As we grow older dating becomes more serious and less games for people who know what they want. However there are others who still remain stuck in their younger dating ways which do not apply later on in life.
The eyes of a 20 year old will not see the same things a 30 year old will see, hence with maturity and age some habits need to be dropped.
Here is a list of habits that need to be dumped:
The “let’s just see where this goes” technique – A mature woman in her late 20’s to early 30’s is past the games stage and knows what she wants. These women are driven, successful, independent, and want to be with a man who they can consider an equal teammate in life and in love. A man who is still “figuring life out” isn’t going to cut it with a mature, established woman.
No one has all of the answers but it’s about having some semblance of a path in life that will make her feel comfortable committing to you for the long run. Nobody wants to plan a future with someone who doesn’t have a future planned for themselves.
The “I’ll wait 3 days to call,” and other nonsense – You miss them, want to talk to them want to know how they are doing! Simple call or text. When a certain level of maturity is reached some rules don’t apply. Call when you want to call, text when you want to text. There are no rules or regulations when building a mature, healthy relationship.
The “Hey, wanna meet up?” texts – Refer to number two especially if you want someone to take you seriously. Call in advance to invite someone out. Last minute texts show your lack of seriousness and the lack of effort. You also need to keep in mind that meeting up for a drink, having coffee, inviting her to join you out with your group of friends etc are not dates. Using the actual word and properly inviting a woman on a date is the first step to actually making it one.
Using your phone during the date – If you’re an adult now, and it’s time to control your impulsive urges to check Facebook every 5 seconds. When you’re on a date with a woman she is deserving of your attention, that’s precisely what you should be giving her. Have a real conversation, give her your full attention, and leave your phone in your pocket.
Wasting time on people you’re not into – Many people do this for the wrong reasons. You feel too guilty breaking it off with them. Maybe the sex was great, but nothing else really was. When we get older, it’s time to get a little more serious about who we spend our valuable time with. If you know in your heart it’s not going to work in the long run, break it off for both of your sake’s. Nobody should be lead into a dead end.
Not being genuine about who you are – Too many people send their “representative” on the first few days with someone new. You’re on your best behavior, you’re polite, courteous, patient, and chivalrous . . . You should really, truly, genuinely be all of these things. If you’re not, don’t pretend that you are, because when the truth comes out it’s just going to make things worse. If you don’t possess these qualities, work on yourself first and develop them before you enter into a relationship with another person. “Fake it ’til you make it” doesn’t apply when someone’s feelings are on the line.
Not dressing up – If you’re taking a woman out on the town, you’re going to need to step it up. First impressions are important, and unless she’s looking for a frat boy, you’re probably not going to want to look like one.
Letting her pay half – Friends split the bill. When you’re on a date, the man picks up the tab. All of it. There are plenty of ways a woman can reciprocate if she’d like to: she can take care of parking, pick up a round of drinks, get the snacks at the show you got tickets for, whatever it may be. But the tab is on you even if she insists on splitting.