, Dali Mpofu, he said.

But the couple’s problems ran deeper, Mandela said. His wife only entered his bedroom when he was asleep. They had barely spoken in months. And since his release from prison, he had been “the loneliest man.”

 Silvio Berlusconi

Berlusconi, 72, was at the centre of a media storm pressuring him to explain his relationship with 18-year-old Noemi Letizia.

The flamboyant billionaire met the pretty blonde when she was 17 and attended her coming-of-age party, offering her a gold and diamond necklace priced at 6 000 euros. The estranged wife responded saying “I have always loved Berlusconi and I built my life around my marriage and my family,” said Lario

 Nicholas Sarkozy

Their marital drama took centre stage in 2010. The rumour that they were both cheating started on Twitter, then to blogs and websites everywhere.

 John  F Kennedy
John F. Kennedy remains one of America’s most respected and admired presidents more than forty years after his assassination.
In his book the Dark Side of Camelot, writer Seymour Hersh alleged the late loved too many women. The book described in detail Kennedy’s womanizing. Hersh relayed how Kennedy frequently used the Secret Service to help him smuggle women — it was often more than one — into the White House for daily trysts.

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Is it him? Photo of Betty Kyallo’s alleged bae goes viral

 

The man whose photos have gone viral of social media is not Bety Kyallo’s new mysterious man according to a close source.

Betty Kyallo

Betty has been seeing a man believed to be of Somali origin for more than a year and he has been very supportive to her and family.

Speaking to Mpasho, a close friend to the media personality said,

Mtapata taabu sana. The man whose pics are making rounds on Twitter is not the guy Betty is dating. He loves Betty and nothing can change that. People should mind their business and let her live happily.

 

Not so long ago in an interview with mpasho, Betty said she was not going to reveal the face of her new man. She also revealed that she was not in a hurry to get married.

TULISEMA 2019 TUNAWAFICHA. I WANT TO ENJOY TIME WITH HIM SILENTLY. IT’S BETTER AND SWEETER. I’M NOT IN A HURRY TO GET MARRIED AGAIN. FOR NOW, MBELE IKO SAWA,’ KYALLO SAID.

 

The mother of one is in love with her new lover believed to be of Somali origin. She recently shared a video getting a face massage from him and captioned it,

I wanna be with you everywhere ❤️.

 

‘I want to apologize to anyone who cared about me that I ghosted,’ whispers Classic 105 presenter Mike Mondo

Mike Mondo has done something most Kenyan men loathe to do, apologize.

The Classic 105 presenter took to his social media and admitted that he is heartbroken after a certain damsel ghosted him.

FYI: Ghosting is when someone you are dating or starting to date just goes mute on you. And you have no idea why.

This led to him penning a long post about the evils of ghosting.

Mike Mondo wrote, “This is the wholly unpleasant phenomenon when someone you are dating decides to simply fade away into the ether rather than have an upfront, honest, face to face, adult conversation about why he or she no longer wants to keep seeing you. I must admit, I am guilty of this in the past. And yes, Karma handed it straight back at me. And this is what I learnt from that experience.
I’m an emotional guy, I admit, but I am not big on emotions. What I mean is, when I give, I truly give – but i have extremes, when I don’t want to give, I will hold back no matter what. Thing is I am not lukewarm in any way, I am either with it or not. That’s why I want to apologize to anyone who cared about me that I ghosted. I realize now it’s a cop-out. My deepest heartfelt apologies, and fyi, I will contact you soon to say as much.
To all those who ghost (myself included): You’re making our generation look bad. Our generation is being made to look like a bunch of dating degenerates, largely due to a toxic dating culture that condones dishonesty and has normalized shameless acts such as ghosting. Calls, texts and Facebook messages will go unanswered until a person finally “get the hint” and accept the fact that it’s over. In short, it’s the self-centered and easy way out of a relationship (or ‘almost-relationship’, or ‘situationship’ – or whatever you want to call it.). If you’ve been on the receiving end, you know that it’s a confusing and frustrating experience that most likely left you wondering why people ghost in the first place. Despite the fact that there are many other, better ways to break up with someone, it seems that people can’t seem to retire the pesky habit of ghosting.

Mike Mondo
Though daters claim they do it to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, ghosting is actually just a selfish act and easy solution to avoid broaching a difficult, emotionally wrenching conversation. I did it because it made me feel less awkward and uncomfortable—i wasn’t really taking the other person’s feelings into account at all. I ask myself sometimes, why did I treat others in a way that I, myself, would not want to be treated?
Psychologically, we’re abandoning someone, betraying their trust, and leaving them completely in the dark as to what happened and why we left. I learnt this the hard way this year after being ghosted….before the anger sets in, we turn inwards and blame ourselves. Did I do something wrong? Am I too clingy? Am I bad in bed? Is my radar broken? Am I unlovable? There’s so much mental anguish that goes into over-analyzing what happened. It’s soul-crushingly painful. Ghosting impacts your self-esteem and self-worth. It can lead to depression, which affects your sleep, appetite, concentration at work, and desire to be around friends. It can also cause anxiety in which we obsess about what happened, feel on edge, and are filled with worry and insecurity. We spend hours, days, weeks, and sometimes months trying to piece together the mystery. Besides for the inner angst, in some cases, someone is totally frozen and unable to move forward. If you attempt a new relationship you often bring baggage in which there is a lack of trust, self-doubt and fear of vulnerability, making it difficult for the new romance to flourish.
That’s why I say this, rather than wasting someone’s precious time and emotional energy that could be better invested back into the dating market, you need to commit to letting someone down in a straightforward way. Yes, it could likely be an emotionally draining face to face conversation—a tear might even be shed. However, it’s important for that persons personal growth, the emotional healing process of the person we’ve taken the time to get to know, and for the greater dating community, which both parties will be re-entering. So, in the words of the Ghostbusters song “If there’s something weird and it don’t look good, who you gonna call…?” How about your partner so that you can break things off the right way!
Have you ever been ghosted? Share your story with me below
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‘I wish you nothing but death,’ Daughter tells mother

A campus lady confessed to her mother that she wished her nothing but death because she felt her mother was not supportive enough to cater for her needs.

The girl believes a mother should support her child’s financial needs regardless. She let us in on her thoughts about her dispute with the mum.

She said

I hate you so much and I wish you nothing but death. Since I set my foot in campus you have done nothing but making my life miserable. At times I even wonder whether you are my real mother or I was a mistake in your life.

If I was a misfortune you could not have allowed me to this world to suffer. Did you forget abortion is there? I just pray that you could just vanish so that I know my suffering is due to your absence.

I swear I can just strangle you with my hands and live with that guilt of relieve.

This bitter lady uttered these words to her mother because she thought that she was not supportive enough to her needs.

She said the mother literally refused to pay her rent which led to her being thrown out of the house. Her mother is employed hence she saw no need for her not to cater for her basic needs.

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This led to her thinking of killing her mother because she was of no use to her life.

I rather suffer when you are dead than when you are alive, she told her mother.

The lady in question says that her mother was not proud of her going to University. She thinks that that is the reason why her mother hates her. The lady describes her mother to be the worst being that cannot relate well with people.

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The friends to the girl in question tried to talk to her but it seems she had made up her mind.

The fact remains that no matter what, she would still remain her mother but the lass rejected this statement.

We hope they can get past their differences and heal the mother-daughter relationship.

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The one thing Kenyan men do that annoys women 

Every woman says a good Kenyan man is hard to find.

And it all boils down to the one thing they don’t do.

When a fella visits a woman’s house he must go with something.

Unfortunately, many Kenyan men turn up at a woman’s house empty handed, then place demands for food and a place to sleep after the nights activities.

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Like seriously, why would a man go to a woman’s house, where he doesn’t pay rent, knock on the door empty handed and expect a good time with her? It’s no wonder, women are playing the field.

On the morning conversation, Maina opened up the phone lines to men about allegations from women, that men are the ones who are cheap.

Mwalimu argues men are not cheap they just pretend. ‘Kenyan men have a lot of dignity, if you think they are cheap they are just pretending, and end up gaining’

Ladies have you ever encountered a cheap Kenyan man and it astounded you? Maina asked women.

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This after on Wednesday a caller accused women of being the cheapest, that all they need to buy a Kenyan girl is a mzinga, and she falls for it.

Here are a sample of views from women about this annoying habit

Jennifer Kanyiri..
Why would a man go to a lady’s house, men need to style up and be the gentlemen they claim to be #MainaAndKingangi

@moniqueKimm..
Some men are just lazy and want everything the cheap way. He’ll come eat, sleep alafu asnore till morning lol

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“Kenyan men are cheap! Nowadays you will meet a guy, he will come to our house, hajakuja ata na nyama ama maziwa alafu anauliza tutakula nini? Who does that?” #MainaAndKingangi

Thaimoni wa gasmonkey..
chali kulala kwa hao ya dame iyo nayo haileti shangwe,,,nyumba hulipi wachana nayo
Rosemary..
@ItsMainaKageni Men of today are annoying!! Begging money from ladies. Sisi sio fuliza, tala, branch, okash … Cheap=Men period @Classic105Kenya

 

 

 

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