First date conversations to avoid

Securing a first date pretty much means that someone has given you a chance to spend time with them, and so you must be well prepared.

Have you ever watched the local dating shows on TV and cringed at the conversations people are holding? Yikes!

Some awkward things like wanting to know what tribe someone is should not arise folks! Here are topics to completely avoid:

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Religious and political beliefs

This is normally a very sensitive topic when it comes to your personal beliefs. Most people during dates try to avoid talking about such beliefs because you may never know whether they are religious or follow any political affiliates. It’s tricky to say something like your religion, which is premised on things like whether you’ll go to heaven or hell, can be affected by the dirty, secular world of politics. To avoid being in an awkward situation just avoid talking about religion and politics. You’ll be in the clear.

Past relationships and hurts

Ain’t you not trying to get over your ex? And that is why you are having a date,  to get over your past relationship. It is a clear indication when you talk about your previous relationship, means you are still not over your ex. This is a sign that you are just having a casual date and nothing serious will come from the first date. Ladies try avoiding talking about your previous hurt relationships.

Ethnicity and cultural differences

Tribalism is a very sensitive topic and people try to shun away from the topic. Such topics cause uproar between individuals of different backgrounds. To avoid being tribal, it’s safe to avoid such topics to be on the safe side. We are all from different cultural backgrounds and we should be willing to accommodate each other.

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Finances and how much each earns

During a first date, it is advisable to avoid the money topic. You would not want to be labelled a ‘golddigger’ during the first date. Note, when you find your date asking about your financial status during your first date run. This will be a relationship based on financial benefits.

Where the relationship is going after the date

If you will give or get a second date after the first, then that is a clear indication that the date was a success and chances of a second date is evident. You really cannot know where a relationship is going after the first date, asking this question leads to a dwindle and lack of interest in the person.

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How to make soft layered chapati

Making Kenyan soft layered chapati is a lot of fun but requires time. No wonder many people prefer direct chapati.

Making layered chapati also need some skills to get those layers on the chapatti. One of the amazing things about layered chapati is that they are soft and very tasty.

To make soft layered chapati the Kenyan way, you need all-purpose flour, water, salt, sugar, and oil. So, let’s head to the kitchen and make these chapatis (chapos)

Don’t worry if your first time seems too long and complicated. Trust me, during your second or third time, you will notice it’s a very short process.

Ingredients

3 cups of All-Purpose Flour ( not self-rising), plus extra for kneading and dusting
1 ½ cups of warm water
1 tsp of salt
1 tsp of sugar
Enough Vegetable oil for frying

Preparation;

Step 1.

In a bowl, measure three cups of flour.

Step 2.

In another bowl, mix salt, sugar, 2 tbps of oil and 1 cup of water. Stir until the salt and sugar dissolve.

Step 3.

Pour the liquid mixture above (step 2) in the flour bowl and mix well. Keep adding the remaining water until the dough becomes soft.

Step 4.

Knead the dough for five minutes and add flour if needed.

Step 5.

Transfer the dough on a flat surface and continue kneading and adding flour when needed for 10 minutes. Add more flour to make it thicker but not too hard. (I love kneading my dough on a flat space until I have attained the right elasticity).

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Step 7.

After the 40 minutes, divide the dough into 10 to 13 equal parts making ball-like shapes. Arrange them in a flat surface dusted with flour.

Step 8.

Right away, pick one of the balls and place it on a flat surface

Step 9.

With a rolling pin, roll the ball to a circular shape.

Step 10.

Brush the circular chapati with oil on top.

Step 11.

At the side that faces you, start folding and rolling the oiled chapati with both hands as if you are rolling a rode away from your direction.

 

Step 12.

Once you have a shape that looks like a rope, create a coil-like shape.

Step 13.

Make a coiled ball and with your palm, press the ball down to make it flat

Step 14.

Next, with a rolling pin make a circular shape again.

Step 15.

In a hot pan, place the rolled out circular chapati and fry each side until its golden brown on medium heat. (Repeat step 8 to 15 until you finish the rest of the chapati dough balls).

Put your cooked chapati in plastic wrap or container and cover.

Serve after 20 minutes.

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How to make spaghetti in tomato sauce

Spaghetti may seem easy to make but trust me, it is also the easiest meal to ruin if you do not follow the recipe to the letter.

 

Prepping spaghetti

Steps on how to prepare Spaghetti:

  1. Add water in a cooking pot (half full)
  2. Add salt (1 tsp)
  3. After the water has boiled, add your spaghetti ( 250 gms) or according to your serving
  4. Toss the spaghetti in the pot to ensure even cooking and it’s not sticking together
  5. Cook the pasta for 10 minutes or until you can bite through or firm. Make sure you don’t overcook it.
  6. Drain the pasta but leave little water for the sauce. Add the pasta straight away in the sauce to prevent it from sticking together as it cools. Do only this step if you making a spaghetti sauce.

Weekend Meal Prep: How to cook Pilau for your family

Steps on how to prepare the tomato sauce:

  1. Add 2 Tbs of oil in a large pan or sufuria
  2. 3 Cloves of garlic (smashed) into the hot/warm oil followed by chopped onions
  3. Spices to your liking
  4. Saute for a few minutes
  5. After the onions have turned a golden brown colour, add the puree of 5 tomatoes into your pan
  6. Stir the puree of tomatoes till its fully cooked
  7. Add salt to taste
  8. Cover and cook over low flame for 6-7 minutes
  9. Add your cooked pasta in the sauce and stir it to evenly coat it with the sauce
  10. Serve immediately. Best enjoyed while still hot.

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These messages on rape that we need to read

 

 

 

There is growing alarm over gender violence worldwide. Let’s talk about the culture that allows rape to thrive.

Women are taught not to walk alone in the dark instead of men being taught to not prey on a lone woman.

They are taught to never leave their drink alone instead of being taught to not drug a human.

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Women are taught to pull their skirts down as the skin of our legs simply makes a man too ravenous, he won’t be able to resist them.

Everything is put on the woman, it’s their fault if they get raped. Others claiming, ladies drank too much or didn’t wear enough to cover up.
Ladies! let no one ever blame you. There should never be a time that you fear for your safety for having a bit of cleavage on show.

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Rape culture is him getting let off. Rape culture is not being able to wear the outfit that you want to wear.

Rape culture is being told that after he touched you, no one would ever want you again. Rape culture is ladies getting the blame.

Let yourself be a man’s worst nightmare. Unleash your light, unveil your power.

You are not a “pretty little thing”. You are not your bum or the size of your boobs.

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You are so much more than that. You are not someone that needs to cover up. You are an exploding light of flames and sparks.

Society better cover their eyes because you’re not playing along anymore. Do not allow yourself to play by the tune of a man just because he thinks he has power over you.

Your existence is not about how desirable he finds you.
Let yourself be free.

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How to make soft and light pancakes

In just 30 minutes, you can whip up delicious pancakes for either breakfast or dinner from scratch.

This is the simplest recipe on how to make pancakes without baking powder from scratch. Enjoy!

Ingredients

21/4 cup of All-purpose flour

3/4 eggs

200ml milk

brown sugar

Oil for cooking

Instructions

  1. Mix all of the dry ingredients together. Stir using a whisk to incorporate everything.
  2. Start adding the wet ingredients.
  3. Stir everything until there are no small lumps.
  4. Heat up the pan. Grease it using a small amount of oil.
  5. Spoon the batter into the pan using the ladle.
  6. Cook the pancake at least two minutes per side or until bubbles start to come out.

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‘You get more educated when you travel’- Huddah Monroe speaks out

It has been said time and time again, that travelling is an eye opener. Travel is a mindset and a lifestyle.

School is probably the best place to expand your academic knowledge, but when it comes to learning about life, there is nothing more enriching than traveling. Whether it’s the people you meet or the things you see, traveling provides more valuable life lessons than school, mainly because instead of being told something, you experience it.

Huddah's Instagram storyNothing is more eye-opening than surrounding yourself with another culture that chooses to live their life completely different from yours. Have you been to Guangzhou, China and seen people eat frogs and rats on a stick? Well, traveling will give you a new perspective on how you live. You might be able to see the photo of that from a book, but experiencing it yourself can only be done through traveling.

The business lady, known as Alhuda Njoroge, took to her Instagram once again where she claimed that no one can lie to her for she has traveled vastly. She has been to Paris, Italy, Malaysia, America, South Africa and Nigeria just to mention a few of the places.

 

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Huddah, tells us that once we travel, not everything goes as planned. There are normally ups and downs in a trip. There are plenty of things that can go wrong to either derail your itinerary or force you to change your plans. Travel will teach you that the unexpected is rarely as bad as you think. Often, they are just small obstacles that can easily be overcome. Eventually, you become accustomed to uncertainty and the unexpected challenges that come your way. In fact, you will start embracing them and learn how to overcome those challenges.

“Happiness like sadness is not constant.” Says the petite lass.

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10 Reasons Why People ignore you

Its probably very confusing when  someone ignores you or starts becoming uncertain about you. Have you ever been to a date and thought it was successful only for the  other person not to reply back with either a call or a message?

We have all been ignored one time or another, and we all know that terrible feeling that follows. You keep asking yourself questions, trying to put the pieces together of what you may have done wrong or what may have happened to them.

Sometimes it may not be your fault, but it may be an act of just not being liked or you did something provoking to receive the silent treatment from either your peers or loved ones.

10 Reasons Why People ignore you;

  •  Your presence doesn’t grab attention

When people talk about first impressions, simply means what people think about you or perceive about you when they first meet you. People pay more attention to those who are more self-confident. Maybe the reason why people ignore you is that you don’t give people enough to capture the eye’s attention. This may be the chance to work on your body language, self-confidence and how you approach other people. These things are key to grabbing attention.

  • You are too needy

People tend to ignore or avoid people who can not stand on their own. Your over reliance will make them feel suffocated. Step back, give them some space, don’t always be the one who goes after them, let them also come to you.

  • You have negative energy

People don’t want to be around someone who will drag them down and pour water onto their ideas. As much as in life we may go through rough patches, that doesn’t give you the chance to be negative all your life. Learn to work on your problems, as people tend to be more attracted to positive people.

  • You worry too much about being liked

If you try too hard to be liked, then officially you’ll push people away. People pleasers are everywhere, always trying to hard to please people an act that drives people away.

  • You are too intense.

Having opinions and being passionate about the things you like is good. In fact, it is very important to have a belief system that you believe in, but if you are too passionate, rigid and too intense ready to argue then you will only chase people away. Tone down on your intensity and reserve your arguments for the right time.

  • You are not serious in anything you do

If you have come to be known for not keeping promises or always arriving late or cancelling, you shouldn’t wonder why people are ignoring you. They may claim you are not serious and wouldn’t want anything to do with you. If you don’t take people seriously, neither will they take you serious as well.

  • You don’t contribute much

Have you ever been in a relationship that ended up you just giving? A one sided relationship is not enjoyable, thus driving the other party away.

  • You are selfish

Qualities that generate a well satisfying relationship is selflessness. Thus selfish people normally have a hard time keeping friends and hence most people tend to ignore selfish people.

  • You are dishonest

Sometimes we tell lies to guard our private lives to those we do not trust. But if you are the person who constantly tells lies, then trust is hard to be built.

  • Boasting to much

Occasionally people like bragging over the accomplishments they have made. Doing this once in awhile is not harmful but doing it over and over makes you repulsive and seem arrogant. Let your achievements talk about themselves for if you’ve made it, those achievements will be seen.

All in all, feeling ignored by people may be a very unpleasant thing to feel but if you find this problem in one or two relationships in your life then the problem ain’t you but them.

 

Good news! More coaches to be added on SGR, demand from travelers is high!

Knowing Kenyans and going to the Coast over the holidays is a must and they go in large numbers. Since the Mombasa–Nairobi Standard Gauge Railway was introduced to Kenyans as a faster, a more safer and convenient for passengers to travel by compared to buses, its demand has increased than expected.

Kenya Railways has announced on their twitter page that from next week, they will add more coaches to the Standard Gauge Railway (SGR) passenger service between Nairobi and Mombasa.

 

It is not a rare act for the railway service to increase coaches during the holiday season. As this continues, it is promoting active tourism and also will generate revenue for the government. A win win on both ends.

This is a very smart move and it will see more people travel and miss out on the train tickets due to its nature of always  being fully booked during peak season.

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Nairobi SGR Terminus

The train is currently pulling 16 coaches on economy class tickets and two (72 passengers) on the first class tickets.

SGR train

For those who have not yet traveled  by this locomotive should include it on their bucket list agendas, to experience comfortably and a more faster ride to and from Mombasa and Nairobi. Currently with the 16 coaches it has, it can take 1652 people.

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Sorry Sis! 6 signs you may just be a booty call

Is your man serious or is he just looking for a good time in bed?

If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you already know. But you may want to read on just to be sure.

In some situations, it’s easy to get confused about what’s going on between you and a potential beau. A guy may just be taking things slowly, like a cautious young man. Other guys may just be casual, you know nothing serious there, mate! Or, others may consider themselves players you may have been classed as the dreaded booty call, and you don’t even know it yet.

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Signs you are just a booty call:

  1. He is very secretive when on his phone to a point he does the bob and weave with his phone hiding the contents of his phone from you. This also can imply that he is se3ting with another beau behind your back.
  2. The conversation that revolves around the both of you is just plain old msolokombo. Feelings and gratification revolve around pekejeng. If you claim not to be well informed about his life and the things that he likes, then girl you his booty call or rather his side dish for when his main ain’t available.
  3. If he doesn’t check up on you, or ask you how your day has been? That’s a red flag that he ain’t with you emotionally and that he doesn’t care about your feelings whatsoever. Just contacts you when he wants to “nyandua” you.
  4. Not part of his daily life. If he doesn’t involve you in his day to life or the both of ya’ll do not hangout in public places other than the time he only wants you in his bed then you are his clandestine. Also when you try bringing in the question of being  in a serious relation with your “man” and he casually shrugs it off or makes flimsy excuses then, you just ain’t that special to him.
  5. Its all about relieving s33ual tension or some sort of fantasies he’s always been skimming up his sleeves. No real bonding, just being physically satisfied and when all that is said and done, he will give you the boot, no sleeping over when the deed is done or if he is at your place he will leave with no hesitation.
  6. Nyanduaing is mostly on his terms and whenever the both of ya’ll are tispy or drunk. No point will there be any intimate moment when the both of you are sober.

What are or were some of the red flags you have or came across that you knew you were just a booty call?

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How to check your NHIF account status and pay contributions

NHIF scheme has been a life saver to countless Kenyans.

According to an opinion piece published in the Star by Siddharth Chatterjee the UN Resident Coordinator to Kenya, says among the poorest in Kenya, only 3% have health insurance, which is provided by the National Hospital Insurance Fund (NHIF).

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Among the wealthiest, many who also have private cover, this rises to 42%, indicating again that the poorest are at risk of being left behind even further, and do not have an appropriate safety-net to fall back on

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Health Cabinet Secretary Sicily Kariuki recently unveiled a team of experts to spearhead radical reforms at the NHIF. This new initiative will build on past efforts at reforming NHIF, which were only partially implemented. The team will analyse the financial sustainability of NHIF, oversee legal and regulatory reforms among other propose organisational reforms to reposition NHIF as a national social health insurance provider and ensure its accountability and transparency.

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How NHIF works:

There are certain operative measures put in place to ensure the fund benefits all without misuse. For instance the fund limits the number of hospital visits one can make in a year and still have their bill covered. Other than these the state parastatals check eligibility of cover; not all members can be covered by the scheme.

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How to check NHIF Account status online

Here is the step by step analysis of how to check NHIF account status online:

With your internet enabled device, get to the NHIF official website: www.nhif.or.ke

If you are visiting the site for the very first time, you need to first register in order to receive the services. You need NHIF card numbers, a valid email address and a day working phone number in case they would like to reach up to you for enquiries or other reasons.

This follows several prompts to fill up other personal details which should be dully filled before saving or submitting.

Develop a password that you will use every time you log onto the portal, this should be easy to remember yet not so obvious.

However, it can be reset in case you have completely forgotten your password for the NHIF account status online enquiry. Technically, this is how to create an NHIF self service individual account. Now, log onto the NHIF self service portal and proceed on to get your NHIF account status online. Information about how you make the monthly NHIF payment, balance, anytime one has defaulted, activation period among other details. For security of your bio, log out from the device after you are done checking the NHIF account status online Kenya.

By use of phone

Go to the main menu on your mobile phone and select the message icon by touching if using an android phone or just click on the icon for QWERTY phones. This opens the message thread for inbox, at the top there is a compose prompt, click on it. At the message space, type ID, a space followed by the ID number or the Passport number if applicable. For example, ID 123456 sent to the NHIF number which receives and processed details for you. This message should be sent to 21101 which is NHIF recipient. Information regarding your NHIF account status will be processed and send back to you in a text message. Note a service charge of ksh. 10 applies.

Penalties

The NHIF penalties for late payment Kenya apply in two varied ways; for those in the formal and informal sectors, treatment is done separately. If you are in the formal employment, and fail to pay timely, then the penalty you attract equals the amount you are supposed to contribute. This implies you will pay double the amount. If in informal employment, a 50% charge will have been attracted following late payment. If you contribute ksh. 500 monthly to the NHIF, the late payment means you will pay kshs. 750. All monthly contributions should be made on or before the 9th of every month. NHIF payment made after this date is considered late payment and attracts penalties. So how does one make their monthly NHIF contribution?

Finally, NHIF payment can be made through the use of mobile money transfer service; M-Pesa. Money is loaded to the individual Safaricom mobile phone number, money is then transferred to the National Hospital Insurance Fund through the NHIF M-Pesa pay bill number 200222.

Here is the procedure:

  • Go to M-Pesa menu and select the pay bill option Enter the NHIF M-pesa pay bill number, 200222
  • Enter you ID Card number in the subsequent lead
  • Key in the amount – NHIF payment monthly contribution
  • Enter the M-pesa pin and  a confirmation message is then sent  acknowledging that the money is received.

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Listen Up Guys: Here Are 10 Things You can Do To Look More Attractive To A Woman

It is all about the ladies. It is totally understandable that from time to time if not all the time, dudes go out of their way to look attractive to girls. Just like women do, men should also put in a little more effort in how they look. The secret behind it all are the things women look at the first time they meet you. Appearance is everything. The more effort you put into your looks, the more attractive you will be. Factually speaking before everything else, your appearance will determine whether or not a girl will be willing to see you again.

Here are a few simple ways to improve your appearance, to make you look more attractive in a woman’s eyes.

  1. Go to the barber from time to time
    Your hairline is one of the things that outline the features of your face. Get a nice haircut, trim your side-bands and any other extra hair you have growing in your nose. Yes you might ignore it but when you have excess hair popping out of your nose it can be quite distracting. Rather than your other attractive features, a girl might be distracted by that extra hair in your nose, so take time and trim it before you go out to meet her. Guys who take care of their looks seem more attractive as it evident that they have some style which is an attractive feature in a man.haircut 2
  2. Wear shirts that actually fit
    Try getting shirts that actually fit you right. Rather than buying shirts that you will still fit into if you add about 10 kilos, go for the ones that flatters your body. Fitting shirts give you a neat but hot and sexy look. Do not let your suits wear you as they were made for you to wear them and not the other way round.fitting shirt
  3. Invest in cologne
    Yes, women love a man that smells good. Don’t over do it, there’s such a thing as “too much perfume” so keep it light. You certainly do not want to enter an elevator with people in it, only to have them choke on the amount of cologne you’ve sprayed. Wear cologne just enough to leave a hint of your scent in the air when you leave.cologne
  4. Your shoe game is important too
    There is just something about a guy with a dope shoe game. Shoes enhance your look. They say something about you. A man that cares about the kind of shoes he wears with a particular outfit has proven to be one of the most attractive features. You will find that guys who put effort to dress up will and have loads and loads of female followers on social media. This is because women are attracted to a man with a sense of style.shoegame
  5. Posture
    Posture says a lot about one’s confidence, so it is paramount that you avoid timid. Keep your head up and your chest upright. Walk with purpose and avoid moving around all over the place as though you lack a sense of direction. Women do not like a man that slouches around. You need to portray confidence and strength in the way you sit, stand and walk at all times.posture
  6. Confidence
    There is nothing more attractive than a confident man. Women go crazy over men that will sit down in a chair right in front of her and say “come over here.” I know it may sound silly but that confidence can be quite contagious to a point that the girl you are with will feel it too. Who knows, she might actually walk over to you just like you had requested.posture
  7. Give the ladies your undivided attention
    Avoid using your phone when you go out with her. In fact, you should switch off your phone. Giving a lady your undivided attention makes her feel like you really wanted to spend time with her. We all know ladies love to feel special, so give her the special treatment and she just might find you really attractive enough to date you.
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  8. Avoid using the “B” word when talking to her
    It is totally understandable how you may have become accustomed to using the “B” word. However this word can be disrespectful and offensive so give it up and she just might give it up too.
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  9. Listen to her
    Women love a man that will listen and pay attention to them. Laugh at her jokes and engage yourself in the topic at hand. This will make her feel like you actually care about what she says. A woman will pick a man that may not be so attractive, but who listens to her over a handsome man who ignores her.
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  10. Read a book
    There is something about a man who reads a book rather than reads the content online on a tablet or phone.. In the digital era that we are in, reading a book works like old-fashioned charm that is practically akin to wearing a three-piece suit. Reading a book suggests that you have interests and a long attention span which is a highly desirable character in men.man reading

Love make-up? Read this city woman’s experience after decades of use and incorrect cleaning

A city woman has a strange eye condition after 25 years of heavy eye makeup use. For years, she failed to properly take off her mascara, leaving behind fragments. Pictures reveal the extent of the damage from poor makeup hygiene.

Each day, thousands of women apply lashings of mascara.

 Unfortunately, most of them are removing it from their eyes incorrectly – a habit that can be causing far more damage than they realise.

Horrifying images have emerged of a 50-year-old Australian woman who developed an eye condition after failing to remove her eye makeup properly for more than two decades.

For 25 years, the woman applied mascara heavily every day. However, she consistently failed to adequately cleanse her eyelashes.

After years of poor mascara removal, she started feeling a strange sensation as if something was lodged under her eyelids.

Eventually, she sought medical attention from an ophthalmic surgeon in Sydney, who discovered that years of poor eye makeup hygiene had left the woman with a strange eye condition.

Her case was so unusual that the surgeon wrote a medical journal article about it, to alert the medical community to the dangers of inadequate eye makeup removal.

When the surgeon lifted up the woman’s eyelids, she revealed multiple dark spots, which were caused by an accumulation of small fragments of mascara that had lodged under both eyelids.

According to the case study, published by the American Academy of Opthamology, the spots were darkly pigmented ‘subconjunctivital concretions’ which were linked to a form of conjunctivitis.

The surgeon removed tissue from the woman’s eye lid in a biopsy. After examining the tissue under a microscope, the surgeon discovered that the woman had a ‘chronic inflammatory infiltrate’ with ‘pigmented macrophages’.

These were consistent with years of mascara use, with fragments of unwashed mascara depositing under her eyelids over the years.

So how can we avoid falling into the same trap with our eye makeup?

1. DON’T APPLY EYELINER ON THE INNER LASH LINE 

While the tightlining technique is all the rage on beauty blogs, Mr Arundel warns against this cosmetic method.

‘Optometrists call the fragile skin around the eyes ‘periocular skin’ and they have a strong opinion about where on that skin you should apply your eyeliner,’ he said.

‘There has even been a small study to set the record straight about the dangers of what beauticians refer to as ‘waterlining’ or ‘tightlining’ which is applying eyeliner inside your lower lash line.

Vera Sidika‘The study quantified the migration of a conventional cosmetic eye pencil in two different locations: behind the lash line and inside the lash line (the waterline).

‘The results showed the glitter particles of the pencil eyeliner migrated more readily and contaminated the tear film when applied inside the waterline.

Mr Arundel said this has ‘implications for contact wearers and patients with dry eye syndrome or sensitive eyes’.

2. THROW OUT YOUR MAKE UP AFTER THE EXPIRY DATE 

While many people keep their make up for a long while, this could be causing serious damage to their eyes.

‘A study published in the International Journal of Cosmetic Science found 97.9 per cent of participants reported using or previously using make-up after the expiration date, with mascara being the most frequently mentioned product,’ Mr Arundel said.

‘Yet, the microbiological analysis of 40 mascara samples revealed the presence of bacteria and fungi which can cause nasty bacterial eye infections.

‘By law, cosmetic manufacturers don’t have to put a use-by date on their products.

However, you can check a product’s official expiry date by running the batch code through checkfresh.com or apps like Check Your Cosmetics.

3. BE CAREFUL WITH EYELASH EXTENSIONS 

Eyelash extensions have skyrocketed in popularity of late… but they can be risky.

According to Mr Arundel, risks associated with this beauty trend include infections of the cornea and eyelid, the permanent or temporary loss of eyelashes, eyelid swelling and allergic reactions.

‘There has been a steady increase in the number of cases associated with allergic reactions to the glue used to adhere extensions to existing lashes, the loss of natural eyelashes, conjunctivitis and even corneal damage due to tweezer injury,’ Mr Arundel said.

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Vera Sidika and her new man

‘Repeated use of eyelash extensions can cause tractional alopecia, where the natural lash falls out due to excessive tension and weight placed on the hair shaft.

‘This can damage the hair follicle, which can slow down or cease any further production of natural lashes.’

Mr Arundel says that if women insist on the extensions, they should ensure that their beauty therapist has been trained in this procedure, that the equipment used has been sterilised and that the environment where the procedure will take place is clean.

‘They should ask their therapist what glue they will use and avoid places that only use formaldehyde-based adhesives as these are often linked to allergic reactions,’ he added.

‘If there is any discomfort after the procedure, any noticeable inflammation of the eyelid, grittiness, blurred vision or loss of the natural eyelashes, you should see your optometrist immediately.’

4. TAKE CARE WITH NOVELTY CONTACT LENSES

A popular accessory on Halloween, novelty contact lenses are a popular beauty buy.

But they can also cause serious damage to the surface of your eye.

‘Halloween can be a scary time for optometrists, for all the wrong reasons. Buying novelty lenses online or over the counter can lead to eye infections, damage, and even permanent blindness,’ Mr Arundel said.

‘The surface of the eye is extremely delicate and wearing non-prescribed novelty contact lenses, particularly those from a dubious source, could cause eye damage ranging from mild infections to sight-threatening conditions such as corneal scarring and even blindness.

‘Contact lenses are not ‘one size fits all’.

‘It is important to make sure the lenses are prescribed by an optometrist who will measure each eye to properly fit the lenses and evaluate how the eye responds to contact lens wear using a microscope.

‘The optometrist will then instruct them on appropriate insertion and removal techniques and correct contact lens care to minimise the risk of irreversible eye damage.’

5. GET YOUR EYES TESTED 

Many people put up with sore, teary and itchy eyes for months before even thinking about getting them tested.

Mr Arundel said if these symptoms persist, people should be getting their eyes tested by an optometrist within a few days.

‘You may think your vision is fine or that your eyes are healthy, but visiting an optometrist for a comprehensive eye examination is the only way to really be sure,’ he explained.

‘Not only may it lead to improved everyday vision – and quality of life – it could detect that something more serious is going on, and prevent loss of vision.

‘If you can squeeze in the time to see a beautician, you can manage an appointment with an optometrist.’

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Is this Kenya’s fittest 45-year-old mom?

When I checked out her Instagram, my jaw dropped, and even my deskie gasped out loud.

Nothing inspires to hit the gym more than to look at the rock hard body of this mother of two.

Anne Marie Burugu is a super fit mom motivating her fans to reconsider their food choices.

How does Anne Marie look fierce and fit? Besides the gym, she is an ardent golfer, a surfer (google if you don’t have any idea what I’m talking about)  and absolutely adores sky diving, she also jogs and swims alot.

She kind of reminds me of actress Jada Pinketts 64-year-old mom, whose abs of steel will make you hide your one pack in shame.

My intention is to push myself on the days that I can, and on the days that my body is exhausted and worn out and I cannot imagine going on a run or lifting a weight, I will actively rest by doing lighter workouts like dancing, walking or yoga/Pilates… anything that will still keep me active and moving.

This week we have also been treated to age defying photos of legendary singer Missy Elliot, who disclosed she gave up bread and soda four months ago, and has shed massive amounts of weight.

Everyone’s talking about this photo of Missy Elliot aging backwards

Anne makes it look so easy, adding more about her workout regimen;

But if you you’re up for it, I’m challenging you guys to make your own commitments to get moving everyday, and to hold yourself (or get others to hold you) accountable too! It’s just 30min a day of whatever physical activity is fun for you, because more fun means you’ll stick with it longer. You’ve got nothing to lose (except maybe a few kilos!) and everything to gain!! 

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Is Ali Kiba’s wife open to him getting a second wife?

Uhmm..ok. aren’t they muslims, and men are allowed to marry multiple wives? Correct me if I’m wrong.

In a recent interview on Clouds FM, Ali Kiba and his new wife opened up about their relationship.

The media shy wife, confessed that she would not want him to marry a another wife.

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Amina Rikesh revealed where she met the hunky singer.

‘Mara ya kwanza kukutana na Ali Kiba ilikuwa kwenye ndege na hatukuzungumza. Mara ya pili, kaka yangu binamu ndiyo alinikutanisha nae maana walikuwa marafiki sana na hapo ndiyo tulianza urafiki wetu kabla ya kufika hapa tulipo,

This was back in 2016, when things got serious between them.

She was asked if she would allow the singer to marry another wife, she paused then replied;

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‘siwezi mruhusu japo mungu ndiye anapanga’.

Ali Kiba has been sued by a fourth woman, who claims he has not been paying child support. It will be interesting to see how it develops.

The two love-birds are currently in Tanzania, and we do wish them well. In the meantime, listen to his new song Mvumo wa radi. Is it a hit or a miss?

 

Nairobi restaurant manager forced to carry baby after kicking out woman for breastfeeding

A manger of a restaurant who forced out a breastfeeding mum, has been forced to carry the baby he kicked out.

On May 13th, a Kenyan woman exposed a restaurant on social media, claiming they kicked her out for breastfeeding in public.

Betty posted on Facebook’s Buyer Beware, where Kenyans spoke out in anger at the move.

“I’m very disappointed by Olive restaurant embassava stage after humiliating me when breastfeeding my baby. Those Waiter’s should be aware not all babies are covered while being fed,” read a post by the angry woman.

She continued to narrate that it was raining outside thus, she could not breastfeed her baby in the toilet.

“The approach was pathetic, it was raining outside na siwezi nyonyeshea mtoto kwa choo,” she added.

The restaurant continues to be dragged on its social media accounts for taking such a move. Here are comments from annoyed Kenyans.

Elizabeth Gichimu…How you treated that breastfeeding mother was very inhuman. I can’t imagine how many more have been given terrible treatment and did not get to have their voices heard. Sad

Millicent Oketch…Is this the restaurant that kicked a breastfeeding mother out? I’ll make sure to tell all my friends and circle to tell their friends and circle…how can they? We are Africans. So our children should starve or be feed in the toilet? And someone hasn’t closed down that restaurant???

Angela Juliana…I would never go there. Despite the good food, they kick out breastfeeding moms. Or give you the option the feed your baby in the toilet. Bulcrap!!!!

Kenyan women groups took to the streets to protest, and headed over to the restaurant where the manager was forced to carry the child. Here is another photo of the protest at Olive restaurant.

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9 uncomfortable truths every high school girl should know

 

When I look at older Kenyan female celebrities, I often wonder, what would they tell their younger selves?

Would they look back at their younger selves and feel awful at all the turmoil they went through? I do admire someone like Akothee, who owns up to all that she did and went through, perhaps as her way of getting on with it.

But for those struggling with this, do read through the nine points and truth bombs  you need to hear, according to an article published on Gurl,

If You Feel Uncomfortable, Just Leave

You’re going to be in situations that you feel are very wrong, but you’re going to stay because you don’t want to make a fuss. I’m going to ask you to stand up for yourself in these situations.  Bad relationship senior year? LEAVE. Creepy boss? LEAVE. Weird party? LEAVE. You are autonomous and you never have to stay in something you don’t like.

That Breakup Isn’t As Devastating As You Think It Is

You can’t see how you could ever love anyone else right now, but I promise you that you will find love again and it will be even better. The time you waste pining and wishing for this person could be much better spent on other things. I want to tell you that it’s okay that things didn’t work out between you two- it’s not your fault.

You’re More Beautiful Than You Know

You don’t think you’re beautiful. All you see are your flaws- that pimple on your nose, they way your stomach pouches, the droop in your right eyelid. But you are beautiful. You’re going to look back in fifteen years and say, “Wow! Why didn’t I realize it?”

The Hard Times Actually Do Get Better

I know the you don’t believe anyone who tries to comfort you with this cliché, but I’m telling you it will get better. Do you know why? Because you’ll get better at handling the ups and downs of life. You’re going to think about ending your life, but you shouldn’t waste your energy. Keep fighting, because this rough patch only temporary and is crucial to the story of your life.

Your Friends Who Are Doing Better Than You Will Have Their Struggles, Too

Jealousy is such a waste of time. Everyone, no matter how great their life seems, will have some sort of hurdle to surmount. It may not be tomorrow, it may not even be for five more years, but it happens to everyone. I know you’re going to be super envious of your friend, Kate, who gets cast in national musicals right out of college, but in a few years she’ll have to work just as hard as you do.

You Have To Learn To Make Decisions On Your Own

I know you are paralyzed with indecision because you feel that every move you make will change your entire life. That’s too much pressure! I want to take some of that burden off of your shoulders- one decision will not make or break you. Everything you do serves a purpose, so make a decision and let it go. Don’t torture yourself wondering if you made the “right” choice.

All Those People With The Latest Clothes Are Probably Spending Money They Don’t Have

You feel “less than” the girls with the expensive shoes and the Gucci shirts, but the truth is they’re not any better than you. They or their parents might even be in debt trying to “keep up with the Joneses.” Feel good about the fact that you only spend money that you have.

Stress Will Always Be There So You Have To Learn How To Deal

I understand that things don’t feel right. This isn’t the life that you thought you were going to have when you were a little girl. That’s okay. Plans change, life changes, it’s never perfect. There isn’t a “right” way to do anything. Even when you decide to go to that weird theater camp you hate during the summer sophomore year, you’re going to get great stories out of it. The truth is, you’re always going to feel stressed – you just need to learn how to get through it.

 

A three-second pinch test can tell if you’re dehydrated

To test the skin turgor to find out if you’re dehydrated, simply pinch the skin with two fingers on your abdomen, the front of your hand or the skin on your chest just below the collarbone for a few seconds, holding it in place as you pinch.

After pinching your skin for a few seconds let go and if the skin immediately returns to its regular position that means you have normal turgor which shows you’re hydrated enough.

However, if your skin takes a moment to return to normal, that means you have poor turgor which is a sign of fluid loss due to dehydration and you need fluids, according to Medline Plus.

When performing the test which can easily be done anywhere – even at your desk – make sure to check and see if your skin ‘tents,’ meaning your skin stays upright from the pinch for a second longer than normal.

If you’re only slightly dehydrated it can be shown if the skin moves a little slower than usual – but severe dehydration would occur if your skin turgor took a long time to get back in place.

In the case that the pinch test proved you’re dehydrated, don’t fret because doctors revealed helpful tips to get hydrated quickly through fluids, eating properly and skincare to ensure you don’t get dehydrated.

Dr. Dennis Gross revealed to DailyMail.com that the three-second pinch test is ‘the best way to determine if you are dehydrated.’

‘A lack of water in the circulatory system leads to less circulation to the skin and decreased skin elasticity – meaning it will take longer to return to its natural state after being pinched.

‘When you are dehydrated, the skin receives less nutrients, vitamins and oxygen that make it look dull,’ Dr. Gross admitted.

‘Topically, applying any moisturizing product that may contain water can promote hydrated, healthy skin,’ he continued.

Dr. Gross also shared some easy tips to get you hydrated in no time: ‘Apply moisturizer within 30 seconds after bathing and toweling off. The moisturizer will help seal in the water from the shower.

‘Also, trap the steam in your bathroom by keeping the door closed to seal in even more moisture. You can also use oils to hydrate skin but they have pros and cons.

‘The pros are that oils can be used in bath water which seals skin exceptionally well, preventing water evaporation plus they soothe skin, but the cons are that oils are greasy which can certainly be difficult in daytime because the texture doesn’t absorb well and can messes up clothing or sheets.’

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These extremely cut out jeans are selling for Sh11,000. Would you buy them?

Talk about giving new meaning to ripped. What’s the most ridiculous fashion you’ve ever laid your eyes on?

Carmar Denim is a Los Angeles based company selling these cut out jeans for 168$.

The pants are described as a high rise pant with large statement cutouts on the front and back.

The company brands itself as a premium denim catered to the free spirited generation of today.

There is currently a wait list as the pants are sold out.

Most of the fabric is missing from a normal pair of jeans, but as a plus, they do at least have pockets.