Repetitive Arguments And Fights Over Finances Are Signs That YOUR Relationship Is On The Rocks

Relationships don’t always run smoothly but a sexual anthropologist has shared the signs to pay attention to that tell you your relationship is over.

Bella Elwood-Clayton from Sydney is an expert on relationships and said one of the main red flags that indicates the relationship is in a danger zone is when the excitement is gone.

‘When, actually, you’d rather just read a book. And he would prefer to play Warcraft. Every night,’ she told Daily Life.

‘The last time you orgasmed while looking into each other’s eyes was before jeggings came out’.

Bella Elwood-Clayton is an expert on relationships says one of the main red flags that indicates the relationship is in a danger zone is when the excitement is gone

She says that the bio mechanical processes that happen when we fall in love only last so long and it is around the six to 24 month mark that the honeymoon period starts to end.

Ms Elwood-Clayton believes that when the complications of life get in the way it often leads to couples being less infatuated with each other.

‘Differing financial values and the stress incurred from consumer debt and partner materialism. These are a top reason for divorce,’ she said.

She has stated that research has found that couples who disagree about finances once a week are more likely to divorce than those who disagree a few times a month.

She has stated that research has found that couples who disagree about finances once a week are more likely to divorce than those who disagree a few times a month

Arguments are a main factor of whether Ms Elwood-Clayton believes a relationship will last or not.

‘If the same fight keeps cropping up, tend to your damn soil. Although conflict is part of any long-term relationship, be aware of intensity and frequency,’ she warned

Although she recognised that as relationships go on couples occasionally become less sexually interested with each other, physical aspects are still important.

‘When you no longer kiss on the mouth every day. A sensual kiss says, I am still in love with you. You are more than a co-parent, a co-inhabitor,’ she said

'When you no longer kiss on the mouth every day. A sensual kiss says, I am still in love with you. You are more than a co-parent, a co-inhabitor,' Ms Elwood-Clayton says

And these aren’t the only signs your relationship might be on the rocks.

Previously relationship expert Olga Levancuka, shared with Daily Mail her three factors in a relationship that prove it is time you should cut ties.

She believes that being a priority in the other persons life is important and if you’re not, it could be a sign to let go.

Ms Levancuka said it’s important to think about whether your partner has introduced you to important people in their life, whether they’re making future plans with you and whether they make important decisions that could impact both of your lives.

‘Being someone’s priority isn’t necessarily all about spending every waking moment together. It’s about playing an important role in each other’s life and being truly connected,’ she said.

She also recommended that you should be aware of whether you have grown apart, as people are constantly changing and evolving.

‘A Kikuyu woman will treat you like a king as long as you have cash, but toss you like rotten mutura once you are broke,’ How truth is this?

Kenyan women are great. They are known to be hardworking, loving, hustlers, prayerful, brains of the house and protective of their families. But there are different misconceptions about these Kenyan women.

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Well, below are different characteristics of Kenyan women from these eight tribes. Peddled by different people on Facebook…

1. Kikuyu women

Everyone has heard the one about Kikuyu women. How they plait their hair, read a novel or knit and placidly inform their partners to cover them when they are through with their business. If one day you return home to find an empty house and your children gone, then you are in the groove with a Kikuyu. They are known to be “packers”. They will pack and go with the children and furniture after 40 years of hard labour in a marriage.

 
A common saying goes “A Kikuyu woman will treat you like a king as long as you have cash, but toss you like rotten mutura (traditional sausage) once you are broke.”

Kikuyu women are known for the following phrases “I would rather cry in a Mercedes than laugh on a bicycle.” Money is not everything it is the only thing. “Everyone loves money. You cannot go to your landlord or the headmaster at your children’s school and say, ‘we are in love, please understand us for not paying.’ Love is no substitute for money.”
They will mix rice, arrow roots, sukuma wiki, potatoes, githeri and all imaginable ingredients in one pot. Their men have to always sneak out to enjoy nyama choma or chapati in a smoke-filled joint on their own

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They say all women are schemers but Kikuyus have perfected it to an art. On the first date, they have you all sized up. Wallet size, the level of education, future ambitions. So by the second date, you will be paying their rent.

 

2. Kamba Women
The myth of the sex athlete goes back a long way. Kamba women are known to be a force to reckon with. By the time she is 30, she is in total control. It is said that they are given a thorough briefing by their aunts and grandmothers as part of their initiation rituals. Continue reading “‘A Kikuyu woman will treat you like a king as long as you have cash, but toss you like rotten mutura once you are broke,’ How truth is this?”

Forget About Moshene, Here Is Proof That Kilimani Mums Is A Powerful Group

“Mums msininyime likes, who knows so and so.., momo kwa comments, vuteni stool, stop breaking people’s marriages, wacheni nipakulie sponsor nakuja, sema kupapasa tumbo ya sponsor, kuna mtu nataka kuanika, itateni…

If you have ever come across such words on social media just know you are on Kilimani Mums page or the person who uses such phrases belongs to that fierce group.

Kilimani Mums is a Facebook group made up of close to 100k women (if you are a man and you are a member of this group you are abnormal). Here, gossip is the order of the day.

The group is famed for its great campaign ‘My Dress My Choice’ back in 2015. This is a group where if you are featured, you can commit suicide. Sema kuanikwa!

Women in this group have no chills, they don’t mince their words. Poor you if you are anikwad in this group. In short, Kilimani Mums is not for the faint-hearted, join at your own risk.

 

Anyway, apart from gossip, Kilimani Mums is a powerful group full of learned women. From lawyers, CEOs to successful businesswomen who empower and build each other. Apart from gossip, here are other five things Kilimani Mums group is known for;

  1. Offer support

No one can beat Kilimani mums when it comes to acts of kindness. They always put aside their differences and offer support when someone is in need. From helping jobless women pay their rent, settle hospital bills and even offering jobs, these women have always wowed many. Remember when they offered support to the Garissa attack victims’ families last year at the Chiromo mortuary? We are indeed proud of these women.

 

2. Social media Advocates

They have scored an A plus when it comes to advocacy. When it comes to advocating for rights of children, young girls and women, Kilimani mums group women have always been on the forefront. We have seen them get many pedophiles and wife batterers arrested. They will make any injustice or needy case go viral thus making it easy for many to know what’s going on. Kudos mamas!

3. Advice

Not everyone is bad. There is a group of few women who are positive. They encourage and offer pieces of advice to the downtrodden or rather those who are fed up with life, their relationships and even stubborn bosses at workplace. These women deserve to be awarded.

4. Religious

There is no time you will miss to find a prayer in that group. There are prayer warriors who say opening and closing prayers every morning and evening. Besides the prayers, these women also advise each other on matters pertaining religion and also have many prayer groups where they teach one another the ways of the Lord. There are several pastors, reverends in the group. Prophetess Monica and Ms Langat are some of them.

5. Defend women

This group comprises of a platform where women come to air their grievances and even expose homewreckers. Although many side with women who expose those who they believe are their husbands’ side dishes, there are some who come out to defend the poor souls. These defenders seem to have set a trend and nowadays, women rarely expose homewreckers – if they are not willing to also expose their randy hubbys. Only a quarter of the women in the group comment on such matters.

Nairobi Woman Turns Down Mpango wa Kando’s Exotic Holiday, Still Loves Jobless Husband

Dear Kenyan men, do not generalise all women. Don’t call her promiscuous, lazy, immature, golddigger or stingy just because you dated someone who possessed all these characters at some point in your life. There are a few who are decent, loving, kind and faithful. They are ready to build an empire with you from scratch to something.

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Well, a Kenyan woman has left Kenyans talking for days after she made certain confessions about her mpango wa kando (side dish). The woman, who didn’t want her identity revealed, claimed that her mpango wa kando is a wealthy man and they recently planned to celebrate her birthday in Mauritius, one of the beautiful countries in Africa. But she ‘pulled out’. The married woman further went ahead to confess how she loves her jobless husband and children and won’t ruin her marriage just because of money.

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“Good morning mums
I need advice.. don’t bother running to my profile it’s protected.
So I met this guy sometimes last year.We’ve always been in touch just casual greetings until early this year he showed interest in me. He knows I’m married, he’s married too but still wanted us to have a relationship.

I refused but 1 week ago I gave in after looking at the bright side of it. This man was going to transform my life I felt it. He’s development conscious and not this kawa sponsors. We’ll we’d even planned a vacation to Mauritius, and I was to get a car from him on my birthday(BTW he’s very rich). But something behind has been telling me all this is wrong…. so last night. I looked at my beautiful children, my husband (who is jobless by the way) and decided wacha tuteseke but ain’t going on with the relationship. I sent him a long text and ended things which he accepted like a gentleman..

I sent him a long text and ended things which he accepted like a gentleman..Now tell me ,did I throw away an opportunity of a lifetime ama I did the right thing? NB I haven’t slept with him.

NB I haven’t slept with him.
No judging me please…..thank you,” she posted.

The post attracted a lot of comments with many fellow married women congratulating her for the brave decision. Check out some of the comments.

Lynn: You made a very wise decision dear, may God protect your marriage.

Ruth: Kudos dear, the money factor is very tempting, but never let it get into your head.God will reward you, just be patient Continue reading “Nairobi Woman Turns Down Mpango wa Kando’s Exotic Holiday, Still Loves Jobless Husband”

NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE? Kenyan Men Reveal How Their Wives Are More Into Money Than Love (Audio)

A day ago, men listeners called in to justify why they don’t talk to their women or have deep conversations with them, because they don’t have time for that, taking into consideration that they are the breadwinners.

This prompted Maina Kageni to ask Kenyan men why they think love and money are inseparable:

“What makes you think that all a woman wants is money and not your time and love? And why do Kenyan men think that love is all about the money and can never separate the two?”

According to Maina Kageni, most of these women met their men when they didn’t have money and were broke and rugged and still loved and supported them, so why does it change years down the line when the money comes?

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The celebrated radio host emphasized on the need of men giving their wives attention and holding deep conversations with them at least once in a while, insisting that it’s not always about the money for Kenyan women.

However, this is something most Kenyan men totally disagree with, saying that Kenyan ladies are all about the money and that there can never be any romance without finance in any relationship or marriage.

The men called in, ranting about how their wives can’t stand them without money or how it’s hard to find a woman who will love you without money, with others saying that money and love are like twins for women.

Listen to the short audio below as Kenyan women complain about how their women prioritize money to love.