‘I’d gotten used to disappointments’ Gabrielle Union on years of infertility

Gabrielle Union recently opened on the challenges women battling infertility deal with herself included.

The mother of one has had 9 miscarriages and several failed IVF attempts.

According to Gabriel, not being a mother should not be a measure of a woman’s worth. Adding that events such as Mother’s day only increases pain for ‘childless’ women.

The actress who was on a promotional tour for her latest series L.A.’S finest says

I think for a lot of people who have been on a fertility journey, Mother’s Day brings so much pain.

It just feels like a sick joke, of all of your, “I’m using my finger quotes here,” “failures” as a woman. 

‘And when people are like, ‘You’re not complete until you become a mom,” and you’re like, “D***, do I have any worth?” So Mother’s Day just brings all of that up.

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Gabrielle Union with her husband and daughter.
Gabrielle Union with her husband and daughter.

Gabriel adds

So trying to keep that in mind, you know at 46, celebrating my first Mother’s Day, my family were like, “Well, You’ve been celebrating Mother’s Day with the boys as a step mother!”

I was like, “But there is no Step Mother’s Day. You gotta stay in your lane.”‘

‘Ya, I’m doing the work, I’m in the trenches but it’s not my day.

With Kaav, it felt like this is a day that I’m okay to celebrate loud and proud and stand out front. But I also tried not to lose sight of .

For a lot of people it’s a very painful day.

On mothers day Gabrielle shared a post on how she had gotten used to heartbreak and disappointments before her daughter was born.

I’ve cried so many times today for so many reasons, mainly because I’d gotten accustomed to heartbreak and disappointment. I think alot of us live in that space.

I set up shop there. This moment reminded me that miracles do happen. You cant age out of joy. You are worthy. You are worthy.

You are worthy. Sending so much love today to all the mamas, stepmamas, grandmas, aunties real and play, daddies, friends and anyone who has taken the time to nurture another living soul.

I see you, I gotchu. And to those who have lost their mamas, grandmas, mother figures, sending extra love and light and hugs your way. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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Being Mary Jane Actress Gabrielle Union reveals infertility struggles and miscarrying 8 to 9 times

Being  Mary Jane actress Gabrielle Union has opened up about her first marriage and why her marriage to chris Howard failed in a new book dubbed ‘We’re going to need more wine’.

The 44-year-old actress also reveals her infertility struggles saying she has miscarried 8 to 9 times with husband and basketball star Dwayne Wade.

Gabrielle Union reveals she saw the writing on the wall that her marriage to Chris Howard was doomed, even during the proposal.

The actress writes in her new book ‘We’re Going To Need More Wine‘ that the former Jacksonville Jaguars player proposed with a ring in one hand while eating KFC in the other.

The wedding was rocky too, with hungover bridesmaids, groomsmen jokingly objecting mid-ceremony and the pastor mispronouncing the A-lister’s name.

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She admits these were some of the many ‘red flags’ that occurred during their 2001 nuptials, and claims it was a clue they were headed for a ‘crash and burn’ marriage.

The couple split in 2005 and the financial blow inspired Gabrielle to make sure she had a prenup for her marriage to Dwayne Wade, a Chicago Bulls shooting guard, in 2014.

Gabrielle also opened up about her ‘eight or nine’ heart-breaking miscarriages and her struggle to conceive, despite several rounds of IVF treatment, with the NBA star.

Before Gabrielle and Chris’ wedding day, the actress revealed the football player’s proposal was ‘the first of a list of many ignored red flags’.

She wrote: ‘I spent the whole day at the spa and when I got back to his house, there was a rose petal path from the front door to the bedroom.

‘At the end was Chris, down on one knee. He had a bucket of KFC on the floor, and he was eating KFC potato wedges with one hand while holding a ring in the other.’

Gabrielle also dished it was less than 24 hours after the somewhat romantic proposal when she discovered a message on Chris’ computer that hinted at an affair.

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Still, she took her fiancé back and the two were married during Jazz Fest in New Orleans, meaning that most of her bridesmaids were hungover when they showed up to the ceremony.

But the situation was worse on the groom’s side, with one of his groomsmen showing up to the wedding fresh out of jail.

As the bridesmaids and groomsmen walked down the aisle, fear set in for Gabrielle.

She wrote in her candid memoir: ‘But once they all walked, it was just me, myself and my anxiety, standing at the beginning of an aisle that now seemed a country mile long.’

Her father saw she was tearing up, but not out of joy. He felt the need to give her a pep talk like she was a high school football player to get her down the aisle.

Gabrielle asked friend and West Wing actor Dulé Hill to do a reading at her wedding, but he could tell she was making a huge mistake.

She wrote: ‘Dulé thought this marriage was a terrible mistake, so as he read from 1 Corinthians, he kept sighing dramatically, pausing to look at me like “Are you getting this?”‘

When the minister asked if anyone objected to their union, Gabrielle was certain she was being left at the altar as Chris stepped down towards his groomsmen.

She remembers the moment in slow motion and feared he realized she cheated on him and was backing out of the marriage in the most embarrassing and dramatic way possible.

She recalls: ‘Chris leaned in with his groomsmen, taking a huddle. They stamped their feet in unison, all turning back to me with a football chant of “We do!'”

The bride was relieved it was a joke, but looking back it feels darkly ironic.

However, that wasn’t the end of the cringeworthy moments at the Howard-Union wedding. The minister mispronounced Gabrielle’s name calling her Gabriel, like the Biblical angel.

Because Gabrielle felt awkward correcting the minister, when reading her vows she mispronounced her name as well.

The marriage fit the disastrous ceremony, with Gabrielle suspecting her husband was continually cheating on her.

One day she found a phone number for a woman named Angelina in a pile of laundry. The actress knew he was sleeping around but was enraged when she found this ‘proof.’

She screamed at Chris saying: ‘You think you’re gonna call this b****? YOU THINK YOU’RE GONNA CALL THIS B****?’

It turned out, the number was from a soul food restaurant Gabrielle had asked him to find the name of.

Another cheating scandal would lead to the end of Chris and Gabrielle’s marriage. One of the women he allegedly slept with, ‘Cameron Camera’, threatened to sell photos proving he was a philanderer to tabloids.

She writes: ‘I never wanted children before Dwayne. Dwayne wanted children with me a long time before I was fully on board.

‘For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant – either about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.

‘This child we want to have has been loved even as an idea. So we remain here, bursting with love and ready to do anything to meet the child we’ve both dreamed of.’

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