Mike Mondo-I cheated on my ex with 3 of her friends after she cheated on me

Classic 105 host Mike Mondo has said he doesn’t regret cheating on his ex-girlfriend with 3 of her friends a few years back.

Speaking to Kalondu Musyimi, Mike says he chose to character develop the lady after she cheated with his friend.

“I character developed someone by sleeping with 3 of her friends. She was hollaing at one of my friends and the brother of this guy told me about it. I approached the guy and told him not to let her know I had found out she was cheating on me.”

Mike says although cheating is not something to be proud of, he gave the lady a dose of her own medicine.
“I always say that when you pretend you know too much I react to how you treat me. If you want to cheat, I will show you a different of how big boys play it. And when we do you will end up getting hurt.”

Mike says the lady never found out about him cheating on her.
Asked if he regrets doing it? “I have no regrets but I can’t do that now, sahi nimezeeka.”

There are different reasons why people cheat, these may be;

To seek revenge
Some people cheat to get back at their partners who might have strayed as well.
To soothe their ego
Some people, both men, and women cheat to soothe their ego and cover their insecurities.
Low esteem
Some cheat to seek validation from other people.
This mainly happens when the person they love doesn’t validate them.
Some have issues arising from a lack of good performance and small tools.
Getting someone who accepts them, and that person is not their partner might make one cheat.
Lust
Some people cheat because they are lustful and want to fulfill their sexual fetishes.

Mike had in the past revealed that some men like messy divorces or separations, saying,

I have seen couples go through messy separations. You find a man chasing out his wife and yet he is the one who is supposed to move out. Or you find a man taking away his wife’s car but with white people things are very different.”

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‘Milly Chebby dumped a pastor for me’ – Terence Creative

Terence Creative has revealed his wife Milly Chebby almost got married to a pastor but backed out at the last minute and settled for him.

Chebby and Terence have been married for 10 years.

Terence revealed this information during a segment on his wife’s YouTube channel.

‘My wife was to be married by a pastor. Everything had been done, but on the d-day, she never showed up, akarudi kwa chokora wake (Terence).”

The couple first met at Carnivore Grounds where the Churchill show was being shot.

Terence says when he first met Milly, he thought he would just hit and run only for him to end up falling in love.

‘We met in 2013 February at Carnivore where I was working as a creative at the Churchill show.

I saw Milly during a meeting for creatives. 

During the first shoot of Churchill’s show, I saw her again making a call. I couldn’t help but admire her derriere.

I was like ‘hii ukiipiga inaweza’.

At the time I was not thinking of a relationship, I was going through a hard time. 

I was confused and was about to exit from another relationship. It did not ring in my mind that I needed this lady to settle, I was on fisi mode.

Men let’s not lie most men are on fisi mode when they meet a woman, they only change to marriage mode later.”

On how she met the love of her life, Milly shared,

“J Blessing had announced that Churchill show was making a comeback after two years. I sent him a DM and told him I wanted a job as a backstage manager.

I was given the job and as I was walking to Carnivore for a meeting is when I saw Terence.”

We met again during the first shoot of the Churchill show.”

Their marriage has not been without it’s fair share of challenges.

In 2020 Terence admitted to having cheated on Milly Chebby with environmentalist Anita Soina.

Chebby says during that period, she almost gave up on her marriage.

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My hubby regrets marrying me cause I gave birth to a disabled kid-Maina told

Kenyan women have told Maina Kageni they regret marrying their partners because of the constant madharau they are going through.

This was based on a video of a woman in Kitui ditching her wedding at the last minute.

Maina Kageni was curious to find out what would make one ditch their wedding and why some others went on with the plans when they had doubts from the word go.


A caller identified as Rose says her husband said he regrets marrying her after she bore him a disabled child.

“I did not regret my husband but he told me he regrets marrying me.
This is because I gave birth to a disabled child. He has told me of his regret not once nor twice.”

Rose says that her husband no longer supports her and their two kids

“He was very much sober when telling me those things. He doesn’t even care how the child survives.
He does not support our 2 kids.”


*Jane says she has to live with a man who openly disrespects her

“People are suffering out here. Imagine living where you are not wanted? The guys notice you have become big and they go for someone else. There is a time I wanted to give up and I told him I wanted out. To my surprise, he wanted the same thing. We had been married for 14 years.”

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“I told him even if I was going he would be the one to be left with the kids. We stayed for a week and he told me to give him a week to let him think.
If you feel tired of the arguments and the behavior let him know,” she advised.


*Mwanaisha says she is happily married and wouldn’t change anything
“I do not regret marrying him, we have been married for many years. We have gone through storms but we are still together, marriage works. He also does not regret it. We agreed to grow old together even though our marriage is not perfect.

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*Rose says that she is only in the marriage because of the kids, given a chance she would leave and never look back.

“I do regret marrying my husband. Some things you never know, if you knew
If time could be turned back I would never get married to this person. He doesn’t know, you just walk around knowing you made a mistake. I am basically in jail because of the kids. They don’t understand what I am going through.

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‘My husband’s side chick just gave birth to his child’ Cries betrayed city woman

A Kenya woman is still in shock and is disgusted after finding out that her husband’s side chic recently delivered his baby.

This is despite the fact that they have been married for less than two years.

I just found out my husbands side chic just had a baby by him.

The problem however is that my baby is not even a year old yet and our marriage is not two years old and now he has a baby outside already.

I have been crying since I knew and he’s begging that I forgive him and I shouldn’t tell any of my family members .

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Nelly goes on to add that she does not know how to handle this betrayal.

I asked if he intends to marry her and he said he doesn’t know yet.

I’m really confused and disappointed,  I do not know whether to break up with him or not.

Please advice.

Below are some of the comments of Kenyans advising her on what to do.

He doesn’t know if he intends to marry her?? But he’s already married to you? I’m I missing something?

Please tell both your families. This wasn’t a mistake. How can you even want to stay with him? This is so sad.

Most people here will tell you to stay and work on your marriage. But this isn’t a marriage. It’s a shame to stay than to leave.

Another adds,

She’s not just a sidechick this one is residential chic. She has been in the picture before and after you.

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‘I am sleeping with 3 other men yet I am married and pregnant,’ brags woman

A city woman has been left in a dilemma after her s#xual escapade ended in a pregnancy and she does not know who is responsible.

*Racheal* who is married has been entertaining three different men without the knowledge of her husband.

She narrates,

I know the drama is too much but please I need advise.

I am a married woman sleeping with three different men, I know you all will judge and call me a slut but that was the only option I had.

This is because my husband cheated on me so I decided to revenge.

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Racheal adds that her situation worsened after her husband confessed that he already has a baby mama and he does not care about her (Racheal) as much.

Now I am pregnant and I don’t know whose it is.

Foolishly for me I have told all three of them including my husband because we don’t have a child yet, only for the useless man to tell me that he has a baby mama and he is sorry .

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Racheal goes on to confess that she does not know how to react to the news that she is pregnant.

I don’t know what to do or how to react to this, I feel like telling him to his face.

That he is not a man but the other guys I am sleeping with don’t have money to take care of this child .

Should I just abort this child and have my peace of mind. Please advise.

What advice can you give Racheal now that her husband is not interested in her pregnancy?

Put your answer in the comment section.

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‘My arrogant house help is pregnant for my husband’ Cries city woman

A city woman has been left in a tight spot after finding out disturbing news about her ex house help.

*Jane* the woman, feels betrayed by both her husband and the help.

I have been married to my husband for some years now, and we have beautiful kids together.

I recently just found out that my ex house-help is pregnant for my husband.

I had to let her go about few months ago, because I wasn’t comfortable with her behavior, she was becoming to comfortable in my home.

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After that she and her brother kept on calling me and raining insults on me.

Some days go, I got a text from her, saying I should tell my ”useless husband that has impregnated her, to pick her calls.

Adding that she doesn’t blame me, because I am a good woman, but my husband isn’t.

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Jane adds that she forwarded the message to her husband but she is torn on what to do.

I forwarded the message to my husband, who denied ever having anything to do with her.

I was going to let it slide, not until I got another text from her, which confirms that she is pregnant for my husband.

At this point, I don’t know what action to take, as I  am so broken and hurt. I wouldn’t leave my home because of this.

I wont give her the victory of watching her see my home scattered.

How do I handle the situation?

What would you advice her to do?

 

‘My daughter is having an affair with my boyfriend’ Cries city woman

A Kenyan woman has been left in a dilemma after finding out that her daughter has been sending flirty messages to her mother’s boyfriend.

*Stacy* accidentally stumbled upon steamy messages between her daughter and her soon to be step father, is what let the secret out.

She says

I think my daughter is going out with my man.

I’m a single mum and I have struggled to bring up my daughter. At some point, she was rebellious and ran away from home but she is now back to college.

  The shocking thing is that the other day when I borrowed her phone, I stumbled on some disturbing text messages of her flirting with my boyfriend.

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When I confronted my daughter, her  response was alarming. It is then I realized that whenever  my boyfriend spends at my place, he delays to go to work and I usually leave the two of them alone.

I feel so bad, how could I be so deceived under my nose by the two people 1 love the Most? Please help, I’m going crazy!

What do you think would be the best thing for the woman to do. Should she let her daughter keep her man or should she fight for him?

Put your answer in the comment section.

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‘I caught my wife cheating on me in our matrimonial bed thrice’ Cries city man (Audio)

During the morning show on Classic 105 a man shocked many after confessing that he has caught his wife in bed cheating on him thrice.

Yes you heard that right not once not twice but thrice,Narrating his story to Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi ,he says

“There is nothing as painful as loving someone and she goes out there to cheat on you,I almost killed myself because of a woman.

I found her cheating with three different men in our house,the first time I forgave her ,the second time I also forgave her when I found her a third time I could not forgive her.

I even called her dad to sort things out,mapenzi wachia mwingine mimi siwezi.”

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The SEVEN personality types most likely to be unfaithful in a relationship

Infidelity is on the rampant and researchers have found out three main factors that determine adulterous behavior. prompting people to be unfaithful.

According to Daily Mail, there are three main factors that affect and determine adulterous behaviour in an individual namely brain—the neurological structures and chemistry that evolution gave you

Psychology—the mind that you’ve developed through formative experiences that imprint certain ways of thinking about the world, your place in it, and how you think about your sexual/romantic self

Culture—the environment around you, with its varying messages about sex, love, and adultery that inform both your opinions about and opportunities for infidelity

 

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Based on studies nearly 50 percent of what differentiates cheaters from non cheaters has to do with biological differences in their brain chemicals. This means that more than half of what pushes a man or woman to take the plunge to cheat has to do with both one’s environment and one’s psychology.

The most significant environmental cause is the fact that we can cheat. The easier it is to do, the more likely we will do it. Cheating is not confined to sleazy people. Under the right circumstances it is very easy to turn lustful thoughts into desperate actions.

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As we know from studies of chemical addictions, there are several environmental factors that make bad behaviors more doable.

When it comes to the psychology of cheaters, the biggest factor driving them to stray is the feeling that they’re entitled or deserve to cheat.

Research and clinical experience have identified certain personality traits to be associated with this feeling:

  • Narcissism—feeling self-entitled and putting one’s needs first
  • Lacking empathy—not being able to put oneself in one’s partner’s shoes.
  • Grandiosity—overestimating one’s abilities, especially one’s sexual prowess with others, and needing validation for one’s abilities as a lover.
  • Being impulsive—making important decisions, with major consequences, on the fly.
  • Being a novelty or thrill seeker.
  • Having an avoidant attachment style—fearing commitment.
  • Being self-destructive or masochistic.

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Modern woman more accepting over husbands infidelity to avoid divorce

Marriages were meant to be for better for worse but an increase in the rate of divorce in Kenya has left many wondering if marriage is worth while.

Every marriage has its own struggles but with the increase in moral decay more and more cases of infidelity are arising each day with increased cases of murder ,physical abuse,sexual abuse and many other inhumane behaviours.

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According to Daily Mail  lawyers found out that Modern wives are more willing to ‘turn a blind eye’ to one-off lapses in their husband’s fidelity, Figures show there has been a 45 per cent decrease in the number of divorce petitions submitted by wives over nearly 25 years.

Women are said to increasingly reject the idea of divorce in favour of trying to rebuild a marriage – provided their ‘red line’ has not been crossed.

Red lines include when a husband repeatedly misbehaves or becomes too blatant in his transgressions.

Solicitors cited the example of an easygoing marriage that ended in divorce after the husband brought his long-term mistress back to the family home.

Another case involved an erring husband crossing his wife’s red line when his misuse of credit cards provoked a legal action.

Figures from the Office for National Statistics show that in 2006 in England and Wales the first move in the legal process of divorce was made by 90,375 wives, but by 2016 this had fallen to 65,290 – a drop of just under 28 per cent. The overall number of divorces in England and Wales has fallen by 35 per cent in nearly a quarter of a century, with fewer than 107,000 finalised in 2016.

The number of divorces in England and Wales has fallen by 35 per cent over a quarter of a century

Between 1993 – the year divorce reached a peak of 165,018 – and 2016, the number of wives petitioning dropped by 45 per cent.

Ellen Walker, of Hall Brown Family Law, which carried out the research, said women often found it possible to live with affairs, financial problems, substance abuse and even domestic violence until the issues became too severe or too obvious to others.

Women appeared more capable than men of putting up with marriage-threatening difficulties, she added. ‘We are surprised time and again by the ability of some men and women to almost turn a blind eye to their partner’s misbehaviour,’ Miss Walker said.

Modern women were said to be better than men at dealing with problems facing their marriage

 

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‘I am not referring to single examples of infidelity or drunkenness but individuals who encounter frequent bad conduct and give their other halves another chance, mainly because of their commitment to a relationship.

‘However, the cases which we deal with illustrate how many people in such a situation find their patience ultimately exhausted, usually when the misconduct becomes too difficult for themselves and others to ignore.

‘In some cases, that means being told by friends or relatives about extramarital affairs which they were already aware of or discovering the true extent of a spouse’s financial difficulties and learning that they impact on a business as well as at home.’

She added: ‘Their partners are sometimes shocked to learn there is a limit, given the degree to which they had been forgiven before. These marital watershed moments, though, prove to be the point of no return for a couple and can rapidly result in divorce proceedings.’

Miss Walker said: ‘I have been told on many occasions that divorce was regarded as something of a last resort but there are few individuals, in my experience, who have proven willing or able to work through every difficulty which presents itself.’

In a report earlier this year, Hall Brown said the rise of ‘breadwinner wives’ was also putting women off divorce as the prospect of giving up some of their wealth to their husbands made them ‘realise the financial consequences of calling time on the marriage’.

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Men who betray their wives get less of the blame from their partners than the people they cheat with… but husbands point the finger at their other halves

Cheating on a partner is never going to make you popular but men who betray their wives can expect to get less of the blame than the woman they cheat with.

A study has found that when a woman cheats on her husband, he blames her for the infidelity. But if a man cheats on his wife, she will be more angry at the other woman than she is at him.

Women are more distressed by adulterous messages sent by a rival to their partner than anything the man has done.

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Emotional cheating also upsets them more than actual sex, which men regard as the worst betrayal, the study by Cardiff Metropolitan University found.

Researchers said the findings may be explained by our caveman past. Lead author Dr Michael Dunn, an evolutionary scientist and lecturer at Cardiff’s school of health sciences, said: ‘One explanation may be that women, because they are the choosier sex and bring up the children, are seen as the most important sex for childbearing.

‘This is why they may be blamed for a relationship breaking down, by men or women, whether they are inside or outside of that relationship.’ Researchers asked 21 men and 23 women to look at eight messages on Facebook detailing different cheating situations.

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They were then asked to rate their response to the message, on a distress scale of one to ten, as if they involved their partner.

Examples included ‘You must be my soulmate! Feel so bloody connected to you, even though we haven’t slept together’ and ‘You must be the best one-night stand I’ve ever had’.

Who the reader blamed for the situation was judged by whether they were more unhappy about messages sent or received by their partner.

The results showed that women were far more upset by messages sent to their partner. But men were more unhappy with the actions of their partner than the person they cheated with.

Dr Dunn said: ‘Another potential reason is that if an important goal of jealousy is to prevent the occurrence or re-occurrence of a partner’s infidelity then it would be easier, especially during our evolutionary past, to change the behaviour of the physically weaker sex, i.e the female’s behaviour.’

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The study, in the journal Evolutionary Psychological Science, also showed that men rated their distress higher when the infidelity was sexual, while women showed more distress at emotional infidelity.

This may be because in the past it was very difficult for a woman to raise a child on her own. She needed to secure scarce resources from a man, which – if he became emotionally committed to someone else – she would lose.

But for men, the worst thing in our evolutionary history would have been to bring up another man’s child, which would explain the fear of sexual infidelity.

Ghai! Kenyan Woman Reveals She Had An AFFAIR With Her Husband’s BEST FRIEND To Revenge His Infidelity (AUDIO)

Ladies, would you handle it if your man was truthful about everything he does or about everyone he meets?

A lot of ladies have come out to complain about their husband’s secrets and infidelity, claiming that they want to be recognized, and that it’s better to know the truth rather than being in the dark in the relationship.

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“So, if he tells you that he has two children out of wedlock, or he has bought another woman a piece of land or opened for a mistress a salon, is it worth knowing? If he traveled and said that he was sleeping at a hotel, but he confesses that he was actually at another woman’s house, would you survive that honesty?” 

This was the big question from Maina Kageni, who wanted to get views from women during his breakfast show recently after a lady called in saying that it hurts when one finds out secrets about the husband.

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A lot of ladies called in and texted, giving their different opinions on whether they would like to know if their men stayed and whether their husbands have ever revealed to them if they had extramarital affairs.

But things took a different turn when a lady called in to say that it’s the men who can’t handle the truth from women, confessing that she has a lot of secrets her man doesn’t know, including the fact that she cheated on him with his close friend.

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According to the anonymous lady, her man cheated on her and she happened to know, so she had an affair with one of his closest friend for three months, and he never knew it, just to get back at him.

The lady was daring enough to say that she can even cheat with his brother if he ever tries to be unfaithful again. This is madness. Listen to the details of the whole revelation in the audio below.

 

Kenyan Man Reveals How He Caught His Wife In Bed With His Boss. Find Out What Happened Next!

There was a very interesting, yet shocking revelation from one male caller on Maina and Kingangi in the morning. He confessed that he found his wife in bed with his boss in their home.

The caller didn’t quit his job or leave his wife after the depressing experience, and had to bear the sight of his boss at work and his unfaithful wife in the house, and never found it in him to forgive her, which led to mistrust.

Maina Kageni was so shocked by this issue and decided to ask men whether they have been cheated on before and what they would do if they were ever caught in this situation.

Listen to the audio below and find out what the caller did after his wife cheated on him with his boss.

Forget Cheating! Here Are 5 Other Things That Are As Bad As Having An Affair

No relationship or marriage is easy to build and maintain. There are many other things that can destroy a relationship other than having an affair.

When couples have different values and moral standards, it is bound to bring problems in their relationship. There are certain kinds of behaviours that could mean a total betrayal to the promise of commitment made to your partner.

The truth is, because there isn’t cheating in the mix, most couples experiencing these problems feel they can live with them, but it slowly chips away the foundation of love and trust built over the years.

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Well, here are 5 other things that are as bad as cheating on your partner.

1. Creating an emotional barrier between you and your partner
Nothing hurts more than that. It’s a huge sign that your relationship may crumble soon, because there’ll be less and less physical contact. The lack of connection could be a gate pass for an affair.

2. Telling lies to your partner
Lying to your partner is never fine and shouldn’t be treated as such. Lies are like a hammer to a wall; they break all you have built in an instant. Trust and commitment are swept under the rug when your partner realizes the relationship is built on deception.

3. Emotional affair
The fact is, emotional affairs are more damaging than physical ones. Firstly, they are very difficult to end because that will mean the end of an emotional support system. Emotional cheating can cause irreparable damage to relationships.

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4. Not putting your partner first
When you really love your partner, you put them first. When couples begin to forget each other’s needs, there’ll be a gradual breakdown of the relationship. Your needs are important, but showing them knowing you’ll always be there for them no matter what is assuring enough. Love is a verb not a noun.

5. Refusing to stand up for your partner
Your partner should be your closest friend. Relationships have crumbled because one partner refused to stand up for the other, especially when there’s some sort of interference from in-laws and relatives.

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Have You Been Cheated On? Here Are 5 Ways To Help You Move Forward

If you’ve recently suffered the sting of betrayal, you probably feel like your life is spinning out of control right now. Between your mind filling with madness and your emotions flipping from outrage to sadness, it’s natural to keep asking, “How could this happen to me?”

Between the tears, humiliation, and confusion, you may wonder how you’ll ever survive.

According to an article published on Eharmony, there are five crucial steps to successfully move forward and beat the bite of betrayal.

1. Practice Forgiveness
If your partner’s betrayal has you trapped in a prison of pain, blame, and resentment, it’s time to forgive yourself so that you can be free from the pain, confusion and anger. Yes, your life has been turned upside down, and yes, betrayal is unconscionably bad behavior. But until you can forgive yourself and at least consider forgiving your partner, your heart, soul, and body will become a toxic receptacle, holding onto all negativity like a sponge.

2. Give Yourself Permission To Heal
Instead of punishing yourself and hanging on to the “story” of your betrayal, give yourself permission to heal, starting right this minute. Sound impossible? It’s not. Start by turning down those obsessive thoughts about the past and what can’t be erased. Next, practice self-love, reminding yourself that you are a loving and caring individual who didn’t deserve to be betrayed. Next, start thinking about what you can learn from this agonizing experience.

3. Rebuild Trust
Projecting your fears will not help you heal. If you plan to stay with your partner, you’ll need to focus on rebuilding trust. If you can’t forgive, then don’t waste time staying in the relationship and trying to make your partner pay for their past transgressions. Instead, give yourself the opportunity to pick up the pieces and start again. Start by learning to trust yourself and your life choices. Plus, by slowly and steadily rebuilding trust with your partner (or simply with yourself if you leave the relationship), you’re better able to let go of fear, doubt, and insecurity.

4. Don’t Blame Yourself, Appreciate Your Worth
Instead of blaming yourself for your partners’ betrayal, appreciate your worth, know you are enough just as you are, and recognize the infidelity had nothing to do with you. On the flip side, if you’re stuck in a cycle of intense anger and blame towards your partner, you need to decide if you can start to let go and rebuild your relationship, or if it’s time to walk away and move on.

5. Don’t Punish Future Partners
After a betrayal, it’s all too easy to fall into a funk of doubt, anger, and uncertainty about the future. Still, now is the time to ask yourself if you plan on punishing future partners for your exe’s sins, or if you’ll be strong enough to give them the trust they deserve.

For example, if a future date says or does something that triggers a memory of betrayal, instead of treating them unfairly, accusing them of lying, and then pulling away without explanation, why not calmly and courageously express your fears and concerns? This way, you’ll maximize your chances of building an open and honest relationship.

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Ways to know your girlfriend is cheating

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You have very slim chances of catching your girlfriend cheating on you. No lipstick stains on her collar. No lingering scents on her clothes. She’s ballsy and she knows how to cover her tracks. So the real question is whether you’ll ever get an opportunity to catch her red-handed in the act. Keep an eye out for these signs to find out if she could be cheating on you.

Be Keen
If you’re one of those guys, that acts only half-interested in your girl. You don’t remember her birthday. You can’t be bothered to find out her likes and dislikes because in your mind, she was created to serve you. It’s time to be keen and to keep an eye on her and what she likes doing in her free time.

No Longer Nags You
Typically, when one person starts cheating then it means that they’ve already checked out of their previous relationship. If she’s pulling away from you then she won’t care about any of the stunts that you pull on her. She’ll stop nagging you.

Better Dressing Sense
Your girlfriend could be the poster child for choosing comfort over design. She loves comfy t-shirts, blue jeans and sneakers. Nowadays, she looks different and she’s been experimenting with different looks for a while. Pastels. Crop Tops. Lipstick. Perfume.

More Personal Time
She’s starting to need more personal time so that she can pursue other interests. Your girlfriend only has 24 hours a day, just like everyone else. She already has tasks and expectations that are pulling her right, left and center. Thus, she needs to carve out time to meet him. To be with him. So, she’ll probably take on a new initiative, travel for work more often, spend more time meeting up with the girls. Of course, she’ll have less time to be with you.

Confident
Her lover finds her attractive, so obviously she’s learning to become more confident in herself. She may even have a glow around her. If you’re the guy, that never.

supported or encouraged her and preferred mocking or belittling her then just know that she found someone that appreciates her.

If You Cheated, Here’s How To Break The News

If you cheat, would you want your partner to know? Would you tell them yourself? Cheating happens for various reasons and it is something that can wreck a relationship if your partner finds out. Chances of being forgiven may vary depending on the strength of your relationship.

What happens when you want to tell your partner that you cheated? How do you go about it? If you want to tell them, here are a few tips:

1. Compose yourself – When you are preparing yourself to say something to your partner, especially of this magnitude, it’s best to compose yourself. Do not start pulling theatrics, crying and throwing tantrums. Sit, relax and say what you have to say first, the emotions will come later.

2. Do it as soon as possible – The moment you start postponing the dates you will not tell them. Immediately you make a decision to tell your partner about your infidelity, tell me there and then. The longer you take to tell them, the harder it becomes.

3. Say the truth – Speak the truth and nothing but the truth, don’t give excuses for your behavior, own up to it. Accept your mistakes and deal with the repercussions that come along.

4. Do it privately – The last thing you need to do is talk to your partner in private. Such a lengthy and in depth conversation should be done in private. At home or somewhere that the two of you won’t be interrupted. You don’t need everyone to see your partner fire up or you being apologetic in public.

5. Give them time to process – It’s not automatic that your partner will want to sit and listen to the whole conversation, so give them time to deal with the issue at hand. If they need space allow them to have it, to think about things at their own pace.

 

Before Taking Back A Cheater Ask Yourself This …

Before you take back a cheater there are questions that you should ask yourself. While it may not be easy to deal with the broken trust, its not impossible. It will take time to get things back to where they were, but here is what you need to know according to Marni Feuerman.

1. Does your partner have a parent and/or close friends who have cheated? – If the answer is in the affirmative,est belive it has affected them in one way or another. Many people who grew up with parents who cheated are likely to repeat the cycle. You may also want to know who they spend their time with because it also influences them.

2. Is your spouse good at compartmentalizing? – i.e have different characters at work, with family and with their partner. It is not a bad thing but it may also indicate sociopath behaviour. This isn’t to say that your spouse is a sociopath; however, you need to understand what mechanisms allow someone to have sex with their co-worker on a desk at the office, then sit with you at the dinner table and act as if everything is perfectly normal.

3. Do they exhibit enough guilt and genuine remorse for the affair? – Most cheaters will be remorseful but might not stop cheating, this is because they feel that it justifies a bad marriage.

4. Are you completely certain that the affair is over? – If your spouse remains in any contact with the other person then the affair isn’t over. They should sieze all communication even via social media. Your partner should be able to prove to you.

5. Is your relationship damaged beyond repair from this affair? – Sometimes its acceptable to take back a cheater and at other times it is not. You just have to weigh you options and see what you can deal with. But a partner who has a pattern of cheating is not someone who you would want to take back.