I gave my husband Sh240,000 for a college degree

 

In many marriages or living situations, spouses go the extra mile for their loved ones.

It is not uncommon to hear a man or woman say they paid for their spouse to get a better education. The motivation being that things will get better financially for the family.

A female breadwinner revealed on Classic 105 that she put her husband through University, but he is ‘ungrateful’.

She explains her predicament

When I met my husband we both had diplomas and were employed in the same place, so when an opportunity arose for him to go to school, I supported him to go to campus.

She worked hard to support her husbands through school

I was paying fr his campus, I gave him Sh240k lumpsum money, coz he was going for regular courses to cater for fees and accommodation, so when he finished campus and he came back home, he wanted a better paying job.

He wanted to move into another job, and once again the loving wife helped him out

There was a job, but he didn’t get through, so he asked me for a favor to get it. I helped him get the job. In his former job he was earning 30k but the new offer was 170k,

The strategy of supporting her man did not work in her favor, as he soon showed his true colors

and the thing is when it was my turn to go to school, he didn’t support me, he didn’t even attend my graduation, but we are still together, I still love him, and now we are even building a house.

Girls, do you expect a big pay off later when you help your man?

what has been your experience, share below.

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Leave your accomplishments at the gate when you go home – Kingangi tells women

 

Women must constantly hide their achievements from their fragile husbands, according to Mwalimu Kingangi.

Mwalimu this morning wanted to discuss the responsibilities of successful women to their families. He felt that rich women are making their men feel like less of a man.

the husband to the late Joyce Laboso at her funeral said when Laboso came home to him, she used to leave all the titles and power trappings at the gate and would be his wife at home. Now tell me how many  powerful women can do that? I won’t mention names, you know them  and when she goes home she should be a wife and mother, make sure your husband is happy and make sure you do homework with the kids,

Here is his list of conditions for successful women to do at home

  • Be submisive
  • Hand over your salary
  • Cook for him

Just like Size 8, these women give their entire salaries to their husbands

One of the women on the show pointed out that a successful woman must remain humble in front of her husband so that he never feels threatened by her success. According to her, a woman shouldn’t gloat of her achievements, because it will belittle her husband. Instead, a woman must make her husband feel powerful by showing him how inferior she is.

 I earn more than him, he has all my ATM cards, some I have. I bought the house I educate the kids, once in awhile I cook, and this is my second marriage. why is she educating the kids? Because I’m in a better position, his salary wont allow the kids to go to the school I want, na pesa yake ananunua chakula

Maina Kageni rolled his eyes as far back as he could saying

ladies please listen to me if you let your husband get used to such situations of you paying all the bills, aki you have shown him bad manners

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Since financial situations and relationships are hugely personal, what has been your experience? Drop your comments below

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