Why Kenyan women want men who earn six figure salaries

 

Do you watch the dating show Perfect Match on Ebru TV? Some episodes are so cringeworthy, and it’s all because of what the girls say.

The demands by the young girls to the fellas makes many upset. From wanting a man who drives a Range Rover, to wanting a tall, light skinned man.

Young women are not shying away from declaring that they won’t date a man without a car, or one who doesn’t earn six figure salary.

They have no time for a man who can’t provide for their needs.

Mike Mondo and Mwalimu Kinga’ngi discussed this on the morning conversation.

Mike described why he wanted to open up discussion about slay queen dating demands.

I want to share with you Kingangi, yesterday I went to my child’s school today and I meet these young ladies who were having this conversation that was so interesting it got heated.

They were saying they want a man to have a job, to make six figures, I want him to be driving, to be paying a mortgage.

I was listening and I asked them what about you. So you want all these from the men, what are you bring on the table. We got into this conversation. Isn’t it time men start making lists about women?

Yes you are pretty but aside from your physical attributes what are you bringing?

Those expectation that you put on men, what is it that you are putting on the table?

He opened up discussion to listeners and most who commented were women.

A woman said:

ehh tunaleta watoto so we are like the shamba you cultivate it uweke manure ukiweza fertilizer we carry your babies so that its the main thing in a marriage, we brign children. the key thing in a marriage children are very important, so he has to have everything a woman wants and she brings children, that’s why we are looking for men with six figures, and those who drive big cars na waende shule poa in fact I should go in that house with a leso only.

Another said:

‘I you see its been made for women to get tot that im talking froma point of experiecne you come in you support your husband you help him in everythign you build an empire you have property at the same tike you are a woman you are carryign children and then along the way ehen the an feels comfortable because you hae been supporting thim he goes for another women than he goes for a younger woman. what have men given back aothe than mpango wa kando 

 

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‘Should the other woman meet the wife?’ Maina and Kingangi discuss

Maina and Kingangi today spoke about the experiences the ‘other woman’ deals with when first meeting the wife of the man that she was dating.

Maina was shocked that the ‘other woman’ would be comfortable meeting the wife of the man she was dating. He could not understand the rationale behind it. This was echoed by Kingangi who felt that the real skill lay with the man who was orchestrating such a meeting, calling the man a ‘hero’.

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Maina opened up the floor to comments from listeners. Some of the comments are below;

We, women, are our worst own enemies. I am not happy meeting the ‘other woman’-A message from a female caller.

Some things people talk about! No wife wants to be seconded-Read a message from a man.

I have 3 wives and they are all known by my family and they don’t know each other-Read a message from a man.

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Wives are better investigators than the CID. The ‘other woman’ should never meet the wife. Wait till the sh*t hits the fan-Read a message from a woman.

Don’t show me the ‘other woman’. It will not be good-Read a message from a woman.

If you want to meet the man’s wife, then you have no brains. Eat your cake with some manners otherwise, it will choke you-A message from a female caller.

We have two groups of women; One is hardworking. Then we have the lazy ones who just get married for money. I am married and I will never allow a second wife and if he gets another wife he should hide her-A message from a female caller.

As a Muslim, I am allowed 4 but it isn’t my religion that allows me but my wife. But I also have my side-chicks who I keep them hidden-A message from a male caller

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‘Why do men lie to their women?’ Maina and Kingangi ask

Maina and Kingangi had a fascinating conversation about why men lie to their wives/significant others. Kingangi defended men saying that men don’t lie and that women should leave their men’s phones alone.

Maina was flummoxed at the behaviour of many men and asked women the most egregious lies that the men in their lives had told them? Many listeners tuned in and gave their views about the topic.

Most of the men said that lying was a necessity for a relationship while many women admitted that men change their behaviours once they have gotten married.

Some of the comments are below;

Why can’t men tell the truth? Change the marriage vows- A female said.

Which woman wants to be told the truth?- A written message from a man.

Ladies fake it till they make it. What is wrong if we do the same?-A written message from a man.

He will treat you like a queen when you date but differently when he marries you. A woman reflects how you treat her-A written message from a man.

I found out my boyfriend had a wife the day we were supposed to go to my parents-A written message from a woman.

Why did the dating stuff stop after we got married? It was campaigning just like our politicians do- A man explained via phone call.

If a man lies, he lies with a reason. He does it so he doesn’t spoil the home-A written message from a man.

We lie for convenience not like women who lie to hurt you-A written message from a man.

Women should stop putting on makeup and Brazilian hair if they want men to also stop lying-A man explained via phone call.

Men lie. A man I knew already another family elsewhere. We had to break up although we had a kid. We had gone out for six years. We dated for 3 years and lived in the same house for 3 years- A woman narrated to a shocked Maina.

Men lie, women lie better. A man lies to get himself out of a problem. Women are devils. They don’t even blink when they lie. Even maybe giving birth is not that painful. They just lie-Wakanai said.

Even for one to get a job, you must lie-A written message from a man.

If you want a second wife how do you get one without lying-A written message from a man.

Even we ladies lie. I have had two kids and they are not for my husband. Men are also dumb-A female caller told Maina.

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Maina and Kingangi debate why husbands are calling their wives beasts!

Maina and Kingangi spoke about an interesting topic today on the relations between the genders. Maina was concerned after a male caller had previously said that Kenyan women (wives) are animals in general. He even added that the women are beasts.

Maina asked how it was possible for men to sleep in the same bed with their wives and still call them animals? How was it possible for the men to have such cognitive dissonance?

Kingangi said that Kenyan women putting mchele in a man’s drink was a sign of how bad things were. Maina opened the floor up to comments from the gallery. Some of the responses are below;

Word of advice for newly married men. Eat from the same plate as your wife-Written message from a man.

Men should know that there is no woman as dangerous as one who has been messed with-Written message from a man.

Let not these men be too judgemental. It is pathetic-Message from a female caller.

They are beasts, they are so evil. Even devils fear them. Only fear one woman, your mother.-Wakanai said.

The worst thing that a man can do is trusting in his wife-Written message from a man.

A woman will put poison in your food and still look you in the eye while you eat it-Written message from a man.

We deal with devils. How can you grind a steel wire in someone’s food and give it to them to eat-Written message from a man.

Hatukatai tuna demons but these animals come because of the men. And it is because they lie. Men are the ones who lie. They frustrate us-Message from a female caller.

Satan and women are friends-Written message from a man.

Why marry someone you don’t trust-A woman asked via text message.

I sleep with my eyes open-Written message from a man.

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‘Never lay a finger on a woman’ Maina Kageni reacts to Wajir Woman rep assault

 

A photo of Wajir woman rep Fatuma Gedi’s swollen face after being slapped by her MP counterpart in the precincts of Parliament has elicited mixed reaction.

Women are outraged, and men want to know what she dd to him to land a slap.

fatuma gedi crying

Maina Kageni on Classic 105 on Friday, asked listeners if Kenyan women are safe and why men always ask what a woman does to be hit by a man.

 

It’s amazing how men have rallied around this guy and they are asking this question: What did she do to deserve this? That is really pissing me off, said Maina.

To him that was not right at all to even lay a finger on a woman.

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‘This women get beaten up by their husbands at home but you will never hear about it. Why is it that it becomes a problem when beaten in public? That should not be an issue at all to be discussed because she might have made the MP upset.’

This is what one of the male caller said. They felt that women at times took advantage of them especially if they knew your weaknesses. They were of the opinion that if at all the women rep was assaulted, then it was because of something she did to offend him.

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Maina wondered about all the comments that were coming from the men’s side. He wondered whether those were the kind of men and fathers in 2019 or 1890. One women callers asked,

What do these men gain after beating us, do they gain a kilo? As they ask what the women rep did to provoke the MP they should also ask what the MP did to her that made upset also. Women don’t rant without a reason’ there has to be something.’ 

Other comments were;

Sometimes one slaps keeps stupidity out of a woman.

Sometimes these women can really push you off to limits. They should mind how to control their mouths because we are tired of being shouted back at!!

These Kenyan are tough headed and they deserve to be beaten. Why is it only in our parliament and not in other countries? They should control their yapping to avoid such violence!!!

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Is it important for a woman to know how to cook in 2019 asks Maina Kageni

Ever heard a phrase that says, “Don’t marry a beautiful wife but marry a lady who can cook, for beauty fades but hunger does not.”

Maina and Kingangi in today’s morning conversation discussed if it was still important for a wife to know how to cook in 2019.

Maina posed the question: Are ladies still judged by their cooking? Where does she find time in today’s economy to cook?

 

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Maina was of opinion that cooking is a hobby that should be done when one is ready to.

One response from a man was that women MUST know how to cook because,

when we marry these ladies we normally pay a lot of pride price and so when they come we expect them to know how to cook or they rather remain at their parents’ home.’

Another caller said,

If my wife does not cook and leaves the house girl that duty then its up to her because the house girl will be my cook and maybe my food in future. This comment left Maina wondering as to how one gets to live with such a husband.

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In the current generation almost all ladies are employed so like any other person they go out to work in the morning and come late at night and so they won’t get enough time to prepare food because both share expenses.

In other words cooking should also engage two parties both the husband and wife.

A female caller was of opinion that the modern woman should cook for their husbands. She went ahead to say that just as the way the woman finds time to go to the market to buy the cereals and all that she should also find time to cook for the family and if not then she should stay single.

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Some of the comments were;

If a woman does not know how to cook then she should know how to gossips, she has to know one thing.

If your woman does not know how to cook don’t complain you are in a relationship not a restaurant. 

A woman who does not know how to cook is a scam.

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Maina and Kingangi ask whether wives should help their husbands financially

Maina and Kingangi had a fascinating conversation this morning regarding men asking their wives for money. Maina felt like this was a grave offense and that men should be self-sufficient, saying, ‘a man’s money is for the family, while her money is hers.’

He was scandalised that modern men had no shame asking their women for money, claiming that if the women did so, they would be the defacto heads of the homes. Kingangi meanwhile saw the sense in men asking their wives for money.

He said that these men also help their wives when they (wives) are in need. Why shouldn’t they get the same treatment. When comments were opened opinion was nearly split down the middle among the genders; with the ladies agreeing with what Maina was saying while the men largely agreed with Kingangi.

Some of the responses are below;

Huwezi sema mtu hana pesa aende akufe. Ulisalimia Mungu ndio upate pesa, Ananipatia pocket money – an enraged male caller telling Maina that it is o.k for his wife to help him.

What’s wrong with a that – Male response via text.

I will not give you any pocket money so you can drink with your male friends -Female response via text.

How do you give a man money to treat other chipos? – Female response via text.

I always give my wife money, when I don’t have, she should give me – Male response via text.

Till death do us part – Response from male caller.

Who said we need her money – Response from an enraged male caller.

My pride and ego do not allow me to deal with such men. My face will put a stop on them – Response from a proud female caller.

I once gave my man the man, thank God he didn’t take it cause I was dying inside -Response from a female caller.

I will give you business ideas and not pamper you money – Response from a female caller.

The Constitution or the Bible does not say that a man cannot be given money by his wife – Response from an enraged male caller

If you are broke forget about marriage. There is no way that I can give you a child and pocket money – Female response via text.

I have no problem helping men, equality – Female response via text.

I will never give my man anything – Response from a female caller.

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Maina and Kingangi debate whether wives make their husbands successful

Maina and Kingangi this morning had an interesting conversation concerning the importance a woman plays in building up a man.

Maina referenced a conversation he had with a woman last Friday who admitted that she was the reason her husband had become successful in life, saying,

I met him when he was in a rental that cost 12k a month. Now I am in our own house. Our children are in the best schools. They(husbands without direction) send 20k a week to mpango wa kando and bars. He says that I am the best and thanks God every day he married me. He is ahead of his siblings, just because he married me.

Maina agreed with her that women build up men but Kingangi was not buying that notion and said that women did push me alright, but it wasn’t helpful, rather it was more like nagging. He said that is why many Kenyan men were going to Uganda and Rwanda to thrive.

Kingangi also asked if he was pushing him away or pushing him forward, a question that Maina decided to ignore. Kingangi caused laughter by asking Maina why he wasn’t married if women could help a man so much?

Maina then opened up the conversation to the audience. It was a near even split among the genders with most men refuting Maina’s argument while the women agreed that they had a big part to play in the success of men.

One of the male callers said that the conception that that lady had brought up was nonsense. Captain Kale agreed with that man saying that women push you then when you make it they either kill you or divorce you.

Another asked on text how it was that retired President Moi had succeeded without a woman in his life. There is a difference between pushing a man and suffocating, another man wrote on text.

There was the rare man who agreed with Maina saying that a good woman can indeed help you. One female opined that anytime you try to help men, they say umewakalia.

Another male caller defended women and said that he sees the benefit his wife plays in his life. The caller added he got his wife when they lived in a house where he paid rent of sh3000. Now he had everything and he insisted that Mpango wa kando hawasaidii.

A female caller agreed saying that if you don’t push men, that they will be at a round-about for the rest of their lives.

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Maina and Kingangi discuss secret of how politicians win elections

Maina and Kingangi in the morning is normally the most interesting show on radio. The two spoke today about the recent Huduma Namba extension.

Maina said that before the president extended the deadline of the exercise, the registration centres were full to the brim but now that President Kenyatta had extended the period the centres were now empty.

The two noted that Kenyans will again fill up the centres just before the registration ends this week. This struck a chord with Kingangi and he had a revelation; that politicians win elections because they normally focus on the rural areas as those people are serious about following what politicians say.

Maina added that that might be the reason why Deputy President William Ruto spends a lot of his time in the rural areas.

Kingangi hilariously added that the people from mashinani already had their Huduma Namba’s on the 2nd day of the exercise! They, however, concluded that Kenyans should go for the cards sooner rather than later.

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Morning Conversation: How do deadbeat dads live with themselves

On Wednesday, the Classic 105 morning conversation was about the new court ruling, that will allow children born out of wedlock to access their inheritance.

Today Maina Kageni wants to ask men one thing about being a deadbeat father:

‘You know you have a child out there, and you have never sent a coin to support that child. How do you live with yourself?

The fact that you have a child out there, doesn’t it bother you, Maina posed to deadbeat fathers?

Mwalimu tried to convince Maina that these mothers push men away, that is why baba mtoto does not help.

‘wanakwambia you are not a role model to the child. Kwanza when the lady is a bit stable haaa utaonanga huyo mtoto kwa TV champions league.

you want to go see your child unakatazwa.’

Girls is there any truth to this?

Men called in to respond to the allegations telling Maina that women are to blame.

One man said:

‘ nimemuuliza fees structure na amekataa, bila hiyo silipi!

 

Another Caller:

“Me and my ex got a child together. Then she got a job which changed her a lot. Sai ata siwezi ona mtoto.

Augustine chemiat Mwotei said:

Maina what these ladies to us wacha tu. When i want my daughter to pay me a visit or aende kwetu excuses huwa mob na nadaiwa fee na shopping aje heri you stay vile uko maina

Noah from Kilgoris said

‘kuna mke tulipenda nayyey tukazaa mtoto mmoja, na kuongea na huyo mtot ni shida atat kuchukuwa simu yangu ni shida, hawa watu wakipayta kazi hata kusalimia mtot ni shida, hakuna siku. Sisi wanaume tunapitia vitu nyingi dunia hii.

Nikitafut namba anabadilisha, nikijaribu kuongea na mamake anakataa. wananifrustrate bure.’

 

Girls you stand accused. Is this true? Drop your comments below.