7 sacrifices every man must be willing to make to keep his family happy

To start a family and keep it happy men need to make some genuine sacrifices for the greater good. Here are the ten sacrifices a man must make to keep his family happy:

1. Change of lifestyle
It should come as no surprise that your lifestyle will change drastically after marriage. From staying out late at night, to going away on long weekends, things change when you start a family. You will also have to take care of  your health especially things like smoking, because you need to be there longer for your kids.

2. Practice tough love
It’s much tougher raising kids in this day and age, unlike our parents who didn’t have to worry about the digital age. A man must play this role especially for teenage children who are easily influenced by the outside world.

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3. Putting in time and werk
Time is probably the most important thing all men have to make to keep their families happy. Taking time off from your regular schedule to attend school functions, or even something as simple as taking your son to a football game. A father who doesn’t spedn time with his children willl never be able to recover lost time, once the children are all grown and have moved on with their lives.
4. Providing just like in the old times
Money or lack of it affects many marriages. A man may need to stop spending on some unnecessary things to now include his family’s new needs.

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5. Giving up the dream job
Sometimes some men expect their families to always be ready to pack their bags as he chases his dream job wherever it may be. Children need to stay in a stable environment to be productive.

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6. Putting your hobbies on hold
It starts with simple things like giving up use of the TV to kids to watch cartoons, to maybe using a matatu so that the wife uses the family car to do some hopping.

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7. Learning to let go
As a father you taught your son to ride his first bike, but now he as a grown up and is moving on, ca you learn to let him go? Other fathers have this need to hold on to their daughters, and watching her now dating and moving on with her man can be heartbreaking. Learning to let go is a sacrifice a man has to do.

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Woman reveals fiancé delayed wedding ceremony for side chick

 

Moments leading to a wedding ceremony are tense, with the couple hoping it will kick off on time and without a hitch.

Sadly, this was not the case for one woman who recalls her anxiety waiting for her fiancé to receive her at the alter.

He was nowhere to be seen as family and friends waited to witness their vows.

She wrote of the humiliating moment as it finally dawned on her why he was late.

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The woman identified as Twitter user Lihle Zondi wrote  that

I discovered during my marriage that the reason my Ex husband was late to the ceremony of our wedding was that he went to see the women he was cheating on me with. He’s grooms men (friends) knew about it they waited for him inside the car while he s33 and made me wait.

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Adding that

I literally had everyone waiting I began freaking out because everyone wasn’t answer my calls Including he’s friends, im thinking the worse. Than they show up and lie that the car had a breakdown meanwhile he was out cheating.

All the while, his groomsmen were in the know but kept quiet because of this thing called bro-code

Those asking how I found out it was actually he’s brother who told me this i was so angry with myself I felt naive for not questioning things my divorce almost sent me into depression the whole thing was hard I’ve only stay strong through supportive people and praying.cheating on phone

People have responded to her tragic story with kind but cautionary words. Read below:

@Pavinco3..
Guys are taking this bro code too extreme man!!!! It also in the bro code to correct your friend when he is about to do something stupid

@BoiketloZA..
Ladies, check his circle first

@mxshxbelx..
Here is something you ladies probably won’t like to hear, cheating is normal for a lot of men. It might not be right, but that’s what men do. The fact that he is marrying you doesn’t mean he will ever stop. It just means you’re the main chick.

@iamdahmmie..
Guys and nonsense bro code…no wonder they wouldn’t want their friends to date their sisters

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@empressboity..
My friend told me the other day hes been cheating on his gf, all his friends have met and chilled with the new girl. They having sex on the gf bed and even the neighbours are aware. He was bragging that the gf will never believe anyone who tells her the truth 🤯🤔
@nubian6..

Most men have their side chicks coming to their weddings, they even come to the main table to greet and congratulate you

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Man discovers he slept with his own mother in wifes revenge plan

They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

One man was horrified when he discovered he had mistakenly slept with his mother without realizing it.

The mans experience was recounted by a friend on classic 105, in a tale that tickled many.

He confessed that the incident was as a result of the mans bad habit of bedding the house maid late at night as his wife slept.

He used to sleep with housegirls and the woman of the house planned his downfall after the housegirl told her she had a confession.

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The maid told the lady of the house that ‘there is something I want to tell you mum and please don’t tell daddy (the names she used to refer to her employer and the husband) so she said if I tell you the truth please don’t chase me coz I don’t have anywhere to go. He used to come to my bedroom everyday, and he even gave me double the salary, so the affair went on.house-help-with-a-husband

So the lady wanted to know what exactly happens, and the maid said that ‘he told me to sleep without clothes so it’s easier for him to do it.’

The wife got upset with this information andd plotted her husbands downfall. She convinced the maid to exchange places so that the drunk husband could fall for the trap.

True to form, the drunk husband slipped inside the maids room, did his thing and left to go sit in the living room.

The wife was shocked how much stamina the husband has for the maid but not for her.

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The saddest incident happened, when one day the mans mother came visiting. His mother was given the maids room, and the wife did not warn her husband (remember the husband all along thinks the wife doesn’t know what he has been doing with the maid). So the drunk husband comes home late again, and makes his way to the maids room. He doesn’t notice anything and sleeps with the woman in the room.

The wife the next morning then told the man that he shouldn’t leave the house because his mother arrived last night. She further informs him that his mother is asleep in the maids room, and so he should wait to see her.

The man then realized that he had slept with his own mother, and the shock was too much.

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I’ve tried dumping my stubborn girlfriend 50 times

 

In Kenya we say in Kiswahili that ‘ukiwachwa kubali kuachika’, which in English means if someone leaves you just accept and move on.

Yet this is the nightmare that one Kenyan man is finding hard to deal with.

In a confession on Classic 105 radio, the man told Maina Kageni that he has unsuccessfully tried dumping his stubborn girlfriend, but she won’t leave.

His multiple attempts at kicking her out of his house have backfired and he is now a very frustrated man.

What would possess a woman to refuse to be dumped and stay in the mans house despite him saying he is done?

He explains

I have tried to chase my girlfriend away from my house close to 50 times and she refuses to go, and she is still here infact I sent her sister a message to tell her to leave kwa amani, yeye amekataa na amesema haendi haendi,

How do you deal with someone who refuses to get dumped? And another question, how do you get a stubborn person to leave?

The man continued about his depressing story saying that

I don’t know what to do, itabidi ninganngane na hali yangu, wanaume huku nje wanaumia they just don’t talk about it

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7 questions we all have about couples who argue in public

 

This past weekend the explosive story trending online was about singer Size 8 and Dj Mo’s drama in a public space.

The couple have been very open about the tribulations in their marriage and their Youtube channel has this proof.

I don’t know about you, but I feel pretty awkward and downright uncomfortable,  if I have to witness a couple have a public disagreement. I am no sure if I should eavesdrop or nijipe shuguli.

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Allowing bystanders to witness a fight can lead to more feelings of anger, embarrassment, humiliation and resentment possibly contributing to the end of the relationship.

As bystanders here are 7 questions we all have about the couple:

 

  • Did one of them have a bad day and venting is the way out or they’re going through something more serious?
  • Is he having an affair or is this negative energy about her cheating?TNMCoupleArgueBlame_feature-588x260

 

  • Were they ever nice to each other before this or it’s kawaida for them to always fight and make-up?
  • Why bother being with each other?
  • How do you go home now and get into bed with each other as if nothing happened?
  • Does it turn them on or something weird BDSM lifestyle?
  • Are they trying to break up?

What do you think Classic 105 fam? Do other couples fights in public make you ask these key questions, or am I reading too much into peoples business?

 

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Maina screams his lungs out after hilarious chat with drunk woman

A drunk woman entertained Maina and King’ang’i with her tale about why some married women wet the bed (I thought it’s men who do this) and flirt endlessy with men when intoxicated.

Maina sought to know from angry men why it is a problem whata  woman does with her life to which Kingangi responded saying ‘kuolewa itakuwa ngumu.’

Her slurred speech and bizarre excuse for being drunk early morning cracked the ribs of the talk show host who was curious if she was drunk as Kingang’i tried to drown out her explanation.

The woman was contributing to the morning conversation why Kenyan women are drinking more than ever and gave her testimony

‘”Kingangi unataka hii economy irudi nyuma, shida ya wamawake ni kukunywa na kukojoa. I am buying alcohol with my own money, what’s wrong with that? What’s wrong with you King’ang’i? If I met you when I was a drunkard, and then you still married me, why do you have issues that I am still drinking? The only problem arises when we wives wet the bed. Ile shida tunakuwanga nayo ni kujikojolea, hio hatukatai alafu we find every man attractive. Hio tuu ndio shida. I will continue to be your wife shida iko wapi? kingangi shid aiko wapi? tunajikojolea kwasababu kabla ukimbie kwa choo inatoka, nataka watuambie shida ni nini, saa hii nimeguza kidogo, nishatoa lock kidogo tuu hivi tuu, siwezi acha, ehh mimi ni mangaa”

She sent Maina Kageni into hysterics and we all know that when he can’t talk all he says is ‘nie digehota’. That was the end of th conversation with the city mum.

 

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Top 4 Reasons women suddenly leave their partners

You’ve been dating or married for sometime and you thought everything was going fine. Then you come home to find she has suddenly disappeared, and she won’t pick your calls, text back or have any for of communication with you.

Why did she leave suddenly, yet everything seemed rosy? Here are four plain reasons why women just pack and leave

 
1. Your partner/spouse felt like you became more like a sibling than a partner, so there is no need to put effort in a relationship where a spouse is now like a sibling. is there?

2. Your partner/spouse felt ignored and unappreciated throughout the relationship.

3. Your partner/spouse met someone else who fills the gap her man is not able to.

4. Your partner/spouse doesn’t have anything in common with you anymore, so the lack of connection leads to her decision t pack and leave suddenly.black-couple-sad

Sometimes women have no idea how to voice what they need if they are in a relations that just isn’t working for them.

Other times they struggled silently for months or years, then get to the red line or what we all call our breaking point. Do men know women have a breaking point or they think they can push our buttons endlessly

Another reason is if she tried to talk about what she felt, but the man brushed it off and she continued, then it turned into a fight.

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My boyfriend added his side chick to our Whatsapp group

The person who came up with the phrase ‘love is blind’ knew exactly what they were talking about, Because WOW!!!

A woman, who is an events planner, had a rather rude shock from her man. She describes in a somewhat hilarious manner how he formed a group for them

 

He cheated when I found out he decided to introduced me to the girl and surprisingly I didn’t have a problem with it, then he went on and created a whatsapp group added me and the new Bae, we used to talk on that group we were even planning a vacation.

Every morning he would Greet us in the group like “Good morning my two beautiful wives” and we would each reply “morning love

She is so chilled out about the relationship and reveals why she isn’t stressed

Right there and then I realized that I have no problem with polygamy marriage at all.
Guys I’m not making this up, this is the girl we still talk.
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Her confession has triggered a flood of question with many asking how they were able to cooperate, whether they did 3Sums, and to date how things are going. Really guys?
Read how people are praising the man and calling him a legend:
@lwandz08..
Legendary stuff, can he be invited as a guest speaker to the men’s conference next year!!! 😂 😂 😂 😂, I still can’t believe what I have just read 😭😭😭@mandla20..
This guy should be given the podium for an hour in next year’s mens [email protected]
He’s our Secretary General for next year’s men’s conference

@dumanimbatha..
In respect…i salute ur ex…he was living on another planet…a true legend…tell him …i said i owe him money ye six pack..4 doing the most 😂😂

@EduWaltzChuka..
This guy is a legend. Whatever he did tou you girls should be studied in school.

@preetyani..
This is actually very possible when you’re in love. I have been in a very similar situation and I wonder why I didn’t mind.

@kgotthi..
This is what happens when you’re in a relationship for your partner and not for yourself

@Oture..
Reminds me of this girl who created a WhatsApp group and added all the guys in the squad she had smashed

Married man confesses obsession with mother in law

A married man has shocked many after he revealed that he is having an affair with his mother-in-law. He wrote to a relationship expert, confessing that he has been sleeping with his mother-in-law behind his wife’s back and he’s addicted to her.

Also read;

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‘I had se3 with my mother-in-law in April and after that I tried to forget about it but I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I keep on having e**ctions and it’s painful. I mast**bate but I can’t stop thinking about her. Last week she called me to her house and we had se3 again. I blok her number but I end up blocking her and call,’ he wrote.

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Check out reactions;

secret_toolz So ur mother in law is your side chick. Only Jesus can save

dami Where was your wife when all this was happening???. Ahn God don’t use my husband to punish me for my sins and mistakes. This one is cursed.

olorianikeola You have a crown in hell fire already,

twinkles_ng Oh wow, this is more than s** it’s more than love. You need thorough prayers and deliverance

_edithakinyi You are cursed

oyin_damola It’s very wrong bro

 

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List of famous Kenyan men who’ve dated/married older women

 

The switch has been flipped *pun intended* and society is now contending with younger men dating older women.

The paradigm shift has recently been called into question when Gospel singer Guardian Angel said he is dating a 50 year old woman. So you can see where the hollaballo is coming from.

So here is a look back at Kenyan male celebrities mocked for dating or marrying older women.

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Guardian Angel

Guardian Angel has caused a stir online after he introduced his girlfriend who is twice his age. Angel, whose real name is Audiphaxad Peter Omwaka, recently announced he is dating fellow gospel singer Esther Musila, who is 50 years old. Kenyans on social media are split whether he is mad or love wins.

I AM PROUD OF MYSELF. #LOVEWINS❣. the singer wrote

gua

He added,

SOMETIMES THE MOST DIFFICUT SACRIFICE IS TO ABANDON THE COMFORTABLE MEDIOCRITY F WHO WE ARE AND EMBRACE THE BEAUTIFUL FEAR OF WHO WE’RE MEANT TO BE.

John Allan Namu

The hunky former KTN journalist is married to Sheena Makena, married in 2010 while working at KTN. He was only an intern at Standard Group while Sheen was an editor.

“When were started working together at KTN, I was an intern and i was scared… And she was a scary editor like anybody who remembers Makena was like “if you don’t have your time codes get out’ you know. And interestingly enough we just started to vibe and we talked a lot like when we were in the edit suite we had a lot of stories. I would often get late, a lot of my stories would run late because we were talking and that sort of thing,” John Allan Namu narrated during an interview with Ebru TV.

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Bahati
He has been nicknamed Mtoto wa Diana, his wife Diana Marua, who is alleged to be way older than him. They are cyber bullied for this fact and once on their youtube channel, Bahati apologized to Diana asaying his fame has hurt her. “Right now Diana is in the public eye because of me. She has been abused because of me. She is hitting a million followers for the wrong stories,” he said.People say she is at least ten years older, but we dont know for sure.

Bahati with Diana Marua

Pastor Pius Muiru
His wife Lucy is older and they have been together over 20 years. The televangelist who runs the Maximum Miracle Centre in Nairobi, lavishes praise on her alot, describing her as a loving, beautiful, compassionate spouse.

Diamond Platnumz and Zari Hassan
Although now long divorced or separated, Zari and Diamond got the streets talking and debating about their age. We knew Diamonds age, but never Zaris’ after they hooked up in 2017. According to claims she made as recent as 2019. she was born in 1980, while Diamond was born in 1989.

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‘My man loves me yet I met him while procuring an abortion,’ Brags woman

Does where you meet a man determine whether he will marry you or not ?Well this is the dilemma one woman has found herself in.

They say you can meet the love of your life in a bar, church or at a bus stop but for * Nelly she met him as she was visiting a clinic to carry out an abortion.

Yes you read that right. The problem is that every time Nelly gets pregnant he takes her for an abortion and she feels he is using her past to judge her.

“My priest tried to penetrate me from behind,”cries city woman

Narrating her sad ordeal on a social media platform, she says

” I met him on my way to go and do abortion, because he was so nice I opened up to him, told him everything and he loved me for me.

I wanted him to taste my body before I take out the pregnancy so we had S#x in the car that same day , after s#x he drove me to the place I did the abortion and even paid and bought me drugs . 

Since then we have been dating and he is so sweet .

Photos of Beril Ouma woman allegedly killed by her husband in Kahawa

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He does everything for me but I am scared he might not marry me I am scared because anytime we get intimate and I tell him I am pregnant, he will just drive me straight to where he met me and pay for the abortion

He even collected the docs number, I have 3 of his pregnancies since we met and I feel that he is judging me with my past .

Do you think he will marry me or should I ask just  him?”

Woman narrates how man used and abused her body during s#xual ordeal

Below are some of the comments some full of wisdom while some are straight to the point

doyinsolatolulope:Some ladies eh,they r just a disgrace.. Mumu, he will marry you you think he is so stupid like you. Uncle is using you as a mopping stick. When u r not useful again then you will know whatsapp

goldshuga_zika:Helping you destroy your future & you ask if he’s gullible enough to wanna be part of what he destroys?….Hell no! You’re just a tool for distraction & evacuation. He ain’t dating but using you. I’m sure his real gf is somewhere prolly still a Virgin. Please grow up.

posh_alicia:Seriously!!! You don’t need to cos he will not marry you gosh!!! Wake up

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I divorced my husband after he tried poisoning me while pregnant

A discussion on Thursday morning about how divorce has become an easy option for women led to a confession that sounded crazy.

Maina Kageni weighed in on why women are quick to divorce nowadays saying there is no point for a woman to stay in an unhappy marriage, and should walk out ASAP.

ati our mothers use to vumulia being beaten just because of for better or worse. Nie reke nemwo.

Ati stay with a man who mistreats you, disrespects you and violates you because of the vows he swore on?

I’ll never ever go back on my belief ladies that if your being mistreated, walk out.

if a man hits you and you forgive him, he will hit you again, I swear Maina advised, that is a fact. If a man hits you once he will do ti again

A female caller confessed that her husband started trying to poison her when she gave birth.

I walked out and I’m telling it’s not an easy road but it’s comfortable. I’m happy I walked out 12 years ago, oh my goodness, what did he do? when I was pregnant at one point he tried food poisoning me. He wanted to kill me nd my child because he had so many affairs he was trying to figure out the best way to eliminate us. And then when my baby was almost two months old,  he set house on fire that’s now when I walked out that was too much, I’m happy

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Her sentiments were echoed by another woman who said ‘if your living with a man who is full of anger how can you survive how can you survive, if you’re living with a man who gives you silent treatment, who asks you to leave anytime you have an argument, how can you survive?

However this theory didn’t hold with one man saying ‘the most of these women who are beaten and mistreated are the ones who are staying the one leaving are leaving for petty issues, the mistreated ones oh ati alejandro alifanya hivi na wewe hufanyi, women are leaving for petty stupid issues,’

Is his judgment a little too harsh? No according to Wakanai who said ‘Marriage is not easy venye sisi tunawavumilia pia wao watuvumilie.’

Maina’s co host Mwalimu agreed adding that ‘Marriage is an institution tukona wewe mpaka mwisho.’

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Prophet bashed for demanding that future wife must have ‘childbearing hips’

Fellas, what qualities do you look for in a womn you want to date and eventually marry? Must she be light skin, a certain heaight, working, does housework? Anything like this?

Well a Prophet on Facebook has caught the attention of people after his long list of what he expects from his future wife and most of us sistas are disqualified.

Here is his list in the screenshot taken below

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The pastor has been mercilessly trolled
@acolelife..
My sincerest apologies to my sisters who are not light skin, who are of Stallion height and over 5’4, who can’t sing, and anyone else who was immediately disqualified from applying. Red heart

@BenderTheBoss..
Can’t respect a guy whose entire face is in the middle of his face. Like his head grew but his face is still 5 years old. I’m perplexed.

@MichaelDrvke..
Yo what is really going on with my man’s fits? They are straight trash! Lmao

Coley Cole..
Sis I’m just as confused. His list has me hollering and he looks like Alvin the Chipmunk prophetinfb

@EmmanuelFreshh..
Number 10 is ridiculous!
Between 5ft & 5’4”!? Boy you blockin a whole lotta blessings lol

@Official_Chanel..
He got some nerve !! We have to meet a 13 numbered list and this Creflo no dollars don’t even got 13 teethRolling on the floor laughing

@DeWayne_Da_Pain..
If he’s a “ Prophet “ he should know no woman in that category will want him

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3 things Kenyan billionaires have said about marriage

 

The lives of the super rich in Kenyan and their long or short marriages has many of us talking.

While the wives prefer to keep a low profile, their men are in the public, not on social media, but out there making money moves. A few of them have opened up about their marriages and we take a look at Manu Chandaria, Chris Kirub and Uasin Gishu tycoon Jackson Kibor and what they have said about marriage.

  1. Manu Chandari: In an interview with Betty Kyallo in 2019, the rich tycoon opened up about marrying his partner after 64 years together. manuchandariaweddingHe told about his decision that compromise is the key ingredient to keeping everything intact.”64 (years) is a long time and the only thing is that how comes it has continued. It’s because of give and take from both sides and consideration for each other. Love drives off after a period of time, but consideration of each other always makes life a possibility. She (Aruna) is 85 and I am 90 but she has the last word” he said in an interview with the Standard.Kenyans have lauded him as a very humble rich man.
  2. Jackson Kibor: He has been in a public tiff with his ex wives and numerous children over his wealth. Kibor filed for his third divorce in 2019. Mr. Kibor divorced his third wife Naomi Jeptoo just 14 months after divorcing his second wife whom he accused of deserting their home and mistreating him. He spoke bitterly about marriage saying in an interview with the Star that”She has really frustrated me and teamed up with her children to even beat me at times. Am happy with the court ruling and I will even get fat”, Kibor said after the ruling.jackson kibor files for divorceKibor had been married to the third wife for more than 43 years and 52 years with the second wife who he divorced in 2017.

    Wairimu said in her ruling that the marriage had irretrievably broken down.

  3. Chris Kirubi: The businessman is super wealthy and opened up about marriage to Churchill on September 21. In the Youtube interview he had mixed feeling s about marriage saying ‘Marriage is enslavement and you have to be careful. You have to agree to go into slavery and into ‘jail’,” he said adding that those who find the right partner can live a happy life but some are left to wallow in enslavement for choosing the wrong partner,” he said.”If you marry a good woman, it is such a pleasure. But there are some women, who are like they first went to the army then came back for you to marry them. They are always in a fighting mood. God has to bless you.”
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    Chris Kirubi in a file photo

    The father of two further pointed out that Ugandan women have a soft spot in his heart.

    “They have hospitality….a Ugandan woman will remove your shoes, ask how your day was, she will even dress you up,” he said.

    “You will never fight with them, they are very polite, If you have never experienced, get a one-way ticket as you might never come back.”

    He added that Kenyan women also have their good characteristics.

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Me Whipped? 4 reasons why your man is not ready for marriage 

 

When a man says he is not ready for marriage, should a girl wait?

Growing up girls know the natural progression is marriage, babies and everything else. But the same doesn’t apply to fellas and here is where the tag of war begins.

While details of everyone’s relation could differ, there are a couple of reasons/similarities in our experiences with men.

If your man is telling you he’s not ready for marriage, here’s why

5 things a wife means when she says she needs space

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  1. He’s evasive about marriage: Celebrities like Diamond Platnumz has stalled several times in marrying two of his baby mam’s after publicly declaring his intention to. He never put a date to it. If he is evasive about the future and doesn’t talk or want to chat about getting married, he is not ready to take the plunge.
  2. He’s selfish: You could date for years but not really know if they’re wasting your time if the end game for the two of you is not clear – marriage- and the the details surrounding this event.
  3. Indecisiveness:  if he can’t make a decision perhaps he isn’t ready for marriage because he procrastinates way too much about personal relationships. His lack of decision making is a major sign siz.
  4. He fears marriage: Give up his freedom? NEVER! He is downright fearful. I have heard many men say they live in a constant state of fear over losing their freedom and aren’t motivated to walk down the aisle.

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I will marry you out of gratitude but I’m in love with someone else

A bizarre text exchange between a man and woman about marrying for gratitude caught my attention, and for a good reason. It’s something that has landed couples in bad situations mostly …death.

The shocking text shared online shows a female student Sarah telling a man who paid her college fees that she will marry him only because he educated her, but she is madly in love with someone else. Ouch!!

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People shared their horro at the situation in the second screenshot of the text message
@I_Am_limp..
Well she clearly said she didn’t tell him coz he was paying for her education
@obe2004lix2007..Sad though she’s honest but she took advantage knowing well the guy was so much into her to go that extra mile

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@BwalyaCS1..The guy needs to just let her go
@I_Am_limp..
The truth is a bit too late, she should have been honest from the beginning not after 5yrs. And him begging is normal at the moment give him a few days he will be alright.

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@KellyChaka..
Both were crooked, the man used his financial position to lure the lady and the lady used that privilege to better her education and gain Independence. That’s why some men never pay for their lady’s education unless she is the wife.
@luv_zed..
She said and spoke her truth ,
His asking her to stay when she Clearly told him she doesn’t love him.
Why would he still say stay he needs to let her go she spoke her truth.

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luv_zed..
This made me sad honestly
Still shes willing to stay even if she does not love him no more.
I feel its best he lets her go and take the L but his not willing to do that
This is hurting both of them honestly
He needs to let her Go . Take the L
Its life.

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My wife should ask for permission five months prior to see her relatives

Is a marriage healthy when one spouse has to ask for permission to do anything, even leave the house to go shopping?

That is the challenge facing one Kenyan marriage after a man bragged how hi wife is required to ask for permission at least five months in advance, if she wants to see her relatives.

The humiliation and embarrassment he puts her through stems from the fact that way too many Kenyan women have the freedom to do whatever they want nowadays.

Therapists and other marital experts says that different decisions require different input from your spouse. For instance if you want to make a major career move, then that requires your spouses input, but others like going to the supermarket only requires notifying g him as courtesy.

I have to beg my husband for permission to post on Facebook

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So this husband doesn’t believe his wife can be entrusted to make a good decision.

He told a stunned Maina Kageni that

‘There are these things called womens rights, they want to won things, they need freedom to go anywhere without being asked questions. But sio kwangu. She cannot go anywhere even if I’m not performing, they should remian at home look after me and kids. If I’m not performing I can give her money to make up for it. But she should ask for permission because I own her, even her name changes to mine. I expect my wife to ask for permission if she wants to go somewhere she is mine and she should behave the way I say and she should tow the line because she got that rib from me. I can’t allow my women to hop from bed to bed without permission. She should ask for permission five months prior to see her relatives’

A little bit harsh if you ask me, but to each his own.

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These are the signs of a controlling husband: 

He separates your from your family and friends

He constantly criticizes you

He manipulates you into getting what he wants

Overly jealous

They need to know everything

Girls do you have such a husband and what do you do? Drop your comments below.

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I have to beg my husband for permission to post on Facebook

Misery loves company, or so a bitter wife suggested in a confession to Classic 105.

What prompted her harsh criticism of her husband? A discussion about wives needing space in their marriage.

Men and women revealed a huge divide in how spouses take this statement.

Host Maina Kageni even commented about it saying ‘the way men understand it is different. Girls can you please tell them what you mean when you say you want freedom?’

A bitter wife whispered her thoughts about needing space, saying she is also restricted from being online. Yes, while the rest of us are posting all manner of rubbish, she can’t share a selfie or anything.

She bitterly complained to Maina that

 ‘I can’t post a picture online without my husband giving me grief. You know it’s been tough. I haven’t been working since corona and our Industry was heavily affected, I can’t tell you where I work, but it’s bad. Yani I can’t just leave the house without telling him, I feel like I am just exhausted, Maina you just lose yourself when you get married to a man, yet I’m still me, maina it’s crazy’

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Stories of men banning their wives from socia media are not too common as only a few can be controlling.

Do those who do so perhaps fear the interactions their wives will have and perhaps reason that she will sleep with anyone and everyone?

Dear men, please tell the Classic 105 fam, why you feel threatened by your wife using social media.

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