Here Are Some Of The Nice Things You Shouldn’t Tell Your Partner

As poet, T.S. Eliot put it, “Most of the evil in this world is done by people with good intentions.” With that saying in mind, did it ever occur to you that sometimes nice things aren’t that nice to hear especially when we don’t really mean them? Yes you may think it’s nice to say them, but your spouse doesn’t want to hear them daily.

Here are three well-meant remarks that end up wasting relationships:

  1. The automatic “Yes, dear.” – It’s ok to agree with your partner’s ideas or suggestions but it’s annoying to not have your own voice. You are not expected to nod to everything your partner says because it’s not an act and if you are expected to agree with everything then that is not a relationship. You have to agree to disagree sometimes because it will help you build your relationship as opposed to just “agreeing” yet deep down you are slowly resenting your partner.
  2. Insincere praise: Are you setting the bar too high, dooming your spouse to a lifetime of trying to match or outdo old triumphs? Or are you setting the bar too low, dooming yourself to a lifetime of pretending to like something you don’t? Telling your hubby he looks really good after shedding a few kilos at the gym is good, however do not focus so much on it, the same way you don’t want him to say “you look so amazing” after shedding weight for baby number two but the compliments disappear once you are stuck with baby fat after baby number three. Truth be told you will be hurt.
  3. The innocent insult: “I feel like you’re…” – It feels bad to be insulted whether directly or indirectly so there’s really no difference between saying “I feel that you’re being stupid” and calling someone “stupid” . Using “I feel” is just sugarcoating which doesn’t reduce the impact on your partner because they will not take it lightly. Use “I feel” statements appropriately — to talk about your emotions, not to label your spouse as unfair, silly or irresponsible. Instead, address specific issues or problems that bother you, finding fault with actions not your spouse’s character. Remember, while understanding each other is good the only true way to repair hurts is to take action!

PSG beat Nice to forget Barca defeat

Paris Saint-Germain bounced back from their Champions League humbling against Barcelona by beating Nice 3-1 on Saturday to boost their bid for a hat-trick of Ligue 1 titles.

A clinical first half finish from Javier Pastore put PSG in charge against the run of play.

Minutes later, Mathieu Bodmer deflected a speculative effort from Said Benrahma to level with the last kick of the half.

But Paris took a decisive lead in the second half with a fine volley from Pastore and an Edinson Cavani penalty in a game sandwiched between Champions League commitments.

PSG temporarily moved a point ahead Lyon at the top of the table ahead of Sunday’s derby against Saint-Etienne.

Nice remain mired in midtable in 11th but are still not sade, only six points above the relegation zone.

With Zlatan Ibrahimovic and Marco Verratti suspended, on top of injuries to Thiago Silva and Thiago Motta, PSG coach Laurent Blanc had to rely on a reshuffled team to get past the French Riviera side.

Lucas Moura, Serge Aurier and Lucas Digne were introduced into the starting line up while former Chelsea defender David Luiz, despite not being fully fit, was bestowed with the captain’s armband.

But it was Pastore’s fourth goal of the season, following a defence-opening pass by Lucas, who gave PSG the breakthrough with their first real chance of the match.

It was, however, quickly cancelled out by former Parisian Bodmer, although Nice still went into the half-time break frustrated to have nothing more to show form their first half dominance.

The second half was a complete reversal, though, as Nice goalkeeper Simon Pouplin shined, preventing David Luiz and Lucas from finding the back of the net.

Pastore added his second of the afternoon just after the hour mark as he latched onto a rebound after Pouplin saved his original driven effort.

Cavani, brought down in the box by Jordan Amavi, bagged his ninth of the season on 69 minutes to seal the deal.

Later on Saturday, Monaco can strengthen their grip on third by beating Rennes before looking to overturn a 1-0 first-leg deficit when they host Juventus in the second leg of their Champions League quarter-final next week.

At the foot, the bottom two Metz and Lens meet in what is almost certainly the last chance for either to avoid the drop.

On Friday, Marseille’s slump continued as Marcelo Bielsa’s side went down to a 1-0 defeat at Nantes that further damaged their hopes of qualifying for next season’s Champions League.

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