Kissing is a part of intimacy for many people, whether in relationships or in casual arrangements. For many people it is considered a deep part of connection and even science has backed that up.
You can be judged by how good or bad you kiss. Here are more interesting facts about kissing.
Bad kissing can end a relationship –University of Albany psychologist Gordon Gallup surveyed 58 men and 122 women, asking them the question “Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone, only to discover after kissing them for the first time that you were no longer interested?” In total, 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women answered “yes.” This may have to do with technique, but the chemical information exchanged could also play a role.
Less is more for women – The same study that found that women put a premium on oral attractiveness also found that men are more likely to prefer wetter kisses with tongue. This means, if you want to please your lady, you’re probably better off keeping things more tight-lipped. For women looking to improve, men said they also liked it when their partner initiated tongue action and made moaning noises.
Don’t skip to sex – One last piece of advice from that 2007 research: Women want to kiss before sex. While 52 percent of men in this study said they would skip kissing and go straight to sex, around 85 percent of women wanted to kiss a romantic partner before jumping into bed with him. In general, women rated kissing as more important than men, and the value they gave it remained consistent, even as relationships continued.
Kissing leads to long-lasting relationships– A paper published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior makes it clear that kissing — whether innate to our species or not — is meaningful to those of us whose cultures do it. There were two surveys in this research. The first had 335 respondents and found that the longer people engaged in post-sex affections, like kissing and cuddling, the higher their sexual satisfaction. This also resulted in higher overall relationship satisfaction. In the second survey (of 101 people), the respondents reported daily post-sex affections and satisfaction. Researchers found that the link between post-sex affection and both sexual and relationship satisfaction held in these detailed accounts. They also found that longer and more high-quality sessions of affection during the study period predicted higher satisfaction three months later.
Reasons for kissing – If you think about kissing as objectively as possible, it becomes weird very fast. In particular, the more intricate forms of kissing (like French kissing) can seem like it does little more than swap germs. So why do we do it? One of the most common theories is that mouth-to-mouth touching helps transfer information about physical health between partners. Our saliva carries all kinds of chemical information, and exchanging this directly might help us subconsciously evaluate each other to see if we are a good match for future mating. Kissing can also release many hormones that help us feel good, bond with our partner, and leave us wanting more.