An open letter to all Kenyan baby mamas and the mistakes they love to make

Gospel singer Bahati is the talk of town after he revealed that he has a two-year-old daughter but has never bothered to publicly acknowledge her, yet he publicly shows off his four adopted children, while heaping lots of praise on them.

Bahati, his current prayer partner Diana Marua and his baby mama are now all embroiled in a social media beef, and it’s not looking pretty. Everyone is saying he is so shady, but who knows what their drama is all about.

Bahati’s Baby Mama Speaks Out IN ANGER After He Flaunts Photos Of Their Toddler!

There are so many instances of Kenyan baby mamas who do a good job co-parenting but there are those who truly serve as a reminder that this is something you must think long and hard about.

You need to understand your place to avoid too much baby mama drama in this man’s life.

So girls, to avoid putting your ex lover on blast, here are some of the mistakes many Kenyan baby mamas keep doing that you need to save yourself from:

Holding on to the fairy-tale ending.
Well it’s important to remember just in case you forgot that a child is not a guarantee of marriage. If he wasn’t compelled to fully commit before you gave him the booty for free, it is unlikely he’s in any rush now. Don’t waste your years waiting on your child’s father to “come around” simply because he’s the dad. You deserve the type of love and companionship that makes you happy, too. If you were actually in a relationship, go ahead and give it a solid try, but don’t hold on to a dead relationship or wait on him forever. Now, if you were just a “buddy,” well, you already knew the deal. Be honest with yourself and move forward.

Playing the fool just to make him happy
Well you need to know that some men can be very manipulative especially men who know it is in their best interest to keep custodial and child support payment arrangements outside of the courts by making a deal with you. So, what do they do? Say whatever they need to say to keep you satisfied not happy but not angry enough to file papers either. As we know in our society, men still refuse to take the father title and ask you to find the father. Just save yourself from being his puppet by showing him that you can also be independent otherwise you always doing what he wants can really get you frustrated all in the name of money and him accepting the child and you as his wife.

He has to pay all his child’s bills.
You need to work hard and get your child’s money, as well. Children don’t raise themselves for free and fathers, custodial or non-custodial, should be legally obligated to contribute. It is not about what you can or can’t do for yourself and your baby or what you do and don’t need. A portion of his earnings are owed to your child. Child support is the business side of separate parenting and should be addressed in a business manner. It’s nothing personal.You look stupid when you start telling him how he can not see his child if he doesn’t send money, it actually hurts you more when the child gets to an age where they ask, where is daddy?

Holding your family accountable for things that are not their responsibility.
When the “I-want-I-want” Kindergartener in you comes out and thinks your family and friends are obligated to help support your decisions to rely on an unreliable baby-daddy and they would rather allow you to learn the hard way, it is not because they are bad people. In fact, they would be doing you a disservice by picking up his pieces. Be grateful for the people doing all they can to help and be sure to take heed of the advice.At the end of the day, your family did not send you to get pregnant and therefore you have no right to make everyone miserable because baby daddy is not doing what you expect him to do.

Using the child as a bait.
It is very possible for him to love the child and not care a thing about you. Hurts to hear that but it’s true sometimes. Limiting his time to every other Saturday for two hours but insisting the door is open for him to come over and hang out anytime is a pathetic attempt at creating an imaginary family unit. If not for your pride, do it for your child. Be fair to fathers who want to be involved.

Argue and continuously threat the father, always.
You are the mother and lawfully retain the right to do whatever you choose so long as it does not harm the child physically or mentally. Therefore, you have nothing to argue about. It’s not a democracy but, rather, a dictatorship open to suggestions. And if you have moved on and feel like everytime he comes around he’s trying to start trouble for you, do what is necessary to minimize contact and conversation between the two of you as much as possible while still allowing him access to his child.

All these nonsense needs to stop as when you got pregnant you knew what you were getting yourself into so you are equally accountable for that child and you need to stop being miserable and making everyone’s life miserable.

 

Raw Emotion: Read This Shattered Woman’s Open Letter To Men Revealing The Pain Of Rape And Domestic Violence

Yesterday Saturday May 20th, South Africans took to the streets to match in protest against rising cases of rape and murder arising from domestic violence. A spate of rapes and murder cases involving lovers has shocked its citizens in recent weeks.

Meet two beautiful girls who were found murdered recently. The girl on the left was murdered by her ex boyfriend, a man who once told her that he loved her. On the right is another young girl who was raped and murdered. The girls 28 and 24, were found dead one with gunshot wounds.

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One woman has taken to her social media to plead with South Africans to not just treat rape and murder as a regular death.

Read her heartrending letter to netizens.

julietibrahimIf you are a woman and this morning you were in front of the mirror busy hiding your blue eye with make-up foundation Its time 2 breakup! This should be an eye opening incident to all the females out there. A sad case of When the person who is supposed to protect you becomes your killer. We live in a messed up world, very sad. Abuse should not be taken lightly. #notowomanabuse Sad part; Men won’t even reprimand their friends for cheating, do you think they’ll reprimand each other for physical abuse? THIS IS A CALL TO THE FEW GOOD MEN OUT THERE; LEND YOUR VOICE AND SPEAK UP AGAINST VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN! How can you burn someone to death??? We need to introduce #deathpenalty in these cases HONESTLY! #speakup SOCIETY NEEDS TO DO SOMETHING AGAINST VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN! Everyone/Society is busy teaching the GIRL-CHILD HOW TO BEHAVE AND ACT RIGHT BUT WHO IS TRAINING THE BOY-CHILD ON HOW TO BEHAVE AND ACT RIGHT?

Karabo Mokoena guresomly murdered by an enraged boyfriend
She was found doused in petrol and burnt after a heated argument in the nightclub with her boyfriend

 

PLEASE STOP KILLING US
PLEASE STOP ABUSING US
PLEASE STOP RAPING US
PLEASE STOP KIDNAPPING US WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHT TO SPEAK UP AND WE ARE ENTITLED TO OUR OPINION AND HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS IN SOCIETY AS WELL…

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Karabo Mokoena had been missing since 28 Apri and was later found murderded and burnt by an enraged boyfriend

If you’re given to quick anger, or you have temper issues, do yourself and the world a favour by staying away from relationships. #RIPKarabo Only the wise ones will read and understand the message behind what I have written, for all of you wicked MEN, coming on here to defend the violence been done to women around the world ; the God we serve is watching …

 

Secret Revealed! 6 Things Gospel Singer Mercy Masika Does To Avoid Relationship Drama

Gospel singer Mercy Masika is ruling the airwaves, and her star is not about to be dimmed anytime soon.

Away from her music, the celebrated singer is a wife to husband David Muguro and a mom to two beautiful kids.

Her humble personality has seen her win the hearts of many, including her husband.

And while some of her colleagues are breaking their marriages, Mercy remains steadfast solid in her relationship.

Her recent admission about her husband received the praise of many, who indicated they would emulate her. Here is what she said about her hubby David;

Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you have the right person by your side, and you both truly love each other then you’ll always figure a way to get through it. Marriage is beautiful and I love my husband.

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Recently she spoke to the standard newspaper where she further revealed her secret to a happy marriage.

This are six things she does to keep her relationship strong.

  1. Seek wise counsel. Don’t talk to all and sundry about your relation problems
  2. Submit. This doesn’t mean being a doormat.
  3. Chose your battles wisely. Sometimes I say sorry even when i’m not wrong she says. This humbles him and he learns to say sorry.
  4. Pray. This has kept me standing
  5. Sex. She says you should figure out what your spouse needs
  6. Be faithful,

 

 

This 52-year-old woman admitted she has never kissed a man

A South African woman identified as Thembisile Ntaka who is 52 years old claims she’s a proud virgin. The woman made this shocking revelation at a social cohesion dialogue about virginity at Moses Mabhida Stadium in Durban on Tuesday night.⠀
“I began this journey when I was 14 years old. I get a lot of people criticising me for being a virgin and not having children. Some even tell me I will die a lonely woman. But that does not make me want to change my life.” Thembisile said she has never slept with a man or even kissed one. She said she is one of the most respected women in Botha’s Hill.⠀ ⠀
Thembisile encouraged young women to stay virgins. “I’m the lastborn at home. My eight siblings got married and left me with my brother’s two children.” She said when she was young she heard her brothers’ friends saying bad things about the girls they’d had sex with. “I decided then I didn’t want to be one of those girls,” she said.⠀⠀ ⠀
She said each time there is virginity testing in her area, she is always the first one in line. “I don’t care if I die without children or a husband. I’m happy with my life and so is my family.”⠀⠀ ⠀
During the conference, where virgins and virginity testers discussed the importance of purity, tester Zanele Shezi-Sishi said it’s important for women to look after themselves.
“Staying a virgin helps to avoid infections and disease.” Head of recreation at eThekwini Municipality, Thembinkosi Ngcobo, said they chose the topic because too many girls fall pregnant at an early age.
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Source: DailySun

Sbonza Ni Wewe! 5 compelling reasons why young girls should stay away from ‘sponsors’

Do you ever look through your Instagram feed and wonder how in the world your female pals can afford to take off to exotic holiday destinations, yet there you are trying to hustle to afford buying the Sh90 ‘imported mexican’ maize?

Sheesh! Kenyans on social media are known not to have chills when they respond in the comments section demanding that the young girl post a picture of the ‘sponsor’ behind the vacation.

Having a sponsor has become so fashionable, one can’t miss spotting a young Kenyan girl desperately holding onto an ‘ancestor’ as they are referred to.

I know it’s been said by most ladies in our generation who love dating old men, that they love ‘monied men for multiple reasons. Campus girls are notorious for dating ‘sponsors’.

Here are my five reasons why you should disown that ancestor BUT if you really must date one, how about you emulate the French President who married a much older woman for LOVE?

1.) Are you ready for a child or fun

If you want to wait to have a kid until you’re in your early 30s, your older man is going to be about 50. Having to run around after a 5-year-old is hard work, especially if it’s been that much longer since your man had a child. And trust me he will also need as much attention as the baby as you will be taking care of all his needs. He won’t be strong enough.Your kid will also have a challenge as most kids in school will mistake his father for his grandfather.

2.) You need to respect him like your father

He is older than you and he already has kids who are almost the same age as you, they respect him and the only difference between you and his kids is that you are sleeping with him. ‘So you need to know that age demands a certain level of respect. You will feel inferior and cant negotiate with him as easily as you would have with a younger man, which means you will literally be his adopted child more than you will be his young wife. Are you ready to be ordered around and be set for curfews?

3.) Your suggestions and opinions hardly count

He has lived more than you and seen more than you so by the time you settle down together, he’ll have amassed life experiences and won’t have time for your shenanigans. Your life will end up being smaller in comparison since your shared years will make up far more of your total life experience than his. He will make most of the decisions and you will have no say in the relationship as you will have to listen to daddy yo…. sorry your husband…. all the time. It’s not fun at all.

4.) You will make enough visits to buy Viagra at the chemist

At your age, I can imagine how much more you’ll be sexually active and you can’t get it all the time. Remember to him it’s not a big deal as he has had it all his life, so unless you’re fine with ‘starving ‘, think again. Then before you know it since you are a prisoner, you may have to ask the watch man or shamba boy to service you. Women supposedly experience their sexual peak at age 35, while men allegedly go downhill after turning 18..remember this is all  allegedly. Why take your chances? So think smart as money is not everything.

5.) Your Friends and his friends

The places you want to hang out, the songs you listen to, the dancing and fun you have will be worlds apart. He won’t be able to mesh easily with your crowd and will stick out like a graying, sore thumb at parties attended by fresh-faced 25-year-olds. Likewise for you at his friends’ gatherings. Most of them met his ex wife so be sure that his friends’ wife’s are not going to make life any easier for you. These women will specifically go out of their way to make you feel not welcome in their crowd. You become an automatic threat to them by being naturally prettier and having the all-powerful asset of youth.

If this doesn’t matter to you, do you boo.

COUNT ME OUT! Woman’s Response After Being Asked To Contribute Sh35,000 To Wedding Committee Shocks Many (SCREENSHOTS)

A woman who received a message from someone who informed her that they were once schoolmates and that she had heard she’s now a financial auditor.

This was before she dropped the bombshell that they had included her name in a wedding committee and she was required to contribute Sh25,000.

But that’s not all. Apparently, Margaret Mwathi was required to give an additional Sh10,000 because she had been chosen as the guest of honor.

Instead of telling them off and saying she would not pay the amount, like most would. She ‘cleverly’ asked if there would be food.

Maggie later turned down the invite upon realization that guests would be served soda and biscuits.

Maggie wrote;

Wait! I’m on mpasho news! Na Bado sitoi hio 35k!! My stand is I need my share of the wife hata Kama Ni kukaa kwa nyumba nikimuangalia

So when you start getting married, be ready with your own money. Heads-up, I was called rude! I’m not rude. I’m just realistic.

Here are the screenshots

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Ciru Denis Hahaha kwani it’s your wedding ndo utoe 35k. Ama ni proposal n letting you know you’ll cater for the expenses because you are a financial
Blessed Beckiey nice one munatusinya…when you haven’t called for one year and your like your pledge is 2k nkt ujinga ndio mtawacha
Bernie Benkimu Kim Food, is there other meaning or nafikiria mbaya
Sophie Isaack Billions Precisely 9 years,5 months later ….u will be ordered to join a committee just like that…
Njeri Ngigi Joe Mulwa hizo committee watu huenda should be dealt with like this
Joe Mulwa Hahaha. Truth!
Kariuki Charlse Wanjiku Thuku Mami ndùùke wìonere!
Committee manenoz! Ngiri thate fae for soda and biscuits after 9 years!
Cherono Kibiwott Waiting for you Kwa the trend oh.your classmate knew with the financial auditor tag 35k was a drop in the ocean for you.ahem.afyer 9 years and 5 months.you even have a sharp memory.no sooner had you confirmed knowledge of him than a wedding committee and demand for contribution was thrown your way…..

Hunk Nigerian Singer Banky W Proposes To His On-Screen Lover And Their Love Story Is Out Of This World!

Nigerian R&B Singer, Bankole Wellington aka Banky W, has left the bachelor’s club after he proposed to Nollywood actress, Adesua Etomi.

The singer, took to Instagram to express his deep affection for her since they met officially in 2015, where he disclosed that on February 2017, he asked the gorgeous actress to be his wife and she said “Yes”.

His post read in part, “Dear Susu, we crossed paths 2 or 3 times since 2012, but I wasn’t paying enough attention.

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“Destiny was staring me right in the face and I was too caught up in my own hustle and paper chase, to know it. In June 2015 however, God brought you my way again, and this time, I really SAW you. I was smitten by your grace, aura, and beauty.

“I asked one or two people about you.. your manager Isioma, who I’d worked with previously, and then I did some research myself. Googled you, stalked your Instagram.. the whole 9 yards, and the more I found out, the more you seemed like a breath of fresh air.”

According to him, he knew pretty early in the process that he wanted to spend forever with her and he had prayed fervently about it while he waited for her to catch up.

The singer also made reference to his music video, Made For You in which he got engaged to Adesua, as well as their roles in hit movie, The Wedding Party describing both experiences as pure coincidence.

“Real life will now imitate art,” he, added.

In a bid to put away any doubts that this is indeed true, Banky said: “The timing of this, may make some people think this is promo for another video, or a movie. It isn’t.”

“Ironically, everyone who has seen us together in art, or in life, always insists that we have amazing chemistry. I guess you can say we have been hiding in plain sight. I fell in love with an Actress. Now my life is a movie,” he added.

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The beautiful actress also confirmed this in her post on Instagram, which partly read; “He slid into my DM and sent the funniest message and that was how we became friends.

“At the time, I wasn’t interested in anything but a friendship and he was very respectful of that and so we stayed just friends for about a year and a half. Our friendship opened my eyes to a lot of things. Opened my eyes to the type of man Olubankole is and WHAT A MAN.”

Check out the full posts below.

Dear Susu (part 1) We crossed paths 2 or 3 times since 2012, but I wasn't paying enough attention. Destiny was staring me right in the face and I was too caught up in my own hustle and paper chase, to know it. In June 2015 however, God brought you my way again, and this time, I really SAW you. I was smitten by your grace, aura, and beauty. So smitten infact, that even though I didn't get to say a word to you that day (because you were seated far across the room), I immediately called my best friend @captdemuren and told him I'd found my next girlfriend. LOL. He laughed. I asked one or two people about you.. your manager Isioma, who I'd worked with previously, and then I did some research myself. Googled you, stalked your instagram.. the whole 9 yards, and the more I found out, the more you seemed like a breath of fresh air. Now I personally don't like being "hooked up", so I decided to approach you myself by sliding into your DM a few days later. Introduced myself, made some silly attempts to make you laugh, told you I planned to become your biggest fan, and asked if we could be friends. Thank God you laughed at my silly jokes, and thank God you graciously agreed to become my friend. At the time, I was COMPLETELY lying about only wanting to be friends, by the way.. but I figured it was a safe place to start. Since that DM, I've spoken to you pretty much every single day for almost 2 years. Sometimes, in the morning, at night and in between. We clicked instantly, and you quickly became one of my favourite people on earth, and one of my closest friends. It got to the point where my day wouldn't quite feel right without speaking to you. I needed your friendship. I needed, and still need, the bond we share. It completes me. I knew pretty early in the process that I wanted to spend forever with you. Prayed about it fervently. But it took you FOREVER (okay fine.. maybe a year and a half or so) to see things my way. But I kinda knew all along.. I was just waiting for you to catch up. (To be continued pls read part 2)

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Dear Susu (part II) In that time, I got engaged to you in my "made for you" music video… and by pure coincidence, we both got cast to get married in the wedding party movie.. but all the while we were the very best of friends. I guess, in our case, real life will now imitate art. I'm not sure what the future will bring, but I'm completely sure that I am ready to face it with you by my side. I pray that God continues to build me into the kind of man that you deserve. I love you Susu.. I feel safe and at peace with you. You mean the world to me. Thank you for agreeing to be my lover and best friend. Thank you for agreeing to be my wife. PS: The timing of this may make some people think this is promo for another video, or a movie. It isn't. Ironically, everyone who has seen us together in art, or in life, always insists that we have amazing chemistry. I guess you can say we have been hiding in plain sight. I fell in love with an Actress. Now my life is a movie. In February of 2017, I asked Adesua Tolulope Oluwaseun Etomi to be my wife. She said Yes.

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I went to an event in 2015 and I suppose that was the beginning of something amazing because once banky saw me, he decided that he was going to be my biggest fan. He slid into my DM and sent the funniest message and that was how we became friends. At the time, I wasn’t interested in anything but a friendship and he was very respectful of that and so we stayed just friends for about a year and a half. Our friendship opened my eyes to a lot of things. Opened my eyes to the type of man Olubankole is and WHAT A MAN. WHAT A MIGHTY GOOD MAN. Olubankole, Your Heart is pure and good, to the very core. You are proof that God is real, you are proof that what’s on the inside is greater and so much more powerful than what we see on the outside and you are the evidence of what I hoped for. I bless God for entrusting my heart in your hands because I know it’s safe. You are everything i prayed for and so much more. Thank you for praying with me, fasting with me, always making time for me, laughing with me, and caring more about me than yourself. Thank you for being kind, loving and full of Integrity.
And i’d like to say one more thing. I’m SO SORRY that it took me sooo long to realise that it was you. It has always been you. It couldn’t have been anyone else. In February 2017, you said you couldn’t be without me and asked me to be your wife and I said YES cause I can’t be without you. It will be an absolute pleasure and one of the greatest blessings of my life to walk the path of life with you. Thank you for being who you are.
My goodluck charm, my King, my lover, my bestfriend.
I love you till eternity and beyond.
No, This Is not a movie.
Future Mrs W.

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“Who Said Women Can’t Love Or Get Intimate When They Are 40?” Asks Maina Kageni (AUDIO)

Maina Kageni and his hilarious co-host Mwalimu Kingang’i were recently talking about older women who date younger men, and during the conversation, a man called in and said that there’s an age where women should just stop thinking about love.

According to the male caller when a woman gets to 40 years and above, they need to stop thinking and hoping for love, romance, intimacy, and marriage, and if she does, she’s just being immoral.

Maina Kageni did not understand how men could think like this yet there’s no limit to love or marriage as long as a woman is still open to dating and finding a man despite her age.

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As for Mwalimu King’ang’i, the comedian was in full support of the caller, saying that at 40 is a point where men can think about love but not women because that’s how nature works.

According to him, if a woman gets to that age and she hasn’t settled down or is not in a committed relationship, she should just give up on finding love and stay away from intimacy and relationships.

He added that women above 40 who try to look for love are the same ones who end up as cougars, dating young men for companionship, also known as Ben 10s.

Maina Kageni stood his ground that there’s no problem if a woman is still thinking of love or intimacy at 40, with ladies calling in to support him. Listen to the audio below as women defend themselves regarding this topic.

 

 

Bride divorces ‘greedy’ husband after three hours

A husband was divorced after three hours and had his head shaved as a punishment after his wife said he was ‘greedy’ and married another man on the same day.

Rubana Parveen, 18, married Muntaj Ansari, 26, on Wednesday morning, in Chandwa village, in eastern India.

But after the traditional Muslim nuptials the auto rickshaw driver started demanding a huge dowry and insisted on buying an expensive motorbike.

After Rubana Parveen, 18, divorced Mr Ansari, she got married to Mohammed Elias, 25, later that day. Her father had already bought Mr Ansari a motorbike but he wanted a better model
After Rubana Parveen, 18, divorced Mr Ansari, she got married to Mohammed Elias, 25, later that day. Her father had already bought Mr Ansari a motorbike but he wanted a better model

The bride’s father, Bashir-ud-din Ansari, 58, who owns a hotel, had already bought him a motorbike but Muntaz wasn’t satisfied and demanded a better model.

A witness said: ‘Everyone kept telling the groom to calm down and tried convincing him to accept what he was given.

‘But he kept threatening to go home without his new bride. The groom and bride’s father were arguing a lot. It was a crazy scene.’

Pictured, a humiliated Mr Ansari was garlanded with shoes by villagers, who decided to teach him a lesson for his greed. A divorce was granted when Rubana called a 'Qazi' or Muslim judge
Pictured, a humiliated Mr Ansari was garlanded with shoes by villagers, who decided to teach him a lesson for his greed. A divorce was granted when Rubana called a ‘Qazi’ or Muslim judge
Villagers sat Mr Ansari on a mat and wet his hair before they started shaving. A witness said: ‘Everyone kept telling the groom to calm down. It was a crazy scene'

Villagers sat Mr Ansari on a mat and wet his hair before they started shaving. A witness said: ‘Everyone kept telling the groom to calm down. It was a crazy scene’

Pictured, Mr Ansari has his head shaved as punishment. His family were so ashamed they wrote a letter of apology and promised to return everything 
Pictured, Mr Ansari has his head shaved as punishment. His family were so ashamed they wrote a letter of apology and promised to return everything

Bride Rubana decided to call a local ‘Qazi’, also known as a Muslim judge or adjudicator, and with her family’s support she declared an open ‘Talaaq’, which is a Muslim divorce.

Bashir-ud-din said he made sure Muntaj’s family return all gifts and dowry money already paid.

Read more: dailymail.

He’s Drop Dead Hot!!! Sexy Singer Gin Ideal Reveals Her Ideal Man

Gin Ideal is one of the fast rising artistes in the Kenyan music industry. The petite female singer is the hit maker to the song Rede that topped charts barely a day after its release.

The singer who is irresistibly one sexy lass got to sit down with this writer and reveal her dream man. Since she got into the music game, Gin has been driving city boys all crazy on social media for what they term as her hotness. Lucky are those who have met her.

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Apart from her down to earth character that I got to experience with this singer, Ideal got to tell me all about her man. Although, there’s one thing she cannot do.

She told Classic 105;

“I always say I will never advertise any man on my social media anywhere unless I have a ring on my finger”

So why would she not “advertise” him?

“Because I don’t want it to be like Gin is with the boyfriend, they have broken up with the boyfriend…I don’t want that whole thing to surround my music.”

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The singer who now has a new hit dubbed ‘Kuna Kitu‘ went on to tell Classic 105 of her dream man;

‘My ideal man is Very Hardworking, someone who I can easily talk to about anything, someone whose brutally honest with me, who is loving, someone who is very clean.”

I know you can now imagine that kind of a man in your mind….But there is one more thing she revealed.

“I’m not all about tall, dark and handsome…”

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Did I forget to tell the thirsty team Mafisi this important point?

PS: she is taken!

VIDEO EVIDENCE: This Is The Popular Artiste Going Koo Koo For Vera Sidika’s Botylicious Bum Bum

Vera Sidika is on demand!

When you think of Vera Sidika, what comes to mind is her bootylicious behind, her transformed skin and her flamboyant life. So, to get to her level, man, you need to have all it takes.

Well, it seems Harmonize, a popular Tanzanian singer could not help it but sing about Vera Sidika’s juicy, bum bum. His new song featuring Rich Mavoko Show Me is one that has evoked criticism from fans over what they say is a ratchet video.

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In his video, the singer has used Vera Sidika’s look alike in his video vixen as he mentions how he would love Vera Sidika to show him her Shape. Is Vera Sidika too expensive to get her to make a cameo on his video? I’ll let you judge on that.

SCREENSHOTS! Leaked Conversation Of Vera Sidika And Her Mother

Harmonize released this song days after breaking up with his older girlfriend and actress Jacqueline Wolper. In an interview with Classic 105’s Maina Kageni, the Matatizo hitmaker cited that he was very single and ready for a Kenyan girl.

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I guess Vera Sidika was that girl. But then Harmonize seems to have a taste for older women. Is Vera Sidika in for this young star?

Here is the video;

8 Photos That Prove Ken Mijungu And His Wife Are Couple Goals

NTV news anchor Ken Mijungu last Saturday said ‘I do’ to his longtime girlfriend Laureen in a colourful wedding ceremony at Fuschia Gardens in Limuru.

The ceremony was attended by the who’s who in the industry with his family and close friends present to witness their holy matrimony. The wedding was an invites only affair and if you didn’t get a card, you weren’t going to be part of the awesome ceremony.

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His colleagues Dennis Okari, Trevor Ombija and Andrew Ochieng were on the line up as his groomsmen. How cool is that though?

Not much was known about Ken’s bride, but one thing we can all agree to is how cute and pretty she is. Ken scored major on this one.

The two are couple goals, but Laureen mostly steals the spotlight. Well, the two are now one but we can’t help but admire how cute they look together.

Check out these 8 photos that prove the newly weds are couple goals;

‘I Snatched Her Man Because She Refused To Serve Me Food In Her Wedding’ Woman Confesses

An instagram comment by a woman on why she ended up with a friends husband has left many upset.

Here’s what the user going by the name break_makeup;

‘I waited patiently to get the man before i could come public and brag about it.i am sharing this story to warn married ladies. My best friend invited me for a wedding I did not know the couple I just followed my friend because I was broke and hungry, I was so broke that day that I could not afford a bottle of coke. So I joined her for the wedding unfortunately for her the food was just passing me by and my friend was busy forming because she met this guy . I was so hungry each time the food passed by, I swallowed saliva, until they finished sharing food. I went to the people sharing and they gave me a bottle of water to drink apologizing the food was finished. after the wedding my friend went to greet the bride so I followed her, after greeting the bride I went back to tell her that I was not served instead of her to sympathize with me, she said pls pls pls I have my husband to think of now,  am a married woman . I was now wondering what connected food with am a married woman I felt so bitter that I vowed right in the alter in the present of God and the hunger in my stomach to steal her man. that was how I followed up, I got his number from his elder brother because I lied he was my university mate I lost his contact. I started my job and am now pregnant for him. he promised to leave his wife if i give him a boy, hopefully it will be a boy.You all should pray for me’.

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Reactions from the social media post, condemning the woman;

Man, sister quarrel over pregnancy, he kicks her stomach and kills her

A 29-year-old man killed his 16-year-old sister because she was pregnant then surrendered himself to Siritanyi police station.

Kizito Wafula allegedly committed the crime in Misemwa village, Kanduyi, Bungoma county on Wednesday evening.

He had had a longstanding dispute with standard eight pupil Abigail Wafula over the pregnancy, their father Emanuel Wafula told journalists yesterday.

The girl was five months pregnant, he said.

Abigail and Kizito had quarrelled then he kicked hard in the stomach, making her fall on the ground.

She started writhing in pain and her relatives called a motorcycle to take her to hospital, but she died, her father said.

“I don’t why Kizito, who is usually very temperamental, decided to beat her up. But he had previous been telling her that he will one day kill her for embarrassing our family,” Emanuel said.

He said his daughter was bright and index 13 and he had been expecting her to perform well in her studies despite being pregnant.

Her mother at first refused to talk to journalists and only said they had sacrificed a lot to ensure she does not leave school so she could have a bright future.

Neighbours, who flocked to the home, condemned the incident.

Francis Wasike said Kizito would occasionally have a bitter quarrel with his sister asking her why she had gotten pregnant yet they had sacrificed many things to take her to school.

Her body was taken to Bungoma County Referral Hospital morgue.

Area assistant chief Alfred Wefafa said the beating was uncalled for and an embarrassment to the community.

He suspects Kizito might have been drunk when he beat up his sister.

Wefafa said he has known Kizito for some time and he is usually drunk.

He warned residents against behaving in such a manner and urged them to find amicable solutions to problems.

“Cases of people in families fighting and killing each other have been on rise in this my area and I’m appealing to families to seek divine intervention in solving disputes,” he said.

Wefafa said Kizito, who has been transferred to Bungoma police station, will be arraigned in court and charged with his sister’s murder.

7 things that’ll help you deal with a break up

We’ve heard a number of stories where people committed suicide or murdered their partners after they broke up with them.Others are even in jail because their anger made them commit a crime as they could not get over the break up. No one ever wants to get dumped, but in most cases prefer doing the dumping but again you don’t have control over that and when you get dumped, well you need to suck it up, shake it off and get moving because your significant other will definitely do so. If you really want to accept and move on, well there are a number of things that can help you do exactly that.

1.) Delete all your love conversations 

By delete I mean wherever they are, either on social media, on your phone, just get rid of them. Well if you don’t you’ll emotionally be frustrated and constantly be looking at them and so you may end up doing something irrelevant. Constantly staring at these messages can really affect you emotionally and make it longer for you to move on.Yes, memories are made of that but it’s over and you need to accept and move on. So simply delete everything even if you wrote each other love letters, burn them and if they were emails, just trash them. Letting go of all these will help you control your emotions.

2.) Stop constantly calling and texting them

When someone says its over between us. Please understand the statement and try and accept that things did not work out and move on. Constantly calling them and even texting and their failure to respond can really be frustrating, but you need to tell yourself, if they don’t call nor text me then am no longer important to them and so I should stop wasting my time. Some people can really be nagging asking for forgiveness yet it’s written on the wall that they’ll never be a you and me again.

3.) Find someone to let it out on

Get me right, I’m not talking about a friend with benefits, if anything you should keep off such people at that time as they are capable of emotionally ruining you. Find a friend you can trust and you can always call so that whenever you can’t take it anymore, you can simply call or text them and they can hear you out. Keeping it to yourself can lead to depression, which may affect your work and even result in you committing suicide. So let it out on someone you can trust and can advise you appropriately.

4.) Find a distraction 

Look for something to keep you busy as an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. If you keep watching romantic movies even two months after the break up and stare at his or her photo then cry and refuse to eat, well that’s not the right distraction. If you love swimming, please do so, if you love hiking do it, JUST DO ANYTHING TO GET YOUR MIND OFF THEM.

5. ) Avoid staying alone

Being a loner makes you think and then cry a lot and lead to all the wrong ideas and emotions. Always find yourself in the company of the right people,  not people who’ll make you drink your heart out though or smoke weed and all sort of things they think are antidepressants.This is because if you want to heal, you need to deal with the issue and taking drugs to forget will instead turn you into a drug addict.You can’t run away from the truth which is you are trying to recover from a break up.

6.) Get rid of everything you held as precious in that relationship

These are basically material stuff. Rings,clothes and perhaps even jewellery like promise rings as they can make you still feel attached to this person each time you wear them or even see them around your house or closet. I know it won’t be easy as some gifts come a long way and were quite expensive but you really need to let go and move on. So simply work on saying good bye to these stuff.

7.) Social media manenos

Delete those photos and change your facebook status. Nowadays posting relationships on social media is a big thing. People love to show off how their relationships are progressing. Well the same time you took to post this stuff please use it to delete that photo and change your status. All these are steps of acceptance and just in case in every step of the way its gets tougher and you are spiritual, then make a prayer.

 

 

DISCLOSED!!! This Is The MAIN Reason MEN Lie

Let me start by saying that we all lie!

But then, lying is a tool men use to save themselves from the wrath of women. Research has shown that men lie twice as much as women do. Ladies, how many times have you caught your man lying? Your blood must be boiling when you think of the many times he has lied to you.

Men are creative when it comes to creating new lies every day. Well, there are many reasons why men lie but there is only one MAIN reason and that is – they are afraid of your reaction to the truth!

Even though a woman says she’d rather hear the truth about a situation than keeping it a secret, a man knows very well she would go mad if he tells her. So, the man must lie to save the relationship.

Even though lying can compromise your moral, it can be a good thing (according to most men). Ask how? Let’s go through a couple of things;

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You can’t tell a woman she is overweight

Using the word ‘fat’ can cost you a relationship.

You can’t talk about her make-up

You can’t just talk about how badly she has worn her makeup unless you want her to call it quits on your relationship.

You can’t ask her age or talk about it

You’ve probably heard a woman say ‘I’m sweet sixteen.’ Leave it at that.

DISCLOSED!!! This Is The MAIN Reason MEN Lie

Let me start by saying that we all lie!

But then, lying is a tool men use to save themselves from the wrath of women. Research has shown that men lie twice as much as women do. Ladies, how many times have you caught your man lying? Your blood must be boiling when you think of the many times he has lied to you.

Dear Women, Here Are Signs That You’re Dating A Married Man

Men are creative when it comes to creating new lies every day. Well, there are many reasons why men lie but there is only one MAIN reason and that is – they are afraid of your reaction to the truth!

Even though a woman says she’d rather hear the truth about a situation than keeping it a secret, a man knows very well she would go mad if he tells her. So, the man must lie to save the relationship.

Even though lying can compromise your moral, it can be a good thing (according to most men). Ask how? Let’s go through a couple of things;

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4 signs that your partner might become abusive in the future

 

You can’t tell a woman she is overweight

Using the word ‘fat’ can cost you a relationship. You just can’t tell a woman she is too plus size not to mention telling her she eats a lot. On the other hand, you just can’t call a slender woman ‘thin’ asking her to add some flesh. You just have to lie about it all and simply tell her she is beautiful.

You can’t talk about her make-up

Bad make up is unattractive, especially when the eyebrows don’t match each other. You can’t just talk about how badly she has worn her makeup unless you want her to call it quits on your relationship. That drives a man to lie, he might say “I love your makeup” but then he knows that the lady almost looks like she is prepped to act in a horror movie.

You can’t ask her age or talk about it

You’ve probably heard a woman say ‘I’m sweet sixteen.’ You will get into trouble for reminding a woman that she is getting old after she just hit 35 years. To make things worse, you will be single when you ever announced her age in public.

Just to remind you, here are some of the common lies men tell;

I’m Not Drunk

I’m On my way

I’m stuck on traffic

My battery is low

I missed your call

Bungoma man kills wife after she refused to hand over Sh150 chama loan

A somber mood has engulfed residents of Kabukara village in Sirisia constituency Bungoma county after three members of one family died as a result of one hundred and fifty shillings.
According to neighbors and residents, the middle aged man killed his wife in cold blood on Wednesday after she refused to give him one hundred shillings.
It’s alleged that the wife refused to give him the money, which she intended to use to buy medicine for his sick grandmother.
A neighbor Rose Simiyu told journalists that the woman had been loaned the cash by her fellow women in their local women’s self group before the husband began to demand for the money.
”The wife completely refused to give him the money saying that he will only go and buy alcohol with it,” she said.
The two exchanged in a quarrel, before the man who is said to have been drunk at the time of the incident snatched her the money, then  beat her up before stabbing her several times on the breasts and stomach.
The woman died on the spot. Irate neighbors stormed the homestead and stoned the man to death. His brother who tried to come with a panga to rescue his brother was also beaten to death by the mob.
Police have taken the three bodies to the Bungoma referral hospital morgue.
Chair of Maendeleo ya wanawake in Sirisia sub county Bilha Nakhungu condemned the incident and asked men to respect their wives.
”We want our men to have respect to their wives and stop these incidents we have seen here and settle disputes in an amicable way,” she said.
Sirisia MP John Waluke who visited the homestead condemned the incident. The MP blamed excessive consumption of alcohol among the youths and married men for rampant deaths and marriage breakages in the area.
”This is very sad incident since most of my electorates whom I expected to vote for me in the coming polls have died a lot because of these cheap sachet liquor that comes from neighboring town in Uganda”.
He asked the Bungoma County Commissioner Joshua Chepchieng to crack the whip on the rampant use of illicit alcohol in the area.
The legislature said that most of the alcohol brought through the border from Uganda is being sold everywhere in houses and is used by politicians to also cause havoc in rallies and funerals.
The politician said that its very sad to loose three members of one family because of a family dispute that could have been resolved peacefully.