Mulamwah announced his break-up with his girlfriend Carol last week. His message to her was a sob story that reminded me slightly of Eric Omondi’s own message to Chantelle Graziano after they broke up.
Mulamwah’s and Eric’s messages each read like love letters from men who weren’t comfortable with their respective relationships ending.
Compare some snippets from their respective break-up letters below.
Eric Omondi’s is below:
I have known you for 4 and a half years, shared and created some of the best moments in life with you. You changed my life completely. As you move into your new phase in life with or without me, I want to wish you all the best, my love.
I pray to God Almighty that He may keep you. May He lead you. May He watch over you. I want to let you know that I will always be here for you any time, every time. As you fly away my love may you glow, shine like an Angel that you are. I will miss you every moment. Every single moment you are the best thing that happened to me!!!
And Mulamwah below:
Dear SONIE , 💔 I always wished to have a cute girl but God gave me an exquisite one , more than I had asked for . It has been real , the love … the fun and everything else we did together. I can’t recall all but honestly it has been the best time of my life . I always carried you on my shoulders ; I don’t know what you saw ahead 🥺 while was too preoccupied making sure that you remain at the top . I always believed that when you elevate your woman she will stand in for you when you are at your worst , and for many others in society too. That’s all I ever wished and still wish for you , the very best in life , and in all aspects.
As one can see both messages express an unrequited yearning and a feeling of adoration by both men for the women who aren’t together with anymore.
Although I do believe break-ups should be amicable, the way both Eric and Mulamwah do theirs is very odd for me. Their messages to me express a pedestalization of the women that they were in relationships with.
One famous relationship quote I love goes as such, “Treat her like a celeb and she will treat you like a fan”. I think this is what might have happened in the two respective relationships.
Does it make sense that these men are still praising and worshipping women who clearly didn’t want to stay in relationships with them? Is that normal? I don’t think so. I see it as an unattractive behaviour that ultimately hurt both their relationships.
A woman respects a man who wants her in his life and doesn’t need her. This distinction is important in that it shows that she made a great choice in her mate selection-A man that can lead her.
But what do I know?
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