Single and childless women are the happiest –  behavioral scientist

 

 
Men should get married to improve their wellbeing but women ‘shouldn’t bother’, according to a leading expert in happiness who says that unmarried, childless women are the happiest people in society.

Paul Dolan, professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said yesterday that men benefit from marriage because they ‘calm down’, while the same wasn’t true for women.

‘You take less risks, you earn more money at work and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that and dies sooner than if she never married,’ he said.

‘The healthiest and happiest population sub-group are women who never married or had children.’

Speaking at the Hay Festival, Prof Dolan added:

‘We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.’

Dolan’s latest book, Happy Ever After, cites evidence from the American Time Use Survey (ATUS), which compared levels of pleasure and misery in unmarried, married, divorced, separated and widowed individuals.

The study found that levels of happiness reported by those who were married were higher than the unmarried, but only when their spouse was in the room.
Unmarried individuals reported lower levels of misery than married individuals who were asked when their spouse was not present.

Other studies have measured some financial and health benefits in being married for both men and women on average.

Dolan said the findings could be attributed to higher incomes and emotional support, allowing married people to take risks and seek medical help.

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‘Not having a child by 30 doesn’t make you less of a human’ – Mukami Mwaura

Utaoa lini na utazaa lini are pretty much common questions many of us girls face from society, once we hit a certain age.

Women have often been victims of pressure from the societies unrealistic expectations on them based on who, when and how a woman should settle down with.

Some have even claimed that women above 40 are ‘wasted goods’ and that no man would want to settle  with them, but how true is this? Unlike women in the old age, the modern woman is more enlightened.

She is more independent, more vocal and more enterprising which has led to most of them being unmarried even in their 30’s and some in their 40’s. Unlike men, women have a shorter ‘shelf life’ given that the more a woman ages, the harder it is for her to get pregnant.

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Mukami Mwaura, wife to nominated MP Isaac Mwaura, has some advice for you on how to achieve personal fulfillment despite pressure from the society.

She put down her thougts saying

“Break the stigma!! You aren’t any less of a woman if you haven’t had your first child by 30 years of age. Neither are you any less of a woman if you aren’t married by then.
You aren’t any less of a woman if you decided to postpone child bearing to a time when you feel that you’d be a happier mother and neither are you disadvantaged if you decide to neither get married nor bear children.
There is nothing wrong with choosing to put your career goals first, similarly, there is nothing wrong with balancing family life, being a wife and career growth as a mother and there is absolutely nothing wrong with deciding to be a housewife after marriage.

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There is nothing wrong with choosing to live single and childless too. If you are blessed enough to raise a child in a wholesome manner as a single mother, do so. There’s no need to be tied down to ‘a union with any Tom, Dick and Harry’ to hide the ‘shame of having had a child or children out of wedlock’.”

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With the high number of dead beat fathers leaving women to take care of their kids, Mukami advices

“If you do bear a child ‘out of wedlock’, still…train up your child in the way he(she) should go and when he(she) is old he(she) will not depart from it. Being an unmarried mother doesn’t make you any less of a parent.

If you choose the academic path, flourish. There’s nothing wrong with being a ‘dangerously overeducated’ woman. There’s nothing like ‘too much education’…STUDY to the utmost of your ability. It doesn’t reduce your marriageability, if anything, it boosts it.
There’s a stereotype that women make bad drivers 🤦🏽‍♀️😊…you can break that too. LOL.”

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Her final advice for that woman out there who is confused due to all the information flying out in the society , the myths, the trolling and the stigmatization by the society is

“This is for that confused 29 year old whose aunts keep calling her mother asking her when she will get married. The world is your oyster. Be pacified. This same earth holds a 60 year old woman who is currently nursing her 5 months old baby, a 30 year old woman who just received the sad news that her breast cancer treatment has affected her fertility. It is also on this same planet that celebrity mothers or otherwise start child bearing at 42 and go the whole nine yards and have a second born at 48.
The ultimate is, whichever way you choose to be happy, so be it!
Do you.
And if you believe in the Most High, all things are possible :-)”

Well you heard it, the next someone tells you that you should be married with kids just because you are over 30, tell them there is nothing wrong with choosing to live single and childless.

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