Woman trapped in loveless marriage tells how she is coping with it

 

A woman confessed to Maina Kageni on Friday November 26 that she is trapped in a loveless marriage, and cannot walk away.

She told this dilemma in a topic about wives going off their husband for no reason at all.

The lady explained to Maina that the man loves her deeply but ‘hamfeel’

“It’s absolutely true, it happens’. It happened to me like I have this guy he loves me so much we have kids, but those are not his kids. We have lived together seven years, but mtu ananipenda but mimi simfeel kabisa. He doesnt think the thtee kids are his, alinipata aknikiwa nao, ananipenda but I don’t feel him at all, I don’t have those feelings, and he does everything, he pays school fees, he loves them so much. It stated as early as tene, yani ni kama aliniforce kwa hii relationship. so I thought that maybe one day I will fall in love with him. I don’t know why I cant leave him, I don’t know why I am just stuck there, but he is the best guy I have ever met. Sijui nikuambie nini Maina, the problem ni sijawahi mfeel hata’BLACK-COUPLE-SAD-facebook

This situation is so true for men too who confessed to Maina that it’s not just women living in loveless marriages.

The first man said ‘I’m dating one of the famous journalists in Kenya right now tulipatana ten years ago. We have one kid but si mfeel kabisa, but sijawahi muonyesha niko tuu hapo juu ya mtoto wangu we live together, the problem is siwezi muonyesha na yeye hajawahi notice, sijawahi muonyesha siwezi, but niko na ka mpango, i cant leave her, yani anaenda hii family kabisa, and she still thinks she is my only one,’

A second man told of his agony

‘simfeel wangu simensi ako tuu hapo but hiyo feelingi iliisha kabia siwei mwambia aende analea vifaranga, i cant walk away unavumilia tuu kimwanaume, kitaliban, nitakaka mpaka watoto wakuwe wakubwa nitapata mapenzi uko inje, kwani iko shida?’

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10 powerful prayers every wife needs to pray over her husband

 

It’s the weekend and family time is here.

If you are a prayerful woman, use these ten Bible verses to pray for your marriage and if you want to develop a deeper relationship with your husband.
1. Ecclesiastes 4:12

“Also, one can be overpowered, but two together can put up resistance. A three-ply cord doesn’t easily snap.”

2. 1 Corinthians 13:2

“If I have the gift of prophecy and I know all the mysteries and everything else, and if I have such complete faith that I can move mountains but I don’t have love, I’m nothing.”

3. Ephesians 5:28-30

“That’s how husbands ought to love their wives — in the same way as they do their own bodies. Anyone who loves his wife loves himself. No one ever hates his own body, but feeds it and takes care of it just like Christ does for the church because we are parts of his body.”couple-praying

4. Romans 13:8

“Don’t be in debt to anyone, except for the obligation to love each other. Whoever loves another person has fulfilled the Law.”

5. 1 Corinthians 16:14

“Everything should be done in love.”

6. Song of Songs: 4:9-10

“You have captured my heart, my sister, my bride! You have captured my heart with one glance from your eyes, with one strand of your necklace. How beautiful is your loving, my sister, my bride! Your loving is so much better than wine, and your fragrance better than any perfume!”

7. 1 John 4:12

“No one has ever seen God. If we love each other, God remains in us and his love is made perfect in us.”

8. Psalm 143:8

“Tell me all about your faithful love come morning time, because I trust you. Show me the way I should go, because I offer my life up to you.”
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9. Ruth 1:16-17

“But Ruth replied, ‘Don’t urge me to abandon you, to turn back from following after you. Wherever you go, I will go; and wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord do this to me and more so if even death separates me from you.’”

10. Hebrews 10:24

“And let us consider each other carefully for the purpose of sparking love and good deeds.”

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Emotionally Divorced: 7 signs your wife has checked out of the marriage

 

Fellas, if you are looking at your wife taking her role as a mother and wife without complaining, do not for one minute think she is happy in her marriage.

She isn’t.

Confessions by women on the Classic 105 morning topic revealed that many absolutely no longer have respect for their husbands owing to terrible things you have done to her and never apologized or taken responsibility for.

Many men lose their wives but never realize that the wife has emotionally divorced him.

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An emotional divorce occurs when one partner is so fed up, he or she simply disconnects.

Here are 7 signs:
1. It seems like she has changed overnight: The truth is fellas, all the things you have done to her, have taken time and she has ignored all these things for too long and reached a point of no return.

2. She says she is ok and doesn’t have anything to talk about: It’s a fact that women love to argue, but when a woman is not even willing to talk about a problem, it may be too late – she has already become emotionally distant. Relationships

3. When she doesn’t touch you anymore, not even a hug: She is done fellas. When your wife shows a total lack of physical intimacy (not just in the bedroom, but in everyday life), then the connection you once had may be gone.

4. When the only thing she talks to you about are the kids or keeping the household running, there may not be a real connection between the two of you anymore.

5. If your wife is at a point where she uses any opportunity to criticize, point out your mistakes, or sounds pretty sarcastic and worse belittles you in public, fellas she is done, her foot is out the door.Black-married-couple-down-low

6. When she doesn’t ask where you are going, doesn’t call you to check up on you, she is done with you. We all know women can incessantly call to ask where you are to a point of it sounding like harassment, but if she den’t check up on you, she has emotionally divorced you.

7. When she doesn’t care to hang out with you there is a problem. In the beginning of your relationship, you probably couldn’t bear to go anywhere without your partner. As time passed and children came into the relationship, it became more natural that you both do things without the other, at least from time to time. When your plans virtually never involve your partner or his or her plans virtually never involve you, there is a lack of connection in your relationship.

 

 

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7 questions we all have about couples who argue in public

 

From Dj Mo and Size 8’s explosive drama in a public space to Vlogger Maureen Waititu and her ex Frankie shaming each other online, KOT are not short of tea to sip on.

The two couples have been very open about the tribulations in their marriage and their Youtube channel has this proof.

I don’t know about you, but I feel pretty awkward and downright uncomfortable,  if I have to witness a couple have a public disagreement. I am no sure if I should eavesdrop or nijipe shuguli.

The fault in our stars-The problem with DJ Mo and Size 8 airing their marital issues

Allowing bystanders to witness a fight can lead to more feelings of anger, embarrassment, humiliation and resentment possibly contributing to the end of the relationship.

As bystanders here are 7 questions we all have about the couple:

 

  • Did one of them have a bad day and venting is the way out or they’re going through something more serious?
  • Is he having an affair or is this negative energy about her cheating?TNMCoupleArgueBlame_feature-588x260

I had to leave my house at midnight cause of her – Corazon says about Maureen Waititu

  • Were they ever nice to each other before this or it’s kawaida for them to always fight and make-up?
  • Why bother being with each other?
  • How do you go home now and get into bed with each other as if nothing happened?
  • Does it turn them on or something weird BDSM lifestyle?
  • Are they trying to break up?

What do you think Classic 105 fam? Do other couples fights in public make you ask these key questions, or am I reading too much into peoples business?

 

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7 sacrifices every man must be willing to make to keep his family happy

To start a family and keep it happy men need to make some genuine sacrifices for the greater good. Here are the ten sacrifices a man must make to keep his family happy:

1. Change of lifestyle
It should come as no surprise that your lifestyle will change drastically after marriage. From staying out late at night, to going away on long weekends, things change when you start a family. You will also have to take care of  your health especially things like smoking, because you need to be there longer for your kids.

2. Practice tough love
It’s much tougher raising kids in this day and age, unlike our parents who didn’t have to worry about the digital age. A man must play this role especially for teenage children who are easily influenced by the outside world.

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3. Putting in time and werk
Time is probably the most important thing all men have to make to keep their families happy. Taking time off from your regular schedule to attend school functions, or even something as simple as taking your son to a football game. A father who doesn’t spedn time with his children willl never be able to recover lost time, once the children are all grown and have moved on with their lives.
4. Providing just like in the old times
Money or lack of it affects many marriages. A man may need to stop spending on some unnecessary things to now include his family’s new needs.

Watch video of Alicia Keys encouraging her 4-year-old son to put on nail polish
5. Giving up the dream job
Sometimes some men expect their families to always be ready to pack their bags as he chases his dream job wherever it may be. Children need to stay in a stable environment to be productive.

I could tell him send me Sh 1k’ – Juliani says of Bob Collymore

6. Putting your hobbies on hold
It starts with simple things like giving up use of the TV to kids to watch cartoons, to maybe using a matatu so that the wife uses the family car to do some hopping.

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7. Learning to let go
As a father you taught your son to ride his first bike, but now he as a grown up and is moving on, ca you learn to let him go? Other fathers have this need to hold on to their daughters, and watching her now dating and moving on with her man can be heartbreaking. Learning to let go is a sacrifice a man has to do.

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Akorino makeup artiste Carey Priscilla gushes about mother in law

 

Marriage works and prayer works. That’s the testimony from Akorino makeup artiste Carey Priscilla to her fans.

She told on her Instagram that she has prayed for her husband, her marriage and is proof that manifesting works.

She said while sharing a beautiful picture of her mother in law

‘`She did something that I didn’t expect and also said some amazing words . Like mtu ashawahi kukufanyia kitu unafeel like do I really deserve this kind of treatment or is it real but all I can say kindly be specific on your prayers . I used rto pray for my husband family and I wanted ot have a good relationship with them  and I can see that now God answered my prayers. If you are not married start praying for that husband be specific with what you want your husband to be like, coz prayer works. It is working for me’

The founder of Carey Beauty met her bae Benito Muriu have a one year old child and give us couple goals.

 

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I’m extremely powerful when I’m submitted in marriage – Mercy Masika

Gospel singer Mercy Masika dropped her thoughts on being submissive and her nuggets of wisdom got many thinking how true it is.

She asked that you don’t come for her but be patient she will soon explain.

 

Mercy on a note on her Instagram wrote

 

When I got married I was depressed at those manenos. I was like neeeveeer.
Until when I learnt the wisdom of God is better than mine own. Submission is not oppression..it is Honoring your hubby…its treating him with respect
I have so reaped the benefits of submission in marriage that I learnt I am extremely powerful when i am submitted.
To be continued on my YouTube channel before you stone me.

 

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‘I can’t wait’ Newly wed Lenana Kariba excited to reunite with wife soon

 

Kenyan actor Lenana Kariba is anxiously waiting for his wife to come to Kenya soon.

He told fans in a QnA that she is wrapping up things before coming to Kenyan in December.

He was asked about handling a long distance relationship’ how do you deal with long distance relationships..it’s so hard’

He responded ‘it can be really difficult being apart but a few things made sure wifey and I made it through.

  1. Communicate constantly

2. Make sue you stay on the same course

3. Have a clear end game

If you think this is the person for you don give up – it’s hard but it’s worth it

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He was also asked ‘‘when do you plan to visit Mombasa ..am also a newly wed’

He answered ‘congratulations and I will be at the coast in December for a beach break- I can’t wait’

The next question was ‘does wifey know swahili! Just curious’

‘He said ‘Her swahili isn’t bad..she understands more than she speaks back though. Her dad is completely fluent and even knows some kikuyu’

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Famous politicians who rarely/never share photos of their spouse

We know they are married or in some relationship, but we rarely see pictures of them together. We don’t even bump into them in public.

They leave their fans and followers with lots of questions. Here is our list of famous couples we rarely see together in public:

  1. Politician Kipchumba Murkomen: The Jubilee allied Senator is married and we have only seen one picture that he posted on his social media. We have never seen him out in public with his wife Gladys.murkomenwithfamilyinside_20140309
  2. Mutula Kilonzo Jr: The 44 year old Senator is perhaps the most discreet. He is focused on his work as a representative of the people of Makueni. We have ever seen his spouse Anita in public, yet they make such a cute couple.anita mutula
  3.  Gideon Moi: The Baringo Senator and his wife Zahra are rare couple to see in public. The couple below were spotted at the Tandui polling station during the 2017 election.gideob moi and wife zahra
  4. Johnson Sakaja: Nairobi Senator is quite poplar, and his efforts at ensuring Nairobi residents gets services hasn’t gone unnoticed.

    Meet Nairobi Senator Johnson Sakaja’s wife and children (Photos) sssa

  5. John Kiarie: Dagoretti South MP values being low key. We know he is married but have never seen his bae. Mhesh has always been a favorite with Kenyans especially dating back to his days as a comedian.jk--696x696
  6.  Naisula Lesuuda: She got married and that was the only time we saw a picture of her husband. As cute as they look in the wedding picture below, we have not seen them again in public or even on their social media.

    Meet Mutula Kilonzo Junior’s Gorgeous Wifey! (PHOTO)

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10 Signs your spouse is emotionally neglecting you

Emotional neglect could be a sign that your relationship is in trouble and you need to do something to arrest the situation.

Neglect in a relationship is when one spouse feels the connection fading, and you feel you are being taken for granted and no effort is being put in your marriage.

It hp[pens to the best of us. Here are signs you are emotionally neglected:

1.They never want to talk about your day

2. They intentionally refuse to argue when there is need to

3. They walk away mid argument, leaving you hanging

4. They shut down rather than open up

5. They don’t care for intimacy anymore and comfortably sleep away

6. Youu notice that they stopped being playful like before

7. Your partner refuses to make eye contact during conversation, if at all their is conversation

8.Your birthday, anniversary are forgotten and other important dates

9. They never congratulate you for any effort made or achievements made

10. They never understand why you’re upset because they are done

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5 unrealistic things guys expect from girls

Trying to make sense of what a man wants from you can be difficult.

 

But here is a rundown of some of the things that guys expect from girls, that tend to cause a strain in relationships.
1. He needs a friend with benefit, but will never marry a girl who has had many relationships

Expecting a girl to be your friend with benefit for life is unrealistic. Won’t she find someone to marry, and wait just one minute is that even possible to be a friend with benefit for life?

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I have heard it said from many men that there are two types of chicks – the one to have funwith and – the one to marry.

 

2. Girls are expected to be natural ( we love you natural girls) but at the same time she must be super stunning

Even the moon has dark spots.
Okay, a girl can look good while being natural. But how can she manage to look SUPER S3XY without makeup. Sure, girls have natural beauty, but it doesn’t mean that you can expect her to look like you wish. Shouldn’t guys expect that a girl be caring, honest and all those nice things?

3. Be committed but not wedding crazy

Every girl has planned her wedding by the time she is done with college, whether or not she has a man.

‘It will be a private affair’ Zari on her upcoming wedding to her new man

So expecting to date her without any mention of future plans is unrealistic.

The marriage topic WILL ALWAYS come up, and if she is committed to you, the subject will be there.

 

4. Being low maintenance while looking high maintenance

The expectation is that she should be both, but not trying too much.

If you want her to look like a “high maintenance” girl, you need to spend money on her for maintenance. The word itself says “high maintenance,” How can you expect her to look the same with almost no money?

‘No bras for me due to pain and scars in my right breast and lung’ Jahmby

5. Being distant while still showing interest

Now this is confusing to girls. She can’t be turned on and off like a switch.

Guys, either you are in or you are out.

Is this true and what have you done when faced with such a situation?

Beautiful pictures of Tanzanian singer Rosa Ree’s romantic engagement

 

Rosa Ree is off the market.

The beauty was proposed to by her long time boyfriend king_petrousse in a romantic dinner.

The two wore red for the intimate moment and posed for pictures after she said yes.

She complimented her outfit with stunning heels, as they shared a quick kiss to top the moment.

Rosa captioned the photo where she showed off the ring “Watu: “Amevishwa Pete sasa hivi ataacha kutoa ulimi nje”

Me: hahahaha… Aaarghh”

 

 

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A list of things to avoid telling a spouse who is leaving you

Covid has brought with it an end to many relationships and the confessions on Classic 105 about spouses being left during hard times is evidence enough.

When a spouse leaves or indicates they are leaving we search for the right words to keep them from leaving hoping they will listen.

Here is a list of things one should not tell their spouse if they are leaving or sadly have left.

  1. Yelling, begging and crying: We ususally hope that making them seeing our emotional pain will guilt trip them into staying, but actually serves to push them further away.

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2. Issuing idle threats: We tend to give ultimatums to anyone leavign that if they walk out the door, they shouldn’t even think about returning, yet in actual sense we are silently begging them to stay. They will run very far with the threats.

3. Empty promises: We tell our spouses we will reform, we will change so that they can stay. Question is, will it be temporary changes and then how will the spouse feel about being cheated> Only worse.

Signing divorce papers
Signing divorce papers

4. Guilty tripping them: Trying to flip the switch by making them feel they are responsible for the divorce won’t work. Perhaps you may accuse them of being with a secret boyfriend or girlfriend thus their reason for leaving, hoping they will admit to it and promise to leave that new relationship to work things out with you.  It won’t work.

5. Going DCI on her/him: Snooping to find out the reason behind leaving your marriage is a no no. We also snoop on their social media with the hopes of landing that screenshot to prove something. Focus on you and work on yourself.

The spouse leaving has already made up their mind and will go regardless. This in no way should you blame yourself.

You are not to blame for anything

No one is perfect and like above, work on yourself to become a better spouse. When they see the effort, genuine effort, they may reconsider.

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List of famous Kenyan men who’ve dated/married older women

 

The switch has been flipped *pun intended* and society is now contending with younger men dating older women.

The paradigm shift has recently been called into question when Gospel singer Guardian Angel said he is dating a 50 year old woman. So you can see where the hollaballo is coming from.

So here is a look back at Kenyan male celebrities mocked for dating or marrying older women.

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Guardian Angel

Guardian Angel has caused a stir online after he introduced his girlfriend who is twice his age. Angel, whose real name is Audiphaxad Peter Omwaka, recently announced he is dating fellow gospel singer Esther Musila, who is 50 years old. Kenyans on social media are split whether he is mad or love wins.

I AM PROUD OF MYSELF. #LOVEWINS❣. the singer wrote

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He added,

SOMETIMES THE MOST DIFFICUT SACRIFICE IS TO ABANDON THE COMFORTABLE MEDIOCRITY F WHO WE ARE AND EMBRACE THE BEAUTIFUL FEAR OF WHO WE’RE MEANT TO BE.

John Allan Namu

The hunky former KTN journalist is married to Sheena Makena, married in 2010 while working at KTN. He was only an intern at Standard Group while Sheen was an editor.

“When were started working together at KTN, I was an intern and i was scared… And she was a scary editor like anybody who remembers Makena was like “if you don’t have your time codes get out’ you know. And interestingly enough we just started to vibe and we talked a lot like when we were in the edit suite we had a lot of stories. I would often get late, a lot of my stories would run late because we were talking and that sort of thing,” John Allan Namu narrated during an interview with Ebru TV.

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Bahati
He has been nicknamed Mtoto wa Diana, his wife Diana Marua, who is alleged to be way older than him. They are cyber bullied for this fact and once on their youtube channel, Bahati apologized to Diana asaying his fame has hurt her. “Right now Diana is in the public eye because of me. She has been abused because of me. She is hitting a million followers for the wrong stories,” he said.People say she is at least ten years older, but we dont know for sure.

Bahati with Diana Marua

Pastor Pius Muiru
His wife Lucy is older and they have been together over 20 years. The televangelist who runs the Maximum Miracle Centre in Nairobi, lavishes praise on her alot, describing her as a loving, beautiful, compassionate spouse.

Diamond Platnumz and Zari Hassan
Although now long divorced or separated, Zari and Diamond got the streets talking and debating about their age. We knew Diamonds age, but never Zaris’ after they hooked up in 2017. According to claims she made as recent as 2019. she was born in 1980, while Diamond was born in 1989.

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‘Gathooo, ataringa leo..” Loulou Hassan on age gap with husband Rashid

 

Media personality Loulou Hassan recently indulged her fans in QnA on Instagram that she never does. A curious fan asked why now and she said ‘just felt like’

Loulou is married to Rashid Abdalla and was asked what she likes the most about him. She replied ‘wisdom’

Another follower asked about her marriage and ‘what’s the secret to a successful marriage  and staying in love with ones partner for so many years?’loulou and rashid military outfti

She had four pointers to help

‘Communication, Friendship, Respect, Commitment’ Adding ‘the rest will fall into place’.

The two Kiswahili anchors are couple goals to many and Loulou also revealed more personal details of their age difference with one fan thinking she is older than Rashid. They asked ‘is it true you are older than Rashid?’

An amused Loulou said “ghathoooo, ataringa leo…but naah Rash is 39 and am 37′

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I called my lovers wife to tell her I want to get married to her husband

Classics Maina Kageni was left astounded after a side chick confessed to him that her married lover allowed her to call his wife and tell her they want to get married.

This all happened during a morning conversation on Friday where Maina asked single girls why they go for married men, yet he is wasting their time.

This particular woman called in and said she wasted 11 years of her life dating her married lover because she assumed he would marry her. He didn’t and left her to return to his wife.

“let me tell you Maina. I’ve been with this guy 11 years, a married man and my thought was maybe he will leave his wife for me, because he kept saying he is tired he is not comfortable with his marriage and I was ok and that I was good. So I thought this guy was serious and I was ready for that. Unfortunatley he didn’t leave he, so let me tell ladies they just cheat us hawa watu ni waongo”crying woman

The married man went back to his wife leaving her humiliated.

“So after 11 years of wasting my life , he went back to his wife, nilijipoteza kabsa. I got a child with him and he doesn’t recognize the child. It is so painful, he doesn’t take care of the child, he gives me  nothing and when I tell him I want another man he tells me he will kill me so I’m like, I’m insecure. Halalfu sasa miaka imesonga, now I’m 34. So I was with him since I was 23 na niliona niko na life na yeye”crying woman

“One day he allowed me to call his wife to tell her about us, to see whether this guy was serious and he was there when I was calling his wife, and he told em he didn’t have a problem with me calling his wife, and I told her I want to settle with her husband, and then she told me according to yeye mimi si wa kwanza ata ako na wengine so I go on, maina let me tell you these guys they are so good when it comes to pamper us lakini hauna promise ya marriage”

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Man proposes with message on the beach during romantic helicopter ride

What has your man done for you lately?

A man topped off his epic proposal to his fiancée with a request to her written on the beach that he ensured she saw as he flew her around.

The unidentified couple took her on a romantic helicopter ride and the happy news has gone viral on social media.

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The couple land on the helipad where he flashes out a ring on bended knees.

While he has been praised for the amazing proposal, others say it’s too much.
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The helicopter experience got her so emotional, that she cried when she saw the writings on the beach.

 

In the meantime

 

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Stingy man forces his wife to tell Maina Kageni their marriage is a scam

 

On the Friday August 6 morning conversation with Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King’ang’i, a man and his wife amused when they said their marriage is a scam, but they won’t leave each other.

The topic arose from a question posed to Maina by his friend that marriage and not love is a scam.

Kenyan women don’t love, they manipulate. How true is this Maina asks

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Both sexes agreed that marriage is a scam and not love. They also inssited peopel should not have makasiriko about it because it’s just life.

A Classic 105 fan who calls himself Baba Zuri aka Stingy Men’s association chairman Kenya, told Maina in a hilarious conversation that his marriage is a scam. He even put his wife on the line to tell Maina the same.

“Let me tell you. This is baba Zuri South b chairman of stingy men association. In our last conference, we told men , love is a scam it is the biggest ever, hata mimi nilijaribu. Even in High school, I had many relationships, hii kitu usiwahi weka kwa roho, ni kama tuu school syllabus ikiisha unabadilisha. Maina my wife is here, let her tell you it is a scam”

His wife greets Maina and says “I think what baba zuri is saying is true tuko tuu on toes incase of anything I am ready to walk away from him coz this thing is just a scam, love is a scam yeah we are just here because of zuri, hatupendani sana”

The husband took back the phone telling Maina “nakuambia hii kitu usiweke roho, kama sisi tulisema hatutakufia mtu,  bado tutabaki marafiki, tukikosana”

An amused Maina laughed as he couldn’t believe such a phone call from a couple.

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