Woman named Marijuana Pepsi gets worldwide attention

 

A US woman has gone viral on the internet and it all has to do with her name.

She was named Marijuana Pepsi at birth and it’s a name that has haunted her her entire life.

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Marijuana Pepsi recently graduated with a PHD after studying unusual names.

Marijuana is 46, and recounted how she has been bullied for her unusual name.

Her siblings have such ordinary names, one wonders why her parents did this to her.

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She refused to change the unusual name in a bid to prove to herself and to others that overcoming obstacles is possible.

Now, the mother-of-one is officially Dr Marijuana Pepsi Vandyck after earning her PhD in higher education leadership from Cardinal Stritch University in Wisconsin last month.

Vandyck told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel that her mother Maggie Johnson picked out her name when she was born and declared it would take her around the world. She has two sisters whose named are Kimberly and Robin.

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Despite people criticizing her mother for the name choice, Vandyck says she credits her for helping her become the strong woman she is today.

‘I’ve grown into my name because I am a strong woman. I’ve had to be,’ she has said previously.

Vandyck, who left an unstable home when she was 15, graduated high school and went on to earn her college and master’s degree.

She vowed early on to earn her doctorate.

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City mum distressed after daughter writes chilling message about dad on Facebook

A city mum wept on Classic 105, after confessing to Maina Kageni the disturbing message her long lost daughter wrote on Facebook.

The woman, who gave up her two girls to her husband after their relationship ended, sobbed that she is in a catch 22 type of situation.

I got a baby when I was 17, in form Three. I got married to this man just because I had that baby. I didn’t know about contraceptives so in about a year again I got another one. This guy was really mistreating me i stayed for around eight years with the guy I was really frustrated He once threw me on the stairs (we used to live in Jericho) So I had to decide to to leave, He used to beat me infront of my kids so I had to leave.

She described how the girls were taken away more than ten years ago an has been desperately searching for them.

Right now it’s been over ten years I haven’t seen them and he refuses me to see the kids. I think he uses them as a way of balckmailing me 

She found one of the girls on Facebook and communication was swiftly ended after a disturbing message from the girl.

The mum described to Maina

As I’m talking to  you I’m crying. It is not that I don’t love my babies, but whatever that man took me through I was 17. In the ten years I’ve tried reaching out my elder daughter on Facebook and she told me ‘please don’t talk to me anymore because if dad finds out he is not going to pay my school fees. So I told her ‘ok I’m not gonna talk to you until you are ready.

The tearful mum admitted that since that encounter on Facebook, her daughter doesn’t talk to her but remains hopeful that the situation will one day change.

 

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Morning conversation: Mothers who deny fathers access to their children

A feature aired on KTN on Monday night called Breaking Bonds about Kenyan fathers denied access to their children by baby mama’s.

This formed the basis for the morning conversation on Classic 105 Tubonge Tuesday with Maina asking: By the time you have been denied access, what have you done?

Mothers who deny fathers access to children following a divorce or separation is a highly debated topic, often dividing Kenyans.

The Breaking Bonds feature was a harrowing thing to watch as the guys wept and said they way they don’t have money but can be there emotionally for their children.

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Why would a normal woman who used to worship the ground you walk on say you can’t see your children? If you have been excluded from your children call me and explain Maina urged male callers.

Many fathers called in to explain why they don’t see their children.

This man recounted

Most women force pregnancies then they dump you and get your money. They are rotten tot he core.

Zari washes her dirty kinen in public, accuses Diamond of being a deadbeat dad

Another said

Nowadays women have been turned out to be hunters. They are hunting us too much. 

Another said

“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned,” it’s just never okay for a woman to use a child against a man or vice versa.

Dear Classic 105 fam, what has been your experience in this issue? Do drop your comments below.

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‘It’s not what you think’  Njugush’s wife pleads with Kenyans

 

Njgush and his wife Celestine went to Dubai recently where they treated their fans to cute coupledom pictures.

The well deserved vacation according to the couple saw them come back home with some surprising news.

The couple are in Uganda and have unveiled they are expecting bby number two.

Celestine chuckled when sharing the news with Kenyans saying

Its not what you guys think. Work n play

In all honesty, we are happy for this beautiful couple, and blessing to them as they await the arrival of baby number two.

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Nameless Reveals His Parenting Secrets With Wahu On How They Raise Their Celebrity Kids

If you’re a Nameless fan, you know that he’s one of the best musicians that Kenya has ever produced in its history. The entertainer is also hubby to the gorgeous Wahu; they both are a power couple.

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They have two daughters by the names Tumiso and Nyakio. Just yesterday, a video surfaced of the two adorable kids singing along to Lady Leshurr, Queen Speech Ep 7.

It’s interesting to see what the two kids will go on to do, as most celebrity kids do what their parents do. Think of Willow Smith and Jaden Smith.

“I want them to pursue what they love and have a passion for. Whatever it will be,” Nameless tells me in an exclusive conversation.

Asking him about the relationship that he and Wahu have with the kids, Nameless had something special to say.

“It’s very interesting because you want to keep a close relationship so they don’t feel they need to hide anything from you but at the same time you have to make them respect you as a parent who knows what’s best for them. We are trying our best to prepare her for that vulnerable time,” he reveals.

‘Mwambie Aache Za Hizo!’ Nameless Is Left Pleading With Wahu Infront Of The Kids. Fans React

Nameless has recently been riding high with a string of releases, including “Inspire Me,” and “Oh My”, a patriotic song that has been receiving massive airplay.

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I Survived Being Aborted At 8 Month After A Nurse Heard My Cries – Woman Talks About Forgiving Her Mother

Weighing just 2Ib 14oz she lay hooked up to wires and tubes in a neonatal unit on August 29, 1977.

But there was no anxious parent nearby, lovingly holding her minuscule hand, desperately willing her to live.

Because Melissa Ohden’s mother had left the hospital in Iowa, believing the toxic saline solution she’d been given over a five-day period when she was eight months pregnant had aborted her child.

However the procedure had failed but Melissa’s mother had no idea her daughter had survived, against the odds, until 36 years later.

After Melissa learnt about her traumatic start in life, she spent nearly two decades searching for answers and would discover her guilt-ridden birth mother had not wanted to have the termination.

Melissa also learnt that she is alive today because a nurse heard her weak cries, slight movements and gasps for breath as she lay discarded as medical waste and rushed her to intensive care.

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And in a macabre twist, it emerged there was another nurse at the hospital who had instructed the others to ‘leave the baby in the room to die’.

Devastatingly, Melissa, who lives in Missouri, US, found out that that woman – one of the supervisors in charge that day – was in fact her own grandmother.

Here Melissa re-tells her astonishing journey exclusively to Mail Online and reveals how she learnt to forgive her mother and grandmother – who she has chosen not to name.

The circumstances around Melissa’s traumatic start in life took her decades to fully unravel.

Such a discovery would drive most people to become bitter and twisted. But Melissa – who was adopted by a loving family and reunited with her birth mother last year after a 17-year search – says she’s found it in her heart to forgive.

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‘I discovered that my birth mother, aged 19, had been forced into the abortion by her own mother, who was an educational nurse at the hospital,’ said the 40-year-old from Kansas City, Missouri, who has written a memoir about her life. She was heavily sedated and didn’t know that I had been born alive. It would be 30 odd years before she learned the truth. It’s been a long and painful journey from shame and anger to faith and forgiveness. But I refuse to be poisoned by bitterness – that’s no way to live.’

SALINE ABORTIONS

Terminations carried out using saline are a type of ‘instillation abortion’.

This is a method performed by injecting a solution into the uterus during late term pregnancies.

Chemical solutions used can be either saline, urea, or prostaglandin, delivered through the abdomen and into the amniotic sac. This induces contractions that expel the fetus.

Once common practice, abortion by intrauterine instillation has declined dramatically in recent years due to reports of serious adverse effects.

Intrauterine instillation (of all kinds) declined from 10.4% of all legal US abortions in 1972 to 0.1% by 2007.

The rate of mortality reported in the States from 1972-1981 was 9.6 per 100,000 for instillation methods. This is in comparison to rates of 4.9 per 100,000 for dilation and curettage.

Battle to live

The doctors who carried out the abortion at Saint Luke’s Hospital in Sioux City, Iowa, had estimated that Melissa’s mother, whose identity she has chosen to keep private, was about 20 weeks along.

But the fact that she had survived the saline infusion – a method largely no longer used in the US and UK because of its failure rate – led them to believe she was actually 31 weeks when induced.

Melissa suffered jaundice, respiratory distress and seizures. It was expected that even if she did survive she would have vision problems, hearing loss and developmental delays.

Three weeks later, she was transferred to the University Hospital in Iowa City. The nurses who cared for the nameless baby made her tiny clothes and colorful booties.

One, called Mary, decided she needed an identity and named her Katie Rose.

At three months old she left hospital and was taken in by Linda and Ron Ohden, a couple who had already adopted a girl called Tammy, four years older than Melissa.

For years, her adoptive parents and Mary kept in touch, exchanging Christmas cards and letters with pictures and updates on her progress. When Melissa got older, she wrote the letters herself.

‘Mary and I began a friendship that would last for decades,’ she explains. ‘It made me feel so special that this nurse cared for me when no one else did.’

Despite some early struggles, by age five Melissa had caught up developmentally and was given a clean bill of health.

The bombshell moment

Melissa and her sister had been told early on they were adopted by their parents, who had a natural son called Dustin when Melissa was six despite believing they couldn’t conceive.

‘Tammy and I fought like sisters typically do,’ said Melissa. ‘It was during one of these explosive arguments, when I was 14, that she blurted out, “At least my parents wanted me!”’

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Melissa says she always knew she was adopted – but it took decades to know the full truth of her start in life

‘I ran to my adoptive parents who eventually told me the devastating truth – that I had survived a botched abortion. They had never intended for me to know.

‘My world felt like it stopped spinning that night. I felt, angry, scared, ashamed and even guilty for being alive.’

Melissa then spent much of her teenage years ‘in great emotional pain’, developing bulimia and turning to sex and alcohol.

‘I was drinking heavily to numb the pain. But my parents never realized how much I was hurting because I was so good at hiding it.’

Desperate search for the truth

Melissa pulled herself together and headed off to the University of South Dakota to study political science.

She would later learn that her biological mother had attended there as well.

And astonishingly, her maternal grandmother – the very woman who orchestrated the abortion – was a professor at the university during the time Melissa was there.

‘I didn’t know this at the time of course, but I look back and wonder if we ever unwittingly crossed paths,’ said Melissa.

At 19, the desire to know more about her background eat away at her and she began her search to find her birth family.

There was little information on her adoption papers, so their identities were a mystery.

Coincidentally, she soon ended up moving to Sioux City, where the failed abortion had taken place, which gave her the chance to search local records.

She pored over phonebooks, newspapers on microfiche, and year books at the library, not knowing her birth mother’s name but looking for someone who looked like herself.

She also put an advert in the local newspaper appealing for anyone with information to come forward, but to no avail.

After years of futile hunting, Melissa came across a startling lead when she was 30.

‘I knew my maternal grandparents’ surname and where they had been employed, so that was a big piece of the puzzle,’ she said.

‘I was flicking through a nursing college year book when I came across a woman I suspected was my grandmother. I still didn’t know at this stage her full role in what happened.’

She sent them a letter, but only her grandfather wrote back.

‘He said my live birth was not the intention the day I was born. He also made it clear I wouldn’t find my birth mother through them because they were estranged from her.

‘It was evident their relationship with my mother was never the same after my birth. I couldn’t put my finger on it but I knew then something sinister had gone on.’

Finding her father

That same year, Melissa requested her medical records which gave her a breakthrough – the hospital administrators had forgotten to black out her parents’ names.

After discovering she was living in same city as her biological father, she reached out to him by letter.

‘I have every reason to believe he never knew I was born. I simply told him that I was alive, and that I wasn’t angry or bitter. But he never responded.’

Six months later she searched the internet for his name and discovered he had very recently died when she came across his obituary. She then made contact with his brother.

‘His family were aware of my existence, they had come across my letter to him when they were clearing out his office after his death.

‘They told me he once said “I have done something I’m so ashamed of but I can never say what”.

‘Knowing what I know now, I take that to mean that my mother was being forced to have an abortion and he did nothing to stop it.

‘Perhaps he felt too much shame to respond to me, I will never really know.’

Answers at last

Melissa OhdenMelissa gave up her hunt for a while. By then she was married to IT worker Ryan, now 42, with whom she has two daughters, Olivia, nine, and Ava, three. Her oldest was born at the same hospital where she survived the abortion.

Then, when she was 36, her biological mother’s cousin emailed her after learning she’d been in touch with the family.

She was told that her parents were college students – childhood sweethearts – who were engaged to be married when she was conceived.

‘My mother was athletic and as a result had always had irregular periods, so she didn’t realize she was pregnant until the third trimester,’ said Melissa.

‘I was told she didn’t want a termination, but my grandparents didn’t approve of the relationship between her and my father.

‘That was a huge shock, I’d spent so many years thinking my mother never wanted me.

‘My grandmother arranged for the saline abortion within days of finding out about the pregnancy. My heart ached for my mother for having gone through that.

‘I also discovered my mother’s sister visited her in the hospital during the five-day infusion and tried to get her out of there, but the staff said it was too late.’

Melissa wondered how she could be put up for adoption without her mother’s consent, and came to the conclusion her signature must have been forged.

A nurse who worked at the hospital when she was born told her about the staff member who saved her – and her grandmother’s disturbing attempts to deny her a chance of life.

‘I have never met the woman who took me to neonatal but she’s an angel, I owe her my life,’ said Melissa.

Emotional reunion

Finally, after 17 years of searching, the cousin put Melissa in touch with her mother.

‘I can’t even remember now who emailed who first, but I recall we were both so shocked,’ she explained.

‘My mother had no idea I was alive… can you imagine? We chatted for three years before we met. I think we were both scared of rejection.

‘Then I bit the bullet and suggested we meet. Her reply was enthusiastic.

‘When we finally met in May last year, I could see her in the distance getting nearer and part of me wanted to run away. It was scary.

‘Then we hugged and both cried. I said, “It’s been a long time”. She told me, “I was robbed of you”. Then it felt really natural.

‘She carries a lot of guilt and lives with many regrets but I told her I don’t blame her at all.

The book recounts her story of searching for her mother and their eventual re-uniting

The book recounts her story of searching for her mother and their eventual re-uniting

‘I have only forgiveness in my heart, for my father too and even for my grandmother.’

Melissa found out that her grandmother had passed away some years earlier.

She also discovered she has two half-sisters, one of whom she has met and the other she plans to see soon. She has seen her mother a few times since and is in regular contact.

After a career in social work, Melissa is now a motivational speaker as well as an author, and she founded the Abortion Survivors Network to support others in the same position.

‘I have been in touch with 223 abortion survivors, mainly from the US but from all over,’ she added. ‘It has devastated lives.

‘Through my Catholic faith I have learnt to forgive. It doesn’t make what happened okay, but it releases you from the pain. We are all human and we all make mistakes.’

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