Check out how mothers to your favorite celebs are aging gracefully – Photos

The world celebrated mothers day yesterday and Kenyans took the chance to flaunt their parents on social media. We take a look at celebs and their mothers.

1. Rashid Abdallah

The media personality and husband to Lulu Hassan rarely flaunts his mother on social media but he recently did and she is beautiful.

Rashid Abdallah and his mum
Rashid Abdallah and his mum

2. Wahu

Wahu introduced her mum and we now understand what they mean when they say ‘The apple does not fall far from the tree’.

Wahu with her mum and sister
Wahu with her mum and sister

‘I would not attend my mum’s burial if she died today’ Brags city woman

3. Caroline Mutoko

She took the chance to introduce her mother and we are impressed at how gracefully she is aging.

Caroline Mutoko and her mum
Caroline Mutoko and her mum

Njugush delivers beautiful mother’s day message to wifey Celestine

4. Evelyn Wanjiru

The gospel artiste describes her mum as

‘My mentor, role model, my beautiful mama👑 you’ve stood against all odds….I celebrate you my #Hero
M…agnificent O…utstanding T...ender H…onorable E…xtraodinary R…emarkable


Evelyn Wanjiru
Evelyn Wanjiru

5. Kate Actress

The mother of one is a replica of her mother.

Cate Actress and her mum
Cate Actress and her mum

6. Marya Prude

Wife to Willis Raburu was not left behind and we are impressed at how young her mother looks.

Marya Prude
Marya Prude

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Women turn into their mothers at the age of 33, research shows

Women start turning into their mothers at the age of just 33 – a year before men start behaving like their fathers, according to new research.

Motherhood is the thing that triggers personality changes in women the most, followed by physical signs of ageing.

More than half of women polled admitted they stopped rebelling against their mothers once they hit their thirties and started behaving like them instead.

Keira Knightley, 33, is the age that most women polled confessed to aspiring to be like their mothers. The actress’s mother Sharman Macdonald is 68.

 Men were also surveyed and revealed they start turning into their fathers at 34 – the same age as Prince Harry, whose father Charles is 70.

Women said classic signs they were starting to behave like their mothers were watching the same TV shows as them, taking up the same hobbies and using the same expressions.

Men said they started acting like their fathers after becoming fathers themselves.

Others said showing signs of middle age, such as balding and weight gain, switching lights off in empty rooms, and switching from Radio 1 to Radio 2, were all indicators of them turning into their fathers.

They also admitted adopting the same political opinions as them.

The poll was commissioned by Dr Julian De Silva, a Harley Street plastic surgeon.

Describing the results from the 2,000 participants, he said: ‘We all turn into our parents at some point in our lives – and that is something to be celebrated. They are the most wonderful people in the world.

‘Becoming parents is the main trigger and lifestyle factors are also important.

‘Both sexes said the physical signs of middle age were also a key factor.

‘We start to feel like our mums and dads when we start looking like them, too.

‘It is an inevitable part of ageing but a process lots of people want to put off for as long as possible.

‘It is one of the reasons why the average age of first-time cosmetic surgery is coming down for both sexes.

‘For women, it is now 37 and for men it is 43. More people are trying to delay this onset of middle age to improve their appearance and levels of self-confidence.’

 -Daily mail

Almost half of new mums suffer from hallucinations – study

Almost half of new mothers suffer from frightening thoughts or hallucinations – but two thirds of these hide how they feel for fear of being judged negatively or having their baby taken away, a study has found.

Intrusive thoughts – which include killing or harming their child – are still taboo among mums with just 37 per cent admitting to others how they feel.

The most common thought is a fear that ‘something dreadful’ will happen to the baby, with 62 per cent vividly feeling this.

A further 44 per cent were plagued by the belief their baby might die, while 13 per cent have imagined killing or harming their own child.

The study by parenting site also found one in 50 even believed their baby hated them while one per cent were convinced their mother-in-law was trying to take their baby.

Two in five (39 per cent) felt their child and partner would be ‘better off without them’ and 16 per cent considered suicide.

An additional 31 per cent admit to having an irrational fear that someone ‘will steal or harm my baby’, making it impossible for them to meet or talk to strangers.

Yet despite 43 per cent of mums suffering these extreme thoughts, 65 per cent of those were never told pregnancy and parenthood could affect their mental health.

As a result, one in five (19 per cent) feared they were ‘going mad’ when they fell ill.

Half (49 per cent) of the mums who suffered were also scared of being ‘judged negatively’.

Some 43 per cent believed others will think they are a ‘bad parent’, while 26 per cent were ‘ashamed’ of being mentally ill.

The stigma is so great that a disturbing 17 per cent of mums who fall ill admitted they thought about self-harm to try to cope, with one in 20 going on to self-harm.

One of the biggest barriers to getting help is the fear your child will be taken into care.

One in five mums (19 per cent) who suffered mental illness after birth reported refusing to access help in case their child was taken away.

Official NHS figures show just ten to 15 per cent of mums experience serious mental health issues.

But as a result, some experts now believe there could be a ‘hidden epidemic’ of maternal mental illness, as 64 per cent of mums who fall ill never try to get a formal diagnosis so are missed by official figures.

Overall, the survey showed the most common mental health ailment suffered by new mums is anxiety, experienced by 68 per cent of women after birth, alongside 48 per cent who undergo insomnia due to worry.

A further 35 per cent battle Post Natal Depression, a third (33 per cent) become agoraphobic and 23 per cent are hit by panic attacks.

On average, women’s symptoms lasted three to six months, but 29 per cent felt mentally low for a year or longer.

Women were five times more likely to spot their own symptoms with 69 per cent realising themselves they were ill, compared to just 14 per cent whose partners detected they were unwell.

However, almost two in five mums who become ill (38 per cent) never tell anybody how they feel and just a third confide in their GP (33 per cent).

The most common way mums covered up their feelings was to pretend to be ‘fine’ when quizzed on how they felt, with 94 per cent admitting they lied about their feelings.

Lack of sleep was seen as the main trigger for mums falling ill, with 55 per cent believing this contributed to their condition.

A further 54 per cent said they felt ’emotionally overwhelmed’ as a new parent, alongside 39 per cent who admitted they tried to ‘be the perfect parent’.

Two in five (41 per cent) blamed hormonal changes while 14 per cent pinned the blame on ‘the pressure of living up to others on social media.

As a result, a resounding 80 per cent of mums want society to be more open about maternal mental health issues and the extreme thoughts mums can have.

Seven in ten (69 per cent) want ‘society to realise it can happen to anyone’ while 55 per cent seek reassurances that their child will not automatically be taken into care if they come forward for treatment. founder Siobhan Freegard said: ‘If your body is broken after birth, everyone understand and supports you.

‘But when your mind is broken, mums still feel they have to keep it hidden.

‘These thoughts are disturbing and terrifying – but very often they are part of becoming a mum.

‘We need to talk about it, normalise it and make mums realise they are not alone. You are not different or ‘going mad’ just because you experience it – but you may need professional care and help.

‘I suffered from post natal depression and visualised extreme images after the birth of my first child then tried to cover it up, so I know exactly what women are going through when they hide it.

‘There is so much pressure to cope and be the perfect parent that when you are crying inside while everyone around you is smiling, it makes you feel you are failing your baby and your whole family.

‘Mums need to know they will get the right support and their baby won’t be taken away.

‘With care, compassion and the right treatment, you can get better quickly, bond with your baby and go on to be the parent you want to be.’ psychologist Emma Kenny added: ‘This research has highlighted the plight of large numbers of mums in the UK and evidences that even in 2018 post natal depression is still no closer to being effectively dealt with.

‘Good maternal mental health is something that every woman deserves, but due to the lack of knowledge and support this simply isn’t the case, leaving women to deal with some of the most terrifying and debilitating feelings at a time when they should be enjoying their positive new beginnings.

‘We need to address this subject openly, removing the shame and stigma so that mums no longer feel that they have to cope alone.’

Read more:dailymail.

REVEALED: Is This Trick The Secret To An Easier Child Birth?

While every birth experience is different, some Australian mothers are claiming there is one simple technique that can ‘reduce’ discomfort and ‘mental pain’ throughout the process.

The trick? Hypnosis.

Australian lifestyle hypnotist, Mark Stephens, and new mother Eva discussed the benefits of hypnotism on Today.

‘Hypnotism gets rid of the fear that you have of the birth and prepares you, especially mentally, for the arrival of the baby,’ the first time mother said.

She also said that the technique helped with her contractions as it reduced her ‘mental pain’ – the mother claiming it’s ‘all in your mental state’.

Forget all of your preconceived ideas about hypnosis, as Mark said it has nothing to do with ‘clicking your fingers’ or ‘chickens clucking’.

Instead, it involves a type of meditation allowing women to focus and breathe their way through the stress and pain of childbirth and can result in women being a lot calmer.

‘It’s about learning how to meditate and changing the idea of pain into a feeling and changing the idea of a contraction into a wave,’ Mark said.

‘As each wave comes along breathe with that so in between those waves (contractions) it’s a mindful breathing, a mindful meditation.’

Mark explained that when contractions come along, women should breathe deeply and when they are ‘deep into this state’ their ‘body releases serotonin and endorphins while also reducing the cortisol and adrenaline’.


Mothers share their tried-and-tested methods for getting babies to sleep through the night

As any new mother knows well, getting your baby to sleep through the night is no mean feat.

From tears and tantrums to chesty coughs and acid reflux, both baby and mother can suffer from sleepless nights as a result of a restless tot.

Hoping to garner some insider tips from experienced mothers, one new parent of a four-month-old baby took to Mumsnet to ask for advice – and she was overwhelmed by the response as parents shared their clever tried-and-tested hacks.

Many of the mothers highly recommend Calpol – suggesting just a small dose to help baby nod off.

Other suggestions included Omeprazole, which is a medication to treat gastroesophageal reflux disease.

One lady suggested looking at the size dummy you give your little one. She wrote: ‘This might sound daft but what size of dummy are you using? Mine is on the 91st centile and I recently gave him 6-18 month dummies.

‘The 0-6 wasn’t settling him and wouldn’t stay in his mouth. The 6-18 stays in until he actively spits it out so it does help him get over into a decent sleep.’

Other simple hacks included feeding your baby upright, propping up their cot or using 15ml of Gaviscon with water.

Among the more curious suggestions from mothers was one who recommended staying off any medication and instead using dill water or simply boiled water that you’ve cooled down.

One lady recommended a treatment she buys from the US called colic calm, which settles the acid in the baby’s stomach and she hails a ‘lifesaver’.

New mothers should eat peanuts while breastfeeding – study

New mothers were once told to avoid giving their babies peanuts in order to prevent them later developing allergies to them.

Now, a new Canadian study has found eating the snack while breastfeeding combined with introducing them to your infant before the age of one is a better approach.

It discovered that the lowest rate of adverse reactions among children was for mothers who did both of these.

If mothers did one but not the other, the rate of allergic reactions was ‘significantly higher’, it was discovered.

Symptoms of an allergy to peanuts can range from mild – such as itchy skin and a runny nose – to severe and life-threatening, as they airways can close up when the body goes into anaphylactic shock.

Recent trials have shown that avoiding the nuts during infancy increases the risk of allergy. However, these studies did not address peanut consumption by the mother while breastfeeding.

Dr Meghan Azad, a scientist at the Children’s Hospital Research Institute of Manitoba in Winnipeg where the study was carried out, said: ‘What’s interesting about this study is that it is the first to consider maternal peanut consumption while breastfeeding together with the timing of peanut introduction to infants.’

Key findings 

The researchers analyzed data from an allergy and asthma study that tracked 342 children born in Winnipeg and Vancouver in 1995 from birth to the age of 15.

Children whose mothers consumed peanuts while breastfeeding and directly introduced peanuts before 12 months had the lowest incidence of reactions to peanuts at 1.7 percent.

Rates jumped to 15.1 per cent for those whose mothers eat peanuts while breast-feeding but delayed introducing peanuts to their infant after a year.

And for women who avoided peanuts themselves but directly introduced them to their babies by 12 months incidences were at 17.6 percent.

Dr Azad noted that study was limited by focusing exclusively on children at high risk of developing allergies.

‘We hope to use these results as a starting point for more research to better inform guidelines for preventing food allergies in children,’ said Dr Tracy Pitt, first author of the study and pediatric allergist at Humber River Hospital.

The study was published in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology.

Read more: dailymail

Mother throws daughter off four-storey apartment building TWICE to make sure she is dead

A seven-year-old girl died after her mother allegedly threw her from a fourth floor terrace.

Authorities believe it was the second time Aishika Sarkar had been thrown from the building by her mother, Swathi Sarkar.

Angry locals grabbed Sarkar and tied her to a lamp post with electricity cable in Jaraganahalli, in Bangalore

A mob chased Sarkar and tied her to a lamp post with electrical cable until police arrived 

Witnesses claimed Sarkar threw her daughter from the balcony a second time 

She was later arrested by police on suspicion of her daughter’s murder.

According to police, Aishika suffered from speech development issues and was not enrolled in a school.

Her parents lived in separate houses after breaking up and her father travelled to the home once a month to give money to Mrs Sarkar.

Police suspect the mother was suffering from mental health issues.

Her estranged husband, Kanchan Sarkar, also claimed that she would regularly fly into a rage.

The girl reportedly died instantly after being allegedly thrown from the terrace.

Neighbours claimed they saw Sarkar carrying her bleeding child upstairs before throwing her down again.

One witness said the child was bleeding and clearly in pain when Swathi ran back upstairs and allegedly tossed her over the side for a second time which killed her 

She tried to flee the scene and was caught by neighbours who tied her to the lamppost while they waited for police.

One witness said: ‘I was sleeping when I heard a huge noise around 3.30pm, and I ran out to see what had happened.

‘I noticed Swathi, clad in a nightie, holding her daughter who was bleeding profusely.

‘The child was crying and writhing in pain. I asked Swathi what had happened.

‘She shouted at me and ran towards the terrace and threw the girl to the ground.’

Mrs Sarkar was interrogated at a police station where she was arrested.

She reportedly told police that her child was mentally unstable and that after killing her she planned to take her own life.

Read more: dailymail

Did You Know? Mothers With Postnatal DEPRESSION Are More Likely To Have DIFFICULT And Emotional Children. Details

Mothers with postnatal depression are more likely to have difficult children, new research reveals.

Sufferers of the mental health condition who are insensitive towards their children are more likely to have youngsters with difficult temperaments, a study found.

Researchers believe mothers who respond to their children’s needs, even if they are battling depression, teach their youngsters how to regulate negative emotions.


Families with effective communication where everyone is involved in raising the children may also aid infant’s self-regulation, they found.

Lead author Dr Stephanie Parade from Brown University, said: ‘Maternal postpartum depression was only associated with persistently difficult infant temperament. This work underscores the importance of supporting families in the postpartum period.’

How the study was carried out  

Researchers from Brown University analyzed 147 families with children younger than 30 months.

The children’s temperaments were assessed at eight, 15 and 30 months old.


Mothers were interviewed to determine whether they suffered from depression.

The families were observed to assess their function and the mother’s sensitivity.

Key findings 

Results revealed that depressed mothers who are insensitive towards their children are more likely to have youngsters with difficult temperaments.

Dr Parade said: ‘Maternal postpartum depression was only associated with persistently difficult infant temperament’.


The researchers believe mothers who respond to their children’s needs, even if they are battling depression themselves, teach their youngsters how to regulate negative emotions.

Families with effective communication where everyone is involved in raising the children may also aid infant’s self-regulation, the researchers add.

Dr Parade added: ‘This work underscores the importance of supporting families in the postpartum period.’


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A Mother’s Instincts: Woman Breastfeeds Her Best Friend’s Adopted Baby After Losing Her Own

Lauren Casper, 31, and Sarah Rieke, 30, from Virginia, did all the things normal best friends do – except one thing.

Three years ago, after losing her own newborn daughter in tragic circumstances, Rieke offered to breastfeed her friend’s newborn adopted daughter, Arsema, with her own milk.

‘I didn’t feel like what I was doing was that special at the time. I had this milk, and she had a baby. And while I was in a time of weeping, and she was in one of rejoicing, we were both able to acknowledge each other’s situations. I actually found breastfeeding Arsema quite therapeutic,’ she said.

Happiness: Ms Casper pictured with Arsema
Ms Casper with Arsema

Back in 2013, Rieke had been expecting her own baby girl, while Casper was about to adopt a little girl.

Both women hoped their daughters would grow up to be best friends as they were, and the pair had already spoken about entering the next stage of motherhood together.

When Evie was born, in November 2012, she only lived for four hours before Rieke had to say goodbye. ‘I was so tearful over my situation,’ she said.

Mothers and daughters: Pictured above - Ms Rieke with little Evie
Ms Rieke with little Evie

A week later, Rieke made what many might consider to be a difficult decision. Because she was still producing breast milk, she decided to offer it to her best friend, Casper, who couldn’t feed little Arsema because she was adopted:

‘Breastfeeding Arsema helped me with my grief. While obviously, there were occasions when I wished I could have been breastfeeding my own daughter, and I did often think that I wished our girls could grow up together, it meant the world to me to do something for a friend who had been there for me throughout my life,’ she says.

Best of friends: Sarah Rieke (left) and Lauren Casper (right) are the best of friends - and when Ms Rieke lost her own child and Ms Casper adopted Arsema (in her arms), Ms Rieke offered to breastfeed her

Casper has now moved away from where Rieke lives, but the two remain firm friends. Rieke believes she does have a special relationship with the now four-year-old Arsema:

Any time we get together, it is wonderful. I have other children now and have since lost another child. It never gets any easier, but on the second occasion, I didn’t have the emotional energy nor the opportunity to offer my breast milk up.’

Beautiful gift: She says that she didn't believe what she was doing at the time was very special: 'I had this milk, and she had a baby', (Arsema pictured)

According to Rieke, breastfeeding Arsema will always be a special memory.

She says: ‘Lauren totally wasn’t expecting me to offer, but I knew she was being genuine when she told me it would mean the world to her if I did. I don’t know whether my breast milk has affected Arsema, but I like to think it helped her in some way.’

Therapeutic: Ms Rieke says that though the pair were going through two very different emotions, she actually found breastfeeding little Arsema (pictured age 4) quite therapeutic
Evie all grown up









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Old Is Gold! Sheila Mwanyigha’s Mother Is Too Stunning For Her Age!

Sheila Mwanyigha is no doubt one of the hottest celebrities in the Kenyan media industry.

Although she is no longer on radio and TV after quitting her position as a radio presenter and TV host at Nation Media Group, she’s still one of our favorite media personalities.

The sassy singer’s still got her game going years down the line since her singing days as Nikki and especially after she cut weight at the end of last year, looking sexy and younger!

The former Tusker Project Fame host recently took to her Instagram to share a beautiful photo with her mother, who I must say looks stunning for her age, with this moving caption;

There’s no day off for mums. There’s no day the job is done. There’s no day the kids can go figure it out on their own. There’s no day the kids stop being their babies.

Though Sheila Mwanyigha likes keeping her private life under wraps, she has never hesitated to share photos of her parents once in a while, and from the pic, it’s clear that her mother is ageing gracefully.

Check out the gorgeous photo below!


‘Can’t Men Find Women Who Are Single And Childless To Marry Nowadays?’ Maina Kageni

There was an interesting article in our of the local dailies that revealed a recent trend where men are settling down with women who have children with other men and Maina Kageni could not understand how this is happening.

A good example is the recent union between Safaricom CEO, Bob Collymore and his 3 year girlfriend (now wife), Wambui Kamiru, who has twin daughters from her previous marriage. Despite the fact that a woman has children from someone else, men nowadays prefer to marry them and taking in the kids as his own and even providing for them. Maina’s big question was, “aren’t there any childless, single women out there that men can marry? How is a man able to support another man’s children?”

The conversation was heated and men and women called in to give their views on this trending topic. The issue of women aborting also came up amidst the discussion. Listen to the interesting dialogue in the audio below.

Things We Want You To Know (As Discussed by Mothers Inlaw)

Mothers inlaws and their daughter have what is termed as a bitter sweet relationship. It’s not unlikely that you will find  the pair being all friendly and laughing but it’s not a major of them.

Many of them are usually not as close but they maintain a cordial relationship. Issues mostly arise when one party gives advice to another it comes off as intrusion and hence creates issues for many families. However these are some of the things that mothers inlaws would like thei daughters inlaw to know.

Mother-in law #1 -I wish I could get my daughter-in-law to understand how important it is for the family to get together at regular intervals, not just for Christmas and Easter. When a family is all together interacting, the family becomes much more cohesive more in tune with the all that is going on in the different lives in their individual families. And the extended family becomes more of a unit and a source of support.

Mother-in law #2 – I’d like my daughter-in-law to know, that like me, one day she will be the matriarch. And as a matriarch, it is also important to feel comfortable enough to be able to suggest and give advice in a manner that is not meant to be demanding, but helpful. I would like to feel that I am a valued member of the family, respected for my age and wisdom, and not irrelevant.

Mother-in law #3 – I hope my daughter-in-law feels comfortable enough to ask for help whenever she might need it.

Mother-in law #4 – Advice I would like my overwhelmed, career oriented daughter-in-law to hear? “Get some help with the laundry, honey. This frees up time and might improve your mood. And maybe, just maybe, you will be less snippy to my son.”

Mother-in law #5 – I’d like to be invited over, not all the time. Just once in a while, maybe even once a year. It doesn’t matter that the house is messy or cluttered you and my son are wonderful parents to your twin boys, so there’s no way your house will be as uncluttered and clean as mine (which isn’t as clean as my mother’s!). I am not judging you.

Mother-in law #6 – I’d like to go out to lunch with you sometime  just the two of us  like you do with your friends, your mother, and your three sisters.

Mother-in law #7 – I couldn’t figure out why there was so much tension at your house. You were short tempered, unresponsive to a new degree and generally pretty dismissive of me. By chance, I found out from one of my grandkids that you had had your hours cut severely at work and your cash flow was significantly reduced. If I had been privy to this information, I could have had a better understanding of the emotional climate at your house and offered to do whatever I could to ease the situation. It’s hard to have empathy if I don’t know the situation.

Mother-in law #8 – Early in your relationship, my son shared with you some very negative stories about how horrible a mother he felt I was. Being a single mother was tough, but I kept him clothed, fed, with a roof over his head, and didn’t turn to drugs or alcohol. He and I have since buried the hatchet, but you seem to still harbor great resentment toward me for this. Since I assume you are in this marriage for the long run, why not try to make things as pleasant as possible between us? Teach your children to be kind and loving. Set the example.

Social media seems to be part of the issues between mothers inlaw and their daughters.

Mother-in law #9 – Respond nicely to one of my Facebook posts. It might even make my son happy.

Mother-in law #10 – I’m not advocating two family vacations together each year, moving into your house when I need help because I’m finally feeble, but just put slightly more effort into our relationship. I know that I have tried to do that. I always “like” your Facebook posts, even when it’s showing you doing very silly things that I would never do.

Mother-in-law #11 – I raised the man you chose to marry. How bad can I be?


Why women hate breastfeeding?

According to some research published on The Star newspaper, most of the women in urban areas are not keen to breast feed their children exclusively for the required six months minimum before stopping.

They argue that doing so will lead to them having saggy breasts. Surprisingly the same sentiments are shared by the men in their lives.

Research has shown that babies who are breastfed exclusively for the first six months of their lives tend to be healthier.

The women however are more concerned about saggy boobs affecting their appearance and consequently their sex life.

So what should take preference? Is it your appearance or the health of your child?

Listen to the discussion below.



Demerits of Caesarian section

Many young women of today prefer giving birth through caesarian section as opposed to having the normal birth.

Doctors say that the young women are “too posh to push” but many are not aware of the health risks that come with caesarian section.

This procedure can ruin your sex life as it is more risky and takes a longer time for one to heal.

According to the Telegraph, A gynaecologist by the name Dr. Arun Ghosh says that C-section will help you retain vaginal tightness, which is great for your partner, but there’s nothing about the procedure which is great for you as a woman.

He then gives these reasons:

1. Caesarean sections can actually make vaginal intercourse more painful.

2. There’s a greater risk of surgical scarring around your uterus, and you’re much more vulnerable to infection.

3. There’s also the hormone issue to consider. With a vaginal birth, your body gets to release all the hormones that have been built up over the course of the pregnancy which doesn’t happen during a C-section.

4. Dramatic hormone changes can cause anorgasmia, which means that you can’t orgasm regardless of what’s happening in the vaginal area. There’s a greater chance of this happening following a c-section as your hormonal balance isn’t naturally restored.

5. Vaginal birth is generally best for the baby, too. According to him, babies are more likely to have breathing difficulties if they come out before they’re ready.

Dr. Arun advices that unless its an emergency or in cases where the baby is too big it is advisable for one to have a normal vaginal birth as opposed to Caesarian section, he says “why have an operation when you don’t need one?”

Child naming rights affecting breastfeeding in Turkana

Among some mothers in Turkana, a newborn does not start breastfeeding until he responds to his name.

“After she gives birth, different names are called out and only when the newborn responds positively to a name will he begin breastfeeding,” says Nicholas Losike, a community health worker in Loima district, Turkana.

Losike says this traditional naming practice, which is still observed by some adherents, serves as one of the greatest challenges health workers face as they advocate for exclusive breastfeeding where the newborn is fed nothing else but the mother’s breast milk for the first six months of life.

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Things you should never say to a single mom

Single parents are normally people who have kids but the other parent is not as responsible for them. Sometimes it is due to death, separation but in most cases it’s due to absentee parents. Most of the times these relationships leave them with a bitter taste in their mouth.

So in the event that you have met a single parent, especially a woman, there are things that you should never ask.

  1. Where is the child? – Depending on how close you are, this question should be handled with a lot of care. Just because one is a parent you surely don’t expect them to be walking around with the child at all times. Let’s say that you are at a coffee date or at the club would you expect her to carry the child along? Such a scenario will rub them the wrong way.
  2. How do you support yourselves? – By the time one has decided to have a baby they know how they will take care of the child even in the absence of the other parent. Asking this question is the same as prying into someone’s personal space. Their responsibility to raise the child is no one’s business but hers.
  3. Pregnancy scare – Aren’t you afraid to get pregnant again? This question sounds as though you have already judged her for a “mistake” she did. It also shows your assumption of her character.
  4. Where is the father? – Again depending on how close you are this question should be avoided until a time that is convenient for her to talk about it. Do not bring it up especially when you’re still getting to know her. Her past is really none of your business.