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Dear Men, What Would You Do If You Are Broke, In Love And Then Cheated On?

Posted on by Cynthia Misiki

An anonymous guy decided to reach out to a relationship expert to reveal something grievous and painful that his friend is going through.

“Please hide my name! I have a friend whose girlfriend is cheating on him because he has a job that does not pay well. She wants him to agree to her cheating because they don’t have enough income.”

  • Here is the response he got from Love Matters regarding this particular issue;

OUCH! OUCH! For everyone involved. Ouch for the guy being cheated on because he has no money. Ouch for the young woman who thinks that prostituting herself to support her and her boyfriend is a good idea. Ouch for you the friend who has front row and centre seat to this painful fiasco. Ouch!

We do such crazy things in the name of love and many of them are completely ‘unloving’. Cheating on your man because he cannot afford the standard of living that you desire is despicable. There are many rich men and this young woman should find one and leave your broke friend alone.

I actually don’t know what your question is… Perhaps you are wondering if you should get involved and share your opinion. People choose all manner of dynamics in relationships when they decide that they are in love.

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Some of these dynamics are humiliating and while we can bear to deal with them they keep our beloved in our lives, we would be humiliated and ashamed if other people knew about them.

Your friend is being hurt by his girlfriend’s infidelity and her reasons further emasculate him. Their relationship reminds him daily that if he were a ‘real and providing’ man, his woman would be faithful.

If you bring your opinions up in conversation, your friend will be forced to acknowledge his situation in front of you. This will humiliate him further and he will start to resent you and perhaps avoid you and call off your friendship.

When he gets tired of how this woman is treating him, or when he gets a better job, he will leave her. I recommend that you say nothing. He is already living in a special section of hell. Hopefully he will open his eyes to the truth soon.

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Myths About Money That Will Leave You Poor

Posted on by Lourraine Chituyi

There are myths about money that we should not listen to because they will ensure you stay broke for long. The moment we stopped believing these six myths about money will be the time when the road to financial freedom will start shaping up.

Debt can build wealth – Doesn’t it seem dumb that to build credit you first have to go into debt? Debt can be a tool if you’re a millionaire or a large billion-dollar corporation because the interest on the debt is tax-deductible. The wealthy are always looking for deductions. For the average person, however, debt can crush us. We start off with the intention paying off our balances and paying on loans, but life happens. Unplanned life situations affect your ability to pay the debt back, and the interest makes that debt continue to grow. Look at what’s happening with student loans. It’s estimated that it will take the average student 25 years to pay off their loans. Debt is not the path to wealth. Billionaire investor Warren Buffet said, “Those who understand interest earn it, those who don’t, pay it.”

I have time on my side – When you’re young, you think you can make mistakes and have plenty of time to make them up–especially financially. You think you can make more money or overcome poor choices. The problem is that none of us knows how long we’ll live. Time-related to money works in reverse. The sooner you start saving and investing; the better compound interest can work and grow what you have. The time to start handling your finances properly is right now.

Investing is for rich people – This is one of the most commonly spouted myths and one of the most destructive. If you wait until you’re “rich” to invest, you could be waiting forever. The reality is that with today’s access to information and technology, anyone can figure out how to invest. You can research anything related to investing and feel confident you know at least the basics.

I can’t afford to save – If you looked carefully at what you spend money on, you would find a few dollars that you can save. If you cut out things such as cable or fast food, you can save a little. A little bit over time adds up, and I’m not saying you have to give that stuff up forever. You’re making a short term sacrifice for a long term gain.

Money isn’t important – Money isn’t the only thing in life and not the most important, but it IS important to almost everything you want to do. You will need money to chase dreams, you will need money to survive, and you will need enough money to not let it stress you out. Money is one of the main reasons for life stress. Don’t chase it, but make enough to give you some breathing room and freedom.

It’s too late for me – It’s never too late to get control of your money. Take some time and think about your goals. Figure out the right investments and set yourself up towards making your money grow.

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Does money make you happy?

Posted on by Lourraine Chituyi

A research group, led by psychologist Kostadin Kushlev, looked into whether there is a relationship between money and  happiness.  They looked at  data for 12,291 people, paying attention to income and reported levels of happiness in the article ‘Higher Income Is Associated With Less Daily Sadness but not More Daily Happiness’.

They found that a higher income doesn’t affect how happy you are day to day. But wealthier people reported feeling sad less often. The group concluded that happiness and sadness are two separate states and money can help you manage unhappiness.

Money’s great for handling bad situations as they happen. Your car breaks down? You lose your job? Money means you can get by.

More than that though – if you have money you know that you don’t have to worry so much about bad things happening in the future. You have a safety net.

So surrounding yourself with bling and the trappings of wealth doesn’t make you happy – but having a cash safety net means you’re less stressed out about what might happen.