Things To Avoid Doing On A First Date

The worst thing that can happen of your first date is embarrassing yourself by putting on something totally inappropriate.Your date will judge you from the first impression you give, and that is why what you wear or how you wear it matters a lot. The Standard

What to wear to dates is a discussion everyone questions. With unpredictable fashion trends in the market, what not to wear should be the concern when you want to impress your date.

What to wear to dates is a discussion everyone questions. With unpredictable fashion trends in the market, what not to wear should be the main concern when you want to impress your date.

Don’t let your first date attire ruin your chances for a second date. What you wear is the perfect opportunity to present who you are before you say a word. To win your date over with captivating style, consider the location, time of day and weather as these factors will weigh heavily on your attire choice and stay away from our top five things you shouldn’t wear on a first date.

Too much make up

I agree make up makes the face look fabulous and stunning, but too much of it can make you look like a clown. Apply makeup with moderation, you do not want to embarrass your date. If you can’t moderate, then be natural, it’s best to be yourself.

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Dress right for the weather

Do not wear shorts, a trunk t-shirt with ray bun shades during cold weather or wear a trench-coat and a scarf in the scorching sun. On the same note do not do heels if you cannot walk comfortably in them.

This will spoil your date. Remember we are doing first impression.

Avoid high heels.

Do a test before your date, if you can’t walk normally in them, leave them at home.

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Branded clothes

That branded t-shirt or cap that was given on your company’s retreat is not something your date would love to see you wearing on a date, it will spark a different conversation especially if it is your first date.

You do not have to break a bank to look good. Try out monochromes dressing or color matching for great.

For ladies try dresses and avoid too tight dresses.

BRAND

Sports outfit

Sports outfit looks great on a sports occasion but not on a date, sport gear makes you look less serious on a date. Wear jeans or a suit if you can afford one and you do not want to look like a joker on your first date.

Sport outfit makes you look like you were not prepared for that date.

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Huge purses.

They make you look high-maintained which makes guys think you’re an expensive date blahblahblah, not fair but true.

Some may fear even handling you for that first date.

PURSE

Don’t wear flip flops

This is one of those pieces that expands past the dating dont’s list, and more into the every day dont’s list.  If there’s one wardrobe piece that’s a total no-no, it’s the flip-flop. Unless you’re on a sandy beach for a tropical place, get those heel-smacking sandals out of here.
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‘A Christian Woman Wearing High Heels is Ungodly!’ Shouts City Man

A motivational speaker by the name Gideon Akande has caused a stir on social media after he made some shocking revelations about women who wear high heels.

High Heels

According to this man, high heels are not meant for church and any woman who wears such kinds of shoes to the house of the Lord is ‘married to the world’.

He claims that it is ungodly.

 

“A Christian woman who likes wearing high heel shoes is married to the world; she may be in the church, but her soul is in the world. You will NEVER see a godly, chaste and modest Christian lady wearing high heel shoes.”

This did not go well with social media users who came out guns blazing criticizing Mr Akande for his remarks. He replied to his critics and here is what he wrote;

“To many oppositions to the post that says high heel shoes are ungodly, can’t you understand? Can’t you realize soon that high heel shoes, makeup and downs are not the solution to a happy and peaceful life? With your high heel shoes Satan is still messing you up, and with all those beauty care you still have depression, your husband still cheat on your, you still don’t have rest of mind on your husband when he travels, your husband still abuse you with your high heel shoe, you still not sure of tomorrow, can’t you see that by human power and wisdom you can’t prevail in this battle of life with high heel shoe?

Heels crazy

If high heel shoes, makeups and downs were to be the solution for happy life and marriage, many ladies of these days would be living paradise on earth life, but rather they are living hell on earth. With all the makes, devil still make mess out of their lives and marriages, with the high heel shoes, their husbands still cheat on them and abuse them, living in uncertain fear and persistent depression even with all outward beauty.

For example, the celebrities with the highest heel shoes and makeups have the highest rate of divorce. Can you see it is not by wearing high heel shoes that will make you march the enemy of your soul which is devil? You need Jesus Christ in your life genuinely!”

The bold man, who is known for sharing inspirational messages based on bible teachings, also shared another post about the current rotten generation that shocked many.

“WHAT A ROTTEN GENERATION!

In just one day that I posted worldliness of high heel shoes for Christian women, many social media news/blogs have posted it with different tittles including my name and pictures with the intention of ridiculing me, and several attacks and abuses are following.

But with these, many still long for truth, I have received about 100 friend requests since yesterday, though I can’t add them because I have reached 5000 friends limit.

Though we are in a rotten generation, though majority hate the truth, still we must let them hear it, we must be innocent of the blood of anyone in this generation, we must keep up the unchanging message, method and mission of the gospel though we are in a changing generation.

2 Timothy 4:3-5, ‘For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers; 4 and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables. 5 But you be watchful in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry’”

‘My Elder Sister And Her Two Kids Are Driving Me Crazy In My House,’ Confesses Disgruntled Woman

Staying with relatives in your house can be stressful at times. Some of them do not contribute a single cent towards the family’s monthly expenses.

Others are so annoying and do not respect your personal space hence depriving you of your privacy.

Well, a disgruntled city woman has been living with her sister and her two children for quite a while now, but she isn’t happy at all. She is fed up of taking care of them and is planning to send them away from her home.

 

“My elder sister has been living with me for a year now. She’s currently a single mom of two kids, her ex-husband abandoned her with the kids for more than a year now. The problem fending for them is not easy at all, all their bills are on me and I’m tired.

I managed to register her to learn a trade which she is done with. The thing now is that I am tired of taking responsibility for everything that has to do with them. I want to send them out of the house because I don’t even take care of myself anymore. I really want to know if it will be a nice thing to do if I send them out to go stay elsewhere. My total earning in a month is 40k which is not enough for me not to take of my sister and her kids. I know she’s my sister and her kids are my nephews but I don’t know what to do anymore.. Please advise me.”

Here’s advice from social media users

Tessy: She can stay but tell her to start hustling seriously too., she is your sister your blood! U must be her keeper! Just talk to her about the stress n burden her bills is putting on your shoulders n u. Tell her Want to help but can bite more than u can chew but that she needs to really hustle to make things work.

Ivy: You want to send your blood out of the house to where? Simply speak to your sis. Tell her what you’re going through and how she needs to step up and start doing something

Omar: Please don’t send them out, I know how difficult it is to fend for one’s self talkless of 3 more people. I think u should have a talk with ur sister, tell her how difficult it is for u to shoulder her responsibilities & find a way forward.

Princess: If you as her sister sends her out, who then will she run to? Please don’t get tired of helping your blood. She is a second version of you from same womb. Even tho you not earning much, pls be patient a little more.

Daisy: A year is a lot of time..talk to her before taking any action

Paula: Let her stay but make her fend for herself and the kids

70-year-old granny reveals why she has a ‘Ben 10’

A 70-year-old widow who was banished from her village for having a 30-year-old boyfriend has opened up why she chose to date a ‘ben 10’.

The woman and her boyfriend were busted in bed by her grand daughter, and this act outraged the community who went ahead to ban her from the village.

According to the accounts of the granny, the young girl had noticed the man making moves on her granny and spied on them severally as they carried on with their shenanigans. This whole time the granddaughter was planning how to bust them and reveal their romance to the world, in the hopes of shaming her granny.

Whatever happened to that little thing we call..mind your own business huh?

So the young girl continued with her spying games until one night presented her with the opportunity to catch them in the act. She screamt so hard, villagers responded to the alarm she raised.

The villagers frog marched the two love=birds to the streets and mocked them for their ‘romance’.

After being banished, the granny has come forward and opened up about why she has a ‘Ben 10’. She explained that the young man was a family friend who was helping her out financially including doing house chores.

“I wouldn’t say whether I committed that crime or not. It is my bad granddaughter who caused this public embarrassment to me because if she did not report to the community, I wouldn’t have suffered this type of public disgrace.

“If she was a good granddaughter, the youths wouldn’t have rung the community bell which caused my disgrace; my granddaughter would have shielded me if she was a good child”, she said.

“My cell phone light was on and if I was having intercourse with the man, I would have switched off the phone but the light was on. So, my granddaughter shouted and reported to her uncle that she saw a man having intercourse with me. From there, the matter was reported to the youths and to the entire community and I was sanctioned.

“I have no problem with my granddaughter as to warrant her to report me
to the community that I was having sex with a man. This is a year and three months I took her to my house to stay with me. She gave birth and I took her to my house to stay with me so as to take care of her and I didn’t know that doing so will cause me problem by monitoring me and every step I took.

“Ever since I adopted my granddaughter, her husband doesn’t care how we are faring. It is even the man they said had sex with me that is taking care of her; at times, the man will buy uncooked foods including rice and some noodles and gave her to cook for him.

“The man will just eat a little from the food and leave the rest for her. When my granddaughter’s baby was sick, it was the man who went into the bush and got herbs used in curing the baby”, she explained.

“Yes, the man actually visits our house regularly. He stays till 12 midnight at times. That fateful Sunday they said he had sex with me, he came with his friend from Ozziza community and left at about 10:30pm after drinking some bottles of beer.

“The man later came back to buy local gin which I was selling him when my granddaughter barged into my room with her own cell phone light  and shouted that I was having intercourse with the man and started asking the man what he was doing with me”, she added.

 

Schoolgirl, 13, poisoned her classmate with toxic mosquito repellent in a fit of jealousy because she got better exam marks

A 13-year-old schoolgirl poisoned a classmate with toxic mosquito repellent in a fit of jealousy over her exam marks, police in India have said.

The year eight private school pupil mixed the poison into her rival’s water bottle and then watched her drink it, according to local media in Satna, Madhya Pradesh state.

Police say she was angry over being beaten by her victim in a school test.

The victim began vomiting after drinking from the bottle and was rushed to hospital where her condition is said to be stable.

A 13-year-old schoolgirl poisoned a classmate with toxic mosquito repellent in a fit of jealousy over her exam marks (file photo)

The poisoner later tried to commit suicide by the same method when she feared she would be caught and is also being treated in hospital.

Hospital spokesman Dr Sudhir Singh said: ‘We are treating her. She is serious but her condition is under control.’

Police investigating the case say the poisoner was caught when police viewed CCTV footage from the classroom’s security camera.

Police spokesman Bhupendra Singh explained: ‘Both the girls, aged around 13-14, study in the same class.

‘After drinking water from her bottle, the victim suspected something unusual and told her friend that the water smelt like mosquito repellent.

‘After she began to feel uneasy, the school administration informed her parents, who took her to a hospital.’

The year eight private school pupil mixed the poison into her rival's water bottle and then watched her drink it (file photo of an unrelated mosquito repellent)

He added: ‘In the CCTV footage of the classroom, the accused girl was seen pouring the mosquito repellent into her classmate’s water bottle and then hiding it inside the bag of another student.’

The victim told police she believes her classmate was jealous of her exam marks.

Police spokesman Singh added: ‘The accused girl also consumed the mosquito repellent at her home yesterday and is currently admitted to the district hospital. We are investigating the incident.’

Read more: dailymail.

Can you spot the father of this child? (Photo)

A photo of a man, his wife, a pastor and a little boy is generating very interesting remarks. Have you seen it? Check it out below, including hilarious meme’s.

In a separate video, the pastor is commenting how his prayers have helped the man and his wife conceive after years of being childless.

The husband has a wide grin on his face, perhaps it’s about the sheer joy at finally having a male child to mentor. But everyone on social media has noted one minor detail about the babys looks.

Everyone, like literally everyone is saying the healthy baby boy resembles the pastor.

The other question on people’s minds is if the poor husband has noticed the close resemblance of his son to the pastor. Perhaps he doesn’t care, as he finally has a child to call his own?

Anyway have a look at one funny meme about this photo. It’s hilarious and will crack your ribs if your having a bad day;

pastorgiftmanchild

What do you think?

 

I’m In Love With This Man I Stalk On Facebook. How Do I Tell Him? Confesses City Woman

Do you currently stalk or have you ever followed your crush online, spying on their feed just to know what they are upto? I know alot of us do, but won’t confess.

Alot of relationships have been established on social media, and others have been destroyed by it. But this hasn’t deterred one city woman from proudly declaring that she has been eyeing someone on Facebook.

A lady took to social media to narrate  how she is confused about what to do after crushing on a guy on Facebook.

She has been crushing on him for sometime now, about five months and has been stalking him on Instagram and Facebook.

She says she has about 20 screenshots of him on her phone after checking out his profile, but she does not know how to go about it. She wonders if she should tell the guy or not.

Her confession is that she had sent him a “hi” message before but he did not reply and that left her feeling very bad and she is confused not knowing whether the guy will feel like she is a gold digger or maybe that’s how she goes crushing on different guys online.

“I have never felt this way before. I don’t even understand it”. She said

Here is her message:

Relationship

Dear Classic 105 fam, what would you advice her to do?

Proud man shows off his heavily pregnant WIVES And The Internet Isn’t Happy (Photo)

Dunia ina mambo kweli.

A photo of a man and his two heavily pregnant wives has surfaced, making many social media users question what is going on in the minds of the two women.

The unnamed man seems to be at a photoshoot with his wives, and they do look pretty stunning..the baby bumps I mean..

While many husbands chose to hide their mpango wa kando’s, this man has decided to embrace them, and his look in the photoshoot tell us so.

Check out the photo below, and how the internet reacted harshly.

manwithtwopregnantwives

 

doseofsoulthey …look like they not feeling it 💀
sweetee43…Crazy!!!!!😐
mylifeilivein..My friend had that. They gave birth in between a week to the babys and now the guy is married to someonw else
[email protected]…… i though that was hum when i first look! Ressemblance is crazy
[email protected] wtf 😂😂😂
tatyanakeri…Nope.
[email protected]… a problèm
[email protected]_cue 😂😂😂guettons life
my_girls_mama…Un believable!
memzahbee…And they not pulling each others hair .
[email protected]… do the woman in histoire left lookshappy
krishashanie.pow….Classic case of women who haven’t discovered their worth or have lost their worth.
[email protected] 😂😂😂😂😂
mialuvzstax…Tacky
[email protected] 💯💯💯
[email protected]…. huh?
gogofullofjoy…You know who I’m thinking of right now? @andefikir
[email protected]…. the girl un left do she looks happy for U?! Its not her Idea for sûre!
dmbanzilaWtf!! ….This is the sh*t I can’t entertain in my life @giovannaalles

Disagreeing about babies’ bedtime creates tension between parents – and may even lead to divorce

Disagreeing about babies’ bedtimes creates tension between parents, which could lead to separation, new research suggests.

Mothers with strong opinions on how to tend to infants crying in the night can cause couples to question their parenting, a study found.

This may then lead to drifts in the relationship if they feel unsupported in their decision, the research adds.

Mothers generally have stronger beliefs about how to respond to nighttime crying than fathers, but both opinions lessen as the child ages, the study found.

Study author Jonathan Reader from Pennsylvania State University, said: ‘Because the mothers were the more active ones during the night, if they’re not feeling supported in their decisions, then it creates more of a drift in the co-parenting relationship.’

Disagreeing about babies' bedtimes creates tension between parents (stock)

MOTHERS WITH POSTNATAL DEPRESSION ARE MORE LIKELY TO HAVE DIFFICULT CHILDREN

Mothers with postnatal depression are more likely to have difficult children, research revealed last month.

Sufferers of the mental health condition who are insensitive towards their children are more likely to have youngsters with difficult temperaments, a study found.

Researchers believe mothers who respond to their children’s needs, even if they are battling depression, teach their youngsters how to regulate negative emotions.

Families with effective communication where everyone is involved in raising the children may also aid infant’s self-regulation, they found.

Lead author Dr Stephanie Parade from Brown University, said: ‘Maternal postpartum depression was only associated with persistently difficult infant temperament. This work underscores the importance of supporting families in the postpartum period.’

How the study was carried out 

The researchers asked 167 mothers and 155 fathers how they felt about attending to their baby in the middle of the night when the infant was one, three, six, nine and 12 months old.

For example, they were asked to what extent they agree with statements like: ‘My child will feel abandoned if I don’t respond immediately to his/her cries at night.’

They were also asked to respond to statements relating to co-parenting, such as: ‘My partner and I have the same goals for our child.’

‘Not feeling supported creates a drift’ 

Results reveal mothers who have strong opinions on how to tend to babies crying in the night can cause couples to question their parenting, which may create drifts in the relationship.

Mothers generally have stronger beliefs about how to respond to nighttime crying than fathers, but both opinions lessen as the child ages.

Mr Reader said: ‘During the study, we saw that in general mothers were much more active at night with the baby than the fathers were.

‘So perhaps because the mothers were the more active ones during the night, if they’re not feeling supported in their decisions, then it creates more of a drift in the co-parenting relationship.’

Mothers generally have stronger beliefs about how to respond to nighttime crying

‘Have these conversations early and upfront’ 

The researchers believe their findings highlight the importance of communication between parents.

Mr Reader said: ‘It’s important to have these conversations early and upfront, so when it’s 3 am and the baby’s crying, both parents are on the same page about how they’re going to respond. Constant communication is really important.

Study author Professor Douglas Teti adds the health and wellbeing of parents is just as important as that of children.

He said: ‘What we seem to be finding is that it’s not so much whether the babies are sleeping through the night, or how the parents decide to do bedtime, but more about how the parents are reacting and if they’re stressed.

‘That seems to be much more important than whether you co-sleep or don’t co-sleep, or whatever you choose to do. Whatever you decide, just make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

‘We want to learn more about how to put families in a position where they know that not every baby will be sleeping on their own by three months, and that’s okay.

‘Most kids learn how to go to sleep eventually. Parenting has a lot to do with it.

The findings were published in the Journal of Family Psychology.

Read more: dailymail

Could this explain why some women miscarry? Breakthrough on why the mother’s immune system destroys the foetus – paving the way for preventative treatment

There are many reasons why a woman can have a miscarriage.

But now researchers have made a breakthrough that sheds lights on one cause – and say their findings could mean a new preventative therapy is on the horizon.

The majority of miscarriages are caused by abnormal chromosomes in the foetus which prevents its normal development, according to NHS Choices.

But in some cases, its caused by a potentially very serious condition where the mother’s immune system reacts to her foetus’ cells as if they are foreign invaders and sends antibodies to attack and destroy them.

Researchers have developed a better understanding of one cause of miscarriage - a condition called FNAIT. They hope this could lead to a treatment to prevent pregnancy loss (file photo)

Researchers have developed a better understanding of one cause of miscarriage – a condition called FNAIT. They hope this could lead to a treatment to prevent pregnancy loss (file photo)

This is called fetal and neonatal alloimmune thrombocytopenia (FNAIT) – and as well as causing miscarriage, in live births it can bring on a bleed on the brain, resulting in lifelong disability or death of the child.

Lead researcher Dr Heyu Ni believes his team have discovered why the mother’s immune system launches an attack.

‘Natural killer cells are normal in pregnancy and necessary for early placental development in humans and other mammals, but their number in placenta should decrease in the late stage of pregnancy,’ he said.

‘In our study, we found that natural killer cells were not decreased, but prevalent and active in cases of FNAIT.’

FNAIT is known to occur in around one in every 1,000 live births – but the true number of women affected is unknown because this figure does not include women with the condition who have miscarriages, say the researchers.

They estimate 2-3 percent of women are at risk for FNAIT and up to 30 percent of those affected miscarry.

Key findings

A team from the Keenan Research Centre for Biomedical Science of St Michael’s Hospital in Ontario studied mice, which are biologically similar to humans.

Scientists already know that natural killer cells – a type of lymphocyte, which are white blood cells in the immune system – have protective effects in pregnancy.

They play a major role in defending the foetus against viruses, disease and developmental issues in the early stages.

But the researchers found that in pregnant mice with FNAIT, their immune response also triggers the activation of more natural killer cells that target cells.

These interact with the father’s proteins, including trophoblasts – cells responsible for the placenta’s development and growth.

This immune attack can cause the placenta to deform and can disrupt the flow of nutrients to the foetus – both of which may limit the baby’s growth in the womb and increase the likelihood of miscarriage.

Potential new therapies 

The study authors suggest treatment options that might effectively prevent FNAIT-related miscarriages by targeting natural killer cells.

The first is to use intravenous immunoglobulin G (IVIG), a blood product prepared from pools of plasma from more than 1,000 healthy donors.

IVIG blocks the sensors of natural killer cells, disorienting them and preventing them from targeting placental cells. It also decreases maternal anti-fetal antibodies.

PREVENTING MISCARRIAGE

In many cases, the cause of a miscarriage – defined as loss of a pregnancy during the first 23 weeks – isn’t known and you wouldn’t have been able to prevent it.

However, there are ways to lower your risk of miscarriage, including:

  • Not smoking during pregnancy.
  • Not drinking alcohol or using illegal drugs during pregnancy.
  • Eating a healthy, balanced diet with at least five portions of fruit and vegetables a day.
  • Making attempts to avoid certain infections during pregnancy, such as rubella.
  • Avoiding certain foods during pregnancy, which could make you ill or harm your baby.
  • Being a healthy weight before getting pregnant.

Source: NHS Choices

IVIG has already been approved to treat several autoimmune diseases. But to effectively treat FNAIT, it would need to be used in high doses, making it very expensive, notes Dr Ni.

In the lab, the team also tested other therapies, including one targeting cell receptors to block the activation of natural killer cells.

This option is cheaper and may be more efficient than IVIG, said Dr Ni.

While the condition could be combated by removing natural killer cells from the body, this is not recommended because of the essential role natural killer cells play in early placental development.

More research will be needed to determine whether these new anti-natural killer cell treatments would be effective in humans, said the authors.

‘By understanding what causes reduced growth and miscarriages in FNAIT cases, we are one step closer to being able to identify FNAIT cases early and reduce the rates of the devastating outcomes of this disease,’ said Dr Ni.

The research was published in the journal Nature Communications.

Read more: dailymail

Teenage boy grows a single A-cup breast on his chest and doctors think fastfood could be to blame

A teenager in eastern China had to have one of his breasts partially removed after it grew into the size of an A-cup bra.

The patient, 19, noticed his right breast started growing when he was 13 years old, according to local media.

It’s believed that his ‘man boob’ was caused by the consumption of fastfood.

 The patient, from China, noticed his right breast started growing when he was 13 years old

Doctors performed a mastectomy on the 19-year-old who was pictured after the operation

According to Chinese newspaper Qianjiang Evening Post, the patient, known by a pseudonym Xiao Yang, lives in the Cangnan county of Zhejiang Province.

The teenager noticed a significant growth in his right breast six years ago.

He and his parents had visited numerous hospitals but failed to find a cure.

They went to the Wenzhou Central Hospital in early July, and were received by Dr Pan Zhongliang, the chief physician.

Dr Pan gave Xiao Yang a B-scan ultrasonography, which showed a growth in his right breast’s mammary gland and it was about the size of an A-cup bra.

His left breast appeared normal and did not show any signs of swelling.

Doctors in Wenzhou decided to remove the growth in the breast through surgery

Doctors in Wenzhou decided to remove the growth in the breast through surgery

The doctor and his team performed a mastectomy on Xiao Yang. He was discharged from the hospital five days later.

Xiao Yang’s breast growth is believed to have been caused by a hormonal imbalance, but it is not likely to grow back following the surgery, Dr Pan told Qianjiang Evening Post.

The condition is called gynecomastia, which is characterised in men by the growth of women-like breasts.

Dr Pan said the hospital receives more than 100 teenage patients every year who suffer from the condition.

He added that the condition is likely to be caused by eating too much fastfood and puffed food, due to the ‘gender-bending’ chemicals in them.

Dr Pan suggested men should avoid eating foods like fried chicken, soy milk and royal jelly.

Read more: dailymail

Does your partner mock you or give backhanded compliments? It could be abuse: Expert reveals 14 signs of emotional abuse even smart people miss

Does your partner mock you, ignore you or control what you wear?  

Emotional abuse can be creep into your relationship and gradually undermine your self-belief and confidence.

These abusers can be skilled at convincing you that everything is your fault, so you start to question yourself and no longer trust your gut instinct. 

Some of the signs are more obvious than others.

But here, Sally Brown, a psychologist British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists, reveals 14 signs to look out for.

Emotional abuse happens in many relations. Some signs include your partner having no empathy, saying you're always wrong and using backhanded compliments (file photo)

1. You are mocked

Your other half loves to tell ‘funny’ stories at your expense – whether it’s how hopeless you are at managing money/driving/being organized, or how you always overdo it/make a fool of yourself at social events.

If you object, you are accused of having no sense of humor or being oversensitive.

You start to wonder if the digs and jibes really are just teasing and you’re missing the joke.

When your partner makes one of these ‘jokes’ in public, does anyone laugh or is there an uncomfortable silence?

If a joke makes others uncomfortable, your partner is telling it to undermine you.

2. You feel guilty all the time

 They are keeping you on a leash that will just get shorter.

You feel guilty or slightly ashamed all the time without knowing what about.

You become hyper-vigilant by monitoring your behavior to avoid giving your partner a reason to criticize you; a feeling of ‘walking on eggshells’.

But the posts seem to move all the time so you never know how you will irritate or disappoint them next.

The irony is, an abuser can even make you feel guilty for their own bad behavior – they got drunk because you ‘upset them’ or ‘stressed them out’, or you’re just ‘being jealous’ over their flirting.

3. Suddenly you need ‘protecting’ 

If you go out without your partner you’re either given a curfew or they insist on picking you up.

They ask you to Snapchat a picture of who you are with when you get there.

They tell you they are just taking care of you, but really, they are checking up on you, and keeping you on a leash that will just get shorter and shorter.

4. They make grand gestures 

When an abusive partner knows they have overstepped the line and you are questioning the relationship, get ready for a grand gesture – an expensive meal out, a surprise weekend away, an unexpected gift or bunch of flowers.

The original problem remains unresolved, or not even acknowledged – a grand gesture buys your silence, and your part of the deal is not to insist on talking things through.

5. You’re being gaslighted  

Gradually, you get the feeling that things just don’t quite add up – your partner contradicts something they have told you previously, or you suspect you’re not getting the whole picture (about their last relationship or why they left their last job).

They may also deny doing or saying something that you clearly remember, but they deny it with such conviction and confidence that you start to doubt yourself.

This insidious form of manipulation is called ‘gaslighting’, and it’s designed to make you doubt your mental health.

6.  They burst your bubble

You partner immediately throws cold water on your plans

You come home full of excitement because a great business opportunity has come your way or you’ve been asked to get involved with a project you feel passionate about.

But your partner immediately throws cold water on your plans, telling you all the ways that things would go wrong, or that it’s a bad idea – or they start a completely unrelated argument just to burst your bubble.

In future, you gradually find yourself not sharing your ideas and successes with them, because you know you won’t get a positive reaction.

7. Backhanded compliments are their stock in trade  

When you first met, you felt flattered by the attention your partner paid to how you look.

But as time goes by, the compliments have become few and far between, replaced by comments about how ‘wrong’ your look is – that top doesn’t suit you, you’re putting on weight, what’s going on with your hair?

If you object, you’re once again being ‘oversensitive’.

8. They have no empathy 

If you talk about a problem at work, you’re ‘overreacting’.

You are allowed a short time to vent about major upsets, then you are expected to ‘get over it’ (so you can focus your energy and attention once again on your partner and their needs).

Some emotional abusers disappear when you need them most, or become extra critical.

9. You’re always in the wrong 

Whether it was something you said six months ago, not telling your partner something that they believe they have a right to know, or letting them down in some way (putting your needs before theirs), an abusive partner will keep a mental tally and regularly remind you of your crimes.

They may even add things that happened before you met, encouraging you to be ‘honest’ about your past sexual history, for instance, only to later use that information as evidence of your badness.

10. The purse-strings tighten

 Your partner steps up the pressure to be careful with money.

Controlling you financially is a classic tactic of an abusive partner; something known as financial abuse.

They may have started by giving you advice that really helps, helping you sort out debts, or being more financially responsible.

Soon, your partner steps up the pressure to ‘be careful’ with money. But somehow, it seems like it’s always you who has to cut back, earn more and stop spending.

Your partner doesn’t consult you before they spend money. But if there’s something you want, particularly if it involves a threat to your partner’s control over you, like training for your career, or a weekend away with friends, there will be a reason why you can’t afford it.

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Groom’s VERY tearful reaction at seeing his bride walk down the aisle is captured in emotional images

Everyone dreams of their wedding day, but for one groom seeing his bride walk down the aisle was more than he could take.

Groom Micah Baker, 22, from Tennessee, had long-awaited the day he could marry his fiancée Bailey, and when she finally walked down the aisle, he broke down in tears. Photos from their big day see him closing his eyes and bringing his hand up to his face to cover his sobs as he watches Bailey walk towards the altar.

He even had to turn around to gather his composure and take a breather. But by the time she reached him, he broke down all over again, wiping his tears with both hands before taking her hands before the priest. Dailymail

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Vegemite could be the key to preventing miscarriages and birth defects, new study finds

Vegemite could be the key to preventing miscarriages and birth defects, a new study has found.

The Australian research discovered Vitamin B3 can cure critical molecular deficiencies in pregnant women.

Vitamin B3 is typically found in meats and green vegetables as well as the iconic spread made from yeast extract.

The breakthrough made at Sydney‘s Victor Chang Cardia Research Institute may spare scores of couples across the world the heartbreak of losing an unborn child and the challenges of raising a baby with a birth defect.

The iconic spread made from yeast extract contains Vitamin B3, which can cure critical molecular deficiencies in pregnant women

‘The ramifications are likely to be huge,’ lead researcher Professor Sally Dunwoodie said on Thursday.

‘This has the potential to significantly reduce the number of miscarriages and birth defects around the world, and I do not use those words lightly.’

Every year 7.9 million babies are born with a birth defect worldwide, while one in four Australian pregnant women suffers a miscarriage.

In most cases the cause of these problems has remained a mystery.

Using whole exome sequencing technology, researchers looked for gene variants in families that had experienced multiple congenital malformations.

Prof Dunwoodie and her team found that a deficiency in a vital molecule, known as NAD, cripples the growth of an embryo in the womb.

Nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide (NAD) is one of the most important molecules in all living cells. It’s synthesis is essential for energy production, DNA repair and cell communication.

Environmental and genetic factors can disrupt its production.

After 12 years of research, Prof Dunwoodie revealed that a NAD deficiency can be cured by taking dietary supplement vitamin B3, also known as niacin.

In the laboratory, scientists investigated the effect of vitamin B3 on developing mice embryos with the same genetic mutations as the study participants.

Before the vitamin was introduced into the mother’s diet, embryos were either lost through miscarriage or the offspring were born with a range of severe birth defects.

After the dietary change, both the miscarriages and birth defects were completely prevented, with all the offspring born healthy.

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The findings are published in the prestigious New England Journal of Medicine.

Victor Chang Cardiac Research Institute executive director Prof Robert Graham said the ‘profound’ discovery is akin to the breakthrough made last century that confirmed folic acid supplementation can prevent spina bifida and other neural tube defects in babies.

‘This will change the way pregnant women are cared for around the world,’ he said.

With research suggesting at least a third of pregnant women have low levels of vitamin B3 in the first trimester, Prof Dunwoodie says many pregnant women may require more B3 than is currently available in most vitamin supplements.

Researchers are now working on developing a diagnostic test to measure NAD levels to enable doctors to identify women at risk pregnant women.

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Hilarious church signs that may just tempt you to attend Sunday service

There is always something in this world to make people smile no matter how gloomy things may seem.

People online have been asked to share some of the most hilarious sings they have seen in regards to churches, and the results are rib cracking. Here are several church signs that will truly make you want to go to church this Sunday if you hadn’t planned to.

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HAYA NI MAPEPO! Photos Of Man Buried In A ‘Beer Bottle’ Coffin Emerge

Do you still hold on firmly to your traditions or have you been brainwashed by western culture?

Well, traditions vary from one community to another. What is done in a community in Kenya for instance during a burial, naming or wedding ceremony is very different from what’s done in another community in Ghana. Continue reading “HAYA NI MAPEPO! Photos Of Man Buried In A ‘Beer Bottle’ Coffin Emerge”

‘My Boyfriend Of 8 Months Blocked Me Everywhere After I Asked Him For Money,’ Says City Woman

A relationship is not all about sex. It’s more of helping each other and bonding with your better half

A disgruntled city woman is cursing herself for falling in love with a stingy man. She narrated how assuming he would help her, she tried to borrow some cash from her boyfriend to inject into her business, but shock on her as he disappointed her.

In return, her boyfriend insulted her and told her never to show up at his house again. He went ahead to block her everywhere and since then, she has never communicated with him.

 

“I’ve been dating this guy for 8months. All through these 8 months I never asked this guy for a dime not even for once. Whenever I visited, all I ever got was the fare to go back home. I’m running a small scale business which I use to support myself and my siblings. My Kid sister fell ill recently and I took some money from my business to take care of her. Continue reading “‘My Boyfriend Of 8 Months Blocked Me Everywhere After I Asked Him For Money,’ Says City Woman”

Emotional Story Of A Mum Whose Daughter Was Born Blind Has Gone Viral And Everyone Wants To Be A Part Of Their Life (PHOTOS)

A mothers love is unrivaled. She will love you through any situation and any setback.

Kiara Shanee is one mother who has stunned many. Her selfless love for her daughter has moved many.

Here is her story…

“When we found out I was having a baby girl, I was so excited and started planning her whole life out in my head. Dance schools, gymnastics, modelling etc. All cute things that little girls do. And to top it off, my best friend proposed to me, taking the next step to making our family one! Life was looking up and I couldn’t have asked for anything more. I ate all kinds of healthy foods, drank the best water, Google was life and avocado became my best friend lol. The day came on 3.15.2017 at 5:34am after having labour pains for almost two days.

It was a natural and easy birth and God blessed me with a beautiful baby girl – Kensley Ayanna. But I noticed something. It was a big lump under her left eye and her eyes were swollen. I asked the nurses and doctors I saw that day and everyone told me it would go down, not to worry about it. But I pressed on because I wanted her to open her eyes.. to see me and her dad. The next day we were hit with heart breaking news. “We didn’t find any”, is what they said to us. My heart fell to my stomach. My fiancé broken like never before. 

In an instant it pulled us closer together. With my mom by my side, they helped me to be STRONG. I had no other choice. It felt like a dream. My baby girl has a rare genetic disorder called Anophthalmia (born without eyes). Like what? Why me? Why her? But I soon realised what was best for her was me and what was best for me was her! Today I no longer have those questions. God makes no mistakes. During ultrasounds she would cover her face or turn her head because she was meant to be here. I will treat my daughter as normal because she is normal.

A healthy baby girl who has the advantage of not seeing the ugliness in the world the way I do. To meet and love someone for who they are, not what they see. To surpass all limitations and expectations. Kensley will have to work a little harder but yes, I will see to it as her mother that NOTHING stands in her way. For now my eyes are hers and I will show my daughter nothing but love…”

Check out a cute video of baby Kensley and her dad.

Here are the coolest photos of baby Kensley