Sio Uchawi! 6 easy ways of winning your mother in laws heart…thank me later

We all know motherhood is a sacred position, so it’s natural for any woman to inwardly and sometimes outwardly express some fear about losing her son to another woman. But rather than let this dynamic get the better of us, it’s best to acknowledge the shift that comes with marriage and be open about how you want your relationship with your mother-in-law to unfold.

Remember that she is still your husband’s mother.

Although her relationship with her son has changed, remember that she will always and is still his mother. Even though you are the woman in his life now, be considerate and don’t be so obsessed and behave as if he did not come from a family. It’s good to remember that you became part of that family when you married him.The fact is that his mother will always remain that woman in his life unless she is dead so while she is still there let her have her place and don’t try to separate your husband from his mother. If anything without her there would be no husband for you to marry and so don’t always demand for your way. So do her the favor of loving her son unconditionally because you have taken her spot and you are her son’s biggest fan.

Accept her for who she is.

I know this is hard but you are going to be a mother in law too someday and you will need your daughter in law to accept you as you are. She might not be like your biological mother but she is your extended mother and despite all her weaknesses, you need to learn to live with her and accept her. I know the hardest time is when she has to come and visit and she wants you to run your house like hers .You can talk to your husband about it and as well find a wise way of making both of you meet halfway. At times learn from her and in some other occasions ask her if she would like to learn from you. Don’t always be the boss, it will create a bad picture because you’ll fight a lot and hardly ever have peace, at times let her be in control and humble yourself. Please respect her age and experience.

Talk to her about hard things.

If she has offended you, find a respectful way to let her know instead of constantly reporting her to your husband. She may not listen at first because she might go like what is this small girl trying to tell me,but give it a try. Some of us want to keep grudges and assume that she knows she has offended you,you will be hurting yourself as she will never know her mistakes and she will keep doing them to an extent you will hate her and never want her around.YET THE PROBLEM IS YOU, because you have never told her, her mistakes. So remember she is not perfect. And as much as you are learning how to be a daughter in law, so is she learning how to be a mother in law to you. So let both of you assume that the other is doing the best she can. If you are feeling hurt by something she did or said, find a way to gently bring it up. You may even want to ask her if you could have done something differently. Then Try to understand. When there are problems in family relationships, each person needs to overlook with grace when possible, and when not, address the issues kindly. Reject bitterness and don’t judge. There are always two sides to any story.

Remember, you are family.

So find time to talk and watch movies or programs or even go out to the market and buy gifts as well as tell her about some of the family’s funny stories. This way you make her feel like part and parcel of your family. Please include her in some of the family activities and traditions. Trust me your husband will love you more because he will appreciate the bond you share with his mother and he will love you because you appreciate the woman who carried him for nine months and has raised him to be the man he is for you.

Take time to express gratitude.

Be the one who initiates the visit to her home and when you get there, shop for her the same way you would shop for your own biological mother. Once you’re there don’t just sit and do nothing, when you and her son visit, it means a lot to her, yes but when you offer to help with the meals and with clean up, it makes her feel happier that you came and you are now taking care of her. Well that is one way to get blessings. Instead of ganging up against her with the other daughter in laws. Appreciate her and keep telling her how you are grateful. Trust me even if she is a wicked mother in law, she will find herself having a soft spot for you. Just never give up on having a good relationship with her and avoid gossiping her to everyone as it never really changes the fact that she is and will always be your mother in law unless you divorce her son. You can as well call to say her and send her some money even if it’s 500 bob or some airtime every week.

And Finally…….Never take her son away from her 

As much as you are married to him don’t separate him from his family please. I know you would love to keep him to yourself but that’s not going to happen especially if he is a family man. Keep him close to his family will always earn you a direct ticket to some family things even when he is not around. If he cant attend a family meeting, how up there and take his place and speak his words, don’t say thank God if he can’t make it, I also don’t have to show up. You are one and as much as your husbands’ family may not be the best, learn from them and make your family the best.

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10 signs that he still loves you

There are many ways that we show our affection for those that we love. Thoughts and emotions cloud our judgment to whether one is still loved by their significant other.

Below are 10 signs that your beau still loves you:

He keeps an eye on you

Ladies, does he constantly want to check up on you? Or want to know how your day has been then without a shadow of a doubt he still loves you. Don’t wonder any further whether he still loves you. He sure does.

He follows what you do online

You may think it’s a bit stalkerish but trust you me girl, he means no harm just keeping tabs of his baby. It is normally a sweet gesture when he keeps tabs on you, this shows a level of trust and openness in the relationship.

You get a lot of calls from unknown numbers

Your bae tries to reach you on your cellphone but you are unreachable. He will go out of his way by using other numbers just to get a hold of you. Those are signs that he still loves you.

He sends you hateful messages

Due to anger and resentment that he may still harbor inside of him, he may once in a while send hateful messages which he doesn’t mean. He later apologizes because he still has mad feelings over you baby girl.

He tends to call you for no particular reason

If he calls and tells you that he really has nothing to tell you but just wants to hear your voice, that is a clear sign that he still loves you and your own his mind 24/7.

He shares love quotes on his social media

Men are not beings of showing emotions but when he extends his affection on his social media, he is targeting a specific person that has his heart.

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He resists giving back your stuff

Many breakups are followed by individuals returning back their stuff from their significant others due to not wanting fond memories of each other. But when he refuses giving back your stuff, know that he wants your memories close by.

He keeps wearing the gifts you got him

When you buy your guy a gift, and he constantly wears what you got him means that he loves your taste and the things you get him. He will wear it proudly and be proud of the gift.

He has extreme emotions towards you ( anger, hate, sadness)

Mixed feelings towards you are present. He may be feeling confused and disturbed over you to a point that he may not know how to act or feel.

He tries to reach you when he is drunk

Drunk calls in the middle of the night are a clear indication that he still loves you. It’s only when a man is drunk that he can pour out his emotions towards you.

He has future plans for you

Someone who loves you will always want to include you in his plans either for the future of even the present times. This is someone who sees a future with you and would want to spend the rest of his life with you.

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A list of things spouses would change about their partner

Wives want to change four things about their husbands… but husbands would change SIX things about their wives!

A survey of married couples found that mood swings were the thing wives would most like to change in a partner.

A survey of married couples gave a revealing insight into the daily gripes couples share with each other, including men being less grumpy and wives being more affectionate

A survey of married couples gave a revealing insight into the daily gripes couples share with each other, including men being less grumpy and wives being more affectionate

However, it seems men have a longer list of demands. Given the chance, husbands would change an average of six things about their partners, while women would only change four, the poll reveals.

For women, 35 per cent would make their partner less grumpy, while 30 per cent want them to be better listeners. Putting an end to bad habits is on the wish list for a quarter of wives – and the same number would like their husbands to become more appreciative.

For men, the top request for almost one in four was for their spouse to be more affectionate, while 22 per cent wished their other half was happier. One in five wanted their wives to be more adventurous in the bedroom. Overall, while the majority were happy in their marriage 13 per cent said they were unsure if they had ended up with the right person.

‘It appears that men would be less grumpy if they were given more affection and more adventurous sex, while women would be happier if men listened more and stopped their bad habits.

‘Regardless of the difference in complaints from both genders, the old relationship rules still apply – to try to listen to each other, to meet in the middle, and to show each other kindness, patience and respect.’

The survey of 1,500 couples by polling firm Ginger Research found that men wanted their wives to ‘dress sexier’, stop watching ‘bad TV programmes’, be more into sport and forget obsessing about their weight.

Women, however, wished their spouses would drink less, help more with chores, get rid of their beer belly and put the loo seat down. They also wanted to change their husband’s height, facial hair – and table manners.

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4 signs that your ex still loves you

Breaking up is hard, especially if you were madly in love with the person.

Well, the harsh truth is that things don’t always work the way we expect them to. Also, it is worth noting that the first relationship barely works. If he/she was your first, it is okay to look for someone else who can understand you better.

Don’t cry because it’s over, there still may be a chance that your ex still loves you.

Here are 4 signs that your ex still loves you:

  • Your ex tries to maintain regular contact with you

Well, I know this is a no brainer. If your ex tries to still keep contact with you then that means that feelings are still there. If you have tried ignoring your ex, but they constantly try to reach out, then that’s a clear indication that he/she still loves you.

The longer this happens, after your breakup the more it suggests that your ex wants you back. He/she may not be happy with the single life and may be wanting you back.

  • Reminiscing about the happy times

If he/she still remembering the good old days together, then that’s a clear indication that they still love you despite the breakup. He/se may be reconsidering to taking you back.

  • Your ex remains angry, emotional or upset for weeks or months after breakup

I know this may seem somewhat controversial. But often this is a great sign that your ex still loves you. If you didn’t do anything drastic to hurt your ex like cheating on them, then your ex is holding feelings of resentment and stays being angry then that is a positive sign showing emotion investments and feelings towards you.

If you want to win your ex back, you will have to make them let go of these feelings.

  • Your ex tends to send mixed signals, where one minute they say they miss you then the next they’re cold and distant

This is the strongest indicator that they still in love with you and cannot seem to let go. I have a feeling that most of ya’ll breakups lead to these mixed feelings because of conflicted emotions. Keep your options open, to getting back into the relationship. If your, ex is doing this, then that means they are not fully ready to let go.

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Good luck in taking back your ex after you have identified with these signs after the breakup. I would strongly advise not to take the friendzone avenue.

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Secret Revealed! 6 Things Gospel Singer Mercy Masika Does To Avoid Relationship Drama

Gospel singer Mercy Masika is ruling the airwaves, and her star is not about to be dimmed anytime soon.

Away from her music, the celebrated singer is a wife to husband David Muguro and a mom to two beautiful kids.

Her humble personality has seen her win the hearts of many, including her husband.

And while some of her colleagues are breaking their marriages, Mercy remains steadfast solid in her relationship.

Her recent admission about her husband received the praise of many, who indicated they would emulate her. Here is what she said about her hubby David;

Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you have the right person by your side, and you both truly love each other then you’ll always figure a way to get through it. Marriage is beautiful and I love my husband.

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Recently she spoke to the standard newspaper where she further revealed her secret to a happy marriage.

This are six things she does to keep her relationship strong.

  1. Seek wise counsel. Don’t talk to all and sundry about your relation problems
  2. Submit. This doesn’t mean being a doormat.
  3. Chose your battles wisely. Sometimes I say sorry even when i’m not wrong she says. This humbles him and he learns to say sorry.
  4. Pray. This has kept me standing
  5. Sex. She says you should figure out what your spouse needs
  6. Be faithful,

 

 

Dating single moms: how to choose a present for her children

A number of gentlemen have been there and for sure, dating a single mom is not a straight-forward task. Well, partly because our society still believes in unnecessary myths and prejudices. In addition, a woman with children is usually quite busy and doesn’t have much time for dates.

Her children are a priority and after her children, she will be able to spend time with you. It also becomes trickier during holidays and celebrations because you’re likely to have to buy gifts for her children as well.

Here are gift ideas for your girlfriend that she may use together with her children

1. Bouquet

Many times men buy beautiful bouquets for their girlfriends. These go well with a box of sweets or chocolates. If you found her from a dating site, you probably got her flowers on date one. A friend of mine got his current girl from Russian brides (because he heard the one guarantee that with Russian girls, boredom is a thing of he past …story for another day) but hey, most girls love flowers. Given that single moms are usually very caring of their children, you could go further by doing a hand-made bouquet of fruits. Do your homework though! Make sure that her children have no allergies to the flowers.

2. Domestic appliances

Who said that domestic appliances are not romantic? Women with children are always happy to receive some appliances to help around the house and save time. Not only will these make her happy but it’s a creative way to you show your care about helping her find time for a date with you.

3. Couple clothes

This is if you’re getting serious with her. They tend to be very interesting gifts for women with children and give a purpose of intent to spend the future with her. In this case, you buy matching clothes for her children as well. This could be as simple as his and hers t-shirts with similar styles and a clever message together with those that go with her children. It could be your name, her name and their names.

Again, this is only for those who are getting serious.

On another note however, it is not always appropriate to buy presents for all her family. You might want to consider jewelry.

It is clear that if you know her children, you can’t ignore their birthdays and other holidays. What to present to them?

1. From 1 to 3 years old

Children from 1 to 3 years old will enjoy fascinating books, rocking chairs and wheelchairs, musical, interactive, and educational toys. Don’t buy anything too complicated or very expensive. Children at this age, pretty often, tend to break toys and tear apart books.

2. From 3 to 6 years old

The best things that you can buy for children from 3 to 6 years old are educational sets, children’s pianos, guitars and other things. For example, children who like to pain will appreciate paintings and drawing boards. Here, still, it is better not to buy too expensive things, because pretty soon those will become boring for children.

3. From 6 to 11 years old

This is when everything gets way more interesting. Now, you can present them board games, game consoles, radio-controlled models, and other potentially interesting things for you. Furthermore, you can share your hobby with her children to improve your relationship. You may also consider buying rollers, skates, bicycles, and so on.

4. Teenagers

It is pretty hard to find a good present for teens because too many things depend on your relationship with them and their mother. Usually, teens are way more demanding, and before buying a gift for them, you definitely should consult with their mother. Generally, boys from 11 to 17 years old will like gyro scooters, smartphones, fitness bracelets, gaming keyboards, mouses, gamepads, or headphones. Girls of the same age will enjoy fashion jewelry, an MP3 player, cosmetics, beautiful teddy bears, stylish headphones, smartphone cases, cool backpacks, external batteries (power banks), or flash drives.

Cupid Struck! 5 Types of men that drive women crazy

Women love bad boys and this is something that has been a mystery to many. It is not clear on what attracts them to these types of men but it is obvious that’s what works for them.

Bad boys attract unwanted attention regardless of whether they are handsome or not, whether loaded or not women don’t seem to consider this with many wanting to experience some adventure with the said men.

Mary J Blige sang a song dedicated to the bad boys and here she says”Me and Mr wrong get along so good even though he breaks my heart so bad, we’ve got something special going on.”

Could this be the case for our Kenyan men?

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Here are the types of men that women are attracted to.

1. Nduthi Guys

These kind of men mostly attract young girls who are either still in school or new in campus. They are liked and loathed in equal measures for their promiscuous nature .

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They have mainly contributed to increased early pregnancies among teens something that has left a bitter mouth in the society.

The above behaviour has not deterred married women who are now having sexual escapes and illicit affairs with these forbidden lot.

2. Gym instructors

Every woman wants a fit man. No one likes an over sized guy who cant even pick up after himself thus gym instructors attract women. Women are mainly attracted to gym instructors for their physique which is mainly attractive but in most scenarios end up disappointed when it reaches between the sheets.

So the next time you hear your woman is are hiring a male gym instructor, be very worried as you might end up single and depressed in this cold weather.

3. Dread locked guys

There is something about guys with dreadlocks that women cant resist. Most of the men are eye candies with well toned bodies good for our instagram pages and showing off to our friends.

Unlike some men who are unkempt most dread locked guys are well kept, with the well maintained body comes a good performance between the sheets something that a woman can’t resist.

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4. Bouncers

Most girls are attracted to bouncers not because they have much to offer but because of the chances they create. Who wouldn’t want free tickets, free performance entrances and a free sexual escapade.

5. Butchery guys

Ladies love butcher guys for the free meat packages extended to them and for the servicing that is not extended to them by their husbands or boyfriends .

When you see a woman laughing heartedly with the butcher guy. just know sio wote huendea nyama.

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‘I knew you were gonna be my headache,’ Otile Brown to his ex Nabayet

Weeks after being dumped by his Ethiopian bae Nabayet, Otile Brown has shared a brief narration on how he met the love of his life.

Otile and Nabayet recently broke up under unclear circumstances prompting him to ask the public to intervene and ask for forgiveness.

‘I remember when we first met in Australia after months of talking on phone for hours everyday without getting bored

You pulled up on me in a black biker short, a big ass 2pac black Tshirt (which is mine nowadays😉) and yeezys sneakers.

With no make up on, no nothing 🤣 you wasn’t trying hard to impress and that is when I knew you was gonna be my headache, coz that’s my type of cool.’

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Otile and Nabayet

Otile went on to praise Nabayet for being a giver and not a taker like most women are.

‘You never ask for anything from me -you’re the type that like to give and never takes and sometimes it’s annoying. LISTEN 👂 

Relationships aren’t easy and the more serious it gets sometimes, the more terrifying it becomes coz we’re young and stupidly cursed but I’m ready to risk it all for your fine ass…

Happiest birthday 🎂 @nabbi__ ila ndo ivo ,I’ll make sure i have something special for your fine ass when we link InshaAllah!.’

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Did you know cuddling has health benefits? Here are some of them

When was the last time you cuddled with someone? That cuddle that does not necessarily lead to s3x. I guess it has been a while right?

Today, business is being worn as a badge of honor where no one makes time for each other due to their busy schedules.

Its high time you fix cuddling into your busy schedule, because not only does it make you feel warm and fuzzy but it also has some very serious health benefits to reap from a hot steamy cuddle.

 

  • It reduces the risk of chronic diseases

When our bodies are subjected to chronic stress whether physical, emotional, or nutritional over prolonged periods of time, they become a target for chronic illnesses such as diabetes, cancer, and heart disease,”

This remedy has been proven to relax the body and lower cortisol levels, helping to reduce the risk of developing chronic disease.

  • Reduces stress

This is an effective way to decrease anxiety and depression, and, yes, stress. Your blood pleasure and heartrate will lower automatically.

  • Helps create a connection in a relationship

There is a lot of research that notes having healthy relationships contributes to a longer lifespan, says Wijkstrom. “Some researchers have suggested that this may have a lot to do with oxytocin and the happiness that it makes us feel.” So don’t forget to spoon your partner some cuddling love to enrich your relationship.

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  • It improves your immune system

The stress-reducing effects of a good cuddle could also protect you from illness. One study involving 400 adults found that hugging may reduce the chance a person will get sick. Researchers discovered participants with a greater support system were less likely to get sick, and those with the greater support system who did get sick had less severe symptoms than those with little or no support system. The more support and hugs participants received, the less severe their symptoms became.

  • It helps with social anxiety

Since cuddling is so peaceful and nurturing, it’s no surprise that it helps ease anxiety and fears. It helps people ease their state of mind and manage their social fears.

  • Helps you get a good night sleep

When we cuddle, our stress melts away, which contributes to a non-restful, rejuvenating sleep. So when you feel Struggling to catch some zzzs? Then you might need a good cuddle. Research shows.

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If she’s not your first choice, don’t waste her time

If she’s not your first choice, don’t waste her time. Don’t treat her like she’s second-best. Don’t chase her if she’s not the one you truly want to be with. Don’t play games.

If she’s not your first choice, don’t ask her personal questions. Don’t let her open up to you about her past, her childhood or her fears. Don’t let her reveal her heart to you if you’re not ready to love her. Don’t ask for a place in her heart if you’re not planning on staying there.

If she’s not your first choice, don’t awaken her love if you’re not ready to love her. Don’t hold her if you’ll easily let her go. Don’t claim her if you can’t be the one she needs.

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 If she’s not your first choice, don’t stop her from finding the one who would put her first.

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If she’s not your first choice, please leave. Leave and don’t disturb her peace. Leave instead of half-loving her. Leave instead of lying to her. Leave because she doesn’t need you. Leave because she will eventually leave you.

She will leave when she realizes that your presence is not that much different from your absence. She will leave because she learned to choose herself when people didn’t choose her.

If she’s not your first choice, don’t expect to be hers. Because she’s the kind of girl who wants to love until her very last breath. She’s the kind of girl who believes in fairytales and forever and growing old with the one she loves laughing at the same jokes on their front porch.

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She’s the kind of girl who will send you love songs and write you love letters and get your favorite candy every time she sees you. She’s the kind of girl who will give you the world and the galaxies and the universe but she needs you to meet her there.

You can’t meet her half-way. You can’t ask her to suppress her love. You can’t ask her to be number two. She’s the kind of girl who wants it all or nothing and she won’t settle until she finds someone who is ready and not afraid to choose her every single day.

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Stop thinking about him, because he is not thinking about you ladies

Ladies, do you ever know when you are the second option to a man? Or do you just ignore the signs, that he may be hinting on you that, just maybe he is seeing someone else?

Ladies why would you go out of your way to satisfy someone else’s man knowing very well that he has someone in his life at the moment?

On the other hand, why is it that men will want to eat the whole cake and leave nothing for the rest? You clearly know that you have a beau that you are dating, but will still want to entertain some other lady on the other side.

A young lady narrates her ordeal with a man she thought was in love with her to a point she would do anything and everything for. When the wise men said love is blind, they weren’t wrong at all.

On a leaked direct message, the distressed lady pours out her heart to the man in question over her being played with like a toy. Her emotions were toyed with as she writes how hurt and embarrassed she was after she thought she was with a man who loved her, only to find out that their was another lady in the man’s life who apparently seemed as the main chick.

She bought the guy a TV, Xbox accessories and also supported him whenever he needed it, to a point she gave him Ksh. 2000 just for the guy to take her love for granted.

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She also writes how they used to go on dates with the guy and also how he used to tell her how she was the only one in his life and how he loves her and her alone. Only to find out that the fellow was entertaining another woman.

With no hesitation and remorse over what the guy did, he replied back claiming he was with the other girl everyday and not with her. Stating how he used to post her on his Instagram stories and Snap-chat.

“I Just thought you didn’t care, but I appreciate the 2k and the good summer vibes” he continues. He sarcastically continues telling the woman that she will never be forgotten, that is if he was till loved.

Those comments angered the lady in question, which resulted to exchange of verbal words.

All I can say is, love makes you foolish. It makes you throw every bit of logic away, do stupid things, dangerous things.

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KTN News presenter ties the knot in a lavish traditional themed wedding

KTN News presenter Fridah Mwaka on Saturday 10, August 2019 formalized her engagement to her fiancé in a ‘traditional’- themed event in Kibwezi, Makueni County.

The union came two months after the lovebirds got engaged at a private event in Nairobi. Ms Mwaka joined KTN News back in March 2018, after, Mashirima Kapombe, then later switched to Citizen TV. If that isn’t enough, the talented News anchor went ahead to make her mark after she impressed the judges with her fluent Kiswahili speaking skills during KTN’s the presenter show.

The Daystar University alumnus also worked as a radio presenter at Kubamba radio, where she worked alongside her close friend and music producer, Saint P.

Although Fridah Mwaka has managed to keep her love life and camera-shy fiancé private from the world, her close and very dear friend and music producer Saint P posted the couples first-ever picture together on his Instagram page expressing his joy in their union of love.

“I cannot explain how happy and excited i am for u. I am happy that u have started a new face in ur life. I am happy for you sana.
May God bless you. I pray for joy, happiness… oneness… You are blessed.
I am confident in the man that is your husband now. I am happy that he shall he has chose to love you.. to take care of you and care for you sooo much.
Occupy this chapter with gladness, that God has done it, has won it… and has Loved it for you.
I love you my dear friend and all love an success for me.
Nawapenda.” Saint P wrote.

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Sources close to Fridah Mwaka have revealed that the couples official church wedding is set for late November this year.

(Photo: Kate_shiks photography)

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When love meets sports: Ghana’s football couple walk down the isle

I know you are used to hearing the phrase, ‘Love is in the air’ but what if a couple never met on an aircraft?, hot air balloon or even in an airport?.

Anyway, it is rare we hear news of two footballers tying the knot as many footballers settle for models and vice versa, till a Ghanaian football couple walked down the isle this past Thursday, January 5, 2019.

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Ghana men’s national team ‘Black Stars’ forward, David Accam and women’s national team ‘Black Queens’ striker Florence Dadson started the year with a bang by saying ‘I do’ in an invites-only  traditional ceremony held in Cape Coast.

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The two birds are based in the United States of America and have been dating for more than an year.

28-year-old Accam, plays for Philadelphia Union in Major League Soccer (MLS) while 26-year-old Dadson plays for Gulf Coast Texans.

The couple’s white wedding is expected to be held in Accra in March.

We from Radiojambo.co.ke wish the two love birds all the best in their marriage.

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Ladies Here’s A List Of The Reasons Why He Dumped You

Heartbreaks are so painful and take time to heal. However, we may be the cause of our own pain because of things we do consciously or unconsciously. We get heartbroken time and time again yet we don’t know why.

Well here are some of the reasons why :

1. You don’t listen – When someone talks to you, you should listen, this means that you are keen to hear what is being said. Many women listen with the aim of replying which means they don’t get the message. Let your man speak his mind and stop interrupting him. A man wants someone who will listen to them, not someone who will make him feel like his opinion doesn’t matter.

2. Listening to your friends – Friendships are important and we all need them, however we need to know when to draw the lines between our friendship and your relationships. Three is a crowd, you cannot let your friends opinions run things between you and your man.

3. He’s not dating your family – Just like friendships, family is also important, but again you need to draw the line. What happens between you and your man is between the two of you and not your family. If you have a small fight and keep running to tell it to your family then you will lose your man as he will be in constant war with his in-laws and will probably end up avoiding them.

4. Separate lives – Just because you are dating, doesn’t mean that you have to spend 100% of the time together. We all have our separate lives. You can’t drag your man to the shopping sprees, salon, and picnics with the girls etc. Chances are your man won’t drag you along when he goes to watch the game or have drinks with the boys.

5. Questioning – If your man wanted to be questioned about his every move and decision he would just go to prison. You are not his guard, so let him do his own thing. Questioning him all the time about where he is, what he is doing etc will make you single.

6. Being too dependent – Men want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let him know that there’s a place in her life that only he can fill. If you come to a guy for every single thing, and can’t seem to make up your mind or make decisions … it will eventually get tiring and he will move on.

7. Negative – All human beings make mistakes every once in while. Nobody can stand always being criticized because it belittles them. People like to be appreciated so if you never have anything good to say he will look for it elsewhere.

A Love So Sweet: Newly-weds win hearts after riding a bike to the ceremony

They are setting the bar to wedding rituals. If you are looking for a way to cut down spending on weddings, this is it.

On average hiring wedding vehicles costs about Sh30,000, a cost that not many can afford to spend. It’s even worse trying to get friends and family to offer their fancy cars.

A cute couple have impressed many after photos of them riding a bike caught the attention of social media.

Girls, would you put aside your pride and hop onto a bicycle on your big day?

Check out the pics which have gone viral

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Sbonza Ni Wewe! 5 compelling reasons why young girls should stay away from ‘sponsors’

Do you ever look through your Instagram feed and wonder how in the world your female pals can afford to take off to exotic holiday destinations, yet there you are trying to hustle to afford buying the Sh90 ‘imported mexican’ maize?

Sheesh! Kenyans on social media are known not to have chills when they respond in the comments section demanding that the young girl post a picture of the ‘sponsor’ behind the vacation.

Having a sponsor has become so fashionable, one can’t miss spotting a young Kenyan girl desperately holding onto an ‘ancestor’ as they are referred to.

I know it’s been said by most ladies in our generation who love dating old men, that they love ‘monied men for multiple reasons. Campus girls are notorious for dating ‘sponsors’.

Here are my five reasons why you should disown that ancestor BUT if you really must date one, how about you emulate the French President who married a much older woman for LOVE?

1.) Are you ready for a child or fun

If you want to wait to have a kid until you’re in your early 30s, your older man is going to be about 50. Having to run around after a 5-year-old is hard work, especially if it’s been that much longer since your man had a child. And trust me he will also need as much attention as the baby as you will be taking care of all his needs. He won’t be strong enough.Your kid will also have a challenge as most kids in school will mistake his father for his grandfather.

2.) You need to respect him like your father

He is older than you and he already has kids who are almost the same age as you, they respect him and the only difference between you and his kids is that you are sleeping with him. ‘So you need to know that age demands a certain level of respect. You will feel inferior and cant negotiate with him as easily as you would have with a younger man, which means you will literally be his adopted child more than you will be his young wife. Are you ready to be ordered around and be set for curfews?

3.) Your suggestions and opinions hardly count

He has lived more than you and seen more than you so by the time you settle down together, he’ll have amassed life experiences and won’t have time for your shenanigans. Your life will end up being smaller in comparison since your shared years will make up far more of your total life experience than his. He will make most of the decisions and you will have no say in the relationship as you will have to listen to daddy yo…. sorry your husband…. all the time. It’s not fun at all.

4.) You will make enough visits to buy Viagra at the chemist

At your age, I can imagine how much more you’ll be sexually active and you can’t get it all the time. Remember to him it’s not a big deal as he has had it all his life, so unless you’re fine with ‘starving ‘, think again. Then before you know it since you are a prisoner, you may have to ask the watch man or shamba boy to service you. Women supposedly experience their sexual peak at age 35, while men allegedly go downhill after turning 18..remember this is all  allegedly. Why take your chances? So think smart as money is not everything.

5.) Your Friends and his friends

The places you want to hang out, the songs you listen to, the dancing and fun you have will be worlds apart. He won’t be able to mesh easily with your crowd and will stick out like a graying, sore thumb at parties attended by fresh-faced 25-year-olds. Likewise for you at his friends’ gatherings. Most of them met his ex wife so be sure that his friends’ wife’s are not going to make life any easier for you. These women will specifically go out of their way to make you feel not welcome in their crowd. You become an automatic threat to them by being naturally prettier and having the all-powerful asset of youth.

If this doesn’t matter to you, do you boo.

Love at first sight is real! Study finds we register beauty in less than a second

Love at first sight is real – and it triggers a rush of pleasure akin to the euphoria triggered by sugar, psychologists have found.

The experience of beauty has been the subject of fascination for philosophers for millennia, but psychologists have struggled to concretely measure it.

Almost every philosopher that’s tackled it – from Plato to Kant – has espoused that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and to experience that beauty, the beholder must keenly study the subject.

Most conclude that it is an ineffable ‘experience’ that could last minutes, days, or even a lifetime.

However, a new study by New York University psychologists has found it is much more simple than that: they found that it takes a person just one second to register that they find something beautiful.

What’s more, it is not impossible to quantify, as previously thought: when a person sees something beautiful, they experience an intense jolt of pleasure.

‘We say hedonists should skip the candy and go straight to beauty – it’s exactly the same,’ Denis Pelli, psychology professor at NYU who co-authored the study alongside his doctoral student Aenne Brielmann, told DailyMail.com.

The new research, published today in the journal Current Biology, is a piece of a broader puzzle that is the subject of Brielmann’s PhD project: trying to understand how ‘beauty’ can be measured, to better understand how it affects our actions in day-to-day life.

‘Beauty is famously subjective and supposed to be intractable by science – but some of its key properties follow simple rules,’ Pelli said.

‘Philosophers have long supposed the feeling of beauty is a special kind of pleasure. Yet, our analysis of research in the field shows the feeling of beauty may merely be a very intense pleasure – not otherwise special.’

-Dailymail