Being an active father in a child’s life is very important. While providing for your child is important, spending time with your children is also very crucial. Gone should be the days where men would either work all the time and during their free time they are enjoying beer with their friends all along ignoring an active role in the family because they are bringing home the bacon.
A father may choose to engage in activities such as joining a sport with his son or daughter, making routine lunch dates where he and the child just get to talk and share, volunteering or finding a hobby that he and the child can participate in.
According to research published in Fatherneed: Why Father Care Is As Essential As Mother Care for Your Child, one of the most critical stages a father plays in a child’s life is between the age 11/2 – 31/2 years old. Why is it prudent that a father plays an active role in his child’s upbringing?
1. Children with active fathers have less behavioral problems such as substance abuse, mood swings, emotional problems. Whether the father lives at home or he visits and is involved in the child’s life, he will have less problems as compared to a child with no active father.
2. According to Swedish researchers regular positive contact with a father reduces criminal behaviour especially among low-income families.
3. An active father also enhances cognitive skills such as intelligence, language development and reasoning.
4. According to Dr. Anna Sarkadi from the Department of Women’s and Children’s Health at Uppsala University, Sweden children who have positively involved fathers achieved better levels of education and develop good friendships with children of both sexes.
5. A child with an involved father has also been described as having a higher self esteem, self control, social competence and also empathy.
6. Children with involved fathers learn the importance of positive parenting first hand and will more often than not be there for their own families.
7. A child whose father is involved in his/her school activities is said to be at a lower risk of dropping out and will most often perform well.
8. An involved father also eases the burden of parenting from a mom. If it is a boy who is afraid to question his mum regarding changes going on in his body he can always run to the father instead of getting advice from his peers.