Jua Cali reveals what he would like his son to avoid (Exclusive)

Jua Cali was at our offices yesterday. The rapper spoke about many things in his life. One of the questions we asked him was a major lesson he had learned about marriage? He replied that one should never keep secrets from their spouse wife, as those secrets always get out.

Juakcali and his wife Lilly
Juakcali and his wife Lilly

He also said that the things that he would never want his son to be or do that include: do drugs, be a liar or a wishy-washy person. What did he do before he was famous?

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Jua-Calis-son

He said that he had been lucky that he had never needed to be employed, adding that he and Clemmo used to fix electronic items. He also said that he was happy with the current crop of musicians like Ethic and Ochungulo, defending their style of music.

Jua Cali
Jua Cali

Jua Kali said that he didn’t believe that Wasafi controlled the Kenyan music market, although he did agree that they have good music. He thought the gong for dominating the Kenyan media industry should go to the aforementioned Ochungulo family and Ethic groups.

In a quickfire section with our interviewer, the celeb said the one thing he would never do was do drugs. He also explained that a place he would not like to visit again in Africa was Nigeria. He did not give his reasons as to why.

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The rapper on the phone

And what was the cheapest thing that he has purchased in his wardrobe? He said that his boxers cost 100 shillings. He also revealed that the toughest time in his life was when he and Clemmo were trying to make Calif a big recording studio.

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‘We created the best of moments together’ – Chanty to Eric Omondi

 

Eric Omondi and his long time girlfriend Miss Chanty have been serving us relationship goals for the longest time. But things took a turn on Tuesday May 22nd, when he announced on social media that they had broken up.

While many fans didn’t want to believe it as he has pulled many publicity stunts before, it may be a reality we have to face.

Miss Chanty has finally addressed the issue with Eric Omondi after the comedian took to his social media to share a break up message.

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Well Miss Chanty responded to the post saying

Hello guys, I hope this finds you well i have been silent for a while…Eric and i have had long discussions for the past one month. As you all know my family lives in italy and its been really challenging for both of us.

I love eric and i will always love him and we are okay; we created the best of moments together, we shared our dreams and visions but most importantly we shared our lives. And i will always cherish every single moment. 

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As i write this post i want to ask God to always protect you and your dreams until our paths meet again.

I hate goodbyes so it’s not a goodbye its more like a see you later.
I will always be here for you ANYTIME, ANYDAY

 

 

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These 5 things determine if you are wife or husband material

 

Almost no conversation goes on amongst Kenyans without the mention of ‘wife’ or ‘husband’ material.

Whether we are discussing celebrities or our pals, we all refer to some mannerisms as wife or husband material.

A study sheds light on what men and women perceive as marriage traits – and it seems they have very different views.

The survey, which asked respondents what the top five ‘marriage material’ characteristics were, showed the differing views between the s3xes.

WHAT WOMEN WANT
Honest/trustworthy – 78 per cent
You just know – 52 per cent
My friends and family like them – 46 per cent
Romantic – 33 per cent
Career driven – 13 per cent

WANT MEN WANT
We’re sexually compatible – 64 per cent
Willingness to look after me – 43 per cent
Enjoy sports or let me watch – 41 per cent
They are attractive – 33 per cent
My friends and family like them – 29 per cent

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‘It’s not what you think’  Njugush’s wife pleads with Kenyans

 

Njgush and his wife Celestine went to Dubai recently where they treated their fans to cute coupledom pictures.

The well deserved vacation according to the couple saw them come back home with some surprising news.

The couple are in Uganda and have unveiled they are expecting bby number two.

Celestine chuckled when sharing the news with Kenyans saying

Its not what you guys think. Work n play

In all honesty, we are happy for this beautiful couple, and blessing to them as they await the arrival of baby number two.

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First impressions! 6 main things women notice about men

It’s a proven fact that men and women both notice some traits in the opposite gender on their very first meeting.

First impressions matter and women seem to take this very seriously.

In fact, first impressions fall into place in the first few seconds of a conversation. So you only get one shot at at it and less than 30 seconds to impress.

Here are some of the things women notice on the first few minutes into a meet up.

1. Personal hygiene

Personal hygiene is basically how you look. Do not go on a date with smelly socks, unkempt hair or dirty clothes.

This will send signals in the first few minutes into that date. Try to look good. It goes a long way.

If you do not put any effort in wanting to look good, neither will she try to impress you.

2. Attention focus/ personality

Your first few conversations with a lady will make a huge determinant in your personality traits.

Your sense of humor gives an impression of your attitude. Women like men who have the ability to laugh. Even better, when they make the woman laugh.

That instantly nets you points!

In the same sense, how he looks at you, gives compliments about how you look is a definite boost in the first impressions. If he is distracted by his phone then that is a red flag. Run to the hills.

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3. Attention to other people and how you treat them

All humans should be treated with respect and kindness. That is just how it should be until it is not.

How your partner treats other people is always important, is he self centered and not kind. All that makes an impression the first few minutes into knowing a person.

4. Grooming/ Appearance

Well, well, well.. If a lady tells you that your appearance does not matter, know that she is lying.

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder they said, but what goes together with it is how they dress, smell, how you keep your hair and everything in between.

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5. Manners

A man with no manners is highly unlikely to get any woman’s attention.

Small details like respect, greeting people, holding the elevator for her, letting ladies be first, are very likely to say more about you on a first date.

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 6. Level of confidence

Confidence is a definite plus for every woman. This is a character trait that every woman finds attractive in a man. In most cases a woman can gauge the level of confidence a man has in the first few minutes into a conversation.

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‘I caught him cheating with a 16 year old yet I am pregnant for him’ Racheal

A Kenyan woman has learnt the hard way that it is not only death that can separate a man and a wife. Another woman can be the deal breaker.

*Racheal * is heartbroken after catching her husband sleeping with a neighbors daughter.

I caught my husband sleeping with our neighbors daughter in his car this night, I am 5 months pregnant. It was the most disgusting sight ever in my life.

I noticed he was not in the room and his phone was charging , so I called him but no answer.

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I don’t know what took my outside to his car then I decided to pick up my favorite cd I was playing in his car, but first I went for the car keys and did not see it.

So I rushed out to the car to be sure I did not leave it open and I saw the car shaking.

I was scared at first be I felt someone was about to steal and move the car so I rushed and grabbed the car door handle.

They were foolish enough not to lock so I saw them.

Racheal adds that she feels betrayed because she is pregnant.

All I did was pick a few clothes and left to my friends house as my husband chased me around  naked.

I feel like dying because I can’t endure this pain. I can’t sleep I had to block him so he won’t kill my battery.

Is it too late to abort this child and pick up my life ? This girl he was sleeping with is just 15 or 16 years old.

What advice would you give Racheal?

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‘He pays my bills and rent in Karen with no strings attached’ Brags woman

A  Classic 105 fan has confessed that it is possible to have a relationship with a man with full financial benefits with no strings attached.

*Melisa* says she met her prince charming months ago and she is already reaping the fruits of that union.

I met this man 3 months ago in a casino and he has bought me a big car and is renting me a house in Karen and paying for my trips and we have no strings attached!.

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Well Kenyans are not convinced about this given the famous saying ‘vitu za bure zilisha enzi za Moi’.

Below are some of their responses.

Below are some of the reactions from Kenyans

@jchuizoAkikuambia umfungulie boot…..pliz remove the door….
@MKOtienoBImagine a big “car” renting a house in Karen & pay for trips just like that and she’s happy saying no strings attached. Wait until the owner of the “riches” comes for her blood.
@AwinoG: Look at where they met- a casino. Three months isn’t enough for this kind of commitment unless there is more than meets the eye. This doesn’t point to the goodness of the man. You seem ensnared by the bait of a seasoned actor- you will soon discover the meaning of his generosity
@rench2000Radi yake iko kwa njia!!!!  ATI no strings attached!!!!

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‘Karma has caught up with me for sleeping with married men’ Cries woman

An article published in a local newspaper has left many in shock.

According to the article, a lodging owner earns Sh84,000 per day by providing bedding services to couples, when business is slow.

Well Maina Kageni was left wondering why men always say they do not have money yet according to the article on Standard, men pay sh1500 per hour entertaining women in lodgings.

That is minus drinks and other expenses.

 

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A black couple on a date

According to Mwalimu King’ang’i, it depends on how a woman asks for money from her man, adding that if you nag and shout you will definitely get nothing.

A female caller confessed that years ago she used to date married men who spoilt her with loads of cash, but now her husband spends cash on other women instead.

‘5 years ago I was the side chick and I would get everything I wanted. Karma has caught up with me.

My husband does not come home, he does not give me money yet I lost my job two months ago.

He does not come home from Monday to Thursday. I only see him on Friday and only when he decides to come.

I never used to care whether the men I dated were married or not.

I know my man is cheating on me but I can only tell young women that Karma is a b#tch.

 

Another caller adds

Women should know that these guys are very cunning they make sure they are with their wife’s on weekends and spend time with mipango wa kando on weekends.

Every time I ask my husband for school fees he usually starts bringing issues of kwani where do I take my salary.

Once he steps out I usually know he is not mine but once he comes back he is mine.

If I ever catch him cheating that will be the end of the road.

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‘My son had to undergo 17 surgeries and 300 face stitches’ Tom Mboya

Former K24 journalist Tom Mboya has opened up on fatherhood and the challenges he has gone though bringing up his six kids.

Mboya, who is almost in his 50’s, says that the journey has had its fair share of challenges, but it’s been a worthy ride.

The journey had its fair share of struggles at the beginning. Being a father intimidated me but with time I settled down after realizing I had to play the role of mother and father.

We were parents when young so we did not understand the dynamics of marriage yet.

I decided to work on myself first and right now my kids are in campus and I feel so proud that I did it all alone.

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Mboya goes on to narrate a horrifying incident that left his son seriously injured and how it shocked him.

My son had at the time disagreed with his friends so they decided to ‘revenge’ and going by the injuries sustained it is obvious that their aim was to kill him.

For some reasons he did not die. He lived to tell the story. He also underwent 17 procedures on the jaw and 300 stitches on the face.

I looked at my son in that state and felt weak. He was in a bad state and it was a very unpleasant image. The mother was however very disturbed.

I looked my son in the eyes and told him he was gonna be OK and he is OK

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Fun things to do with your mother for mother’s day!

Mothers day which happens to be on 12th May is just around the corner and most if not all the times, it catches us by surprise, Well not any more!

Now that I have reminded you that the day is near, you might be racking your brain what to surprise her with on this big day yes?

It might be easy to fall for the normal usual things that have been happening over the years, but we can try and make this year a little different?

Well you do not have to worry about that anymore,

Here is a list of some of the things the both of you could do on this day.

1. Take a mini vacation

Most of the times our mothers are always busy trying to make everything work in our homes.

Take her out for mini road-trip or vacation to let her relax and simply to make her feel special on that mini trip. It’s her day and she needs all the rest and relaxation she can get while at it.

 

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2. Book a family photo shoot

Who doesn’t like a photo shoot or a family picture? Well this might be your opportunity to get one.

Go for that fancy make-overed  photo-shoot you have been meaning or procrastinating for a while. This will create new memories for you and your mother.

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3. Go see a movie

When old age kicks in, they tend to forget the little pleasures of life. Remind her how it feels like to have fun or to just enjoy their time.

For instance you could take her for a movie and just make sure she has the time of her life.

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4. Plan a picnic

A little relaxation for a mother goes a long way and a picnic to just cook and spoil her is a perfect idea to make this work.

Take her for that mini picnic lunch and just make sure that she has fun but above all she gets all the love and relaxation she will need.

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5. Pamper Her

Take her out, treat her to a massage or a spa date, get her gifts, buy her roses, make her dress up and all that. Make it a little different for her and treat her like the queen that she is.

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‘My In-laws deserted us with their son’s bill of 1.2 million’ City woman

A female caller shocked Maina Kageni after confessing how her sister’s husband was in a coma for two months and no one from his family visited him.

She said that despite all this, her sister stood by her husband  until his last breath.

Maina let me share a story of my sister.

Her husband was diabetic and it reached a point he could not even go to work. All he could do is drink.

Many are the times he lied to my sister that he is at the office only for the secretary to confirm he had not even been seen at the premises.

One day he collapsed in town was in a coma for two months. My sister visited him everyday crying at his bedside as if the world was ending.

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A sick man resting on a hospital bed
A sick man resting on a hospital bed

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All this time no one from his family came to visit. At some point he died and left behind a bill of Ksh 1.2 million.

It reached a point where I would tell my sister that the man is already dead we should just take him to a morgue already but she adamantly refused.

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When he died only one guy from his family came with Ksh 30,000. We sent them a budget and we finally managed to bury him after arranging for a harambee.

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Eight red flags to look out for in your relationship that signal it’s time to leave now

 

Australian dating and relationship expert Louanne Ward understands how easy it is to let emotion take over and ignore signals that things might not be as they seem.

She said many people ignore these warnings and enter into a relationship that might not be suitable despite the fact red flags were there from the outset.

Here, Louanne offers an eight-step guide that will help you recognise some of the more common indicators.

1. Rushing a relationship

‘Sometimes we meet somebody who swoops you off your feet and tells you everything you want to hear and they whisk you off on this lovely, magical journey,’ Louanne said in a recent Facebook video.

And as intoxicating this can be, the expert said this situation can be fraught.

‘These people are trying to manipulate the outcome of how things are going to work out and they are controlling the situation,’ she said.

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2. They are on social media but have no photos

If you’ve met through social media, watch for red flags, advises Louanne. One in particular is the person you’re dating has no photos of themselves online.

‘They say they are really private but often have lots of friends. They comment and like others’ posts but rarely post anything themselves,’ she said.

The reason this sort of behaviour suggests an issue is that it can indicate a person may have something to hide, the expert explained.

‘If you’ve connected with somebody on social media, this is something to be extra cautious about because if they’ve started a relationship with you on social media, it’s their potential fishing ground.’

3. They pursue you but tell you they don’t know what they want

There’s nothing more confusing than a person who makes the effort to date you but then says they don’t know what they want.

‘[They say] they really like you, they enjoy spending time with you, you’re really cool but they just don’t know what they want, or that they’re not even sure they’re looking for a relationship,’ Louanne said.

The coach is quick to point out that it’s important to read this as a sign this person isn’t available – and she recommends leaving as quickly as possible.

Louanne continued if you choose to ignore this type of behaviour because you believe the outcome could be different, despite their ambivalence, this may indicate you have a problem with self-esteem and self-worth.

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4. Watch for sudden outbursts of anger

Anger can be a tricky emotion to express in a relationship.

However, a sign there’s a potential problem is when a person you’re dating appears to lose their temper too often – and for no reason.

‘You start dating a wonderful person and things are going well but they are very quick to anger for no reason and they can turn on you quite quickly,’ Louanne said.

She added this type of behaviour can take a range of forms including storming out of the room, sending nasty messages or hanging up the phone during a conversation.

Louanne said while a person might apologise and offer a range of excuses, this sort of inconsistency can become an emotional rollercoaster.

‘If this is repeated behaviour, this is a red flag. It’s a definite no for someone to put you on a rollercoaster of anger and apology.’

5. One person controls the contact

During the early stages of a relationship, it’s normal to send each other a flurry of messages.

But the issue is when one person appears to be more in control of the situation.

‘You might send them a message or phone them and they don’t pick up or they don’t reply to your message straight away. Sometimes they can leave you dangling for hours or days,’ Louanne said.

‘Because when somebody needs to control when they can and can’t speak to you, it’s often an indicator there is a third person involved.’

6. They keep you at arm’s length and won’t commit

The expert said an inability to commit is often masked in vagueness – something that should be seen as a red flag.

‘You ask them to do something and they will say “I will have to get back to you” or “I’m not quite sure” or they just avoid making plans.’

It might be that a few weeks have passed since you’ve seen them, and while they will stay in touch, there will be no concrete plans to meet, Louanne continued.

‘Another telltale sign and a big red flag that you may not be the only person that they are seeing.’

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7. S3x is always a topic of conversation

There’s nothing wrong with talking about s3x but when this is the only topic of conversation or a go-to, Louanne says take note.

In particular, the coach said to watch for a person who might constantly question you about what you’re wearing or compliment you excessively on your body.

‘If these are people you haven’t sleep with yet, read this behavior as early stage red flags.’

Louanne also said another thing to watch for when being pursued by somebody who is highly s3xual is they may start sending you nvde photos of themselves and may expect you to send photos back.

‘As the relationship starts to develop, you may find yourself in a position where you’re sending photos that may make you feel uncomfortable,’ she said.

Louanne cautions: ‘It is a red flag when someone is asking you to do something that’s outside of your comfort zone.’

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8. Constantly telling small lies

In the early stages of a relationship, white lies might seem small and insignificant, but these can indicate a pattern of dishonesty.

Louanne said there are a couple of different reasons this is a red flag.

‘One is the person may be a compulsive liar or the person could be potentially seeing others, or they are trying to manipulate a situation to get their own way.

‘They are used to using lies to get their own way.’

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What he really means when he says ‘I need space’

 
Marital therapist Andrew G Marshall is the author of How Can I Ever Trust You Again? and Infidelity from Discovery to Recovery in Seven Steps.

In an article published on Dailymail, he says there are four reasons why men need space.

But what does ‘I need space’ really mean – and how should you respond to it?

 

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1 He’s taking back control

WHAT HE SAYS/DOES

‘I need time for myself’, or, ‘You’re always on my back’. He withholds vital pieces of information – such as the date of his brother’s stag party – so you find out from someone else, or at the very last moment.

WHAT IT MEANS

There is a growing trend to be not just partners but ‘best friends’ too, and be involved in every corner of each other’s lives. In the first flush of love or the high of having a new baby, it is easy to put aside personal needs to make our partner happy or for the greater good of the relationship. However, we all need ‘me’ time as well as ‘family’ time. Worse still, your partner could be feeling ‘controlled’, as though you have one mental picture of who he is (for example, driving a practical family car) while he has quite another (eg, behind the wheel of a sports car). Although you fear that his idea of space is to be free of all family responsibilities, he’s really just asking for the occasional break with the boys or a chance to pursue a particular hobby.

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2 He’s stressed-out by arguments

WHAT HE SAYS/DOES

‘I’m tired of arguing’, or, ‘Have it your own way’. He walks out in the middle of a row or threatens to leave (but backs down a couple of hours later).

 

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WHAT IT MEANS

Two types of relationship end up with this kind of ‘I need space’ crisis on the man’s part. In the first, both partners fight like cat and dog – often about small things (sometimes even about the way they argue). In the second, the woman is permanently angry – often because she feels ignored or not listened to – and her partner is tiptoeing round the argument. Although the man might be hoping to avoid a scene, it just makes his partner angrier. In both scenarios, nothing is resolved and everybody gets more frustrated.

If you tend to be the angry one, your partner is simply exhausted from all the arguing, or avoiding arguments, and believes that withdrawing and switching off is his only way of coping. At this milder end of the scale, ‘space’ means a chance to lick his wounds and recover.

If the rows have been going on for a long time, he might have closed down and refused to argue, stormed out of the house or threatened to leave. At this more serious end, he fears that your relationship’s problems might be insoluble, and asking for ‘space’ – by which he means a temporary separation – might shock you into truly listening to him.

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3 He’s feeling under pressure

WHAT HE SAYS/DOES

‘I’m fed up with putting everyone else first’, or, ‘This is my time’. He stays out until 3am without calling, or buys expensive guy stuff but hardly uses it.

WHAT IT MEANS

Men expect to solve their problems on their own. So instead of asking for help when the stress gets too much, they pretend everything is OK and work harder, drink more and get more depressed – until they suddenly announce that they need space. This sort of crisis is especially common if your partner has had a setback at work – someone has been promoted over his head or he’s lost his job – or his mother or father has died. Losing a parent reminds us that we are not immortal and makes us question everything in our lives. If this is your situation, then your man has been feeling under so much pressure that he fears that he’s about to crack up. He is probably already acting irrationally – wildly excited about a new project but quickly dropping it, or getting moody for no obvious reason. In his mind, only by creating space between the two of you and thus removing one of his causes of stress (the ‘demands’ he believes are coming from you and the children) can he hope to keep his sanity.

 

4 He’s tempted to stray

WHAT HE SAYS/DOES

‘Were we ever truly in love?’ or, ‘We’ve grown apart’. Suddenly, he has new interests, spouts views that could belong to someone else or spends a lot of time getting ready for work.

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WHAT IT MEANS

One of your partner’s work colleagues or friends may have crossed the line from being ‘just friends’ into something dangerous. The two of them are probably no longer talking about the sales figures, but are sharing secrets about how ‘unhappy’ they are at home. Online friends are particularly worrying – because people are quicker to trade secrets and fantasies in a virtual relationship, and it is easier for your man to kid himself that a se3y text is not really cheating.

Fortunately, if he is asking you for space, he is unlikely to have begun a full-blown affair as the unfaithful unilaterally grab their space by sleeping with someone else. However, he is certainly fantasising about one, or may imagine that he’s discovered his soul mate. In this case, wanting space can be his way of keeping his options open. On one hand, he’s laid down his marker that your relationship is in trouble and given himself permission to discover whether he has a future with his friend. On the other, he has not closed the door on his marriage, and can easily return if it’s all been a big mistake.

 

The five types of stalkers and how to spot them

When Moi University student Ivy Wangechi was murdered, it turned out that the man behind the brutal incident, felt ignored by her rejection.

He is said to have asked someone to spy on her and report back what the medical student was upto. He later caught up with her and hacked her to death.

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Stalking is on the increase, say scientists, and it’s not just celebrities who are under threat.

And, claim scientists, stalkers can now be split into five distinct groups: the rejected stalker, the intimacy stalker, the incompetent stalker, the resentful stalker and – most dangerous of all – the predatory stalker

Ivy Wangechi and Naftalia Kinuthia
Ivy Wangechi

Professor Paul Mullen, of Monash University, Australia, claims ordinary people are now more at risk than once thought.

He blames the rise in celebrity culture and social changes such as greater instability in relationships, more difficulty in finding partners and the rise of a blame culture in society.

‘We define everything by our relationships,’ he said. ‘But there are many people who are socially isolated and rely on fabrication or delusion for their core identity.’

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Men and women aged between 16 and 30 were most at risk. One in five women and one in ten men between these ages had experienced some form of stalking.

This compares with 12 per cent of women and four per cent of men aged between 45 and 60.

Professor Mullen said: ‘Those figures seem odd because obviously the older group have lived longer and would have been expected to have had more experience of relationship break-ups and things like stalking.

‘The high rate among the younger age group tends to indicate that rates are rising, and pretty rapidly too.’

Professor Mullen suggests stalkers fall into five distinct groups. They are:

• The rejected stalker: The rejected stalker cannot accept that a relationship is over and swings between dependency on the other person, pleading for a reconciliation and flying into a rage at being rejected.

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This is the most common type of stalker. They are usually male, and account for about half of all stalking cases.

• The intimacy stalker: These stalkers often target celebrities or people they do not know. They fix on someone and believe they are in love with them. They also think in time their love will be reciprocated.

This group accounts for around 5 per cent of cases are are more likely to be women.

• The incompetent stalker: This type of stalker is usually socially incompetent, chauvinistic or a misogynist who believe they are entitled to a relationship with a woman. Although often short-term, stalking is characterised by awkward pleadings or aggressive demands.

• The resentful stalker: Unlike other types, these stalkers behave deliberately to frighten their victim. It is often motivated by a desire for revenge.

The stalker targets the person who has hurt them directly – or a representative of that group or person – for instance, a boss, a woman or a certain ethnic minority. This accounts for a minority of cases and is often rooted in the workplace.

• The predatory stalker: This is the least common and most dangerous type of stalker – the category that sex offenders fall into.

They follow their victims, observe their behaviour and gather information in order to plan a real attack. They are exclusively men and stalk victims for a feeling of power, control and sexual excitement.

What to do if you are being stalked

 If you think you are being stalked, there are many options available to you. Taking some simple measures should make you feel more physically and emotionally able to deal with the situation.

 If you intend to go to the police, you’ll need to provide evidence. Make sure you keep a diary of every incident, tape any phone calls and if you can, take photographs or video your stalker.

 If you fear you are bring stalked tighten up security at home, in transit and at work. Change the locks to your home and install a burglar alarm. Ask a male friend to record an answering machine message on your home phone line.

When walking home alone, vary your route. If you are being harassed at work, ask a colleague to answer your phone for you. Always be wary about giving out personal details when dealing with credit card services, internet chat rooms and people you meet.

 Finally, there are many support groups offering emotional help. Speaking to a qualified counsellor can make you feel more empowered and increase your level of confidence when dealing with a stalker.

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Kenyans blast woman who dumped truck driver after educating her

Today’s morning debate on Classic 105 was based on whether ladies should feel indebted to a man who has helped them out financially, when it comes to love.

The debate was brought about after a woman confessed that she was not interested romantically in a man that had paid her fee since she was 16 after she lost her parents.

She says

I’m a 26 year old woman and my Parents died when I was 14 years old. I dropped out of school because no one could afford to pay my fees.

I met a guy when i was 16 and he sent me back to school. He sold fruit on the street so that he could pay my school fees.

‘He educated me since I was 16, I want to dump him now’ Brags woman

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He later got a job as a truck driver and sent me to University.

I am now working as lawyer. My problem is that i feel i cant continue with this relationship because this guy is not the type of man i would like to marry one day.

How best can i tell him that he is not my type without hurting his feelings? I want somebody in my own class not a truck driver please help me.

‘I dated him as a mkokoteni guy only to be dumped when he got rich’ -Mary

Here is what one fan had to say

I would urge that woman to walk away because nowadays we are walking with an axe in the car over such behaviors.

There is nothing as difficult as keeping a woman who is not in love with you.But as they say Karma is a b*tch and it will catch up with her.

He will get very hurt, so I would just advice her to walk away.

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Another caller adds

That lady is being very inhumane, because that guy stood by her when she had no one.

Another caller adds that its unfair to leave the guy given that he put his dreams ion hold to let her pursue hers.

If she feels he is not his type let her help him to a level where she feels he meets her standards.

Yes he is a truck driver and she is a lawyer so what? Let her help him buy lorries which he can be managing if she does not want to get married to a truck driver.

‘I dated him as a mkokoteni guy only to be dumped when he got rich’ -Mary

Another adds

The lady should help the man achieve bigger dreams because he sacrificed himself so that the lady could study to the level she is.

One fan however seems to disagree with every one saying that the lady should support the man.

So educating a 16 years old who was in a vulnerable position guys now want payback. Really at 16 could you make decision on marriage?

Shame on the man Tenda wema nenda zako. So should all those who sponsor orphans marry them. St*pid

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‘He educated me since I was 16, I want to dump him now’ Brags woman

A 26-year-old woman has provoked mixed reactions after she asked for advise on how to dump a man who has educated her since she was 16 because he is not her type.

According to the woman she is now a lawyer while he is ‘just a truck driver’.

That has made her lose interest and she wonders how she can politely tell him off.

I’m a 26 year old woman and my Parents died when i was 14 years old. I dropped out of school because no one could afford to pay my fees.

I met a guy when i was 16 and he sent me back to school. He sold fruit on the street so that he could pay my school fees. He later got a job as a truck driver and sent me to University.

‘I dated him as a mkokoteni guy only to be dumped when he got rich’ -Mary

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I am now working as lawyer. My problem is that i feel i cant continue with this relationship because this guy is not the type of man i would like to marry one day.

How best can i tell him that he is not my type without hurting his feelings? I want somebody in my own class not a truck driver please help me.

What would your advise to her be?

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‘Are you still married?’ People share the weirdest texts received from an ex

Getting a text from your ex is never a good thing – they’re either desperate for an ego boost or want more than just a cuddle while watching Netflix.

That’s why this funny Instagram account Text from your ex is so relatable  –  collating various text messages from ex-partners from all over the world.

With over 2,000 posts and 2.6 million followers it seems that many of us can relate to the ex dilemma.

Some posts show just how rude ex boyfriends can be, while others hilariously show the put downs we probably should have used when our ex last text us.

The saying below proves that the statement below is one that runs through the minds of many.

I don’t have ex’s I have Y’s ,Like Y the hell did I date you?

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Below are the texts people have ever received from their exes.

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Another man learns the hard way what the definition of an ex means after being slammed.

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If you think you are having a bad day think of this person whose ex courageously confirmed she has been stalking him.

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Mercy Masika serving us marriage goals – Photos

Mercy Masika is definitely serving us couple goals with her hubby, goals that we hope to experience one day when we find someone who loves us the way we have always dreamed.

Lao-Tzu once said,

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

With so many ‘come we stays’ , the Gospel musician is setting the bars too high for single people showing us that marriages can work as long as there is commitment, love and God.

Here are photos of Mercy Masika and her husband David T Muguro

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