This Will Come In Handy! 4 Things You Should Never Do When Trying To Flirt

When it comes to flirting – some of us are born with the perfect skill set while others have to work hard to get there.

But as much as it’s good to let it come naturally, you can also learn how to flirt. In fact, you can get better at it with practice. So if you’re wondering how you can perfect your flirting, here are some things you should never do, otherwise, it will all be in vain.

Check out these 4 tips:

1. Don’t Be Self-Indulgent
No matter how much you love talking about yourself, restrain from doing so. When you’re flirting with someone, the idea is to make them feel as though the universe revolves around them and special.

That doesn’t mean you don’t give out any information about yourself and remain a mystery man or woman. Just drop in a line or two about yourself when you feel appropriate and shift the focus of the conversation back to them.

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2. Don’t Bring Up Anything Too Personal
When you start off flirting with someone you fancy, don’t bring up a very personal issue as part of the conversation. This can put people off or make them uncomfortable. So don’t go off and ask them how their grandmother died or what their family’s financial situation is like. Just keep it casual!

3. Don’t Get Distracted
Focus all your attention on the person you’re flirting with. That means not ogling other beautiful women or handsome men around you. This is a turn off to the other person.

It also means not texting someone else while you’re in a conversation with them or checking your Whatsapp chat or work emails. The world must wait for you to finish your business!

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4. Don’t Get Too Serious
Remember that flirting is about having fun and enjoying what you’re doing. Don’t get too serious and coiled up over it, or talk about serious stuff.

If things don’t work out well the first time, don’t worry about it. It’s definitely not the end of the world. Move on and find some other interesting candidates to flirt with. And like anything else, flirting gets better with practice!




Love Matters



Steps: From lovers to friends

After a break up it’s highly unlikely that one will be able to maintain a cordial relationship with the ex depending on how they broke up. In some cases many will try and move on without any contact at all with the ex.

However for some, it’s likely that they would like to maintain a friendship of some sort especially if they share the same circle of friends.

It  is possible to move from lovers to friends without having those weird moments. Here is how to go about it:

1. Give time to heal: The first and foremost way to remain friends with your ex is to give time to both of you to heal and get over the break up. Befriending your ex soon after a breakup might not be a great idea. Do not fool yourself by thinking that you can be back to being great friends immediately as coming back to that comfort level of friendship will take time.

2. Be clear about certain limits: Be clear whether you want to have a platonic relation or expecting more. Do not send them drunken text messages. Make sure you always draw a certain limit which will keep you away from any more heartbreak and tons of hogging down ice cream which you surely will regret later.

3. Keep calm around them: Getting nervous or anxious will only worsen your problems. Whenever you are around them or are meeting them at a party or at a movie, keep calm. When you decide to go out for a movie or coffee, be calm and don’t show any emotions which might indicate something that you don’t want them to know.

4. Stop comparing: If you are getting along well, infact great with your ex as a friend do not bring the topic of what went wrong when you were together. This might not go down well with either of you as you might have to confront things that you might not be ready for. Be yourself and keep the relationship on the back burner and try to work on the friendship.

5. Use social media smartly: Stop stalking him. Secondly stop tagging him in every post that has a friendship quote or a friendship picture of cute kids. And lastly don’t keep on pestering them with messages, give them and yourself some much needed fresh breather.

-Iyer TNN

Woman beats up lover for refusing to take her on a date

A woman who clobbered her former boyfriend after he allegedly turned down a request for a date was Thursday charged with assault. Esther Njoki Macharia allegedly clobbered Harun Gikonyo Kamau on January 3 at City Mugunda estate in Nairobi.

Gikonyo sustained serious injuries and further claimed Njoki was in company of her friend who was not only cheering her but she allegedly joined the accused in the beating.

Gikonyo told police on the material around 11pm while heading to group meeting his ex-girlfriend, Njoki called him claiming she wanted to see him.

He initially ignored her plea but she persisted until he gave in. The prosecution told the court that when the two met hours later, Njoki pulled the complainant to a deserted feeder road and immediately started raining blows on him.

As he was struggling to rise up Gikonyo claims the accused alerted her friend who joined her in beating him using pieces of heavy timber and while shouting ‘Chapa ilale’.

Gikonyo’s call for help attracted passers-by but the two women took flight leaving the complaint in excruciating pain. He was later admitted at Mama Lucy Kibaki hospital for treatment as police hunted the suspects one of who was later arrested.

Macharia denied the charge and was released on cash bail of Sh20,000. The case will be heard on May 14.