Look what I found! Baby born holding mothers contraceptive

 

A baby born in Vietnam has amazed the world after he was photographed holding onto his mothers IUD.

The new born’s mother is a  34-year-old Vietnamese mom who was equaly surprised at the turn of events because she thought she was secure having used an IUD to protect against pregnancy.

According to VN Express, the coil came out at the same time as the baby, but separately. It was only after the baby was born that he grabbed onto it.

Doctors were also amused at the photos and shared through Hai Phong International Hospital social media. The Facebook pictures have gone viral, showing the baby with his eyes shut while holding the IUD.

After delivery, I thought him holding the device was interesting, so I took a picture. I never thought it would receive so much attention,” said obstetrician Tran Viet Phuong.

People were amused to read about the story and quickly responded with witty comments.

@7spicy_spices..
Rolling on the floor laughing Rolling on the floor laughing Rolling on the floor laughing Those sperms were fighters, hit the coil till it slipped
@MsTeryious..
“Look what I found, Mommy.”@Vegetablething..
Wait, what? The coil came out with the baby, at the same time?

@Balozi_1..
The IUD came out at the same time as the baby, but separately – it was only after being born that the infant grabbed the coil.

@LollyMkunqwana..
I’d be so pissed!

Girls, what scares you most about contraceptives?

Share your comments below.

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Celebrities who’ve spoken out about not wanting children

The truth is some women are just not interested in motherhood.  Not every woman with a uterus desires a baby and that is something that society will just have to wrap their heads around.

1. Oprah

She once said in an interview that “I never had children, never even thought I would have children. Now I have 152 daughters; expecting 75 more next year. That is some type of gestation period, the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy, 2007.

Kenyan celebrity couples who have children from previous relationships (photos)

2.Miley Cyrus

In an interview with ELLE US in July 2019, Miley admitted that current state of climate change has affected her stance on having children. “We’ve been doing the same thing to the earth that we do to women,” she said in the interview. “We just take and take and expect it to keep producing. And it’s exhausted. It can’t produce. We’re getting handed a piece-of-shit planet, and I refuse to hand that down to my child. Until I feel like my kid would live on an earth with fish in the water, I’m not bringing in another person to deal with that.”
3. Blackish actress Tracee Ellis Ross

She plays a mum of three in the reality show, but in real life things are different. She confessed her feelings in a Times interview in 2018 that

“I’m constantly asking myself questions, reminding myself, ‘Are you making that decision for you or someone else?’ The husband and the babies are the expectation of what’s supposed to happen at a certain point, and people fall back on, ‘Well, that’s the point of the human species, procreation.’ And I’m, like, ‘I think there are a lot of babies, isn’t that part of what’s going wrong, there’s too many?’ Some people could be working on the world being a better place, or just being happy.”

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4. Actress Jennifer Aniston

She divorced her second husband Justin Theroux, and has no children. The former Friends TV star said in the Today show in 2014 that

“I don’t have this sort of checklist of things that have to be done and if they’re not checked then I’ve failed some part of my feminism or my being a woman or my worth or my value as a woman… Y’know, I’ve birthed a lot of things. I feel like I’ve mothered many things. And I don’t think it’s fair to put that pressure on people.”

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‘Kenyan mothers let teen daughters dress inappropriately’  Man calls out parents

 

The fashion choices being embraced by female Kenyan teens was heavily debated on the Classic 105 morning conversation after one man castigated mothers for letting them dress provocatively.

He was of the opinion that Kenyan mothers never look at or question their daughters decision to wear some items,

‘What are we buying these girls? Are parents paying attention to what they buy? Their breasts and backsides are always displayed. How many times do you go to a club, see women only to find out later they are underage? 

He was also of the strong opinion that teen girls emulate how they mothers dress and behave towards men. So if a mother dresses provocatively, her daughter will pick up queues that she should also do the same.

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‘These girls physique is deceiving, they look older and even when they are with their moms, people ask if they are sisters’.

This thinking elicited mixed reaction from Classic 105 fans who either called in or tweeted tagging us online.

A caller said

Maina don’t blame it on the single mothers and the kids too because the moment you give them money hujui atarudi kama amenunua nini. What we can do as parents is, the minute your children turn to teenagers have a sit down and have that conversation.

Another listener added that

We live in generation where kids are in the club more often than in the church. This has nothing to do with the parents, its the society. We need to stand together as parents and figure a way forward.”

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@pytahalion..
Maina,blaming single mums achana na wao they are special. I have been brought up by a single mum and my three sisters are to the point. They are good and sijawai ata ona any of them akiwa amevaa hivo mnasema. Single moms lecture their girls and are caring to their kids

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@Totolakisii_1..
#Mainaandkingangi don’t blame kids let’s start from mother’s coz wao ndio ununua hizo nguo..
@FelixxAgolaa..

Maina we live in a world where every negativity is blamed on single mothers, some have raised up good kids who are good role models to upcoming generation but some are a disgrace though

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@pieremutongah27…

Parents are to blame here. They are soo busy doing nothing in social media themselves and by them giving kids smartphones, they want the kid to be occupied with it so as not to disturb them.

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List of celebrities brought up by strong single mothers

 

No one sets out to be a single mother, but along the way life throws us into this path either by divorce or the death of one spouse.

Here are celebs who have been brought up by single mothers and they are doing well for themselves.

1. Maina Kageni

Maina is among the most sought after and the best paid radio presenters in Kenya,

Apart from being talented and commandeering on radio, he is a trend setter and his love for the fine things in life is undeniable.

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But what would be life without a little fun? So the next time you want to say how men brought up by single mothers are lazy and mama’s boys just look at how successful Maina is and just zip it.

2. Otile Brown

His good looks aside, Otile has come so far in terms of his music and we hope he will not drown in all the female attention and forget where he has come from.

During his early days before the money and the fame, Otile had to sell changaa to make ends meet but he is now smiling all the way to the bank.

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In an earlier interview with Daily Nation, he opened up on how hard it was

“Appreciate and love your mama…feeling kinda emotional tonight.

Wish she could be here so I can spoil her, My mom died when I was about to turn 13.

I don’t like talking about it but I don’t shy away from speaking about it because I know it could motivate someone.

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Sometimes when I would get caught, the officers would frog march me past the school compound where other children would see me.

It was embarrassing i didn’t like doing it but I had to survive,” 

Even though his mum passed away, she would be proud of how her son has turned out.

3. Mike Mondo

His captivating voice on radio attracts women’s attention and it is undeniable that he is God’s gift to women.

Mike Mondo who runs a radio show on Classic 105 was brought up by a single mum after his dad passed away when he was only 13.

“My dad died when I was 13 years and today I am 36 years. However my mum did not get another man to call a husband. I had a conversation with her and asked her why she decided to live alone for all those years since my dad passed on.”

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The presenter posing

4. Diamond Platnumz

He is Tanzania’s finest. His music is not only celebrated in Tanzania but in Africa as a whole.

Born to Sandra Dangote, Diamond has made a name for himself as an artiste and as a business person despite being brought up by a single mother.

He  has collaborated with international artiste such as Neyo, Morgan Heritage and Omarion, he is a true definition of hard work.

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5. Boniface Mwangi

He is an activist-cum-politician brought up by a single mother.

Mwangi had earlier narrated how he got his then girlfriend pregnant, leading to him being thrown out of the church.

The main issue was that he was being brought about by a single mother who didn’t deem it fit to talk about s#x.

 I was brought up by a single mum and my eldest brother didn’t bother telling me what s3x was and its context.

The church told me you will discover what it is when it happens.

Unfortunately, the church didn’t see it fit to tell us that in case you found yourself tempted, you could use a condom.

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19 hilarious things Kenyan mum’s say to their children

She is a phenomenal black mum, but sometimes her children get under her skin.

Kenyans on Twitter are sharing some hilarious but truthful responses they get from Kenyan mum’s whenever they ask something.

The responses are so quirky and creative it will have you nodding your head.

You know you have a Kenyan mum when she says this:

1. @muitunguvincent..
Me : Sitaki kuoga saa hii nacheza

Mum : mimi usiniletee aibu kwa nyumba yangu

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2. @Nivlake..
Ukieka vijiko mbili za shuge kwa cup… Mwaga Ata yote kwa kikombe si babako ndo manager wa Mumias sugar. 😂

3. @themalvin99..
Brings a friend with dreadlocks home

Mum: endelea tu kuonyesha wakora mkona tv. 😂😂

mummys boy
4 . @JemimahOdambe..
Eeeh kuleni yote nikama dunia inaisha usiku wa Leo na kesho mtataka kunikula

5. @OkumuKenleo..
Ever heard of “….. Kuna wakati mtanitafuta mnikose!” saa hyo umesahau tu kutoa sahani kwa meza.

6. @jaternreteeks..
Vunja vikombe vyote kwa hii nyumba,mkimaliza mnivunje roho Kama baba yenyu.😆

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7. @ayshaj00..
Unajigonga kwa meza unalia

Mum: Kati ya wewe na meza ni nani ako na macho?

8. @mcjoker6..
*starts crying after a beating*

Mum: acha tulete mitungi ujaze machozi ata hakuna maji

9. @KuleiJuan..
Mum:umekula sukari sindio eeeh
Me:hapana mum
Mum: aaah hebu fungua mdomo ng’ombe hii

two mums
10. @harrisonthuo..
Me: (breaking cups)

Mum: Vunja tu hizo vikombe, nazihesabu, nitazikujia tu ukianza kufanya kazi!

11. @Ami92689210..
Me: naumwa tumbo mum
Mum: nashindanga nikikwambia utoke kwa hio simu ona sasa
🤨🙄

12. @MikeyMzito..
Me: Mum mimi siendi na hizi nguo,hazikai poa

Mum: kwani unaenda kuolewa,utavaa hizo 😅

Single Mother Getting Kids Ready in the Morning.
Single Mother Getting Kids Ready in the Morning.

13. @ShyzloMike..
mum: sends me to look for something in the house
Me: shouting in the house ( mum sijaiona)
mum : wewe unaweza pata kitu kweli ukitumwa😓😓🤐🤐 na saa hiyo ndio anakishow place ameiweka😥😥😂

14. @justine_osiemo..
A spoon falls kwa floor

Mum:chukueni ata zile ziko kabati pasua yote si mama yenu anachuna pesa Kama matawi.
15. @KaiwaNzomo..
me: drops a spoon

mum:acha nikutolee vyombo zote kwa kabati uzimalize juu hivo utakua umenimaliza pia😂😂😂

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16. @RSpartaz..
Ukiangusha glass accidentally:
Mum: chukua nyundo umalizie zenye umebakisha

17. @Its_WambuiG..
When you leave the door open.
Mum: unawacha mlango hivo kwani uko na mkia utafinya ukifunga?

18. @Rosal_awake9..
Ukiangusha vikombe na zivunjike anaanza
Mom:Vunjeni kabisa alafu mkuje mnivunje roho kama baba yenu😂

19. @WangetheP..
Me: tupike nini leo
Mum: kuna sufuria nimebeba ama? Mnaeza nikatakata mnikule 🙄

 

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Tanasha proves her son was born on Diamond’s birthday (Documents inside)

Tanasha Donna has come out to speak out about the rumours that she and Diamond made up the fact that her son was born on her baby daddy’s birthday.

The mother of one came out with receipts to prove that her son’s story indeed started on the same day as his father, something I must admit I wasn’t fully convinced about too.

Diamond holding his son
Diamond holding his son

The scenarios were two; Either Tanasha purposefully got induced on Diamond’s birthday or she gave birth earlier and faked her delivery date. After growing tired of the constant attacks, the beauty went on Instagram and cleared things up.

She wrote, ‘What kind of mother would I be to let my son celebrate a false birthday each year? I would be a foolish mother to do that. Aga Khan would never post a fake birthday because it would be very easy to sue them.’

Miss Donna shortly before she gave birth
Miss Donna shortly before she gave birth

She said that it would be impossible for a respected hospital to play around with birth dates because that makes them liable for a lawsuit.

Tanasha Donna showing off the documents
Tanasha Donna showing off the documents. Courtesy/Urbannews254

To back up her version of the truth, the beauty said nurses and doctors are willing to confirm that she actually delivered on Diamond’s birthday.

Iron board! Tanasha shows off her tummy one week after giving birth

Initially, the plan was to stay quiet and avoid making a fuss of the allegations but like any human, Tanasha said she had to tell her truth. The gorgeous mum left the internet in shock when she announced her son’s arrival.

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Rayvannys wife’s sweet message to new parents Tanasha and Diamond

 

Could Diamond and Tanasha accept that the news of the birth of their son has been let out of the bag and announce it already!!!

Diamond and Tanasha are keeping the exciting information close to their hearts, but friends won’t let them be great.

WCB’s Rayvanny and his wife were among guests during the baby gender reveal party and so have information that may relate to the birth of the boy.

Rayvannys wife Fahyvanny has joined the world in congratulating the couple for welcoming the newborn.

This has probably been the most anticipated baby ever and showing their love for the new addition to the Dangote clan, she wrote

Congratulations my ❤️ 🙏🙏 @tanashadonna May God blesse you & your new baby boy

 


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Congratulations my ❤️ 🙏🙏 @tanashadonna May God blesse you & your new baby boy

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Other celebrities who have taken the decision to keep the birth of their baby a secret are Gospel singer Kambua who upto now has yet to say anything, two months after delivering her bundle of joy.

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Another One: Dj Khaled announces he and wife Nicole expecting second child

 

Dj Khaled and his wife are expecting baby number two pretty soon.

Khaled announced on Thursday night (Sept. 12) that they are expecting a baby boy.

“Just when I thought life couldn’t get any better, I received another blessing that my queen is expecting an addition to our legacy,” the Miami-based DJ wrote to Instagram. “I’m feeling more inspired than ever now. As we go into this journey I’m taking FANLUV along with me to keep the love and blessings flowing to the world!”

Dj Khaled is popular for his catchy phrase #anotherone, which is trending on social media, as fans and friends write the couple congratulatory messages.

“Almost 3 years ago, when I found out my queen was expecting our son, Asahd, I knew my life would change forever and that OUR legacy would soon be on the way,” the We the Best mogul continued. “After that blessing I released some of my biggest albums to date [Grateful and Father of Asahd] inspired by his greatness.”

Congrats to Khaled and Nicole. See his announcement below.


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God is the greatest. All I ever wanted to do was inspire the world to be great and to leave a legacy. Almost 3 years ago when I found out my queen was expecting our son Asahd I knew my life would change forever and that OUR legacy would soon be on the way. After that blessing I released some of my biggest albums to date (Grateful and Father Of Asahd) inspired by his greatness. Just when I thought life couldn’t get any better, I received another blessing that my queen is expecting an addition to our legacy. I’m feeling more inspired than ever now. As we go into this journey I’m taking FANLUV along with me to keep the love and blessings flowing to the world ! #FAMILY God is the greatest. MAMA ASAHD ,ASAHD WE GOT ANOTHER ONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ALLAH I LOVE YOU SO MUCH !!!!! 🙏🏽🤲🏽🙏🏽🦁🦁🤰😀❤️🎉 MY QUEEN I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ! ASAHD I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ! And to the little boy in my QUEEN’S BELLY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ! #WETHEBEST !

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Mejja shares hilariously relatable tale about his mother

I have the utmost respect for mothers.

And the same goes for rapper Mejja, who let us in on a secret about his dear mother.

While sharing a beautiful picture of her, Mejja revealed he was a victim of canning at home. Kids of today will never know what a horror it was when mum or dad spanked a child for misbehaving.

The perils of being beaten continue to live with Mejja as he wrote about it saying

My Mum Khadija!!!! LaKiNi Haribu Kitambaa UtaJua UJui Kichapo Galore Lol😂😂😂😂But I Love Her Hiyo Kichapo Ndio Imefanya Niwe Mimi!!!!

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So many of us live with memories of not sitting on dad’s chair, or having to put up with plastic covers on the seas all to keep off dirt. Anyway that’s all in the past as Mejja indicated. She raised a champion.

The Genge rapper has been showing off his new girlfriend after being dumped by his wife via text message.

The father of one in an interview with Word Is confessed he was depressed and started feeling suicidal following her exit from their marital home.

“We had not disagreed, actually we were so happy. I was in Thika and I got her message asking me if I had arrived well. I told her yes and the next thing she told me was ‘Move on with your life’,” he said.

“The next time I called her, she neither received nor returned my calls.”

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We are happy he has found love again, and wish him the best.

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Eldoret woman pours boiling water on step sons thighs

A woman is likely to be charged in connection to a minor taken to the hospital with first degree burns.

Eldoret police say the woman is accused of throwing hot water on a 7-year-old boy after an undisclosed matter.

A manhunt is underway for the woman after burning her step child with hot water on his thighs.

Kapseret OCPD Francis Warui says the woman went into hiding after the incident and the 7 year old boy was rescued from their house.

The minor was rushed to the Moi Referral Hospital for medical attention for the burn.

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He says cases of abuses against children are on the rise in the region.

Elsewhere, A police officer attached to Moiben Polices station in Uasin Gishu
County shot himself dead last night at the police station.

The 35 year old office identified as Jairus Kiprotich turned his gun
on himself as he was returning home from night duty.

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Moiben OCPD Jamleck Ngaruiya said the officer had three month ago
lostg his wife and had just resumed duty adding that they are
investigating the incident.

Samwel Karanei who is father to the deceased said the officer appeared
frustrated with problems which he did not disclose to anyone.

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Saumu Mbuvi fights back at accusations of bad parenting

Mike Sonko’s daughter Saumu is at ‘war’ with a section of women she has termed as haters on social media.

Saumu, who is currently dating Lamu Senator Anwar Loitiptip, shared a photo of them together with her daughter and they looked perfect.

Saumu Mbuvi

She captioned the above pic

CALL IT A CLAN, CALL IT A NETWORK, CALL IT A TRIBE, CALL IT A FAMILY: WHATEVER YOU CALL IT, WHOEVER YOU ARE, YOU NEED ONE..YET IT IS NOT DEFINED BY OUR GENES BUT IT IS BUILT AND MAINTAINED THROUGH LOVE AND RESPECT 🙏🏽❤️#BLESSED

One of Saumu’s followers commented on her post, lecturing her on how to ‘raise’ her daughter with businessman Ben Gatu.

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Saumu Mbuvi and her lover Lamu senator Anwar

The follower identified as Ma Kasaine wrote,

CHUNGA SANA HUYO MTOTO. DON’T KEEP INTRODUCING DIFFERENT MEN IN YOUR LIFE, IT’S NOT GOOD FOR HER.

 

This didn’t go down well with the governor’s daughter and she came out guns blazing. She told off the lady

@MA_KASAINE WITH YOUR AGE …MAISHA YANGU INAKUASHIA NINI..WEWE LEA WAKO UTAKAVYO…THIS LIFE DIDN’T COME WITH A MANUAL!! LET’S SEE HOW YOUR DAUGHTER WILL TURN OUT!!! ARE YOU GOD TO JUDGE,’ SHE RESPONDED.

Adding,

PELEKA MENOPAUSE POLEPOLE. NEXT TIME U WANT TO SPREAD YOUR NEGATIVITY KEEP TO YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY NOT PEOPLES KIDS!!.

Mike Sonko's daughter Mike Sonko's daughter

Saumu’s distasteful comments saw her trend on social media pages and she savagely attacked women.

WAMAMA WA CHIT CHAT WATAFUTIWE KAZI YA KUFUA NGUO WAACHANE NA MAISHA YA WATU. IF YOU KNOW THEM TAG THEM ALL! MENOPAUSE IWAPELEKE POLEPOLE JAMENI. DEAR GOD PLEASE KEEP THESE WOMEN BUSY WE ARE TIRED OF THEM. BLESS THEIR POCKETS SO THEY CAN FIND BETTER THINGS TO DO WITH THEIR LIVES.

She shared another post holding a few dollars with a caption that read,

HOW I READ THEIR COMMENTS.

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She later pulled down the posts and shared another one, which read,

HE WHO MUST DESTROY OTHERS TO SUCCEED MUST KNOW THAT DESTRUCTION AWAITS HIM AT THE GATE OF HIS SUCCESS.

The mother of one then shared a message to critics, talking about her past life experiences, that have toughened her.

WHILE THEY ARE WAITING FOR HER DOWNFALL, WHAT THEY DON’T KNOW IS SHE HAS ALREADY STUMBLED, FELL AND GOT BACK UP!! NO TURNING BACK.

 

Saumu’s remarks comes barely a week after her father was criticized for attacking Suba MP Millie Odhiambo for being childless.

…JUST THE WAY YOU HAVE OPENED YOUR MOUTH WIDE IN THIS PICTURE, I AM LONGING FOR THE DAY YOU SHALL OPEN WIDE YOUR LEGS TO GIVE BIRTH TO A CHILD SO THAT YOU EXPERIENCE THE PAIN THAT THE MOTHERS I AM DEFENDING GO THROUGH. YOU MUST RESPECT THOSE SINGLE MOTHERS WHO STRUGGLE WITH THEIR KIDS AS MEN GO MISSING.

 

Tips: Consider these 10 alternative discipline strategies for your child

What’s the best way to discipline your child?

Is it according to age, the act committed? Is it a thorough whooping?

This is something that many are struggling with today.

Tokeo la picha la best ways of punishing your kids

Some of the best ways include;

Reward good behavior

When you punish something wrong, always remember to reward them once they do something good. This will actually motivate them to be improving on a daily basis to be rewarded.

Silence

At times as a parent you can be upset in such a way that you utter hurting words to the child. Silence is at times necessary to avoid such incidents like the child running away from home or hating on you. Talk to them when your temper is controlled.

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Have a conversation with the child

Spend most of the time with the child. This will actually help you to know your child better and learn their weaknesses. Talking to them can actually be the best way of them to change their bad behaviors.

Create rules and boundaries

Always have rules and boundaries for them such that if they cross them, they are aware of the consequences.

Deny them some freedom

At times you can give a child much freedom which becomes their excuse to mess up some more. The best way to deal with this is either to limit it or deny them the freedom completely.

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Send away

Sending to visit grandma always works. Once you send them there, they will behave much better the next time to avoid being sent back their. This is because they will miss a lot of luxury especially if they live at the city.

Life examples

Give them life examples of people who have mad it in life and those that have failed. If you child for example steals something, give the examples of people who did it and the consequences they faced.

Giving advice

You should always ensure that you have a close relationship with your child. Never be a source of stress to them whenever you are with them. This will make them confide in you at anything hence it will be easier for you to know which area to give them advice on.

Children who use smartphones for long are likely to develop ADHD – Study

Ban them from what they like

Most of the kids love watching animations and cartoons especially at the younger age. Ban them from watching their best channels for some time till their behavior changes.

Guidance and counselling

At times yelling and canning is not the solution as the child may not change. At times it may be something that deals with their minds and emotions. You can take them for guidance and counselling so that they may share their problems.

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Woman named Marijuana Pepsi gets worldwide attention

 

A US woman has gone viral on the internet and it all has to do with her name.

She was named Marijuana Pepsi at birth and it’s a name that has haunted her her entire life.

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Marijuana Pepsi recently graduated with a PHD after studying unusual names.

Marijuana is 46, and recounted how she has been bullied for her unusual name.

Her siblings have such ordinary names, one wonders why her parents did this to her.

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She refused to change the unusual name in a bid to prove to herself and to others that overcoming obstacles is possible.

Now, the mother-of-one is officially Dr Marijuana Pepsi Vandyck after earning her PhD in higher education leadership from Cardinal Stritch University in Wisconsin last month.

Vandyck told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel that her mother Maggie Johnson picked out her name when she was born and declared it would take her around the world. She has two sisters whose named are Kimberly and Robin.

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Despite people criticizing her mother for the name choice, Vandyck says she credits her for helping her become the strong woman she is today.

‘I’ve grown into my name because I am a strong woman. I’ve had to be,’ she has said previously.

Vandyck, who left an unstable home when she was 15, graduated high school and went on to earn her college and master’s degree.

She vowed early on to earn her doctorate.

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City mum distressed after daughter writes chilling message about dad on Facebook

A city mum wept on Classic 105, after confessing to Maina Kageni the disturbing message her long lost daughter wrote on Facebook.

The woman, who gave up her two girls to her husband after their relationship ended, sobbed that she is in a catch 22 type of situation.

I got a baby when I was 17, in form Three. I got married to this man just because I had that baby. I didn’t know about contraceptives so in about a year again I got another one. This guy was really mistreating me i stayed for around eight years with the guy I was really frustrated He once threw me on the stairs (we used to live in Jericho) So I had to decide to to leave, He used to beat me infront of my kids so I had to leave.

She described how the girls were taken away more than ten years ago an has been desperately searching for them.

Right now it’s been over ten years I haven’t seen them and he refuses me to see the kids. I think he uses them as a way of balckmailing me 

She found one of the girls on Facebook and communication was swiftly ended after a disturbing message from the girl.

The mum described to Maina

As I’m talking to  you I’m crying. It is not that I don’t love my babies, but whatever that man took me through I was 17. In the ten years I’ve tried reaching out my elder daughter on Facebook and she told me ‘please don’t talk to me anymore because if dad finds out he is not going to pay my school fees. So I told her ‘ok I’m not gonna talk to you until you are ready.

The tearful mum admitted that since that encounter on Facebook, her daughter doesn’t talk to her but remains hopeful that the situation will one day change.

 

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Morning conversation: Mothers who deny fathers access to their children

A feature aired on KTN on Monday night called Breaking Bonds about Kenyan fathers denied access to their children by baby mama’s.

This formed the basis for the morning conversation on Classic 105 Tubonge Tuesday with Maina asking: By the time you have been denied access, what have you done?

Mothers who deny fathers access to children following a divorce or separation is a highly debated topic, often dividing Kenyans.

The Breaking Bonds feature was a harrowing thing to watch as the guys wept and said they way they don’t have money but can be there emotionally for their children.

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Why would a normal woman who used to worship the ground you walk on say you can’t see your children? If you have been excluded from your children call me and explain Maina urged male callers.

Many fathers called in to explain why they don’t see their children.

This man recounted

Most women force pregnancies then they dump you and get your money. They are rotten tot he core.

Zari washes her dirty kinen in public, accuses Diamond of being a deadbeat dad

Another said

Nowadays women have been turned out to be hunters. They are hunting us too much. 

Another said

“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned,” it’s just never okay for a woman to use a child against a man or vice versa.

Dear Classic 105 fam, what has been your experience in this issue? Do drop your comments below.

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‘It’s not what you think’  Njugush’s wife pleads with Kenyans

 

Njgush and his wife Celestine went to Dubai recently where they treated their fans to cute coupledom pictures.

The well deserved vacation according to the couple saw them come back home with some surprising news.

The couple are in Uganda and have unveiled they are expecting bby number two.

Celestine chuckled when sharing the news with Kenyans saying

Its not what you guys think. Work n play

In all honesty, we are happy for this beautiful couple, and blessing to them as they await the arrival of baby number two.

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Nameless Reveals His Parenting Secrets With Wahu On How They Raise Their Celebrity Kids

If you’re a Nameless fan, you know that he’s one of the best musicians that Kenya has ever produced in its history. The entertainer is also hubby to the gorgeous Wahu; they both are a power couple.

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They have two daughters by the names Tumiso and Nyakio. Just yesterday, a video surfaced of the two adorable kids singing along to Lady Leshurr, Queen Speech Ep 7.

It’s interesting to see what the two kids will go on to do, as most celebrity kids do what their parents do. Think of Willow Smith and Jaden Smith.

“I want them to pursue what they love and have a passion for. Whatever it will be,” Nameless tells me in an exclusive conversation.

Asking him about the relationship that he and Wahu have with the kids, Nameless had something special to say.

“It’s very interesting because you want to keep a close relationship so they don’t feel they need to hide anything from you but at the same time you have to make them respect you as a parent who knows what’s best for them. We are trying our best to prepare her for that vulnerable time,” he reveals.

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Nameless has recently been riding high with a string of releases, including “Inspire Me,” and “Oh My”, a patriotic song that has been receiving massive airplay.

Listen to the groovy song with a powerful message today:

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I Survived Being Aborted At 8 Month After A Nurse Heard My Cries – Woman Talks About Forgiving Her Mother

Weighing just 2Ib 14oz she lay hooked up to wires and tubes in a neonatal unit on August 29, 1977.

But there was no anxious parent nearby, lovingly holding her minuscule hand, desperately willing her to live.

Because Melissa Ohden’s mother had left the hospital in Iowa, believing the toxic saline solution she’d been given over a five-day period when she was eight months pregnant had aborted her child.

However the procedure had failed but Melissa’s mother had no idea her daughter had survived, against the odds, until 36 years later.

After Melissa learnt about her traumatic start in life, she spent nearly two decades searching for answers and would discover her guilt-ridden birth mother had not wanted to have the termination.

Melissa also learnt that she is alive today because a nurse heard her weak cries, slight movements and gasps for breath as she lay discarded as medical waste and rushed her to intensive care.

Melissa Ohden

And in a macabre twist, it emerged there was another nurse at the hospital who had instructed the others to ‘leave the baby in the room to die’.

Devastatingly, Melissa, who lives in Missouri, US, found out that that woman – one of the supervisors in charge that day – was in fact her own grandmother.

Here Melissa re-tells her astonishing journey exclusively to Mail Online and reveals how she learnt to forgive her mother and grandmother – who she has chosen not to name.

The circumstances around Melissa’s traumatic start in life took her decades to fully unravel.

Such a discovery would drive most people to become bitter and twisted. But Melissa – who was adopted by a loving family and reunited with her birth mother last year after a 17-year search – says she’s found it in her heart to forgive.

Melissa Ohden

‘I discovered that my birth mother, aged 19, had been forced into the abortion by her own mother, who was an educational nurse at the hospital,’ said the 40-year-old from Kansas City, Missouri, who has written a memoir about her life. She was heavily sedated and didn’t know that I had been born alive. It would be 30 odd years before she learned the truth. It’s been a long and painful journey from shame and anger to faith and forgiveness. But I refuse to be poisoned by bitterness – that’s no way to live.’

SALINE ABORTIONS

Terminations carried out using saline are a type of ‘instillation abortion’.

This is a method performed by injecting a solution into the uterus during late term pregnancies.

Chemical solutions used can be either saline, urea, or prostaglandin, delivered through the abdomen and into the amniotic sac. This induces contractions that expel the fetus.

Once common practice, abortion by intrauterine instillation has declined dramatically in recent years due to reports of serious adverse effects.

Intrauterine instillation (of all kinds) declined from 10.4% of all legal US abortions in 1972 to 0.1% by 2007.

The rate of mortality reported in the States from 1972-1981 was 9.6 per 100,000 for instillation methods. This is in comparison to rates of 4.9 per 100,000 for dilation and curettage.

Battle to live

The doctors who carried out the abortion at Saint Luke’s Hospital in Sioux City, Iowa, had estimated that Melissa’s mother, whose identity she has chosen to keep private, was about 20 weeks along.

But the fact that she had survived the saline infusion – a method largely no longer used in the US and UK because of its failure rate – led them to believe she was actually 31 weeks when induced.

Melissa suffered jaundice, respiratory distress and seizures. It was expected that even if she did survive she would have vision problems, hearing loss and developmental delays.

Three weeks later, she was transferred to the University Hospital in Iowa City. The nurses who cared for the nameless baby made her tiny clothes and colorful booties.

One, called Mary, decided she needed an identity and named her Katie Rose.

At three months old she left hospital and was taken in by Linda and Ron Ohden, a couple who had already adopted a girl called Tammy, four years older than Melissa.

For years, her adoptive parents and Mary kept in touch, exchanging Christmas cards and letters with pictures and updates on her progress. When Melissa got older, she wrote the letters herself.

‘Mary and I began a friendship that would last for decades,’ she explains. ‘It made me feel so special that this nurse cared for me when no one else did.’

Despite some early struggles, by age five Melissa had caught up developmentally and was given a clean bill of health.

The bombshell moment

Melissa and her sister had been told early on they were adopted by their parents, who had a natural son called Dustin when Melissa was six despite believing they couldn’t conceive.

‘Tammy and I fought like sisters typically do,’ said Melissa. ‘It was during one of these explosive arguments, when I was 14, that she blurted out, “At least my parents wanted me!”’

 Melissa Ohden

Melissa says she always knew she was adopted – but it took decades to know the full truth of her start in life

‘I ran to my adoptive parents who eventually told me the devastating truth – that I had survived a botched abortion. They had never intended for me to know.

‘My world felt like it stopped spinning that night. I felt, angry, scared, ashamed and even guilty for being alive.’

Melissa then spent much of her teenage years ‘in great emotional pain’, developing bulimia and turning to sex and alcohol.

‘I was drinking heavily to numb the pain. But my parents never realized how much I was hurting because I was so good at hiding it.’

Desperate search for the truth

Melissa pulled herself together and headed off to the University of South Dakota to study political science.

She would later learn that her biological mother had attended there as well.

And astonishingly, her maternal grandmother – the very woman who orchestrated the abortion – was a professor at the university during the time Melissa was there.

‘I didn’t know this at the time of course, but I look back and wonder if we ever unwittingly crossed paths,’ said Melissa.

At 19, the desire to know more about her background eat away at her and she began her search to find her birth family.

There was little information on her adoption papers, so their identities were a mystery.

Coincidentally, she soon ended up moving to Sioux City, where the failed abortion had taken place, which gave her the chance to search local records.

She pored over phonebooks, newspapers on microfiche, and year books at the library, not knowing her birth mother’s name but looking for someone who looked like herself.

She also put an advert in the local newspaper appealing for anyone with information to come forward, but to no avail.

After years of futile hunting, Melissa came across a startling lead when she was 30.

‘I knew my maternal grandparents’ surname and where they had been employed, so that was a big piece of the puzzle,’ she said.

‘I was flicking through a nursing college year book when I came across a woman I suspected was my grandmother. I still didn’t know at this stage her full role in what happened.’

She sent them a letter, but only her grandfather wrote back.

‘He said my live birth was not the intention the day I was born. He also made it clear I wouldn’t find my birth mother through them because they were estranged from her.

‘It was evident their relationship with my mother was never the same after my birth. I couldn’t put my finger on it but I knew then something sinister had gone on.’

Finding her father

That same year, Melissa requested her medical records which gave her a breakthrough – the hospital administrators had forgotten to black out her parents’ names.

After discovering she was living in same city as her biological father, she reached out to him by letter.

‘I have every reason to believe he never knew I was born. I simply told him that I was alive, and that I wasn’t angry or bitter. But he never responded.’

Six months later she searched the internet for his name and discovered he had very recently died when she came across his obituary. She then made contact with his brother.

‘His family were aware of my existence, they had come across my letter to him when they were clearing out his office after his death.

‘They told me he once said “I have done something I’m so ashamed of but I can never say what”.

‘Knowing what I know now, I take that to mean that my mother was being forced to have an abortion and he did nothing to stop it.

‘Perhaps he felt too much shame to respond to me, I will never really know.’

Answers at last

Melissa OhdenMelissa gave up her hunt for a while. By then she was married to IT worker Ryan, now 42, with whom she has two daughters, Olivia, nine, and Ava, three. Her oldest was born at the same hospital where she survived the abortion.

Then, when she was 36, her biological mother’s cousin emailed her after learning she’d been in touch with the family.

She was told that her parents were college students – childhood sweethearts – who were engaged to be married when she was conceived.

‘My mother was athletic and as a result had always had irregular periods, so she didn’t realize she was pregnant until the third trimester,’ said Melissa.

‘I was told she didn’t want a termination, but my grandparents didn’t approve of the relationship between her and my father.

‘That was a huge shock, I’d spent so many years thinking my mother never wanted me.

‘My grandmother arranged for the saline abortion within days of finding out about the pregnancy. My heart ached for my mother for having gone through that.

‘I also discovered my mother’s sister visited her in the hospital during the five-day infusion and tried to get her out of there, but the staff said it was too late.’

Melissa wondered how she could be put up for adoption without her mother’s consent, and came to the conclusion her signature must have been forged.

A nurse who worked at the hospital when she was born told her about the staff member who saved her – and her grandmother’s disturbing attempts to deny her a chance of life.

‘I have never met the woman who took me to neonatal but she’s an angel, I owe her my life,’ said Melissa.

Emotional reunion

Finally, after 17 years of searching, the cousin put Melissa in touch with her mother.

‘I can’t even remember now who emailed who first, but I recall we were both so shocked,’ she explained.

‘My mother had no idea I was alive… can you imagine? We chatted for three years before we met. I think we were both scared of rejection.

‘Then I bit the bullet and suggested we meet. Her reply was enthusiastic.

‘When we finally met in May last year, I could see her in the distance getting nearer and part of me wanted to run away. It was scary.

‘Then we hugged and both cried. I said, “It’s been a long time”. She told me, “I was robbed of you”. Then it felt really natural.

‘She carries a lot of guilt and lives with many regrets but I told her I don’t blame her at all.

The book recounts her story of searching for her mother and their eventual re-uniting

The book recounts her story of searching for her mother and their eventual re-uniting

‘I have only forgiveness in my heart, for my father too and even for my grandmother.’

Melissa found out that her grandmother had passed away some years earlier.

She also discovered she has two half-sisters, one of whom she has met and the other she plans to see soon. She has seen her mother a few times since and is in regular contact.

After a career in social work, Melissa is now a motivational speaker as well as an author, and she founded the Abortion Survivors Network to support others in the same position.

‘I have been in touch with 223 abortion survivors, mainly from the US but from all over,’ she added. ‘It has devastated lives.

‘Through my Catholic faith I have learnt to forgive. It doesn’t make what happened okay, but it releases you from the pain. We are all human and we all make mistakes.’

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