Who thought that a 6-month marriage would breed so much hate? I am talking about Diamond’s sister, Esma Platnumz’s brief marriage to her ex-husband Msizwa.
The two have been trading jabs this 2021 that shows there is no love lost between the two. Msizwa is the one who kicked things off in 2021 when he responded to a fan that he wouldn’t take back, even if she was offered to him for free. “Ata bure si mtaki,” he wrote.
That diss got Esma frothing from the gills and she decided to hit back with her own missives. Esma went full-on nuclear saying that she had never been dumped by any man she has dated before; that’s including Msizwa!
To her, this man was not only boring but she had no affection towards him, and for this reason, she opted to walk out as well as terminate their 5-month-old pregnancy!
Her parting shot was the most painful with her saying that she wouldn’t have loved the unborn baby; since her feelings for Msizwa had already ended!
This back and forth has exposed a deep problem between the two(duh!? that’s obvious you will tell me and I agree!) but there are lessons we can learn from it.
What are they?
First off, their marriage seemed to have been a bit rushed. One minute Esma was single and the next she was engaged and walking down the aisle, which seemed akin to an arranged marriage to me.
While I do understand that arranged marriages do work, the two combatants in this marriage had too much baggage before they got into the marriage-something I believe ultimately contributed to the demise of the marriage.
Take time to know the person you are going to be with for the rest of your life(hopefully).
Secondly, I will always maintain; Esma wanted to be a bride and not a wife, a situation that many modern marriages face. One of her baby daddies Petit Man even predicted that whoever was marrying her would have a tough time dealing with and wasn’t he right?
Thirdly and this is for the ladies-Why would you marry a man who was not only boring to you but that you had no affection towards him? Doesn’t make sense to me. Marriage is a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly, something I believe Esma did when she decided to accept Msizwa as her husband.
Fourthly, to the men-Don’t marry a woman with two baby daddies, even one! It is a huge red flag in this day and age. Msizwa clearly thought he could have a solid marriage with a woman whose relationship history is littered with failure, something that clearly backfired on him.
But I could be wrong…