Media personality Willis Raburu has opened up on what his marriage to Marya Prude has taught him despite the ups and downs.
Raburu said that marriage is an amazing experience though challenging.
Speaking during an interview with The Star he said
“The biggest lesson I have learnt so far in marriage is to listen.
Sounds easy, huh? But we have to listen to not just each other’s voices but hearts as well,” he said.
“You have to know what your partner needs and to be sensitive to their needs. You have to communicate and grow together.”
In one of her social media posts Marya praised Raburu for touching her soul and letting her feel like a little girl.
I have never met a man that I wanted to be his wife And then he came along, it’s so natural to make a life ‘Cause he’s a perfect compliment, ’cause I’m a boss in my world But when we’re together, he just makes me feel like his girl He’s givin’ me love, so steady He touches my heart, now I’m ready He touches my soul and my spirit He’s givin’ me love, so steady (love me so steady)” #steadylove❤️
Many stories have been written about Akothee and Nelly Oaks but one thing is for sure, these two have found a chemistry and relationship formula that works.
A while back Akothee was hospitalised twice for fatigue.
After all you cannot be a ‘Madam Boss’ if you are not working your derrière off, can you?
Akothee said that even when she was first hospitalised, her plan to shoot her new music video with MC galaxy. Nothing was going to halt that plan especially not fatigue.
“I, MADAM BOSS THE PRESIDENT OF THE SINGLE MOTHERS IS URGING ALL THE WOMEN TO GET OFF THEIR PITY PARTY AND STAND FOR THEIR RIGHTS,” AKOTHEE SAID, “I SHOT THE VIDEO AT A TIME WHEN I WAS MEANT TO BE IN THE HOSPITAL AND ON BED REST FOR EXHAUSTION. NEVER STOP BELIEVING IN YOURSELF. MY FANS SHOULD EXPECT MORE HITS AND ENTERTAINMENT, AFTER ALL, MY LIFE, YOUR ENTERTAINMENT.”
A total of Ksh 5 million was sunk into making the music video.
Check out Akothee’s video for Oyoyo featuring MC Galaxy.
Defending why she shot the music video in Kisumu, Akothee said,
“I STOPPED SHOOTING VIDEOS ABROAD BECAUSE I WANT TO PROMOTE MY CULTURE AND MY COUNTRY LET THE RESOURCES REVOLVE AROUND MY COUNTRY. THE VIDEO WAS SHOT IN MY HOME TOWN OF KISUMU AND I AM PROUD OF THAT,” AKOTHEE SAID.
Anyhow, back to Akothee being hospitalised, this was back in 2018. She realised one thing, the constant in her life through the ups and downs is none other than Nelly Oaks.
Nelly Oaks spent nights in the uncomfortable chairs of the hospital to look after Madam Boss.
How cute is that?
Akothee gushed about this level of commitment saying,
“NELLY OAKS, YOU HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN HEAVEN, THANK YOU FOR BEING A RARE SPECIE; WHEN EVERYONE ELSE, LIFE WENT ON, OURS CAME TO A STAND STILL FOR OVER 3 WEEKS! MOVING FROM ONE HOSPITAL TO THE OTHER! LONG NIGHTS AND SHORT DAYS!”
Akothee then asked, “Is there anyone who was willing to swipe their beds with you this nights? Very few stopped doing what they were supposed to do because Akoth was in bed. Life went on as usual, this is ENOUGH to tell you that your life is your own life! You do with it what you want!”
Concluding, Akothee said, “Most people think that I am rude! Not at all I am real with life it makes it easy for me to kick out fake and plastic people around me.”
Infertility is really a big threat to relationship especially to married couples. A happy family is complete when there are children in it. There are various natural ways of boosting fertility which includes observing your diet. They include;
It is generally healthy for one to have a healthy nutritious diet. One is required to feed more on vegetables, fruits, nuts, grains and protein foods. This is because these foods contain antioxidants.
Antioxidants help in deactivating the free radicals that can damage both the sperm and egg cell which can cause infertility. It is also recommended to eat a bigger breakfast before starting the day as it may improve hormonal balance.
Eating heavy meals in the evening can also lead to overweight. Foods rich in fibre is also important as it helps to keep the blood sugar balanced and also gets rid of excess hormones that can lead to infertility.
It is also important to eat foods with lower carbs as they help to reduce insulin levels and helps in menstrual regularity. This makes your fertility on a safer level.
Always observe your weight when feeding, you should not be either overweight or underweight. When you are overweight or underweight, you have high chances of having longer cycle lengths hence difficult to get pregnant.
When you are overweight it means that you got a lot of fats in your body and it influences your menstrual function. Studies state that obese women have lower chances of getting pregnant.
However, it is possible for one to acquire the required health weight. This is by engaging in exercising on a daily basis. When you engage in exercises it makes your body active hence reducing chances of infertility in your body.
Take time to relax
It is important to have time to relax once in a while. When you are stressed, depressed or working under high pressure you are not likely to conceive.
This is due to the hormonal changes that take place in your body when stressed. Have some time to rest once a while and have enough sleep and avoid overworking yourself.
Couples tend to do certain things that they actually cannot do when they are around other people.
Here is a list of those quirky and weird things you do with your bae behind closed doors.
When they are together they can feed their partner for all they care. It shows how much you care and love your wife or husband. This may not be the case when they are at a friend’s place or even in public but its more comfortable when they are on their own
Sharing and smelling clothes
They normally do this especially if they don’t wear the same clothing sizes. They can hence make fun on how each looks on the other partner’s attire. They can go to the extent of smelling the dirty clothes of their partner and make fun of the sweat smell.
To other couples it can be a normal routine while to others it can be once in a while as a romance sign. All the same they cannot do it when anyone is around but themselves.
Your partner has to look nice and well presented all the time. This can be wiping some food remains off their face, teeth, hair or any sort of dirt.
This can be unhealthy as other people see it but it is not the same case with your partner. When they become married for instance they become one hence can share anything that belongs to their partner. They may at times share them knowingly or unknowingly especially if the brushes resemble.
Hanging out naked
Spending time with your partner while half dressed or naked is not a bad idea. As a couple, they will find it comfortable and actually more romantic. It may seem disrespectful or embarrassing if someone finds them unexpectedly and thus why they do this in their own privacy.
This the best place to be especially after a long tiresome day. It makes one feel relaxed under their partner’s arms and warmth. Cuddling actually can help one to get the best of mind and act as a stress reliever.
Funny dance moves
This is a form of entertainment to kill boredom especially when they are free. This really strengthens the relationship as they share happy moments together. These dances can be either genuine or maybe they may be imitating someone who dances in those particular moves.
Backbiting other couples
This happens in basically all relationships. At the time they can talk about other couples either in a nice way or bad way depending on how they relate with them.
Every marriage or relationship has challenges and fighting is one of them. This can be as a result of disagreement on a certain issue or in times of making decisions. Fighting can also be a sign of love especially when they are having fun or playing around the house.
Marriage can be the best thing especially when you in good terms with your in-laws. These are some of the things you can do to spice your relationship;
In-laws love to be complimented all the time. Anytime they do anything for you like giving you food or gifting you, compliment them and literally praise them. This will make them see how much you appreciate them and they will have no problems with you.
Rudeness should not be part of your behavior if you want to keep a good relation. Always be polite to them and give them the respect that they deserve even if the favor is not returned back to you.
This will make your in-laws know how much you value them and their knowledge. In case you have any issue you can ask them for opinions. Let them know how their views are important to you and how their decisions are of great importance to you.
When you go to the market or on a trip get them something small. This will make them know how much you care for them. Get them something that they like most that will capture their emotions.
If you want to have a good relationship with your in-laws, have a good relationship with their son first. When you love and respect your husband then you will not be having problems with them at all. Appreciate him and avoid ill talking your husband at all costs.
Lend a hand all the time
They normally like hardworking people that can do all sorts of work especially farm work. When you find for instance your mother in-law doing something lend some hand. They will love you because you are trying to get involved and helping them.
Make an effort to always like your in-laws even though they are unlikable. They may be annoying at times but force yourself to show how much you love them. This will create a good relationship between you and them and you will not have any quarrels with them
This is your first assignment when you step in that family. Study your in-laws and learn how to interact and associate with them. This will help in maintaining peace in your marriage. Understand their weaknesses and strengths so as not to cross paths with them
In an era where filters are the in thing, Akothee has advised Kenya men to learn to appreciate their women with all their flaws.
This is because most of the things we see on Instagram are not real. Most people are living by the mantra ‘fake it till you make it’.
Never compare your wife with ladies you see on social media, she is the mother of your child! treat her stretchmarks as a beautiful natural tattoo💪, this is a special sacrifice she made, for you to be called a daddy.
Your wife’s priority is not to glam up on social media, but to make sure every member of the family is secure.
Your wife looks older than the ladies on social media simply because she is living reality and growing grey hair from thinking of what next with your family including the lubbish you 🤔.
4. The money you spend on ladies you meet out there, would have been good money for a family retreat and see your children jump on a bouncing castle 🤔
5. Having excuses of not being home every weekend hurts and cuts deep into a woman’s heart. If wishes were horses, weekends should be cut off your routine🤔
6. You never have money for your family, but you got money to spoil your friends 🤔 your wife looks older than your mother, simply because she is carrying pain 🤔
7. Don’t complain that she gained weight, she is broken from inside and has no time to take care of herself💔 she is busy taking care of you and the family 🤝
8. You wonder why she is unhappy 🤔 you never appreciate her or her beauty never surprised her even with a flower 🤔
Women are strong, but they incubate a lot
Take care of your wife and children
All these people you are entertaining will come to your burial on the burial date, and take photos with your coffin🤔
The price was a bit higher than the required amount that one is required to pay. The male responses were of the opinion that parents should not sell their daughters off but dowry should be a way of appreciation.
Dowry should be paid but it should not be overcharged. One caller said,
“Ruracio is a debt that should be paid and not an appreciation. In our Kikuyu culture ruracio for the bride should be paid the same way it was paid for the mother. A man should not receive dowry for her daughter if he did not pay for his wife. So lets embrace our culture and pay the dowry as it is to be paid.”
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One lady caller said that it is mandatory for a dowry to pay.
“Mimi ata naomba wazazi wangu wangeitisha hiyo ruracio as much as possible so that ata ukiachwa atleast you can know hiyo pesa ndo utatumia kuraise watoto. Mimi niliolewa akaitishwa pesa kidogo then nikaachwa kwa mataa taking care of his children alone. (I wish my parents had asked for a lot of dowry during my ruracio, so that even if my husband leaves, I have some money to raise his children. Now, he has left me taking care of his children alone.)”
However many people had a different opinion of this and how they were also asked to pay their ruracio. Other comments were;
If the dowry is a way of appreciating the female parents for educating her and all that then the male parents should be paid for bringing up such a young man for their daughter.
I was once asked to pay pesa ya kukatia msichana wao na kukausha matiti. When the lady was growing up she sucked her mother’s breasts so I was also required to pay for that.