Maina and King’ang’i had a vigourous conversation today regarding men who complained that their kids are kept away from them by the kid’s mothers.
Maina was shocked that such a thing could happen and couldn’t wrap his head around it.
He wondered if it could be possible?
King’ang’i meanwhile felt that those men who were complaining were speaking truthfully and that it was an issue that was afflicting many men.
One man chimed in with a very sad story, speaking about how the mother of his child had run away with his 5-month-old son. He said that he had not seen the kid for close to one year, not for want of trying. He said that the child’s mother had a father who was a licensed firearm holder and that he couldn’t go to see the kid. The story is below;
We (men) are really suffering. I got married to a woman who had two kids from another man. I took her in, paid everything for them. God’s luck I got a son with her. Since we got that child, I stayed with that child for 5 months, on the 6th month she left and went to her parents again. I have not seen my son for close to one year. I am still providing for the kid but the mother refuses me to see the kid. The mother tells me to go on and look for another woman. They are using the children to punish men. To find a woman who wants a better family in this day and age is hard! There are one in a million.
Some other comments from listeners are below;
I have tried to see my child. It is impossible-Message from a man.
Maina you will never understand women-Message from a man.
I have been trying for months to see my kid with no success, yet I am willing to co-parent-Message from a man.
I tell the father of my child that he will never see his kid until he contributes. I just tell my lawyer that if he wants to see his kid then he has to go to court. He has never contributed to raise the boy. We have even gone to court but he doesn’t want to contribute to the upbringing-A woman told Maina.
Why can’t a man just move on when we break-up?-A woman told Maina.
Until the day he starts to cater for the kids, then that’s when he will see the kids-A woman told Maina.
Why do these things only happen to those people who have money? More money, more problems-Message from a man.
Some of us men are really struggling. We have differences. I will support the baby in the school, she will support shelter and food. I saw the baby in March at school. In April on school holidays, she started making excuses that I should get the kid. She took the kid upcountry and she is staying with her mother. I am told to pay the school fees and don’t see your kid. I miss my son- A sad man told Maina.
There is no woman who would block a responsible man from their kids. Deadbeat dads should stop giving excuses-A man told Maina.
I haven’t barred my ex from seeing his kids. He refused to see his kids-A woman told Maina.