An anonymous guy decided to reach out to a relationship expert to reveal something grievous and painful that his friend is going through.
“Please hide my name! I have a friend whose girlfriend is cheating on him because he has a job that does not pay well. She wants him to agree to her cheating because they don’t have enough income.”
- Here is the response he got from Love Matters regarding this particular issue;
OUCH! OUCH! For everyone involved. Ouch for the guy being cheated on because he has no money. Ouch for the young woman who thinks that prostituting herself to support her and her boyfriend is a good idea. Ouch for you the friend who has front row and centre seat to this painful fiasco. Ouch!
We do such crazy things in the name of love and many of them are completely ‘unloving’. Cheating on your man because he cannot afford the standard of living that you desire is despicable. There are many rich men and this young woman should find one and leave your broke friend alone.
I actually don’t know what your question is… Perhaps you are wondering if you should get involved and share your opinion. People choose all manner of dynamics in relationships when they decide that they are in love.
Some of these dynamics are humiliating and while we can bear to deal with them they keep our beloved in our lives, we would be humiliated and ashamed if other people knew about them.
Your friend is being hurt by his girlfriend’s infidelity and her reasons further emasculate him. Their relationship reminds him daily that if he were a ‘real and providing’ man, his woman would be faithful.
If you bring your opinions up in conversation, your friend will be forced to acknowledge his situation in front of you. This will humiliate him further and he will start to resent you and perhaps avoid you and call off your friendship.
When he gets tired of how this woman is treating him, or when he gets a better job, he will leave her. I recommend that you say nothing. He is already living in a special section of hell. Hopefully he will open his eyes to the truth soon.