People are sharing fond memories of how African parents apologize

Lets take you down memory lane

African parents don’t know how to apologize when wrong, so they will do things fir you in what they believe is an apology.

The closest to an apology is asking you “have you eaten?”

The internet is now sharing their fondest memories of how African parents apologize.

Can you relate?

You can sleep whatever time you but just reduce the volume a bit

Go and buy bread change niyako

So ati you are upset🥺
I have cooked chicken
Come and eat🤭

Here is your pocket money

Come and check if these clothes are your size

Bring my wallet 🧐

Come and get your food

I cooked your favourite

I bought you those things you asked for

How much did you say you wanted for the school trip?

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Only a mad woman would leave her children behind

Ladie, would you consider leaving your child/ren with your man instead of fighting him endlessly for upkeep?

Many women called Maina Kageni Wednesday March 2 to say they would never. That the children go with them and she will find a way to care for them without the mans help.

Maina Kageni wanted to know from ladies if they would ever consider such a move, as Kingangi encouraged the women saying men are ready for the responsibility.

‘they are reluctant to give you child support so umuachie watoto wewe uende. Which woman in her right mind would allow her children to be raised by another woman? think of your children right now ladies,’ Maina pleaded

a woman called the studio saying a woman should never ever leave her kids behind, ‘he doesn’t want to hear anythignt o do witht hem. Siwezi achia manaume watoto, these men let me tell you Maina, I have a nine year old, kuwachia mwanaume mtoto is not a good idea’

Ndio maana with such a mind huwezi achia baba mtoto… Most women know what they’re capable of doing!! #MainaAndKingangi

@Lucypau43921191·8mReplying to @jairus_nyakagwa @fredric71756099 and 47 othersAm with her 💯% siezi kuachia watoto #MainaAndKingangi

@Essiegachege·[email protected] leaving your kids back for your hubby is like leaving your peace 🕊️ back they ,,we women kids are our proud #MainaAndKingangi @Classic105Kenya

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Ways wives can deal with his baby mama

Wife must learn to deal with mother of husband’s child

You are having the most careering and wonderful guy you have always dreamed of having, Things are pretty good between you and you might have been married to him, then what for sure could make this split/ Yes, I get it, her baby mama. His baby mama will not leave, the only best thing to do is to learn to deal with her. follow these few steps to help you deal with your husband’s baby mama.

  1. Try to see good in her

You could find a good therapist to help you break down your anger issues, while committing yourself fully to the responsibility of taking care of her child as your own child. Talk to her and convince her to understand that you will never try to interfere with the relationship they have with your husband nor take her place as his ex and baby mama.

  • Know your role

You should know that her children do not need another mother, maybe you do not have children of your own and slipping into this role could be daring. Acting as their mother will only bring quarrels as their mother would conclude that it is a competition or you want to take over her children and their father fully.

  • Have your own relationship with her

A man having two women in his life finds it hard to deal with both of them, it is not an easy situation for anyone to deal with. Focus on developing a relationship with your husband’s baby mama. Try to always approach her in the coolest manner you could. If she knows she can get under your skin she will do it with no doubt, but do not bring your husband into your issues because that will jeopardize your relationship.

  • Just accept the fact that she is part of your life forever

No matter what you try to do or say to hurt her, he won’t get rid of her, they share a child together and that means that the two of them will remain together and share responsibilities till the child is an adult. If she proves to be a nightmare, avoid getting in her way coz she is there to stay.

  • Talk to your man and let him know how you feel

This does not mean you should involve him in your issues with his baby mama, deal with her alone unless it gets out of hand. Make your husband know how you feel and let him handle it how he sees fit. Your feelings are important. Just because you are not the one with the child or first child does not mean you do not have some say in how the situation is handled.

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5 inspiring ways to make yourself the best sibling

Make yourself the best sibling

 Being a good sister or brother can make a huge difference in your family. Though parents act as good role models there is always that relationship between siblings that is always a key aspect of developing into a responsible and also successful person in this world. Does not matter whether you are the eldest or the smallest what matters is what good examples do you say to the rest of them.

You could start by being responsible – it is important for everyone to learn how to be responsible. It is not right to be lazy around the house always leaving all the house chores to the house help, if you have one… do good in school and emerge the best though stay humble about your grades. This would set a good example to your siblings.

Use the correct words while talking – remember if you start acting well and loved by both parents your other siblings will want to follow in your footsteps to also get their parent’s attention. Don’t fight over the attention, as the most responsible, you should know how to deal with it.

Avoid violence at all-time – siblings sometimes fight over silly issues, taking the responsibility of creating peace all the time to avoid conflicts draws you towards being the sibling of the year. Not only towards your siblings should you avoid violence but to any other person. Kids that learn about being violent from their siblings might turn up to the violent lifestyle.

Keep the respect going – this is important. Stay respectful to your parents and any other person out there even to your younger siblings. This would help a lot especially if it is coming from someone that they respect so much. Respect will become a lifelong habit.

Talk through any issues – issues are bound to arise and when they do, give your siblings a chance to speak up, listen carefully, be calm and remember to respect any decisions they make.

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I would be a mum of 6, but I had 4 miscarriages’ Pinky Ghelani

Media Personality was the guest on Sundays episode of Churchill show My Journey edition January 22nd.

‘This weekend I sit down with him on his show on @ntvkenya and we discuss so much but more than anything the Agnes Tirop Conference, women empowering women amongst a few more passion points.’

Pinky opened up about her family life, describing to Churchill how she had difficult pregnancies that sadly resulted in 4 miscarriages.

She gushed about how her daughter has the same personality as her and her son too. ‘They are growing up so fast. They are wise I learn from them. I would be a mum of six, I had four miscarriages. It was very heartbreaking because the loss of a child in any stage of life is a loss and I had to grieve.’

She also added that while she would want more children, there is the issue of age.

She told Churchill that she is done ‘I’m gonna be 46 in February so I don’t think I want any more babies, it’s a good idea but I can have children other ways’

Pinky also spoke about the Gender work she is so motivated about adding ‘I’m focused on empowering women and girls’ plus the projects she is looking forward to in 2022.

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Betty Bayo and husband Tashs’ family getaway with their children in Sagana

Kikuyu gospel singer Betty Bayo and her husband Tash took their two children for camping and one of the goals was to overcome their fear of heights by ziplining.

Betty shared pictures of the family getaway happily captioning it ‘today @jangwanicamp with fameree..nkama leo Tulala kwa tent

Betty gave her fans a glimpse of the rooms and surroundings ‘huku kunazipline so gusy are you ready it’s a tent omg it’s so cool so we gonna be spending here imagine with that sound of the water, you can see the view’

The camping was at Jangwani, a family retreat in Sagana Muranga that is very popular with Kenyans.

Some of the activities Betty and her family enjoyed was zip lining, and she showed us how brave her daughter Sky was to attempt the activity.

A proud Sky told her mother that ‘ I have overcome my fear of heights’ to which Betty congratulated her, telling her of her pride.

Sky looked at her mother saying ‘I’ve conquered my fears daughter sky says , I was afraid of heights and now I’m not afraid of heights, omg I want to go again it’s super fun’

Betty shared the video of the cute moment saying ‘wow’

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Father of three Usain Bolt will not have anymore children

Saint Leo and Thunder and Olympia Bolt will not be getting anymore siblings.

Olympian Usain Bolt has told the Daily Mail in an interview that he is done having children.

Usain has three children and says its a full house. He is done. He has Olympia Lightning, one, and six-month old twins Thunder and Saint Leo.

He said: ‘That’s me, I’m finished – I don’t want any more now. Being a dad keeps me busy, but I wouldn’t say fit. It keeps me busy and my hands are always full. Having twins is not as fun as people say! I think when they get older but when they’re young, not so much. I’m looking forward to seeing them grow up. I had my first child in lockdown it was good because I spent a lot of quality time and helping out and it was my first experience of being a dad so that was cool.’

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7 sacrifices every man must be willing to make to keep his family happy

To start a family and keep it happy men need to make some genuine sacrifices for the greater good. Here are the ten sacrifices a man must make to keep his family happy:

1. Change of lifestyle
It should come as no surprise that your lifestyle will change drastically after marriage. From staying out late at night, to going away on long weekends, things change when you start a family. You will also have to take care of  your health especially things like smoking, because you need to be there longer for your kids.

2. Practice tough love
It’s much tougher raising kids in this day and age, unlike our parents who didn’t have to worry about the digital age. A man must play this role especially for teenage children who are easily influenced by the outside world.

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3. Putting in time and werk
Time is probably the most important thing all men have to make to keep their families happy. Taking time off from your regular schedule to attend school functions, or even something as simple as taking your son to a football game. A father who doesn’t spedn time with his children willl never be able to recover lost time, once the children are all grown and have moved on with their lives.
4. Providing just like in the old times
Money or lack of it affects many marriages. A man may need to stop spending on some unnecessary things to now include his family’s new needs.

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5. Giving up the dream job
Sometimes some men expect their families to always be ready to pack their bags as he chases his dream job wherever it may be. Children need to stay in a stable environment to be productive.

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6. Putting your hobbies on hold
It starts with simple things like giving up use of the TV to kids to watch cartoons, to maybe using a matatu so that the wife uses the family car to do some hopping.

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7. Learning to let go
As a father you taught your son to ride his first bike, but now he as a grown up and is moving on, ca you learn to let him go? Other fathers have this need to hold on to their daughters, and watching her now dating and moving on with her man can be heartbreaking. Learning to let go is a sacrifice a man has to do.

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Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis admit they don’t bath regularly


American actors Ashton Kutcher and his wife Mila Kunis are trending after confessing about their bathing habits which include washing only the armpits and privates.

The couple disclosed this information in a podcast with Dax Shepard and Monica Padman for the “Armchair Expert” podcast.

The two said they don’t believe in bathing their kids Wyatt Isabelle, 6, and Dimitri Portwood, 4 with soap every day.

One of the hosts advised about not using soap because it strips the body of essential oils and the actors agreed.

“I can’t believe I am in the minority here of washing my whole body in the shower. Who taught you to not wash?” Padman asked, before Kunis said: “I didn’t have hot water growing up as a child, so I didn’t shower much anyway.”

“But when I had children, I also didn’t wash them every day,” Kunis went on. “I wasn’t the parent that bathed my newborns, ever.”

Kutcher added, “Now, here’s the thing: If you can see the dirt on them, clean them. Otherwise, there’s no point.”

Kunis and Kutcher then said they didn’t use soap on their entire bodies every day, with Kutcher admitting: “I wash my armpits and my cr*tch daily, and nothing else ever. I got a bar of Lever 2000 that delivers every time. Nothing else.”

Despite not washing their whole bodies every day, they do wash their faces.

“I do have a tendency to throw some water on my face after a workout to get all the salts out,” Kutcher said, as Kunis added: “I wash my face twice a day.

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Annoying to strict! Types of people to expect at your family reunions


With schools closing for the year, we expect to see lots of families have gatherings to catch up.

Of course remember to adhere to Government guidelines on social distancing please.

So while catching up with your relas, expect to encounter these types of people:

  1. The cousin who loves to pray and is always holier than thou
  2. The utao lini aunty
  3. The rich uncle sipping expensive alcohol alone outsideblackfamily
  4. The gossipy and salty auntie
  5. The fussy new mum experiencing motherhood
  6. The competitive in law who thinks you don’t work hard enough

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My dad steals family pictures on Facebook to pretend he spends time with us


A son is caught between his feuding divorced parents and all over pictures the deadbeat man takes from Facebook and re-shares to show his friends that he is taking care of his kids.

Instead of asking for pictures or taking his own, the deadbeat dad heads to Facebook and downloads the pictures his ex takes of their kids, to show the world he is active in his kids life.

The son told his story and people are weighing in on the situation with their own experiences with bad parenting.

“My dad be stealing photos from my moms FB. I haven’t spent time with this man like since I was 8 and I haven’t seen him in person since i was about 13. Out here faking” He laughed

Propel weighed in with their own comments that show co parenting is not easy, but doable if the tow aggrieved sit and talk.

lmao he’s asking for pics to show his own mother/girlfriend/friends etc to make it seem like he’s involved in his kids’ life when he isn’t.

For people complaining. A present father would have his own pictures of his own kid.

That part. My ex used to sit in a cubicle that had pictures of my son, wall to wall. That he did not take. Because he was being a selfish di*khole 24/7, not to mention a drunk. So he couldn’t take pictures on his own. Fingers probably too shaky.

It is to some women with absent baby daddies who try and use the child he doesn’t take care of online for clout and sympathy.

Facts but a mom that wont let a father that wants to be there, see his son cant take the pictures
if that wasnt the case he wouldn’t even ask to see his son in the first place.

The tweet is one thing. The actual tiktok is another. She said he can spend time with the kid whenever he wants. He chooses to ask for pics instead so he can post them online and pretend he sees his kid in person.

The word “see” has multiple meanings.

My brother thought a good dad put pics of his kid on social media and looked at them often. But the pics with both of them in them were from 7 yrs ago and he never saw the kid. So… I love this watermark idea.

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Twins didn’t approve their dads clean shave and cried their hearts out


Dear dads, don’t do anything too drastic to change your looks, because your baby could react like these twins who were upset dad had shaved off his hair and was now bald.

A tiktok video captured hearts after a man shared how his twin babies cried so hard after seeing him with a clean shaven head. The almost unrecognizable man tried to pick up one of the boys, but a protective brother would not let his twin be picked up.

In the video, the father is seated facing his baby boys, who curiously look at him. He speaks to them before one realizes its their dad, minus his usual hair. He starts crying and the other twin joins in.

The father attempts to pick one twin to comfort him, but the other blocks his move to protect his brother.

Aww how cute!

Watch the hilarious moment below, and dad’s please this is serious.

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5 Reasons why first impressions matter when going to see your in-laws

Maybe you have for a long time avoided meeting up with your fiancee’s family. Well truth is, first impressions can make or break a relationship.

All we are trying to say is that there is better reason to impress them now before you know, they finally become future in laws.

This is the first time they are meeting the guy or the lady they may be dealing with for decades. It’s a big moment

There are reasons why first impressions matter.

We have highlighted why this is the case,

1. Show of commitment

Most of the times when they get to see your partner, it’s a sign that you want to commit to their child.

That is a sign that they will be seeing you for a long while, if not forever.

This improves the relationship that you may be trying to build with your in laws and this first step is very important.


2. It is a judge of character

Most the times, when the in laws are meeting you for the first time, they simply want to know who you are.

Questions here and there from them may deduce the kind of person that you are.

Well in laws may tend to push buttons once in  a while, but basically all they want is to get to know you better.

3. In laws influence your partner

Now this is the part I would want to insist on.

Making good relationships with your in-laws is very important.

This is because , no matter how connected you are to your partner, they may have an upper hand in influencing them.

This however should not keep you off balance from making that decision to see them, creating that good connection and balance between the two of you could go a long way.



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4. They will be around you

Planning forever with your partner means planning forever with the family as well.

This only means that they will be around you for as much time as possible.

Through out the meeting stages, it is important to create a good rapport with them because this not only means a relationship with your partner,  it means a future relationship with their whole family.

Thus you need to have a good relationship with them before that life time.

in laws

5. You just genuinely want them to like you

Is this not everyone’s hope?

To just be liked and loved by the family of the person you want to spend forever with ?

On that first meeting above everything, all we want is to make that first connection that will last.




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Wife blasts husband for allowing his mother to sit in the front seat


Does this ever happen in Kenya? Like for real?

Who should sit in front;  the mother in law or the wife?

As a man, the worst person to have in the front seat of a car is your mother, according to arguments going viral on Twitter regarding this topic.

The video below has elicited 78k views and equal responses.

Based on what I see in this video, it shows that mom and wife have unresolved issues that the husband is yet to properly address. So the argument about the front seat was  just the tipping point. Have a look below.


The video and the following argument divided the internet, as some sided with the mother while others said the wife was right. Here are comments:


It’s really not that deep. It’s his mom. She was there first in his life and in the car, so go sit in the back seat.

My wife will never sit in the backseat of a car she pays for and my mom would never raise this issue.

Bro .. my wife woulda been DUBBED AND SINGLE if she EVER acts this way with the Woman that birthed and raised me … no questions asked no answers needed

As someone who was married to a mommas boy, I understand. Wholeheartedly. And every man in the comment section saying “mom comes first” is exactly why I would never get married again.

Wifey gets the front seat. The mom is being divisive and not being considerate. Mom should know her place.

Mom gotta get to the back seat.. Matter fact.. Leave mom on the side walk. This is my wife, my queen. She gets first dibs with me. No way around it. If mom got a problem she can kick rocks. Never ever have your wife looking crazy in public or private.

My mom would respect the union and would have gotten in the backseat. I have sons and would respect my son’s wives and move to the backseat. The mother is pulling a power move to show the wife her position which she shouldn’t have to do. I blame the son

THE MOTHER HAS NO RESPECT !!! As a proper mother, you will sit in the back! No questions asked ! As a man You go and take a woman out of her house and build a new home and family. We get you love your mother and respect her but your wife comes first from the time of ” YES, I DO”

Clearly it’s more than just the backseat and you can tell. His mom had probably been running her mad knowing her son will listen to anything she says. It’s definitely more that just a seat in a car. And honestly it’s her car. The mother knows what she’s doing and I can’t stand it

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14 slang words every mum in her 40’s/50’s needs to know

Do you ever sit near teens and listen to their stories and not have an idea what they are talking about? I mean they could be planning a take over and have fun knowing you have no clue.

 Most teens are able to hold secret conversations because parents have no idea what they’re talking about.

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It’s important to educate yourself about common teen slang so you can be aware of the conversations your teen is having both online and in-person.

So dead mum’s in your 40’s and 50’s, here are slang words used by your teens and others that you need to know.

Shawwry: This means young girl. Perhaps you have heard your teen son use the word shawty/shawrry and have been wondering why he sounds like he is slurrying? He is referring to his main girl or potential interest.

Snatched – Looks good

Lit – Amazing

GOAT – Greatest of all time

Salty – Bitter

TBH – To be honest

Thirsty – Trying to get attention

Bruh – Same as “bro”

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Curve – Romantic rejection

Hater or h8er – Someone who hates everything, even their friends

Chillaxin – Chillin’ and relaxing.

Throw Shade – Give someone a dirty look

Smash – Casual s3x

Turnt Up – To be high or drunk

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How lack of a father figure affects a man’s future relationship

Having someone to call dad is great but having a father who is always there at every step of the way is priceless. With a world full of deadbeat dads, having one who’s there for you through thick and thin is something you can’t take for granted. Fathers shape boys into men and leave a flame they can always keep alive. But what happens when a man lacks a father figure in his life:

1. Behavioral Problems

Men who lack father figures generally have an intimidating persona. This behavior is as a result of an attempt to hide their fears and unhappiness. Most of time it manifests itself as bullying. Fathers play a pivotal role in shaping the masculinity abilities of a man and when this can’t happens most men have low self esteem and have a way to cover it up. This could involve with them turning violent at the slightest provocation.

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2. Drug abuse

This is something men without fathers easily pick up. Using drugs helps numb the pain of having to deal with no father in their lives.


It’s an easy escape route but leads to fatal problems like suicide. Women can’t take up the role of a father and for men in families where the father is absent, find it hard taking up masculine duties. In return, these men drown into alcoholism and drug abuse as they have try to vent their frustrations.

3. Future romantic relationship

How a man was raised has a lot to do with the way they handle their future romantic relationships. A man who hasn’t witnessed a wife-husband relationship finds it hard to navigate through the mucky waters of a marriage setup.

romantic gesture

They tend to overstep their grounds by bulldozing things they feel are rightfully theirs, for example se3, been cooked for and having their laundry done. It gets hard to reason out things with them as they feel they are the ones who should provide the rules of the house. This relationship ends up turning toxic and emotionally draining.

4. Violence

violent man

A child who has a father who disapproved crime acted as a crucial social control which helped counter negative influences for example peer crime. In a space where men felt being loved and approved, it proved enough to deter them from crime. Men with no fathers to look up to easily fell into crime as they had no one to guide them on being a responsible law abiding man.

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5. Poor academic performance

Male children from families with no father figure, shown a decline in their overall school performance. This was a result of higher rates of depression and negative feelings.


Truancy was also witnessed among these children with some been expelled from school. Having low academic performance affected the how their adult life would turn out to be. It dictated their self esteem, dependence on government aid, job prospects, income and poverty levels.

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My husband forbids me from talking to my in laws after fighting


When your husband or wife has an argument with their sibling, should you also have been with them too?

It’s normal for siblings to fight, and move on after an argument.

But one woman presented to Maina Kageni her very special and frustrating family situation.

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The woman spoke of the troubles she faces because her situation ‘is very silly’.

Her husband has a habit of fighting with his brother, and after, warns her not to talk to her sister in law and children.

Frustrating right? It’s worse because they live in the same compound, and life is unbearable.

When they argue he tells me that if I talk to my sister in law I will see. He tells me to even tell my nieces and nephews not to come to our house.

Yet we live in the same compound in ushago, so even my brother in laws wife has been warned not to talk to me also.

She gets so upset with me when the brothers fight and the worst thing is that our husbands usually quietly makeup and don’t tell us.

We only get to see them talking with each other. Can you imagine after they have told us not to talk to each other?

They fight in the bar and tell us not to talk to each other, I even have to tell my kids not to talk to their cousins because daddy said so, then when the men make up they don’t tell us we just see them with each other, it is so hard

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8 things a dad should write in a letter to his daughter


If I had a daughter this is what I would tell her.

And to other dads or dads to be feel free to borrow from me.

1. Express your love for your daughter

A daughter can never have enough reassurance of love from dad. Recently after Kobe Bryants death, a hashtag about #girldad went viral. Many dads shared images of them with their daughters, and sweet captions. I can assure you nothing makes a daughter feel more reassured and appreciated that this love.
Here’s a piece I wrote that you can borrow.

2. Reassure her that you believe in her
That she can do all that she dreams of, and she can work hard and above all you trust her.

3. Tell her that you think she’s beautiful
Owing to self esteem and insecurity issues, girls face today, a father must assure his daughter that she is beautiful both inside and outside. Tell her just like her mother, she really is going to be just as beautiful as you say she is.

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4. Assure her that she makes your heart burst with pride

If she makes you proud dad, tell her in all ways. for instance she could have helped her mother aroudn the house and youtell her so many words. basically affirm th compassion, it makes my heart burst with pride.

5. Tell her about how you cried tears the day she was born
A father holding his child for the first time feels so many good emotions. Tell her you haven’t stopped remembering the day she was born, and she was the most beautiful baby ever.

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6. Tell her about not settling for less
So many girls in this day and age settle for second best, and only later in life do they say how much time they have wasted.

As a dad your role is to tell her in words that “Don’t ever settle for second best.”

7. Tell her in words to treat her body with respect

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8. Lastly remind her that she can always come to you when she needs help

This reminds me of the time when Jacque Maribe was in jail and her dad was her number one supporter, always hugging her and holding her cheeks assuring her all will be well. He won hearts by Kenyans impressed how he was there for his daughter no matter what.

Children fear their fathers when something goes wrong in life, and would not approach them.

In the letter tell you daughter that she can always come to you no matter what and that you will figure things out together.

Also add that whatever she has done will never stop loving her.


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