Eight Signs They Are Playing With Your Mind

Few things are as frustrating as the mind games when it comes to dating. It’s hard to prove and hard to personally believe because we want to be exceptions to rules. Except we’re not because then the rule itself would just not exist.

Here’s how to tell the difference between your own issues and a partner’s deliberate, purposeful mindgames.

1. You’re reading this article – You wouldn’t be concerned about a man playing with your mind you if you didn’t think it was already happening, would you?

2. You’re always struggling to get the upper hand – Fun fact: The “upper hand” is nonsense. The only people who care about it are players, not people who are actually concerned with building a healthy foundation for a relationship to last. If you’re trying to figure out how to get the upper hand, you’ve already lost it.

3. You’re working hard to make him like you – What you should be focusing on is whether or not you like him. If you have to strive to prove yourself worthy to someone constantly, that’s too exhausting and impossible to keep up.

4. He insults you if you reject him – Seriously, if you’re only ever be called a whore by someone you never entertain anymore. Roll your eyes, keep your composure and move along. Don’t go down to their level.

5. He “forgets” to call or stands you up… You wait by the phone or at the bar, because you’re a decent person who has faith in humanity. He never calls and he never shows.

6 … But then he texts you a week later- You really don’t think he was testing the waters with another broad during that time? You’re smarter than this.

7. He insists you’ll never find anyone better-This is the clearest sign that you will. Because honestly, does it get much worse than this? 

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Kanye West : Marriage , games and cheating

If you are Kanye West, you will always be surrounded by women and that will be temptation enough for one to cheat, those are sentiments shared by Kanye’s step mum and sister.

Apparently he used the children’s game Connect 4 to judge someone’s intelligence.

Aliya Jones, who’s mother Brenda Bentley was engaged to Kanye father Ray, told Heat magazine that when you are Kanye West “there’s going to be some temptation to stray”.

His step-sis isn’t gloating though as she continued with compassion: “I pray for them both – it’s going to be a lot of work and it’s never going to end. The temptation is always going to be there, as long as he is Kanye West.”

Brenda, who has been close to Kanye since he was just nine, went on to say that it’s not just Kim’s incredible booty that keeps him interested – he also likes the fact she’s not an “airhead” *

And how does he know she’s not? “He has Connect 4 backstage and if a woman could play Connect 4 with him, and give him a run for his money, he’d be interested.

“So you have to have a brain to be with him , he wouldn’t tolerate anything less.”

Bridal shower : Games to play

When a friend is about to walk down the aisle, her bridal team, family and friends usually hold bridal shower.

In most cases it is usually organised in secret to surprise the bride.

Depending on how free the bride is, others might also bring strippers.

However there are a few simple games that you could play as you enjoy the party.

Paper dress – This is a fun game. Using a few weeks’ pieces of your local newspaper, your guests will make a funky wedding gown for the bride. Divide guests up into teams of three, and give them a supply of newspaper, scissors, tape and glitter. Assign each team a design of the wedding dress and let them ‘sew’ away. Then, dress the bride in all the fabulously inventive pieces and have her pose for a very humorous photo shoot, then let her decide the one she likes most. The winning team gets a present.

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Thread game – This is one of the best icebreakers and gives people an opportunity to know each other. As your guests arrive, give them thread/knitting wool and scissors and instruct them to cut off as much as they think they’ll need. Remember not to reveal anything when they ask what it’s for. As soon as everyone is seated go around the room and have each person talk about themselves for as long as it takes to wrap the piece of thread around a finger. The longer the string, the longer they talk—and the more you get to know your guests!

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Throw back/ Memory game – For this game when you send out each guest’s shower invitations, include a blank note card along with a request to write down his or her favorite memory of the bride, groom or the couple. When they arrive, have your guests drop their memories into a box. At the shower, read each memory out loud and ask the bride and/or groom to guess which guest wrote it. From childhood memories to milestone moments, each card reflects the personal bond that each guest has with the couple. And, at the end of the day, the bride has a stack of memories to keep.

The artists – Provide the guests with a paper, eraser, pencil and crayons. Let them draw a picture of the couple and then sign off. You will then give the bride the pictures to decide which one she likes the most. The winner gets a gift plus an autograph on the winning photo.

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Wedding night words – While the bride is opening her gifts, have a bridesmaid secretly write down everything that the bride-to-be says (make sure she doesn’t notice). Once all the gifts have been opened, gather everyone together and with your best bedroom voice—read aloud the “ooh’s” and “aah’s” and exclamations (e.g. “Wow! That’s tiny!”) that the bride said – it’s what the bride will be telling her groom on the wedding night!.

 

 

 

Durban to confirm bid for Commonwealth Games in 2022

South African city Durban will Monday move significantly closer to staging the 2022 Commonwealth Games — considered a possible launchpad for an Olympics bid.

A short ceremony in London is set to confirm the east coast city as the lone contender to stage the quadrennial, 71-nation multisport event.

The 600-page, 30-centimetre thick bid book will be handed to Commonwealth Games Federation officials during a brief mid-day ceremony at the official residence of the London Lord Mayor.

Bidding for the Commonwealth event is seen as a possible dress rehearsal for a 2024 or 2028 Olympics bid.

No African country has hosted either event.

South Africa have proposed a 12-day Commonwealth Games from July 18 — birthday of the late Nelson Mandela, the first democratically elected president of South Africa.

Canadian city Edmonton also wanted to play host to the 2022 Games, but withdrew due to financial constraints.

The cost of staging the Commonwealth Games is a sensitive issue in South Africa, where a quarter of the active population is jobless.

Millions of South Africans lack running water and electricity and believe money used to fund the Games should be spent on basic services instead.

National government, local government and sports officials are tight-lipped about costs, saying only that the figures will be revealed Monday.

“The 2022 Games will be affordable,” South African Olympic body boss Gideon Sam told reporters before flying to London.

“About 95 percent of the infrastructure is in place.”

Sam says an economic impact study predicts visitors to the Games would spend 12 billion rand ($1 billion/928 million euros).

There would also be revenue from ticket sales and shares of broadcast and sponsorship deals.

The Olympic supremo is excited about the likelihood of the Commonwealth Games coming to Africa.

“The time has come for Africa to host these Games. We have the infrastructure.”

Officials stress that the emphasis will be on upgrading existing facilities with only an athletes’ village and a shooting range to be built from scratch.

Another cost-cutter is that most of the venues will be within 2.5 kilometres (1.5 miles) of the main Moses Mabhida Stadium, a 2010 FIFA World Cup venue.

“If you look at Durban, the main stadium is in place, the swimming pool is in place, the athletics track is in place,” said Sam.

“We will follow the 2012 London Olympics lead and use exhibition centres for the indoor sports.”

– Top-Class Bid –

Durban bid committee chief executive Tubby Reddy warned, however, against assuming the deal was done ahead of a September 2 vote in Auckland to decide the 2022 hosts.

“Officials are not voting over one or other city now,” he told reporters, “they are voting over the quality of the bid we are presenting.

“We are not facing rival bids — we are competing against ourselves. I believe we have a top-class bid.”

South Africa has successfully hosted the football, rugby union and cricket World Cup tournaments, and there has been much media speculation about an Olympics bid.

Reddy cautioned against linking the Commonwealth Games and the Olympic Games.

“The Olympics is a completely different ball game when it comes to costs.

“To give one example: a Commonwealth Games gymnastics venue requires 5,000 seats, but you need 15,000 for an Olympics.”

Glasgow hosted the 2014 Commonwealth Games and the 2018 edition is scheduled for the Australian Gold Coast.

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