Former media practitioner Eddy Kimani has talked in detail about why he cheated on his wife and the repercussion it has had on their marriage so far.
Speaking exclusively during an interview heard by Classic 105, Eddie says he is to blame for all the marital problems.
“When the video of my journey came out on ‘Engage’ most people assumed that my marriage had completely fallen apart but that is not the case.
It was falling apart but I have made efforts and we are still together.
I was working in Nakuru after I decided to take up a job so that I could go back home, by the time I was leaving the media, I had been in it for 18 years.
I went with high hopes that I would go with my family but I was not able to so I went without them. As a man there are so many things you do to fulfill responsibilities.
I took a pay cut so I decided to take up other things to compensate for the cut. I took loans, ventured into a wrong business and it reached a point where all my money started going into paying the loans.
The stress started streaming, infidelity came in and I could not even afford rent nor take care of my personal needs.”
“My wife found out that I was cheating I did not come out to tell her, the good thing is that I did not have kids outside marriage.
At age 39 I had to go back to my mum.
That is when I learnt that family is key. Me supporting my friends when I was financially able also helped when I was kicked out of my house.
As men we tend to run away from problems and we should not do so. Pride blinded me not to accept my mistakes so I thought I should be treated as a celeb.”
Eddy further narrates
“I went to Ukunda thinking that I was running away from my problems. I was living in a place where I would pay Ksh 500 a day.
Feeling lost and hopeless I decided to take a walk around Ukunda and it is then that I met someone who recognized me and that man’s name is named Peter Mwakuona, a bakery owner.
Peter is a man who turned around so many things in my life, at a point when everything was going badly.
While in Ukunda my wife called me and asked me if I could go back to Nairobi and attend my son’s parents day at school despite us not talking for two months.
The voices in my head were telling me not to go, after speaking to Peter he convinced me to go, he is the first person I opened up about the problems I was going through.
After attending the parents meeting I never went back to Ukunda. My wife and I decided to start things afresh.”
In conclusion Eddy says
“I forgave myself we live a life where we forget to forgive ourselves. I have also changed how I look at life, my priorities have changed.
I am not the man I was a year ago, to my kids I would say People fall but they always rise up.
I had to explain to my 14 year old what happened because my kids had questions on my whereabouts about when I would come back, so I owed them an explanation.
It’s a process so we are still work in progress.
If you feel that your marriage can be salvaged feel free to visit a counselor and share what you are going through, it is therapeutic.”