4 signs that your ex still loves you

Breaking up is hard, especially if you were madly in love with the person.

Well, the harsh truth is that things don’t always work the way we expect them to. Also, it is worth noting that the first relationship barely works. If he/she was your first, it is okay to look for someone else who can understand you better.

Don’t cry because it’s over, there still may be a chance that your ex still loves you.

Here are 4 signs that your ex still loves you:

  • Your ex tries to maintain regular contact with you

Well, I know this is a no brainer. If your ex tries to still keep contact with you then that means that feelings are still there. If you have tried ignoring your ex, but they constantly try to reach out, then that’s a clear indication that he/she still loves you.

The longer this happens, after your breakup the more it suggests that your ex wants you back. He/she may not be happy with the single life and may be wanting you back.

  • Reminiscing about the happy times

If he/she still remembering the good old days together, then that’s a clear indication that they still love you despite the breakup. He/se may be reconsidering to taking you back.

  • Your ex remains angry, emotional or upset for weeks or months after breakup

I know this may seem somewhat controversial. But often this is a great sign that your ex still loves you. If you didn’t do anything drastic to hurt your ex like cheating on them, then your ex is holding feelings of resentment and stays being angry then that is a positive sign showing emotion investments and feelings towards you.

If you want to win your ex back, you will have to make them let go of these feelings.

  • Your ex tends to send mixed signals, where one minute they say they miss you then the next they’re cold and distant

This is the strongest indicator that they still in love with you and cannot seem to let go. I have a feeling that most of ya’ll breakups lead to these mixed feelings because of conflicted emotions. Keep your options open, to getting back into the relationship. If your, ex is doing this, then that means they are not fully ready to let go.

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Good luck in taking back your ex after you have identified with these signs after the breakup. I would strongly advise not to take the friendzone avenue.

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Relationship advice women receive that is totally useless

The relationship advice I see being peddled in women’s magazines is, to say the least absolutely horrendous. Why? The simple reason is that the advice is most times meted out by women about men.

I hope you see why that is a problem. A woman will never know what happens in a man’s mind, nor will a man ever know what happens in a woman’s mind; though the sexes try to believe that they do.

So, this brilliant article is a list of things women have been preached to about relationships that doesn’t help but destroys it; They are;

1. Men want independent opinionated women – Disagreeing is alright but this advice is oftentimes misinterpreted to mean a woman should be in her man’s face. This is one of biggest myths out there. I want a woman who will be my peace and not the cause of my migraines. A woman who knows how to talk to a man (manipulate) will get more from him than one who thinks fighting him is the answer.

2. If he loves you he will not sleep with anyone else (completely ignoring how men are wired as animals) – The act of s3x can be completely divorced from love by a man. Watch the video below for more great analysis;


3. Any advice that she gets from another woman that starts with ‘real men don’t…’-What does that woman know about the masculine experience/condition?

4. If he loves you, he will always make you happy – Another hoax. It isn’t anyone’s job to make you happy. That one is on you!

5. A big wedding is for a man to express his love – A big wedding doesn’t predict marriage success. Go look at HUGE Hollywood weddings and the subsequent divorce rate. The numbers are shocking.

6. Men should share their feelings – We do but to other male friends. And for those men reading this article, there is nothing that causes a woman to dry up more than an emotional man. Yes, even a broke man is afadhali!

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7. What is good for the goose is good for the gander so date like men – A woman is at her most beautiful, vibrant and highest value when she is in her early 20’s., not her 30’s or 40’s like a man.

This is a painful truth but the same happens for men in their 20’s but in the inverse. Men in their 20’s are just useless compared to their female compatriots.

So when women are told to sow their wild oats in their 20’s, they are being done a disservice. Why? Those are the best years they have for getting a man of worth and value to be their husband.

8. Seclude him from his male friends – You fell for your man when he was with those men. The closest people to you are the totality of who you are. Those men helped him become the man he was when you fell for him – the one you fell in love with.

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Why would you isolate him from people who have helped him grow? Iron sharpens iron as man sharpens man.

9. Your degrees and job title are top of the list of why a man is into you -Men are eyes (s3x) first, character second and other things(this is where you put the degrees and any other thing you think adds to your cred).

Your degrees and your title are good for your CV and will not build your relationship one iota!

In summary;

Men will never date as women do. We are different and complementary; which is a wonderful thing. What women find attractive in a man isn’t what men find attractive in a woman and it should be said as such.

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Singer Vivianne’s simple rules for a sweet relationship

Relationships are hard. They take a lot of dedication, focus, and work. But once you find the right person it’s your obligation to maintain a successful relationship.

Vivianne and hubby Sam West in Los Angeles

Stay faithful

A relationship is between two people and it’s ought to be respected. In today’s era we find it hard to stay faithful which in turn leads to most of the breakups around. Relationships don’t tend to last as much as they would be intended to last. Ladies, Vivianne is advising that to have a sweet relationship one must be faithful.

Make your honey feel wanted

Nobody loves rejection or the feeling of not being wanted. Such a feeling normally demotivates someone and in the long run problems tend to arise in a loving relationship. Lemme let you in on a secret… when you acknowledge your beau in front of your friends or family it’s a sign that you have come to love and accept them. A feeling that makes them wanted.

Couple enjoying each others company

Respect your babe

Respect goes both ways, ladies and gents. Put respect in your relationship and everything will fall in place. Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. But what exactly is respect? Respect means that you recognize that your partner is a whole person and not just a way to get something that you want. It means that you know your partner has different experiences and opinions from you, and that’s ok.

Don’t criticize your partner for their ideas or interests. You can disagree with someone and still respect their opinion. Part of what makes relationships awesome is the differences! Your partner can help you see the world from a new perspective, even if you don’t ultimately change your mind.

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Don’t flirt with anyone except your babe

One of the joys of being single is the ability to flirt with whoever catches your eye. Flirting is an art form that many people miss when they become part of a couple. Flirting with someone other than your bae increases chances of a breakup and insecurities between your partner and that’s why I would suggest couples to be more transparent with each other and establish rules for what they want the other party to share and what doesn’t bother them.

Sam West and Vivianne posing together

Make time for your sweetheart

People make time for those they love. In any successful relationship, couples that love each other tend to make time for each other. This is a sign of a healthy relationship. Always try making time for your sweetheart and support him/her in whatever they set out to do.

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‘Sis, secure yourself first. You are the bag’ Huddah advises

We are living in a world where women would rather bring children into the world without fathers and be okay with it. In today’s era, most women would rather seduce a rich man, get impregnated by them in order to get financial support from the acclaimed baby daddy.

Thinking its the easiest way out of poverty, many women have opted for this type of arrangement, only for them to be left high and dry. Take the incidence of Bridget Achieng, Nairobi’s socialite who was dumped by her Nigerian boyfriend after she told him she was carrying her child. The man, threatened her with abortion or he would walk away from her life for good. Thinking that she could out smart a Nigerian man, by keeping the baby and ask for child support from the man, that’s where she failed the test.

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The man disappeared on her in thin air. There was a point the socialite went to Nigeria and stayed for weeks in the search of her baby daddy for support in bringing up the baby, knowing how having a baby in this tough economic times isn’t easy but her efforts bore no fruits.

Angered and left with no choice, she flew back home to face the reality that she will be a single mother, fending for her baby without the help of her baby daddy.

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Hence, why Huddah Monroe advises the ladies, that these days, getting a baby to secure the bag is utter nonsense. She asks, what if the first bag is empty? Will you go out to get 10 children with 10 different men just to get that coin without working for it? Later on, you have 10 children that you can barely take care of only because sweet words were whispered into your ears by these men. Women it’s time you open your eyes and shine them bright.

 

Huddah Monroes Instagram posts
Huddah Monroes Instagram posts

The petite lass goes on to say that, such reasons is why she is not ready to get kids without a fatherly figure in their lives. She adds and says that the society is messed if you think that bringing up children without a fatherly figure in their lives is a good deed. Ladies, it doesn’t matter whether your man is a cheat or not but your children need a fatherly figure present in the household.

IMG-8841Ladies, do not sell your selves short. As Huddah advises and I conquer with her as a man that y’all are the bag, secure yourselves first!

She writes, ” Sis, secure yourself first. You are the bag.”

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“You just have to learn how to trust again” Sharon Mundia gives relationship advice

Celebrity you tuber and fashion blogger, Sharon Mundia, popularly known as This Is Ess, has yet again proved she is a jack of all trades after she stunned her followers with her wise advice to people who are either facing struggles in their relationships, or are trying to dust themselves off and get into new adventures.

On her latest Vlog, Sharon and her colleague, Susan Wong focused on talking about depression and relationships as they had fun showcasing how they do their makeups.

As Susan Wong was taking her viewers through her makeup routine, she happened to mention that she was getting ready for a ‘little date’ later on and that sparked the relationship conversation where she needed advice on how to not be too cautious when you are in a new relationship.

“Meanwhile, I am trying to get my eyes right since I am going on a little date later. So my question is how do you prevent yourself from being too cautious, like it’s something new it’s something really good and it’s going really well but I just want to be the one that f**ks it up?  Wong asked.

The question seemed to have woken up Sharon’s inner relationship counselor skills as she articulately spoke her heart out about it.

“I think even though it is great to be vulnerable and to let yourself be seen, you’ve got to do it where or when people who are worthy of that are concerned. You can’t just deal with necessarily everyone and expect that it’s always gonna work out , you could but you may end up having someone taking advantage of you or not guarding your heart and that sacred space you brought them into.”She advised before adding that people need to learn how to trust their guts and go with their instincts as well as learn to trust again.

The proud mother of baby Naila had crazy 2017 and most of it was based on her marriage, which abruptly came to an end.

It was rumoured that she was the cause of her marriage ending so fast.
It was reported that the cause of the marriage ending was because of infidelity. But she denied all the claims, and the cause of their split is still not known.
What are your thoughts on Sharon’s relationship advice?

‘GOD Be With You My Love, Shine On Your Way Till We Meet Again,’ Kenyan Woman Pens Teary Letter To Her Late Criminal Lover Who Was Gunned Down By Police

Every day, we wake up to sad stories about young men who have been killed by the police.

Most of them are wanted criminals and members of gangs terrorizing city residents and the most shocking this is that most of them are between the ages of  16 – 25 years.

But why do they engage in criminal acts instead of working hard to enjoy their sweat?

Is this happening due to poverty, lack of a father public figure in their lives, poor parenting or just that some of the youth nowadays like quick money and infamy?

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A Kenyan woman by the name Ivana Bridgit has decided to help these criminals change through her fiction stories and yesterday, she took to one of the Facebook pages which exposes notorious criminals to share this story.

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MY HUSBAND,

 

I HAD A DREAM THAT U WERE SHOT DEAD AND WHEN I WOKE UP I REALIZED IT WASN’T A DREAM.WE MET YEARS AGO YEAR I WAS STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL N IT WAS LOVE. I COULDN’T STAND TO SEE YOU HURT, NOW I HAVE TO SEE YOUR LIFELESS BODY AND I CAN’T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. LOOK AT YOU, YOU’RE STILL SO HANDSOME EVEN IN YOUR COFFIN I LOVE YOU.

 

I’M CRYING TEARS FOR YOU. PART OF ME HAS DIED WITH YOU. I CAN’T CELEBRATE BECAUSE NILITAKA UKUE APART OF MY LIFE. WHAT WILL I TELL OUR BABY? WHO WILL 

SHOW HIM THE RIGHT WAY? ULINIPROMISE KUCHANGE, SASA ONA BEB YOU SO STUBBORN. WHY BABIE WHY? HOW COULD YOU BE SO RECKLESS AND SELFISH? UKUFE UNIACHE. I’M ALL BY MYSELF NOW, WITH OUR BABY. WHY DID YOU DIE ON ME CHASING FAST MONEY MY LOVE. WHAT DID YOU DIE FOR?? WHO WILL DRY MY TEARS, WHO WILL PICK UP THE PIECES OF MY BROKEN HEART, WHO WILL SMILE FOR ME LIKE YOU USED TO, WHO WILL BE MY BESTFRIEND? BEB PLEASE WAKE UP NOW…COME BACK TO ME, TELL THEM YOU WEREN’T A BAD MAN YOU JUST HAVE YOUR WEAKNESSES, YOU HAVE A FAMILY. WAKE UP AND I SWEAR NOT TO COMPLAIN EVER AGAIN MY LOVE. Continue reading “‘GOD Be With You My Love, Shine On Your Way Till We Meet Again,’ Kenyan Woman Pens Teary Letter To Her Late Criminal Lover Who Was Gunned Down By Police”

‘Never Stop Loving Even After You’ve Been Heartbroken,’ Former Citizen Tv’s Anchor Kirigo Ngarua Advises Kenyan Women

It’s always a wish for every woman to get married and have a smooth relationship with their partners but in most cases, this doesn’t happen. Many women end up in abusive relationships and we have seen some divorce their husbands citing infidelity and others even battered.

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Many are heartbroken by their partners who promise to take care of them (during the exchange of vows at their weddings incase they are married legally) and end up committing suicide or doing something bad and former Citizen TV’s anchor Kirigo Ngarua has a message for such women who have been heartbroken.

 

“I opened up to him because I thought he was different from the rest. I shared my personal stories and secrets with him. He knew what my ex put me through and promised to never do the same. I told him how frightened I was to let someone new in, fear of getting my heart broken again, but he assured me he would protect my heart at all cost. I just couldn’t go through another heartbreak, knowing how long it took me to pick myself back up the last time. Eventually, he changed and ended up doing the exact same thing my ex did. Tore my heart out and stepped all over it like it was nothing. I just couldn’t understand how someone that claimed to love me could be so cruel and heartless… and now I’m stuck asking myself why, Kirigo shared this post on her social media accounts hoping that it would help heartbroken women and captioned;

“I came across this yesterday and felt the need to share it.Most ladies if not all of us have gone thru something like this. The lesson I learnt..never stop loving..you may have been broken before..but don’t stop loving..so ladies..what have you learned from such an experience??”

Woman lying on the ground with laptop on large broken heart, abandoned laptop behind her
Woman lying on the ground with laptop on large broken heart, abandoned laptop behind her

Kirigo Ngarua has been sharing messages about relationships of late and who knows? Maybe she is in love.

 

Divorce Dilemma: Is It A Duty To Stay Married?

Back in the day women were known to stay put in relationships even when things were not working out. A man would be violent, promiscuous, polygamous and his wife would not divorce him for the sake of her children and the Mrs title.

The modern day woman however, is a different cup of tea, divorce rates are skyrocketing because men and women are not ashamed to get separated or share parental responsibility. In article carried in one of the local dailies over the weekend, one woman who has been married for over 33-years confessed to staying with a man who wasn’t deserving because for her marriage is a duty.

During the morning conversation, Maina Kageni asked, “who is the wiser one here, our parents for sticking it out or the current generation for standing up to the men and divorcing if things are not going well?”

One woman called in saying marriage is a duty because of the stigmatisation single women face. The woman who says she is vying for a political office in 2017 is not yet married and feels that she needs to be married 1.for love and 2. for the sake of her elective post.

Is marriage still a duty in today’s modern day? Listen to the interesting discussion below