Fighting (non physical) is part of every healthy relationship. Disagreements and arguments every once in a while are not unusual but can become problematic if the parties involved don’t know how to fight fair.
It is possible to fight and still maintain peace within the relationship. Here’s how;
1 Be defenceless – Instead of fighting your partner and raising your voice against each other. When both of you are angry it’s best for at least one of you to keep calm. It will allow for rational thinking as opposed to having two petrol bombs together because the explosion will be massive.
2. Listen when your partner is upset – It will help have a clear understanding as to why your partner is angry. Talking back as they explain why they are pissed will only make things worse and there will be no communication. Listening allows you to be rational and will also create an environment where the angry partner will feel like they matter.
3. Take responsibility for the offence and apologise – Accept your fault and apologise then move forward. It will simplify things and avoid the back and forth blame game. However explain why the issue arose and why you reacted the way you did for purposes of clarity.
4. Stand together and attack the misunderstanding – Instead of fighting each other, deal with the issue at hand. Attacking each other will not help make things easy for anyone.