‘Never lay a finger on a woman’ Maina Kageni reacts to Wajir Woman rep assault

 

A photo of Wajir woman rep Fatuma Gedi’s swollen face after being slapped by her MP counterpart in the precincts of Parliament has elicited mixed reaction.

Women are outraged, and men want to know what she dd to him to land a slap.

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Maina Kageni on Classic 105 on Friday, asked listeners if Kenyan women are safe and why men always ask what a woman does to be hit by a man.

 

It’s amazing how men have rallied around this guy and they are asking this question: What did she do to deserve this? That is really pissing me off, said Maina.

To him that was not right at all to even lay a finger on a woman.

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‘This women get beaten up by their husbands at home but you will never hear about it. Why is it that it becomes a problem when beaten in public? That should not be an issue at all to be discussed because she might have made the MP upset.’

This is what one of the male caller said. They felt that women at times took advantage of them especially if they knew your weaknesses. They were of the opinion that if at all the women rep was assaulted, then it was because of something she did to offend him.

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Maina wondered about all the comments that were coming from the men’s side. He wondered whether those were the kind of men and fathers in 2019 or 1890. One women callers asked,

What do these men gain after beating us, do they gain a kilo? As they ask what the women rep did to provoke the MP they should also ask what the MP did to her that made upset also. Women don’t rant without a reason’ there has to be something.’ 

Other comments were;

Sometimes one slaps keeps stupidity out of a woman.

Sometimes these women can really push you off to limits. They should mind how to control their mouths because we are tired of being shouted back at!!

These Kenyan are tough headed and they deserve to be beaten. Why is it only in our parliament and not in other countries? They should control their yapping to avoid such violence!!!

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Is it important for a woman to know how to cook in 2019 asks Maina Kageni

Ever heard a phrase that says, “Don’t marry a beautiful wife but marry a lady who can cook, for beauty fades but hunger does not.”

Maina and Kingangi in today’s morning conversation discussed if it was still important for a wife to know how to cook in 2019.

Maina posed the question: Are ladies still judged by their cooking? Where does she find time in today’s economy to cook?

 

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Maina was of opinion that cooking is a hobby that should be done when one is ready to.

One response from a man was that women MUST know how to cook because,

when we marry these ladies we normally pay a lot of pride price and so when they come we expect them to know how to cook or they rather remain at their parents’ home.’

Another caller said,

If my wife does not cook and leaves the house girl that duty then its up to her because the house girl will be my cook and maybe my food in future. This comment left Maina wondering as to how one gets to live with such a husband.

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In the current generation almost all ladies are employed so like any other person they go out to work in the morning and come late at night and so they won’t get enough time to prepare food because both share expenses.

In other words cooking should also engage two parties both the husband and wife.

A female caller was of opinion that the modern woman should cook for their husbands. She went ahead to say that just as the way the woman finds time to go to the market to buy the cereals and all that she should also find time to cook for the family and if not then she should stay single.

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Some of the comments were;

If a woman does not know how to cook then she should know how to gossips, she has to know one thing.

If your woman does not know how to cook don’t complain you are in a relationship not a restaurant. 

A woman who does not know how to cook is a scam.

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Maina and Kingangi ask whether wives should help their husbands financially

Maina and Kingangi had a fascinating conversation this morning regarding men asking their wives for money. Maina felt like this was a grave offense and that men should be self-sufficient, saying, ‘a man’s money is for the family, while her money is hers.’

He was scandalised that modern men had no shame asking their women for money, claiming that if the women did so, they would be the defacto heads of the homes. Kingangi meanwhile saw the sense in men asking their wives for money.

He said that these men also help their wives when they (wives) are in need. Why shouldn’t they get the same treatment. When comments were opened opinion was nearly split down the middle among the genders; with the ladies agreeing with what Maina was saying while the men largely agreed with Kingangi.

Some of the responses are below;

Huwezi sema mtu hana pesa aende akufe. Ulisalimia Mungu ndio upate pesa, Ananipatia pocket money – an enraged male caller telling Maina that it is o.k for his wife to help him.

What’s wrong with a that – Male response via text.

I will not give you any pocket money so you can drink with your male friends -Female response via text.

How do you give a man money to treat other chipos? – Female response via text.

I always give my wife money, when I don’t have, she should give me – Male response via text.

Till death do us part – Response from male caller.

Who said we need her money – Response from an enraged male caller.

My pride and ego do not allow me to deal with such men. My face will put a stop on them – Response from a proud female caller.

I once gave my man the man, thank God he didn’t take it cause I was dying inside -Response from a female caller.

I will give you business ideas and not pamper you money – Response from a female caller.

The Constitution or the Bible does not say that a man cannot be given money by his wife – Response from an enraged male caller

If you are broke forget about marriage. There is no way that I can give you a child and pocket money – Female response via text.

I have no problem helping men, equality – Female response via text.

I will never give my man anything – Response from a female caller.

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Maina and Kingangi debate whether wives make their husbands successful

Maina and Kingangi this morning had an interesting conversation concerning the importance a woman plays in building up a man.

Maina referenced a conversation he had with a woman last Friday who admitted that she was the reason her husband had become successful in life, saying,

I met him when he was in a rental that cost 12k a month. Now I am in our own house. Our children are in the best schools. They(husbands without direction) send 20k a week to mpango wa kando and bars. He says that I am the best and thanks God every day he married me. He is ahead of his siblings, just because he married me.

Maina agreed with her that women build up men but Kingangi was not buying that notion and said that women did push me alright, but it wasn’t helpful, rather it was more like nagging. He said that is why many Kenyan men were going to Uganda and Rwanda to thrive.

Kingangi also asked if he was pushing him away or pushing him forward, a question that Maina decided to ignore. Kingangi caused laughter by asking Maina why he wasn’t married if women could help a man so much?

Maina then opened up the conversation to the audience. It was a near even split among the genders with most men refuting Maina’s argument while the women agreed that they had a big part to play in the success of men.

One of the male callers said that the conception that that lady had brought up was nonsense. Captain Kale agreed with that man saying that women push you then when you make it they either kill you or divorce you.

Another asked on text how it was that retired President Moi had succeeded without a woman in his life. There is a difference between pushing a man and suffocating, another man wrote on text.

There was the rare man who agreed with Maina saying that a good woman can indeed help you. One female opined that anytime you try to help men, they say umewakalia.

Another male caller defended women and said that he sees the benefit his wife plays in his life. The caller added he got his wife when they lived in a house where he paid rent of sh3000. Now he had everything and he insisted that Mpango wa kando hawasaidii.

A female caller agreed saying that if you don’t push men, that they will be at a round-about for the rest of their lives.

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Maina and Kingangi discuss secret of how politicians win elections

Maina and Kingangi in the morning is normally the most interesting show on radio. The two spoke today about the recent Huduma Namba extension.

Maina said that before the president extended the deadline of the exercise, the registration centres were full to the brim but now that President Kenyatta had extended the period the centres were now empty.

The two noted that Kenyans will again fill up the centres just before the registration ends this week. This struck a chord with Kingangi and he had a revelation; that politicians win elections because they normally focus on the rural areas as those people are serious about following what politicians say.

Maina added that that might be the reason why Deputy President William Ruto spends a lot of his time in the rural areas.

Kingangi hilariously added that the people from mashinani already had their Huduma Namba’s on the 2nd day of the exercise! They, however, concluded that Kenyans should go for the cards sooner rather than later.

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Morning Conversation: How do deadbeat dads live with themselves

On Wednesday, the Classic 105 morning conversation was about the new court ruling, that will allow children born out of wedlock to access their inheritance.

Today Maina Kageni wants to ask men one thing about being a deadbeat father:

‘You know you have a child out there, and you have never sent a coin to support that child. How do you live with yourself?

The fact that you have a child out there, doesn’t it bother you, Maina posed to deadbeat fathers?

Mwalimu tried to convince Maina that these mothers push men away, that is why baba mtoto does not help.

‘wanakwambia you are not a role model to the child. Kwanza when the lady is a bit stable haaa utaonanga huyo mtoto kwa TV champions league.

you want to go see your child unakatazwa.’

Girls is there any truth to this?

Men called in to respond to the allegations telling Maina that women are to blame.

One man said:

‘ nimemuuliza fees structure na amekataa, bila hiyo silipi!

 

Another Caller:

“Me and my ex got a child together. Then she got a job which changed her a lot. Sai ata siwezi ona mtoto.

Augustine chemiat Mwotei said:

Maina what these ladies to us wacha tu. When i want my daughter to pay me a visit or aende kwetu excuses huwa mob na nadaiwa fee na shopping aje heri you stay vile uko maina

Noah from Kilgoris said

‘kuna mke tulipenda nayyey tukazaa mtoto mmoja, na kuongea na huyo mtot ni shida atat kuchukuwa simu yangu ni shida, hawa watu wakipayta kazi hata kusalimia mtot ni shida, hakuna siku. Sisi wanaume tunapitia vitu nyingi dunia hii.

Nikitafut namba anabadilisha, nikijaribu kuongea na mamake anakataa. wananifrustrate bure.’

 

Girls you stand accused. Is this true? Drop your comments below.