Today Maina Kageni spoke about a rather sad issue that has captivated the nation this week. The presenter’s topic was based on the recent murder’s of Joyce Syombua and her two kids.
Early reports point to Joyce’s ex and father of her 2 kids of allegedly committing the crime. The popular presenter wondered why people stayed in such toxic pairings considering that people who knew the couple had repeatedly told them to go their separate ways.
He asked, ‘It was a toxic relationship. What makes people keep in contact?
Maina opened the floor up to the gallery. One of the most interesting stories was from a police officer who gave his experience with a bad relationship.
He told Mr. Kageni;
I am a police officer and have dealt with this girl for over 10 years. We had 2 kids together. She got a group of female friends who were not good. I was deployed to Tana River for 7 months. When I came back I found she was 2 months pregnant. She wanted to abort but I convinced her not to. When she gave birth she told me what had happened. I then told her to leave my home and go to the man who made her pregnant. I told her that I will start afresh. Go on with your life and I will go on with mine.
The man advised Kenyans to leave toxic relationships in the past and move on. Other interesting comments are below;
It is desperation. We are always optimistic that things will become better. It is now 6 years and I am still trying to get him back. We have one kid. For us mothers, we stay with the fathers for the kids. He has moved on but I will keep trying.-A woman told Mr. Kageni.
I give that police officer credit for his advice-A man said.
That man is a real gentleman. When you forgive her you are giving her psychological torture. We need other men to be like that gentlemen. It is good to let go-A man said.
It is not a must that people must get married-A man said.
I watched my mother beaten by my father and I refused to go through that myself-A woman said.
Ladies are committing themselves to men because of money-A man said.
I know someone else like that policeman. Watering this dead tree which many women are doing-A man said.
We have problems because the women aren’t being taught the right ways and even the men. Marriage will get destroyed if things keep on going the way they are. These problems are there because children aren’t being taught well-A man said.