The late Janet Kanini’s hubby, George Ikua found himself in a defensive position when he reposted a popular quote about men and women falling in and out of love.
Ikua posted, “There’s girls that men take home and then there’s girls they make a home with
Girls that men make love to and there’s girls that make men love them
Some girls are a hurricane, some calm the storm
Some girls give everything, wind up with nothing at all
The kind of girl you are is the kind of man you get
One Facebooker, Kinyanjui Kibati criticised Ikua for posting the quote.
He wrote, “My elder brother, this post is shallow and sexist. I have never had cause to address you as such, but this one, some sexism couched with simple wisdom but ultimately bogus.”
Ikua explained, “Kinyanjui Kibati, interestingly Regan Rousseau who wrote this is a 23-year-old girl speaking about her dating experiences. And she added , ‘ Wrote this cause I needed to hear it…’ Does the sexist, shallow sentiments still apply? If not interesting how who said it changes the meaning….bring one to ask us the truth or do we paint shade based on the author?”
In a rejoinder, Kibati explained, “George Ikua of course you know I respect that. We are all the compound result of our experiences. She has articulated a view that encapsulates some positive wisdom. The positive wisdom, in my eyes, relates to the consequence of our actions. How that decision making leads to particular results.
It’s the couching that I take issue with. The foundational premise. For men. To be judged by men. You presented a flip of the script. How it could be like switching the sexes. But I don’t think that is the point. No sex or individual should be merely subject to the narrative of another.
I will concede that all of this is in my head. As a rigidly single 43-year-old man, I have come to believe that I could be incapable of understanding the nuance of human relationships that actually make things work. I am an outside observer and therefore can only make comments on intricacies I genuinely have no personal knowledge of. I will therefore not die on this hill.
Do you know how hard it is to live in a society that constantly blares out that women should seek a God fearing man when you are an atheist?”