‘Everyone talked about my promiscuous daughter. It was very embarrassing’Father narrates why he put all his daughter on contraceptives

More and more parents are putting their children on contraceptives despite their tender for fear of having to bear the shame of unwanted pregnancy.

While some parents might say that putting kids on birth control methods is a way of encouraging promiscuity among the youth but for one Mr Ondieki these pills are a saving grace.

Mr Ondieki opted to put all his daughters including his last born after his first born daughter got pregnant at only 14, and he cannot risk the stigmatization he went through again.

“I am not going to sit down and wait for my daughter to come with a protruding stomach, yet I know there is a way to prevent it,” Mr Ondieki*, a resident of Trans Mara in Narok County, and father of three daughter says resolutely.

All of them are on birth control. It began when his firstborn gave birth at the age of 14, while in Standard Seven. Before then, she spent many nights out, pretending to be attending preps at school.

Everyone talked about my promiscuous daughter. It was very embarrassing, and not only that, I am struggling to find money for school fees. I don’t need the added burden and responsibility. How do I take care of my daughters and their babies? I don’t have the resources,” he explains his decision to put his daughters on birth control.”

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His eldest still spends night outs, pretending to be at a friend’s place.

He further says  that his other two daughters were put on birth control as soon as they got to Standard Seven. His youngest – the lastborn – has been on Depo-Provera (the three-month contraceptive injection) for the last one year. The girls get their shots just before the school term starts.

Pregnant teen hangs self after fight with mum

A four-month pregnant form two student on Sunday committed suicide following a domestic quarrel with her mother in Lagbadana village, Tana River county.

India Ismail is said to have picked a quarrel with her mother over the pregnancy.

The 18-year-old was a student at Saka secondary until September when she dropped out because of her pregnancy.

A neighbour, who sought anonymity, told the Star that the girl had picked up the quarrel with her mother after she was castigated for the pregnancy.

Her elder sister also dropped out of school after becoming pregnant. She has since vanished, leaving behind her two children under the care of her mother.

This, the neighbour said, had angered the woman who decided to reprimand her younger daughter.

It is then that Ismail decided to take away her life. She used a rope to hand herself inside their house.

Her mother found her body dangling from their roof when she returned from the farm in the evening.

The neighbour said the quarrels had increased since Ismail dropped out of school.

Officers from Madogo police station recorded statements from family members and witnesses.

“India ended her life because she felt unwanted due to her pregnancy,” Girl Child Network secretary general Zainab Harun said after her burial yesterday.

Abdikadir Hussein, a relative, eulogised India as a bright and promising girl.

He appealed for counseling and sex education to avert similar deaths in future.

He blamed parents for harassing their daughters, saying their actions push the girls to commit suicide.

Saka secondary deputy headteacher Mohamed Ali Ibrahim said the school received news of India’s death with shock and disbelief.

“India was such a disciplined girl who blended well with fellow students and teachers. She did not have any disciplinary cases,” Ibrahim said.

Courtesy Stephen Astariko