How To Deal With A Painful Breakup

When you are heartbroken you ask yourself so many questions and most of the time you have no answers.

Instead of dwelling on the past and wondering what you should have done better, try to move forward. No one said it was going to be easy, but you will not help yourself by beating yourself up over it.

Here are some ways to get over the pain:

Acceptance: The first thing to do is accept the experience. Things did not turn out the way you had hoped or expected.  Now, you are extremely hurt. Don’t deny yourself the opportunity to accept what has happened. Not facing the heartbreak, not facing what you are currently going through will delay the healing process and could cause more emotional pain.

Release Emotions: Everyone has different ways of dealing with heartbreak. Instead of turning to something that is unhealthy and self-destructive, release your feelings. Expect a range and varying degree of emotions. Take time out to mourn the loss of love in your life.

Reach Out: When ready, reach out to loved ones and friends who you can confide in. Others around you may have experienced a similar situation. Be around people who make you laugh and can give good advice to help you back on your feet.

Prayer: Some might not realize it, but when we experience heartbreak, it can cause a blow to our spiritual life. Our faith in love and others can be rocked by this ordeal. This is the time to turn to prayer, asking for an open heart, healing and understanding.

Work On You: Now that you are alone, this may be a good time to reflect. Look back on the relationship, acknowledge your part and work on yourself. Change your perspective. As difficult as it is, see the positive. This may be a stepping stone or a relationship that was meant to teach you a valuable lesson in love and forgiveness.

Move Forward: Understand that life doesn’t stop when something ends. You may be feeling like you’re at a standstill, as the world is passing you by, but eventually, you will move on. Be sure to take a step forward in the right direction. Meaning, once you find your bearing and reach a place of healing and renewal, you can open yourself up to different and new possibilities.

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